Top Lawyer Reveals The SHOCKING Realities Of Divorce In India | Vandana Shah | R. Madhavan

[@nishaahlawat9677]

I left my hausband because of the same reason. He wanted insights of all my money which I earned and savings but his everything was in his parent's control. Even he bought house on her mother's name and his father was handling all his savings :D and they wanted me to pay their bills and he was not even talking to me properly still expectation was very high. So I took a stand and left him. All that this lady is saying, I have faced very early in my childhood and that made me good with money and because of that, I give money importance in my life just to feel secure in life.

[@ps-gh3hu]

Naa, can't belive

[@ps-gh3hu]

I know one or two ladies who make tons. But never insured. Always ready to help family and friends. I though it was feminine nature. Now Seeing your comment, I guess I was wrong.

[@nishaahlawat9677]

@@ps-gh3hu Lol why this is always expected from a girl ? He was earning well, capable of doing his own expenses and his family too and most importantly, was not spending a single penny on me then why should I spend my money on him ?? This thinking shows how people in India, are habitual of taking his wife for granted

[@rajkamalshetty7175]

you are right even if the property is in his parents his name , he could have shared his hard earned money and have a mutual respect and understanding of your savings also, You did the right thing if they wanted you to be the man in the relationship , you have a right to leave.

[@Subuhi61]

It is a couple's maturity and IQ-EQ levels that determine the stability of a marriage. Otherwise money (or even lack of it) will cause problems.

[@balajim9579]

Makes sense

[@blissfulpathfinder5573]

I started reading books related to DSM-5 (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DSM-5), many girls who are not satisfied in marriges are getting diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome (autism spectrum) which are not diagnosed properly and treatment plans are not in place for those women and the society is convinently blamming the husband for their unhappiness. If you are getting married better both of them better get a blood test and psychometric tests. After "Amber Heard & Johnny Depp defamation case" we teach every young men should be taught how to identify and stay away from crazy women ( Histrionic personality disorder (HPD) and Borderline personality disorder (BPD) ).

[@rizwanashaikh1032]

This is really good it's so needed... And Maddy is just amazing ❤ And it helps people...

[@RajVideocast]

You cannot start a relationship with money-centric conversation. Relationship should be built on love, trust and mutual respect. These are essential values of marriage. When you do not build these foundational values, then money only becomes the central focus. The only difference between a life partner and business partner is - Business partnership objective is profit sharing and life partnership objective is sharing love, happiness, pleasure, agony and challenges. Both are together in it and that's the bond. Somehow we are going towards the western capitalist way of life and everything is now seen from the prism of a divorce unfortunately. Let's stick to our culture and modernity is not about inheriting western lifestyle but living life with love, compassion and generosity towards our family and community. Marriage is a community affair in our culture and interwoven in the society. When we break away from these fabric and started forming nuclear family in silos, fractions started resulting in divorces for petty matters. My 2 cents!

[@samk6051]

You are hundred percent correct

[@sagaryvarma]

Love it that you have voiced in plain and simple words. Needs to be put out there 😀

[@prabinprabhakar4687]

Lol arrange marriages are based on family status and a guys money which decides the guys worth ? So money has always been part of indian culture and arrange marriage 😂😂 not sure which world u are in . In love marriages may be the other aspects can be prioritized but traditional Indian culture approved marriages are based on money

[@Artlover2803]

And how do you do that in arranged marriages? The Love trust and mutual respect thing

[@litt98garg32]

Only a empower woman can tells all drawbacks and consequences of married life, that's crucial to know for all girls, those who are not get married yet...sometimes these information didn't tell in our home...thanks a lot maddy❤ For brought up the podcast on this burning🔥topic nowadays.

[@Astha64]

Good conversation, good advice. But marriage and divorce is not all about money... There are many more aspects

[@arewecool177]

In laws😅

[@naveensirohi360]

Very nice podcast. The others I have seen they were only interested in churning out the gossip. Thank you Madhavan Sir and Vandana Mam.

[@Subuhi61]

The lady is needlessly casting jabs at Madhavan's marriage. Its in poor taste i feel. Probably she feels that she is being smart but comes across as pretentious if not impertinent 😂!

[@Simplified_06]

Good conversation and very important discussion points ❤

[@Aarthi-i4j]

Good insights from both people and practical situations discussed. Much needed for today's world !

[@Divinesoothsayer786]

Wow, i thought marriage is somewhat understanding, compatibility, and love , but now marriage is all about money,asset and stability 😂😂😂

[@Kghhtnj]

I am all in for equality. But What if the women spend all the savings of the family and if she doesn’t contribute to the expenses of the family and keep her earnings for herself. I know a lot of women who do that.

[@RojaJaneman]

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[@vinivini5747]

Well they say start communicating but what if there is no love between a husband and wife, what’s there to discuss about?

[@pritibhagnari2643]

If loan taken before marriage cannot become the partner's duty then assets made before marriage should also not become the partner's right.

[@jyotidaskonwar1479]

Marriages are made in heaven & bills are paid on earth thats true she said everything which really matters & all couples can relate to it..

[@reenageorge6470]

Very important interview. Money and the changes in the financial situation of individuals in the marriage can make or break the marriage. The number of marriages that have broken because the men decide to marry younger more goodlooking women to marry when they come into money is a very disturbing trend. The men don’t care about the effect on their children because they want to share their new wealth with someone who they feel properly reflect their new status. The expensive marriages and marrying a younger goodlooking women is all a reflection of the changes in our society. It is all about displaying your wealth. Earlier money was for the family. Now it is for self. When someone earns more wealth they should want to share it with their current partner. Earlier people didn’t change jobs or cities often. Now with all these changes are effecting marriages. Yet people spend millions on their marriages.

[@aryana7798]

This lady is so irritating. She used AR Rahman Saira's divorce to gain publicity and since then she is continuously giving interviews. AR Rahman and his wife should find another lawyer if they go ahead with their divorce.

[@digvijaypurty8160]

She is helping men though

[@apnajamesbond]

But there are interviews which go back to more than a a year in KZbin.. so I don't think your observation is correct... of course youtube algorithm is recommending her videos more frequently as many are searching her profile to know who she is..

[@yrashid6108]

Lol you haven't seen her ? She has done so many podcast earlier

[@daisydeep6551]

Ha ha.u have noticed her after Rehman thing She is famous lawyer in delhi since so many yrs Bcz of social media,u came to know now

[@priyams1805]

No, she is a celebrity advocate in family matters, that's why celebrities approach her.

[@aarthi1080]

Excellent sir,,,your insight about today's marriage is right

[@snehamanjeri]

Nice to see Maddy...❤❤ After long

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[@JDiegoCC-zf3cd]

I recently sold half my tech stock holdings due to all-time highs, leaving me with $400k. Should I invest in ETFs now or wait for a market correction considering potential inflation?

[@user-kj2iv6xr7s]

Celebrating a $30k stock portfolio today from a $6k start. Investing wisely has given me time for family and future plans.

[@GiffordKollar]

From $37K to $45K that's the minimum range of profit return every week I thinks it's not a bad one for me, now I have enough to pay bills and take care of my family.

[@lovesongslover446]

Is it all about money?Isn’t marriage is also about each other’s companionship & to make it work if there is love. ???

[@gathajam8682]

Marriage is always a financial institution.. companionship doesn’t have any agreement. If it ends that’s it. No other legal issues.

[@sandhyaramaiah9018]

Eye opening session and advice

[@AnjumParkar]

Wow Maddy and podcast

[@dharpri]

Bills are paid on earth! I agree , money should be very openly discussed before marriage.The practicalities must be discussed than love and trust !

[@Glow_Fit_with_Arthi]

Mama's boy is fine as long as there is love and not control. Iam raising mine with a lot of love but also freedom to think and make his own deiscions.

[@rubinatabassum5620]

Excellent. Yes I agree when a partner hides the finances and plans. It leads to a break down.. Imagine a wife not knowing how much a husband earns. She has to file an RTI to know the details. Sad but true.

[@shobhas8729]

What about blended families with grown up kids

[@prabinprabhakar4687]

When we have such long term discussion what if the other person says she is a go with the flow person and does not have a any idea abt any long term plans or goals ...so its very difficult to have such conversations with them😅😅

[@AnjumParkar]

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[@prbabu1255]

I liked seeing a hero without hair color and look as actual as he is.

[@bhaktmeera2145]

Sound advice🎉

[@geraldinesrikanth4468]

Vital for every couple, good advice 🎉❤

[@shelleypillay3139]

Excellent advice. I am going through a divorce after 42 years with a male narcissist spiteful hiding money abuse. Affairs. List goes on

[@deepaleeshriyadubey5671]

Divorce की समस्या marriage/निकाह से जनित है। विवाह जन्म जन्मांतर तक का साथ है। पहले एक कमाता था तो पूरा परिवार चल जाता था। आज सब कमाते हैं फिर भी एक को नहीं पाल पा रहे। बढ़ती GDP पर हम और अधिक निर्धन हो गए हैं। दुःख की बात है।

[@sandeepk5154]

nice thouhghts,,,,i have good salary,..looking for girl who love and have bonding ....who believe in family

[@sandeepk5154]

i m srching for girl who is not greedy

[@Jaya9529]

Starts at 0:55

[@blissfulpathfinder5573]

Summary of this interview: 1:11 young men's marital issues is my business. ("Vandana Shah" got a "Ava Santina" vibes here, Everyone remember she is divorce lawyer, she is here to break marriages at once) 3:17 prenups are illegal and invalid in India (young men's are screwed in India in marriages and they are totally unaware of this one) 3:42 Oh it explains why "Ratan Tata" is unmarried in India. 5:32 Joint finances (She says joint finances solves all marital problems.) I see her point join-account may help you gain trust in long term relationships. 6:01 Marriages in olden days (Section 498A are non existent in olden days, marriage were real not a scam i olden days) 6:41 Men handling finances (I see a smart man here, women asking for men's money so she is not a gold digger?. That women asking for divorce/money had any job?) 9:15 Young men hiding your income is bad thing in marriage during the divorce proceedings. About Loans in marriage 13:11 Loans of a spouse 13:30 In marriage home loans are different ⚠ 14:00 Honeymoon loans Money changes marriage 14:40 Headge funds manager (income 300 crores), money changes marriage. (Men with lot of money wins) 15:50 Investment banker divorce case. (Men with lot of money wins) 17:30 After 5 years if you are confident about your partner then have a joint-account. (keep separate account for at least 5 years) 18:13 Vandana Shah don't have a joint account with her husband. 19:04 Give money to your mother as savings. Money in a separate account and remember about Nominee. Life insurance Nominee cannot be changed easily. ⚠ 24:00 Finances when you have kids in divorce. (In USA, kids will be asked to take a education load. ) 25:00 Mothers are god. 25:30 Being a mama's boy.

[@bubushka8457]

people who are in not favour of having financial conversation are those with ( lots of financial baggage or who bring nothing to the table ) Even if you are a salary person have nothing on your name you should be transparent about this before entering a marriage

[@Comedybox017]

Good conversation ❤️❤️

[@darkshadows7570]

This woman clearly says that loan should be paid by men while men’s savings are supposed to be combined after marriage. What a hypocrite!!

[@DeeMiBa]

Your comment shows your immaturity Good with this attitude hopefully you ain’t married 🙏

[@darkshadows7570]

@ you are exactly proving my point !!! Go and earn some money then you will realise how hard it is. Then go to your husband/boyfriend and pay his student/credit card debt. Then tell us how you feel 🙏

[@mmihra8353]

She said who eve takes the education loan men r women...that individual is responsible for it and not there partner

[@blissfulpathfinder5573]

@@DeeMiBa your comment show you are an ignorant man. In Germany because of the biased hypocritical laws against men, they are not getting married since they are afraid of losing 50% of inheritance to unhappy wife. So most men are having childrens with their girl friends (this is new normal). Here men are caring about their grand parents and don't want to lose family's hard earned money to unhappy wife. Everyone should challenge any law that undermine accountability irrespective of gender, race or ethnicity. Please educate yourself.

[@MerlinMathew-u3w]

Hey Darkshadow!!! Pls listen to what she said again. That's not what she meant.

[@sanjaypal9202]

Mr. Madhvan, what was that factor which made you say "WOW" on hearing the lady say, that the "prenups" are illegal in India or that you just say anything without application of mind ⁉️⁉️⁉️

[@KatahuaKatahua]

The-" wow " was sarcasm Duuub. What a leave of application of mind comment.

[@namrataapril]

Loans for HoneyMoon!! That is surprise to me.

[@drago4803]

This lawyer itself is divorced.....so u know whom to take advice from

[@lakshmiiyer5876]

Very unfortunate. Marriage has become money centric. Today, it is not abour patriarchy alone. The girl and her family just get into marriage with their own ideas. Empathy, compassion, trust , patience is missing. Both husband and wife have to make efforts to make the marriage last. They want just the husband and son inlaw.

[@ps-gh3hu]

Standards of living are crazy high these days. That's why everyone is money minded.

[@kavitaagarwal6458]

Maddy I just love you ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@pamc7307]

have 4 bank accounts assuming esp if both r earning ,one wifes one husbands, one joint checking and one joint savings account

[@sampatharuna6884]

Insurance nomination is def revocable

[@nofacenonsense]

Also, you need to ask certain question which was not asked before.

[@Prachi-sha]

Madhan sir’s mike is not clear as the guest

[@Whatever249]

Madhavan asking questions to the camera is funny..! Is he asking the audience or Vandanat..!???? 😅😂. He is actually embarrassing the host..!! You should look at her face when he is asking the camera..!!! 😆

[@jp6838]

I think he is reading the questions

[@bhargaviganjam8071]

I don't know y my eyes looking Her ears ❤

[@vikramnanda2833]

What about women?

[@monishhr1604]

No Marriage, please,

[@lovesongslover446]

Where is the love into marriage ma’am?

[@vinayakvarma868]

Iam sure this lady is divorced

[@nppk1529]

She's divorced from a disastrous marriage and remarried.

[@samk6051]

She was divorced long back. Then she met someone she loved and is happily married now.

[@Haris2321]

its all due to a greediness of new era.

[@NayanaMayurJadhavofficial]

Please change camera man😊

[@padmavathysathish8323]

Keep trust try to work on marriage plz don't take hastic decisions

[@nofacenonsense]

Hello Sir, Can i work with you, i would love to provide feedback and there are certain things we can change

[@pgl8274]

These days girls are directly asking the would be groom (even before any roka or engagement )for a regular allowance per month for her personal use. If the boy is earning very well this allowance runs into lakhs of rupees. These girls run away after one month on one pretext or another . Men have no safety under the law .

[@zealouszirkan4022]

Maddy 🎉 you look amazing.Thus doesn't want anybody to get married😅 ultimately

[@rajikasharma4090]

Why is Maddy talking like a robot? He doesn’t look at ease in the podcast.

[@vadlamudisaikrishna]

He sold his soul.

[@vadlamudisaikrishna]

Lives in dubai.

[@harinir6169]

Men are shit scared of divorce

[@aninditachatterjee1399]

My Folks had joint account and my mum had her own account we insisted....and Yes my mum was upfront on money....with dad way back n dad was aghast but came around eventually😂😂😂😂😂 And so does my brother they too have Joint Account on everything.....only wish 8f I got someone like these

[@mja532]

This kind of life is rubbish 🗑 when you keep calculated all the time. 🤢.how much money i pay, how much you pay . Old days were good.

[@pverma3172]

Really great conversations. People need to change theirs thinking 🤔 before too much clothes /phone/showoff 😕 Thank you maddy❤

[@emyglobin2740]

Women initiate 80 percent of all divorce because the family law favors them

[@shivanisrivastava8014]

Too much business transactional kind of talking while getting married creating foundation of marriage on a very superficial level... earlier marriages didn't involve aspirational women..housewives , producing babies..ghar se doli uthna sasural se arthi uthna kind of dialogue engrained in mind - so marriages survived ! Today both gender are seeking relationships beyond mediocrity in all aspects of life.. however at the same time they have gotten deluded with farce delusional social media goals ! Worrying about pre wedding shoot rather than understanding responsibilities that marriage will bring! Money is important but not be all and end all .. building relationship on aligned spiritual values, having vision of life beyond their survival and social media show off ..will sail relationship through all lows and highs of life .. Two authentic and soulmates kind of life partners have seen Sadhguru - Viji ma , Jay Shetty - Radhe devlukia ..

[@Sahumerchant]

The way she speaks is giving bad vibes..i feel like she us scaring men away from marriages...

[@StacyJordan-cl1ve]

Past 25 yrs politics from countries and institutions r destroying health , nature calamities unnatralndeaths to divorces energies r used . 😅

[@pgl8274]

In older times no one discussed these things but marriages were good. Thes days marriages are about money.This lady is making it as ìf all girls are honest .These days some of these girls, who are not working ,or do not want to work even if they are qualified to work)also they do not want to take on household responsibilities ,how do you justify the plight of the husbands in such situations. This lady is saying the boy must have some property in his name.Now how come a 25 yrs old boy from.a middle class family can have properties in his name? As per this advocates theory no one would like to marry this boy? Otherwise parents will have to transfer thier properties in thier sons name? And these daughter in laws or even sons will dump the parents in thier old age . This is India,there is no social security or subsidised old age homes for parents. This advocate is going on all podcast platforms and advertising her own expertise.

[@SGTrainingAcademy]

Some/few families burning with divorce issues...😢😢 This lawyer making more business...super advantage to lawyers... Couples who seems in relationship trouble are fools/bakaraas..😂😂😂

[@SGTrainingAcademy]

As inter😮view progress...it's been more about bank joint account, equal rights on assets....everything revolving about money,assets, properties... To establish good relationship/bonding, respecting each other and their family members, understanding each other habits, passions etc.., are more important than bloody money/joint accounts... Entire conversation went on money, joint account, Jewellery lockers...it's unfortunate, bullshit mentality & attitude ....the current generation personnel who are capable of influencing of youth , unfortunately spoiling future generation youth minds with poison thoughts of money, assets & jewellery....unfortunate affairs of current society..😢😢😢😢

[@nakshatramanne5715]

She is just telling the divorce cases she got and what could be prevented.. lot of marriages have been broken by money issues

[@nainamahtani2860]

She is a bad example for marriage she is divorced

[@blackjusticewebseries]

Read Marriages are made on Heaven and Destroyed on Earth

[@pciitk]

Madhvan, you can do better ! Somehow there is this shallowness always comes out these podcasts.

[@cosmicwitch720]

Everything can't be equated to money.....plz don't take this ladys advice or opinion

[@me_luga8036]

Scrap marriage . Pressure the government to hire people for spending time and babies can be produced artificially . 😅

[@sanjaypal9202]

Mr. Madhavan, you are not impressive as an anchor, either.

[@Krishnaji4069]

She is such greedy lady and people like her fanning more divorces,Money is only thing she is talking blah blah

[@puresoul9233]

So sorry Mr Madhavan she is the most irritating personality so called ‘ divorce lawyer’ who is totally a shrewd business women , taken her profession as a business as well as preaching people regarding relationships based on money !!! Is that so ! Are relationships based on money , in some other podcast she was claiming that survey showed increasing trend of divorces, of course due to multiple reasons . Adults take a conscious decision. But what’s this madams role ? Break that relationship further ! Claim money from husband so that she can too fill her pockets .

[@bsrtraders87]

Hope you get divorced soon😂