TRANS AND NON-BINARY EX-BOYFRIENDS

We have a candid chat about my identity for the first time~
(Edit: me and Alex broke up.)
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[@bradleycoke15]

Being a cisguy, videos like this are really helpful in helping me understand non-binary people.

[@bornwithoutconsentobviously]

bradleycoke15 it's nice to see understanding cis men. Because tbh. Other than elderly cis women I think thats the least understanding group in my country.

[@paolaochoa1154]

bradleycoke15 Can you tell me what does Cis means? They are some words that some people use and that I've seen here but I don't know the meanings, so I hope i'm not being disrespectful or anything

[@bradleycoke15]

Pao Ochoa Cis means you identify with the body you were born with. In my case, this means I was born male, and I identify as male.

[@AnnaThatcher]

bradleycoke15 it's what ur assigned not born

[@bradleycoke15]

Westley Morgan Thatcher Sorry, honest mistake.

[@lucasnelson9355]

Hey Jake, I'm glad that you've found a label that fits you! I also really appreciate you talking about this subject. I'm a transguy but sometimes I have days of feeling less like a guy and more in the middle of the spectrum. I felt really bad about it until you started talking about relating to that. Ps. I think it's great that Alex is trying his best to learn about this more

[@misamisa29]

I'm non binary trans masculine and for me the binary and non binary trans community in my life is very much part of the same community and are there for each other so its sucks that those people Alex was introduced to were so shitty..

[@ethanfabulous6498]

misamisa29 If you're trans masculine then you're not non binary..

[@naomirmckay3368]

Sausage Duncan I'm pretty sure that you aren't them so you really have no say in their identity. They are their own person, you oaf.

[@misamisa29]

@cosmos1044 ok, Im ignoring sausage's comments but i needed to say that isn't true, trans just means you dont identify with the gender you were assigned at birth. It's an umbrella word that includes non binary people.

[@TrueDiary]

I honestly just try to use 'they/them' for almost everyone I don't know because it's the most neutral (and is used for ppl u don't know the gender of in the English grammar anyway) and it hasn't really pissed anyone off yet or made uncomfortable as far as I know. Or they just didn't tell me.

[@rumeysa7243]

Find someone who looks at you the way jake looks at alex

[@kuroichan101]

For the people saying can we stop just using labels, can you just be realistic? Thats not how people work. We as humans use language and labels help us be able to quickly generally understand what something is, etc. Lets stop pretending that we dont want to use labels because almost EVERY word is a label and it helps us and can sometimes hurt us. For the people who dont know what nonbinary is, its just not being strictly male OR female. It has nothing to do with just being feminine in your gender expression or the opposite. The clothes you wear isnt what makes a trans person trans, its simply how they SEE themselves.

[@jakedax525]

kuroichan101 THANK YOU

[@theductductgoose]

I'm seeing a lot of comments saying they don't understand non-binary, it's complicated, it doesn't make sense, it's stupid, it's fake. That's a dangerous escalation of thought. There are so many things in this world that I do not understand for the life of me. But I don't immediately dismiss something as not real, purely because I don't understand. What I'm trying to say is, *you don't have to understand something to respect it.*

[@tylerhill2048]

am i the only one who thinks it's so cute that Alex is getting mad on Jake's behalf!?

[@andyshmandy1189]

"fart on the binary"- Jake 2k17

[@nina7130]

In Finland we use one pronoun for all people, probably the only thing that is easy in our language 😂

[@masens.9010]

Nina that’s so cool! I had no idea

[@ryandaddy1089]

Same thing in korean

[@lalababette]

I love that Jake mentions feeling validated by Alex's actions. i feel like little actions often in the form of little gifts are such wonderful displays of support for trans nonbinary people. i know it meant so much to me when my mom came to me after I came out and gave me a pair of jeans from a male friend of hers.

[@curlydays14]

yessss omg when jake talked about how the stereotype of nb people being whiney came about that made so much sense we all need to talk about that

[@mysterywhy]

BLACK AND WHITE but then THERES GREY!!!

[@ARobinGaming]

Ive certainly had issues with some trans people in the past having that " chip on your shoulder " mentality and as Alex said it does is have to do with society, it's just so tiring to me as too why people within our own community can't be supportive of others... maybe cause I'm nearly 20 now I'm sick of all the drama and just wanna be left alone to be queer in peace. (Also off topic I'm so proud of you both after watching your channels for years and I can certainly see your both happier and more comfortable and i hope I can reach that level of comfortableness )

[@amethystamanda]

True story from a cis person: I tried explaining to my boyfriend about assuming people's gender identity and he just did not get it. Then one day we met a person who presented extremely masculine but turned out she was a she (oops). He came to me later and said "Ok, I'll try to use 'they' if I don't know someone's pronouns." As a trans ally that made me so happy 😁

[@cartersiqueiros689]

Jake Edwards, you are my transition goals.

[@spookytom]

I'm afraid of coming out as ftm nonbinary because here in Finland, you HAVE to be transgender to get treatment like hormones and surgeries so if I come out as nonbinary I won't get any treatment and I really do need hormones and other treatments.

[@DefaltTzimisce]

Spookytomas don't tell that u are non-binary . Keep it for yourself you don't need a coming out for wear makeup , dear~

[@jakedax525]

You don't have to come out as non binary to your doctors or whatever, but rather can come out to your friends. Do what you need to get what you need

[@ronnieventura1226]

You could lie....?

[@jackhart3645]

Spookytomas can I just ask why you need hormones and such if you are nonbinary? I mean, a transgender person will go from mtf or ftm, the hormones and surgeries make that transition from one gender to the opposite one. So, what are you trying to become, I suppose I'm asking. I'm very curious as to what nonbinary people want to make their physical appearances go to, as to remain in that "neutral" state. I understand the whole personal comfort stuff, but if you're going to change your physical body vs just changing you style, how does that help? Will you not be perceived as a either a man or woman again after all of it? I've tried to ask a lot of nb people and I always get negative reactions, hopefully you could help clear up how hormones and such would help, if you're trying to stay in the "neutral" state, rather than that of man or woman? Thanks ahead of time if you reply

[@jakedax525]

Jack Hart if they're non binary that doesn't mean they don't have dysphoria or needs which can only be provided by hormones and surgeries. Jake is non binary and he is on T, he wants top surgery. If you're trans mtf or ftm you don't HAVE to get certain surgeries and procedures, if you're non binary you don't either, it's about making someone comfortable in their own body.

[@rosie94877]

i never thought about how being bisexual is similar to being non binary in how ppl end up telling you to pick a side...thanks for such an informative video!

[@samivayajd]

I HAVE TO MEET YOU GUYS SOMEDAY! I have a feeling our personalities would get along quite well with being direct and sarcastic. :) I love the energy between you in discussing this. Much love to you both! And honestly this helps. I'm going through my own mental discoveries and have been for a while. Jake you are a bad ass.

[@Victoria-fs9jo]

I think a big issue people can have with it is that it kinda reinforces gender stereotypes, even though that is the opposite of what nb people stand for (i presume). I mean.. it's basically saying you can't completely be a man because you like wearing dresses or completely be a woman because you don't like being super feminine. And that's a mindset people have been fighting for soo long

[@jennifer-annehunter2827]

People should just stop labelling people. Everyone is an individual. Jake is just Jake, Alex is just Alex. I am just Jen...why must we stick labels on people.

[@samd77666]

This was such an interesting video!!!! Sometimes I wonder that once I've been on T for awhile and pass 100%, if I will also question my gender again and maybe identify as nb as well

[@naomirmckay3368]

I feel you. Sometimes I stop myself from imagining myself as anything other than binary bc I don't want to be invalidated, but recently I've been thinking that after I go on T, I can do whatever the hell I want. Maybe I'm nb, we'll just have to wait and see.

[@jxstharry]

So much love for u two! I don't have the ability to articulate my thoughts coherently but just rly want u to know how much I respect and appreciate everything u are/do. This is so validating and comforting 💖💖💖💖

[@mariiiduarte]

I love how much I can learn from a youtube video, thank you two !

[@arianac5974]

as someone who at one point identified with a non binary label I can completely understand Alex's confusion. Even I struggled to not assume gender and to not fucking use pronouns? Ultimately I was assigned female at birth I don't fully feel like I am male so I not going to transition? So if people sometimes assume I am male and others female it doesn't ultimately matter. I will still dress androgynously and behave in the exact same way I do now but honestly fuck labels even I get fucking exhausted by them.

[@loutheythem3359]

I have work in the morning, but I got this notification so screw sleep got to watch this amazing cinnamon bun 💜💜💜💜

[@stephanieshepherd8476]

I love seeing you two in vids again. I also love seeing the love you have for one another! PDA reminds me of your early vids, that I loved!

[@winniegavin6680]

They're so perfect, I started watching a couple years ago and they've grown so much and I can't!

[@marissamalone621]

YOU'RE BOTH SO ATTRACTIVE HOW

[@marissamalone621]

Also dude reminds me of Jensen Ackles.

[@kaia9482]

Thanks for the video, it's amazing! I love both channels, you guys are amazing😊💛

[@jenniferbarrett57]

I rlly like how y'all addressed how it can be difficult not to assume people gender identities

[@erikarose2646]

I really need some advice so i guess I would say I'm confused about how I feel I don't really feel all that comfortable as a girl but I don't feel comfortable being changing to a different gender and I'm just confused and scared and I don't know I just don't know anyone who I can turn to

[@GleekOff]

It's not about changing your gender but about understand who you are and what words define you the best

[@MERCHIODOS]

All you need to know is what you feel comfortable in. For a long time I thought I wanted to be a woman, but after a few years I grew to like the body I'm in. So I came out as Genderqueer. Seeing what gender you are takes times. You don't want to rush into transitioning and then realised it was a mistake. It took me a long while to figure who I was, and it could be the same for you. Just remember what ever gender you become, you'll be happy

[@naomirmckay3368]

I would suggest ignoring labels for the time being. If you can, take a good friend or trusted family member and go shopping with them, even just to browse. Try on some clothes, different ones, ones you would never wear usually and see how you feel in them. (Try mixing and matching women's and men's.) If you can't do that them drag everything out of your closet, organise them from most masc to most femme, and do the same thing. Even if you don't have a sudden revelation about your gender, find what makes you most comfortable, and then you can wear that whenever you're feeling confused about your identity. It helps settle my mind. Hopefully it will yours too.

[@austinlam8145]

just do what makes you happy and what makes you comfortable. maybe you'll find that your trans or maybe you'll find out that you're not but it's just important that you do what makes you comfortable and don't dwell on it too much

[@mbradlegavan]

Honestly, I understand you so much! I was there too! Personally how I found out who I was was that I just ignored the labels and try to home in on what felt right and what felt wrong (by not means am I saying you should do this too, just a suggestion). Sometimes if you give yourself a label you could feel pressured to sign to the stereotypes - this might be because you've 'labeled' yourself too early - you can feel worser in the long run. But if you ever get asked 'what's your gender?' don't worry too much about it because as you grow you will change and like most of us, you just need time to put the language to how you feel.

[@pinkiecisneros763]

I love this video because I’m very much like jake in the sense that I’m a non binary person that wants to transition into a more masculine body and this makes me feel so much better knowing that I’m not the only person like this. Thank you for being you honestly.

[@strawberryteeth7696]

I'm a trans guy, and with what Alex were saying, when I had just come out as a little 13 year old people not being sure did hurt me on some level, but now I appreciate it when people will take me aside and ask me what my pronouns are, it's defiantly better than just guessing and using the wrong one :)

[@JSandwich13]

Okay so I only realised that I didn't really like my assigned gender and didn't feel like it fit me as a person about a year ago. I first came out as ftm but over the course of a year and having got to know myself a bit more I now know I don't fit with either male or female and don't feel comfortable in each and know that I identify as having more of a connection to the male gender but not 100% so I feel that trans non-binary describes me quite well now and I've slowly started to accept this because for a while it was so confusing. It's people like Jake who help me to understand myself and accept myself.

[@taylorg7684]

If I've said it once, I've said it a million times, ALEX COULD GET THE BUSINESS.

[@misamisa29]

I'd buy the fart on the binary merch

[@thetastiestjam]

I love this so much. Thanks for discussing these issues

[@alexreid1173]

My name is Alex and I'm a trans guy and I also gave my nonbinary boyfriend a set of really gay chokers for his birthday wtf

[@LE33099]

You two bring me so much joy.

[@dakotabrousseau7622]

Wow. It has been so long since I've watched either of you on your channels and I just have to say, you two look great.

[@masens.9010]

I’ve gotten top surgery, I’m on T, and I’m non-binary trans; I’ve gone through so much to be where I am now. All trans people are valid- binary & non-binary trans. I personally don’t like when language like “trans and non-binary people” is used because we ARE a significant part of the trans community. “Trans” implies all of us (at least now it does, in almost 2020). The white stripe in the trans pride flag is for us! If your gender isn’t what you were assigned at birth, you’re trans 🌈

[@crablexcore6483]

Alex is so accepting I love it ❤

[@TheMundobizarro]

Yeah!! I love Non binary and gender fluid people being represented in videos. Love you!!!!!

[@featherpoet]

I support you, Jake!!

[@vernonkyle757]

I haven't watched your videos since so long ago and wow yall have changed so much since the last time I saw yall and I'm glad you are still together and yall look amazing and gorgeous. ~Kayla

[@ElvenChaos]

❤❤I'm going to come out and say it: I'm non-binary, too. I was assigned female at birth, I'm a lesbian, and present feminine. So I come off as a cisfemale lesbian to the outside world. Lol. I'm okay with female pronouns as well. Or used to them, I guess. I don't get dysphoria, but if I could snap my fingers and "become" male, sometimes, I would. I'm just putting this out there because only my best friend knows. And her son, who's 10. He's ALWAYS switched pronouns between him and her when addressing me. Like, he just knows. Without me having to explain it to him. He just "gets it." I'll probably never come out to the world though, because people are stupid and many just don't understand. That and like I said, I present as feminine and cis, and I'm okay with that. Comfortable even. I'm a unicorn. It's weird. Lol but it feels good to get this out in a public platform, albeit anonymously. 🦄

[@biancablake1999]

I personally think everyone needs to become okay with being asked for their pronouns. I am a cisgender girl and i wouldnt want to look like a boy so I get how questioning it would be an insult but I think out of respect, everyone should get used to the question, and If i were to be asked, "what are your pronouns?" its not an insult. It just to be polite just because you never know by the looks of someone.

[@WeirdGhostOn_]

You two are too cute, like holy shit. #CoupleGoals

[@niamhcutler1030]

Hope to meet you guys at the weekend!

[@ikomi1258]

Wow, crecieron demaciado! Cuantos cambios 😂❤

[@ljeschiboy4141]

it's weird that it seems like (probably without realising) both of you perceive being non-binary as having certain different gender roles and gender expressions and stuff like that compared to binary trans men ? it's like "I'm non-binary /because/ i'm not macho" or "im non-binary because i am more feminine in my expressions than you" or "i am non-binary because i like chokers and i am more delicate" which is like?? not exactly how you should be perceiving non-binary genders in general. (of course, if you do that yourself and acknowledge that it is just how you see it, then its okay, but if you see all non-binary genders that way, it's kinda untrue.) you can be non-binary and the manliest man on this planet. you can be non-binary and be really feminine in all your expressions. you can be non-binary and be a little bit of both. being non-binary hasn't got much to do with gender expression.

[@fynn310]

I really want a "fart on the binary" shirt now

[@Blue-yi6ij]

'A little bit not male' literally me

[@ちゃんやおい女の子]

As always a great video! You are so cute))) Your fan of Russia♡♡♡

[@HannahCantrall]

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU

[@kaitieskates]

1. You two are adorable. 2. How can I be more sensitive to this as a retail pharmacist? I had a trans male's mom suggest a pin or button, just something that says that I'm respecting you're different than me but I'm struggling to find what I want. I've found plenty that say, "My pronouns are..." but none that say, "What are your preferred pronouns?" Is this also just kind of pointless or silly of me? I'm trying to be sensitive and respectful of everyone and I know I've made a faux pas or two but it's never intentional. Like you both said, it can be very frustrating for both sides, me who's trying to understand you and you, the person who just wants to identify as themselves. Oy vey.

[@henriklindberg3485]

Please make "fart on the binary" merch oh my

[@corpse3162]

Like not coming of as rude I'm genuinely interested, like would alex still call you his boyfriend, or would he just call you his partner

[@jayden230]

I just always call everyone they until I am corrected

[@даланастан]

Omg how them just grow up! The last time I watched them was from 2 years ago and now I just come back and just wow! Wth happening here 😂😂♥ and alex omg he look like a really man with his tattoos omg and Jake omg I just shocked 😂♥♥♥they will be always cute 😂😂♥i can't really explain that

[@kainovember]

I think I'm non binary but lean towards being a guy. Like I hate being called a girl, but if you call me a guy I'll be fine with it and maybe even happy that you're seeing me as something other than a girl.

[@simonsez05]

If you're non-binary, then I'm an 3 time Oscar winner....

[@micahplays893]

The way I see it is if you don't understand something research. A few years ago I thought I was trans because I didn't understand how there was something in between. I got on google. Look at me now. Rocking male pronouns, long hair, and genderfluid-ality.

[@jakobjohnson984]

Your hair is fucking rad

[@Gabzys00]

i am of brazil

[@jessicaf6535]

Cambiaron tanto

[@shilove1681]

Y'all are awesome (:

[@HannahsBananas21]

3:42 timey-wimey

[@limlrumerl-6922]

*kissing* "Yeah, gay!"

[@thejordanalexander]

This is so cute❤

[@siginotmylastname3969]

I haven't finished watching, but hey I ramble xD so it seems to me like you can have some internalised/externalised transphobia as an AFAB non binary person. I saw an enby comedian whose entire routine was about how they're non binary because now's a bad time to be a man, and I was like yeesh. Plus my mum takes me as non binary but has said she could never see me as a man. And I'm genderfluid, half the time I AM a man! Plus hoping to transition. I don't know if this is widespread, and don't know how the rest of their attitude towards binary people was, but this is just my thoughts on how it works for AFAB trans people. Maybe it works the opposite for AMAB people, as trans women are more recognised than AMAB non binary people.

[@Kovukingsrod]

Jake is probably the chilliest non-binary person I know

[@Alex-px5bz]

Ikr!!

[@kainovember]

Hi Kovu from the past

[@Dartnix]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who finds it dangerously easy to misgender somebody... uhm, does it count as misgendering using they/them to refer to someone whose pronouns are he/him or she/her? If not that could be a surefire option when you're unsure about someone's gender :D ...maybe... Also what Alex said about society, that's so true, people tend to get 'transgender' and 'transvestite' mixed up a lot! Love you both

[@potapobob3769]

Dartnix They/them is neutral so I find myself using it all the time for people who's pronouns I don't know yet, without even doing it deliberately. I guess I just subconsciously don't want to assume gender/pronouns because I know how it feels when other people do (I'm nb).

[@colorbandiits]

Dartnix using they/them for some one who you know uses he or she pronouns would be misgendering. I personally try to use they/them until such time as I find out definitively what they prefer.

[@finch9782]

Dartnix yes you should use they/them if you don't know someone's pronouns but if you for sure know their pronouns then use them because they might feel uncomfortable with they/them. Idk

[@LaxLune]

Deliberately using they/them when you are aware that someone's pronouns are she/her or he/him or something else is misgendering but if you are not aware of pronouns it is probably safest to stick with they/them until you are aware of the correct pronouns.

[@Dartnix]

All right, that makes sense, thank you all.

[@eviesharp17]

You're probably the most adorable couple on KZbin tbh,I wish I were going to SITC but I'm going to Dorset instead. I hope you both have a lovely weekend!❤️

[@Em-dh5mg]

Devin Molko hah me too mate its cold here have fun

[@elilouislarn923]

Devin Molko omg I wanna go SITC too but I'm also going to Dorset

[@charlie-jade3174]

I LIVE IN DORSET

[@none4530]

Ikr! I just left England yesterday to fly home :(

[@yikesspike]

They live in Dorset 😂

[@garyc]

Pronouns can be difficult, but "never assuming" is good advice. I really hope I remember people's names! :) x

[@birflurnstun1346]

Gary C So does Jake use they instead of he? Just wondering because some non binary people use he or she

[@sebastianredgwell9133]

Mickey Rembiszewski Jake still uses he

[@lauw428]

Ugh Jake you and Alex are such a cute couple

[@alexc6342]

What really annoys me is that when you say you don't like someone than other think it is because them being lesbian/gay/bi etc... like it has nothing to do with that. But what i hate the most about being a Lesbian is now that pretty much every girl at my school hate on me because they are afraid i will make a move on them like no I only date nice people sorry.

[@jaygay2678]

cosmos1044 Lol, don't be so assuming and naive. Fear of losing a friendship will never make someone hate another person. Those hateful straight girls only see lesbians as predators, and that's fucked up. Don't defend them. Wake up.

[@ashdacos-playa8707]

I got called a pedo cause I'm in pe with my gf so when we get changed kids will drag us into the shower cubicles, let use both get changed (in different cubicles) and make sure everyone else is dressed then let us out... I'm used to it but it used to upset me alot

[@weirdsoup6829]

I don't understand why people don't respect non binary spectrum. It's okay not to understand it, because we live in a binary society and if you aren't non binary, it's really difficult to know and understand what a non binary person feels. I don't understand it neither, but I respect it. If someone wants to have they as prounoun, who gives a shit? Call them they or shut up.

[@koalasaregreat4993]

My significant other's pronouns are confusing and I don't know how to refer to them so I just refer to them by their name because I'm too awkward to ask and they were born as a girl but I don't know whether they want she/her or they/them but whenever I ask they avoid the question and it really annoys me because i love them but whenever i refer to them with she/her pronouns they get angry and ask if I've just assumed their gender and they won't tell me their bloody pronouns and sometimes i want to throttle them.

[@laynehowlett9869]

I'd say just use they/them, given that they have an issue with she/her

[@koalasaregreat4993]

Layne Howlett they don't exactly have a problem with it but they just have days when they want she/her or they/them and it's confusing

[@clearly_blurry3416]

Nothing Special This seems to be that your s/o doesn't know their own pronouns. I think you just need to be patient, and they'll tell you when their ready.

[@laynehowlett9869]

oh i see, they/them is always a safe spot to me

[@koalasaregreat4993]

clearly_blurry thank you for this advice I appreciate it

[@ems4868]

Im glad we dont have any pronouns in finland, its so easy here

[@Rachtale]

I'm on the same boat as Alex with not always being sure how or if right place to ask on pronouns. I know it's better safe than sorry; I just don't like thinking that the aftermath might be them not feeling great that it wasn't seen as obvious for me, or they may even not be lgbtq+ friendly so I don't want to be there for that conversation. Though I will try Jake's method of waiting to hear what others call them and asking to clarify if okay, especially considering I just claimed full responsibility on being a douche for assuming and being wrong before.

[@Albaquenocalba]

rachtale it is also nice to say your name and your pronouns when you meet someone so they tell you their pronouns without feeling dysphoric from you asking :)

[@KaterSchnurz]

"Bisexuality is not real. Pick one side!" "Nonbinary is not real. Pick one side!" Oh my dear, this is a really good point! That you for your thoughts!

[@deemah3602]

Bisexuality is scientific proved. Nonbinary isn't.

[@RaeDole]

@@deemah3602 have you done any research? Many doctors have confirmed that it exists and thought history many cultures have recognized nonbinary genders.

[@kittys.a.r6912]

Kater Schnurz I’m both non-binary and bi

[@almond_m1lk623]

Their voice really reminds me of Daniel Radcliffe's voice

[@DefaltTzimisce]

C McCloy i agree with u

[@REALBeezle]

C Spooky Alex's voice, or Jake's?

[@alexxander966]

I really wish we had some form of like... hand signal to ask what someone's pronouns are. And then a few different hand signals that represent the different pronouns. Like, you lock eyes with someone, and make a small descreet signal, and if they know what you're doing, they can signal back and BOOM no awkward conversation, you can do it in a group, in a crowd, whatever. And if the other person didn't know the signals, it would be discreet enough they wouldn't notice. Idk

[@WillowTree1215]

A group chat i am in with my friends was called Fuck the Binary for a long time

[@jaypeg7618]

Just because someone doesn't understand something fully does not mean they can be offensive & rude about it. I don't understand all the labels and different identities but I respect that they are real and valid and so should everyone else. Also you both are cute af :3

[@blakus88]

"Fart on your binary", Jake Edwards 2017

[@TigerPrawn_]

That was really good. That's so true about non-binary, intersex and bisexuality all being in that grey area between the 2 established binaries. They're all kind of a connected struggle to show society tht not everything is black and white. peace x

[@paolaochoa1154]

I hope I'm not being disrespectful or anything but is just that i'm not actually sure what being Non-binary means, i'm mexican and I don't think if ever heard that word (in spanish of course) so i'm not sure what it means. I hope someone can help understand a little more cause I would like to understand more about this.

[@hollandduggan6468]

Pao Ochoa It just means your genderless u use they/them pronouns cause your not a boy or girl

[@smallchunkyshorebird]

Not necessarily that you're genderless, just that you aren't exclusively a boy or a girl. Many people identify as a third gender.

[@ethanfabulous6498]

Pao Ochoa It means the person doesn't identify as male or female.

[@vinorabe5519]

Hola, yo también soy mexicano. "Nonbinary" son gente que no se encuentran en el binario, exclusivamente hombre o exclusivamente mujer. Pueden usar los pronombres que les gusten, no tienen que ser neutrales y su expresión de género es muy variada. Por ejemplo, yo uso pronombres masculinos o neutrales y mi expresión cambia constantemente, pero la mayoría de las veces es femenina.

[@smallchunkyshorebird]

Vino Rabe Tengo una pregunta porque tambien soy latinx y nonbinary (soy brasileño entonces mi español no es lo mejor): cuales pronombres neutrales usas en español? Tengo mucha dificultad encontrar algo neutro en "romance languages."

[@lili-qv6ie]

Tantos años juntos, los odio xd. Psdt: Algo así es mucho pedir 😢💔💔??

[@bornwithoutconsentobviously]

You have such an understanding boyfriend. You are so lucky. I don't even have an understanding mother.

[@thebiggerissue4453]

Social Media Warrior same

[@monsterfckr]

Social Media Warrior How old are you?

[@bornwithoutconsentobviously]

Nathan Morou old enough to respect non binary people.

[@monsterfckr]

Social Media Warrior 12, got it

[@bornwithoutconsentobviously]

Nathan Morou at least I don't look like a 12 year old girl.

[@evelynd6138]

Thank you so much for making this video, all of these videos on gender and shiz are really helping me figure things out!! Y'all rock

[@maryrooney8911]

Idk the parts where you talk about simply wearing makeup up or feminine jewelry/clothes making you nonbinary I think could confuse some people and just didn't sit right with me. That just kind of adds to the notion that makeup/jewelry is for females not males so in order to like both you'd have to be nonbinary - which isn't the case.

[@ethanfabulous6498]

Mary Rooney I feel like the majority of people who use the non binary label are simply making things worse as it reinforces the idea of gender stereotypes.

[@jakedax525]

Jake said that he doesn't feel like he's female in any way, but rather mostly male and something else (he said maybe agender). The thing is that in our society we have certain characteristics attached to different genders, because gender is a social construct this means it's difficult not to conform. The main thing to remember is that gender really doesn't have rules, everyone can find their own comfort in how they identify, how they present, and how they explain that. Jake, as far as I can tell, seems to show that he can just wear what he wants, grow a beard, wear makeup, everything and anything, and it still makes him a non binary trans guy.

[@loutheythem3359]

I have work in the morning, but I got this notification so screw sleep got to watch this amazing cinnamon bun 💜💜💜💜

[@kayh8145]

Ya know even if its almost 4 am and i have some quality shit to do tomorrow who needs sleep whenever jake posts

[@cynthiarosero1724]

ahhh... ok well i am not from your country i am from southamerica(ecuador more specific ) whtvr, here you don't listen too much about LGTB community, so it good to know more about that specially, bcs like both give us like tips to dont mess up when u are talking with a non-binary person, because here it is still see like not been straight is a sin, and u need to know that in our society there are not only just men a woman, and is important to know how to treat them right without offending anyone and making feel comfortable so thats its thanks guys. pd: i dont know english very well, so forgive my misspellings or my grammar pd2: chicos como han crecido, u are so mature and grown-up

[@gracer503]

As a gay women, I accept everyone, but I don't think we should ask people their pronouns, unless you know they identify as what they do. Like the couple that didn't want their baby gendered. That's a personal thing, and it irks me off so much. No one has the right to choose for you what you identify as; gay, les, bi, trans, non-bi, and so on. People just need to be open-minded that these things are newly introduced and it takes time to understand

[@maurajones1876]

With my sexuality and stuff I have is so badly I’m pansexual, non-binary, and demisexual. So I’m constantly getting people saying that it’s not really and that I’m just trying to get attention.

[@infieriASMR]

'*kiss* 'Yay gay' My heart