Transforming a Neglected Kitchen for a Widow Battling Depression

Nancy lost her husband nine years ago and has been chronically depressed ever since and struggles with lack of motivation. She has also had shoulder surgery recently which has just made matters worse. Her kitchen has been an overwhelming task for her and she needed a reset. In this video, I will be washing a lot of dishes, clearing out drawers and cupboards and reorganizing the contents.
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[@grace-xo]

Bonnie please don't compare yourself to others! There's no need to apologize and the people who can understand your words with the kind intent they were meant with, are the people here who stay to come back and watch you! We could all learn tremendously from your kind heart and selfless acts that you share. I promise that your work is not going without recognition and support, it is truly invaluable what you do Bonnie! The mental health awareness that you spread is also so important to so many people and to the amazing community you've built on yt. You're making a kinder world and one that sees people through less judgement.

[@susanf4857]

Yes! I agree! Well said ❤️

[@user-zn7bj4gj8w]

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[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you. I really appreciate your kind words!🥰🙏

[@Zombie-adventures]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpBonnie, never underestimate the help you are giving. Mack has his way of dealing and so do you- just EMBRACE your way of coping and embrace your difference. Show the funny and the bloopers and all; nobody’s perfect and it’s refreshing! Always introduce yourself and state what you’re working towards; let us know how long it’s taking; what tools you’re using; invite sponsors too! You got this girl! Go Bonnie go!!!❤️❤️❤️

[@gregpendrey6711]

Agreed 💯 percent. The top stars simply delete and block the commenter. You are becoming a star now. The channel sells itself which means you. Just edit if you want or keep it if you want. Reasonable viewers make your audience so anyone that does it is out on the 3rd offense. As a matter of fact you can delete me. I'm annoying and will still watch you clean, subscribe, and like haha. ❤😎, G

[@carolemg]

Bonnie please don't apologize for sharing your emotions. People who follow you on KZbin do so not only for the cleaning, but also for the person you are.

[@cat-mum-Jules]

Yes you put that so well 😊👍

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@JoanieO11]

Yes I agree!

[@parkwood6334]

I think you, Mac and Clean with Barbie have remarkable patience with the people you help. I understand hoarders have psychological problems, but there are people on all three channels who don't want to help themselves. If they can't handle positive advice it's their loss.

[@OutdoorGal25]

I love how real you are! Tears, gagging and all 😂 Great job Bonnie!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

😜🙏

[@beckiblack4651]

I'm so glad you haven't quit youtube. I love your channel! I hope people understand how important it is to watch the ads during your video, so that you're making money and can continue.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Becki! I wish I could tell people to watch the ads because, you're right, that is the main way we make money on KZbin, but I understand being bugged by the ads. It's nice that KZbin has made some non-skippable ones so we usually get paid at least a little bit even when people skip the other ads. I do try to watch as many ads as I can on the channels I watch because I know it helps them and it's only a minute of my life. I usually just have their videos going on in the background while I'm doing something else anyway, so it's no big deal to let the ads run. I really appreciate you knowing that and appreciate you putting up with the ads because I know they can be annoying. 😜Every once in awhile I do find one that hooks me.😄

[@sheaczernik9778]

How does that work for you for those of us who don't get ads on videos?

[@LB-ht1qk]

I learned from another KZbinr that all you have to do is watch 30 seconds of an ad and that counts towards getting paid. (This is how I understood what they said).

[@beckiblack4651]

@@LB-ht1qk I heard Bill say that on Live Simple Live Free. If an ad is long, I only watch 30 seconds of it.

[@marloespeters8404]

​@@sheaczernik9778i have KZbin premium and no ads wich i like. But i also want her to make money

[@Rock.me.gently.7]

There are now many free cleaning channels. Every one has a specialty. Yours is organizing. And you have an honest heart. For me, I really liked this episode because you did everything yourself, no helpers. Wising you many, many more subscribers ❤

[@chrisvalley5776]

Oh Bonny. 😭 Thank you so much for allowing yourself to be vulnerable here. Your message about making someone else feel special is SO important. If you touched one person today with your wisdom (you did) there are endless ripple-effects of joy you are responsible for.

[@gregpendrey6711]

Trashing someone is called making a Splash. It's really bad how many people are negatively affected. It is exponential how it spreads or ripples before things calm down. If one person does it because of their disorder, I'm thinking NPD's, they are compelled to trash people. We must be No Contact with NPD's because they cannot exist and not make Splashes. They are not fixable, so No Contact is the only way. It's not you Bonney and btw Mac deletes anything but simple praise comments and you can too.

[@gregpendrey6711]

Agreed 💯 percent.

[@d.k.s.4057]

So true- those 'ripples' are powerful and positive!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I appreciate that. Thank you. 🙏💞

[@nancymoore8250]

As an 8 year widow from a 42 year marriage, who uses her warming drawer to hold all my lids; the grieving depression is real. The excess of kitchen essentials is because she moved out of her home and had to downsize into the apartment. Loosing her home after loosing her husband is alot to bare. So many others advised me to move from my home, but I'm glad I stayed put. I hope your client finds a therapist and starts to find some peace. Helping her clear her space will help her clear her mind.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you for sharing your experience. That makes a lot of sense.

[@SierraNovemberKilo]

The clutter looks like ptsd to me. That is, her current situation is the stressor. Mourning is best done in one's chosen space not somewhere someone else has decided.

[@nancymoore8250]

@@SierraNovemberKilo exactly. everything in my house was sacred after he died, and i didn't want anyone touching anything until i was ready ... his favorite plates, cups ... his favorite frying pan and spatula. The towels he chose and his brand of toothpaste ... everything has a memory attached to it. Others cant relate unless they've been through it 🤷‍♀️

[@janjones4772]

You are about one of the sweetest, greatest people I’ve ever seen, you such a precious person, to help others, I feel like this lady you are helping, I couldn’t believe it happens but I found out the hard way, I lost my hubby after 40yrs, I miss him so much, I lay here and cry, can’t think of any thing elas I’m so lonely, don’t have any close friends,I’m disabled also, hurt all over can barley walk. I Talk to God, he’s my friend, it’s so nice to have a friend like you,God Bless you everything is looking amazing.♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@saradunlap6374]

Bonnie you need to know you are a great person with amazing intentions! You never need to apologize for being your authentic self. I know sometimes the bad comments can be the loudest. Just know the rest of us are here cheering you on!!!!!❤❤❤

[@pamelaharris9318]

Bonnie, you are making a difference in the world of those that you help. One person at a time. We all could learn from you.❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@lightgiver7311]

One thing I realized after my husband died, I had too much unused stuff. As a Senior, I slowly purged my kitchen, I only have three fry pans, wasn't using my crock pot, thank goodness I had a friend to help me and take things to a thrift store.

[@Corvidae65]

Please don't apologize for going "off the rail". I appreciate everyone keeping things real. You and Mack are different people and you explain things well. Keep up the great work. We love you! Audra

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I appreciate that!

[@AngelaRothbauer]

Remember Bonnie - part of Mack’s allure is he is a 6’4 man who cleans - you are a tiny little thing who also helps people - though she is tiny she is fierce- Shakespeare- also don’t underestimate how far you have come

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Indeed. It is very different for a man, especially of his size, to have a cleaning channel, so he definitely stands out in this niche. I love that Shakespeare quote! I am trying to focus on how far I've come from now on. I am very grateful. Thanks so much for your kindness!

[@nicboyd1898]

I just want you to know I appreciate what you do and have not a clue who the guy is you are comparing yourself to so YOU are much more valuable to me than whoever he is! Thanks for pushing through and making people’s lives better!

[@ykook7000]

​Don't worry many would prefer your serene calm disposition way of doing it compared to others ​@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp

[@TheCaitling]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp also I think men are expected to be funny and sarcastic but there are people out there who just take a woman being funny or sarcastic as that woman being negative or something.

[@LeaC-lw8xl]

We are always so hard on ourselves. What I see & hear is a caring, understanding young woman with a great husband & kids, a close family, lovely house & the intelligence to figure out youtube! Everything is relative. We need that reminder once in a while. Mac has been doing this a while plus he has his son helping him. You are right. We can’t compare ourselves to others but I guess it’s in our nature to do so. Stay well! And do what’s good for you.

[@sellyourhomenowbook]

I'm often struck by how smart Bonnie is with the technology etc.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Well said. Thank you!🙏

[@michellesmith9971]

Ahhh! There’s nothing better than enjoying a hot cup of coffee and the sights and sounds of Bonnie scraping and scouring! Why is that? I love what you do and your clients are so fortunate to have such a lovely caring person helping them thru difficult times.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Aw, you're so sweet. Thank you 😊 💓

[@marybedy9760]

Dear lady, as I mentioned in another video of yours, you are the reason my closet is clean. You are the reason I wash my dishes right after I use them. You are the reason some of my paperwork is way more organized now. Your videos are the reason I realize for sure I have way too many of certain things. I find listening to you very relaxing and inspiring. So yeah, realize that a lot of us really appreciate you greatly. YOU ARE YOU and you are wonderful.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I'm so glad! Thank you for sharing that. I really appreciate it!😘

[@user-vz4mz7tb6i]

Bonnie be proud of how far you have come! I look forward to your videos! Your victim mentality show helped me more than you will ever know! I was the outcast in school too Part of being an introvert! No need to apologize! You have a caring heart! Please keep doing videos!

[@bearfog07]

And all the introverts say amen, we know what Bonnie's been through.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Do you also have dreams about redoing High School as you are now, knowing that everyone has their own issues even when they look like they have it all together, even the popular kids? I would be so much less concerned about my awkwardness and try to go out of my way to find those who are struggling. I always try to remind my kids that everyone is too busy worrying about how to fit in, so however awkward they might feel at this time, everyone else is in the same boat and it gets much better after high school. I guess I should say for most people it gets better. There are still quite a few adults who are bullies and need to grow up and they can make life difficult for their peers, but, generally speaking, adulthood is better than High School.😊

[@Zombie-adventures]

Amen!

[@phyllisdaum1213]

I firmly believe that the measure of success and accomplishment is not where you are but how far you have come.

[@anphillips8110]

Thank you for sharing your high school story. I was that way in middle school. All it takes is one positive event to understand and believe in your self worth.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thanks for sharing! Yeah, the girl I talked about was always very nice to me and would say hi whenever I passed her in the hallway, but I never knew that she actually knew my name until the experience that I shared. That meant more to me than anything. It's too bad it was near the end of my senior year and I wish I could have had that experience sooner to realize that there are some people who actually noticed me and cared, but better late than never and I will always be thankful to her for that. ❤️

[@stephaniechessell501]

I love washing dishes by hands, I find it very calming!

[@irenepwheeldon]

Don't sell yourself short. You are a very good speaker, I enjoy listening to you, and I am sure everyone who watches you feels the same way. Love the cleaning, love the conversation, love the enthusiasm you give out about your work. Keep it up.

[@brette6117]

I know I would not be the only one that would seriously miss it if you no longer made videos. I enjoy your videos a lot! Please know that many KZbinrs struggle over staying motivated due to discouraging analytics. What I have found is: as long as they remain authentic, that if they do what makes them happy KZbinrs, people are happy to watch. As for views and subscribers, you should be aware that KZbin has been experiencing technical issues across the board. One KZbinr I've watched for years suddenly had videos disappear, another had 100's of videos that suddenly showed ZERO views. Please don't always assume it is you and your content Bonnie, you do a great job!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you for sharing that. I am also hearing that some people are being inundated with political ads, which are never fun to watch, so they click off of those as soon as they possibly can, so that may be part of the reason for the drastic drop in ad revenue is because of this being an election year (here in the U.S. - not sure where you're at). Super frustrating, but at least there is a little validation in knowing it's not just me and I just need to stick with it and hope next year will be much better. Thanks so much for your support!

[@LynsAlteredArts]

I was watching a video that said it had zero views that had 41 thumbs up how is that even possible so you know it’s messed up. For the viewer it doesn’t matter that much if it’s messed up but for the content creator that’s revenue, that’s money in their bank, so KZbin get it together! I don’t want to lose any of my favorite KZbinrs like Bonnie!

[@brette6117]

@@LynsAlteredArtsexactly. That's also why WHEN it IS possible we need to support a creator's alternative revenue streams so they are not reliant on ads alone. 💓

[@3of4sisters]

I love it when you clean and organize for someone in need. This one is quite a puzzle as she owns so much. Time for her to lighten the load.

[@TeaandFiona]

Her place actually looks better than my sister's place. She's been a widow for 20 years. But she was like that even before her husband died.

[@ale7564]

That’s a good motto. “I do what I can in the time that I have.” That belongs on a shirt. Or a cape!!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

😅

[@maryleeswope3353]

You are so right...treating one another with compassion and empathy will always be what resonates...not the superficial stuff. Be the best you...that's all you can do. Take care!🎉🎉🎉

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Absolutely!!🙏

[@ashoalcraft4404]

Shout out from the bathroom crew! I used to hide in there a lot, too. At least once a week in junior high, I skipped gym class and sat in a stall. I always had a book in my pocket so I would just read until it was time for my next class or until lunch was over.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

So many people are telling me that. It's crazy how many of us there were. It's a shame we didn't all just unite over our loneliness and become best of friends.😊

[@kbrown3230]

My kids are 40 and 35 but I still remember how wonderful/sad/proud/questioning graduation is. It is such an emotional time. I will say that as your kids grow, you get to meet a whole new person that occasionally see flashes of all your hard work/love you have poured into the child. I pray you get through the hard stuff and truly enjoy meeting this “new” person you have created.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

That's a great way to look at it. I'm already so proud of them and all they have accomplished, so I can't wait to see what the future holds!

[@mamat1213]

My life changed with I got rid of 75% of my dishes…and I’m in a family of 3 but I swear by having 2 dishes per person. Everyone washes their own! Even when all are dirty it doesn’t cover the counter

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

So life-changing, right?! I could definitely pare down some more, but need to make time to do that. But we don't even have half of this amount for the four of us...haha!

[@carriemayer2980]

I've pared down a lot, and I love what one woman said worked for her: one place setting per person per meal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. It's not always feasible to wash dishes after every meal, so having enough for a full day's worth of meals was a great recommendation.

[@bernicehoggsfav]

Please don't quit KZbin!!! I look so forward to your video content. You are such a sweetheart.❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Aw, thank you! I'm not going anywhere. I'm sure I'll stick it out. Some weeks are just harder than others.

[@ThKiwi]

I’ve had the conversation with my husband about the amount of dishes we should have on multiple occasions. 😂 He thinks we should have considerably more than we do so we don’t have to do dishes as often, I like that we’re forced to do dishes daily to keep up and that there are never more than about a day’s worth to wash.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Yes! I recently got rid of a lot of our extra Tupperware because now if we ever run out, I know that's a sign we have way too many leftovers sitting in our fridge that have not been eaten and that it's time to clean out the fridge and get back some of those Tupperware containers. An inconvenience for just a few minutes, but overall, it's a lot easier than having piles of dishes everywhere and nowhere to store them.😁

[@sellyourhomenowbook]

Shuddering at your husbsbds idea. Dishes should be washed after every meal. Otherwise they will attract bugs, rodents, and smell 😮. You're correct. Please show him this. Eewl.

[@lauramitchell6725]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpPerfect System!🙌🏻👍👏👌

[@schnetzelschwester]

In general, these things are not very expensive. If you happen to run out of Tupperware one day, you can simply buy some. I now throw away containers without lids or lids without containers. No more “Oh, I could use this at some point”. If the plastic is discolored or smells strange, I throw it away too. There's one drawer for Tupperware and if something no longer fits in there, I have to decide what can go. It needed years until I realized that I'm not that poor to be forced to keep everything.

[@aprilknerr4443]

This kitchen was a great improvement! I hope this person continues to enjoy the help you are doing and lets you do the scrapbook area too!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I hope so!

[@marije8562]

I'm sorry to hear about this situation. Nancy must have loved her husband a great deal if losing him causes her to be depressed. I hope the clean home will at least ease her burden a little and give her some space. Thank you for helping her.

[@wildflowerwind6941]

You are an angel to help people. I can't believe what you have done. Amazing. I am a widow of 13 years. Lost my husband when I was 50 and I can tell you the struggle is real. I understand how the woman feels.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

It does sound like you can relate. I'm sure that's very difficult and a huge life change.🙏

[@teresatillotson5561]

Oh Bonnie, you made me cry too😢. You have such a big and beautiful heart, we need more people like you in this world. I can't wait to see the pantry video so much to do. Have a wonderful holiday weekend😁

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Teresa!❤️❤️

[@user-vg9cv5np4p]

You’re such an amazingly lovely human. Please don’t loose sight of that. WE LOVE YOU FOR YOU ❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏🥰

[@faithsmith7431]

Bonnie, you are a wonderful person who gives freely of their time to help others. It's ok that you don't talk like Mack. Your narrative is you. And you are wonderful. You have helped so many people, us, through the ups and downs of life. I was also very shy in school. Just be the best version of you in life. Love and hugs from an old woman😊

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Faith! As much as it would mean the world to me to be able to speak well and not take so much time to process thoughts and get them out, I realize I have other gifts and abilities that I'm sure other people wish they had, so I'm going to try to focus on being grateful for those rather than focusing on what I lack. You're the best!🥰

[@rayandkathybussieres495]

I for one cannot watch Mac…. I just don’t get his mean, name calling type of delivery. I’d rather watch you any day.

[@deborahswett3508]

This is the very first video of yours I’ve seen. I’m still watching! I always wanted to be shy! My mouth was open too often and my brain was not always connected! Love yourself❤

[@theresahandwerk7651]

Bonnie, I'm glad you talked about the victim mentality. I feel the same way and hearing you made me feel better. Thanks for being genuine ✨️ ❤️

[@brendarose3941]

Bonnie my dear, I believe you come into the lives of your clients because you were meant to. The support you provide lifts them up and puts them in a good place. So, you can count on us to support you and lift you up and keep you in a good place. It’s what friends do for one another. I am proud of your perseverance. You are not a quitter so keep your head up and keep on keepin’ on!❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you. I appreciate that!

[@SousChef77]

Bonnie, you are adorable and have such a sweet spirit. I love your ministry to others. I think you are doing a great job. You be you sweetness...Mac is certainly being Mac! lol We need both your personalities in this world.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

You are so kind.🙏

[@sheaczernik9778]

U are amazing. Keep up your good deeds and great work. Enjoy all your daily adventures.

[@kirstyroyles2070]

I too was a quiet child at school and felt your pain with your high school story, but you are an amazing woman who goes above and beyond helping others. That takes someone very special to do this. I love that you always have their needs in the forefront of what you do, not a lot of people would be so caring. I love your videos, you connect because you are natural and respectful of others, please don’t change, the other KZbin cleaning channels are all amazing and you all have different ways of helping, I love Mack’s sense of humour and Barbies strong stomach for some of the dirtiest jobs, you all do fantastic work and we love you all ❤

[@susanf4857]

I love all of them too! They each have something unique about their videos but they are all motivating!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@margiebeeb2836]

I love your videos! Actually I prefer yours over Macs. I probably shouldn’t say that but….love the quote, one of my favorites! I can also relate to what you said about high school, I hated it! Still think of it today at 70 years old! Can’t wait for the next video!😊❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you. Don't you wish you could go back and redo High School sometimes knowing what you know now?😊❤️

[@margiebeeb2836]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Yes!

[@jaynecallahanhenson3622]

Mac NEVER apologizes to his critics because he knows that they are nothing more than critics.

[@janlyda9964]

who is Mac?

[@Lisa_S117]

@@janlyda9964Mack from Midwest Magic Cleaning

[@jaynecallahanhenson3622]

@@janlyda9964 The guy who has Midwest Cleaning. He’s done vids with Bonnie and others.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

@janlyda9964 I'm always shocked to find people who don't know Mack before they know me, but I will take that as a compliment! As Jayne and Lisa said, Mack is from Midwest Magic Cleaning. He is autistic, like me, and has a very quirky, sometimes morbid sense of humor, which I very much relate to, but is also extremely well-spoken on issues of mental health, particularly hoarding, and has been a mentor ever since our collaboration last October. He's a great guy, but can take some getting used to since he's a little off the wall. 😅

[@janlyda9964]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp i've watched a couple...and ...what can I say, I'm intrigued...😂

[@marilynlegg311]

I watch, Barbie & Mack’s videos also. You are all 3 very different in what you do. I have been motivated by Mack to declutter & cleaning & by you with organizing & cleaning. I hope I never need Barbie’s service. lol But her videos make me aware of how far people can sink into a level of depression that makes you unable to function even on a basic level. So all that to say, Please keep doing your videos. You are appreciated & needed.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Aw, thank you! Yes, Barbie is definitely in a class all her own. 😜

[@jlaurelc]

It's also so nice to hear the voice of an autistic woman in this space. As someone whose struggle with neurodivergence has affected my ability to keep my house orderly and clean using NT approaches, it's so helpful to see and hear someone with a perspective closer to my own talk about cleaning and organizing. Mack is great, but he's too tall to see things from my perspective, lol. 😜 Seriously though, the absolute joy you derive from making things clean, and your wholesome kindness and openness are a comfort and inspiration. Keep being you.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

@@jlaurelcLOL! Yeah, Mack's too tall to see things from most people's perspectives. Glad I can represent a shorter ND population!

[@rebak502]

OMG! I used to hang out in the bathroom during lunch in high school, too. And for the same reason! I've never admitted that to anyone. And I'm 60, so I've kept that a secret for a long time.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I can't believe how many people have commented the same thing. It seems like we need to make a "bathroom stall residents" club.😊 It's nice to know I wasn't alone and we all made it out alive and probably more empathetic because of those experiences.

[@johnkelly9451]

School, work, home! Yes a new club! To have two minutes to collect our thoughts and a moment to step out of the chaos! 😆

[@deepaadhikari2758]

Stay in the spirit of helping and recording, Bonnie. Relentlessly! Just stay with it. Don't second-guess. Don't create back-up series. Just stay relentlessly looking at the Eleye of the needle. Give that energy a whole month, yet again, without letting doubt take over. You are too beautiful a soul to question your place in the world, any world, KZbin including. Don't chase the numbers. Just for a month. Do what makes your heart happy. Do you!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you for your wise words.🙏

[@kamidsjournee]

Your personal story was for me. I’m still that way, and I’m in my 60s. Thank for what you do. I will always watch and share as I can.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I appreciate you sharing that. 🙏

[@AchtungMM]

One time someone told me “comparison is the thief of joy” and that has stuck with me for many years now.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Yes. I love that saying. I actually had that written down to share before the quote from Maya Angelou came to mind. It's a very true statement.

[@sisutytto2563]

Bonnie,,just be you. You have such a beautiful soul and you can't imagine how much you help many people.🤩😍🥰🤗🤗.

[@terrybryson6864]

I know that Mira is much more cheerful since you helped and befriended her. You change lives. I love your videos.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

You are so kind! Thank you!

[@barbarastockhausen5867]

Yes, Mac has a different style. He works with different people and different needs. He also has been doing it longer. I have been watching cleaning, lawn care, etc. videos. They are addictive. One lawn person had to take a break but he has inspired people from all over the world. They video their lawn businesses. It should be a great feeling to be an inspiration to others. You are an inspiration to me-😅😊

[@rebeccarendle3706]

Great Job Bonnie. You are such a special gift for people in need of help. I know it is not environmentally friendly... but it would do her good to reduce her kitchen wear down to a normal amount and then buy "one-use" paper plates, cups, wood cutlery, and paper towels, so that when she is having a "crippling depression phase" where she has no energy to clean up, she can use the one-use stuff and just throw them in the bin... that will dramatically reduce the amount that piles piling up!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

The funny thing is she had a whole stack of disposable things in one of her cupboards, so I'm not sure why she wasn't using them more, but I agree. I tell people that as well, to just use disposable until they are in a better place. 😊

[@vruth23]

You are awesome. I think you have a very clear and kind way of communicating. And you are very sweet.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you! 😃

[@dawnmcfadden6670]

You are so kind and do such a great job bringing people's homes back to being a real home. Scrapbooking actually puzzles me because I'm not sentimental and have yet to meet anyone doing it who does not also have a clutter problem.

[@jenniferknowles7219]

All I can say is YOU ARE AMAZING. Please don’t regret putting in your emotional thoughts. I was just like you in high school. I wish I had half of your energy, motivation and organizational skills! But the thing I love most about you is how you love to help others. That is a wonderful quality!! Again, you are a great person. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@amandasnailtasticnails9657]

I can’t wait to see what you do to the pantry. I’m a fan of seeing a pantry transformation.

[@prettybrowngirl211]

I'm here because of Mac. I love his personality, but I love your channel because you're not the same as him. don't change anything that doesn't work for you. you can't please everyone and that's ok! Thank you for sharing your feelings!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I appreciate that!

[@RoseMaryBowen]

You are a kind and compassionate person. No need to apologize for who you are. Love your videos! God bless you. ❤😊

[@marystrenke3050]

Bonnie!! You are amazing 🎉 Funny, caring, hardworking, intelligent

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏💓

[@juliebrooke6099]

Love seeing you Tetris everything into the Tupperware cupboard.

[@Cosmo26271]

I just found your channel the other day and am LOVING IT 🥰

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Yay! Thank you! And welcome. I'm really glad you're here.💞

[@pilotdiana]

It’s perfect that you talk about all kinds of things while we watch.

[@leannekirk74]

fellow bathroom stall girl here.....I actually thought I was the only one. I feel so much better knowing that you struggled in high school too. as you are just so perky and motivated and you seem good with people. I struggled all through school even when I was young, I couldn't understand how kids could be so mean and used to wonder how their parents could love them hahahaha.....I think there are quite a lot of moments in adult life that bring those difficult moments back to us in a flash. Now I work in primary schools as a nurse and I can spot those miserable kids in a second, it feels so good to be able to brighten their day by remembering their name and saying something nice. We each have the power to make other humans feel better or worse as they are going about their day. I feel you have a special ability to make people feel better and maybe that's why you started your channel. It's not just the people with messy homes that you are helping, it's your subscribers too. If Mack quit youtube I'd be disappointed but I'd get over it in a minute...if you quit youtube I'd be sad for ages!!!!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Oh my goodness. Thank you so much for your kind words.🙏 I am in shock how many people have commented that they were also the bathroom stall "residents" in High school. I knew there must be a few out there, but I did not expect there to be so many. It took me years to find my confidence after high school and I still fake it a lot, but out of those experiences are born empathetic people, like yourself, who can spot and look out for those like us. I'm thankful there are kind people like you out there looking out for the outcasts. 🫶

[@leannekirk74]

@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp you're right that our struggles make us empathetic towards others and even though school was such a struggle it did make me a stronger person. I was so determined to be a nurse that I stuck it out to the end and still remember my last day vividly. Needless to say I didn't attend the end of year ball or graduation ceremony lol.... I got what I needed and spread my wings. Nursing school was so different as my peers were caring and empathetic and I really found my place in the world. But there are still those awkward social moments in life where my first instinct is to find the bathroom! It's nice to know there's a whole bunch of us 😊😊

[@lindadial7177]

Oh my!!!!!😊 I just found your wonderful video and almost cried!😢 I am a 72 year old widow with many health problems that interfere with my life! Your sweet voice and advice has encouraged me!😊 Before my husband of 45 years died (12-12-14), we lived in a two story townhouse with three bedrooms, two and a half bathrooms and a garage, which we used for storage instead of a vehicle. We downsized to a one bedroom apartment just 7 days before my husband died! 😢 I had to put a lot of stuff in storage from the townhouse and gave lots of furniture,etc. away! Since July 2021, I have downsized again to a Studio apartment!!! Last year was a very hard emotional time for me with the death of my only sister!😢 I can empathize with the lady going through grief and depression!!! I am having motivational problems on top of the health issues, depression and grief!!!! I feel like I am in a RUT with trying to declutter, donate and organize when I feel overwhelmed! Your video inspired me to try again!!!!! I have watched Mack’ s videos but I much prefer your sweet personality and way of cleaning! 😀 Thanks for all your hard work and inspiration!!!! I SUBSCRIBED and created a Playlist to add your videos to so I can watch them again and again!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Oh, Linda, thank you for sharing. 🙏 You've had some hard stuff happen so close together. And dealing with "stuff" is the last thing you want to do when you're grieving. Isn't it a crazy phenomenon that just feeling not alone can give you motivation? That is definitely one unexpected "side effect" of starting this channel. I had no idea that so many people felt so alone in their situation and that bringing awareness to the fact that there are others in similar tragic situations can just give you a little boost of strength to get through it. I initially just wanted to spread a little kindness, but had no idea it could help people in that way. I'm so glad you shared your story with me and I am praying you can get through your stuff and not feel so overwhelmed. 🥰🙏

[@user-fs6ou3fk9p]

I so agree with you, I love a clear counter top.

[@angelamelville67]

Thank you Bonnie for your honesty. I love your videos, please don't give up KZbin. Sending hugs 🤗 and love ❤️ from the UK 🇬🇧

[@joannevans2505]

Boy, I’d love to help this lady declutter if she was willing. Soooo many duplicates!

[@lindamusser7370]

It is nice to hear that you would help her.

[@alicialowesyou]

We love you, Bonnie! You are changing lives! You're amazing

[@maryannhorner1900]

Oh how wonderful Bonnie, God knew just who to send this lady - you! All your experience with Mira now goes right into helping her!! Scrapbook heaven 😍 Let her watch one of your videos with Mira, maybe it will give her ideas for her own space. Love this so much!!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I told her she needs to watch Mira's channel. She would relate so well with her.😊

[@marije8562]

To be known is to be loved... of course someone calling you by your name and asking how you're doing is a big deal. I started a new job last year (as a teacher!) and a few months in I was so incredibly stressed. Then some people in the staff room asked me how I was doing and they knew my name and it both surprised me and made me feel at home. I sent roses to all the janitors at Valentine's day and now we're best buds. It can be something really small, but I think being human is made up of those small gestures.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you for sharing this. I almost always try to use someone's name if it doesn't sound too awkward to throw in a conversation because that's something that stuck with me that made me feel important, so, thank you for sharing, Marije! 😉 And I will always remember you as my subscriber whose name I used in one of my videos as an alias, though I used the more common American spelling in the description.😁🫶

[@brendarenno8996]

The reason I keep so many dishes and kitchen items is because I dream of our house being filled with family and friends. Making meals for loved ones is love! But our adult children live in another state. We only see them about 1 time a month. They don't come home often, we go to see them. Sad but true.

[@patriciadifferding7688]

Wow what a difference you make!!Thanks for your kindness and hard work! You be you- unique and special.

[@jillsiebman7832]

Always enjoy watching your videos!! You give a fresh start to the people in need!! Thank you!!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@emilydavidson275]

You are a saint. Being elderly myself I know the recipient is so grateful! Blessings

[@amandasnailtasticnails9657]

One of my peers would always smile at me while in the halls. Her brother was in my class. Yes saying high to someone verbal or non verbal can make a difference in a person day.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

And they probably had no idea how much that meant to you. Such a sweet, small gesture.😊

[@asumner1959]

You can't please everyone all of the time. There will always be people who thrive on moaning and complaining and find fault with everything. I enjoy watching your videos and I admire your desire to help people. I've learnt a lot from you, especially folding fitted sheets which I always use to end up rolling in a ball out of pure frustration! I love your empathy and your wise words. Just keep being you. I look forward to watching part 2 of this kitchen and I'm sure all your help will be a huge step towards this lady's recovery. Grief and depression is very debilitating and I wish her the very best for the future.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.💞🙏

[@conniepeereboom8640]

Thank you for being real. You are so kind and have such a generous heart. I appreciate you and enjoy watching all your videos ❤

[@lynnjennings4431]

Enjoyed watching.

[@deborahgilliam5344]

Bonnie I love your personality ❤️ You are real be proud of who you are

[@PennyPudge]

You are an amazing person to do what you do for others. I know you don't do it for persoal praise but you need to know the gift that you have and are giving to so many. Blessings to you

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Penny.🙏❤️

[@laydbug268]

You are A BEAUTIFUL MESS!! 🙂 You have a beautiful heart. Don't let other's kill your joy. And THANK YOU for sharing your cleaning for others videos!! We may never be rewarded here on this earth, but when the time comes, we WILL be for using our gifts to help others. Hugs to you, Bonnie!! You are beautiful!

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

I believe everything you just said. Thanks for sharing!

[@debbysouthworth5606]

My parents and grandparents taught me to be a "clean" cook. I think it means using as few dishes as possible to prepare my meals and even one handed, wash or rinse as I go. Takes care of a TON of cleaning. And I recently cleaned out my inside pantry. Yes I have 2!

[@susanladouceur890]

Bonnie try not to compare your numbers to others. Did you ever think you would have over 50k subscribers? That’s amazing ! I’ll take your emotional intelligence over jokes or sarcasm. Just as you shared your story about the girl being nice to you in high school I am confident your insights and kindness are helping others in the same way. You have a beautiful heart, don’t ever change ❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Nope, I certainly never thought I would have 50,000 subscribers so soon and that's what got me thinking about why in the world am I beating myself up for not being where someone else is when I should just be amazed at how far I've come. I'm much happier since deciding to focus on that. Thank you for your support, Susan!

[@mrsmuggins]

Out of all the cleaning channels I watch, yours is my favorite❤

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

That's so nice of you. Thank you!💞😊

[@jennifercole5788]

I love to watch you organize! Like conducting an orchestra 💕 you make beautiful music 😉

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

🙏

[@SandraNelson063]

I've dealt with the Black Dreadfuls for decades. Recently got put on a good antidepressant, it makes all the difference. Depression makes you blind to all the mess. You hide behind all the mess. The more mess the better. And oh, the mad disorganization! I got some help, life is much better. And my fave chore is washing dishes. Its my daydream time. Folks, never forget to daydream.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

On an antidepressant myself. Helps a lot. Thanks for sharing your experience with depression. I'm glad you are in a better place now.

[@LynnKsCouture]

Thank you for teaching me how to do the tuck folding method. It really makes sheets etc, very tidy.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

You bet!

[@jlaurelc]

I rewatch how to fold a fitted sheet every time I do the laundry...someday it will stick, lol

[@LynnKsCouture]

I understand. It is ok to vent. The subscribers you lost are not mature enough or understand enough, so do not bemoan that issue. You are enough and are doing something that is amazing. To quit this channel is your decision, but to me, this channel is very important showing what you do and feel plus motivates me to clean.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.💞🙏

[@amandabradley6256]

I have NEVER seen so much kitchen “stuff”……my Gosh. I’d be exhausted organising all of this. Kudos to you.

[@lorettalouvros207]

I love you Bonnie❤. I hope you know how much you are appreciated. What you do is so important but sharing it is even more important in my opinion. What you share has a ripple effect on others. I am so grateful that you do this channel. I enjoy every minute. Stay Awesome my friend☺️🤟✨

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Wow, thank you. 💗🙏

[@dianevaness4776]

Thank you for sharing this video and your willingness to help others

[@romeldagioscio9185]

You are such a kind person, please don’t compare yourself to the mmc channel. A lot of his commentary is uncalled for and rude. I enjoy you and your videos. Thanks.

[@1954evelyn]

Can't wait for next week and you are free to say things it gives us more understanding of you. I am so happy you do this for people I really need it myself I am 70 years old and disabled but watching you it inspires me to do as much as I can do at one time. I have too many things in my kitchen and this has inspired me to get rid of most of teh utensils I am working on sorting today wish me luck

[@colleenpeck6347]

I am disabled also and only use Correllware now. It is light and doesn't break. Much easier to grasp especially when wet.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you, Evelyn. And, good luck!!😄

[@sct4040]

Seeing all the rice scoopers makes me realize that this owner needs to declutter.

[@lynndeleesharpton7644]

Being authentic is very important!

[@joannecooper4592]

You are an ace at organizing a kitchen! Super job! The lady really does need to edit out a lot of her pots, pans, and dishes and storage items. Blessings

[@robinbriggs4976]

But cleaning is therapy! The best kind of therapy.

[@zerocasualteas]

Also, you are super brave to put out your videos & share your real thoughts & feelings here. You do amazing things to help people. That’s why we love watching your videos! ❤I loved your yard work video too. I’m huge into gardening & it makes me happy to see! ❤ High school was really tough for me too, so I can relate. ❤

[@cynthiabotsko2449]

Also, when life changes that way & you go from your own space to another - decluttering to downsize can be truly difficult (even dishes), like closing a chapter in life you're not ready to let go of. Not sure that this applies here, but it's a scenario. ❤️♾️❤️

[@bluerosa1550]

You are a good person because you have given someone else (girl in high school) credit for how she made you feel. There are so many people that will never admit to something like that. I really like you and your cleaning style and folding of clothes. Stay positive and you are great.

[@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp]

Thank you!🫶