Why I Can't Be Friends With Straight People

[@nteliginthug]

Bro I'm so low key this my FIRST time commenting on ANYTHING on this topic...mannn I feel u. Same shit and im mos def not the nigga that's sayn anything....damn near a munk. Living in a one man world...for years. Depressing and lonely but I been promising myself I will start living. This shit crazy. Especially when u disagree with who I are....self mutilation. But me myself...im tired of missing out on life.

[@Leblancoo]

I wish you the best! ❤

[@chocolateolive4345]

It's really super pitiful that in today's world you can't simply be yourself.

[@tonyjazz3474]

2020!😔

[@seeingbeyondthroughwithmon6323]

Actually you can...

[@myristicina.]

It’s been like this since the start of time tho

[@vivianwade3185]

I agree with you! It just bothers me to some degree that if you believe in God, the Bible says that it's a sin before god to be with the same sex!!!! I think it's in Leviticus

[@melvonjohnson5711]

@@vivianwade3185 So if that stupid bible said" it's a sin to wear red, what you condemn everybody who wear red?? In a way, the stupid nonsense bible says don't wear certain stuff but you bible believer hypocrite never talk about that---you idiots just attack homosexuality because u can't find a man lol

[@lmnt02]

Yo, as a straight dude. I used work in a gay club as a bouncer. It was super weird at first, then shit got normal after i made it clear that i wasn't playing for y'all team. Started having regular ass conversations wit cats, jokes and just all-round regular night club shit. You gotta find straight people that are secure with in them selfs and MOST importantly, they need to be on a higher frequency in the brain. Most people like to put there limitations on other people because that's as far as their brain and experiences have taken them. It's really that simple. As much as i dislike humans in general regardless of sexual prefference, i try not to give up on them lol. Individually people can be smart and understanding given that they are in the right brain space. I know its a contradiction to say "i dislike humans" then right after say "don't give up on them", but such is life.

[@TripperPlugged]

I agree cuz

[@kkain123]

When they can't put you in a box, they don't know how to act... It's really sad

[@kris6750]

Exactly!

[@rocbody1]

I really like this video for sooooooo many reasons: Gay/bisexual guys who are believed to be straight because of their masculine appearance and or mannerisms are given a bad rap. 1. Straight guys are intimidated usually because they feel uncomfortable around us. We are generally attractive. 2. Straight women who find out that we are attracted to the same gender as them are quick to say, “what a waste”. 3. Feminine gays are usually trying to find a straight appearing gay man and are offended when you tell them,”sorry you’re not my type”. Believe it or not there are men who are checking for effeminate gay men. However I have yet to see two effeminate gay couples. Like you said some straight men have been betrayed by gay men who pretended to be their friend and wanted more, but some of them were curious themselves and baited their gay friends into drunk sex! Tripp, my cousin, don’t change be authentically you.

[@edwardwalden05]

rocbody1 dont confuse irritation with intimidation. I myself have never been intimidated by gay men, i honestly don’t care, it’s more pussy for me. I get annoyed around e flamboyant gay dudes, always gotta do extra. That shit annoys me to the fullest, it’s almost as irritating as a group of women laughing loud for no damn reason. Not every straight dude is intimidated bruh, niggas just be annoyed by all the extra shit. I’m sure if every gay dude carried themselves like dude who put out the video, niggas wouldn’t gaf what you like. It’s the constant force of acceptance that makes a lot of straight ppl biased when it comes to gay ppl. Long as you live your truth bruh, i have nothing to hate or be intimidated by. I’m more intimidated by the dl men, cuz them some lying ass mofos.

[@marcopolo6772]

@@edwardwalden05 I dislike DL men!

[@edwardwalden05]

joshua19942 bruh idgaf i don’t know you or these rappers to care enough who they’re sleeping with. I don’t praise celebrities like you do, so i can’t relate to that. I’m speaking in terms of dL niggas in my city (DC), cuz the dl niggas fuckin it up for the straight niggas. I’m never gonna meet or be around your favorite rappers, so i could care less.

[@immature1990]

Some straight people feel if u gay that u automatically want them when it’s not the truth I got some straight friends and while some are attractive i make it to where I only see them as like brothers or friends nothing sexual and it’s not everyone u see in a sexual way like this society is crazy how people can’t get along without them making assumptions.

[@animenerd453]

Well I'm straight and black so. That's not what I think nor is that my experience. Mine is this. I'm straight and have no interest in experimenting with the same sex. A lot of gay men come up to me trying to convert me for lack of a better term. They say things like "o but you're cute though" "It's not gay to suck dick" and "you should try being bi (because I'm single)". I try to be respectful but after a certain point it's just sexual harrassment. A lot of them don't take no for an answer and then when I voice these complaints I'm called a bigot. Also a quick addition, I guess I'm considered gay because I'm not very open about my sexuality and in general I don't spend my time chasing women.

[@staygreat3611]

the older you get the less time u have to waste on relationships that dont fit with what youre looking for.

[@johnalynnbillups1238]

I just had that conversation yesterday.

[@pwerpuff9091]

As a lesbian myself I understand exactly where your coming from. When I used to be around my gay male friend other girls would be nice in his face and say slick shit about him/his sexuality. And if he said something they didn’t agree with or didn’t like they would bash him by saying “that’s why he gay,” as if that’s an insult.🙄 Then the gay heterosexual males were even worse they were so damn toxic and insecure they tried making my gay male friends life a living hell but he never allowed them to get to him. Even though we all know they was picking on him cause they were DL👀

[@pwerpuff9091]

Darrel Lemonius stating a fact isn’t an insult... but ig take it how you want too🤷🏾‍♀️

[@kimbaker4169]

This conversation is so needed and necessary!! Good Stuff!

[@ericdavis6261]

EXACTLY!

[@kimbaker4169]

Eric Davis Yeah man....

[@a.d.baebee]

I love MASCULINE energy. I don’t get along too well with females, I don’t like feminine gay dude too much because they put off the same energy as females, and straight males don’t know how to be friends with me. One moment we’re friends and I’m helping them pick out engagement rings for their girl and as soon as it don’t work out they want to come to me expressing their feelings for me. So I know EXACTLY how you feel.

[@MsMocha2015]

Wow! You are a mirror of a reflection of me! You just told my story! That’s crazy! I swear I can relate! I love masculine energy! And I too go through the same exact thing with straight men I try to befriend.. they always end up wanting me and I just be wanting to be cool it’s not like that damn! The flamboyant type gays are way too much like females and transgender girls most of them over do it and it’s just the most.. now some I have admired but it’s only a hand full girl the struggle is real!

[@SPGlass]

Tripp I have the same problem, but I do have straight friends that accept me for me but it's hard to just be a regular dude who likes dudes without being put in that box and straight dudes are the worst, lol you are the best cuz this topic is definitely on point, as always I appreciate you.

[@jamesbooker7730]

Cuzzo. I still get that from straight men that dont know me "oh you playing for both teams" and feel uncomfortable. I'm not trying to pass, which I can, but why should I have to tell you my sexual preference when we're getting to know each other (associates). So I keep to myself... fck'it Cuzzo .. I will say that friends I grow up with especially my best friends Cares for an authentic friendship. And I/they appreciate that..

[@kimbaker4169]

James Booker #REAL TALK

[@tonyjazz3474]

I've spent most of my LIFE TRIPPING on BS but the way I see it NOW, it's my time to live, LOVE ME & the LIFE & BLESSINGS that GOD has provided & I have worked so HARD for & evor-re-MUTHAFUKN-THING outside of that can KISS my WHOLE FUCKING ASS! I MEAN THAT SHIT!... 👀 💋 👍 #INTHAT ORDER!

[@makeoverme]

Speak that TRUTH Cuzzin! So glad this channel is growing the way that it is! 15k on the way!

[@kimbaker4169]

darren ford Yeah. He speaks truth.

[@curtb2480]

I tried having gay friends but that didn't work out. In most cases they were more interested in sex than building a friendship. Most of my closet friends are straight and married. I have several straight associates that are single and they know I'm gay but it's not a problem. I think a lot of that has to do with maturity. I haven't been put into a position as Tripp described. But then again, it more about the "type" of company you keep. As I mentioned most of my straight friends are married. Our conversations are more centered around building and expanding business relationships, or our kids. Where it does become interesting is when I'm dealing with clients. Most automatically assume that I'm married with kids. I do where a wedding ring. A lot of times, I don't reveal my sexuality and just tell them that I'm single parent with kids. It isn't a lie, but it isn't the complete truth either. Bottom line is that my sexuality has nothing to do with my ability to delivery on a business contract. At the same time, when you are dealing with a client on a $M deal in a southern State or foreign country, it always best to keep things professional and leave the personal aspect off to the side.

[@kimbaker4169]

Curt B That’s What Up!!

[@NalaAmari]

@Curt B Exactly! I'm like where are you meeting these people. I don't care about someone's sexuality but I do care about what kind of person you are if we are going to be friends. Straight, and gay people can stab you in the back. It's not like straight people don't run into these problems as well. It's similar to the straight woman and straight male friendships. Lots of straight men swear it's hard for them to be just friends with women, especially the ones they are attracted to. I've had some cool guy friends over the years, but eventually they've wanted me to be their girl. That can happen after getting to know someone. I had to explain it wasn't possible. Some were cool with it some weren't. We all run into these issues, gay or straight.

[@jji9402]

Thanks for that. Im out masc gay and I have never heard anyone speak on this other than myself. Completely true.

[@MsMocha2015]

I love y’all keep your head up!

[@rodentcafeteria]

"Gay - Be My Friend at Your Own Risk." That's a good slogan!

[@jonnyappletreat2240]

This happened to me. My coworker been trying to hang out with me for a minute. When he asked for my IG his whole demeanor changed. Some of these characters want to try you but will stay away once they see you're openly gay

[@ashgreene4914]

yup that too. they would rather 'hang' with someone who is in the closet like themselves because they see an openly gay man as a threat of keeping their real truth a secret.

[@Pandora234able]

I’ve never experienced this. I’m confused

[@jonnyappletreat2240]

@@ashgreene4914 That has to be so exhausting

[@jonnyappletreat2240]

@@Pandora234able Really? I experience this all the time

[@NalaAmari]

So basically you're saying you only get approached by down low guys that want to be your friend? Do you think they pick up on you being gay even though you are masculine? I understand the woman's said of it of course. We would be attracted to you. But, I never knew it was that difficult for you all to just make friends.

[@ernestfox4880]

Like I always say, my female friends, I tell them I'm gay and they say "Challenge accepted".

[@molatelomoloto2818]

Ernest Fox Biiiih I’m signing out 🙌🏿😂😂😂

[@kimbaker4169]

Ernest Fox 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@girlynerds611]

😂😂

[@ayoq9956]

I love this so much this type of representation for gay black men is sooooo needed! I wanna cry...

[@TripperPlugged]

awww thank you my guy

[@lydiadellculookin9307]

This is right on time/point and it all boils down to Insecurity and Ignorance. And MAN that identifies as hetero, has NO issues with any man and his sexual orientation.

[@TripperPlugged]

I agree they shouldn't

[@davidtaylor8787]

Tripp always said we could be real here. I'm a straight man and I would totally hang with Tripp. He is so cool and I'm cool with knowing my favorite cousin is gay. Not a problem at all. I believe people have a right to love who they want to love. I'm open minded. Tripp I dig you cause you're cool you're real fun and all around great guy!! 👍 I can be friends with anyone who is gay and I don't care what anybody say I know they will probably say I must be gay too but as we grow older we learn not to care what people think. So cuzzo you got a straight cousin here who rocks with you and I respect everything about you brother cousin. Much love ❤ Family!! 👍

[@matheuslemos8555]

You would only hang out with him cause he isnt feminine. Proving youre homophobic

[@davidtaylor8787]

@@matheuslemos8555 I promise you that is not true in my case. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but in my case like I said I'm open minded I don't care if you're masculine or not. I can be friends with anyone that's gay.

[@miamidudeful]

Pertty sure buddy is curious if anything

[@davidtaylor8787]

@@miamidudeful Lol 😂 I disagree with that. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion I'm going to leave this alone. I'm not fake I'm speaking my truth but it seems I'm not being believed. It's all good. I still got love for the family and this makes for great conversation.

[@percywilson9399]

David I believe you I am a gay brother and I have several str8 male friends who are cool with me being gay ! 🎩🎩🎩 off to you my brother 💯

[@larrypaylor3622]

Oh yeah I'll make conversation but I'm not trying to get in nobody's pants. Tripp you be on point with the topics. I'm going through what you going through right now. Being put in a box, I'm just trying to chill and have a good time. Just fun chill and that's it!

[@Thedreadedflutist]

Here’s my thing.....as an out gay man live your life the way you want to; don’t let others make that expectation. I think you can be friends with straight women but at the end of the day, they need to accept the reality that you are gay and that is not going to change. If they are good friends they will understand that boundary and respect it. Now if they don’t.......thank you next😊 as far as straight men....you need to find ones who can hold an intelligent conversation and they are few and far between. You got this😀

[@shironbrown3781]

Love How You Just Be Sittin There Cuzin, GIVING REAL TALK....Just Being Yourself!!!!!

[@716MotoKhan]

Often times it’s because they are uncomfortable with their own sexuality, I run across it often, I’ll spend a whole night, day or work shift talking to a dude then when he find out I’m bisexual things change. Smh it’s a sad fact of society and the stigma that gay and bisexual men are put in.

[@liveyourlife1777]

This is sooo true.

[@kelamo7067]

Mareo Steward Black men are hypersexual. So sex is on their minds all day, everyday. So, in turn, they think it’s on yours also. And they feel you have dirty thoughts about them and it makes your interactions awkward

[@zenafaye7183]

My brother broke human sexuality down in a way that I think is true. I believe the saying that we have been lied to about human sexuality. We have been indoctrinated by man to believe that we are all supposed to be straight but nature is proving something else. I believe the majority male and female are naturally bisexual but they suppress, deny and hide their same sex sides but when they come up on a gay person, those feelings are challenged and it makes them so uncomfortable.

[@kelamo7067]

Zena Faye There are primarily 4 sexual orientations. Heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, and asexual. There leading sexual orientation is bisexuality, and the least is asexuality. There are more bisexuals on this planet than any other sexual orientation

[@raymondjblaze7761]

@@kelamo7067 autosexual

[@14carats]

I understand where you’re coming from. I could definitely be friends with you because you’re real. Just kickin it! You seem FUN!!!

[@sheldonlutchman7700]

I totally understand cousin. I hang with alot of straight friends but I give them their respect. I am still friends with one of my straight friend. I told him about me and it didn't matter to him. We slept on the same bed and he was cool because he just not attracted to men. I always say a straight man is not intimidated by a gay man.

[@kimbaker4169]

Sheldon Lutchman FACTS!!!

[@ricosuave3229]

SAME!!!! 🤣 my straight friend & I got drunk at a party & I stayed the night at his house. We slept in his bed in our boxers without any questions of sexuality 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@zanthus7]

Exactly. If a so-called straight guy has issues with me being gay, that issue is more about him and less about me. To many times I've had so-called straight guys flirt with me when learn I'm gay and they are not around their boys. They are so far in that damn closet until they can see Narnia.

[@kimbaker4169]

zanthus7 #TRUTH

[@clarencep90]

🤣😂🤣 Damn bro, this my life story. Thank God when I came out my straight friends senior year they were cool with it. I knew these niggas for 5 -10 years we still smoke blunts and kick it. I see them as my brothers some may be attractive but im not attracted because i see them as family and have never ever thought about trying them even at the sleepovers when we were young. 🤣😂🤣😂🤣Lmao some said they already knew.....When it comes to work I keep my business and personal life to myself. I try to stay to myself for all the reasons you said, but women and men love me they wanna talk to me and be cool with me, but once everybody start gossiping they think im gay its because im not talking bout fucking hos or hollering at the females at work, everybody start acting different. I'm like damn im the same nigga you knew before. I'm tired of that shit, one day im just gonna be real when they ask me would i fuck ole girl and say "naw. I like dudes"

[@TripperPlugged]

Crazy aint it

[@Alpha_Damon]

I feel same way my dude. I look straight but I'm gay. 🎯

[@percywilson9399]

Hey cuzzo tripper I have several str8 friends that were cool with me being gay they were very open minded 💯 I'm not masculine nor am I fem I'm just me we grew up from grade school tell their deaths 😥 they came to me after high school and said man just be you stop hiding who you are if your gay who gives a fuck we been cool since grade school and nothing can change our friendship. I would hang with them at the str8 clubs ... they loved house music so I asked if they would hang out with me at the gay bar 😳 to my surprise they agreed to it .. one was a little uncomfortable but he saw it was just a party and we had a ball even though they were just wall flowers but I appreciated my besties supporting me frfr . My str8 besties 💯

[@rocbody1]

Percy Wilson Outstanding! That’s good news man. Glad to hear that some people in this world can look AT your sexuality and still appreciate you for who you are!!!

[@calvinfelton4077]

You are right Tripp. Fear and ignorance man puts more people in boxes does anything else. Keep speaking truth.

[@davidemerald7690]

making sense bro!! didnt even think twice before hitting the subscribe button

[@bamidelevictor2959]

Good morning cuz! I have never ever met a honest person as you in my entire life.you are really going to go very far and be successful.Why does anyone care about the way anyone is?.its amazing how pple can be sooo stupid becos they have an impression about you and want you to be a certain way and not be true and authentic to yourself and you know what? They are all fake.I love you and I respect you sooo much.yeah! We hve to do better.pple misunderstand your kindness and being nice for what they think you shld be.Thanks cuzz.hve a great day!

[@antoinewood9839]

Tripp! This is 100% the truth right here! As always, I love your commentary. **Hugs you**

[@kimbaker4169]

Antoine Wood Yeah man. He’s Good!

[@pamelataylor4091]

The issues you are having with straight people happens among gay people as well. People are people regardless of sexuality. I am a woman and was good friends with a gay guy who had never been with a woman but he later said he developed feelings for me and wanted to experiment with me. That was certainly not an option for me.

[@que1973]

Pamela Taylor 😮😮😮😮

[@Dellennickolis95]

He ain’t gay.

[@pamelataylor4091]

Believe me, he is very gay and has never been with a woman. We were in our 20's when he propositioned me, we are in our late 40's now and he has never been with a woman and all of his relationships have been with men. Sexuality in my opinion is fluid in many cases and some have a desire to experiment regardless of sexuality

[@ELP1125]

Tripp seems like the type of guy that is fine with certain aspects of the gay lifestyle, but doesn’t want to be labeled as a gay man because all the connotative notions attached to it...just thinking out loud.

[@tonybarlow4291]

Not focus on Tripp I agree gay black masculine men have a little pride and arrogance to the situation I can pass as long as no one ask me about women

[@alw.8849]

boy u is speaking the truth, only straight folks i deal with is family members, because when the dudes find out they go out of their way to avoid you and when the women find out they want to get comfortable and start talking to u like u they best female friend

[@ashgreene4914]

exactly! thats why i don't have many friends and the few i have are gay. In most cases can't relate to straight men nor women when it comes to certain conversations. i remember in my late teens when i had straight friend he would be constantly talking about women, women and women. I got tired and uncomfortable that i started avoiding him. Some women can sometimes think that you can be their gay best friend once they find out your sexuality and i have no interest in being best friends with a woman since women can be really annoying at times.

[@alw.8849]

@@ashgreene4914 yes man u are correct most of my issues comes from my job, but im in my 40 's and im tired of these men and women constantly trying to get information on my personal life when u ask me a question and i answer u stop digging damn,half of the time they know whats up but they just want u to confess to them lol just dumb

[@brucewilkinson8599]

Sad that so many folks feel they have to put other people into a box that centers on sex and/or sexuality. Power and control over other folks is exercised way too often in order to mask insecurity. I like what you said, Tripp! Just be yourself despite what other folks may do. Real friendships are rare and few. Being an acquaintance is can be trying because of those crazy expectations. Thanks for bringing up this topic.

[@larrypaylor3622]

Damn that's the problem right there, if someone knows you're gay, and they see you with another guy they think that you're a couple. Damn people grow up, they are insecure and desperate. You're a handsome guy and people are so doggone thirsty. Pitiful pitiful pitiful, I know this has to be nerve-wracking! But I feel you, I just keep to myself. Cousin you don't have to tell them anything. But if they ask, I'd certainly tell them the T-R-U-T-H. If they want to continue to rock with you cool. If not their loss. I'd love to hang out with you. Who gives a fuck if you're gay! I just wanna enjoy life and living! You seem cool as fuck though!

[@Tallboi87]

Tripper plugged I swear I know exactly what your talking about the straight human label construct...

[@vaughnwebb8704]

Gm tripp,boy u hit these nails on the head all time,I've been put in these situations many times tripp,where I felt like I had to always be explaining myself to straight people, and what I don't like is people who labelize me by thinking because am attracted to guys it means am sleeping with every guy,like u tripp I have my choices in men,and not every guy I talk with it means I wanna get into their pants,now when I meet guys I like talking things of interest be it in the news or about me,many I have to Scrug off guys who think that by me being gay it automatically means I want them,and hell who wants to be with some guy who uses alcohol, as some device to say he was taken advantage of by me because he was drunk,first of all I ain't want no guy who has to be intoxicated to get down dirty with me ,we both must be fully aware of our actions, i have lots of women friends I hang out with and we always have something in common to talk about ,but the question of my sexuality has never arise in any conversation we have,but if I was asked I would simply tell it like it is,even if it didn't sit well with some,at least am honest enough to let u know and we don't have to play these mind games on u trying to find me out,but like u said tripp, we'll always have the fear of straight people wondering if they can have a conversation with us without us visualizing them for something, which in some cases is totally wrong,when am interested in a guy for pleasure the conversation is way different to that of if I want him as a friend, so guys out there,stop fearing yourselves so u won't have to fear me,love u cuzz,and say hello to Korea for me.

[@juniormarshallhastings723]

It is not uncommon for a gay man to be attracted to a straight man. Neither it is uncommon for a gay man to be attracted to his straight friend. What makes a straight man having difficulty being friends with a gay man is his phobia of which society dictates that if a straight man is friends with a gay man he is considered to be a closeted or downlow gay by his association with friends of the gay community and their gay culture. Society expects a straight man to be in conflict of the life of the gays. Specifically within the Black community if a man who chooses to be gay who is not in a position to marry a woman or produce children is an abomination. I strongly believe that if a gay man who becomes friends with a straight man he should keep his homosexual lifestyle in secrecy. Nobody has to know that you are sleeping with a man or parading on the streets at the Pride carnival. That’s none of their business. Reason being into today’s society most straight people are not mentally ready to accept the gay lifestyle. In the Christian community, gays are an abomination and this biblical concept will not change as the morals and values of the Christian belief is built on the commandments in the Bible. So, if you are a gay man and you expect to receive a fair and tolerable treatment from a straight friend KEEP YOUR GAYNESS TO YOURSELF.

[@kwuankendricks2965]

You nailed it yet my BFF is str8 and what makes our bond so strong is that he is 100% secure with his masculinity and he, nor I or his wife or family gives a f... what society says or thinks.

[@lachatel8547]

Lol....I listen to your vids a few times and catch something different every time. Vlasic and neon light made me giggle. 😛

[@TripperPlugged]

😜

[@nicoestelle9397]

I love that you keep it real with those around you, as well as us,your subscribers. Love you cuz.💙👊🙂💙

[@Josco31]

As a bisexual man, I agree 💯. Both straight and gay can be quite thirsty with it when you just want to connect on a non-sexual level.

[@derricklentz1190]

Real talk I feel you 💯...I'ma masculine dude myself and people get surprised when they find out...but teaches own...great video bro😁

[@TripperPlugged]

Thank you

[@bertoellis4962]

I love getting your perspectives.

[@pattbreezy3420]

That's so true they like to categorize, everybody doesn't fit in the perceived boxes. They refuse to get to know people they like to judge.

[@jefferywilkerson5008]

What's up cuz peace and love I love your videos Man you make mean laugh you're fighting you do peace and love

[@Jmanvancejordan]

Wow! I’m older than you, and you have echo what I’ve experienced all my life! It’s amazing that you can be handsome and straight appearing and put in the box! For me life is to short, not to be who you are and love who you are!

[@jamilrhodes9873]

Aye tripp Im dealing wit the same shit i deal wit more straight people cause how i roll but that convo wit dudes and women being attracted brushing the entertainment of attraction and not talking bout fuckin women gets me to hearing the bullshit they think cause they do act like that's the only thing to talk about or somethings wrong but i don't be giving a fuck and will tell em i don't if that line gets crossed but then i ask myself why am i in the situation we need to talk man holla back at me cuzzin!!

[@mauricenunn6935]

When you have a friend, keep a friend, no truer words have been spoken, although sometimes one thing leads to a another and "bam", friendship leads to something else.

[@ISaidWhatISaid8463]

Brooooooo a year later I'm just seeing this and damn this is my life. Smh single "handsome" chill, cool, well rounded, masculine, black gay man. This shit ain't easy yall

[@AegisEpoch]

so much of homophobia is performative and trying to avoid being mistreated themselves

[@johnmccall1142]

Cousin I love your videos they are so insightful. They are for the most part always interesting. I love you dude.

[@DaddiKyree]

My favorite video i swear I sways feel the same way like let me be me lmao 🤣 😂 tripp crazy I love em tho

[@levi___2096]

Just saw this video in my recommendation and clicked quick. I’m not no ladybug/ straight guy. I’m a mixed of both but when drunk the flamboyance definitely comes out. Just me I’m just me in other words not over the top. Majority of people think I’m straight but once they find out I’m single at 28yrs old Latino they be like u must like guys. It’s all the time. Lol. See in my case I hook up with guys on apps and when I’m out in bars / clubs or just out I’m not looking around because I do all my hoeness online. I can be a friend and that’s that. Having a small circle works out in this. 💪🏻

[@martinbirdwell7111]

I saw a dude today at the car shop had his pants down so low someone could've ran up in him quick fast and in a hurry, I think he was advertising on the low

[@LionHeartRenewed]

Tripp in line with this conversation, my question has always been, "what is with this sick mindset of people who automatically feel superior by nature (because I'm black, or they discover I'm gay)." In my experiences, it happens more frequently with Caucasians and straight males. Over the years I have continuously been told, "one of my closest friends is black, blacks are alright with me," or "we have interracial couples in my family, we're not prejudice." "I don't care if you're gay or not, God wants us to love everybody," or "I support same sex couples, to each his own." When confronted with these statements, there is always a tonality that seems to imply; "You're OK no matter what most people think...I'm different from them." During these interactions I always get this nagging sensation in my subconscious that these individuals feel as though I'm waiting for or need approval and acceptance from somebody other than myself. I have and will never need straight boys or white people's endorsement or confirmation. It irks the hell out of me when they assume fake pompous positions of normalcy and being greater than, but all the while bestowing their compassion and support on us misunderstood Blacks/Homosexuals. These people take empathy to a record breaking LOW!

[@kalaklah4848]

So glad you spoke on this.

[@paulamohan5624]

I can relate to this! One of my closest friends is gay and what I appreciate so much about him is, I can be myself around him and vice versa! We have laughed together, cried together and almost came to blows lol! But I love and respect him so much, for just being real. A couple of years ago, he got locked up, not coming out any time soon. I miss him dearly, he is and was the true definition of being a Friend! Great story cuz! Peace n blessings to ya

[@RaathloveTV-u5m]

Hey Tripp. I feel a lot of what your saying. I've always been a private person. So whether I been with a man or woman I've always kept my business to myself. And I've always been me. If you know, you know, if you don't, you don't. But if we're starting a friendship I will say tell you then. Because I except a person for who they are, if I'm your friend. And I expect the same. If a guy tell me he's straight he doesn't have to worry about me because I don't go after straight guys. The two just doesn't go together to me. At least with a gay guy you know what your getting. I don't even mess with bisexual guys. This was a good topic. I think you should talk about this some more. Plus the differences between masculine and feminine and so on. I feel it's a lot more to talk about.

[@EAST6thWEST]

His videos always have a deep message. Much ❤

[@byronoden2715]

Is the pickle “VLASICK”. 🤣🤣😂

[@PhillipMartinFrazier]

Once again...you are speaking truth. I'm gay...married...and just like yourself refuse to be placed in a box or closet or DL or any other term society choose to use. I am thankfully lucky enough to have a nice small circle of friends (And I never use the term loosely) who are very straight and could care less about who I share my bed with. My friends care more about me and my happiness and we each help each other live life in the Grandest Version of ourselves. As a society however I agree with the fact that people have to change their mindset of sexuality as a whole and just let people be simply themselves.

[@jayelove1504]

I understand exactly where you're coming from Tripp, be yourself....some folks aren't comfortable within themselves or so conceited they feel it's always about them.....I can be friends with anyone who wants the association.....in other words, regardless of ones preference or style of life....my love is free...free for you to take or leave....ither way, no problem.😂😘💜

[@TripperPlugged]

this is real

[@roberttaylor5026]

Never be fake and change for anybody Tripp you continue to be who you are and what you are periodt most of these straight ppl just insecure with themselves and that's why they can't be comfortable with you and that's she change who you are and it shouldn't periodt

[@zacharyboyd5391]

I like this guy

[@antJaxStar]

Hey cuz, glad you left out the minute 40 second intro. I like to have you jump right in and when your eyes are shaded I dont get your full aura. Aunt Jaxstar AKA auntie Snoop just giving a lil side note. My only friends are gay black men. One masculine and 3 ladybugs. Lol

[@reginaldjefferson9998]

THIS IS ALL FACTZ..... Going down this road as we speak and it ain’t easy... The girl situation and the homeboi situation.... Tripp YOU IS HELL but it’s all truth bruh frfr... I’m still tryna figure this road especially being gay but it ain’t easy to just come out with it so they assume that a nigga straight cause I’m masculine but that ain’t all the layers to me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 ITS GOTTA BE A BETTER WAY!

[@RaathloveTV-u5m]

Take your time bro and be true to yourself. Keep it real and honest only if a person ask.

[@kimbaker4169]

reginald jefferson You’ll be fine man. Be yourself!! I don’t was just commenting that we need to start a support group. I was being funny but actually that’s not a bad idea..

[@jacovbtarver7052]

Yeah it's a long and winding road bruh......stay up!

[@reginaldjefferson9998]

Jacovb Tarver Tonight I was going to go live and make a statement about the stuff that ppl don’t understand about gays and this gray area that ppl don’t understand or try not understand... I just think it’s time and ready for the backlash or whatever comes with it.... I know ppl finna question my sexuality and I’m cool with that... And also lose folk in the process of freeing me

[@kimbaker4169]

Doodie Man Yeah man. Express yourself any way that you can man. Don’t bottle yourself up with anxiousness and frustration. Find someone to talk to that’ll understand your plight. We’re in the process of staring a group on FB for this very thing man. So that we can come together and talk and blend.

[@blkzinfandel8741]

Just be you bro and anybody that can’t handle you being you is not worth your energy or your space. Never allow anyone to put you in a box of any kind.

[@tjtanner9311]

Literally going through this now! I'm a training supervisor at work. I've been working with a lot of new females lately, they have been feeling and flirting with me a lot and asking me out etc. I'm just a nice gentleman and all of sudden, ima a ladies man and a player, tryna smash. Like no I'm just doing my job! And my straight friends always just talking about smashing females 😩

[@sharjjahnaziz4122]

Tripp Mann I know what you mean. As a gay man myself, I have to keep a distance with my straight and sometimes my alpha male counterparts. It can be a little too much at times. Especially when it is just me and 4 other straights engaged in general conversation at the gym or in a social settings. When they begin to talk about the girls that they were with the previous night. I get lost or just pretend as thought I am interested. Ugghhhh.

[@mobedick175]

me all day man lol

[@kimbaker4169]

Sharjjahn Aziz I feel you man...

[@sharjjahnaziz4122]

@@mobedick175 This is all day everyday man. Who wants to hear about the last girl they smashed of who they hooked up wit the night before. And deal with there aggressive behavior and attitudes. I am sitting around them dumb founded.

[@sharjjahnaziz4122]

@@kimbaker4169 But this is all day and everyday and even at the Barbershop. At the shop around a bunch of Alpha males talking about who they smashed...blah blah... blah....blah... blah... blahnik shit

[@tonyjazz3474]

@@sharjjahnaziz4122 THAT'S SOME SHIT I JUST CAN'T STOMACH & NEVER HAVE EVEN GOING THROUGH MY CONFUSED & FINDING ME STAGES & IS USUALLY ONE OF THE QUICKEST WAYS STRAIGHT GUYS START LOOKING SIDE WAYS @ ME!! IT'S A WASTE OF PRECIOUS TIME & ENERGY & THE REST OF MY LIFE FROM HERE ON OUT BELONGS TO ME!!! ANOTHER THING I DESPISE IS WHEN MOFOS RUN UP & JUST START TALKING SPORTS SHIT LIKE EVERY MAN HAS TO, I SAY "LOOK I DON'T CARE ONE WAY OR THE OTHER, I AIN'T GETTING NO MUTHAFUKN CHECK!" LMMFAO & THEY BACK THE FUCK UP!!!😂😂😂💩💨💨FOH!...✌

[@Daniel-dl6cu]

I definitely relate to a lot of the points you said. Especially the one where straight dudes are scared of gay guys cause they think they'll automatically try to get in their pants. its so so frustrating and really hurtful tbh. Everything changes when they find out you're different in that way.

[@haroldflowers6003]

BROTHER TRIPPER! P L E A S E! keep telling US the realness! It needs to be heard!

[@bigdaddydiva]

I have been blessed to say that my closest friends who I have known for most of my life are straight as arrows...they knew before i did! LOL....I think I have heard every story known to man about fellas chasing fish and like you I just make like Beyonce and just Listen...and with my Judy's they didn't want me when I'm my younger years I was interested in fish...NOW since I have been living my truth...they go "why you gotta be gay?" as if you were going to really give me a chance! Go figure...😊

[@dougmccloud9492]

It’s always the ugly ones or the big ones thinking everybody want them

[@ashleyterry2715]

Man i never thought that i would hear this from another guy i experience the same thing living where I'm living in the state that I am in wow I finally see that I'm not the only one wow

[@yungReparations]

I’m just really superficial with my friendships. I dont withhold info, but I don’t volunteer either. I also don’t ask them questions. Straight dudes really like to tell their business like women. And most of my women friends are manipulative. Because I’m an attractive gay man, they use me as some kind of commodity. It seems like millennial black women don’t feel complete without a gay black friend. People are attracted to the way I treat myself and once they find out I’m gay, they try putting me in a box. I wasn’t raised to be in a box, so I usually end up offending them and they momma

[@julialouk9363]

No in my opinion you're being yourself and that's great I'm straight you haven't met me yet though I'm not judgmental

[@ashleystewart994]

This was a good video. My problem is that every time I meet someone straight they end up trying to hit on me. I don't get it, but I know how you feel.

[@prettymoney13]

They want you to be what they think you’re. Sorry to them because it doesn’t work that way.

[@kimbaker4169]

Pretty Money yeah man.

[@kalaklah4848]

I hope they all come across this video. This so needed to be said cousin

[@hotbreakers94569]

Can’t win for losing. I blame the toxic society we live in that puts us all in boxes. Continue to be yourself , fuck everybody else.

[@toynisha4247]

You're meeting the wrong people I guess. Keep being you. If they got an issue with you, that's their issue, not yours.

[@Fordriasdance]

As a Gay man. I'm also not a fan of Men who are ok when me behind closed doors. But they dont wanna be cool with me in public. I'm good on that BS.

[@doobber1]

Man I love the truth that you are living. Its so much easier than living and continuing the lie. TRUTH TRUTH TRUTH

[@waltermanuel1935]

True dat , i got mad respect for you, a lot. of people are in the closet and living a fake phony life . stressing themselves out

[@misipar1934]

I have the same problems , I'm basically non binary and I was born intersex so I look like girl even tho I'm biological male . I just try to be nice because I was raised to treat people with respect. I just figured what ever issue they have is with themselves not me .

[@livelaughlovekarma9418]

Im so happy someone came correct.. I have majority bisexual female friends so females automatically think I am... Im straight and none of my friends came at me sexually, I don't judge them they don't judge me .. and as long as we are real and genuine with each other... I've gone to strip clubs and had a good time with the stripped and it never misses at the end of the night I have to turn a female down and tell her I don't get down and they'll get mad.... I don't judge people and TBH the ones who judge are usually judgemental because they are low-key fighting their sexuality.... An open nonjudgmental mind will get u far

[@blessedhonored3363]

This has got me laughing hard. You telling the truth experienced by gay masculine men from both encounters with straight women/ men and sometimes with other gay men who are only in it for intimacy. I admire you boss.

[@TripperPlugged]

Thank you

[@heyadriennewright5874]

I’m straight but You are so real and funny as hell. I would love to have a friend as real as you are.

[@ramaj1010]

Continue to be yourself because so many aren’t

[@humbleblulibra3489]

Wow how sad I know mens who are gay and fine and I never came on to them I 'm a striaght woman I know some women's who are gay they tried there best to turn me out we still friends but I don't play that ❤💚💜💙🙏😇I love your realness you honest I give you the up most respect

[@kris6750]

He is telling the truth on this big time! Women are cool when you are a gay guy they don't want or if you are a stereotypical character of a gay guy but if you give off this other type of vibe and you the kind of guy they find appealing and your not biting back or reacting to there pleasure they can get real nasty and be a real trip. Especially towards black men which everybody feels entitled to and ain't suppose to have no standards or taste.

[@jahiemprecise5071]

“Lituaion” 😂💀

[@byronharper6329]

You are right just be yourself if you can't be yourself who are you supposed to be fake?

[@patrickjohnson600]

Hi Trip… I’ve been listening & watching your videos . It’s very intriguing that I’ve a lot in common . My demeanour is like yours . I’m not obvious . I have made ‘srt8’ friends . I do know what you mean by them not trusting you . Those ppl are not all together with their security so therefore leave them to the side . They are not worth it . I’ve also had plenty of ‘srt8’ men come onto me . I know what you are saying when you are not attracted . Nobody likes rejection, especially ‘srt8’ men that are insecure . I’ve not been attracted to all, nobody can be . We are not designed that way . My advice is not to give up on all . Find the secure ppl ‘srt8’ or gay

[@bisharawilson8569]

Man I found myself agreeing with you a few times. Had me laughing. I'mma 6"4 brown skin dude with dreads, so a few females try to holla sometimes. They do get to feelin some kinda away when you don't feel the way they do. They can be real silly at times. It must be something about you, that I'm not feelin. I have a few moments I could share, I don't have the time rite now. We gotta meet Tripp, in real time one day. I'mma cool dude, with good sense that's down to earth. This has been a life changing year for me, for the better. I ride solo bolo nowadays. I'm my own best friend. The things I use to do, I don't do no more. I can see the positive change, I'm like McDonald's," I'm lovin it". We'll talk more. Take care Tripp😎.

[@humbleblulibra3489]

💚😂🙏

[@mobedick175]

I am my own best company as well to the point of where i travel on my own man.

[@kimbaker4169]

Bishara Wilson Your on the right path keep pushing!!!

[@bisharawilson8569]

@@kimbaker4169 thanks for the response. I plan to keep turning them pages one way and one way only 😋.

[@kimbaker4169]

Bishara Wilson You do that man. You got this. I was commenting jokingly about starting a support group for ppl like us man...lol...it’s actually not a bad ideal...lol...

[@499lex9]

I am a gay man in Brooklyn NY, who doesn’t read as “gay” to most people. I happen to have a lot of straight friends (males and female). Since it not as obvious, I usually do drop it into the conversation as early as possible. I find that people respect me for that, and if it does scare someone off then that’s on them. Here in Brooklyn though, I find most people can handle it and the friendship rises or falls on its own merits.

[@Refining1]

I can relate to this in so many levels.