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My name is Zara Beth (zeezee25 on tiktok) and I post videos about disability, neurodiversity and what its like living with Tourette's Syndrome, Functional Neurological Disorder (FND) and a chronic illness called Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome (POTS). Tourette's syndrome is a neurological condition causing involuntary movements called tics.
I use my social media (TikTok, KZbin and Instagram) to advocate and raise awareness for my conditions and show what it is like living with a disability as a neurodivergent person.
I am also autistic and share my sensory struggles along with my experiences with mental health disorders.
I show what its like having a disability and the accomodations I have to help my daily life. I am also an ambulatory wheelchair user showing my life using mobility aids and how symptoms change from day to day!
I am also a musician with a popular song called "She's Mine" available on all streaming services - I wrote, produced, mixed and mastered all my songs myself! I am also an artist and a writer. I love reading and I'm currently writing a novel and a book about my life!

[@Zara_Beth]

reminder that this isn’t a diagnostic tool or that these traits aren’t ONLY for neurodivergent people 🙃💖

[@BaylieWhite-fz9zz]

The fact that I put my fingers down on the same ones you did 💀

[@NOTurbuisness-r5q]

Oh wow I had put so many fingers down im so different haha. Bro I have adhd and other stuff and I despise adhd content. It’s cringe and it’s going to make people think they are quirky for no reason. Stop it

[@BaylieWhite-fz9zz]

@@NOTurbuisness-r5q she is just spreading awareness about it so don’t hate on her.

[@lightfuse5091]

Who thought this was

[@ttijana]

​@@NOTurbuisness-r5qwhy did u comment it will only bring u more content that your not enjoying. The algorithms show you vids similar to those u comment on so if u really don't like ppl being silly on the internet don't comment just leave the vid. Or u could click the don't recommend so your even less likely to see similar content.

[@kimberleyhosmer5997]

Questionnaires are frustrating because they don’t allow you to give details, explanations of your choices, or options to choose more than one option! Mine invariably end up being covered in notes between the questions! 😂 I struggled with this even in grade school when we were supposed to guess what was happening in a picture and of course the only “correct” answer was related to some current spelling word or something but to me, the picture was very ambiguous.

[@jollyquinn430]

@kimberleyhosmer5997 I hate it so much. Just yesterday I had to do one at my doctor's. I have to do it 4 times a year and I hate it. It's for chronicle pain. The question "Do you often have a dry mouth" makes me always mad. Because I often have a dry mouth because of my meds. Not because of my pain itself. And then I have to say if certain adjectives describe my pain. Adjectives like 'terrible, excruciating, torturing, creepy, etc' It's actually not in English. I'm just using some English words as examples. But the actual adjectives are some, I've never heard anyone describe their pain.

[@AnnekeOosterink]

Yeah, I always want to explain the situations in which my answer applies, or ask how often is often etc. I don't know if you've ever seen the "literacy" test (it's called that, it doesn't test for literacy at all) that was used to exclude black people from voting? Every question had several possible answers and any of them could be considered right or wrong based on the whims of the corrector. Some questionnaires make me feel like filling out one of those tests.

[@JJ-dr7im]

OMG yes. Overthinking them. Also, yes 'what do they mean' or, 'none apply to me, I want ANOTHER option!'. Doesn't help that I deal with questionnaires a lot in my job and often say 'well this is porely designed' or 'I wouldn't have asked it like that'! I get a lot of eye-rolling from colleagues lol. Often get to look at draft surveys etc. Big mistake if they ever want them finalised, or not twice as long as when they started😂

[@artemisameretsu6905]

Don't try to take autism diagnostic tests then bc if you're like that you'll find them just as rage inducing as I did.. To be fair that should probably be one of the questions "do you think you were given an adequate amount of choice options per question?" The obvious answer is no but at least I'd feel a little better knowing the frustration was PART of the quiz 😂

[@sacredweeds]

I always explain where I need to in questionnaires. There is usually enough blank space somewhere if it’s on paper. At the Dr office online questionnaires include an extra info space. Whew!!!

[@JL-qz3be]

I'm left with 2 fists, and an urge to start boxing, outta turn adhd into a superpower with hyperfixation in the boxing world

[@silentlover1905]

Omfg lmaoo

[@JL-qz3be]

@@anengineer152 let's do it G

[@JonathanMullany-fx1qh]

Does ocd count as neurodivergent?

[@JL-qz3be]

@@JonathanMullany-fx1qh being completely honest I'm a fucking mess mate I have no clue what ocd is outside of having to do certain things in certain orders

[@richardmertens2951]

Lol

[@ipot3ka]

"what?...I'm gay" GOLD

[@madgoose_]

I find hilarious that Zara didn't say "lesbian"

[@Lscott-fk2sn]

​@@madgoose_probably bi or pan then

[@preppycloset]

@@madgoose_why

[@madgoose_]

@@preppycloset cuz "gay" is primarily male homosexuality

[@madgoose_]

@@zoyxwvutsrqponmlkjihgfedcba so why gay men can't call themselves "lesbians" :/

[@lolgacha3217]

OMG THE WRITTEN COMMUNICATION. I am incapable of explaining/expressing my feelings and opinions by verbal communication, I prefer 100 times written communication. Even when I was little, I used to give my mother notes about how much I loved her instead of just telling her out loud, same when I was angry or sad or happy, I wrote it down to let other people know

[@WelcomingFrown]

I think i can only truly express something to another person through visual stimuli, on occasion paired with auditory stimuli, probably why my special interest is film studies

[@mancubwwa]

@@WelcomingFrown Interesting my preferd communication goes face to face > written > voice only.

[@heatherrae901]

This is me 100%. My mom has passed away but she kept all my notes, professions of love and everything else. And it’s still me today, I feel I can express and represent myself clearer in writing. In person I’m usually quite uncomfortable because interactions are just draining and overwhelming.

[@kokichisrealmom]

YESS!! As someone who had therapy I literally became non-verbal when I had to talk about myself, the only way (which only worked to an extent) was for me to write lmao

[@Lightninja-Supertom]

personally it depends. sometimes its easier to speak my mind, but writing it down did help alot more when I was younger.

[@rosiecheeks.k]

The one about not starting new tv shows hit me DEEP!!!!!!😂😂

[@zoe0640]

The confusion around gender or sexually diverse was a demonstration of why questionnaires are difficult. Also the answer "it depends". (I'm an 8.5?)

[@bipolartorecovery1485]

As a person who doesn't identify with the social construct of feminine for my culture and beautiful people come in all forms, i get how this is a difficult question

[@seaturtle555]

8-8.5 here too because I don’t know if people take advantage of my trusting nature, like they might but it’d be behind my back if anything

[@penelopesparrow]

I actually laugh at myself now bc I've noticed almost every time I get asked an opinion-based question my answer is 'depends' 😅 (this time it was the guilt one)

[@EnderSword]

Not sure what the confusion was, if she's gay then yeah, that's pretty obviously a Yes

[@TooBrokeToAffordCoffee]

That one confused me a bit. I’m bisexual, so would I put a finger down for that one? 🤔

[@reneecardineau]

The written communication one is always so funny to me. I over think everything and rewrite texts over and over again while feeling extreme anxiety so it's much easier for me to have verbal communication. If i say something embarrassing, I'll over think it and feel bad later lol but at least I'm not frozen and unable to say anything.

[@cm8104]

seriously same. interpreting what the other person is saying and how they're reacting to what i'm saying is tremendously more difficult when i can't see or hear them. i'm getting better at letting go and just writing but i still feel like i'm always trying very hard.

[@Traci_Websinger]

I found this out when I realized that I learned better when I took notes in class. I rarely went back over them, but writing things down helped cement them in my brain. Now, it shows up by a preference to read captions while I listen to someone's videos. Huh, I wonder if this is why I really am not fond of audiobooks. I need to read the words. (Although I was terrible about reading textbooks, lol.)

[@jaquicx9500]

Lol I relate, but I prefer non verbal because Id rather just take forever retyping things bc the fear of saying something wrong is that high 😂 but ironically enough, speaking is much more convenient, and as long as its in person, I'm much better at it than writing.

[@justAmood8]

It depends for me. I prefer written over spoken because I can put my thoughts into clearer language that way, but 0hone calls are a nightmare for me

[@eliotb.1219]

I’m the exact opposite lol. I can kind of freeze up and have lots of pauses between words when I’m verbally communicating, especially if it’s someone I don’t have a close connection with and it’s not just small talk. I’ll be talking to my new addiction clinic counselor (counselors are mandatory even tho I have no fears of relapse), and the conversation ends up taking so much longer because of all the pauses and “uhh, umm”s and trying to remember specific words because I didn’t start learning English til kindergarten (5 y/o) because my parents are Romanian immigrants who didn’t wanna teach me broken English. Well, I’m great at English, when it comes to reading and writing, but when it comes to actual speech my brain gets so jumbled up

[@JesusLightsYourPath]

This can also describe abuse victims or people with social anxiety

[@yellowishgreendragon.-.]

Sometimes these can be side effects of having trauma.

[@sol-leks6122]

So I might not be neurodivergent just PTSD and bpd? So confusing

[@Toon_Topaz]

@@sol-leks6122PTSD and BPD are still neurodivergency, it's not just ADHD and autism. ND just means that the brain is different from what's "typical" of most people. Dyslexia is neurodivergency as much as NPD is

[@sarahb.6475]

I have autism and PTSD.

[@KxNOxUTA]

Trauma is a so called "acquired" neurodivergence. Plus being neurodivergent makes us incredibly prone to trauma, compared to neurotypical ppl.

[@JoanneOP]

Wait-what? I got 8 out of ten.

[@gh0stpuppi333]

Questionnaires (ESP mental health questionnaires at the doctor) are so hard because I’m always like “well, do I ACTUALLY feel this way or is my brain LYING to me??? If I answer with 1000% honesty are they gonna put me back in the psych ward????? Am I feeling this way FOR ATTENTION??? No I do genuinely feel like I wanna die all the time… BUT WHAT WILL THEY THINK OF ME??????”

[@weirdnessfades]

DUDE SAME I hate the "lack of focus" and "speaking so fast or slower that others may notice" because ITS NOT SPECIFIC I'm just sitting there staring at it like "I know this is for depression but I was never able to focus in class even before my depression, would I say "all the time" or "never"??? And the speaking too fast part too, idk what could be causing that?? It's normal for me" And I always feel like I'm faking it when really I don't remember how often I feel a certain way or do a certain thing, I don't keep track and when I do, I never look back at it

[@goldfigger5674]

YALL ARE BOTH SO RIGHT

[@rolfs2165]

Also, "do you struggle with X" - well … no, but only because I explicitly do stuff to avoid or preempt it.

[@Nico_DiAngelo]

I love questionnaires!!!! As long as there’s a “neutral” option, I’m good!!!!

[@puffthecatpuff8931]

"Do you plan conversations in your head?" ....give me a minute...assume it could get heated, and practice my chest puffing.

[@mariaevans8437]

Yep 🤣🤣

[@autumnzephyr]

I used to, but I don't really do it anymore. I will have a mock dialogue with myself in the car, about a topic which I will most likely either A) not discuss with anyone, or B) not be as dramatic IRL as I was when talking to myself. I don't know how to feel about that. 😑

[@hannahk1306]

I was an adult before I realised that not everyone plans conversations in their head...

[@lselley1980]

Don't forget to later relive the conversation a dozen times, improving on what you said when it's much too late.

[@puffthecatpuff8931]

@@lselley1980 and with time, you forgot what you were so upset about...

[@HazelLyman-t2r]

where did all my fingers go 😭

[@justAmood8]

Thanksgiving is coming up and turkey is too expensive these days. We had to put something on the table. On the bright side, your robot hands that you get 20 years from now will be awesome.

[@TheWordWizard]

😋

[@P2_M9]

i stole them >:3

[@newtonoakley]

The new music or television shows… I didn’t know that was part of it! (I put that down to the anxiety! 😂)

[@Rebel8MAC]

This stuff happens to everyone in varying degrees. This sounds like a horoscope in that its vague enough for ppl to say "oh that describes ME". That's why some ppl say that it is frustrating that you cant give context to the answers because it's so vague that it almost fits everyone in some way. 🤷‍♂️IMO

[@dousiastailfeather9454]

@@Rebel8MAC I disagree. I was left with three fingers up! One was iffy, because I over answer questionnaires! Point of test is generic and is about how strongly you relate. If many are resonating then it's an excellent indicator and conversation generators. My opinion... I'm AuDHD...

[@tiffanyhanson3701]

@@dousiastailfeather9454 their point was that while you may have adhd or whatever and relate to most of these, many neurotypical people will also relate to most of these too, so how are any of them indicators for neurodivergent people? They’re not. They’re too general and vague.

[@Mondonghost]

So true

[@sootycat2740]

Yes to all of the above. Your face was a mirror of my thoughts.

[@katandlilyblackwater]

Same

[@EmOrganically]

Mine too, hehe

[@abj6920]

I love how for three of these I was like "eh, idk, maybe?" and for the rest my body just jostled up in a panicked "YES YES YES YES"

[@barbhulme]

These ten questions have just described the entire culture of Canada. This explains so much.

[@neuroticnation144]

😂

[@ChaoticAngelKitten]

We’re all quite neurodivergent up here… Lol

[@Sixica]

Wait...... so I may be less neurodivergent because I'm half-Canadian? Or my neurodivergence could possibly be the result of being half-Canadian. So confused, I'm sorry.🥴😋

[@ChaoticAngelKitten]

@@Sixica you’re more likely neurodivergent if you are canadian… :3 we all be weird AF but it’s fine because we super polite and say sorry for absolutely no reason half the time. XD

[@LimeyLemonPerson]

No wonder why all my fingers are gone!

[@liolatte]

I struggle when questionnaires are too simplified with their options and questions. When the answer is yes/no to a complicated question such as “I like to party” Like what do you mean by party? A large get together? Clubbing? Chilling with friends on a Saturday? Give me more than yes or no!!!

[@alemirdikson]

Yes to all but the "introverted and extroverted" one. I'm almost completely introverted. It takes everything I have to even pretend to be extroverted for a short period of time. Communicating with strangers is a skill I've had to actively practice my entire life, and I'm still rubbish at it. Still kind of rubbish at communicating with what few friends and family I've left. Wish I could tick that particular box, but nope.

[@eliotb.1219]

I’m the exact same, but I still put my finger down because I tend to only be that introverted and socially exhausted from talking to strangers/acquaintances. When it comes to family and good friends tho, sometimes I genuinely can’t stop talking

[@heatherrae901]

Same. There is zero part of me that’s extroverted. I made ONE friend, literally one, who I felt completely free to be myself around, but still not extroverted. I’m introverted around everyone, family and friends included.

[@gillb9222]

9 out of 10. I love new shows and music but theI watch them on a loop for a week

[@mariaevans8437]

Like when you find a song that makes you feel good it gets played on repeat until it annoys me 🤣🤣

[@PiperMcLean8]

9/10 I don't know how to put thoughts into words

[@heatherrae901]

Same!! I’m obsessed with horror so if theres a new horror movie out, I’m down.

[@Itz._.rei.]

9 fingers down (diagnosed Tourette’s, on the pathway for autism)

[@Itz._.rei.]

@@GabrielKZbin8933 I hope you can get your diagnosis and the help you need soon!

[@Itz._.rei.]

@@GabrielKZbin8933 I hope you can get your diagnosis and the help you need soon!

[@wintersoldier9273]

i got like 3 and i am autistic and have adhd

[@Itz._.rei.]

@oliviarodrigos_wife how am I acting like it’s cool?- I was just saying that I do and am in no way glorifying or making it seem cool

[@beelieboo]

8 fingers and have never been diagnosed with anything in my life

[@thatoneidiot5108]

Hi about the apologizing all the time for everything! I’m neurodivergent and I’ve had this problem big time. I just wanted to say here that you do deserve to live, and be happy and safe!! And if you have the time and resources, please try therapy. It helped me a lot to get over this with time, and it is definitely worth it. Have a nice day because you deserve it!!!!

[@TheMidnightstar2]

8/10!! I love new music. Gotta switch it up regularly. And i can do questionnaires but only because my job has us do them like twice a year. Supposedly its to make the company better but 7 years in and im still waiting for that to happen.

[@einchaotenwuschel]

Ten fingers for the last one, dude.

[@Cottage11Core]

I put 8 fingers down❤ Love you, Zara❤❤❤❤❤🎉😊

[@Finley_jac_real]

Same for both

[@Ravbae]

Same

[@carsonwieker]

I agree totally. Matt's art and interviews are amazing. Thanks for sharing.

[@highdesertbiker]

put a finger down if you’ve ever been upset, put a finger down if you like food

[@misty8265]

10/10 🎉 I aim for excellence lol. But really, I’ve been working on healing a number of these ways/habits and have made substantial progress that has greatly improved my quality of life. I’m still very neurodivergent and will never not be, but healing and growth is possible and I know because I’ve done a lot of it. Much love to all of the neurodivergent people of the world and especially the ones reading this comment. 💗

[@mcvenne8935]

Just three down. Guess I can burn my diagnosis documents. XD

[@withyoctopus]

Exactly this.

[@CheapsKate77]

Where does one even get a diagnosis?

[@brendalg4]

Imo most of these questions don't have anything to do with neurodivergence

[@MissxLariz]

​@@CheapsKate77Ive got mine from a psychologist when i initial came there to get cured from my depression and suicidal thoughts... tho i no longer remember how this shit turned into a diagnosis for autism and ADD 😂

[@lethalprincess2087]

As an Autistic, all of them except for the sexuality one, questionnaires, & written communication. 1. Always been straight. 2. I know who I am 😆 3. I like both textual and spoken communication, but I prefer verbal, yes, when I’m actually verbal 😂

[@Sugarrush26]

They are also traits of people who grew up traumatized 😅

[@KrypticDonut]

Questionnaires are always so poorly designed absolutely horrible for some answers

[@bookgirl7393]

I haven’t been diagnosed with anything but I put over half my fingers and I find it really hard to make friends and let people in and have lasting relationships. I don’t no what to say or read social situations but this channel makes me feel seen

[@thebluewolf2472]

That could possibly be mild autism (asperges) or ADHD, maybe both. If you can, you should see a professional.

[@rosewater_]

Same

[@NatalieTheSnail]

I also relate to this channel a lot, but I’m not neurodivergent. Labels and diagnoses can be helpful, but it’s also okay to just exist as you are and find connections where you can❤️

[@istoppedcaring6209]

try to meet with autistic people at college, In ghent we are looking to start a student organisation but it's hard to get the ball rolling

[@xragdoll5662]

@@thebluewolf2472Asperger’s isn’t a diagnosis and don’t diagnosis somebody you don’t know

[@2Bad4YOUuu]

This girl is so sweet, I can just tell! ❤😂🥰

[@calicocookietv7994]

I put 8 fingers down 😂

[@coolsaige]

same 💀

[@no1gracieabramsfan13]

same lmao, I'm straight and I'm fine with questionnaires

[@alexandraelizabeth8522]

I'm neurotypical, but I put down as many fingers as you did because I was a victim of a lot of abuse and it impacted my life. But questionnaires don't bother me and I prefer spoken to written communication.

[@callmeenvi3135]

i put 9 fingers down, figures lol

[@dreanki]

All these are signs of childhood trauma. Especially people pleasing, it's the faun response. In the fight, flight, freeze, faun system of dealing with parents that weren't emotionally there, didn't validate, hurt, or neglected their children.

[@mariaevans8437]

Yes but if you have an undiagnosed spectrum condition because you have emotionally neglectful parents then it becomes exacerbated as you grow older

[@Lili_Montana]

I just got so called out I had all ten fingers down

[@julisalamora]

I actually love filling up questionnaires AS LONG as Im allowed to answer with more than a SINGLE word. Now ...... That level of summing up kills me. I need phrases, full, extended explanations......

[@interestingboyo790]

NO QUESTIONARRES ARE SO FRUSTRATING BECAUSE THE QUESTIONS ARE ALWAYS SO VAGUE AND BROAD AND I HAVE TO THINK ABOUT MY ANSWER FOR LIKE 5 MINUTES FOR EACH QUESTION.

[@valerief1231]

8/10 I am comfortable in my gender and I used to prefer written communication, and books, but now I like watching tutorials instead. BTW I’m 56 years old and feel like I’m always waiting for something, like I’m stuck and I need a better adult to come give me some direction, and I’ve forgotten what I’m really supposed to be doing.

[@lestariabadi]

Same here. I’m 55.

[@sexygoldfish_444]

i have never heard someone actually bring up the struggle of listening or watching new things, it’s stressful and for some reason it’s just hard. same with committing to books.

[@chloebenn5708]

I'm good with factual books/TV what I struggle with is new fiction....

[@sexygoldfish_444]

@@chloebenn5708 it’s just really nerve racking in general, even if i really want to watch something

[@Cr4zyLady]

Yes! Have struggled trying to explain to friends why I don't have the mental energy yet to watch the show they have suggested, even though I know I will like it...

[@blackquartzsphinx6853]

I have so many shows I still want to watch but then when it's time to start something new I just watch KZbin videos from people I already know lol. And I *never* intentionally listen to new music. I have my 16gb SD card in my 10 year old mp3 player that I just listen to on repeat lol. The only way I ever find new music at all is when it's in the background in a TV show (when I actually start watching it lol) or when I'm at someone else's place and they put on music.

[@sexygoldfish_444]

@@blackquartzsphinx6853 thats so relatable, i have a list on my phone of all the things i want to watch and it seems to grow more than it does shrink. i have to be heavily acquainted with something before i start it. also the music thing is so so relatable, i have a long playlist of things but i typically only listen to the same 4 things over and over again. or ill listen to the same artist on loop due to familiarity. wooo go autism lol.

[@ellaanderson9702]

We need another Zara video it’s been too long ❤️❤️❤️

[@Zara_Beth]

tonight!!!

[@theunintelligentlydesigned4931]

Everybody plans their conversations. What makes neurodivergent different is how flexible you can be to change your planned conversation.

[@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF]

i got news for ya buddy... no actually, not everyone plans out their conversations. in fact, the majority of neurotypical people do not, that's why it's considered a sign of neurodivergence, because it _is._ i'm not talking about planning out what you might say for a specific important convo, like a job interview, or going to apologize to someone, etc. or even planning what to say to a crush you're nervous about talking to. obviously most people regardless of neurotype will do that at least a few times in their life. but it means like, rehearsing or planning out even everyday _casual_ conversations with friends/acquaintances, for what to say to the cashier at the geocery checkout, or how to order your food at a restaurant. if you do those things, it's highly likely you're some form of neurodivergent.

[@theunintelligentlydesigned4931]

@@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF Thanks for the clarification but you are only clarifying, not disagreeing. You even admit yourself that neurotypical people plan out what we might say for "a specific important convo, like a job interview, or going to apologize to someone, etc. or even planning what to say to a crush you're nervous about talking to." Therefore you admit that "everybody plans their conversations" and you are only clarifiying that neruotypical people don't plan EVERY conversation but neurodivergent people do. I did not know that. Thank you for the clarification.

[@__Xendra__]

I actually do not know how to apologize, i think its bc of that "don't apologize, do better" thing, ive always hated that

[@Hawthorn6852]

Really got me putting more fingers down than any other video with this trend

[@TJ-fg3vs]

These questions are so general they could apply to anyone

[@BubbleB0T]

As someone with AuDHD it’s nice to see someone with this do them xx there’s so many people who say they are diagnosed when they’re not and it’s very frustrating sometimes ❤

[@Stenko222]

Frustrating that ppl self diagnose?

[@eliotb.1219]

@@Stenko222 well if they haven’t done extensive research on it or had other people (not necessarily professionals) agree they may be ND, then yeah it’s a bit frustrating. I was self diagnosed with adhd, autism, and BPD for a few years, BUT I had done tons of research and looking into other peoples lives who were ND, plus talking about it with other ND people, before coming to any concrete conclusions. Then at 18 I started getting diagnosed. I was 100% right, I have autism, ADHD, and BPD, just as I had suspected for those few years, but I could only be certain because I learned as much as I could about those things People who watch videos like this and put more than 5 fingers down saying “omg!!! I think I have autism/adhd/something else” is what’s frustrating

[@guardianeatos]

Agreed. I'm very likely ONLY ADD because I related to many Internet content about it. However, it's only an observation not a reliable diagnosis. I'll get a ADHD test some day to see if I am or not.

[@istoppedcaring6209]

true or "oh but everybody has it a little bit" bish I haven't gone trough all the bs and ignorance in high school and even grade school to be told everyone kinda has it in college.

[@jessicaolson490]

Well sometimes people think only asd or ADHD are neurodivergent too. Ps- adult diagnosis is prohibitively expensive. There's cheap test at the doctors do but they're no better than the internet self-test really. True testing takes more than 10 hours of a train psychologist time, and cost thousands of dollars. I know this when I had to try to renew my paperwork for college accommodations. It wasn't worth it so I never did. :/ (global language processing disorder, never tested for ASD or ADHD because I was a girl). Now that I'm in a career that studies the DSM-5... I will tell you it's an umbrella for most of those conditions. So if you have four out of five of the categories of autism you're not autistic but you're pretty close... So you will see people that are somewhere in between autistic and not autistic. And stop being hurt by the fact that almost every single mental health condition is just an extreme variant of stuff that happens to neurotypical people. For example one of the things that happens to me is I have trouble retrieving words, even very common words. What if I were to say to somebody says oh yeah me too, to stop trying to copy my condition. Hello, everybody has trouble retrieving words at some point mine's just at the level of being extreme. This tends to hold true with almost every type of mental health condition including those that fall under neurodivergent. Therefore a lot of people that are not neurodivergent will experience a lesser form, it helps them have empathy for those that have it in extreme form. It's not a bad thing, it helps bridge the gap of understanding others when approached appropriately.

[@thelaskafamily7892]

Same as you and I'm not diagnosed with handicap and don't think I have one :) but love your vids, it really helps

[@lilliansimonesebastian264]

That first one was SO relatable. When I go to sleep, I start thinking about what I'm going to say to my friend tomorrow. Also, why was having a diverse sexual or gender a question?

[@Shawnne86]

I have 2-3 fingers left… out of 10. I’m neurodivergent… not sure if it’s a thing, but I’d say I’m EXTREMELY neurodivergent… verging on broken/incapable of being an adult. Sadly, my daughter (also neurodivergent) understands me and my personal struggles less and less as she gets older. It hurts, because I thought if anyone in this world understood and accepted me as I am, it would have been her. I often feel like a nuisance, even though I ALWAYS mean well.😔

[@trishasurangana2278]

I don't mean to be rude, but genuine question, if you are incapable of adulthood why did you decide to go through the intense pain and stress of labour and motherhood? I hope you were not coerced into it against your active enthusiastic consent

[@kateshiningdeer3334]

​@@trishasurangana2278I don't have a kid, but maybe a useful insight. I struggled in my 20s, but NOTHING like the level of struggling I'm doing now at 46! I'm not sure why things have gotten harder - it honestly doesn't make any sense - nothing that big has changed. But it's WAY harder now. It may be the same way for the woman who wrote the previous comment. In my 20s, I thought I had things fairly together, and would be fine. But I was REALLY REALLY wrong. So it's possible it worked the same way for her.

[@KxNOxUTA]

@@kateshiningdeer3334 It's actually quite a typical thing to happen. Especially neurodivergent women tend to hit a "glass wall" starting 30-ish+. The expectations and challenges change and we usually have many adaptations that then start to backfire on the long run. E.g. because we don't develop certain skill sets and the thing is, that progressive adulthood tends to come with more and more subtle pressure and challenges and responsibilities, while the myriads of small traumas tend to increase and weight down on us more and more.

[@craigfoulkes]

​@@KxNOxUTAI feel that as I get older the energy and confidence to just do it anyway had gone. I remember a person I was but can't get back to that person. My life has given me many knocks. I used to think I was lucky and so things would turn out ok. I was able to bolster myself. I might have been kidding myself. Anyway now life seems much harder.

[@HermioneG299]

Soo true! 🫶 xx

[@EliTomacFan54]

Your absolutely GORGEOUS i just had to say that

[@shadowdemonaer]

I'm neurodivergent, and genuinely at least half if these are trauma responses rather that inherently neurodivergent traits. I know the pinned is reminding of this somewhat, but I still needed to reiterate.

[@kirstinmckeown3581]

9.5. I prefer written communication for instructions, but verbal for interpersonal interaction as I have more ways of monitoring mood and knowing if I've misspoken!

[@the98themperoroftheholybri33]

Everyone has been taken advantage of their trust. Thats called the human experience

[@FullMetal_Arsonist]

All but one. I’m always listening to new music.

[@Moonchild21212]

Her hair is so nice

[@bland9876]

"if you apologize for nearly everything" There's a certain type of girl that acts a certain way and I feel like even though I'm super shy and whatnot that I could still take advantage of them so I try to be super nice to them when I come across them and I freaked him out before my apologizing way too much. The only reason I'm not sure if I should be putting a finger down is because I mostly only do it with that type of girl and in general I don't apologize too much that I can tell.

[@wolfiiu]

i remember in elementary school i had to take a questionnaire on being a good friend. they had so many questions like “would you lend your friend money” or “would you rather hang out with your friend or spend time alone”. like???? idk????? how much money? what do they need it for? what would we be doing when we’re hanging out? i wrote “it depends” under half the questions and then when it got graded i got told i’m a bad friend 🤠

[@arthurpprado]

Only three. Interestingly, I used to struggle with spoken communication more until I had to start working retail. The big irony is that I trained myself to organize my thoughts more patiently in order to actually express myself orally, so I kinda have to plan what I want to say, but in the moment instead of beforehand

[@jcrow236]

I was all fingers down , struggled all my life and now at 50 I learn why I’m so different. Explains a bit why I never fit in anywhere

[@schmutzke6844]

Almost every time I feel like an apology or saying thank you would fit the situation really well I stand there thinking „now! Now you should/could say sorry/thank you to this person because of the situation…uhm…? You just gotta say ‚sorry‘ and everything is fine…hello?…Great, now the situation is over and it would be weird to throw this in now that it’s already a minute later. Why couldn’t I say it?“

[@ftr5806]

Put a finger down if someone broke your trust… literally everyone

[@carmi7408]

I find ASL (I'm hearing) easier than speaking to others because of difficulty being confident while socializing, which I feel is similar to preferring writing, maybe. I want to reach fluency so i can use sign as more of a tool since it really helps me not be so anxious to communicate, but for now I'm a beginner limited to basic conversation mostly in English word order (working on more ASL grammar structure more, hopefully 🤞🏻)

[@stellamariss3335]

That last one made my smile drop so fast. Yes I have in fact let myself be used. I let my “friends” walk all over me and I’ve learned my lesson in being completely oblivious to passive aggressive behavior. I just let this girl treat me horribly cause I thought she was being reasonable whatever, and then other people were like, um that’s liek really mena of her to do that I would like call her out. And I’m like 😅 so it’s not my fault she constantly hurts my feelings and makes me afraid to upset her. For context she was my roommate. Don’t worry I eventually got outta there. But it literally traumatized my naive ass. I didn’t realize I was so easily bossed around and vulnerable to being basically controlled and bullied. And I actually tried to change and fix myself cause of it. By that I mean stop being me and shutting up and doing everything I’m told plus changing HOW I ATE AND LIVED LIFE. She told me what foods I shouldn’t eat too much, and what I should and shouldn’t leave in my desk. She made me organize my desk differently cause she didn’t like how cluttered it looked. I have ducking adhd man this was absolute hell for me and as most who are also adhd relate to have RSD. So I was constantly getting my feelings hurt for no goddamn reason.

[@DansLikeaRockstar]

Almost everyone will say they have been taken advantage of. Thats just what happens to an alive being inside a community

[@drchip3711]

The apologizing can also be truama so be considerate folks

[@bendeywendy8065]

All but 2 of them, as I've identified those things and worked to stop that behaviour (feeling guilty for no reason and apologising when it's not warranted). But i didn't realise that reluctance to start new shows or listen to new music was an ND thing

[@starryspacewolf4197]

ALL FINGERS BABYYYYYY ADHD IS SUGAR (not swearing)

[@ismailabdelirada9073]

Some fingers are down; others are still up. Now my hands hurt.

[@cardinalcar]

I can listen to new music, I’m all about new music, but I typically don’t watch a show until it has an established fan following and is on its last season, OR if I watch a really good commentary about the show and it intrigues me

[@Rabbit-the-One]

This is just a normal human experience. These are so broadly worded that they apply to everyone.

[@0.-Ratz]

Im left with one pinkie out like a Brit drinking tea. Lmao☕

[@lynn69jackson]

9 out of 10 of those things. Only been diagnosed with autism at 54.

[@matanieandrei6749]

Have you tried to check if you use things that are toxic to you? Like non stick pans and pots, or the cutlery if it doesn't have heavy metals, some people have healed through lifestyle choices. It doesn't take too much to do some research!

[@melissagarner9055]

Many of these unfortunately are based more so in anxiety and depressive disorders and past childhood experiences, which makes those diagnoses more difficult

[@Chris-kq9lb]

1970's-2010 Do not label me. 2015-present I must have a label to define me. So sad. The USA is doomed All these young people claim PTSD and "I don't feel safe and included" The USA is doomed.

[@dnk4559]

Many of these can also be true if you had a traumatic childhood.

[@clamh84]

My husband doesn’t understand the music thing. He’s a musician 😂 I only listen to songs that I’ve heard before, primary ones from my teen years or older. The thought of having to sit through a whole album of new music gives me anxious feelings.

[@deedistarlight7177]

I love how when it got to the questionnaire part I mentally started going “well idk see it depends….”

[@lizart4679]

Cavetown is an amazing artist😁 Literally have all his songs memorized tbh

[@lselley1980]

ALL OF THEM! But mine are from CPTSD, which often mimics ADHD, etc.

[@hollyjolly2004]

Omg I can’t ur room is so cute

[@juliab7934]

7/10. I’m pretty much only introverted and I don’t like written communication better because it’s harder to understand tone and implications. I also don’t overcommit to people because I know I’d let them down and I don’t want to lol.

[@girlfromnowheree]

Fingers all down..but Feel guilty for no reason 😢 I’ve been working hard to not to feel that way goshhh

[@bigbob8572]

A fantastic example of barnum statements

[@forgottenartform]

Well that was a bit of fun to play along with 😂 ended up with no fingers left and still socially exhausted from a morning appointment 8 hours later

[@robinpike3780]

The questionnaires one surprised me, didn't know that was a neuro spicy thing😂

[@sunshine-dz6xj]

when I was 15 my “friend” constantly tricked me and gaslit me for fun. I was extremely stressed and asked her multiple times to stop but she said that I was too naive for my own good and she was actually doing me a favor because her actions are supposed to teach me not to believe people so easily and therefore I should be thankful instead of complaining. guess what? I didn’t become less gullible and I had extreme trust issues to the point of paranoia for a couple years. who would’ve known? /s

[@Chunky_cat]

I'm not (diagnosed as) neurodivergent but now I'm rethinking everything 😭

[@ItzSaigeYT]

4. I plan convos Overcommit and people please Struggle to start new tv shows or music Someone has taken advantage of my trusting or helpful nature

[@sharmalarm]

My answer is usually always questioning the questions and knowing that there’s usually always multiple answers applicable depending a number of factors, rather than one that fits neatly in the box they want me to tick. That’s how I know I’m neurodivergent 😆🥳😎

[@drewisaudrey]

I put 15 fingers down on that last one...

[@ax.o754]

Yep all of my fingers are down

[@megawonszrzeczny9]

I'd like to say it's pretty much impossible to be both introverted and extroverted, because they're opposites. It's not about if you like talking to people, it's about how you gain energy/recharge. For example I am an introvert. I like socializing, but at the end of a long tiring day/week I don't want to hang out with friends. I'd rather read or watch a movie by myself, because I need alone time. (some introverts don't mind close family when recharging) Extroverts on the other hand would prefer to go to a social gathering after a tiring week. They may think that being by yourself is boring. If you're in between these two, you're an ambivert. You can't be an introvert and an extrovert at the same time Introverts can like social gatherings They just find them tiring Extroverts may like alone time sometimes They just need to socialize in order to properly recharge Also a neurodivergent person may think they're an introvert because they feel like they have to mask when they're with others. They may actually be extroverted, but masking is tiring af so it's totally understandable if you aren't 100% sure where you fall on this spectrum. It's not just black and white, there's a lot of grey

[@markorollo.]

4, plan conversations, introvert/extrovert, prefer written to verbal communication, and someone taking advantage, but not anymore!!.