If it happened once or twice, you blame the cheater. After that, you are to blame. Not that you’re a bad person, but your choices of men are the same.
@sircha53042 жыл бұрын
Yep!! You got eyes for good looking guys who cheat.
@sandly58312 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are absolutely right. However, a lot of Hmong women can’t live life without a man. They rather be miserable and unhappy with someone than alone. It’s not easy for women to walk out of a relationship because they’ve invested so much time and money. They’ve sacrificed everything for their man and most women are controlled by their spouses. They can’t divorce them because they’re afraid of being shunned by their relatives. However, toxic relationships aren’t healthy and two people shouldn’t be together if the love & trust are gone. I’ve been single for 8 years and I love my independence and freedom. I can do anything and go anywhere I want. I love my life! I love being a free bird, no longer caged. It is liberating to be a strong independent woman.
@judysaykao-lee73362 жыл бұрын
U are my role model the person in this story. U are the best. I am still man. But I support my hmong women to understand this theory
@kaoxiong61482 жыл бұрын
If you love somebody, you help that person out. My wife does all the cookings, but I wash all the dishes. I also do the laundry and iron all my clothes. As a father of 4, I potty trained all my kids. This is what a good husband and father do…
@sylavue59772 жыл бұрын
Than you are a good husband to your wife. You both should love each other that way and respect each.
@persimmonberry34752 жыл бұрын
You sound like a good husband. Happy for your wife and you.
@phongmoua32292 жыл бұрын
I don’t believe u do all the dishes only talk
@kaoxiong61482 жыл бұрын
You are welcome to ask my wife…I even fold her clothes after I washed them…
@cheeyang49392 жыл бұрын
Guys like this dont exist anymore. This generation is only all about party, drinking, drugs and cheating 🥱
@yervue57422 жыл бұрын
Cheaters will always be a cheater. Their words and promises don’t hold any truth. The min you allowed it, you’ve already passed the training of his course. Ladies, stop under valued yourself for their selfish doing. Stop giving up your rights and heart for ones who doesn’t deserve it. Stop allowing them to disrespect you! Stand your ground and your worth then this kind of manners will eventually get old and will change.. but because women still endured it, they continue to disrespect and step on women. We don’t need men, they need an women more than their life!! Remember your self worth!!!!
@traywaybby2 жыл бұрын
It’s true when u have the same perspective you’re going to attract the same kind of people unless you change within urself.
@maipha85602 жыл бұрын
Far too many Hmong women are too submissive to their husband. If you don't know your worth, no one including men will know your worth either. Know what you want in a partner and your non-negotiables, that's the only way to find a partner that's compatible. A true and kind hearted man or woman aren't always the most beautiful ones vice versa.
@lnchannel11862 жыл бұрын
Yog tshaj os tus viv ncaus!! Hlub yus tus kheej
@yuglosuahmoobtsisyuamkevya75302 жыл бұрын
Yog tshaj plaws li os tus me Viv Ncaus aw. Kuv yeej ib txwm hais tias Tim peb cov poj niam ntau tshaj vim peb tsis txawj sib hlub peb ne tos txiv neej saib tsis taus peb na. Tab txawm yog cov poj nrauj kiag nws twb yog ib tug poj niam thiab qhov nws lub neej tawg twb yog Tim tib qho nws tus txiv ua hluas xwb los cas nws lub neej puas tag nws tseem tab Meeg tham luag tej txiv thiab rhuav luag lub neej. Yuav kom cov txiv neej no txhob muaj muaj plhus mas thaum twg peb cov poj niam txawj sib hlub lawm mas Hnub ntawv peb tsoom me viv ncaus thiaj yuav nyob tau kaj siab lug os mog me viv ncaus
@JRxwb2 жыл бұрын
He is like that because you allowed his sweet talk to soften you back down. You need to set a boundary and let him know you are serious!! This is why some moms say to marry the one that loves you and not the one that you love lol 😂
@nkaujhmoobvwj2 жыл бұрын
Finally a strong woman after so many failed relationships. U nyob u ib leeg is a O K.
@hlubforlife2 жыл бұрын
She got hit by the "BAD LUCK/DIVORCEE STICK".
@luckyflower9162 жыл бұрын
That’s true. Same person, same liver, same eyes. Unless we change ourselves, our circumstances will not change.
@monkeybanana92692 жыл бұрын
Yep. They all asked her if she be willing to be their slave and she said "yes". 😂😂😂
@luckyflower9162 жыл бұрын
@@monkeybanana9269 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ lol
@jiaxiong89912 жыл бұрын
Girl if every man you date cheats on you then you don’t need them in your life. Just work on yourself, respect yourself enough to walk away from that and just be independent!
@cua18792 жыл бұрын
I wish more women would understand you don't need a man to survive. Tsis muaj txiv neej yus yeej tsis tuag na. Learn to love yourself and enjoy your own company.
@yingher5552 жыл бұрын
Isn’t that what she’s doing? 😂 she did say she will not be marrying another man after what she went through.
@cindravang45692 жыл бұрын
Lady, quit blaming your luck when it’s clearly your choice. Who you are as a person or personality, only attract these same type of men. When you stop blaming luck and start evaluating yourself to improve, you will start to attract different standard of men. Men will stop cheating when they are satisfy with what they have. Goodluck to you!
@MrsYaj-ei2io2 жыл бұрын
We women are victims but people who haven’t been out shoes always said we’re too stupid to stay in the marriage. It’s easier said than done. There’s a breaking point where we will leave. We often fall for the wrong guy bc we’re vulnerable and we always forgive them. One thing we need to learn is self respect. The moment your partner cheat on you it’s bc they didn’t respect you. Once that trust and respect is gone, it’s best to ua ib siab leave the relationship. Feem coob Peb cov txiv neej hmoob ces tib pab cheater. Cov niag txiv dev no ces lam hais tias sim siab…dag tshaj plaws.
@hlubyang40722 жыл бұрын
Hehehe is your husband is txiv dev too? I don't agree with you about all the hmoob man are cheater...hehehe...LOL..
@vwjanonomous2 жыл бұрын
don't be mad cause you got a bad apple from the tree. cheaters are in every ethnicity not just Hmong.
@bvang83702 жыл бұрын
Hnub txiv neej hmoob dhuav tham hluas nkauj ces yog hnub tuag... los xyov puas tseem dhuav thiab. Tabsis muaj hluas nkauj tham lawv lawv thiaj li tham tau thiab ces tim hluas nkauj hmoob ntau xwb... vim hluas nkauj hmoob nyiam cov txiv muaj pojniam heev... es hmoob thiaj li muaj niam yau coob2.
@kovang18402 жыл бұрын
Marriage is about compromise and a partnership, our parents relationship was dominated by the man but our generation needs to change so that our kids can also make the change..good for you lady, ur destiny is in ur hands
@maovue44062 жыл бұрын
Sister, I am sorry you have had a bad experience. Not all men are cheaters. Be independent - be empowered. There are men out there who are good. Women and men are the same...some women are cheaters but there are some good women too. You sound so jaded...don't be. Learn from your past lessons and move forward...but please this "using each other" concept -- be careful.
@pml26712 жыл бұрын
Power to the strong ladies that has been through so much 💩. Stay strong and love yourself first.
@geuher73152 жыл бұрын
Zoo kawg li mas yus Kawm yus es yus thiaj txiav tau txim os yog kwm tus qhia ces yeej tau li hos
@kabyeebvaj57052 жыл бұрын
She is a good poj nrauj. Nco ntsoov nawb thov peb poj niam tig rov los saib es hlub peb tus poj niam nawb. Yog hnub twg peb txawj hlub peb cov poj niam lawm ces cov txiv neej yuav tsis muaj hluas nkauj tham lawm thiab cov niam tsev tsis muaj kev chim siab lawm.
@flickeringfire70982 жыл бұрын
Yog lawm, nyob ib leeg 👍 tshaj plaws.
@bizaxeys3712 жыл бұрын
.... Ntiajj teb tsi muaj Kev hlub txeeb ... Yuav Tus ntsaw kj mog ... Tsi yuav tham ua si xwb mog ... Hlub, tu, saib kj Tus kheej mog ...tsi poob npe li nawb
@yonglor81822 жыл бұрын
Koj hais lawm dhuav txiv neej dhau lawm os
@chawmua58372 жыл бұрын
Koj hai yog tshaj plaw li os
@paweenahanwachira98832 жыл бұрын
koj haig yog kawg li os
@kaibvwj59992 жыл бұрын
Yog..Aws..Coj lis koj haices thaumtwg tag ces kawg Pognpla-Yawgnplas lawm xwb...
@chiliayang58322 жыл бұрын
Hais tau zoo thiab yog tshaj plaws li os yom
@chaituaher7242 жыл бұрын
Kuv yog 1 tug txiv neej Moob ntseeg Vaajtswv wb 2 nam txiv sib paab ua dlej num ua ke, cooking, dishwashing, laundry... kuv qha kuv tej tub, ntxhais hab vauv tas dlej num yuav tav sai yog 2 leeg sib paab.
@liaghawjhawj33412 жыл бұрын
Yg tshaj plaws li os niam ntsuab teev tu siab tshaj li Los hais g tau ib Los li Thaum twg Los yus yeej swb tas li xwb
@leahvon59052 жыл бұрын
Txij no mus mas tus txiv neej twg yuav peb cov poj niam mas peb yuav tsum tau hais kom cov txiv neej no yuav tsum txiav nyom, tu qab vag tsib ntaug, kho tsheb, kho vaj kho tsev, ua noj ua haus, Los txog tsev ntxov los yuav tsum tau ua hmo, yuav tsum ua npaum li poj niam ua mas thiaj li yog txiv tsev zoo
@menkaujhmoob93392 жыл бұрын
WELL SAID! Peb cov niam tsev yuav tau coj li tus me niam tsev no thiaj li tsis ua neej poob poob peev. Ib txhiaj niam tsev tos tus txiv saib nws tsis muaj nuj nqis es tus txiv mus noj sab nrauv ua hnub ua hmo los yog vim nws twb saib nws tus kheej tsis muaj nuj nqis ua ntej lawm. Peb ua neej nyob yeej xav kom lub neej zoo nyob mus nto ntsis xwb, tab sis yog txog hnub uas nws saib tsis taus yus, tsis hlub yus, thiab tsis xav yuav yus lawm, ces yus twb tsis muaj nuj nqis rau nws lawm nws thiaj hloov tau siab mus tus sab nrauv. Yuav tau tig los hlub yus tus kheej thiab siav thiaj li kav ntev, nco ntsoov tias yog koj tsis hlub koj tus kheej ces yeej tsis muaj leej twg yuav hlub koj.
@mavang83662 жыл бұрын
Koj zaj me neej neeg yog 100% rau peb poj niam hmoob os me viv ncaus aw.
@gaosayvu65542 жыл бұрын
Luag hlub yus li cas ces yus yus hlub luag li ntawv xwb mas mog
@mariemoua96702 жыл бұрын
Superbe madame restez seule c'est tranquille .
@yang64mee2 жыл бұрын
Yog lawm os❤️
@misstaytay96942 жыл бұрын
The problem is that women need to stop finding men at the clubs and bars. They’re there for a reason ladies.
@jorvang14202 жыл бұрын
Peb cov poj niam peb yeej tsis xav tiam cov txiv neej li lawm os nyias yuav ua nyias lawm xwb me nyuam los peb tus txhua yam los yog peb tag nrho aub dhuav peb tiag tiag peb noj tsis tau zoo noj li yus tsis tau yes mus khwv nws khwv tau los nws tsis lub rau yus noj thiab yus siv li tus siab lawv yuav tau txhob yug me nyuam coob2 nawb mog peb cov niam tsev thiab cov ua tseem yuav mus ua niam tsev na
@yiuyui8122 жыл бұрын
Yg lawm os niam lauss
@tsabpovlauj59342 жыл бұрын
Yog o niam laus koj hais yog tshuaj plawv
@traywaybby2 жыл бұрын
Don’t settle for less know ur worth
@maiyang78452 жыл бұрын
Know your worth and stay single . If you don’t love, you don’t hurt. The end!!
@cocopha57782 жыл бұрын
Yus nyob yus zoo dua
@pajhuablaujchannel37312 жыл бұрын
Me hlub aws...kj ua yog tshaj plaws li os❤️❤️❤️thov qhuas kj
@tinatang86492 жыл бұрын
There u go !! yav tas los mas koj kawm tawm xwb ov , tsam no mas koj Kawm tiav no nawb yeah… 👏👏👏
@chowe34942 жыл бұрын
3 txiv neej tsi muaj 1 tus yuav perfect. Tus tsi ua hluas ces tsaus ntuj mam paub los tsev mas thiaj yuav tseem zoo 90% xwb. Thaum nws uv tsi taus koj lawm nws havyam tsi ua phem.
@mainouvang12 жыл бұрын
yup, no need for men if you can do everything yourself..
@maitxhiablis99262 жыл бұрын
Lady.. 1st and 2nd shame on them.. 3rd one shame on you.. it’s a choice, people, and life you choose.
@akatsuki_minato1632 жыл бұрын
Yes sister !!!!!!
@maitongvue53972 жыл бұрын
Peb ua neej nyob ces yeej muaj siab ntsws ib yam nkaus xwb ib tug txhob ua mob ib tug xwb yog thaum koj tus txiv twb tsis hlub koj niaj hnub tham hluas nkauj ib zaug tas ib zaug tuaj lawm ces yus kav tsij ua pauj kom mob nws nws thiaj paub tias thaum nws ua mob yus npaum cas no xwb mas vim tus txiv neej no twb tsis sawm zoo thaum yus hlub nws nws tsis hlub yus ne ces kawg ua sib pauj xwb
@Karena3122 жыл бұрын
You allow the men to treat that way.
@kouavang59282 жыл бұрын
Tib cov ntshaw ntshaw txiv neej xwb.
@yeebntshachannel92542 жыл бұрын
Peb poj Niam CES yeej raug tib tug # ko xwb os mi phooj ywg, cas koj Twb ua taus thaum tus thib 1 cas koj tsis Nyob tej ywm, kuv Twb ua tsis Taus li koj es Kuv thiaj mob2 Laus tas li no os sister aw 😭💔
@neejnom83232 жыл бұрын
Yog txiv neej txhob tau tuaj txhos caug pes koj niam koj txiv thiab ib teg nyiaj tuaj them koj nqis taub haus ces tsis muaj tej teeb meem no mas
@juliehawj33852 жыл бұрын
Bittersweet but I agree that if you realize your destiny or fate with love, love yourself first and don't let these men walk all over you! Good to hear you're strong minded!!
@hlubyang40722 жыл бұрын
Yuam kev tsuas yog 1 zaug tab sis thaum koj nrauj 3 zaug thiab 3 tug txiv neej tsis nyiam koj tus attitude lawm ces koj yuav tsum tau study koj tus kheej lawm. Yog koj yog neeg zoo tiag ces neeg sib txeeb koj lawm os.
@kaciewanh19862 жыл бұрын
Tus txivneej xav muaj lub neej zoo tabcuab yeej tsis tas qhuab. Cov txivneej ko ces thov kom mob kascees lwj ti hauv paus, noob yaj tas thiaj tsis muaj2 phlus khav ua taw ntxiv.
@user-og7vy8mo4q2 жыл бұрын
ใช่แล้ว🤗👍👌👌
@bridgetlee34942 жыл бұрын
Yes!!!! Koj hais tau yog tshaj plaws li os tus sister aw! You’re absolutely right!!
@tongxiong11612 жыл бұрын
viv ncaus kuv tsa chij dawb thaum kuv 36 los lawm os tam sim no kuv 46 tsis kam tham hluas nraug lawm koj hais raug siab tshaj
@LymeeCha2 жыл бұрын
I'm the same as you! Only smart, no bs and independent women will feel this way and stay unmarried/single because it's their choice! Many people don't understand or are not able to comprehend this choice!
@judysaykao-lee73362 жыл бұрын
This is the best story 4 our hmong women to learn about our women dignity.
@sylavue59772 жыл бұрын
Yog lawm os tus niam laus. Cas koj hais yog 💯%.
@hnubxyoojchannel3462 жыл бұрын
Muaj tseeb kuv ib tug niam tij luag tej hai rau nw tia koj tu txiv tham tu hlua nkauj no os no ma nw hai tia nw tham nw ma nw yeej g yuav os lo yog nw lawv yeej g yuav nw li os. Cov txiv neej yeej muab cem piv zia hai tia ca koj e g siab loj li kuv tu niam tij niam ntxawm ntawv na. Qhov no kuv tu txiv kiag lo yeej hai rau kuv thb
@songyang51852 жыл бұрын
Cov yawg nrauj yeej tsis zoo es tus poj niam thiaj muab nus nrauj mus yeej tsis muaj ib tug yawg nrauj yuav zoo li os nyob twj ywm zoo dua os mog yog you yuav ces yuav tus yawg ntshuag xwb cov txiv neej zoo ces muaj tsawg heev li os me niam hluas
@songkorsampan91192 жыл бұрын
พูดถูกเลยค่ะชอบๆ
@yeevang92502 жыл бұрын
It's OK you meet the wrong guy Still good guy out there take your time
@duakevq77362 жыл бұрын
Tus poj niam zoo li ko ces nws thiaj ua poj Nrauj cis fij cis tom ntag lau Yog leej twg mloog tus neeg ko hais ces kawg yuav liam li nws ntag
@vamntujlaim9 ай бұрын
Dag xwb nawb. Cov txiv ua hluas yog cov ua loj leeb xwb. Tiam no, cov txiv loj leeb yog cov coob es yuav nrhiav tus txiv zoo mas nrhiav tiag tiag thisj li pom.
@kalvinhawj13592 жыл бұрын
There are many good men out there. Not getting married and just sleep around, you're playing a very dangerous game. Yog koj taug txoj kev no ces tsis ntev xwb koj yuav tau mes los ntoog, thaum ntawd koj haj yam yuav nyuaj siab tshaj.
@meeyang84112 жыл бұрын
Vim poj niam txoj kev mloog lus & uv, txiv neej tsis muaj chaw ntshai. Nco ntsoov poj niam yog neeg & muab siab ntsws thiab. Stand up for your right and stop tolerating men’s bad behaviors!
@sengyang10932 жыл бұрын
Niag txiv dev lim hiam dag xwb tsi muaj tseeb cov niag hlwb dag xwb tsi ntseeg li lawd ib tsoom viv ncaus aws yug los yog poj niam.
@khounmeeyang2482 жыл бұрын
Niam lau kv xv muab kv lub neej rau kj tham thb e yuav ua li ca thj muab tau tuaj o
@sauvue77162 жыл бұрын
Just let you be dumb but don’t let yourself be stupider than that! Life’s short, if he really love you he’ll never do that to you!
@qualee88072 жыл бұрын
Amen sister.👏 you. Find a good Man is like looking for a needle in a hay stack. Us women might have a better luck of finding that needle than a good men 🤣🤣
@user-bw9ro3jz4v2 жыл бұрын
I am happy for you. Not a lot of women can do what you do.
@caaspasvang74272 жыл бұрын
Sister koj yog ib tug neeg ua Tsi nrhiav tus txiv zoo los ua neej koj xaiv cov liam2
@chaituaher7242 жыл бұрын
Muaj 1 zag kuv tug yawm cuag has rua kuv tas ua caag txhua zag koj quas puj ua noj koj pheej paab nwg taag le xwb es puas yog koj yeej 1 txwm ua le ko lov, kuv le kuv tsi tau paab kub 2 tug nam tsev ua num le os. Kuv teb nwg tas kuv yeej 1 txwm ua le nuav hab vim yog nwg 1 leeg ua xwb ces dlej num yuav tav qeeb.
@simvang71012 жыл бұрын
Zoo kawg, xav paub koj os me leej muam. Txiv neej xav tau cov poj niam ua siab zoo 2 li koj.
@diannaxiong6932 жыл бұрын
Koj lub siab coj tau me2 li yog lam coj loj ces koj twb tsi uas poj nrauj ob peb tom los mas tus vivncaus aw...
@denamoua72622 жыл бұрын
Txhob yuav txiv lawm tib co liam y xwb tsis muaj txiv zoo lawm cov tshiab tseem liam tshaj tus qub.nyob usa no peb tsis need txiv neej vim muaj txiv tsis muaj los yus khwv yus noj
@jackieyunan48992 жыл бұрын
Slow down on whatever you have to do because my 👶 boy is getting big bae😃
@kanman45072 жыл бұрын
Txiv neej muaj tus siab zoo thiab ov covneeg phem yog 2 heem peb xwb os Koob npe noj tsis tau nawb
😅🎉🎉❤❤❤❤✨✨✨👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼🌹🌹🌹✨✨✨ ua tsaug ntau2 os. Nawb .🌹❤✨✨👍✨✨✨✨
@maiyangher53202 жыл бұрын
Kuv nrog koj zoo siab tu me niam tsev
@Leea2092 жыл бұрын
Cheating is NEVER acceptable! Please love yourself and move on.
@truevue75022 жыл бұрын
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@atingmobile82872 жыл бұрын
Yog lawm nawb👍👍👍
@magicalunicorn58532 жыл бұрын
There are good men out there. This man has his priorities backwards and this woman, enables them and attracts this kind of pathetic half of a man. A real man can control his body and desires, applies to women as well. It’s a person personal choice when they decide to betray the person they love. That was HIS CHOICE. Now you Have a choice to accept that or leave. Don’t settle for 2nd best ever. You only have one life.
@timlor17892 жыл бұрын
damn lots of these stories....
@kangchang2662 жыл бұрын
Txawm yog kuv xav li tus viv ncaus no xav es kuv yog ib tug nkauj nrab kuv thiaj li tsis quav ntsej tej niag txiv neej kiag yus nyob yus zoo dua os yus txoj hmoo tsis zoo thawj tug zoo li cas ces coj tom qab yog tib tug nab npawb xwb os yus nyob yus kaj siab dua os
@paxiong55222 жыл бұрын
Not true....not all men are the same. A few of us are lucky enough to have "real" men who loves only 1 women. My sisters, don't give up hope...there are still many real men out there!!
@maiyiathor31192 жыл бұрын
Viv ncaus qhov koj tus txiv hais rau koj tias txiv neej ces yeej tham hluas nkauj txhuas2 tus nws dag xwb peb cov txiv hmoob yeej muaj cov hlub2 yus ua ib yam nws yeej ua ib yam pab yus nws yeej tsi mus tham hluas nkauj cov txiv neej coj zoo li koj ob tus txiv kom ces yog siab tsiaj xwb nws thiaj zoo li tus tsiaj es kav 2 3 tus maum xwb xa ntxias koj rov mus ua nws qhiv xwb txiv neej poj niam los txhob cias luag txim2 yus tsi ua kom tshaj2 tab mas yog txiv neej tsim yus lawm yuav tau mus hos dab tsi faib tau tus txiv tus poj niam faib tsi tau siab zoo tsi tau tus twg ua tau ib nws tsi zoo txaus lam yog poj niam xwb tos txiv neej noj xwb tsi muaj lub peev Xwm thiaj cia tus txiv ua txiv zej txiv zos xwb mog
@dinayoung47972 жыл бұрын
Me niam tsev aw ib tug txiv phem ces tsis tas nco li os ntxov muab laig ces ntxov zoo xwb los mas
@sH-oo1fl2 жыл бұрын
Kuv xav kom koj ua tau li xwb thiaj tsis mob os
@nouxiong36202 жыл бұрын
Kuv lo kuj dhuav Kuv tus kawg li thiab thiag!!!!
@sircha53042 жыл бұрын
You picked him, you train him . If he's not trainable, leave. Question... Are you a fair, decent person?
@nouxiong36202 жыл бұрын
@@sircha5304 what is fair? What is decent?
@sircha53042 жыл бұрын
@@nouxiong3620 I mean... Would most people consider you to be a fair and reasonable person?... someone who doesn't expect too much.. Don't tell me yours is flirting with other women. He must be cute and handsome. Can't compete with that. Tell me... What is it about him that you are tired of?
@nouxiong36202 жыл бұрын
@@sircha5304 I hate hmoob men that thinks wife is slave thinks wife can and must do everything around the house. That’s my issue
@sircha53042 жыл бұрын
@@nouxiong3620 Yog kawg!! Txiv neej Hmoob mas tsis txawj pab txhawb poj niam kiag.. cov tsis ua noj Los muaj, tsis pab ntxuav 1 lub tais lub phaj Los muaj.
@MissesChoua2 жыл бұрын
Every relationship needs equality between both partners. You didn’t even see your own self worth-that’s why the men you were with didn’t see your worth and took advantage of your kindness.
@pavue56892 жыл бұрын
Finding the right person to be your spouse takes time. Sometimes we Hmong ladies don’t take the time to know them and think what kind of a man we want. That’s the mistake we make in the first place ladies. If we don’t, we will make mistakes after the next. We will blame ourselves for our fate. Some Hmong men will never learn to be a real man. They just want to play around thinking it’s ok to do it to us if we allow them to do it. Ladies please look for the red flags in these Hmong men because in the end if not you will regret it. Change your perspective in finding your spouse.that way you will be happy.