The Masculine's Perspective 🔥💙🔥 Twin Flame Advice for DFs (help DM w/ fear, initiating contact, etc)

[@sunflwer1111]

My twin kept apologizing over and over. I finally told her the TF journey is so hard. I told her everything you did was you mirroring my fears. And I mirrored yours. You did exactly what you were supposed to do to help me grow. I said it’s a clean slate. Even better we will draw happy faces on all the monsters because they brought us to this moment. It came to a point of love that was so unconditional that if another person could heal her better than I could, then I wanted her to be with that person. In letting go, I found myself.

[@TwinFinity1111]

It happens sooooo often the the mirrors work two ways. It's the time spent AWAY from the mirror that often allows the healing. I't's very common that a fresh trip to the mirror will reflect a fresh set of challenges to be sorted through. Letting go can be a repetitious cycle, but rewarding none the less.

[@susannebengtsson6756]

Thank you🙏💖❣ Love & Light💖💥💖💫

[@windstennotsukai]

This man here is so mature 😭 I can't wait for my DM to reach this maturity level 🥰 I want to get on this level of energy vibe too!

[@susanavera7711]

Love your clear honest answers, so helpful

[@twinflames_111]

Thank you very much!

[@catherinerita4560]

Thank you Rob 💓

[@christinacortez7548]

This is so enlightening to hear from the DM’s perspective. Thank you for sharing 🙏

[@zaraalexia7554]

Yes I would rather honesty than be lied to. Why is it so hard for people to be honest? My DM will not be honest with anyone.

[@Rainingcoldheart]

Can't believed I just listened to Rob for an hour. As I never thought of or even come up with these types of questions.

[@heartsnbones128]

Really appreciate your intelligent, thoughtful insights on the male perspective Rob!

[@susannediessner9]

Thank you so much for sharing Rob☆much love to you and Angie☆♡♡☆

[@cindyalma4599]

Thankful for your mission Rob! Great teacher! 👼🏻📝🦉🔥🔥❤️

[@angelacook2181]

I love this dm time with you Rob. So helpful and it's so cute the heart shadows over shoulder.

[@TwinFinity1111]

Those are the two glow hearts from our "creating union" props.... i was using the same spot...just moved them out of the way...forgot to move the shadows...

[@mightyV444]

Oh dear Rob, I couldn't agree more with what you're saying about being honest with each other. And I do know it's not always easy either. And while I do understand why my DM has been lying to me on numerous occasions and why she hasn't been able to be her true authentic self with me at all times and it's all just Ego's fear, and while I do feel compassionate towards her, it still does hurt a lot when I'm being totally open and honest with her and then being mowed down, so to speak; Like 4 weeks ago, when I'd run into her for the first time in 5 weeks and was openly showing her my excitement, there was absolutely no getting through that massive, thick Ego wall. And that encounter ended with her humiliating me in front of a stranger ("Excuse me, does it look to YOU like he's harrassing me?") and me then saying "Have a nice Life!" to her before leaving her to herself. Too bad she still hasn't been able to find it within herself to apologise to me. But I had put this connection into God's hands a long time ago already, so it's up to Him what's going to happen with it. I've meanwhile had someone from a past lifetime come back who's been distracting me from my DM through her beautiful, positive Energy. So I'm feeling rather indifferent towards my Twin right now. Anyway, enough blabbing - on with your video... :-))

[@monkey407]

Perhaps, she doesn't want to have anything to do with you. Have you ever wondered the whole concept of Twin Flame Journey is just a set of tenacious false beliefs? IMHO, just leave her alone before she calls the police on you or file for a restraining order against you. It's nothing to do with you, she's just mentally unstable and has some underlying mental issues. The so called DM is just a person with avoidant issues and sometimes BPD can be a contributing factor. IF say a twin flame journey is true, your twin would never ever do anything intentionally to hurt you like she did with that comment. She seems toxic to me, a sign of a false twin flame or a Karmic.

[@mightyV444]

@@monkey407 - Thank you for your reply! Yeah I'd gotten that threat of having the cops sent to me already before, with someone else I was in a TF-like connection with, and I have learnt my lessons from that. And you may well be right with your "false twin" suspicion; I had stopped 'chasing' her several months ago, and the only contact we've had was by running into each other while I'm out and about. Everybody says the DM would reach out by their own will once you just leave them to themselves, but she didn't even take the tiniest step towards me, and that tells me that something's off. On the positive, she's shown me what I DON'T want in a relationship, which is all that karmic crap I'd already experienced with my ex-wife. Much Love to you! :-)

[@monkey407]

@@mightyV444 Every journey is a lesson and you will come out stronger as a result of it. Keep on searching and eventually you'll find your real "Twin Flame" or soulmate who would appreciate you.

[@mightyV444]

@@monkey407 - Thank you for your kind words and good wishes, they are much appreciated! :-)) However I will not search until I find that special person, I trust that God will eventually send me 'The One' :-) My very best wishes to you also, and may things be all well for you and your Loved Ones during these unusual times! :-)

[@TwinFinity1111]

quick (i hope!) comment....We are not martyrs to a Twin flame journey unless we choose to be. A positive experiance is far likely to teach lessons of love than a negative one. If your twin learns much and becomes a positive person in your life in the future then there will likely be a bunch more learning to do at that time. I cannot recommend staying stuck (especially by choice) in negativity.....unless you think there is something to be learned from it..??

[@balloris3448]

Would love to hear how to rebuild trust after deception from the dm.

[@TwinFinity1111]

Ohhhh yes, that's a good one to elaborate on! We'll add it to the list of questions for Rob's videos :)

[@balloris3448]

TwinFinity awesome thanks!

[@ChelissaMoon]

-trigger warnings with spirit insight - I just burst into tears for a most unexpected reason, Rob! I have dealt with a debilitating spider phobia since I was a child, which was triggered when I saw the movie Arachnophobia around age 3-4. My fear was so great, that I had night terrors, jumped from (slow) moving cars, and didn’t go outside in nature. My whole life, was controlled by this extreme phobia. It was the worst spider phobia that anyone I’ve met has ever seen. I had a few therapy sessions over the last 6 years for this and it helped me to be about 30% better than I had been. On 7/17, while doing grid work, a DF friend shared that she felt black widows/spiders were my totem animal - I’m sure you can imagine how well that went! Fast forward to Lions Gate 2020 (Sunday, the 9th to be exact), I’m in the shower and totally blind without my glasses when a spider (not a black widow, but similar look) came down on one string within inches from my face. I had an epic breakdown, but it deeply helped me transform on my journey, being force to directly face my deepest fear - my darkest shadow work. Hysterical, I spoke to my shamanic DF friend and she tapped into a past life in Egypt in which I had been buried alive with spiders. My friend didn’t know, but one of the few memories I have from that horrible movie is a vision of someone being in a coffin with the spiders. That knowledge helped me to truly understand why I had such an intense response to even the mention of these creatures. Now my mask is off. I share this to: 1 - Convey the past life correlation you mentioned and, 2 - Recommend EMDR, a nearly magic therapy treatment used for traumas. EMDR changed my life and I know healing this trauma is intrinsically related to being authentic on my journey with my DM. He loves nature and hiking and I’ve always been to scared to enjoy something I would otherwise love. I moved to Seattle last year (where my DM also lives) and he promised to show me much of the natural beauty around me. I can’t wait to experience it joyfully! I’m not sure if your phobia is as extreme as mine (dear God, I hope not), but if it impacts your ability to enjoy things, I can’t recommend EMDR enough. I’m going to have another session tomorrow (understandably, I was retraumatized in the shower)! If you know anyone with any sort of deeply reactive trauma, pass this along. It may help change their life 💓 Deep Love, Melissa

[@TwinFinity1111]

My fear of spiders is similar in intensity to yours. Over the years i have found some ways of not going berserk upon seeing a spider....sometimes.... My anxiety now depends on my ability to remain distant from the critter. i measure spiders by total leg span. Any spider over a half an inch is large in my world. If a large spider surprises me, im freaked out. A spider is NEVER allowed to stay in my house or place of work. I prefer to catch and release outside but if push comes to shove, it becomes a battle to the death and i have not lost yet. Sometimes the battle is a tie, which means the spider escapes, and i accept that as fair. I do not see myself finding a way to completely lose my anxiety over spiders. I completely believe that my fear is based from a previous life where i lay dying on a battlefield and i could not stop spiders from crawling on me. Someday i will find the right place and time to re-visit that trauma but in the meantime, im actually fairly happy with my lifes progress towards greater peace. P.S. It is winter now and i have a low enough spider anxiety level now to comment back to you without glancing around the room looking for a stray spider..... Yup, still a long way to go i guess.....Thanks for your story!!! Rob

[@ProGamblerAP101]

This whole video is extremely helpful thank you both so much 💕☮️🌞💟♥️

[@belawhitesnowwaterfall4781]

It's really nice how you are balancing your masculine outfit and energy with a pink clipboard lol, sooo cool hehe lol

[@TwinFinity1111]

Sometimes a pink clipboard is the only one i can find.... I'm ok with pink...it's the only color I need to look for when Angie goes missing, she's usually hiding behind it...lol....

[@belawhitesnowwaterfall4781]

@@TwinFinity1111 lol too funny man, hope we meet someday...I was the one who was looking for bears in the forest lol ..and then you saw one....scarily close....albeit a little one but still, very nice find. Lol, yeey for twinfinity....be good Rob, pink suits you ...the little girl in you needs it 🥰

[@ProGamblerAP101]

18 minute mark offered a goldmine of clarity, thank you kindly!

[@ahimsayong6347]

Thankyou universe thankyou lord thankyou Archangels thankyou sir for everything you all are doing for us..Amen

[@bubblespoppy88]

Hey Rob, hope you are well, my question- just before separating the Devine masculine seems very determined that it’s done / over / ‘the ship has sailed’ - do they actually believe that and how long for before realising they miss their twin or that there’s something more - and thats with no contact? ❤

[@saskiamolin]

Thank you so much Rob, this is so well said, and making things clear! ❤️

[@wendyburgess1563]

Wow. I've just found your Channel. I am so wanting to hear the Masculine's perspective. Thankyou.

[@belawhitesnowwaterfall4781]

Yeeey Rob yesss you re relaxing into this sooo good, yeey

[@rachealbarnes7205]

Thanks man. I'm spreading your message. Maybe we can talk later? Idc if we do or not

[@geraldinengia4247]

Thanks so much for sharing your experience with us Rob

[@SharonMcauley-h1w]

Question: Are there any easy ways ? ... Rob: "NO" 😂😂

[@TwinFinity1111]

Trust the masculine to say it like it is lol 🤣

[@84Dstar]

Thank you

[@jedilady4485]

Very informative Rob! Thank you so much for sharing!🙏

[@ednagarcia8396]

Hi.. thank you for this video.. very very helpful in this difficult journey.. I think time stamps for each question would be helpful in case someone wants to go back to a particular question after some time to gain more clarity.. question no. 14 - 45:05

[@pkyize]

I think I reacted and messaged my dm, who is engaged and seemed not interested. I feel embarrassed and stupid for reaching out, any reassurance?

[@TwinFinity1111]

I guess it depends on the nature of the reaching out. If it was coated with sadness and resentment then your DM can at least know that you cared enough to vent. If it was a heartfelt good wishes for the future, then your understanding of the DM's choices would be hard for the DM to dis-respect. The above was intended to be kind, for if your DM is buried in their own issues then just about anything would be a trigger of some sort. Sometimes a runner will not only run away, they will hide behind other relationships just to not have to face their own issues. If that is the case, then time often still causes them to face what they are hiding from. After that healing has started, then what they have run from (you!) does not seem so difficult to deal with after all. Most actions still carry hope. Most importantly, your message was important for you, for you likely stated your truth. Even if your truth was only heard by you it's a good sign for your own growth that you at least know your own feelings. Let time give you your answer about the effect of your message.....Rob P.S. In spiritual theory, time is irrelevant but living in 3D kinda makes it relevant again.

[@CrystalTwinStar]

Thank you Rob! This was great!!

[@CrystalTwinStar]

Yaaayyyyy

[@sundarihema25]

How can the Df help the Dm when he is super stubborn about running away? I let go off my tf.. it is impossible for me to get through to him.. he shut me out.. and said super hurtful things.. he didnt wanna accept our connection at all.. 9 yrs now.

[@TwinFinity1111]

Great question Hema! We'll add it to our list for a future Q&A video :)

[@sundarihema25]

@@TwinFinity1111 ok thank you so much. :).

[@belawhitesnowwaterfall4781]

With regards to spiders Rob, ask yourself if it is a boy (masculine) that is afraid of them or a girl the feminine in you. Then once you know use the opposite polarity to balance the fear into neutrality. And feel the fear gone completely. So for me was fear of heights, being a male I tuned into my feminine part, my twin self and looked trough her eyes and saw the fear gone instantly...you see that's how we twins heal. Fear is always,always running too far into one polarity mostly masculine, so see it trough Angie's eyes and be Angie infront of the spider and see the fear gone, instantly, yeey ....you can do that with any triggers and dissolve them...because the opposite polarity of YOU has not experienced that fear...yeey

[@TwinFinity1111]

...except Angie has a similar fear of spiders as well...just not as bad.... I had a dream once about lying wounded in a battlefield and i was getting crawled on by spiders.... i truly think the dream was a snapshot of a previous life and that i died with my last thing i saw being a spider . I'm good with most other creepy crawly things. Getting bit by beetles hurts, though..... Most beetles hunt spiders....yay for beetles...Spiders can live as well, just not in my basement... Small spiders i can catch and release outside, big spiders get to haunt me after i (or Angie) deal with them..... i still feel bad for the unfortunate ones but i need to sleep at night, i hate "losing" a spider somewhere in the house....

[@belawhitesnowwaterfall4781]

@@TwinFinity1111 oh yes had that with my twin as last life fears were haunting me yes that is different but past life regression to specifically get rid of that fear helped I had two and fear was pretty severe like yours but sessions cleared them ..yes of both of you are afraid of the same thing it is past life regression clearing yes...lol funny with Hard rock sweater and pink clip pad....great balancing of masculine and feminine Rob, yeey

[@belawhitesnowwaterfall4781]

@@TwinFinity1111 ok this is what I got for you today in my meditation. Get a toy spider, the one you like from a toy store, a small one...with hearts in pink or blue....just a suggestion for Angie hehe ..lol..anyways the one you really like....or you can make it if you wish... paint it...it's a toy spider riiight? Then stick it, hang it on your zipper...of your favourite jacket or jackets you wear daily, wear it every day all the time, swap it between jackets....for a month or so wear it constantly untill you get totally accustomed to spiders in nature and on your zipper around your neck....as you use zipper it may be uncomfortable at first to zip it all the way up hehe....but you will eventually, because it's a toy spider and you looooove it plus it's cold...so nature will help you zip it up so to speak hehe ... after a while you will see the fear of spiders disappear as you get accustomed to your TOY spider mate and more so zipping it to your NECK...., it may be scary at first to even hear it but it is pure gold as an exercise to see your fears go! Lots of love from frozen land...bear hug Samo

[@marthaslater4293]

23:51 Are you a Virgo ?

[@TwinFinity1111]

No, I'm a Leo. Poor Angie....Myself, her boss and our dog all have the same birthday. She calls the 3 of us "her needy Leo's"..... Funny you ask, though. An unusually high number of my personal relationships and friendships are Aries or Virgo....... There's gotta be something to that.....Rob:)

[@pisces89]

How long were you two in seperation for? Mine has been a very long time, but ive always had that feeling about it💕

[@TwinFinity1111]

Our separation was long at 17 years, but we know others that are in union now after almost 30 years, so there's always hope! :)

[@pisces89]

@@TwinFinity1111 Omgosh really?! Wow! I guess you just have to keep the faith deep down! The energy is feeling like its picking up though this year for me🙂

[@onesoullove1111]

What if I am blocked and I want to be honest with him

[@TwinFinity1111]

I wish there was a way to overcome this. It becomes a lesson to others to take it easy and do not risk cornering your masculine. Masculines can run far and fast when they feel like they are in danger....... Send energetic love and light and give your energy to living a wonderful life while (if) you wait....Rob:)

[@onesoullove1111]

@@TwinFinity1111 thank you we are back in contact i actually showed him one of your videos

[@TwinFinity1111]

@@onesoullove1111 Well done! I hope you are still in contact, it's been a few months since your comment!!! Rob:)

[@onesoullove1111]

@@TwinFinity1111 Hi Rob , we were in contact but he decided to run again after I told him that I love him . I showed him during the time that we in contact one of your videos so he knows that I am his twin . I have been more focused on my self and my own growth . I trust God whatever is meant to be will be I am not afraid . I am just joyful to live my with no outcomes

[@Persephone0110]

Hi Rob! So glad to see this positive, high vibe message today! TF doing your lightwork during shifting times. You & Angie always help keep my vibes & spirits up, even more so lately. There's nothing like TF family❣Thank you, both! & Cookie❣ My dark nights of the soul were not being down on myself. It was a feeling if spirit breaking things down in me that needed to go & new templates to be put in place, & they were rough. It's similar to the breakdown you described after meeting Angie. My last DN after my TF showed up, I didn't know how I was functioning in my daily life. It felt like a mental break, but my guides told me what was going on. Also here's a bit about fear of spiders I just heard from Chris Hadfield kzbin.info/www/bejne/kKCZY4ZmqtGknqM

[@jedilady4485]

Rob I have a quick question if that's okay. Before you were in union with Angie, do you immediately Contact or message her when you hae bouts of missing her or do you hold back? I am asking because I am very intuitive and whenever I think of or miss a friend, they call or msg me within 24 hrs., but with my TF, there is nothing... even if I deeply feel missing him. I don't know why.

[@TwinFinity1111]

I'll try this from a mostly 1997-98 perspective.I generally had 2 factors working on me. Firstly, we had a habit of being in touch and then taking an unspecified "time out". We did this because it really did mess us up when we were in contact so it took time to re-balance after we were in touch....kinda like the first minute after you hit your funny bone on your elbow. Secondly, once things felt settled down there was still a bit of "will power" to overcome. Both Angie and I had some determination to stay out of contact so even when the urge was there (the "missing her" bit), caving in to resuming contact was not guaranteed. I guess if there was any big news or if it had been a couple of months (weeks?/days?) then the will power was worn down and the curiosity was higher, so contact would happen. For me, most of the time either "will power" or "caving in" was completely dominant, it was seldom a stressful battle. I can't ever say for sure if Angie's will power broke down and i got the message telepathically from her that it was time to make contact or if it was just me being weak but either way it seldom was a failure to get back in touch. I knew it was borderline unhealthy for us to be together so i did have fears of getting "blown-up". Angie might have more info but she is busy working from home in the other room right now so i'm leaving her alone. It really helped that we seldom broke off contact on a bad note. Not to say there wasn't some tension but that's what needed the time to settle down...... In 2014 it was somewhat different as each contact did not have an overload factor to overcome before the next contact happened.... we had grown and we could feel the change. I was totally committed to finding a way to keep Angie as a friend this time...little did i know how strong this new attempt at connecting would be........ So much for a "quick" answer...but it was fun.... thanks for the question.....

[@jedilady4485]

@@TwinFinity1111 haha quick it wasn't though fully and heartily appreciated!! Thank you so much Rob, you don't know how much this "quick" answer means to me!!🙏

[@xtinauben1652]

Hi Rob, thank you very much for your videos from the masculine perspective. I have a question for you: Did you manifest the union with Angie or did you just surrender? .. or is it a mixture of both? I am quite stuck between manifesting or surrendering. In my case my TF is married, and it doesn´t feel good to me to manifest, wanting him to separate from his wife to be with me, sounds a bit egoistic to me, so should I just surrender and not think that I would like to be with him ¿? ... quite confusing .. thx for your help :]

[@TwinFinity1111]

Great question Xtinau. I've added it to the list of questions for future videos. :)

[@xtinauben1652]

@@TwinFinity1111 yupiiii yyyaaa yyyyy .. thank you so much !! :]

[@irene2081]

Are you sure you are a DM? 🧐🤔 You are too sweet, communicative and conscious to be a DM! 😀

[@TwinFinity1111]

Awww you're so kind. Thank you!

[@slowlee2323]

I’m the DM, but my twin (who is way more intuitive) is still the runner primarily. We flip flop a lot. It’s pretty confusing

[@jamescadzow9545]

If she is more intuitive than you, and you are open an vulnerable then what is the issue? Why is she running from within herself or you possibly?

[@slowlee2323]

James Cadzow You would have to ask her that? Just trying to make the point that it isn’t always the DM that runs.

[@jamescadzow9545]

@@slowlee2323 I understand, I agree it's confusing and childish. My twin is doing the same and she is in the DM role. It's more lack of emotional intelligence and spiritual maturity. This virus is a blessing and a lesson becuase it was divinely orchestrated. It will force people in all of humanity to sink or swim. Life as we know it can't continue this way.

[@wendyburgess1563]

Slow Lee : That is absolutely true. I'm a runner. I didn't see it. I know I run from a commitment to s conventional type of Union. I may have to stop there. I have a strange perception to this TF Dynamic. It's even a bit complexed for me. I do know however that I see much healing could be done together. But oh the Fear!!

[@marygurl626]

I resonate with Devine feminine. After 3 months no contact and blocking each other , I went to unblock him and he called me non stop.... I couldn’t even answer bc I was so so scared of getting my heart broken again. He moved in two weeks later after a fight packed up and moved far away then last month he moved again ..... in a really good spot overall, but the love is so intense it’s hard for me especially bc I’ve never felt this way. He asked if I wanted him to come to me and I sent him a quote and clamed up. Haven heard from him in two days and I feel like I messed things up... By pushing him away like I always do.... Im surrendering to Devine timing and faith in god. We have both made some big improvements but I’m terribly afraid of being hurt and in return I feel like I’m manifesting my own fears. Even more so, if this connection is real or is it another karmic lesson I am having to go through. I love him so much.... it’s so confusing but my soul craves him... signs everywhere... even more so, most people don’t understand this journey.... truly trying to look inward and heal these wounds...

[@CrystalTwinStar]

Spiders are creepy crawly ugly scary and disgusting so you dontnneed a reason to not like them! Lol! You have every right! :D Ugggggghhhhhh!

[@slowlee2323]

Crystal of Twin Star Enterprises No! I like spiders! They’re one of my animal totems. Very misunderstood

[@CrystalTwinStar]

@@slowlee2323 I'm misunderstood too, so I empathize with them. I don't dislike them. I dislike them Being near me. And my comment was a statement, not a question and it certainly wasn't a yes/no question and Rob agrees. Lol! :D

[@geraldinengia4247]

Thanks so much for sharing your experience with us Rob