Txhob Cia Lwm Tus Ua Koj Lwj Siab. 12/13/22

[@MyConfessions]

My husband once said to me, "txhob muab luag li teeb meem los ua yus li teeb meem".

[@nolanxiong8170]

Can’t help people who don’t want help. It’s best to let them go. That is love.

[@SkyFlower-ug9lm]

Lub neej zoo li ko ces xum nrauj Tsis li ces tsis kk txog tus neeg uas nrhiav teebmeem tasli rau u kom u pab. Dhuav dhuav li os. Khiav xwb thiaj dim kev nyuajsiab

[@hmoobpnw8479]

Yog leej twg tias koj phem kom lawv coj mus nrog lawv nyob.

[@pangaroo2107]

Well, someone once said, "no matter how sad someone's story is... do NOT let them move into your home."

[@PM-oe5mk]

It's okay to support a relative when they are in need of help due to circumstances that are out of their control, like losing a job, but definitely NOT okay to support a relative who purposely behaves deplorably. By supporting the older brother through his bad behaviors, the younger brother enables the continued bad behaviors of the older brother. No wonder why the older brother never bothered to behave himself.

[@mobsiabdhau]

Niam laus Aw. Nkag Siab koj tshaj plaws li os. Kuv ces taug txoj kev yuav zoo li koj kiag. Kuv mas npau npau siav twb yuav tu tiag tiag li. Kuv xav maj ntxub kuv tus txiv nrog Nws niam Nws txiv tib si. Pom lawv ces xav quaj qw xwb.. tsis xav los tsev kiag li.. ua ua Kuv dim 80% tam sim no lawm.. Tiam sis tsis tau kaj Siab kiag li..

[@suxiong6867]

Lady blamed yourself u should kick both of them out when u know theirs a problem with your marriage, 3 strike out the doors this is America.

[@missysmart8620]

Shouldn’t have let him in the 2nd times. He’s a txiv dev xwb. Have no respect to anyone not even himself.

[@Mai1nOnly]

I would divorce my husband sorry. If his oldest brother knew better I wouldn’t care if he stayed but he’s doing drugs and a whole mess. I’ll divorce my husband.

[@heysoniher]

When you keep bailing out people like him they will never learn. What he needs is tough love! Why does it bother you so much what he says about you? Just be glad he’s out of the house. Sounds like you can’t do what you say and keeps taking him back.

[@nkaujmoobleeg]

That's what you get for being nice! This won't be the end of it!

[@kaoxiong6148]

Every man controls his own destiny, how he wants his life to be, and to remember by his wife and kids. However, this older brother knows exactly what he did wrong with his two ex-wives and didn’t learn anything from his mistakes because his younger brother supported him and his behavior. Don’t ever feel sorry for people like this man…Kick him out…😩!

[@xoblauj2145]

Lawv aw kuv tij niam txiv quav yeeb quav tshuaj ces nej zaj lo zoo li peb Zaj thiab

[@nkaujmoobleeg]

Don't let outside Hmong people get to you bcuz they don't wear your shoes. Love yourself first tug nam tsev!

[@thomasveu8365]

Tim koj tus txiv !

[@hmoobliscalifornia714]

Yog leej twg xav pom dab ces, welcome people like that into your home. I'm with the wife on this one.

[@yunothoj]

U care too much about what people think about you. Let that go & you'll be so much happier.

[@pajhnubhlimas3778]

Pab koj dhuav kawg osme viv ncaus 🤣

[@Loves_GodSR]

Don't use "family" to excuse their bad behaviors. They need to take responsibility for their bad behavior

[@nislis4125]

Leej twg tsis tau ntsib txhob Maj tuag tiag2 Li nawb niaj hnub no KV tab tom ntsib nawb

[@bensonher1606]

Tus txivneej nov tsis yog neeg nws yog tsiaj ib zaug los ua ob zaug los ua peb zaug los tseem ua tsij thiaj coj li nws. Koj tus tswv ntawm zaj no khiav tawm hauv nkawv ob kwvtij no mus thiaj kaj siab

[@princessangelher8854]

Kuv muaj ib tus tijlaug mas nws xum haus yeeb haus tshuaj. Nws tsis xum yuav kwv tij. Good story. Thank you for sharing.

[@chuvang5487]

Raws li hnov sawvdaws tej neej neeg dab neeg mas 2 pab neeg uas lwj liam tshaj plaws ces yog hmoob mékas thiab hmoob nplog nkaus xwb. Lwm lub tebchaws uas muaj hmoob nyob yeej txawj nyiam txojkev plees kev yi thiab tab sis tsis liam npaum li ob lub tebchaws aub no.

[@ThePrincessWorrior]

Ab ya, xa kiag 2 kwv tij mus qab choj ua ke xwb las mas. Tseem nyuaj siab ua dab tsi naw

[@bosslady8498]

Family or not , never ever use the word “family” to excuse their bad behaviors or disrespect! No one can help people like this older brother but himself. Always love and care for yourself first and do what makes you happy because at the end of the day everyone for themselves periodt!

[@souavang7107]

Can’t save narcissist. They would never be accountable for actions they do.

[@shuyingvang8970]

Hlub tus nws hlub nws tus kheej. Yog nws tsis nws más tseeb Ua Cas los yeej mus tsis taus

[@caaspasvang7427]

Wow peb hmoob mas liam tiag2 li lawm lauj…

[@hmoobpnw8479]

Nws muaj tub muaj ki. Kom nws mus nrog nws cov me nyuam nyob.

[@chialee9941]

Nyob zoo rau neb os Niam ntsuab teev mus vacation puas lom zem thiab os thiab tam sim no Tim nplog ko puas sov heev thiab ❤

[@neejkhuamsiabkwm8044]

Ua cas nej cov txiv tsev es yog dev los yog txiv tsev os ib mes niam tsev cas kuv Moog nej cov neej neeg cas yuav meem txom thiab ua luaj lis es puas muaj tseeb los cuav os yog muaj tseeb ces txob thab cov txiv dev thawj lthiab ua tsuam tsab nres pluag tsab muaj cov txiv zoo tseem muaj mog.

[@maiyang570]

If this was me, DIVORCE is the #1 key to the solution. F my husband, I don't care period!!!

[@7stars2love]

Xeeb txob neeg tiag tiag. Tim koj tus txiv xwb os. I agree with you that your husband supports his older brother ua nws tej kev txhaum ntawv.

[@myang1434]

OMG that brother is too much.

[@bosscha5710]

Muab nws mus nyob qab choj xwb ma ca koj tseem hlub thiab os

[@krystalyeu799]

If this story is true: The first time, sure, help him as he is your husband’s brother. The second time, give him another chance (maybe he needs more experience to learn). The third time, kick him out of the door with 911 and Restraining Orders. One should never allow such a person to interfere with their lives, and that should start with your husband. He has a choice: to stay or go with his brother. Why did you run around town to solve a problem that has nothing to do with you? Also, by the way - why did you care so much about relatives talking sh*t about you? Independent and strong women do not care and listen to gossip. They don’t even waste a second with druggy and no-brainer people. They stand for what is right and beneficial to their happiness. If you don't take action - it means that you enjoy the drama!

[@diannaxiong693]

Tej tug tib neeg no tsi tuag mas av tsi lim yeej tsi tag li nawb. Tej niag raum twb tuag tag es tseem yuav khaum ua luaj li thiab os niag ntse muag ruam tsab ntse.

[@brendayangvang9756]

Laus ler cas nyob g taus cia tuag Tim nplog ma txiv dev qias neeg liko na

[@cocopha5778]

Liam tiag tiag

[@gurl08]

psh. If my man cannot chose me and chooses his messed up brother, I'll says "bye felicia." He can be a reckless jerk like his brother. It's not being heartless, it's called adulting. Since his brother decided to be a druggie, irresponsible person, everyone should just let him live under the bridge. He doesnt want to be better. No need to mess up your life because of someone like the reckless brother.

[@chouavang4354]

Twb yog koj zoo kawg o

[@suabcuayaj877]

yes neb muaj xyob txhiaj lawm...yog koj tus txiv pheej tseem yuav nws tus tij laug ces kom nkawv mus nyob nkawv xwb mas.

[@emilyherr5352]

People like him no need to help. He is old enough to help himself. He is not little kid.

[@vincentxiong4698]

Stop worrying about what the Hmong community are saying. They don’t pay your bills!!

[@colleenchan9872]

Hais kiag rau koj tias yog koj uv ntau koj yuav mob stroke raum tuag nrog nws nawb mas qhov zoo tshaj khiav kiag or nrauj koj tus txiv xwb! Cov niag neeg liam li ko koj pheej yuav uv nws na nws twb tsis fwm koj na koj yuav tau muab koj naig txiv lawb koj thiaj muaj kev kaj siab! Tsis kkk txog neeg hais yus phem lawv twb tsis paub koj txoj kev lwj siab!!

[@sunnygirl973]

Zaj no mas kuv tsua hnov qrhov "chim chiiiiim siab " Tiam si UA thiab hais tsis tau dab tsis lis ces pab tsis tau os. Txog txijj no lawm mas yus txawm yog niam ntxawm los yus cem nyiag hlob ntawv tsuag tsuag xwb os. Hus police rau xwb ces tag teeb meem xwb !

[@undercoveralias4012]

I always say, it’s okay to help but it’s not okay to enable. Some hmong people don’t know the difference and keeps bringing headaches to us.

[@VangNeng-kz6sv]

Ham tsis twb yog koj yuav tsis tau koj twb hais tias koj wee tsis nyiam no ne

[@moobxaavvaammeej5725]

Brother thiab sister, puas yog nws npaj siab yuav mus khiav ua President maj es nws need nej kev pab? Cov neeg lwj neeg Liam li ntawm muab tso mus os. Nyob tsi tsav nej dab tsi. Txawm yog kwv tij los yuav tsum yog ua qhov zoo thiaj txhawb

[@mayderyang]

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[@tzerxiong3794]

Tus niam tsev aw ua zoo tsam ces koj ho muaj ntshav siab thiab os hu rau police hais tias tus neeg no yog ib tug neeg quav yeeb quav tshuaj nyob rau hauv koj lub tsev yeej tsis save rau koj cov menyuam tsam nws muab yeeb muaj tshuaj rau koj cov menyuam nws coj nws cov phoojywg haus tsuaj tuaj thiab tsam nws muab nej tua nws coj niam ntiav tuaj ua haujlwm hauv tsev thiab

[@91373]

Ib niam dev dag thaub laus yaim nej pim thiab pog nouas qau tuam choj tuaj American teb es neb ho rov los sib chob nkhib taw li neb es txhob qw qw cov qe txob nkhib taw li neb mas. Tseem muab koj niag viv ncaus dag kiag rau tshuas dawb laus ntawd yaim pim es dag tos tuaj li neb thuab tsam npam es yua ho tuag ua tus laus ntej nawj

[@xiongandcheng]

It's your husband own fault don't blame anyone. Why you let a txiv deev move in to ur house.

[@7stars2love]

Cov neeg uas hais2 koj, muab kiag neb tus tij laug nrog lawv nyob ib ntus xwb ces lawv tsis hais neb lawm ma

[@sayyang767]

Kuv xas hais tias nws yog ib tug neej lawm yog koj tsi pub nws los tsaij nws yuav siv los tiab nas.

[@Llis3322]

You and your husband secretly LOVE the brother's drama. That's why you keep taking him back over and over again. who cares that "tebchaws" say?? you worry more about what people say if you don't take him than you do about your own mental health and your marriage. so stop complaining!! Until you are willing to do something about it, STOP COMPLAINING! so keep taking him back. you like the drama I'm sure.

[@91373]

Nej tej qe txob nkhib taw dag ko hmoob paub thoob ntuj os

[@debbieyaj4642]

Koj niag txiv ces liam ib yam nkaus li neb niag tij laug dev ntawv thiab. Ib tsob noob ces cwj pwm zoo sib xyw.

[@nancypha3576]

Tus niamntsev txua txua yam no tim koj tus txiv xwb os koj nco ntsoov tias tsov yeej tsis tom Tsov 1 zaug li os tim neb xwb vim neb cia nka lo nyob neb lub tsev nebcov txiv dev yawg nrauj li ko ces nyob lo pab tsis tau tim koj tus txiv tuaj tuaj neb tus tij laug ko tog ne neb laij tsisbtaus nws tawm ces tim neb xwb as txhob tias tim tij laug tim koj tus txiv xwb os tim koj xwb os neb txiav tsis taus cov neeg liam ko na tim koj tus txiv tsis pab koj ne tos neb ua neej lwj siab tag na

[@pajthao4813]

Cas ho tsis cia nws mus nyob tsev laus es ho pheej khaws los tu na twb tsis yog nws muaj mob muaj nkeeg es pojniam me nyuam tsis yuav ho yog ib niag neeg siab phem li ntawd tos nws ua li los tim muaj nej hlub nws cawm nws tas li ne

[@ameeshayang8949]

Pog xiam hlwb, tim koj xwb as. Raws li kuv mloog mas koj tau zoo tuag cas koj tsis tuag twj ywm, koj muab luag tej teeb meem coj los ua koj li teeb meem ces kawg tuag li ko xwb tiag. Tus tus niag txiv quav dev ntawv yuav muaj dabtsi, koj tus tij laug ntawv yuav muaj nuj nqi dabtsi, yog koj tsis txaus siab hu police tuaj muab nws ncaws tawm tsev li dev xwb los pob, koj pheej tseem ua hmoob thaj dabtsi. Koj ua koj xwb ces tsis txhob seev seev koj txoj kev lwj siab… too bad and too late for your once a happy marriage

[@atthao5631]

Hmoob ruam kuj siv mekas txoj kev cai xwb..

[@amazinggrace8136]

The wives can be replaced. Brothers are part of the family dab for life have you forgotten? Lol

[@tinachannita193]

He’s a dog by choice. Why is it anyone responsibilities to look after him. Everything seems like he did it to himself and have no love or respect for his wife.

[@nancyvang2126]

Xubtubpim nraug nrab quavdev...

[@myyang4931]

Tibneeg xyav yug lub npe los tsi care. Why you car?

[@asdpoqwer3727]

Koj zaj no tim koj. Cas koj tsis muab koj tus txiv ncaws tawm mas? Leej twg hais tias yus tsis zoo ces kom nws coj mus yog tsis kam coj ces txhob hais2 yus no pob. Tsis muaj qhov ncauj los?

[@bvang8370]

He's a great man. A stud. It takes a great, capable man to get 4 wives and 10+ kids when a lot of men can't even get 1 woman. So, don't berate him. He should be praised. Anyone who says I'm wrong are just jealous.

[@channel-xb6wf]

Kv muaj ib zag xav muab rau koj hais os xav tau koj li facebook os

[@baoyang2293]

Cov txiv neej liam1 li ko ces nws yeej tsis Paub tu siab nws yeej yuav ua neeg Liam li ko mus txog hnub nws ua qab ke luag lawm Mas thiaj tas os Viv ncaus aw...

[@yajliabcuam5609]

Tiam neej nim no yog nws hlub nws ces mam hlub hos yog nws tsis hlub nws cestxhob khaws kev khaum kev npam lis coj nawv.

[@kmelanie8879]

Kho xwb es 3k wow lawv xav tau nyiaj xwb os