Types of Attraction | Slice of Ace

[@firefly927]

Kissing is sensual, not romantic. I'm aro and have sensual attraction that includes kissing.

[@SliceOfAce]

Thanks for chiming in 😊 I think it can be both honestly. It's all subjective of course. I'll pin your comment for an alternative interpretation for anyone else who feels the same 👍

[@viserproductions1]

I agree with firefly, I experience romantic attraction but not sensual, and have no desire to kiss or anything.

[@yaranwd5995]

@@viserproductions1 I have it the other way around.I don't feel sexual attraction but I do expierence sensual attraction. It's big for me. It did confuse me at first because I didn't know if kissing really fits into sexual attraction but if I like someone I do have the desire to kiss but not to have sex.

[@atinaburger9974]

Kissing really doesn't have to be romantic, in my country it's normal to kiss as a greeting ✌️

[@kumbaya9464]

agree with creator here, ive been sensually attracted before but haven't wanted to kiss them, it's mostly subjective

[@SarahJacksonLV]

Love the jazz transition tracks❤

[@fishHater]

With the sexual and romantic attraction being most important, personally I think platonic attraction is most important because friends are more important in my opinion.

[@petervrooden9849]

That was a good explanation, thank you. Sensual attraction is attraction based on your senses. It can be someone's smell, taste, feeling, looks and voice. Or even the way someone's make you feel, the vibe they give. Great video!

[@SliceOfAce]

Damn it, why do I always forget to mention the other senses 😝

[@mariafausti3128]

the *ViBe*

[@caramelfrapz]

Dang what I used to describe as sexual is actually sensual I- dang that makes sense- it all makes sense now

[@petervrooden9849]

@@caramelfrapz That's why we here. To help others finding a way to explain their own attractions. To themselves or (if they want to) to others.

[@RosheenQuynh]

Wait... you're telling me I experience sensual attraction when my favorite bass singer does his thing? 😳 OMG

[@benmartin4038]

Never done the "first" thing before, but it's pretty cool to happen to open youtube and get a video recommended that was uploaded 11 seconds ago

[@SliceOfAce]

Haha, that is pretty cool 😂

[@e.s.lavall9219]

I had heard of the word alterous before but the definitions I found were not helpful in the slightest. But now I feel like I understand it, and can even think of times I've felt it. It had the intensity of romantic attraction but without the....bubbles/sparks/butterflies. It feels like a stable warmth instead.

[@isjitaradalhard7472]

0:35 I have a bachelor's degree in psychology (and in 1,5 years hopefully my master's degree). We have learned things about attraction and certain mechanisms, but (sadly) we haven't really learned about the split attraction model, so I wouldn't say I'm qualified to talk about that either...

[@SliceOfAce]

More qualified than I am, for sure!

[@isjitaradalhard7472]

@@SliceOfAce Haha, maybe, if I can get hold of some scientific articles about it. For now, all my knowledge about the split attraction model comes from AVEN and KZbin videos like yours, so thank you for that. :) Hopefully, I will one day knów enough to feel I únderstánd it enough, because s. and r. attraction keep being so vague...

[@mothermoth39]

Hope school is going well for you! :)

[@cspencerjones7437]

Nice video! I especially like the "use what language works for you" message. I identified as ace for a long time (~7yrs) and I've basically stopped subscribing to the split attraction model - this is one of the reasons I no longer identify as asexual. This way of describing myself just doesn't work and ace spaces are completely full of this language. People try to get around it by making up terms like "wtfromantic", but this term still lives within the split attraction framework. Neither my feelings nor my behavior have really changed but I just don't feel like I belong in a community that insists on all these different types of attraction being distinct/important/real for everyone. It's frustrating.

[@SliceOfAce]

Thanks! The most important thing is that you are comfortable with your orientation and the labels you use to express it. For some people, splitting their orientation into a load of different pieces helps them, and that's totally valid. But it's equally as valid to use no labels at all.

[@atinaburger9974]

I never really had a crush or was in love , but I still think that I can be romantically attracted to someone

[@marlene_logo2604]

Watching your new video whilst eating a slice of cake is my biggest pleasure! Hope you're feeling better now!

[@SliceOfAce]

I am thank you! 😊

[@SarahJacksonLV]

What about spiritual attraction...where your spirit is pulled in or overtaken by their energy or essence? Have you never felt compelled by the spirit of another?

[@EtherealAmoeba]

Very well spoken! You explained these types of attractions clearly. Well done!

[@SliceOfAce]

Thanks!

[@qwertyoexe3394]

Me realising that my "crushes" were squishes all along

[@TheBirdOfParadox]

Thank you for this video! It actually helped me quite a lot, because I'm currently trying to pick appart where I fall on the aromatic spectrum (I have finally admitted to myself that I do) and I think this might help me explain to my boyfriend (who I'm currently still trying to navigate a soft romo relationship with) that while my feelings and attractions might be a little different from his, that makes them no less important to me.

[@martinmoore8216]

Well done with the unraveling that was great.

[@LightscapeOdyssey]

I identify as an ace with closer emotional bondings towards men. Lately I am feeling this bond with my best friend getting closer and closer but I can't figure out what kind of attraction it is. I kinda fantasize myself getting physically affectionate with him but nothing involving the genitals.

[@SliceOfAce]

Maybe just sensual attraction then?

[@LightscapeOdyssey]

@@SliceOfAce Yes I think so too

[@petervrooden9849]

And I hope the COVID-19 isn't bothering you to much. Stay safe!

[@GeneralArmorus]

what about the "cohabitation attraction", an interest to live with someone?

[@shykat9188]

Well explained. Thank you.

[@dashyburd]

wtf even is romance man I am so confused between platonic and romantic attractions 😔

[@madgem1133]

I hope you're feeling better now, or at least know that the bad times won't last forever!

[@sruthinambiar2701]

Hehe Jensen and Dean. Absolutely the best example for me 😂 absolutely love Jensen and Dean and love looking at them but yeah. That's it hehe.

[@amygdala9679]

This was a really good and informative video and I feel like intellectually understand the differences between the attraction types. BUT is it possible that someone does not feel ANY type of attraction? Or am I understand the word "attraction" wrong? For example I can tell of people are visually good loking but I dont care and dont look at them a lot. And I have friends who are fun to hang out but theres no platonic feeling that draws me to them...

[@SliceOfAce]

Probably, yeah. If there's no feeling attracting you to do something, then I guess it isn't necessarily attraction

[@mashmellow7101]

Spoken so clearly !!^^

[@madgadgetss]

9:36 hey look buddy... i'm an engineer... that means i solve problems-

[@francomanni6932]

Good one!

[@abbysworld05]

No matter how many times I try to understand sexual attraction I still don’t get it cuz I never feel it at all

[@cafadeaic8271]

now I'm confused aaa I thought I felt romantic attraction like if you don't feel romantic attraction then you don't fall in love? because I fell in love several times but at the same time I didn't want to go out with them or kiss I just wanted to be very friendly 😔

[@SliceOfAce]

That's totally fine! Everyone feels love and attraction differently, so that's valid too 😊

[@MovieMation]

Really nice video, and good explanations, never heard of alterous either. Hope you manage this whole situation ok, I can totally understand what you mean by not wanting to record when you feel down. Feel free to message me if you want someone to chat to.

[@SliceOfAce]

Thanks, I'm doing okay at the moment. And likewise if you would like someone to chat to 😊

[@MovieMation]

@@SliceOfAce Happy to hear that, thanks :)

[@fictionalortrue9898]

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