UGANDAN 🇺🇬 WOMAN SAYS "THIS" ABOUT AMERICAN MEN KAMPALA AFRICA

Black American 🇺🇸 sits down with a UGANDAN woman in KAMPALA who explains her opinion and observations about AMERICAN men. RAW and Uncensored!
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[@nubianpwr]

What I like about East African women is that many (not all) of them are taught and prepared to be good wives & mothers by their culture... unlike Western women. Great interview!

[@magaretekwin3659]

The lady is right, Black Americans are loud even when you're right next to them. White Americans are not loud like black Americans, white Americans regulate their voice volumes. Black American environment or culture probably has a lot to to do with their loud nature. It's what it is.

[@JayFocused]

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[@JayFocused]

@nubianpwr indeed. Thanks for watching

[@cmartin5903]

I thought that was all of Africa though??

[@JayFocused]

@cmartin5903 Not really. African is 54 countries....they are all extremely different, even when they share borders

[@jonb2911]

Exactly what my Ugandan Girlfriend told me. When she compares me to the Ugandan men. our way of life completely shocked each other in the best ways possible. No woman has ever been as nurturing, submissive, tender and caring as she is. First time she came over she cleaned my entire place and Cooked me food while I was sleeping. I told her she didnt have to do that and that I'll hire a cleaning lady. and that she did so much. but she just looked at me confused and was like, "I barely did anything. This is just what we do" I remember I cooked her a simple breakfast and serve her the food and she looked at me like I was crazy and revealed no man has ever served her food before. I remember when we started talking about sex, I asked her what she likes, what turns her own, how does she like it. She looked at me like I was crazy, She was like, "Oh my Gosh are you actually interested in that, men usually dont care about that, about what we like or what turns us on" I was like well yeah, she said "Infact it's he women's job to be ready for them when they want sex" (I told her that in america Its the man's job to turn her on and get her wet and ready for sex through foreplay) she said men in her country never would ask that. When she gets home from work, I like to rub her toes and feet, I buy and send her dresses that I see on amazon that I think she likes as a surprise. when she serves me food Shes gives me my place first and then works on her plate but I told her to make our plates at the same time so we can eat together, I tell her she doesn't have to cook and clean but that I GREATLY appreciate it and that she's going above and beyond and that she's so wonderful for doing it, and if she ever needs assistance just ask, when in public I hold her hand, give her kisses on the cheek and I tell her all the time how amazing and beautiful and how much I appreciate all she does. Now to me... the stuff I do for her is just basic stuff and doesn't feel like a lot. but in her Eyes, its like "OMG!! She's being so beyond spoiled it's like a movie dream come true." I've literally been woken up by the sounds of her friends screaming of joy on a group video call from her telling them the things I do for her. She tells me some of her friends told some of their husbands and male friends and they do not like it. The men say stuff like, "She's bewitched me, Or that she only wants an American man so she can disrespect him and demean him as a man. Now it's literally the same thing vice versa. When she comes over she always brings food. Since I sleep during the day I wake up at 2pm. When I wake up the house will be cleaned, clothes folded, meal cooked and ready and she will greet me with a kiss when I wake up and she will say, "Your food is ready my love" she constantly tells me how strong and manly I am. especially if I say I am tired and think I will miss work she says, "No baby, you are so strong and so manly, you are a king. Go to work. You got this." Shes super tender, elegant and quiet and super supportive. The amount of respect she gives me is on another level, She told me she would never yell at me Infront of people. She asks me for permission if she can go somewhere if she's hanging with me and someone invites her elsewhere (I told her she doesn't have too ask for permission but if shell willing to give me that respect I am very appreciative of it) in fact I guess I must have looked at her like Shes crazy when she asked me for permission to leave with the girls. I tell her what she's doing is like HUGE and Most men would never experience this level of love and respect and that I am beyond spoiled. but she just gives me a confused face and is like, "Baby.... I'm not doing anything special; this is literally nothing. this is just how we are" and when I tell my guy friends about her, they react like her how her friends are and are like, "OMG, that is a special woman, make sure you treat her good and tell her everyday you appreciate her." Which I do. Buuuut just like the Ugandan man. The women here that I tell about have ranged from being mad at me saying, "You just want a Ugandan so you can just control her and have a house cleaner and a sex toy" even a woman said, "OMG shes doing all that!!! thats scary. you need to be careful" I said, "Why would her treating me this good be scary? why do I need to show caution when she's treated be better than literally every single woman I've ever encountered in my life" I've literally had my own female family members try to tell her she's doing to much for me and she needs to stop. Makes me wonder if the Ugandan men would tell me I'm doing to much for her and need to stop. I sometimes feel guilty that I need to do more for her because she does so much for me. and yet when I talk to her she feels exactly the same why, that I am doing so much for her and that she's not doing enough for me. Also I see why traditional things work as well. because she does so much for me, It only makes sense I take care of her financially, So I offered to start covering her rent, Groceries and Gas. Why? because she makes me feel so manly, so dominant, so masculine, like She's mine and my responsibility. and Plus, she's so pure and innocent, only ever been with one other man her entire like and that was over 10 years ago. I did tell her to not judge modern relationship and that end of the day its about what makes people happy. So just because it may not make sense to you what others are doing, as long as they are happy then that's all that matters. Some other things that confuse us. She says, I'm so easy to love and asked why I haven't found someone before her. I told her, "My problem is that I'm too nice. and I don't mean it in the way of trying to make women look bad. I mean sometimes I fall for a woman to quickly and I always want to text or call her. buy her a bunch of gifts. and I'm too available, always wanting to hang and that can turn off a woman, she may feel like I'm love bombing them, or that I'm desperate and obsessed. and feel I'm taking things too seriously in regard to a relationship" She looked at me like I was speaking another language, She was like "Wait..... what? that doesn't make any sense? how can you not like someone because they are like you to much?" I tried to explain again that "some women may feel smothered and that it can be too much especially early on" She was like "That doesn't make any sense, there are women in Uganda that would literally die from joy and happiness for a man to show lots of love and affection early on, to call and text them all the time. isn't that what you want in a relationship?" I just told her that here is sort of a game, You cant show to much interest. You have to make the girl want you. if she feels it was easy to get all those things It may be viewed as worthless. She was like "I still don't understand. I would want you even more that you are giving me the love and attention easily." she also revealed things, I noticed she was wanting me but wasn't expressing it, and I told her if you are in the mood or just want me, feel free to kiss me or pounce on me. She was like, "Oh Ive never did that I'm not used to that" I asked her, "well you dated a guy for two years what did you do. She explained to me that a woman cannot express or show sexual desire for her husband" I was like, "What the heck? so like if you were married to a ugandan man and you told him, Baby I'm horny i want you so bad right now, can't wait to get you home. what would happen?" She laughed and said, He would yell at her, call her a Harlet and may even slap her for being a whore and that she needs to get back in church," I was like.... "Wait that doesn't make any sense. Why would a husband NOT want his wife to be lusting for him" she said it seen a "promiscuous" I said, "wait that still doesn't make any sense, "Its with your husband though" she said it doesn't matter, she also said the men would never go down on a woman. and that she can't cuddle or hold her a man or rub his tummy the way she does to me." I was like wait why would a man NOT want that. All in all. I encouraged some of my friends to try to check out Uganda. and I told her that America if full of Overly Nice Nerdy lonely men that are told they are not alpha male enough, that just want someone they can be super loving and affectionate to, and that will appreciate all the work and gifts etc he does for her. and to be told how strong and how much of a man they are for all the affection and resources they provide, Full of men that were told they are too short, Too Nice, or too serious on wanting to settle down. She say's Uganda is full of women, who are starved of love and affection and who just want to feel genuine love and to cuddle with a man who will be kind and nice to them and let them express themselves and be appreciated for the things they do. We went to the black Nerd convention in DC (Black comicon Basically) this year and I told her to bring all her single Ugandan female friends and family members here to the convention next year. I promised her they will all leave there with super Loving attentive, loyal husbands that will literally worship the ground they walk on. Anyway. I am so happy She's in my life and we are getting married the end of next year. And I will support and provide for her until my dying breath because she's worth all of it and more. and to the Men from her country, She did not go to a Witch Doctor and had me bewitched, nor do I feel like she's disrespecting me. and she says, to the women of America, She does not feel like slave nor being controlled.

[@JayFocused]

Amazing story. Glad you found a real woman in all the best ways.

[@jonb2911]

@@JayFocused Indeed. She is literally my peace and has made my life so much easier. for the first time in 20 years.. I no longer need to take my anxiety medicine. Even now I still don't feel I am worthy of her. Thank you for reading. God bless

[@isaacawah7546]

Very true. people speak very softly in East Africa comparatively to West Africa. I am from West Africa but i do love this soft manner of speaking after living in Europe and less in the USA for almost 3 decades. West Africans especially Cameroonians and Nigerians are so loud that you might think, that they are quarrelling or fighting from the prospective of an outsiders, but for us West Africans that is absolutely not noticeable or very normal.

[@JayFocused]

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[@APOLO-oq3ce]

I must have spend too much time with west Africans especially Nigeriansi am loud and obnoxious.A lot of people have complained I need to go back to my Ugandan roots.

[@JayFocused]

@APOLO-oq3ce Interesting. Do you live in Kampala?

[@isaacawah7546]

@@JayFocused I was in Kampala about 4-6 weeks ago. Now back to Germany

[@APOLO-oq3ce]

​@@JayFocusedI was raised in the kingdom at Mengo. Presently iam outside seeking medical treatment.

[@etouetiu8190]

Our back ground as ugandans is that women are meant to manage a home men go out to make sure we can put food on the table don't expect me to come home after all the steuggles threw out the day and get in kitchen while you've been home all day did she say that even when they have job we don't into their pockets

[@JayFocused]

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[@hermanrubaraza5579]

Very Intresting..thank you both.

[@jlionmenelik77]

A lot guys got married early back in the day. They got married at 21 and sometimes out of high school 50 to 60 years ago.

[@JayFocused]

True

[@marthagary6683]

Girl you are right about relationships

[@JayFocused]

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[@OKOTification]

Thanks Jay, I watched all your videos about Uganda, Just to balance views, I suggest you need to hear from at least 5 people to confirm the opinion about Uganda, otherwise she really tried to put things all into perspective, she understood the politics, the economic, race within the country however Uganda has about 6 regions with over 55 tribes and languages across the country.

[@JayFocused]

I hear you it's fine, she doesn't speak for all Ugandans, just like I don't speak for all Americans. It's simply two people having a discussion. Thanks for watching, friend.

[@bennyhanna6]

Great interview

[@JayFocused]

Thanks for watching

[@APOLO-oq3ce]

All you people stop getting carried away, not every marriage in uganda or Africa is succesful we also have our challeges.

[@JayFocused]

Interesting. Are you from Uganda?

[@hybridinfodesk409]

It's funny men who live in places where traditional wives are the norm dont want them. It's nice that black American women have realized that. From becoming expats and the beauty of it is these men want to take care of us, we options. We can continue to work or kickback. They treat us well, too.

[@JayFocused]

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[@hybridinfodesk409]

@@JayFocused Already subscribed

[@hiramartis7838]

Should've found a natural there to interview. She looks African American. The influence of America is rubbing off.

[@JayFocused]

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[@Silverbackugx]

It's really sad how many men here in Uganda feel that a woman is self aware and values herself as a human being as western influence. Progress, innovation, and development is not westernization, its actually the NATURAL order when you aren't stuck in backwardness.

[@africaine4889]

​Its mostly AA men that wjll talk like this not african men. The comment was done by a non African man Especially those passpart bros. Never heard an african man even in Uganda talking about women on western ways. Westen ways are not all good and traditional african ways ate not all good. We should take thr best of both that's it ​@@Silverbackugx

[@Silverbackugx]

@@africaine4889 it is NOT most AA men because MOST AA men have no idea how African women are raised🙄. It is ignorant backward traditionalists eager to show the world that classic stubborn backward minded African arrogance. It's not until Black American men move to the continent that they discover how really different the men are from us.

[@moseskazungu1158]

Black American and Najeria Ghana to louder or East Africa we are different.

[@JayFocused]

Thanks for watching

[@henrytugumekasaija8047]

In Uganda you must negotiate on prices for everything you're buying. ... even the services. If you don't bargain you'll be sold something at an overprice

[@JayFocused]

True. Thanks for watching, kindly subscribe if you haven't already

[@JayFocused]

Have you dated a Ugandan or American before? ( Depending on your country of origin)

[@amanibey1391]

When are you coming to Japan Jay Focused? We have a lot of great content waiting for you Bro

[@JayFocused]

Are you living in Japan? I've been to Japan many years ago, I'm currently committed to spending 1 year in Africa (I've been here 6 months so far) but I think I'll return to Japan some day

[@amanibey1391]

@@JayFocused Yes Noble. I’m an OG passport brother. I’ve been here 27 years. I’m married to a Japanese and we have 3 children. I’m originally from Los Angeles California. I can definitely assist you when you are here, such as hitting the exciting spots, translating, etc

[@amanibey1391]

@@JayFocused The Japanese people love us Bro. They always have

[@robiairforce76]

​@@amanibey1391Hello My Brother, I will be traveling to Japan soon. I would really Appreciate if you could give meca little insight on Japan.

[@sublimeimg]

Sounds like something you can hear from a woman in the US.

[@JayFocused]

True. But I think you have to watch the upcoming 2nd part of the interview to get the full perspective and nuances from her. Thanks for watching Thanks for watching.

[@khem127]

Strange, almost sounds like she says the same thing about Ugandan men that, African American women see in African American men( expect to be submitted to, expects the woman to do everything)

[@JayFocused]

There is another part to this interview....it will give you more perspective. I think you'll enjoy it

[@hiwotlemma39]

about age gap I married a man with my age but after i get birth we are completly diferent you know i seem big women he is still young so it put me in stress to loss weight,choosing dress,...to balnce The one who married with a gap they are good when we see them togeter

[@JayFocused]

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[@Infraredfr3d]

Wow

[@JayFocused]

I know, right?

[@lifeafter60withdaseta20]

People speak low because they are scared to express themselves .Black people speak loud in general

[@JayFocused]

Which country are you from?

[@tonymckinney1355]

You dont sound to bright

[@JayFocused]

@tonymckinney1355 Thanks for watching 'too' 🤣

[@JayFocused]

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[@ab_yusofficial8866]

She's talking about Ugandan men not being supportive in house chores, as compared to American men, but she forgets that American men split bills with their men, unlike Ugandan women who prefer call their money, "my ka money", while calling the man's money "Our money"

[@JayFocused]

Are you a Ugandan woman?

[@godfreynsamba8930]

I am Ugandan but I don't think she's the best choice for the interview, she sounds full of herself and self centered.

[@JayFocused]

Did you watch the 2nd part of the interview? It's necessary to get the full context

[@JenniferStodghill-no9iv]

Who cares that's ur problem

[@JayFocused]

You cared enough to comment. Thanks for watching