Umjolo | Dating | Children out of wedlock

[@Penuelism]

The part about HABITS is everything!!! Most marriages fail today because ppl are used to habits of perpetual mjolo... to a point where you're used to recycling partners. Plus, the issue of comparison with exes is a serious problem.

[@thebodyoflife]

So true. I once asked my late grandfather ,why ka setso we say "ngoana ke oa ntate" and not their mother's child even though women carry a child for 9 months. He made an example and said , "if you were to take a seed of an apple, and plant it intentionally in a fertile soil that gives it the necessary environment and nutrients to sprout and grow..., what are the chances that the seed you planted would be an orange tree?". I said none. He said that is exactly how abantu looked at life, he said any seed in this world carries the genetical information and the essence of what the plant is. That is why YOU ARE YOUR FATHER'S CHILD. Siyabulela kakhulu Mkhulu Aba for the nuggets of wisdom.

[@khensanimlaudzi8955]

A child born out of wedlock belongs to the mothers side. A seed is formed from a combination of the maternal and paternal gametes and not solely from fathers gametes hence why ka setsho if marriage didn’t occur Ngwana Ke wa mme until he lobolas his child. yes Africans identies are aligned with nature but saying Ngwana Ke wa ntate has disrupted The African concept of life as that statement has been largely influenced by patriarchy and religious notions of colonialism. A child is a product of both parents and not just the fathers. CAMAGU!!

[@kingAce3112]

So true unfortunately South Africans are too stubborn and ignorant to listen to such important messages

[@danielmahlayeye4218]

the inability to see the correlation between umjolo, alcoholism and groove and the high rate of fatherlessness in the black community makes me realize that we might not be ready to reconcile our actions with our reality.

[@lutha1720]

i think the goverment should make DNA test at birth mandatory and most of these issues will come to an end by simply knowing you will be on child support if the DNA is a match and the women wont receive a grant for just having a baby.

[@lxndi]

"I choose to follow the path of Light"

[@sidneyngoepe9651]

Many of us loose to our habits , so profound.

[@ellishaindobo1794]

"when are you going to grow up?" hit home hard!

[@illuminateFurther]

We need more love and less passive moments of intimacy that have no meaningful outcomes

[@sphephilezwane5539]

“AmaBurger amnyama”😭😭😹

[@mahlatsenkabinde9186]

Kuyaphuthuma Madoda, message siwutholile 🙏

[@FistoMnisi]

Results of umjolo: HIV, depression, confusion, fatherlessness, divorce, GBV, indebtedness, murder ( man vs man), abortion, permanent infertility so many more: Hayi kumnandi ukujola????? Strange is people who engage in such always want the government to solve what’s in their control.

[@khethelomemela5888]

Bro are you the guy from the previous episodes 🤔

[@en1575]

all the "Mnisi's"i know ,are smart people 😊❤

[@FistoMnisi]

@@en1575 Sbonge 🙏🏿

[@mskhumalo5118]

​@@en1575😂😂😂

[@AMANDA.D04]

Deep🤔

[@ncwasimathenjwamsibi-ms5xb]

True Abba ngikuzwe clear my brother ✊ Give Thanks

[@helendodge]

Very insightful and helpful. Thank you.

[@sphephilezwane5539]

The Nerfertiti statue at the back🔥

[@nomalungelomthimunye9579]

Have sex with multiple partners and one night stands has become a norm. It's like a way of life, most people don't see anything wrong with that. It's not just sex, there an exchange of energies, umangale umuntu izinto zakhe zingahambi kahle, ilemimoya ayithwele!

[@esetudilayi3647]

Uyihlabe esikhonkosini bawo💪

[@dumentabai4596]

Big Ups Mi Idren stay Blessed. Give Thanx

[@divinityorg]

Ngempela we are affecting each other, especially trauma! Some umjolo comes with good experiences and lessons.

[@NikeziweMazibuko]

I hope we all really learn from our mistakes. Yes, it started feeling like that in the school, where it started feeling like we are pushing friendships, whereas spirituality is a personal journey, I guess. I hear you ngomjolo, it is a habit of past experiences but wonder how we can combat it during this 4IR age where technology is taking over. Where ukujola is a button away, where we find spiritual leaders bajola with their spiritual initiates, where people sleep their way to the top, where the virgina and penis are not respected like in the past. It really makes you wonder? Blessed love once again!!!!

[@fionasmith6686]

I hear you. What can a person do to break the habit of umjolo and sleeping around ? How do i forgive myself for harming myself ? I want to commit, and I'm worried to that by the time i settle down my habits will kick in and even those of my partner.

[@Princess_Lehlohonolo]

This is why I looove my religion islam We don't date. When a boy sees a wife in you he approaches your father, both families meet first then the couple meets with the family present in a setting. A few weeks of meetings down the line .we marry. Kanjalo ke This method has proven successful marriages

[@drziyandampetile2041]

What if she doesn’t like you?. Does she have a say?. What about the honor killings?😢

[@Princess_Lehlohonolo]

@drziyandampetile2041 she has the right to decline the proposal even after a month of marriage she can divorce him Honor killings/ killing one person is considered as killing a nation therefore forbidden Honor killings are cultural Not islamic

[@moe_ramz]

Can one convert to Islam after having children. Make or female?

[@Princess_Lehlohonolo]

@@moe_ramz yes

[@moe_ramz]

@@Princess_Lehlohonolo meaning after they’ve had children with someone else?

[@vuyisilenzima8511]

I wish isbongo comes from mom That way kungcono

[@sifisomthethwa3775]

Growing up and being respectful is not easy. We're parents we need to set the standard for the generations after us. Thank you Mhlonishwa for the words of wisdom. Those who have ears have heard you....

[@akuurerahaman1975]

We must not hide anything from our children

[@thulanikhambule4875]

FIRE!!!!!!!!

[@mmamorenaseleke1064]

Lesedi 🌼 re utlwile Kgosi. Intentionality is what we now the parents ba ma 2K need to act. Not preach. Not teach. We need to now embody the action of intentionality gore ngwana re kgone go mo abela tsela e tshweu. Wish someone had told me before I figured that God ain't gonna kill me if I have sex out of wedlock. 😅

[@SiyabongaKnowledgeNquma]

Silo Samamzi ndiyakuhlonipha bhuti kakhulu i so wish you podcast can have a Chanel on TV so that many can learn. Enkosi bhuti.👏👏

[@tshepomotshepana7635]

Mjolo = having fun or playing (not baby making or something else)

[@leimelabusi1456]

SO TRUE BIG MAN AND THANKS

[@curiousk4083]

Kunzima ukuphila, coz some of problems are not created by you but ours parents whom we respect. Hope us as this generation we'll be better parents but it's getting worse.

[@yamkelaswelinkomo1973]

Uthethe kwa vokotheka Abba Camagu

[@Cosmic_Hobo]

Umtu who is born out of wedlock belongs to their mothers family (atleast kwaxhosa), why would there be a mixup with clan names in such a scenerio?

[@lekagaba342]

And then if the parents later get married… what happens to the child

[@Tha-Rock]

@@lekagaba342 if the childs parents get married to each other then both the mother of the child belongs to the fathers fam..If they marry others, the child still belongs to the mothers parents.

[@ntokozohlatshwayo165]

😂

[@khensanimlaudzi8955]

In know for a fact kwa xhosa a child born out of wedlock takes izduko zakwa malume and a child born in wedlock takes iziduko zakwa yihlo

[@ntokozohlatshwayo165]

@@khensanimlaudzi8955 I feel sorry for such children. We will be okay one day

[@Penuelism]

Why is isibongo or izibongo so important... if we are all the same people from the same family? We all are linked at some point?

[@mistrolava]

Yes the link is rooded from one source but the experiences are diverse, just as those who were before us( ancestors or generation X,) had their own experiences yet diverse we passed on, through theie coding in their DNA influencing the following geneation (generation z).

[@ayaground]

Civilisation isimoshile...

[@SibongakonkeJ]

Stru🤞🏾

[@Princess_Lehlohonolo]

Come on guys Mjolo and sex out of wedlock is a big sin We have no power to change the law of The Creator

[@DrS_A_Fruitful_Woman]

You’re right.

[@chulumancontangeni6554]

That's Christian laws on the African creator laws

[@Princess_Lehlohonolo]

@@chulumancontangeni6554 it's not Christian law. All religions stand on this

[@khulekaningcobo911]

THOKOZANI

[@xoliendlovu8363]

Well said

[@sphephilezwane5539]

Sibonge🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@lesetjatshego5717]

Thanks ke nnete

[@babaluthandoiyaniso]

Sibulela Kakhulu 🙏🏿

[@neostouchentertainment549]

The part of Scared to get married.. bra salut black grls with their ignorant.....theres a saying that says......"maninzi amadoda apha phandle"

[@ayestatik2768]

lmao 😂you are the one elder.

[@mavismoalusi-lb8cv]

How do i get hold of u mkhulu😢

[@unpopularopinion_za]

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[@fanelemkhize2612]

Zyakhala manje

[@theonukwayo4018]

its sad to be a product of umjolo.

[@msingathimagwaxaza4674]

Unendlebe nje unetyala.

[@thabisoselebi323]

Aba ke eng whats wrong what happened who did what hai!! #umjolo

[@GSMMbizana]

We give thanks Mfowetu 💧🥋🔦🪑