Uncle & Aunt Scammed Me Out Of My Paycheck, Now They Are Mad I Left Them With Their 4 Kids

[@mamiloy861]

Im very supportive with my nephews and nieces. You did the right thing to welcome your niece to your house.😊❤

[@CGossRunnn]

By my math, they were only paying OP about 5.20/hour and the other nannies less to look after 4 kids and work as a house cleaning service. That is disgustingly low pay

[@Debsterism]

Plus room, board, car,and phone.

[@jazzamethyst8225]

@@Debsterism even with that, it’s still only like $13 per hour counting those and he’s working. My cousin is a nanny who does all of that and is given board. She still gets paid $36 per hour.

[@TiffWaffles]

Most of the time nannies are underpaid and sometimes they are abused depending upon the family they are with. They are overworked, underpaid, and are oftentimes abused by their employers. You do get really good employers that pay a lot of money and treat their nannies extremely well. This is why if you are planning on becoming a nanny, you thoroughly understand the laws, including labour laws. Understanding your contract doesn't mean anything unless you thoroughly understand the labour laws. If you're an au pair, this is especially crucial to prevent employers from abusing their positions and working the nanny to the bone.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

This is absolutely illegal in CT and both could be reported to the Dept of Labor for it. This is a really common problem in wealthy but not megarich families on the East Coast.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

@@Debsterism Those don't count as wages. They are legally perks.

[@beegee1960]

The thing I like about the first story was how OP’s parents both backed him. We see so many stories on here about how the parents always want the OP to just go along with unfair treatment just “ to keep the peace in the family.” Refreshing to see parents actually stand up fot their kids.

[@ldannu5627]

Or the most awful sentence I know- but they're family! Ugh, it makes my skin crawl,as I had a mom like that.. Always the one doing bad things to us,and always was the victim and we should just forgive because Familyyyy 🙄🙄🙄

[@BronzeDragon133]

@@ldannu5627 Don't you love that? "No, they're NOT family because family is sacred and family wouldn't do that. Therefore, that scumbag is no longer my family." My quote when my cousin screwed me over for the umpteenth time. The surprised pikachu face was unbelievable. She still kept promising things from me. I just ignored them. He'd get insistent. I'd laugh.

[@ldannu5627]

@@BronzeDragon133 yeah, it is so absurd ! Totally understand you! I had the same problem with my own mom.. It's just better to find your own family ,where you choose them..I believe that you don't absolutely have to deal with toxic people ,even if they are family ! Family means nothing if they are bad to you, the family you choose is the one that means the world !

[@sarahjaneheckscher6737]

Never work for "family". My father told me that when I was a child. Basically don't mix business and personal.

[@melvinmelvin9606]

@@ldannu5627 yeah that saying has never made sense to me but I come from a big family(youngest of 8) and there are people in my immediate family I can't stand. "Family" are the ones you can always count on and blood has nothing to do with it

[@SandiL-]

OPs parents were champions! OP absolutely did not deserve to be abused by their Aunt and Uncle. OP deserved so much better treatment and had valid grounds for prosecution.

[@Jerseybytes2]

200 dollars a week is 50 dollars per kid. good luck finding a sitter who'll work for that little money specially considering the uncle and aunt expect him to do a bunch of other chores

[@reneeboone9730]

That's why they hire foreign help.

[@abm5119]

The other two nannies in the story are from foreign countries. I think there's a reason for that

[@theresaderse-nosacek5236]

Plus the 1000 for rent, 300 for food and utilities, 70 for a phone. Add the 800 for pay and it doesn't look half bad. Plus also the visa to the US. Edit was the rent. Had to look it up for CT which averages around 1500 a month for a one bedroom

[@caitlindooley7826]

That’s why they hire only people from other countries

[@shells500tutubo]

@@theresaderse-nosacek5236 For a one bedroom apt or for one room in a house? Anyway, that is irrelevant, because they were trying to get two jobs out of OP. He should have never agreed to any household duties other than the CHILDREN'S laundry, food making and cleanup. Aunt and uncle should have just hired a second cleaner instead of a live-in nanny. OP really should have reported them, especially because the uncle was a lawyer and was violating labor laws. And btw, the $800 for pay DOES look *whole* bad. OP was in Connecticut, not a low cost of living state like Arkansas or Nebraska.

[@TheIronwil]

Aunt & Uncle: No one will screw you over faster and with less guilt than family. They think the blood relation gives them rights they don’t have.

[@ifyoucantsayanythingnicedo3441]

Should have taken so-called-lawyer Uncle to court if only to embarrass him.

[@SH-qs7ee]

Or rang up uncles law firm and ask his bosses what they think about the breach of contract.

[@benjie128]

@@SH-qs7ee or ask the Bar

[@kellharris2491]

Honestly this sounds like indentured servitude. Why do you think they always hire Hispanic workers.

[@jacquelinecountryman2976]

I can't believe that in the last one the family not only kept allowing it, and was angry at the Uncle. 😡

[@susanford6926]

Nephew story,it's good that the uncle was their for him!!!!

[@dianeshaw1111]

In story one: I was cheering when op finally stood up to his aunt and uncle and left. I am glad that his parents stood up for him.

[@AnnieCamer0n]

A lawyer that think a contract is not important? A therapist that says boys don’t cry? They are such trash

[@LunaP1]

And they emotionally abuse their kids to use them as a manipulation tactic.

[@amberlexicon]

Sleazy as fuck for a lawyer I shudder to think what their cases look like. I feel even worse for the therapist's clients. Literal human garbage that one is.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

The worst part is that these entitled people even used their own children to manipulate him. Shame on them! 😡

[@benjamindouglas862]

And commenters who think these stories are real are so stupid, stop tilting wind mills, don

[@Absaalookemensch]

What the hell? The aunt and uncle in the first story are slave owners not employers. Good luck buying a new slave. What horrible people, but typical lawyer ethics.

[@ireneduett950]

I was ALWAYS taught, NEVER WORK FOR FAMILY!!I learned that the hard way!!

[@evelynberrios8164]

First story: as soon as they started demanding more than the contract stipulates I would have left and taken them to court. They are abusive. I would also report them to the cops. However, OP you were, I’m sorry to say, a doormat, you allowed this. Go to college! Get a better future for yourself. Your parent’s are the best. You won the lottery with them.

[@kellharris2491]

Yeah I worry about the Hispanic live in nanny/ indentured servant.

[@bcase5328]

The one thing that OP should have done was notify Uncle and Aunt in writing in January, the thru all January. That paper trail might be needed.

[@TheKnightofAwesomeness]

Yeah I was getting annoyed as hell especially when he started crying... But I'm glad he got better at the end

[@suelangley1026]

1st story: The other nannies probably don't have the support system of parents, etc. to help them understand how they are being taken advantage of by the parents. Four kids and all of the household chores???? for $200 a week???? Nope and nope.

[@scottmolnar4132]

They are au pairs which the pay (technically a stipend) is only $197.50 a week.

[@scottmolnar4132]

@National Socialism not to mention the family pays the visa expense which is considerable

[@scottmolnar4132]

@National Socialism technically they are only authorized to be an au pair so bailing for another family means they are working illegally which would be other issues

[@annbrantley5027]

When the aunt and uncle tried to use their kids and got them to say "are you leaving because you hate us" I would have replied "I'm not leaving because I hate you. I'm leaving because your mommy and daddy are breaking their promise to me. Cause that is what a contract is. A written promise between 2 parties and they are breaking it.

[@SandiL-]

OMG Mr Reddito, the last story had me wanting to cry for that poor young person. Honestly they were lucky to have OP to provide the love and stability that this young person will need to heal from their abusive parents.

[@KoDough]

Mr. Reditto I'm happy to hear your voice is doing better! You could tell you were battling covid and it ain't easy... Glad you're on the right track!😁

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

If any of my kids' aunts and uncles tried this crap on my kids like this Aunt and Uncle did in the first story - well I doubt it as they would know my wrath! Already cut people out for hurting my kids, exploitation would be on that list of reasons to do some extra pruning.

[@MahaliaSilverStacker]

1st Story:- I like OP's parents for backing him up,I have seen Family use nieces,cousins etc. for their benefits and their victims get the shitty end of the stick,glad OP stand up to them, and realize the unfair treatment that he got from his Aunt & Uncle,great lesson to be learned....." Not my monkeys,not my circus". Aunt & Uncle ARE SCAMMERS. 2nd Story:- OP is NTA he did the right thing in exposing his father as the biological dad of the kids,and exposing his treachieous behavior,the sad part he's bad talking his faithful son to family members make him looks bad,because his son dont forgive him for his betrayal and cut all ties to him. Something is in the water..... 3rd Story:- NTA..... That is emotional abuse to the highest,what the H is wrong with her? OP is right to file for legal custody,OP sister is toxic..... what is in the water? Great stories Mr.Reddito... Your voice sounds amazing...Glad you feel better...

[@denisephillips9588]

Last story OP NTA I have a nephew, and cousin that are gay. and I had an Uncle that was gay also. I also have a lot of friend's that are gay If the parent's are idiots then it's on the parent's to right a wrong not other family member's but OP you are a good uncle that is willing to help out your Nephew so that he can live a better life then the one he had. Keep doing good thing's for your nephew he need's someone in his corner.

[@abm5119]

Story 1: I'm all for what you did, but you could have given the other nanny a heads up that they were working for crappy employers. There's definitely a reason why they go for foreign nannies Story 2: This is a family matter = and only I'm allowed to talk shit about family outside of family. NTA, if that's what you're asking Story 3: NTA. Thanks for being his only ally. Other people saw this treatment and let it happen? Screw those people.

[@TiffWaffles]

OP needs to contact authorities because his aunt and uncle are taking advantage of international employees that they are overworking, underpaying, and abusing. The agency that they are pulling their nannies from NEEDS to be alerted so that these people are put on a blacklist and authorities are called to get out the nannies from slavery.

[@kellharris2491]

Yeah this is indentured servitude.

[@laurie2649]

OMG! OP, you have AMAZING parents, especially your Mom! This story was so gratifying. Your Aunt and Uncle are horrible people. I just know that your parents are guiding you to a wonderful life. Good luck, OP. You deserve it.

[@Michael.CrazedAlaska]

1st story I’d sue into the stone age with all the contract violations

[@yadealone]

I agree! Narcissist! Treated him like a slave!

[@ewandavidson7001]

I would have reported the aunt to the psychiatric board for her emotional abuse of her kids after you left.

[@williammills7778]

The Aunt n Uncle were scammed. They were purposely taking advantage of him because of his age. Glad he quit and walked away. Them getting cut out of the family was pure gold! Well done Op

[@teristricklen2844]

1) Never work with, loan money to, or borrow from family! 2) I hate cheaters & liars!! 3) Horrible mothers need to be spanked publicly in the town square!!

[@mg7094]

The first one only applies if you can't afford to loose the money or you don't know your family.

[@-randychasechase2660]

The minute you got the list you should have given notice then

[@theresareynolds3133]

Thank goodness for the uncle, otherwise the poor nephew would have kept being put down, the kid's mom was the Ahole

[@normanhutcheson812]

Story 1 : The one good thing about this story is that OP learned how to deal with confrontation, and got some experience dealing with and standing up for himself to unreasonable bosses. NTA. Story 2 : The two biggest things to take away from this story is that you don’t do your kids dirty by screwing your kid’s girlfriend/boyfriend (or mess around in their relationships), and you have to be honest about (and own up to) your actions to yourself and everyone else (you don’t talk shit about your kids to ANYONE)!! All of this would’ve been avoided if the dad had been a decent parent/human being and had just kept his johnson in his pants, instead of in his son’s girlfriend! NTA. Story 3 : Major kudos and props to you, OP, for standing up and supporting your nephew from his obviously homophobic, narcissistic, and manipulatively toxic mother. Also, the mother (and anyone who sides with the mother) needs to be NC for his safety and well-being. NTA.

[@MrBeevee5]

Story 2 - And the father did so well until he threw in that bomb.

[@Ladywizard]

@@MrBeevee5 I'm like wtf on the daughter/sister taking Dad's side after he was trashtalking his eldest that he betrayed

[@jazz3799]

I find it interesting that this lines up so well with what I know domestic workers from foreign countries go through. Honestly, many of them go through worse- 1 meal a day, no phone, little to no pay, held beyond the agreed upon end of contract, visa status used to manipulate them into accepting abuse.

[@lyricalchild]

Dude I love your voice. It's GREAT for Reddit stories. 10/10 definitely subscribed

[@Mr.Reddito]

thx mate

[@sheilathomason6902]

I used to work as a nanny 375.00 a week is cheap I got paid 400.00 plus room and board and not all household chores glad he left

[@nutty77]

Last story.... what vile mother. A parent should love their child unconditionally. I have a 19 year old gay trans son, who I love and support through his life choices. Did I want a son...No, did I want a gay son... No, However that is who he is and that is who I love, so my wants are my own and in no way impact the love and support I give him. ( and yes, he is aware of my feelings, but is also aware that they are my feelings and mine to deal with) I treat him no differently from before his transition and coming out. He is who he is.

[@Snipergoat1]

Nothing is unconditional, ever. A parents love is great and deep, but nothing is ever unconditional and the expectation of it is a lie. That's rough about your kid. I guess you had a solid test of how great and deep. Hopefully you have another kid. That one is most likely a genetic dead end and presumably you want a grandkid or two. They are like all the fun parts of having a kid without having to do the hard parts.

[@nutty77]

@@Snipergoat1 I disagree. My child does not have to be or act a certain way for me to love them. I would never emotionally blackmail them into being something they are not. As for grandchildren, that's an erroneous assumption on your part. Why would I want grandchildren? There is too much gumpf surrounding grandchildren. If my son at a later date adopts, fine and well, that child will be loved regardless. If he doesn't, then that is his choice and doesn't affect me in any way.

[@dorothyandvato8024]

The second and the last story LPs were the heroes of that tale

[@fleurpouvior2967]

Story one: I'd be telling the children the truth. "If course I love you! But your mommy and daddy are trying to hurt me and breaking the law, so I have to go, because it's too dangerout to be around bad people like them. And I hope you remember this; sometimes, even if you love someone, if the situation is dangerous, or you are being hurt, it's ok to leave. It doesn't mean you dont love them, it means you know their actions are bad, and you need to be safe"

[@suruha2306]

Good stories, dude! Your volume was all over the place! Thank you!

[@aquillerjay4286]

What the nephew and other nanny where paid is terrible I worked as a nanny and I was paid £500 a week full board and lodging use of a car worked 45hrs over 6 days had one full weekend of a month and travelled with the family to various different countries at no cost to me. I looked after there children and they valued me

[@nenyaproctor1247]

Hey I am glad that OP got out of there 🤗 A few years ago, my friend and her daughter and husband, were treated a lot worse than that ! They were living with her Aunt and she was charging them $300 apiece, just to sleep on the floor and they had to buy food for the house!! This went on for for 1 year .

[@evelynberrios8164]

Last story, take the child to CPS or the police. Make a police report . Have them interview your nephew. Let them know you have room in your home and want to provide for him. That woman is vile and cruel. That’s how children commit suicide. Let him know he is loved and his sexual identity is not wrong. Thank you for being there for him.

[@jonmcclain662]

It is wrong, unnatural, and deep down that nephew knows it, hopefully he gets help.

[@dianeshaw1111]

Story two op is not the one in the wrong. His dad was wrong for what he did to his son and lying to the family about his son. Op had every right to tell the family about what the father did.

[@danrossell6375]

I'm curious what dad's definition of family is. I think everyone in the room met the definition.

[@keithhouston31]

THEY HAD IT COMING

[@professorrosenstock5026]

Why have children if you need that level of help with raising them?

[@earlinejackson8151]

I’d have flown home the Saturday after they tried docking my pay, not waited till Monday.

[@susanfarley1332]

Don't know if it is true, but I heard weekday tickets are cheaper than tickets on the weekend

[@Mrwillie95]

Story 1 if I was op I would had broke the contact and op should man up and leave because if he can’t standup to family or he will get pushover by people

[@davidkermes376]

he did, you nugget.

[@johexxkitten]

With OP1, the minute the aunt & uncle went “off contract” I’d have left the very next flight... if they can break contract, so can OP... I worry about the other nanny & how they’re being used, especially being in a foreign country and being paid so little

[@AuntLoopy123]

Yep. IF they violate the contract, then the contract is NULL AND VOID, which means that you do NOT have to give them one month's notice. Tell them that, the moment they start to try to change it. "If you violate the contract, it will be NULL AND VOID, and I will not owe you ANY NOTICE to leave. I will NOT WORK FOR OATHBREAKERS. The day you violate my contract is the day I pack my bags and move out." Sleep at the airport, until you can get a flight. It's hard, but it can be done. You doze in a chair, with your bags between your feet, and on your lap, leaning over them and using them as "pillows."

[@kellharris2491]

Yes this sounds like indentured servitude.

[@PokemonSwordShieldChampion]

I just wanted to say hi to everyone 🙂

[@angelamaryfussey3461]

Hi

[@ldannu5627]

Hi! Greetings from Finland !

[@PokemonSwordShieldChampion]

@@angelamaryfussey3461 hello

[@PokemonSwordShieldChampion]

@@ldannu5627 hi

[@ldannu5627]

@@PokemonSwordShieldChampionhi!

[@jinnieharrison9686]

From experience, I found that family and some friends will use you like this aunt and uncle did. You do have to stand up for yourself.

[@robinkholmes7127]

Story 1: This is why you don't work for your family or employ your family. Why is the OP one of two nannies but is the one doing the bulk of the chores? If the other nanny found out the aunt and uncle would feel bad? What kind of a contract did the OP sign? Was it overseen by a lawyer? I doubt it. "The spirit of the contract" The uncle's a lawyer, figures. Horrible parents, manipulate children to make an adult feel guilty. Haven't earned the full paycheck? Entitled and selfish. Why can't these parents be parents to their kids instead of their grown-up niece or nephew, who they hired to do a job? I'd call child protection. Story 2: This whole story makes me uncomfortable. A horrible father who cheated with his grown son's girlfriend made an alleged horrible father. Like father like son as they say. How did the dad keep it a secret for so long amongst his other family? Paternity test for the nephew/brother? Story 2: I wonder why the sister is single? *Sarcasm* Go OP, go OP! Protect that young man and lt him be the best him he can be. NTA.

[@earlinejackson8151]

Last story, op, definitely NTA! More an unsung hero.

[@ces385]

It had to be so uncomfortable living in that household. Even getting something to eat would be uncomfortable. Poor OP.

[@cynine1599]

so that first story they were making 6.25 an hour working those 12 hour days maybe less not only could he sue for missing pay but the contract was below even min wage

[@droid2645]

That's way you don't do things for certain family members. They take advantage of you and everyone else they can fool into helping them. I know from experience.

[@bernedettekuteyi3843]

I wonder how much the Aunty and Uncle is paying their living nanny. Opie just leave these users.

[@annem7806]

Turn debt of A&U plus 30 day severance over to a bill collector. Attys are NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE DEBT.

[@lisaedwards2542]

I would have give notice after the conversation with his uncle.

[@scottmolnar4132]

Sounds like people commenting don’t understand a few things: 1) room and board are not free extra “perks” on top of wages. They are legally a credit towards Wages under Section 3(m) of the Fair Labor Standards Act. So you add the costs of the room and board to the cash component to determine the pay rate and determine whether they pay met the minimum wage. 2) the foreigners were au pairs and the minimum is set by the federal government at $195.75 which is the minimum wage on 45 hours and then adjusted for 40% housing/food credit. The program lets the foreigners in under a J-1 education visa and the host family must contribute to classes in addition to pay, housing, etc.

[@ninacruz5592]

$370. IS HIGH WAY ROBBERY!!! NEEDED A SLAVE, SERVANT, DAMN ! FOOL!!!! CALL LABOR BOARD!! I GUESS FAMILY MENT BE THEIR FLUNKEY!!

[@debrajohnson2435]

IMO the only thing that needs to be done is a DNA test the once and for all know the truth - who is the father

[@mojokahma6931]

your comments are alot louder than when reading the story. However I really like your reading , You made the lock down in Australia [Victoria] easier to bare . keep up the good work. Goodonya mate

[@CaulkMongler]

375 per week equates to about 54 a day. An 8-hour workday equates to just a hair under 7 dollars an hour… hard to imagine a live-in nanny working for minimum wage.

[@NPRYRS]

Op shouldn't have took job in first place after viewing the contract and turnover rate🤷🏽🤷🏽‍♀️ 😭🤣😅😂 why haven't they get a DNA test to see who's the actual father 💯❗‼️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽 great job Uncle, leave her to rot in her own hate. If she doesn't leave him alone then get legal 💯❗‼️

[@OsoAloc]

4 kids and a household? Welcome to the life of my mom.

[@yvonnefobbs6232]

First Story: OP's uncle just wanted slaves.

[@Cantmakeupmymindonaname]

For the first story, i would have been stupid and not signed/made a contract. So i would have been doomed

[@Swnsasy]

I do not understand why you would mess around with a family members SO... Why? There are so many more people on the planet yet to go do this is disgusting and vile...

[@sadejones6657]

200 a week is less than minimum wage for a 40 hr work week.

[@scottmolnar4132]

It actually is minimum wage for 45 hours worked less a deduction for room and board. The rate is set by the feds and is actually $197.50

[@darrylblanch8463]

Great stories mate. 1st story, OP should've sued them like his father said he would & I would've told the other nanny about pay difference, just to get petty revenge.

[@davidkermes376]

the aunt and uncle wanted to employ a relative just so they could pull this s t sometime sooner or later. they probably practiced a duet of, "but we're faamiliee!" for when somebody eventually called them out on it.

[@willowsverge3046]

My heart breaks for kids that get raised by cold unfeeling parents. Truly sad.😢

[@chuckbaird249]

With story 3 it sounds like the mother never wanted children in the first place

[@danyam7461]

You’re the best. I wait for the stories you choose to read. Great narration and handsome too.

[@Mr.Reddito]

Wow, thank you!

[@BJ-pv4dp]

He did what he had to do for him to make his life livable

[@angelamaryfussey3461]

I'm a woman, I would have done everything halfway.

[@AuntLoopy123]

Third story - the father was never in the picture? What do you want to bet it was because he realized what a MONSTER that woman was, before he knew she was pregnant, and go the heck away from her, before she could DESTROY HIM. I don't blame him, at all, if he didn't know there was a child. She's HORRIBLE! NOBODY should stay with her!

[@megamiet1210]

Last story: NTA. Great job OP.

[@Mr.Reddito]

Thanks for listening

[@arthurewoldt2190]

Man was eating tacos with chopsticks ☠️

[@trudifruty6078]

My son asked me how I would feel if he was gay I told him just so long as he is happy I didn’t care cause it is his life not mine

[@georgvonsauer2618]

Violation of contract! Obligation is nullified and void!

[@theresareynolds3133]

Thanks!

[@maxinebaker4281]

He did the right thing. HE LEFT! These people were user. WOW!

[@Mitsubachi2529]

OP should've reported aunt and uncle to the Department Of Labor.

[@dianemartel5205]

Oh, yeah. The mom’s definitely vile.

[@emmyalloway137]

Story 1: "But faaamily"....🙄🤣

[@jcb8858]

You have no idea how common this story is for live-in Nannies. The contract is often abused and they think nannies are super human even though they cant handle the chores and kids for a weekend themselves. Ive met soooo many who had to fight for Pay, time off, privacy, or reasonable expectation.

[@dorothylloyd1804]

Good afternoon Mr Reddito. Thanks for the video. Have a great day

[@mpmansell]

Last story. If they are mad at op, his family are just as vile.

[@catsmeow5566]

Story 1: I feel bad for OP in that he was feeling overwhelmed-- although, some parents (particularly single parents) have to do the childcare AND all of the chores. Others have to find someone to watch the kids while they work and then still do all of the chores and watch their kids when they get home. But not all people have the same capacity for doing things. Having to do ALL the chores AND watch the kids was a complete violation of his contract. They breached it by dumping more responsibility on him and his pay should have doubled as he was doing double the work. Man, the aunt & uncle are just users. They can't just lower his pay without him agreeing to take less pay. They already breached the contract before. They are lucky he stayed for all that crap but then they want to change the rules again. Nope. Even if he verbally said "OK", any modification of a contract has to be in writing. Honestly, OP didn't need to give one months' notice if they breached the contract by making him do 100% of the work. Contract was nullified by them so he could have just left. I am so glad OP stood up for himself and called out the uncle for lying to him. I do feel badly for the other nanny. I wish he had told the other nanny what was going on and that they had violated his contract by not paying him what they agreed (he wouldn't have to say what the amount was) & that his only option was to leave if they wouldn't abide by the contract. I also feel sorry for the kids. The parents used them & they had their feelings hurt, but glad OP left. I have a friend who as a teen would be told by her parents if she did x chore or something they would give her x amount of money. She would do it and then they would say she didn't deserve the cash. One time they promised her $20 and I helped her. They were refusing to pay at all until she pointed out that I had helped her bc she promised to split the $. They gave me $10 and her nothing. I gave the $10 to her. They are also narcissists. Another friend has a grandfather who constantly promises to pay my friend for doing stuff for him and gets him to buy stuff for him (like car parts) and then refused to pay once its done. But my friend has traumatic brain injury and keeps falling for it. I never would have been in a situation as a nanny bc I don't like kids. I would never agree to watch kids for anyone. I'd take a bullet for my friends but I won't babysit. Story 2: Sounds like OP was a decent guy up until the part of him cucking his own son by knocking up the son's gf. Sadly, I know people who have had that happen in my area. A whole lot of cucking going on where I live. He may have been the best dad in the world when they were kids but he is the one who screwed up and lying to family to defame the brother was not right. Good for OP for calling him out on it. OP's wife is right. It's bad enough the brother had to go NC with his own father bc of the betrayal, but if other family were going to treat him badly or cut him off then the father deserved to be called out on it. He is the one who should have kept quiet and not shit-talked his son. NTA. Story 3: I feel so sorry for OP's nephew but I'm so glad OP is there to help him. Kid really needs support. In some states the mother could actually get charged with abuse and the kid could be taken away. I know someone who just had her 17-yr-old grandkids taken away bc she was emotionally & verbally abusing them. NTA. Nephew would probably kill himself without the OP.

[@stephaniewilson3955]

Story 1: I would not have waited until the Monday to leave. I would have left on the Friday afternoon. Last story: nephew would have killed himself if it was not for OP.

[@solidmoon8266]

I hate people who use the family card to cheat people out of what they're owed. Like seriously, family shouldn't cheat family. Even worse when they try to use the kids to manipulate him.

[@vickyyounghensley1269]

I think the Aunt & uncle probably ALWAYS planned to do what they did. I kinda hope the other nanny quit too. I do feel sorry for the kids. The "child psychologist" is so obviously emotionally abusive. The "boys don't cry" is bad enough. But trying to make those kids feel like it was THEIR fault their cousin was leaving - that's pure evil. Kids tend to find ways to make themselves to blame in any case. Wonder how CPS would see it. Somehow,I doubt the toxicity was confined to just those incidents.

[@grammasscotsgirl]

Years and years ago, when I was a teenager, I was what you could call an "in demand babysitter". I was often booked months in advance and back then, most people were paying me between $5 and $8 an hour (back in the 80s). Well, one weekend due to a family emergency, the people I was supposed to babysit for had to cancel so I ended up with an opening. A couple that my parents knew asked me to babysit. They had a 5 yr old and a 6 week old who strictly breastfed (this is important). She said they would only be a couple hours as they "just wanted to go have a dinner without kids" as it was their anniversary. "Two, maybe three hours max and there are two bottles in the fridge with breast milk which should be plenty." Okay. No problem, right? Oh how wrong I was. First, there were NO BOTTLES AT ALL. Nothing. Not even formula. And the 5 yr old? She had NEVER been left with a sitter. Not even her grandparents. It was around 5:30 when they left and it was pre-cell phone days. I didn't even know WHERE they were going for this child-free meal. Baby was crying because he was hungry - and 5 yr old was screaming "You can't tell me what to do! You're not my mom!" over and over again while jumping on the table. After 3 hours of this, I called my mother and told her "There is NO MILK for the baby! She said she left bottles with breast milk in the fridge but there is not even a single BOTTLE in the house let alone any with breast milk!" Mom, bless her, showed up after a 10 mile drive with formula and bottles and a bottle of "baby safe" water and proceeded to make a couple bottles. Thank God Baby was hungry because he did not fuss at all about suddenly having a bottle rather than breast! And the little girl? She was completely silent after Mom glared at her and told her to "sit down and be quiet before I give you are a reason to cry!" (It only lasted as long as Mom was there - she started up again as soon as mom left - but that entire HOUR was golden!!!) So yes, now it was more than 4 hours...then 5...then 6...And finally at FOUR IN THE MORNING they return home because they went out bar hopping! They were DRUNK and so I was stuck in town with NO RIDE home because I was NOT going to take a ride home with drunks! Luckily, another couple I babysat for lived just down the street so I walked over there (she worked at the local pub and she had just gotten home so was awake.) And when I got ready to leave? She handed me FIFTY CENTS!!! And had the audacity to say "We'll need you again next week." I told her "No. I'm booked." She said "Well, cancel it! They probably don't pay as well as I do!" Ma'am! You just paid be FIFTY FUCKING CENTS to deal with a spoiled brat and a screaming baby who had NO FUCKING FOOD! She actually called my mother the next morning to complain about me refusing to babysit, being "rude" to her, and "how dare she feed my baby FORMULA!" Mom told her flat out "You are just lucky calling social services would have been a moot point since they wouldn't have sent anyone out until Monday anyways because I WOULD HAVE CALLED THEM! You left her with NO FOOD for the baby and that girl of yours has NO FUCKING MANNERS and doesn't know how to listen! And then you paid her all of 50 cents when she earns between $5 and $8 an hour from everyone else in town? WHY would she babysit for you?" Word spread pretty fast and NO ONE would babysit for them after that. I'm pretty sure they never went out for a "child free meal" and a "pub crawl" again until the daughter was old enough to babysit her little brother.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

They wanted an indentured servant they could pay minimum wage to with the most important job in their home. Caring for kids is hard work and it’s so underpaid it’s sickening

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Don't know about being the most vile of mums, but she's certainly well up there. I would have done the same as OP if this was my nephew.

[@kwillpen]

He should have told the nanny about his pay.

[@lewischase]

Good afternoon Mr Reddito Hope everyone has a great weekend

[@trudifruty6078]

I would of quit on the spot grabbed my stuff an left

[@MichaelLarson-uu6bc]

Never work for family. They will mistreat you and expect you to be ok with it

[@blackice7023]

Hi all. Mr. Reddito, sorry for misspellings. Could u please turn up the out put for ur story mic. Ur commit mic is great, but story mic is very soft and hard for me and other hard of hearing people to turn our phones up high enough to hear the stories. And this is so sad be I love to listen to ur stories and do so daily.;)