Understanding Loneliness After Divorce

[@roytindall6730]

Divorce hurts, loneliness hurts, she already has someone else, that hurts. Yet feeling like I still belong to her, that hurts.

[@fuiplu]

Couldn't have said it better

[@tbee1575]

Whew. You took the words RIGHT out of my mouth....

[@dasaddestklown2896]

Yes. All of the above.12 years later, it still hurts.

[@MikeM247]

I know your pain. Let's keep our heads up.

[@nathanmacari4954]

7 years and 3 kids. living in a state that you aren't from and with no family. I moved here for her. Now I'm completely alone.

[@thelizardking9382]

It is one of the most traumatic things you can go through in life. I know. My wife is divorcing me.I just don't know how I will go on without her. 28 years married and I see it disappearing before my eyes and there's nothing I can do. She looks right through me and is so hostile it is heartbreaking. As if she never knew me. It hurts . I will always love her.

[@librapower7810]

Your situation is almost identical to mine it's as if I have written this , 23 years of life invalidated for me I have PTSD now, so grateful to have stumbled on this site

[@robertzygarowski4037]

27.7 years married, and as a man going through exactly the same things. She will not even consider the possibility of reconciliation. Served me amicable divorce papers 3 days ago. I was in denial and didn’t think this was going to happen. Ve heard once a woman makes up her mind.....it’s made up. But she is also willing to be roommates!?!?

[@aliciat2216]

This is just like my brothers situation!!!!! I’ve been trying to help him realize what she’s done to him and I think he’s finally realized she’s a narcissist. I don’t want him to fall into another relationship and get hurt again or hurt someone else. I don’t know how to help him with this because I know what it’s like to go through a divorce and be lonely. I’m sending this video to him now and hopefully he can comment and talk with you guys because he’s taking it hard. It’s been 2 months since she left him and their 2 boys. Yes she left her boys behind too!!!

[@crissdrums3975]

Im the same

[@mibutler]

26 years. Ambushed me as I came downstairs one morning. Instantly she seemed like a different person. We're civil to each other, but I'm taking it really hard. I wish you the best. I am trying to move on, but it's really difficult.

[@divorcedevilyoutubechannel3582]

Loneliness was one of the hardest things for me to get over. Loneliness can allow you to make the wrong decisions at the wrong time.

[@samu4890]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm devastated right now and I feel like my world had collapsed.

[@MS-ns4ki]

@@peaceandhumanity5705whatever

[@lifegenius763]

Thank you for such an honest account of the impact of divorce. I totally empathise. Its been 4 years since my divorce. It gets better each day but you still remember those horribles times. Also, your right about the good times; they all become toxic. Its a slow journey to recovery. Having a structure in yr day really helps and planning ahead. Having a trusted core group of people to draw on 4 support is key to yr recovery. Loneliness has also guven me lots of time 4 deep reflection and insights. I am much more happier and fulfilled in my life now as my happiness comes from within which is projected to the outside world making the law of attraction work for me. I also ensure I make a significant contribution in everything I do..the people I choose to be with or work with and always give back and help other communities in need...it makes me feels so proud of myself and worthy to be happy.

[@Itsisawnotiseen]

13 years later. I still feel it.

[@deanalainv]

13 years later ? No other relationships since ?

[@princenelson6010]

P Wilson damn son

[@Itsisawnotiseen]

AD yes but nothing compared to what I lost. My best friend.

[@fuiplu]

Man...I'm the same way after 7 years..I'm still a mess

[@crissdrums3975]

Wow

[@toyfoxythemangletangle6306]

It's the hardest thing I ever have to deal with. 14 yrs married and I thought I knew her. So many lies. I feel so numb, so lost. I ended it. I had no choice. I can only forgive someone so much. What you said really makes so much sense. I appreciate the video and the advice you give.

[@nickdrahorad9086]

I’m in the same boat 10 years of the lies and cheating an I finally filed for divorce it is single handed the hardest thing I’ve ever been through I live the woman to death but it has to be done

[@windanda5630]

The one thing that really helped me to fall in love with myself and my life was Forwago. I can not believe how much happier person I am now than I was before. Please love yourself, it is one of the easiest ways to dramatically improve your life.

[@aggiesoldier]

So thankful for someone who actually understands.

[@baileybug776]

So true about staying in the marital home after my husband left me after 40 years of marriage. I am left to be the sole caretaker of this house and grounds that are too empty, too big and too painful to take care of

[@erachmah]

Sell it!

[@melb2258]

I’ve been thru a brutal divorce and thru a death of a spouse and both left me snd my children empty and alone. The family outings are so sad and lonely that my kids don’t even ask to be taken anywhere. Watching other families out there makes me feel so different and undeserving … just have hope that this will one day change and be wanted and loved again and be blessed with a forever family. Prayer is all I have.

[@erikakatariya4546]

I hope things have brightened for you Mel ❤

[@simplystacey5483]

Thank for giving me a good cry! Thank u for making me feel im not alone!!

[@ChrisJohnson-hx7ld]

such is life it's not easy being lonely alone without the person you love, but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number [phone] 😇

[@salmabh210]

U r not alone :)

[@kapilgarg8865]

I am passing through the same. Very hard days these are!!

[@divorcetv7311]

All of these comments are so impactful and Thankyou for sharing. Totally resonate with your observation of leaving the court room and realising that person used to be the most important to you. Divorce is not just heart breaking but life breaking too yet it can be the start of a new chapter too.

[@aronhiroshi1]

I have a quite amicable divorce and many things I should be grateful for, yet I still can't be happy, I'm depressed and sad all the time, and it's messing up my life.

[@AvaFan002]

Thank you for sharing it really is appreciated. There is a lot of despair in life right now and I can’t see the light. Thank you for sharing.

[@anthonysantacruz896]

I am alive I will survive!!

[@bro7269]

It’s been 3 weeks since she told me she wants a divorce.....this sucks, I just want my normal back.

[@SatisfyingJoyMotive1222]

i`m experiencing 2 difficult years after divorce. i`m so lonely and still feel like i`m in a bondage even i`m struggling by many ways to get out of it

[@michelletaylor369]

I feel you 18 years I let him put everything in his name long story short he’s up 650K liquid assets & I was the one making money the entire relationship. All of my friends were him, & his family. I have NO FAMILY NO FRIENDS, & am starting over again literally after starting over new car, renting apts., I took nothing but my 5 cats, & a bed. He was having an affair with the next door neighbor she’s married too. It’s been 3 years I’m disabled so I can’t work & it’s getting so difficult. Much love to everyone who reads this. Loosing my kitties so far 1 was only 4 & unexpectedly had a heart issue out of no where & had to be put to sleep I was closer to my Migi than anyone & I lost him too. ☮️

[@irvingg.1437]

We still all live together but in the process of divorce. My fear is when my kids aren't here anymore and this house is silent. I'm scared of that. I'm so used to the kids being here and the routines of bedtime, weekends etc is now going to be cut in half. It's scary to me

[@Steve8-bw8]

Thank you, your open vulnerable manner is both heart warming and heart breaking , describing precisely how i am felling right now x

[@peaceandhumanity5705]

You'll be alright,trust me! I don't mean to pry but what have you been up to lately? What do you do for fun?

[@quigleyzee4033]

Wow, thanks for presenting this video! I've been alone for a long time, and isolation has been so easy to do. I've found ways to be somewhat happy, but sometimes I do get out there and mingle a little because social connection is so fun. But isolation is a big mountain for me.

[@ApexMyndset]

Im a guy, 38, my wife left me (no kids) 3 weeks after my dad passed away...We were married for 9 years, and this woman I didnt have many fights with in the last year, but I was lonely in the last 3 years of marriage so I dont despise her moving on, but after dads death, it was a double blow. Many days of my life are excruciatingly painful.... I dont want her back, i dont miss her, but im in a very crazy limbo of my life and once best friends, now that they are married, arent very welcoming either anymore which really sucks. They dont want me on trips as their wives think id be a bad influence.... this really sucks!! I make pretty good money, but inside its pure torture

[@mozsmith2121]

I read your comment and felt your pain. I am going through that right now. My wife just told me it's over two weeks before this thanksgiving that just passed. I am in a dark place. I feel so empty and alone. I force myself to go to work. Because I have to but honestly I just want to die.

[@ApexMyndset]

@@mozsmith2121 No man, dont let negative thoughts creep in. Since my comment, one thing I have done is to realize that I literally have two choices. One to sulk and fall into this spiral of emotional abyss, or take charge of my life, health, food, and daily choices I made (made). Sometimes we get stuck in these weird habits, that when we start slowly reflecting on them, makes us realize why were arent happy. One book you should pick up and read (totally applied to my life), and it has really changed my perspective on things. Its called, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" Also, I joined some forums and group therapy helped me realize being single is quite a blessing. Not to go around banging chicks, but to truly find who you are and that really comes from saving and taking a retreat of a couple of days even to somewhere warm and where no one knows you. Go alone to bars, restaurants and enjoy moments with your ownself. I just went to hawaii (trust me Im not very rich), but i did it. Rented a car, played golf and in 5 days finished 3 books. Id just lied down in the convertible I rented, top down, and in the middle of nowhere read these books, took pictures, sat by waterfalls, and I came back home supercharged to take on whatever life throws at me. Save some money and do this. Now whenever negativity creeps in, I go to my new happy place in memory, those hours and days in solitary peace and tranquility. 3 weeks ago, I didnt think I could live another day... Life is precious my friend. Dont let these things get in the way of true pursuit of happiness.

[@ApexMyndset]

@@mozsmith2121 No man, dont let negative thoughts creep in. Since my comment, one thing I have done is to realize that I literally have two choices. One to sulk and fall into this spiral of emotional abyss, or take charge of my life, health, food, and daily choices I make. Sometimes we get stuck in these weird habits, that when we start slowly reflecting on them, makes us realize why we weren't happy. One book you should pick up and read (totally applied to my life), and it has really changed my perspective on things. Its called, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" Also, I joined some forums and group therapy helped me realize being single is quite a blessing. Not to go around banging chicks, but to truly find who you are and that really comes from saving and taking a retreat of a couple of days even to somewhere warm and where no one knows you. Go alone to bars, restaurants and enjoy moments with your ownself. I just went to hawaii (trust me Im not very rich), but i did it. Rented a car, played golf and in 5 days finished 3 books. Id just lied down in the convertible I rented, top down, and in the middle of nowhere read these books, took pictures, sat by waterfalls, and I came back home supercharged to take on whatever life throws at me. Save some money and do this. Now whenever negativity creeps in, I go to my new happy place in memory, those hours and days in solitary peace and tranquility. 3 weeks ago, I didnt think I could live another day... Life is precious my friend. Dont let these things get in the way of true pursuit of happiness.

[@mozsmith2121]

@@ApexMyndset All that stuff you did sounds amazing. Emotionally I am just not there yet. Her and I still live together. We are currently in the process of packing etc. But it's so hard cause she goes out with friends and doesn't come home till next morning. Its like we are strangers. And I still love her so much. I feel like I am gonna have a heart attack. My chest is tight and breathing or eating is hard. I feel so alone.

[@mozsmith2121]

@Davo Rebo Thanks man. I am trying. I bought a new car. Since my wife has our other one. We live apart now. The pain is still heavy. Everything is harder since we are all stuck inside with this covid-19. I can't travel or spend time with friends. Just go to work and come home to now my roommates instead home to my wife. Seperating is tough and now with covid-19 it's fucken even harder. I miss my wife.. I miss the life she took from me. 😞 I gave her over a decade of my life.

[@trevp8618]

She cheated and lied to me. After 25 years she is gone with the new guy. Doesn’t even bother her for what she has done to me.

[@staleydu1]

I feel you, Trev. Same here. Only way forward is to not give her any more of my life by dwelling on her.

[@melaniedemingo5869]

Same here. Sorry my brother. I try not to dwell on what he and his younger girlfriend are doing...have to think forward. Keep looking up.

[@etechjd8260]

I am a man. Just separated. ...Thanks for your good words.

[@taliyasiddique3126]

Divorce for women is much hard than men 😢

[@ytuser13082011]

I would never leave such gentle and wise woman as you are.

[@MPR57]

Recently separated after being together for 21 years. Now 63 and wonder if this is it for me now? Alone for good? No family left. Difficult time

[@tonycassel6186]

38 years together I'm 62. I feel your pain. I will love her till the last breath that I take.

[@bailynewcity2069]

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[@bailynewcity2069]

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[@baileybug776]

I understand. My husband of 40 years just left me 2 months ago and I am devastated and my emotions are all over the place. You feel like half of your body is gone. I am praying for you and for me that we get through this 🙏

[@SilveryFoxster]

I was divorced 10 years ago, I still love my ex wife, I feel so lonely and empty without her. If it wasn’t for our two children and the pain I know it would cause them I’d have taken my life a long time ago.

[@stveganthedivine945]

Sending you love, Eddie. Hope you’re taking care of yourself.

[@SilveryFoxster]

stveganthedivine : Thank you

[@berec52]

Don't give up

[@SilveryFoxster]

Berenice Camacho : Thank you

[@peaceandhumanity5705]

@@SilveryFoxster You'll be fine Eddie! I have some self help tips, if you don't mind I can share them with you....

[@suchismitasaha4319]

Thank you for making me feel i am not alone..,its been 2 years since divorce and it still hurts.

[@geoffdixonsintes5167]

Thanks for the video, indeed loneliness after a divorce is a great struggle, it's been 3 years now and unfortunately both of my parents passed away. Like to say lovely smile you have

[@Stevie_Lynn]

I'm seeing this now a year later...but I needed it! Thank you! I feel everything you are saying! 💜

[@berec52]

Me too

[@christos574]

I am going through it for the past 6 years, now getting divorced...while every heart beat is still for her.....

[@baileybug776]

At this point I feel paralyzed because it has only been 3 months since he left and filed for divorce

[@koru6610]

After my 30 year manage descended into family violence ending with a protection order, I had no choice but to leave with my youngest daughter. I lost all my animals, my home (omg that still hurts so badly ) as well as my husband who went of to a promotion and a new well off partner who now calls herself Grandma to our first grandchild..Unbelievably painful and so much grief. I now live in rental in the city and have struggled hard with how I start again from scratch at 60.

[@YAHOVAH]

The list that you provided about loneliness made me cry to the point of uncontrollably please pray for me I miss my ex wife and I made bad choices because of my arrogance and I couldn't see past the end of my nose not knowing I was losing my other have someone that knew me for me... I can't stop crying... I ruined my marriage to a good woman.

[@lisaarends8742]

And you’re learning and growing now. Sometimes it takes a huge mistake for that to happen.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I'm very sorry for your pain, whichever end of the betrayal end you were on. Can I ask please, were you the one that cheated, or was she the one, but you feel you drove her to it somehow? This might help me cope w/ my own burden a bit too.

[@leigholding1397]

It's been 10 years. I can now laugh at the whole thing. Single just like before marriage. Life is better now

[@jht09]

Thank you for your support and advice and direction I hope your video gets around it is very good

[@RocketVet]

My wife of 11 years left me (for someone else she was seeing/cheating on me with) and I'm alone now. The aloneness comes and goes. It's been many months now. She is on her third new relationship since the first. I've lost my home, most of my stuff, and only see my kids half the time of course. It's brought me closer to my spirituality again (one of the reasons she left me, she thought religion is stupid) but I still feel lacking often. I heard that when one is divorced it is sinful to remarry again or have another relationship again and that's been crushing me. Knowing I'll never experience the touch and love of another again (I'm 37) is utterly heartbreaking to me right now. I'm holding on to the "one day there will be something better" after this life but I don't want this one to feel this bad. I try to keep a smile on my face every day and tell everyone "I'm okay" and that I'm doing well. Try to just go about my life. I pour myself into scripture, prayer, and meditation but it still feels daunting to know I will feel this hurt for probably many more decades. I don't really know what to do to feel better. I feel like discarded trash.

[@lisaarends8742]

I am so sorry you’re going through this. The pain and loneliness can definitely feel overwhelming at times. It sounds like you put on a brave face to those around you. Do you have someone in your life that you’re able to be open with?

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

You are completely in the clear on remarrying as a Christian. The scripture is explicit that cheating absolves the spouse and they are free to marry again. Please don't think this pain will be w/ you for decades. It won't. It will be a distant memory that you can think abstractly about someday. At worst, there will be the odd pang, but nothing like this. I hope things are already fading and more manageable 7 months later. I hope you see this and the love and empathy of strangers that share your pain will boost you a bit.

[@NicolinaDanielle]

“Nor should they” actually they absolutely should. People should extend support to each other - yes even strangers

[@robsawyers6505]

I feel it in spades for sure. I often feel hopeless and the void is OVERWHELMING.

[@peaceandhumanity5705]

Hey! I understand your pain... Maybe you don't hear this often enough but I'm proud of you! Trust me you'll overcome this! Can we talk?

[@robsawyers6505]

@@peaceandhumanity5705 thank you for your kindness. I am here if you would like to talk more

[@peaceandhumanity5705]

@@robsawyers6505 You're welcome! Oh great! Actually it's quite a private issue... Are you on Instagram?

[@robsawyers6505]

@@peaceandhumanity5705 yes I am

[@peaceandhumanity5705]

@@robsawyers6505 okay... What's your IG handle(username)?

[@ashishtiwari1912]

One reason why I hate adulthood. I wish I could go back in time when I was 10 years and feel protected under my parents. I think as we age we become more vulnerable to the harsh realities of life- loneliness, depression and hopelessness all around us.

[@honesty9360]

Your words helped a lot. Really because I am going trough this situation now. Thank you. And you are very beautiful also ❤️

[@librapower7810]

You are literally a life saver with this content thank you so much 😃

[@E87-y5j]

My wife of 14 years told me it was over a few days ago and is now living with her friend until we get divorced. Such a weird and wide range of emotions. I am gutted, shocked, saddened, depressed, but there’s also a slight mix of relief and excitement as to what comes next.

[@TheodorusRex]

Yes, yes, yes - everything said here, yes... 7 months now.

[@javablade7247]

Divorce has served only to put hatred in my heart toward all people. It's very hard and mentally debilitating

[@chrisdominator3552]

i wish i could just sit with you for coffee and talk... thanks

[@peaceandhumanity5705]

Hey! Can we talk?

[@tbee1575]

Me too☹️

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

"You've lost so much, and you haven't YET learned to fill that void". Yet, there's the optimism. It's a very painful void, it's a betrayal vaccuum, but it will fill in over time. Oh, the excruciating slow passage of time for awhile. it does pass though and every void can be filled. Be careful to be good to yourself and put good and better things in that void.

[@lisaarends8742]

Beautifully said.

[@JTDyer21]

Loneliness is bad enough but when you add divorce to the mess it's one of the most difficult roads you'll ever travel in life. However if your given lemons you find a way to make lemonade and lemonade is actually a cool refreshing drink, especially in the hot summer heat.

[@berec52]

I though I was doing good and moving on until he introduced his girlfriend. I have to start over again. But this time, with a new project and that's me.

[@anthonysantacruz896]

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[@troeyz7161]

Thank you Lisa...you inspire me to get out and do more.

[@basicprogrammer6147]

I keep having a recurring dream that we are in the courthouse together, but she is ignoring me except for basic comments to get the process moving along, and that she is not interested in me at all. And in my dream, I can feel emotion, and my emotion is that she is for someone else, not me. And sometimes in my dream, I try to shout at her to respond, but she does not respond. And I feel in my dream how right she is, and that I will never be with her again. Then I wake up. And my life is exactly like my dream.

[@Ron20042004]

Lots of really hard situations on these threads. I’m finishing my divorce. May be another way for us to all look at it as we are going through a very hard situation but what are we doing to make it worse. Reality is reality.:: our spouses of many years do not feel the same and want to be with us we need to take our value realize it and move forward with our lives. People doing in the worse situations amd we can too!!! Not one person regardless of how many years married can be our main identity.

[@fourleaf8055]

How?

[@cristinazoli]

I m divorced after 34 years married and this loneliness drive me crazy.. he is moved on and I'm here feel miserable and can't click yet ..why

[@drorlavi4700]

yes absolutely my wife always gave me to feel lonely and not loved for the last 16 years and now we are living in different places we are not divorce yet but I feel the same with or without her .

[@lisaarends8742]

That is a sad place to be.

[@jeremiahkrob4903]

Divorce sucks! I get abuse or adultery, that I get, but work it out. Grow together, talk it out.

[@febamethysthernandez5440]

Absolutely!! I’m standing for my marriage.

[@billmulcahy3527]

This video spoke to me. Thank you!

[@robc3887]

It’s been 3 months for me, we are still in the process. She is no longer the woman I loved, she has become so cruel and mean. I get triggered when I do see her and angry and I say things I don’t mean. It hurts so bad, I miss my friend, I miss my wife, my life, she was my world. I don’t understand and I want to be angry but I can’t. I feel loyal to her still even though she is gone, no contact for the most part. I fill so lonely and I want to figure out how to move on. I did get a tattoo, my 1st, my son said she was sooo angry.

[@lisaarends8742]

Three months is a rough patch - the reality is setting in and yet you’re still in the thick of it. It’s natural to grieve what has been lost b

[@ctoxyz]

this mirrors my current state. i even got a tattoo of her name on my finger w my last money… thank u for sharing this comment

[@reinaa7450]

Girl, you get it.

[@beccadenton6109]

You verbalize everything im feeling and thinking so well

[@beccadenton6109]

@Chris Johnson thanks! I appreciate you reaching out to me. I have been doing better since I watched this video. I know Jesus is right here with me even though I felt alone he never left my side. I almost gave up on Him but He hasn't let me go.

[@visine83]

Thank you Lisa! 💖

[@stefanmannn]

The first holyday with kids and their mom, that was lonely..

[@thefunkyangel]

I’m separated now 😪

[@redvine1105]

Ugh. I hate the fact that I have to find myself looking up these sort of videos on KZbin :(

[@lisaarends8742]

I'm so sorry. It's a club we never wanted to join.

[@wishes8737]

Still there 3 years on

[@paulthomas3841]

I was working 24/7, nights more money, when I came home at 6am in the morning all the kids 2 and her clothes had gone, £2000 a month I was bringing home,

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[@chandranchan4632]

Thank you for sharing

[@helenaoki5079]

This channel is just spot on! 🙌🏾

[@basicprogrammer6147]

I think the reason people feel lonely when thinking of their ex is because they start to imagine their ex as being on a much higher intellectual level and much more "in tune" with the world. They aren't. You know who is? Authors of great books. Read them. For fun, read Rex Stout's Nero Wolfe corpus. Then, pack 6 beers and two fatties in your backpack and go for a walk, either through the hood, the forest, or downtown Chicago.

[@Fegga1955]

very helpful.thank you

[@shadiasoufanbarghouthi8850]

Thank you ..

[@paulevans292]

I would have glanced your way...just saying

[@franciscomolina4459]

Excellent advice, thanks 👍🏼

[@zayless8287]

ASBA

[@ctoxyz]

going through this now.

[@lisaarends8742]

I am so sorry. I hope that you can find ways to feel connected again.

[@doreen3763]

My 28yr son took his life pending a fast divorce she wanted. Rip Tanner 💔🥲

[@lisaarends8742]

Oh, there are no words. How devastating and completely tragic. I am so very sorry for the loss of your son.