Understanding the Mother Wound in Men (The Man Rules 02)

[@danlemmon2739]

My mom left my dad for my baseball coach when I was 11 years old. I didn’t see my mom for over 6 months. In the meantime my dad quickly attached to another women and she moved in with her kids in less than the year my mom left. My dad turned on myself and my sister and favoured his new wife and kids. I am now 51 and have processed so much inner child work that has led me to see the immature parents that raised me and my sister. Thank god for men’s groups and psychedelic medicine that immensely helped me raise my inner boy with compassion and loving awareness. Healing takes patience and a loving safe environment for the wounds I have experienced. I am a survivor!! I thank my inner child everyday for the protection he provided for me to survive.

[@RickBelden]

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm very happy to hear that you've found the resources you've needed on the inside as well as the outside (both are needed) to work your way through to a better place in yourself and in your life.

[@baritunde]

I'm female and found this video to be so healing & empowering. We have the same mother/father wounds in our lives. I guess part of the tragedy is growing up in toxicity, being a child & having zero healthy parenting. Part of the grief is that we had NO PARENTS & had to just survive it as a little kid. As for women being "relationship experts," I would rephrase it as women being socialized to want relationships more than men are. Anyway, thanks for being so courageous & transparent because your courage is helping & encouraging people to heal. Thank you so much.

[@RickBelden]

Thanks very much for taking the time to watch and share your thoughts. I'm glad it's been helpful for you.

[@TheMarabest]

@@RickBelden I m a woman too, and your poem "The grief I will not let myself feel "makes me cry every time I read it. Since the first time reading it I've read ""The drama of the gifted child"" by Alice Miller and understood my mother was not the angel I thought she was. Your work and poem helped me a lot, thank you! I have a son and I try to be more conscious and work with myself to be a good mother for him.

[@RickBelden]

@@TheMarabest Thanks so much for your comment. I'm glad to know my poem and work have been meaningful and helpful for you. Learning to see your own mother, and your experience with her, more clearly and more accurately is an excellent way to help your son, as well as yourself. I wish you well as you continue to heal, develop, and apply your new understanding.

[@TheCoffeeCat]

I'd love to listen to a podcast about a mother wound of a different nature - when the mother is neglectful, hurtful and belittling of a male child. I've had a relationship with a man with this type of mother wound and, even though it's over, I'd love to be able to understand him better.

[@RickBelden]

Hi Amanda. Thank you for your comment. I agree that would be an excellent topic and I'll keep it in mind.

[@Fimreite1]

There are twelve step men’s meetings where men can deal with their childhood trauma. These meetings worked well for me.

[@Calida2308]

Wht about a men with a mother who left when he was 10 n returned when he was 16? He said "I had no mother, I got raised by a single father of 4 Children " he used to be a pro basketball player, is very ambitious, serious n had a long term rs of 5 years. They had argues about the smallest Things n their way to communicate wasn't right. He told me I got assets tht really could get him stuck.. But I'm actually scared, tht this guy could Tend to fall for Unstable rs with woman he have to prove himself.. So I'm scared he would not be able to see love in my caring n loving behavior? I did a lot of work myself. To which type of woman tend men with a mother who left? He said he felt no support during his rs. N I'm very sure he likes my Way of thinking about creating a bond n actually wants this, but ends up Falling for the opposite I'm bringing him out of his shell a little bit n tht it's been a while.. But somehow it feels like he go silent a lil.

[@followerofthecreator]

Ok so what does it look like for men to have a narcacist father but loving mother? I know my boys have chose woman who are narcacist...not all of them but a few of them

[@RickBelden]

I can't address that question specifically in this context, but you might find my video "Understanding the Father Wound in Men" helpful. You can watch it at kzbin.info/www/bejne/joTKlWyYbruoq5o.