Understanding Your Loved Ones OCD by Jonathan Grayson PhD

[@Awjikis]

I’m crying right now I’m happy someone understands how I’ve been feeling

[@masimmomasimmo]

I'm crying so much because it gets so hard sometimes to live like this, I just want to be a normal person instead of living in this mental prison.

[@mylcah]

Same

[@LegacyProductionsOrg]

invitation. offer empathy to the family member you are impacting. that shift away from self may shift you to a better place.

[@palehorse4447]

Same here. I’m a disabled veteran and Yes, I have OCD very bad and never realized why I was this until watching this. Sadly my wife has seemed have it as well years of being my caregiver.

[@slimsheydy8850]

Me too.suffeeing from OCD 24 years

[@mr.x8880]

As an OCD sufferer I sure love times people have an easy time thinking I can just snap out of it and have told me to do so seemingly without realizing that’s a lot like telling a deaf person to listen harder.

[@kmaru80]

'This is your life now' sums it up nicely

[@tarasierralee]

I recently started dating a guy with OCD. I suffer from anxiety and panic disorder and am a behavioral health nurse, but I don't know what it's like to suffer from OCD. This video was extremely helpful. Thank you.

[@Jennykikik9586]

Are we the same person…?

[@19111959]

This man is a genius....period!.

[@jenf7309]

Facts

[@peabrane8067]

There's no way to understand OCD without actually suffering it.

[@peabrane8067]

@@Dreamingofivoryart No, it's not. You should help her/him/them seek exposure response therapy. Not understanding OCD doesn't mean that you need to tolerate someone else's OCD compulsions.

[@aleanbh3808]

@@Dreamingofivoryart that isn’t guilt tripping. You can tolerate your own distress at the consequences of you not putting it out at the prescribed time (eg being screamed at), you can respond instead of reacting. I’m not saying we family members should impose ERP on a loved one, that’s not our job. But we can just in small ways halt the snowballing effect of enabling ocd thoughts to be perceived as facts.

[@MetalForLife1970]

💯

[@firstcoffeeoftheday]

So hard not to cry at the end of this video for someone dealing with OCD . I hope everyone has loving and supportive people around them

[@JasonCHern-xu7py]

This is the best and most impactful video that I have seen; especially due to it’s brevity to help my mother and father as well as the rest of my family start to begin to understand and appreciate the hell that is my suffocating OCD and, how it impacts my life every single waking second of the day! Sincerely thank you so very much for making this phenomenal video and tool to help all of those greatly suffering with the hell on earth that is OCD! God Bless you sir and anyone struggling with OCD as well as everyone else!

[@KimberlyRikal-cu2cu]

WOW THANK U !!!! THIS IS A GREAT EXPLANATION OF OCD. I WAS SO HAPPY TO HEAR THIS AND SHOWED IT TO EVERY FAMILY MEMBER AND FRIEND. I DONT EXPECT PEOPLE TO COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND, I JUST NEED TO BE HEARD. THANK U FOR ALL U DO I MET U IN CHICAGO YOUR GREAT! I LIMIT MY CAFFEINE AND MAKE MYSELF EVERYDAY EXERCISE...I TRY TO SLEEP WHENEVER I CAN.. IM IMPROVING BUT THE STRUGGLE IS SO REAL

[@EmsLionheart]

Great start trying to help loved ones understand 🕊

[@maureenw7553]

Perfect exercise/analogy

[@mikeyerian2562]

I have harm OCD. His example is pretty darned near perfect.

[@zeel4840]

OMG! This is what I need ! Thank you!

[@andresalvarez6784]

Love this. I spent a few minutes looking for a video in Spanish that could help me explain OCD to my family, and couldn't find one. The amount of disinformation is crazy... I guess they will be watching this one with Spanish subtitles. Thank you

[@skepticmonkey6923]

This is a great video!

[@DynastyHeroes]

I’ve been suffering from OCD for the past 10 years or so and it’s really making it difficult to enjoy life I constantly find things on a daily basis that cause me anxiety and stress, I’ve tried medication, I’ve tried CBT I don’t know how to improve it, the only time i get peace from my thoughts is when I’m asleep

[@anthonystitt3052]

Have you tried Exposure Response Therapy? If you haven't, that's what you want to do.

[@eduardafabara]

This is me!

[@lillykathleen89]

Thank you for this.

[@verydenise]

This is very good. Thank you. I have ocd.

[@oliverwest2835]

This is a powerful video thank you

[@Kay-lr3kj]

Great explanation thank you

[@DovZeev]

It's not that I don't want to understand what it's like, but I would like to know why some do not seek the latest treatments and instead continue to put their family and friends in that dilemma: if I push, then you'll founder; if I do nothing, you take over.

[@mikeyerian2562]

Because if you have OCD you learn to depend on the fear. You learn that it is part of your life and by having the fear you feel you can control it. OCD is about control. If you learn to live with it, and that's really what all OCD therapy is about, because you won't "Cure it", the fear is that you'll not be vigilant and something bad will happen. At the core of OCD is uncertainty. Since we cannot ever be certain of anything holding on to a fear, where we have some illusion of control, is better than living with it or letting it go, where we know we definitely have no control.

[@ryk6207]

Sounds like a good exercise, simple and effective.

[@tdc3298]

I totally relate.. I have OCD

[@alexskywalker5478]

I only wrote "I want mom" and then you said what else to write and I refused to write the rest. I erased what I wrote after you finished the video. I cannot write that. I refuse. I love my mom and I would never want that to happen to her. I understand this exercise is how to make us understand. It's interesting. I'm researching OCD cuz of my brother

[@Youtubeuser10873]

Also there’s something called manifesting that i’m afraid of

[@tyc44-s1x]

thank you

[@revan4130]

Nothing confuses me more than when people AND MOSTLY THERAPISTS say "Why worry about something you can't control" as if that's supposed to be comforting? I'm worrying because I CAN'T control it! It's not an egotistical thing nor narcissistic tendency. But saying "don't worry about things you cant control" like BRO THAT'S WHAT I'M WORRYING ABOUT

[@mikeyerian2562]

I often got "well, stop worrying" or "snap out of it", etc.

[@Cmadhu-iu2wu]

Hi is there any solution for OCD staring? Please help me

[@adamhonestyanddecency5054]

Although an OCD sufferer myself, I'm not quite sure what OCD staring is, so it's a little hard for me to answer. What I do know is that this man wrote a book, and it has been helpful to many. Google it. Best of luck.

[@mkmllrc]

Im a sufferer too, just reply here 🙂

[@tera7805]

thank you dr. Grayson

[@whatshisname3304]

i wrote it down and gave it to my loved one. was that wrong?

[@AndrewThompson-zh1et]

I have ADHD; and do not understand this at all. Now that it's in my wallet, what do I do with it? Am I implicating myself, if something horrible should happen?!? This video is entirely too short, and explains extremely little, if anything at all.

[@AndrewThompson-zh1et]

I've watched this multiple times, and am still not "getting" what he is talking about... Can someone please help me?

[@AndrewThompson-zh1et]

... still watching this. It does not make me feel uncomfortable; just confused. This is more than a little frustrating.

[@AndrewThompson-zh1et]

I wrote down, in pencil, on paper, "Is a sentence, I'd like you to write down that, I want , and write the name down of somebody whose really dear to you who you m'love, and do that, and now, I want you to write down, to die a horrible painful death"...

[@AddictedToMayer]

I'm confused, too (Coincidentally, I also have ADHD). A lot of people in the comments are grateful for the analogy, but I just don't understand what result it's supposed to yield. How does this practice help me understand OCD? Not enough explanation...

[@lastthingsministry]

He is trying to show you that a huge part of OCD is intrusive thoughts and usually about a loved one getting hurt. This is the obsession of OCD. The compulsion part is a ritual that the person does to get rid of the obsessional intrusive thoughts such as washing hands until they bleed. It is very common for people with OCD to worry about contamination issues so they may worry that they undercooked food or food is off and they have poisoned themselves or the rest of their family. That is why the exercise asked you to write this horrible thing down. This is the kind of intrusive thought people with OCD regularly have and they will do anything to get rid of it (rigid repetitive rituals). These rituals may sooth the worry a little but they then wear off so they have to be done again and again to sooth again. It is like being a slave to these thoughts, having a bully in the brain. It is absolutely exhausting.

[@ImportedMantra]

Jesus Christ im doing this exercise to understand my partner for a week and its already excruciating

[@mikeyerian2562]

Imagine being like this for years...for me it's been 30.

[@melissapolidano5720]

This just stopped me in my tracks. I have a blank paper in front of me....

[@Kkkaytey]

Can suffers of OCD become violent? I am frightened by my neighbor's behaviour.

[@IOCDF]

OCD is marked by intrusive and unwanted thoughts that are typically accompanied by rituals to alleviate distress. While sufferers of OCD may experience thoughts of harm, these thoughts provoke intense anxiety, which they aim to diminish through their compulsions. People with OCD have no increased likelihood of causing actual harm and do not engage in the feared, harmful actions. We recommend you read this blog article. Learning the truth about OCD is the best way to reduce fear and stigma. iocdf.org/blog/2023/02/08/iocdf-launches-campaign-against-misinformation/

[@mikeyerian2562]

@@IOCDF If there's a comorbidity, like Borderline Personality Disorder yes a person with OCD could become violent.

[@keepawayfromme2023]

😢

[@slimsheydy8850]

No one can understand us. 😢 Ocd is a monster.its a curse.i can not escape from this.i'm suffuring a lot .

[@subiesweetheart2087]

I wish a loved one could get it I know for a fact if my bf well ex now watched this he wouldn't even care nor write it down

[@crestfallenraven]

Soooo. OCD is psychopathy!?!

[@xboxman1710]

Psychopathy is the absence of empathy were with OCD it can be the opposite as people that suffer from it often feel extreme guilt because they worry that these thoughts might lead them to harm someone or themselves. Someone with psychopathy couldn't careless if their actions harmed anyone else.

[@mkmllrc]

Staring OCD

[@EmsLionheart]

Heeelllll no 1:11 I wasn't writing that. It may come true. 😅

[@LegacyProductionsOrg]

why is it always on the family member to give the empathy, understanding and compassion to the person with ocd. friicken maybe the one with ocd needs to learn the negative impact he or she is having on others and gives understanding and compassion.

[@Hinarushi]

If a loved one suffers from mental illness, it is a good idea to want to help them up. With OCD, the sufferer does things they do not want to do. It is hard for them to figure out the issue sometimes and maybe even views it as having not such a huge impact on their family. It is frustrating, but external help is often needed. Imagine your loved one has schizophrenia, is an alcoholic or substance abuser. Their family might suffer because of them but they would still need the help and support of their close ones. That will help in the recovery of the suffering person AND the ones who are also suffering with them.

[@LegacyProductionsOrg]

@@Hinarushi thanks.

[@TanWilson-zf2fe]

@@Hinarushi exactly my point?!!

[@mikeyerian2562]

Well, kid, OCD sufferers do understand. But OCD is an illness. If you have a family member with cancer, and he shits himself, and he knows what he's putting you through, are you going to tell him about the "negative impact" his illness is having on the family? I hope you're never a burden to anyone.

[@jrvmonteiro]

SHAME ON YOU FOR MAKING THIS!! Shame on you for not giving hope at the end of this video. My brother had OCD. He sent his family this video 5 days before he committed suicide. His note said these words, ”my brain wants me to die a horrible, painful death.” Whether or not you intended for him to have this interpretation of your words as his prognosis, your message was not suggestive of any hope for recovery from OCD. You should have known better! Shame on you! The illness killed my brother but you put that phrase into his head and he executed your words. For ANYONE searching for OCD understanding and help with depression, please know that there are treatments that DO work and that suicide is NOT the answer. Your disease DOES NOT want you to die a horrible, painful death. Your life matters. YOU have value in this world! DO NOT GIVE UP and please find a different resource for your understanding of mental illness. This is a terrible one!!

[@bernadettelamontagne3836]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how angry and heartbroken you must feel. It is nobody's fault. You're right, that there is a TON of hope in OCD recovery through ERP. I wish your brother could have experienced that. Thank you for sharing the message of hope to those with OCD. This is the most important thing. Sending all of my best wishes to you.

[@Youtubeuser10873]

It seems so inconsiderate

[@slimsheydy8850]

Same feeling I had

[@mikeyerian2562]

You're an idiot. Totally misunderstood the video.

[@geoffy8245]

I don’t get the fuss you put that paper in your wallet, you’ll forget about it in half an hour. Life goes on. There are way worse things. Addictions for one.

[@Navvi_]

The thing is the person with ocd wouldn’t it would stick with them they would question their character and question wether or not they actually believe or want what they thought about causing them to develop compulsions in order to mitigate the anxiety over that fear.

[@fleshmasterflex7]

This video is so judgemental. Do this and that. Why don't you do it? I was looking for an introduction to cope with my mother and her selfishness assosiated with for obsessive compulsiveness and anxiety that creates a barrier between her love for every one around her. There is an assumption that I don't support her or something. I grew up with supporting her and nobody supporting me. Wtf. No I don't want to do an exercise without knowing before what is it about. People want to make short youtube videos but pls give an introduction to just what ocd is.

[@IOCDF]

You can read more about what OCD is and watch another short video on the topic here: iocdf.org/about-ocd/