Unexpected Reactions to My Early Retirement

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Two Sides Of FI

Two Sides Of FI

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@TwoSidesOfFI
@TwoSidesOfFI 6 ай бұрын
What kind of reaction did you get from coworkers, friends, and families when you retired early? We'd love to hear from you
@Bracebarian
@Bracebarian 6 ай бұрын
Resigned on March 25, retire 25th June age 55.. Mixed reaction from colleagues of congratulations and thanks for impacting their careers positively to offers of part time work just in case I change my mind. Had to laugh at the Van life comment as I just purchased a Van to convert but my Van is part of my relaxation into retirement as I need a project like Eric.
@WKre123x4
@WKre123x4 6 ай бұрын
Announced in January, left the building Feb 29 age 56. Officially terminated April 1. (Used vac and ensured benefits for another 30 days) Mostly positive, some expressed jealously. People were asking if I was OK (sick). They were sincere, and were coming from a place of caring. Others were puzzled what I would do with my time.
@wineguy68
@wineguy68 6 ай бұрын
I RE'd at 53. Im a little over 2 years in. I had a relatively small work team, I mostly had curiosity from a handful of people but it quickly faded. My skip level director 2 levels above me spent the most time talking to me about the how and what of RE (that is after he was convinced I wasn't going to a competitor) it was nearly an hour convo which is rare for him. Family was fine as I sort of let them know years ahead of time my FIRE plans. I have two sisters and we've actually become closer since I retired. 2 years on I still get "what do you do all day" from friends and this is hard to answer without blank stares, because outside of my longer travel trips I have planned, day to day is a lot of reading, podcasts, general interest learning, exercise, some volunteer work, house project work. No one thing dominates. I'm not writing the great American novel, I'm not starting a business etc. The concept of open exploration of new things and ideas, it's just hard for people to relate to.
@richardf6932
@richardf6932 6 ай бұрын
I send an email to all my coworkers on my retirement and I have gotten 95% positive responses. However, there is that 5% that seems to question me as to why and how I was able to do this. Some mentioned that they wished they could but they couldn't financially.... Now that I am 6 months retired, I missed the people I have worked with for over 14 years.
@rarelycares8416
@rarelycares8416 6 ай бұрын
Gave my official notice middle of March, retire May 3rd age 55. I didn't keep it secret, most people including my boss knew at least 6 months or more ago. Because I talked about it a lot I didn't get much grief.
@mhoepfin
@mhoepfin 6 ай бұрын
We retired at 50 too (it’s been almost 6 years) and literally nobody could understand it. It’s out of comprehension for 99% of folks. Lots of jealousy for the most part. We moved to the beach and life has never been better. Congrats!
@shawnh1158
@shawnh1158 6 ай бұрын
My pat answer for 'what are you going to do?' I replied "I'm going to be a Human Being instead of a Human Doing"
@brianfromireland
@brianfromireland 6 ай бұрын
So refreshing to hear someone speaking so openly about being consumed by work and not being able to disconnect during holidays / hobbies. Amazing insights. Thanks so much .
@FionaMacDonald
@FionaMacDonald 6 ай бұрын
Glad you took the leap - it was the best decision of my life retiring at 51. Initially I was really worried about not having a purpose because everyone harps on about it. Then it gradually dawned on me that I never had a purpose when I was working so why worry about it now 🤣 I kind of fell into my purpose of getting fit and healthy. Retiring from an IT career, I have found it refreshing to now spend my time learning more about my body, nutrition and how to live healthily. Everyone is different though, just take the time to listen to yourself 👍
@xdrive300011
@xdrive300011 6 ай бұрын
Same experience as u. What I said made me lol!!!
@wrenny00
@wrenny00 5 ай бұрын
This makes so much sense! I have similar realisation and goals too 😅
@Moochie79
@Moochie79 9 күн бұрын
Thank you guys for this genuine, authentic conversation. 🙏And congrats on your retirement! Very impressive to see all the nice emails Laura received from her colleagues (I did pause the video every time to make sure I could take my time to read those emails!). I'm 45 and currently thinking about retiring next year (building my cash position at the moment).
@NorthernSunflower
@NorthernSunflower 6 ай бұрын
I retired at 51 a little over a year ago. Most people were happy for me. Some said they were jealous. Some were confused and asked what I was going to do with all my time. I don’t think you need to have some type of external purpose on day one of retirement. My purpose for the last year has been rediscovering myself and detoxing from the corporate world where I spent my career. I fill my days with activities and people that make me happy. That’s enough for now. You don’t need to fit into anyone else’s expectations anymore, even what they might expect you to do in retirement. Enjoy your own path and trust that your purpose will reveal itself as you go.
@stanleywarren1561
@stanleywarren1561 6 ай бұрын
I retired at 52, and received many of the same comments from friends and colleagues. Admittedly I was surprised by the pessimistic and negative reactions. Financial independence is a wonderful blessing achieved through discipline, consistency and grit. Qualities which should be commended not dimished.
@cmdrfunk
@cmdrfunk 6 ай бұрын
I hate everyone constantly asking me what I do all day since I retired at 39 five years ago. My dentist cleaning my teeth asked and I'm thinking, "Not cleaning teeth all day." Just what does everyone expect you to be doing all day and is what they're doing all day really all that special either? What I do all day is whatever I feel like. It certainly is not sitting in a cubicle or going to a meeting to listen to everyone joke about getting fat while eating donuts.
@Starfish2145
@Starfish2145 6 ай бұрын
Lucky you 🙄
@and11199
@and11199 5 ай бұрын
Ok, but what do you actually do?
@eileenwatt8283
@eileenwatt8283 5 ай бұрын
Just say " Enoying my life. Are you enjoy your life doc"? Lol
@aprilracine
@aprilracine 5 ай бұрын
@@and11199😂
@withyoctopus
@withyoctopus 3 ай бұрын
Don't say that to the person who's working on your teeth. lol
@FrugalFactor
@FrugalFactor 6 ай бұрын
I am in day 2 of full retirement. I reached FI several years ago, but did "one more year" several times. Testing retirement spending along the way. I now know I could have left five years ago. I was a high school teacher for over 36 years at the same school. You can only retire from the school system once, so I was careful in my decision. But this year there were dramatic changes and I decided to leave. Leaving five weeks before the end of the school year surprised many, but that was the point. The responses, "I understand", "the same thing is happening to me", "I am leaving at the end of the year", "your brave I wish I could do it". I have been using the term recreational employment for my side hustle for years. I knew once I left teaching I would continue my RE for several years. You have an excellent podcast and are helping others chart their path. Keep up the good work.
@evolvingbrain
@evolvingbrain 6 ай бұрын
Laura, I've seen probably hundreds of videos on FI, but this is the one I could relate to the most. It's so reassuring/comforting to know others are going through the same thought processes and challenges. Congratulations on hitting this milestone!
@laurareinholdt8819
@laurareinholdt8819 6 ай бұрын
Thank you!!
@jackdguida
@jackdguida 6 ай бұрын
Wow, I totally get this. I have a PhD in virology and remember that most of the PI's were expected to work until dementia set in, and then work a little longer.
@joleneunland4061
@joleneunland4061 6 ай бұрын
Yeah, I worked in molecular diagnostics in the agriculture industry and the “normal” retirement for most is to “continue to advocate for the industry”.
@sct4040
@sct4040 5 ай бұрын
Also, the feeling of responsibility the PIs have for their research staff. They have to seek new jobs. Some of them came overseas under a Visa based on their jobs.
@Mikey_NoCap
@Mikey_NoCap 6 ай бұрын
I have just retired early last week aged 54 after 38 years at same PLC. Some weird reactions, but I had been building to it for a while. No sadness, my tanks are empty. I got a range of delight for me, to jealousy, to why are you going now and where are you going to. Also loads of people asking what am I going to do, my answer has been and is, I will be having a rest, travelling and finding myself again both physically and mentally. Congrats on your retirement and enjoy the times ahead.
@MNP208
@MNP208 6 ай бұрын
One of our favorite things to do is get up in the morning and drink coffee and tea while reading for 2 hours!
@laurareinholdt8819
@laurareinholdt8819 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations to you!
@MrChazz965
@MrChazz965 5 ай бұрын
I retired early and was met with, ‘you’re leaving money on the table’ ‘you gotta stick it out a few more years to get the full pension’. My philosophy was always, I’d rather collect 70% pension for 30 years than 100% pension for 10.
@TwoSidesOfFI
@TwoSidesOfFI 5 ай бұрын
Well put!
@WKre123x4
@WKre123x4 6 ай бұрын
What was interesting is that some people were asking how I did it, and it gave me an opportunity to point them towards FIRE and talk about free tools I used. Some gave me “must be nice” as if I won the lottery instead of saving hard and living frugally. Those people got less attention
@sw6118
@sw6118 6 ай бұрын
The question: how can you afford to? It’s tricky answering that without upsetting your overspending under saving co-workers.
@eileenwatt8283
@eileenwatt8283 5 ай бұрын
Say " i learn financial literacy. I've been working since age....." let them figure it out. 🙂
@jasonlee3568
@jasonlee3568 5 ай бұрын
“Ya know that old beater that everybody makes fun of that I’ve been driving the last 20 years…who’s laughing now!”
@nicks5280-
@nicks5280- 6 ай бұрын
I retired last year at the age of 50 and received many of the exact same reactions. I understand these reactions, because I had many of the thoughts when others retired before me. Congratulations on your path to freedom! The time frame between when I knew I was retiring and the actual date was one of the longest periods of my life. Hopefully it moves fast for you.
@sydneyeverhart6029
@sydneyeverhart6029 6 ай бұрын
I really love hearing Laura on the podcast. I'm an associate professor too and always relate with what she says about how pursuing grant funding can become all consuming and you never feel like you're doing enough to keep up. One thing most people probably don't realize is that professors generally do not accrue vacation or sick time, which also plays into that mindset that it's never enough. It's no wonder people in their 50's and younger are willing to walk away from the professoriate. I'm not sure that the senior faculty that started their programs in the 80's and 90's had the same experience that those of us who started our groups later have had.
@laurareinholdt8819
@laurareinholdt8819 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for your comment. I think you are right about the experience of senior faculty vs. our generation. I recently had a conversation with a senior faculty member who expressed shock and concern at the number of mid-level faculty who are currently choosing to leave academia. He mentioned that it was as if our generation is less dedicated to the profession, but I pushed back with exactly your point - our experience is not the same.
@TheRetirementality
@TheRetirementality 6 ай бұрын
When you are in the "retire early" space like we are I think we tend to believe that everyone is on the path to retire early. I find it more shocking that so many people have never even thought of retiring early. Sounds like you'll be getting about 50 new subscribers to this channel. 😂Congrats on moving forward. One thing that I've learned from moving around a lot and living in different places is that the burden of maintaining relationships is on the person who leaves. There is some kind of unwritten rule that when people's lives stay the same and someone leaves it just falls on the person who left to initiate contact. You will feel a little disappointed if you wait for them to contact you.
@jeff_benjamin
@jeff_benjamin 6 ай бұрын
“Unburdened” is right! I am retiring in 9 days. I feel the same and have experienced many of the things you talked about in this video. I look forward to hearing about your journey.
@darrenmatthews1667
@darrenmatthews1667 6 ай бұрын
Work was all consuming for me. I felt like the company owned me and I had to ask for any time for myself. I think "Feeling unburdened" after I retired early has added years to my life. 2 years in and nothing I necessarily retired too and no regrets. I sleep better. I've been staying pretty busy - not bored.
@Academic9999
@Academic9999 6 ай бұрын
As another academic, I really appreciate and resonated with what Laura offered about her concerns and experience. Academia is a strange thing to retire from (with respect to community perception, not that she is doing it). I am really glad you both have been sharing her experiences specifically. It is instructive.
@wcg66
@wcg66 4 ай бұрын
I’m retired at 57 and I’m spending my time during “working hours” watching this video ;) I can just do what I want.
@financialsombrero9097
@financialsombrero9097 6 ай бұрын
I really enjoyed listening to the events of your science exit- The snow in the background made this video even better. Enjoy your new "unburdened" life.
@Cassandra-..-
@Cassandra-..- 5 ай бұрын
Retired from the lab at 58. What I wish I could have said to the “what are you going to do?” question was to decompress from all of the stress and trauma of this job.
@annam9741
@annam9741 6 ай бұрын
The negative comments Laura received from colleagues seems more of a questioning their own identities imo. Im sure some of those comments felt unpleasant but I wouldn't take it personally as they are dealing with their own insecurities and analyzing their own life choices. Have fun in all of your future endeavors!
@SamKnutson
@SamKnutson 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations to both of you! My wife is retired for several years and I retired in '22. It's great together!
@MNP208
@MNP208 6 ай бұрын
We "retired" at 55 and I went back to work per diem. I still need something to keep my brain active and I like being paid for it. We still set aside months at a time to travel. It's the perfect balance for me! I don't discuss my trips with coworkers because of their jealous reactions. I could never describe the hard work it took to get here. They just wouldn't listen. I choose to keep my financial life private.
@eileenwatt8283
@eileenwatt8283 5 ай бұрын
Good idea
@martypoll
@martypoll 6 ай бұрын
I know exactly what she was experiencing after she made the initial decision to retire to herself. I worked at a Department of Energy laboratory as a middle manger of a group of twelve. I decided in July, at age 55, but kept it to myself to see if anything positive was going to change for the Oct fiscal year. In Sep though my boss asked me to hire a new staff member. I didn’t want to dive into that lengthy process knowing I wouldn’t be around soon. I told my boss I was planning to retire and word spread pretty quickly. Everyone was positive. I left work in mid Dec 2010. I can relate to her vacation comments. I retired with 10 weeks of unused vacation and 9 months of unused sick leave. Financially I was lucky to be working at the University of California for 30 years. UC has a terrific retirement system. I also had savings.
@jpjohns2466
@jpjohns2466 6 ай бұрын
At the end of the day, it is not the words of others that impact us. It's the value that we place on them that does.
@TwoSidesOfFI
@TwoSidesOfFI 6 ай бұрын
True. But when those words come from people whom we value, strong reactions can be challenging to manage. -Jason
@johnlittle8267
@johnlittle8267 6 ай бұрын
I can see where 50 is more surprising than 55 or 60. I retired at 54 and everyone thought I was just going to another job and I was just saying that I was retiring! Wow eight months notice, that is going to be weird as well but I guess will be the new normal. I gave two months notice. Congrats and sounds like you had a great career!
@laurareinholdt8819
@laurareinholdt8819 6 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@susanharkema2888
@susanharkema2888 6 ай бұрын
Good answer, Laura, to the academic scientific leader. You are more than your work, education, career, etc. People's comments come from their insecurities. I appreciate all the comments that say, "I will miss you. I thank you for all your service. Congrats." That's a healthy response from healthy people. What's weird is how one person's personal choices trigger other people, which comes out in their reactions. SO excited for you both! We're launching at the end of July 2024 and we're learning in real-time from you both.
@gregford8717
@gregford8717 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations Laura! I'm very excited for your and Eric as you move into this exciting new phase of your lives. Thank you for sharing your stories! I gave a 3 month notice but it went very fast. My wife retired in 2021 @ 53 and I retired in 2023 @ 55. We both received a variety of comments. Mostly congratulations and well wishes but there were some that wanted to know where we were going to work (part time, tutoring, going to a new company, etc.) WIth my wife retiring before me I gave my plan a lot of thought. My retirement time has 5 buckets: Travel, volunteering, hobbies, exercise, and side hustle. No hard commitment for any of these but in the last year I have dipped into each bucket. Take your time and enjoy the process of moving to this exciting new phase!
@LoriLWorden
@LoriLWorden 6 ай бұрын
I love your retirement time buckets! I'd love to steal this idea for my own BEST LIFE planning!
@retirementripcord1536
@retirementripcord1536 6 ай бұрын
What did you end up doing as a side hustle?
@gregford8717
@gregford8717 6 ай бұрын
@@retirementripcord1536 My wife and I have entered two craft fairs in the last year. I do woodworking and she does embroidery and home goods. We made a little money and had fun! We'll continue a few a year until it feels like work :)
@gregford8717
@gregford8717 6 ай бұрын
@@LoriLWorden Please do! make it your own! What would be in your buckets?
@jeremyeckhause1747
@jeremyeckhause1747 6 ай бұрын
Nice snowfall in the background. Gives the episode some serenity. Congratulations.
@AshHillFarm
@AshHillFarm 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. You are inspiring. It's your time, so take as much as you need to figure it out. I hope to be in your position one day.
@jasonboey90
@jasonboey90 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations Laura. Looking forward for more episodes with Laura in 2SOFI.
@NoLegalPlunder
@NoLegalPlunder 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations. I'm convinced that true courage in this life is not caring what other people think. Our lives aren't our own if we run them based on what others think. I think freedom is something only the courageous get to enjoy.
@RetirementbyDesign26
@RetirementbyDesign26 6 ай бұрын
Very well said
@jeumd
@jeumd 6 ай бұрын
I really enjoy hearing this from your perspective Laura. Thank you so much for sharing! Congratulations on what sounds like a great career and more congratulations on your soon to be retirement. I'd love this to be a regular check-in the rest of this year and into next year. Such a great insight you get to share with us.
@maxpayne7419
@maxpayne7419 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations! I retired 6 months ago at 54. I had many of the same reactions you had. Most were wonderful, and some were disappointing. That’s human nature I guess! I wish you and Eric all the very best. Relax and enjoy - you have earned it. Time freedom is a beautiful thing.
@JoBeginsAgain
@JoBeginsAgain 6 ай бұрын
So wonderful!!! I’m in my late 50’s and am in the final steps of confirming I can retire this year. The logistics of giving notice is a rare thing to find online, so thank you for sharing.
@davidgrisco1939
@davidgrisco1939 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations Laura! We've retired early, almost 10 years ago, and it still feels great. Enjoy it. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone.
@MrBass5er
@MrBass5er 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations again Laura (and Eric)! Enjoy the next phase of whatever you want to do on your own schedule!
@slrobertson
@slrobertson 6 ай бұрын
🎉Congratulations, Laura on your decision and announcement. My own decision to retire from an academic research career at 54 was a little difficult, mostly because I still enjoy my work 30 years on, but more importantly, many of my colleagues have become good friends. I have had mostly positive and supportive reactions, but with more than a few questions about what kind of work or job I’m moving on to (nothing planned). Good luck to you both and enjoy the next chapter. My last day is May 1!
@laurareinholdt8819
@laurareinholdt8819 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations!
@petew1
@petew1 6 ай бұрын
I've been listening since mid-2022 and am excited to see certain of those old discussions now becoming today's decisions. Congrats and thank you for providing this insight on your journey.
@Austinrkr
@Austinrkr 6 ай бұрын
Isn’t it great that we don’t yet know what our lives will mean? Every day is a new opportunity to make a difference and it doesn’t have to be all part of some grand project or plan. I appreciate your thoughtful discussion of your experience.
@amyjones4007
@amyjones4007 6 ай бұрын
I appreciate the honest back and forth…unscripted, but thoughtfully organized. I’m 48 end I think I want to work til 55, but we’ll see. Appreciate your thought process.
@careym8437
@careym8437 6 ай бұрын
Again, I just so appreciate Laura‘s ability to reflect and provide an open and honest discussion for the rest of us who will eventually go through a similar situation. I think I too have built it up in my head, but have ultimately decided that I’m replaceable and I want my own time. Here’s to an early retirement for all of us! My husband is retiring this December and I am retiring next June when our youngest graduates high school I will be 54. Thank you for another great episode!
@davidoneill7412
@davidoneill7412 6 ай бұрын
Many congratulations Laura and thank you for your transparency and honesty with the whole experience. The very best of luck to you both and we will continue to watch out for you an Eric’s FI journey moving forward! 🙏
@64buffer
@64buffer 6 ай бұрын
Eric missed his opportunity to tell Laura “Must be nice!” So happy for you both. You’re an inspiration and I look forward to seeing how you navigate life beyond work and settle in to the idea that your time is now your own. It’s so helpful for those of us who haven’t reached that milestone yet to hear your thoughts and see your actions as you embark on this journey. I look forward to seeing your giddy excitement when it finally sinks in! I’m particularly interested in the mental aspect of it and the stages you go through post retirement. Thank you both for sharing, and enjoy your retirement when it comes!
@davidfolts5893
@davidfolts5893 6 ай бұрын
The phased early retirement I did was less noticeable as I went to work weekends and as needed, which gradually wound down to my request to be taken off the schedule for both. In addition, a long-term contract I had with a facility ended due to the facility closing due to the state realigning its developmental centers. It was a slow walk into retirement. Thanks for the great content, Two Sides Of FI.🔥
@cyclesofcourage
@cyclesofcourage Ай бұрын
Congratulations! I can relate to your story, having left on my career high note to retire early. As female leaders in our fields, being free from compensating for the judgement of others is amazing…maybe more than the retirement goal itself 🎉
@mshirleyrn
@mshirleyrn 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for this! I, too, am 51 and am retiring at the end of June from an academic setting. My leadership is aware, but I have yet to tell my team. Your video gave me much to think about and the added confidence that I can make this happen. I'm sure I'll watch this more than once in the coming weeks. Greatly appreciated!
@wrenny00
@wrenny00 5 ай бұрын
Heartiest congratulations! You did it! I recently retired from my job as a research scientist at the age of 48, and three months in, I have not the slightest regret at all, and I am enjoying every bit of it. Have an enjoyable time living out your life the way that makes the most sense to you! Titles, achievements, publications, and reputation mean so little when there is so much more to living. 🎉🎉🎉❤❤
@anotherpace
@anotherpace 6 ай бұрын
this was a really great episode. walking away from a community of practice is difficult, and seeing people move on with the ongoing conversations that you aren't part of any more, doubly so.
@bobl634
@bobl634 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations and thanks for sharing your experience. I announced my retirement last week at age 55, and encountered many similar reactions - most wished me well, a few were inspired (they were going to do something), a few jealous (not likely to do anything about it), a few “could tell” I was going to retire. My biggest learning was that although this is a very big deal for me, it’s really not for most others. Perhaps in the lead up I made it more stressful for myself than necessary, thinking this would cause concern at the company. Not really... No matter, 10 more weeks!
@stemikger
@stemikger 6 ай бұрын
I love Laura, she is so wise and has a confidence and calm about her that is fantastic.
@deltay71
@deltay71 6 ай бұрын
Loved this episode. I just retired early month ago just a bit older than the two of you. Congrats!
@bigbobby5555
@bigbobby5555 6 ай бұрын
This is so much appreciated because this is the type of content that is scarce (in comparison to strictly financial content that is all over KZbin regarding retirement), but yet it is something everyone who retires, especially early will need to navigate. I've watched this all the way through once and appreciated every minute of the sage and practical advice with such a personal experience. I will probably go back and watch it another time, if not several.
@user-bs1lj3kv7h
@user-bs1lj3kv7h 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience in this video. Very interesting questions from co-workers! I am 55 and planning to retire in a few months after many years with my company and think they will be similarly surprised!
@ironjeeper
@ironjeeper 6 ай бұрын
As someone who's planning to pull the plug early next year, I especially enjoy watching this era of your journey play out. Congratulations!
@jeffgriglack9624
@jeffgriglack9624 6 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this with us. I have talked with friends for a while about my desire to retire, and they all seem to think it involves sitting around in a room with a bunch of old people watching reruns on TV. "What are you going to do?" which of course means "what are you going to do without an office to go to and somebody to tell you what you should be doing?" The thing I don't understand is that I am 10 years older than you and almost at the traditional retirement age, but I'm getting that reaction.
@tracygmaine3252
@tracygmaine3252 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations on your upcoming early retirement! I am in a similar situation, going to give my notice this summer, great advice on how to notify folks and be prepared for the myriad of responses. I will also be moving to MDI in 2 months, starting the next chapter as a result of being FI is exciting. Hoping the next 10 months flies by. Enjoying both your KZbin channels.
@amyjones4007
@amyjones4007 6 ай бұрын
I’d love to hear you two explore the idea of being empty nesters. We aren’t aiming for RE, but our youngest is going to college in August, and that feels monumental too. We are 48 and 50. I love your intelligent, transparent and relatable discussions and would love you to tackle that topic.
@jeffb.2469
@jeffb.2469 6 ай бұрын
Best comment I read from another channel: I quit a while ago ... I just didn't tell anyone.
@garyfarley323
@garyfarley323 6 ай бұрын
It's your life one needs to know your business...Love the life you want and don't worry about what other people think about your decisions. CONGRATS!!!
@greggarner9515
@greggarner9515 6 ай бұрын
This is such a great episode. Congratulations on making this important and wonderful decision.
@joleneunland4061
@joleneunland4061 6 ай бұрын
Congrats Laura! Love seeing other scientists retiring at mid-career. Better legacy to be a midlife retiree than a “grey-blocker” (a person who sits in a leadership position and blocks the opportunities for younger people). Welcome to the club!
@MrStan0630
@MrStan0630 6 ай бұрын
Many commenters say as a retiree “ I can “do whatever I want”. That implies you have something you want to do, and you have the money to do it.
@thelatenightattempts
@thelatenightattempts 6 ай бұрын
You two look so similar, like brother and sister. I guess it's true what the say about couples. Congrats on your announcement, I bet you feel so much better that it's out there now. Looking forward to following your journey.
@PowerfulMoneyHabits
@PowerfulMoneyHabits 6 ай бұрын
I say congrats! I started late but have 5 more years to reach FI- can’t wait! U deserve it!
@driftingintoretirement
@driftingintoretirement 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations Laura. 🎉
@davef1923
@davef1923 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations! That was a wonderful well-told episode! If you don't have some level of nerves on the big day, you either don't like your job or the people you work with. Exciting time ahead, I hope we hear more from Laura in the future.
@neverclevernorwitty7821
@neverclevernorwitty7821 6 ай бұрын
Wow, congrats! I am 1 year away to also retire at 50, my wife wants to keep working for the time being. I am really only sharing this with family, but its funny, some of these same reactions come from my family members, like their need to hear a justification for our decision. Congrats!!
@laurareinholdt8819
@laurareinholdt8819 6 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@qilu6313
@qilu6313 6 ай бұрын
People lock into one narrative about themselves sometimes. Any challenge to that is a personal threat. It's not about you when they react negatively(most likely not realizing what's the trigger inside). It's a privileged position to be able to have the room to look inward and realize how this person will live a life undefined.
@alastairford7145
@alastairford7145 6 ай бұрын
I went back to visit my former co-workers this week after leaving about a month ago. Since I left I've been working on my building my new business, and prioritising exercise and time with my wife, but in truth I'm still adjusting to not having a "tribe" any more. I felt "guilty" somehow for not having a great answer to the question that was put to me of "what was the best thing you've done since you left that you couldn't have done while you were working?". It's been a month, guys!
@spektrograf
@spektrograf 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations, guys! Been watching 30x40 since the start and have loved both the content and seeing your collective evolution-including here on Two Sides of FI! 👏👏👏👏👏🎉🥂
@spektrograf
@spektrograf 6 ай бұрын
Also, remember that judgement is often times as much about the person giving it-reinforcing identity or emotions arising from confronting non-congruency-as it is about the person being judged.
@TwoSidesOfFI
@TwoSidesOfFI 6 ай бұрын
Cheers...appreciate the support!
@boricua_in_wa
@boricua_in_wa 6 ай бұрын
I can identify with a lot of what Laura says and the obligation she feels to her job and coworkers. I would love to hear an update in 6 months when she is truly done and in a year as she navigates this next part of her life.
@dev2594
@dev2594 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations!!! Knowing how hard it is to get to where you are, this is well deserved. It takes many years of dedication and hard work to retire early. Wish you the best in your next endeavors.
@lenawalker9073
@lenawalker9073 5 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It has helped me more than you know. ☺️
@chadconnor356
@chadconnor356 6 ай бұрын
Congrats!!!!!! When they ask what’s next you can always tell them “I don’t know”. It will freak them out and honestly it is so freeing to let yourself explore new options.
@chucklynntexas
@chucklynntexas 6 ай бұрын
Great episode. The responses from your colleagues and family mirrored some of the responses I received. I wasn't expecting the looks of unbelief. Thanks for sharing your journey.
@AKim-uu4hg
@AKim-uu4hg 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations!! So happy for you!
@michaelmartz9270
@michaelmartz9270 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations! This is a big step and exciting. I enjoy hearing about the journey you and Eric are on, so thanks for sharing. At the end of the day, other people's opinions don't matter. You have one life, you must live it on your own terms.
@djdownie3
@djdownie3 5 ай бұрын
Lots of self awareness at the end. Truth is it never matters if someone quits. Others scramble to grab the opportunity that's about it. Change is generally good. Laura seems pretty intense. I took a break from my serious career and it took many many months to relax a bit (I hit the road in a van with my girlfriend). Maybe it will be the same for her. The plan after that will reveal itself once you've become human again so to speak.
@matthewbell9683
@matthewbell9683 6 ай бұрын
I’m glad to hear that overall it all went well. I’m coming up to that line so can picture myself in the same situations. Congratulations!!!
@janeminty6947
@janeminty6947 6 ай бұрын
It’s such a funny thing… People really want to know What you are going to do! I had no specific plan. However, I wanted to sleep, exercise, walk on the beach. I wanted to do Whatever I wanted to do!!! Self care! So, that’s what I said. . . Shortly after retiring I get asked, “ how is retirement?” Another funny question! Well. It’s Great! “Aren’t you bored?” No! “What do you do with yourself?” Not work/ whatever I want! Then people always ( half heartedly) comment, good luck! Expecting me to come back to work soon… I worked in Health Care/ Hospital. An extremely stressful environment! I cannot believe how good I feel, and how wonderful my life is now! I am certain you will have fun in Your retirement 👍 congratulations 🎊 ❤
@boricua_in_wa
@boricua_in_wa 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations, sorry for the naysayers and good luck with the next part of your adventure.
@theflightsimulationexperie6894
@theflightsimulationexperie6894 6 ай бұрын
I retired 3 years ago. Had a whole plan. Executed the plan and it was great. Then the honeymoon phase wore off. Now I’m looking for work again as I failed in starting my own thing. For me, retirement wasn’t what it’s cracked up to be but maybe when I retire in the future, I will have a different experience.
@AnhNguyen-bi6vg
@AnhNguyen-bi6vg 6 ай бұрын
I admire you to stop working in your current job. Not easy thing to do and not being defined by what you do is such a hard thing for most people. Congratulations ❤ Thank you for sharing your journey with us
@christinab9133
@christinab9133 6 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for sharing! Congrats!! 🎉🎉🎉
@TooMuch3835
@TooMuch3835 6 ай бұрын
Love love loveeeeee this!!!! Such a great conversation!!! Congratulations!!! 🍾🎊
@stemikger
@stemikger 6 ай бұрын
Thank you both. I really needed to hear this today
@lenawalker9073
@lenawalker9073 5 ай бұрын
I'm so glad for you!!
@JohnnyBoy6323
@JohnnyBoy6323 6 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing your journey Laura! Congratulations!! 🎉
@hilltop1972
@hilltop1972 6 ай бұрын
Sounds like some of the comments from co-workers helped solidify the decision even more
@claires2184
@claires2184 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations for your impending retirement Laura!! This was a very interesting conversation! Hopefully these are points I can use in the next decade when I do the same but not quite as young as you! Cheers Claire
@johnwilson839
@johnwilson839 5 ай бұрын
My answer when my coworkers ask "So, how's that retirement going?" is "Better than both of the alternatives!"
@TwoSidesOfFI
@TwoSidesOfFI 5 ай бұрын
Ha! true enough
@gizmobowen
@gizmobowen 6 ай бұрын
I'm very envious that you're 100% sure. My advisor tells me I can retire anytime and I have no idea how to improve my confidence. At the moment, I'm just going to go according to my schedule and hope I can adapt. I'm sure it'll take a while to get used to, but I'm sure I'll find my way along the next step of my life.
@jondiaz3475
@jondiaz3475 6 ай бұрын
Congratulations on making the announcement! Its obvious from the number of co-worker comments that they care about you and the historical impact of your career arc, regardless of the occasional sour tone. Some people, especially in the science and engineering community, can't convey human thoughts or feelings appropriately. The van life comment also cracked me up, as we have a 54-year old VW camper and the last thing we ever think about is taking a long trip with it. :)
@NegSkew
@NegSkew 6 ай бұрын
Congrats. Enjoy your ride together!
@johnheath8871
@johnheath8871 6 ай бұрын
Thanks Laura, this has been so helpful.
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