UNLOCKED Full Episode: Iyanla Fix My Life EP106 ‘Fix My Absent Father’ | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

Iyanla heads to Chicago where she helps heal the wounds of four children in turmoil over their drug-addicted father who is in prison. (Original air date: October 12, 2012) Watch more of Iyanla: Fix My Life on the Watch OWN app: bit.ly/watchow...
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UNLOCKED Full Episode: Iyanla Fix My Life EP106 ‘Fix My Absent Father’ | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN
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[@millicentthomas870]

One of the best grandma ever. Heaven bless you grandma

[@YAHMIR144]

Very very wonderful grandma

[@antoinettevassar3441]

Amen 🙏may God continue blessings you Your grandkids

[@bigananikagiso6413]

Amen ❤ she raised those kids so well, doing her very best

[@dbtlady4686]

Iyanla is, to me, the best Emotional Surgeon, she goes right in and removes the pain and hurt…then the healing begins. Where are you Iyanla, you will always be needed ❤️

[@audacityhour3104]

Yes!!! An emotional Surgeon

[@blessedandfavoured6914]

Absolutely!!!!

[@Mr194068]

It’s all for tv look up every episode and you see at the end the people don’t change there Life she too ruff she need to be a bit softer the kids are fine without him grandma did well

[@delorasledge2492]

I'm always amazed at how small parents can shrink in front of their kids. Its both sweet and sad. Its a good reminder that our parents are just someone's child working through their mess. Also a reminder that they draw strength from us the same as we do them.

[@carolnjeri1963]

Yeah. This was how I felt. When the girls look at him, they don't see the disappointment he saw himself, they just see their dad

[@nubianempresssphinx9807]

@@carolnjeri1963 p

[@YAHMIR144]

Not mine parents they are prideful

[@phattygurlchronicles7527]

Well put I see that with my parents we have to give them grace..

[@momonie4]

@@phattygurlchronicles7527 EXACTLY!!! MOST PARENTS DO THE BEST THEY CAN AT THE TIME....IF UR GOING TO GIVE ANYONE GRACE IT SHOULD BE YOUR PARENTS/SIBLINGS

[@temple92084]

I like that she kept bringing up the mother and didn’t just focus on the father because it takes 2 parents to raise a household and both parents failed miserably and need equal criticism.

[@hazybrneyesmd]

When that baby said “I hate looking like him.........”. That stopped me in my tracks. 😔

[@tinasinsaystrong5050]

I would too. That is a curse

[@Nille0212]

I understand exactly what she means. I look like my failed father in a wig and it can be traumatic seeing the person who hurt you worse than anyone every time you look at your reflection.

[@user-pq2nv7lt8n]

She's so pretty though, she doesn't look totally like him. She has her own pretty girl look.

[@Nille0212]

@@user-pq2nv7lt8n I mean I don't totally look like my dad either but that doesn't negate the feeling that you have about it.

[@Lenahh-go3io]

I feel how she feels . My father couldn’t even show up to my older brother funeral who died from cancer at age 29 , 2 years ago . Had me reliving it telling his job and boss and still never showed up . Mom died 7 years ago so I had no parent to lean on in that time and as far as I’m concerned I’m done with him , wash my hands with him and continued to live my life . He chooses him and his addictions and I choose me . I had the best mother in the world and I’m grateful for that .

[@adjasy606]

Sadly I just looked it up on google and he's just been arrested again, in 2021, seems like he was not able to stop...So sad.

[@lynnw2953]

damn. smh.

[@annetteodanga]

oh nooo

[@IraRochaa]

🥺 💔

[@kaylasingh5401]

@@alialmansoury he has done it before either way

[@adjasy606]

@@alialmansoury Yes but as told in the show if I remember well, he usually performed robberies to get money to buy drugs. It is sadly quite usual for people in his position, when you are an addict you do everything to have access to the drugs, and it costs a lot of money in the end.

[@lilbru]

Ms Verde is such an amazing & loving woman...grandmothers like that are a true jewel & very appreciated for her sacrifice

[@MushiMushi1992]

The shock in wills face when he realized he said the same thing as his father was scary to me. To unintentional be walking the same line you trying to avoid. Good intentions turning into a bad deck in life

[@ayyyyo9100]

He is so lucky that his kids still want to be his kids

[@bugsybrown1745]

I was crying along with Will when he realized he didn’t have a mother or a father the way he should have. That is a devastating moment and it hurts like hell, but Iyanla knows he has to feel it.

[@noahsimmonsofficial]

I feel for this family so hard. My dad was a heroin addict for my entire life up until his addiction inevitably took his life 2010 when i was 15. I later learned he overdosed willingly, as his toxicology report showed that he was in the final stages of AIDS. So he crawled into a dumpster in LA and took his own life, unable to live with the consequences of his decisions. I don't wish a drug addiction on anybody on this planet, no matter the race, culture, political viewpoint, or whether they're an enemy or a friend. I used to think that my dad didn't love me and my brother enough to get clean and stay in rehab and out of prison. but that was just him honestly. I am praying for this poor family.

[@simonegoddard7881]

I am so sorry.

[@juscelinefernandes3674]

It has nothing to do with u guys. Your father is human that’s all, he couldn’t stop, I’m sure he tried and didn’t manage, not because he didn’t love u guys enough. I know that having kids should be reason big enough to clean up and be better, but in most cases NOTHING can make someone change. I know because my dad is an alcoholic and I used to think like this but I realize that he is just human and humans are weak

[@misslee3700]

Praying God gives you strength and peace. I pray that regardless of your upbringing, you have found your purpose in life & your living it too the fullest. Love & Live. Every day is a gift.

[@yeyeni9893]

Bless you Noah

[@meghanferrari6501]

God bless you that is incredibly sad I am so sorry for all you have been through

[@momonie4]

THESE LADIES ARE SO NATURALLY BEAUTIFUL......BELLISSIMA!!!!!

[@gokaren420]

Cried through the entire episode....beautiful kids and gramma

[@msfreckles5982]

💯

[@specialkay4329]

Mr too. It's damn near 730am. I'm up bawlin

[@thevectorhouse1113]

How wholesome is this show here. Changing lives and bringing families together one intervention at a time. Well done Ms. Vanzant and OWN.

[@dollskull86]

I love how their faces lit up when grandma arrived!! Praying earnestly for this family!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@jordblan]

i like how she said “don’t understand him. vote for you” that was so powerful. and i really felt for her when the daughter said “i hate looking like him”. like I feel that. knowing your dad neglected you and regardless of what you do you’ll always remember him bc you look like him

[@curvyeyez]

My word grandma's genes are so strong! They all look alike but them eyes...they have the same eyes... It's amazing. I love genetics so much.. what a beautiful family! I am praying for them and hope everyone is well.

[@johnflynn5044]

The brother is adorable.. A real decent man who is locked into himself and needs to go run free for a while and dare to explore who he is. Its exhausting having to fein contentment when internally you are in crisis

[@Missy_10663]

She’s always so well dressed!

[@prettygangsta8570]

This has me crying because the generational pattern of the Dad’s Father carried on in his life, which was a learned behavior that caused him to disappoint his own children. The best part of all this is they can all begin to heal from the disappointments, heartbreaks and trauma of the past. Iyanla Vanzant is awesome, she really gets to the root and heart of the matter. Salute 🫡 to Iyanla Vanzant

[@grandiva035]

A praying grandmother God bless her!!!😭🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@MushiMushi1992]

Her asking to hold him is what got me😢

[@beataylor4226]

Who cutting onions up in here!?

[@estellecraytonFaith-in-God]

People need to understand with no guilt or shame save yourself and have peace! If you don't you'll be me getting that peace after the stress has caused so much dis-ease in your life it makes you disabled and doctors can't figure out what it is. At 60 I don't care who you are I'M GETTING the peace I should have had YEARS ago and living my life with God words.

[@stephanielewis1305]

I feel this sentiment in my soul deeply. I have decided to save myself and have PEACE. Thank you for this reminder. You couldn’t have layed it out any better than this. Straight to the point and it’s a FACT. Again thank you 😢😢😢❤️🙏🏾 God Bless

[@quite970]

Iyanla you're needed in 🇯🇲 there's so many broken family's here including mine

[@KD-ln2dr]

Yes I would really want to be on her show I am so broken because of trauma...

[@quite970]

@@KD-ln2dr same

[@rochelleturner987]

I agree with you, I suffer from childhood trauma and I try to fix myself but I recently realize I use control and manipulation to numb my hurt and insecurities.

[@honeybuzzard2843]

GOD KEEP YOUR HANDS ON THIS FAMILY.... GOD BLESS GRANDMA GRAND HELD IT DOWN...

[@jayc677]

I don't know these kids but I have so much love for them❤ and the grandma. It's so awesome they are getting help that takes courage 🙏

[@tcrump212IsLmbrJck_t]

31:30 - the gag is, though, there is a part of him that honestly does not care. And that’s the part he’s trying to avoid. Now check that! In my Phaedra parks voice.

[@rightsmatlagolomphahlele2897]

😂😂😂 you didn’t have to reminder of 1 dollar pizza !! 🍕

[@kidsonthemissiontoexcel101]

Thank you OWN for putting full episode for us!

[@thejannieb.perspective1830]

When the grandmother said, " I should have left him" when the father told how his own father made him feel.

[@TheChampdeFleurs]

I love unlocked videos. I can easily send them to family abroad. Thank you.

[@niasimone1740]

The mother and father are both POS parents and I’m praying for the healing of this family. I understand how it feels to grow up with a father who was addicted to drugs, anger and would even beat on women including my mom and other women he dated right in front of us. I hate that especially black people have to deal with trauma in all shapes and forms. Praying for everybody who dealt with neglect and still dealing with the aftermath of it. It’s not your fault

[@JoyAmazin]

Praying for you sister!

[@niasimone1740]

@@JoyAmazin thank you 🙏🏾

[@Queenalika85]

I always thought this was a beautiful family ... Good job Grandma 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@wandanderisha]

Mia, I know how you feel, but take refuge in the knowledge that you look like YOU, and YOU are absolutely stunning! Pompadour and all! I see my father whenever I look in the mirror... and he was not a good man, I feel good now though, because I can say to others see... I may look like him and be as creative as him, but this divine blessing of ME, is all mine baby.

[@ABM750]

When William consoled his daughter was a breakthrough moment wishing them all a healthy future

[@user-mh9fn8he3n]

Miss Verdie God will forever bless you🥰

[@memyselfi1828]

Oh wow. What a beautiful ending. I wonder how they are doing today.

[@solemandd67]

@@liveinthemiddle "When people mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, cousins ANYONE (repeatedly) shows you who they are...."

[@antranettebrown7379]

He is actually doing well she has a follow up on them in her Ig he has a job he now has his own apt the grandmother has passed away but he babysits his grandchildren .. he is doing great !

[@SoulSearch11110]

@@antranettebrown7379 who's ig?

[@havonaperry6652]

@@SoulSearch11110 Instagram

[@HarperSophia]

@@antranettebrown7379 damn that’s so sad about the grandma. she seemed so nice, I liked her.

[@bohlalenchabeleng1370]

God this woman is a gift.

[@jackiebaker-ml7bb]

God bless Grandma you’re a blessing !!! From God

[@truphenanyatteng5761]

I'm really proud of this grandma❤❤

[@onyxgothicc]

My God...The face the son made when he realized he spoke the same words as his father...I pray they have healed and not gone down his path and the father has healed and grown from his mistakes.

[@seanalexandermedia]

The fire was everything… She is completely doing spell work healing

[@bluechase]

It is so freeing to release expectations you have on a person who is unavailable and incapable of being a parent.

[@Roiyaw]

this show is heavy

[@shanb.9690]

I can watch EVERY EPISODE SHES HAD ON HER SHOW OVER AND OVER AGAIN I MISS HER I MISS HER TEACHING HER ENERGY SHES SOMEBODY I REALLY WISH THAT I COULD MEET LORD KNOWS ALL OF THIS DAMAGE THAT IS INSIDE OF ME I WISH I COULD MEET HER AND JUDGE MATHIS AND JUDGE LYNN TOLER BUT I AM TALKING ABOUT MRS IYANLA BUT I SAY THANK YOU MRS IYANLA FOR SHARING MIND AND YOUR HEART YOUR SOUL WITH THE WORLD😢😢💙💙💙🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Candie4JC]

Each one of them said, “idk where to start.” There. That’s where you start. In admitting exactly where you realize you are.

[@cheedysteve3448]

So emotional for me addiction is really a disease

[@toyalewis3045]

I definitely need iyanla for my family...whole family...there secrets that need to come out....my whole family is dysfunctional

[@jacquifeehan3489]

hope this family have love good health and happiness together

[@bethdrummond3024]

I am proudof this young man and his sister i was always asking where is their mother strive for success young man and young girls god will help you through ❤

[@iamcynt]

So heartbreaking...I cried.

[@user-pq2nv7lt8n]

me too, when the sweet baby said "I don't wanna bury my daddy"

[@jenjoyhn2]

Naw, Dad needs REHAB

[@blessedgirl1428]

God l couldn't stop tearing for the children

[@QueenAthena0903]

My heart breaks for these children ❤

[@mythoughts9801]

Before watching I'm gonna take a wild guess and say that Iyanla is going bless me with some knowledge or a way of thinking I didn't have b4.

[@keiarapayne3206]

I love me some auntie Yanla Lord thank you for her

[@shannaeatkinson3790]

I wish this youngman I could hold him😭 Sharing the sme age 🥺💔

[@zakiyapayne]

This episode taught me something. When ppl disappoint you so many times it’s so easy to hold on to that and see them as an disappointment. Gosh.

[@carolynsands5847]

So happy for how those kids turned out I feel they are going to do well ALL of THEM 😊😊🎉🎉❤❤

[@darrellsadler2848]

For ME, the "mugshots display" was and still a powerful moment to learn and understand from. Wow. Talk about a "timeline."

[@Butterfly-cl6wb]

I hope he stayed clean.. those kids deserve it. ❤

[@SheilaMakena]

True. Some wonderful children right here.

[@antoinettejohnson2188]

He didn't unfortunately 😢

[@nathifamelville5589]

I love grandma ❤️❤️❤️

[@BadNews44]

Whg she mos definitely contributed to raising a herion addict by picking a horrible man to pro create with Facts are stubborn things little girl

[@acwyatt1279]

Loved when they ripped up the mugshots.

[@natissiacooper8499]

When that young man said he was ok! I feel as though he really was! Not all kids fall victim of their parents. He’s ok to take care of family and he’s very mature. Sometimes auntie be doing to much with assumptions.

[@quichequiche4274]

But he's not ok. He's shut down and emotionless. So, no, she was right on the money.

[@Queenalika85]

Iyanla' Hot Mess gif cracks me up

[@carmelized11candi]

I love the grandma.

[@yontine]

I don’t have my father in my life for a number of years and he’s not even in prison. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@antoinettejohnson2188]

Same

[@BadNews44]

What u do to run him off??

[@pamelab8112]

IYANLA, you've been a blessing to many, using your gifts, trying to help, heal, and deal. speaking Truth, you've been encouraging in many ways through your episodes. no matter what you have helped, healed, somebody's, may you receive that blessing back, thank you for sharing your love an strength...pb💐👑

[@sheilap9854]

Okay I've Cried 😭 Enough On This One!! May God Bless this Family!! Ms. Verde is A Special lady she did An Awesome job of Raising her Grandchildren ❤❤

[@lucyseng1010]

Chaiiiiiii this was too deep ,l keep crying 😭😭 witching this video

[@kelebogilekellsseopakeleza6693]

He sure makes beautiful babies. And the son 😍🤤

[@BadNews44]

Nah cuz .. studdy and a emotional son by being round all those females oooo yeh Snap into a slim jim

[@nessaj4522]

Great family here. I know they stayed strong.

[@gracemukemba6330]

Im so happy That he Got clean and That he is back whith he,s family.

[@SoulSearch11110]

Dang! Feb 26, 2021: A 12-time convicted felon charged with burglarizing a West Loop condo building last year stopped showing up in court after being given a recognizance bond one year ago. This week, prosecutors accused William Moorehead of using his time on the lam to burglarize three more condo buildings in the West Loop. Prosecutors on Thursday charged the 56-year-old with two fresh counts of burglary and one count of attempted burglary. I lost my mother to drugs 17 years ago. Just let it go children.

[@Roiyaw]

my goodness

[@habibawest9253]

He is a horrible man who doesn’t want to do better. He can go straight to hell!

[@IrynJ.I.L]

Wow this is so unfortunate. I was actually hoping he got it together for them 😢

[@SweetLivingByGrace]

@@habibawest9253 It's because he is already in hell. What his father did to him was crush his spirit when he was young and this is how it manifests itself in his life. The Bible warns parents not to treat their children that way. I feel a lot of compassion for this man because how he was treated created a spiritual wound. A wound is a hole where a demon can easily enter. Once it enters, the body is no longer the original person, it's controlled by that demon. Every time that demon gets casted out and that wound isn't healed and closed up, the demon runs right back and brings more demons along with it. The man can't help it. He opened the door yet again with the drugs and I can guarantee that something triggered him. He needs prayer and deliverance.

[@berenicemartinez9238]

❤️❤️❤️ thanks for helping us……made me cry… I have more work to do.

[@JoJo_dazia]

Crying, i hope the family is back on track tho

[@nessaj4522]

It's good to try to take out the time and talk about something. At least you can see what was on somebody elses mind. You know where to go after that. I appreciate this program.

[@likhonamfamana4269]

such beautiful kids 😍

[@Queenalika85]

Wish she was my grandmother

[@laurnajones6970]

God in the vessel he smiles at the storm

[@fym90]

If the father had treatment instead of criminalisation it would have all turned out different

[@melreal7881]

🙌🏾🙌🏾 My sentiments exactly.

[@anime-nn9kl]

You’re so right, but You have to WANT treatment for it to make a difference.

[@misslee3700]

Not necessarily. I had a few cousins with decade long drug issues. Rarely jailed and had chance after chance but chose not to get clean. They want the high more than their own children.

[@sandycheeks1580]

Ain’t it funny how black addiction is all their fault and responsibility to kick. Yet, White opioid/phentynl addiction is now a “disease” and “there’s help!” Billboards & tv 📺 commercials 🪧 abound for them 😂😂😂. But in the 80’s & 90’s nobody offered help to black addicted mothers or desperately wanted to adopt their innocent little “crack babies”. They were very much shunned & used as fodder mostly by the black community instead of everyone banding together to start free intensive detox & longterm inpatient rehab programs for their own black people. I’m happy that black people are waking up to the benefits of getting regular counseling. The men could stop being overly aggressive for no reason and stop manipulating women into becoming angry broke stressed out 😢single moms. I think 🤔 that’s a good start to awakening & healing ❤️‍🩹 the broken black conscious.

[@sandycheeks1580]

@@anime-nn9kl If you’re on drugs, you don’t think there’s a problem till you hit rock bottom. The chemicals alter the brain 🧠 wiring.

[@christianblake6447]

Sitting there on that red swing like 2 queens

[@trinitees6838]

I would so love an update on this Family! OWN can you do a follow up on this episode pretty please?

[@tisayvette]

They must not remember anything about their mother. I get it.

[@TaraGeorge711]

In spite of all the pain their faces lit up when he walked in the room. Like little children. Lord help them 🙏🏽

[@stephaniewatson9759]

WHEW! This one was a tear jerker!

[@desertflowers1]

Not every one should have kids. Why did he have 4?

[@BadNews44]

Why did them skeezers jeeo letting him nut up in em. Nastay

[@samanthalopez456]

God is good

[@Mom.3]

All the time!!!

[@BadNews44]

Not if u child in palestine israel ukraine russia hell i cud keep goin til my fingers hurt

[@unique1ndcroberts68]

My tears are for this family!

[@gloriahenry5446]

It's all about the jeans, blood follows vain. His father was a dead beat, and he becomes one, but I pray that those children keep on keeping their heads up high.

[@v.a.993]

Hopefully they are all doing well/better now.

[@SweetLivingByGrace]

It is so traumatic and damaging to leave your children for almost any reason.

[@CherryHead89]

Does anyone know where the necklace comes from that the daughter in the teal dress is wearing?

[@genniejefferson6588]

Kids are beautiful.

[@kandeauxthefarmplug9207]

Maybe 2021 was a hard year for the entire world and he cracked… like everybody else….

[@Rebecca-hc5ju]

True!!💜

[@blu6846]

Beautiful family. Sadly dad's bacc to his old habits and the son was arrested for aggregate battery. The daddy just talked a good game. Sad 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@ABlackGirlandHerCoffee]

😢

[@bernicetam2766]

My heart broke when she said she doesn’t want her dad to die and have him buried.

[@a.d.morton4624]

Iyanla Yah-Bliss you ❤️🙌🏾💯

[@Mr194068]

Grandma you did good Iyanna is too ruff helping I don’t understand how she think she helping when she so rude

[@shia_iam8405]

I WOULD LOVE AN UPDATE ON THIS STORY..