Unpopular Opinions 2 - SimplyPodLogical #84

[@mariami1990]

The whole housewife thing... obviously everyone has different goals and we should all be allowed to do that, but I also think everyone, but women in particular should always have a financial backup plan. The only thing I'd ever say to someone who wants to stop working and have someone else provide for them, is to have a safety net in case things go wrong. One of the main reasons women stay in abusive relationships is lack of financial means to support themselves.

[@alecoloxa]

You can't say it better.

[@peacechickification]

Honestly, any man who’s willing to support a housewife should be willing to give her money that can be put into a personal nest egg for her. And if he’s not willing to do that, huge red flag! Sounds like someone who wants a slave, not a partner. Housewives do a lot of labour.

[@HNO5683]

Yes! I work with domestic violence survivors and about 90% of them stayed longer with their abuser due to finances and none of the women I currently work with have a degree or job training so they are really struggling to get on their feet.

[@runningerins4027]

I agree, but to play devil's advocate.... I've heard women talk about that if the relationship goes bad, the woman will get the house, kids, and child support and sometimes alimony. Then I'm assuming they will find another man out there to take place. I 100% agree with you though that you need a back up just in case. Hopefully you never need it, but you have it.

[@dawnthegoblin]

@@runningerins4027 If the husband is a charming person who can convince the judge the wife is the problem the wife gets nothing and has her rep ruined. While fictional the third season of You has a great example of some of the shit a woman in an abusive relationship might deal with. It is also incredibly difficult for single mothers to date if they weren't working (gaps in resume make working again very hard) prior to divorce and then there's the matter of childcare. Yes there is probably a bias towards the wife in the relationship if a divorce happens but that doesn't mean she's a scumbag for trying to find someone else afterwards.

[@kelsoanngames]

Ben loving the way she says Button is absolutely adorable.

[@blancacribas]

Did anyone get a flashback to Transformers “camshaft” scene with Megan Fox or just me?

[@squishy2368]

I read this as it was happening 😂 that's fantastic

[@junthebiscuit]

12:42 for reference 😊

[@AlicjaJablonska]

And the way he said "I like... I LOVE how you say button" 😍😍

[@KF-tq2df]

Isn’t it 🥺 he really does adore her it’s so nice to see

[@TheCoolCookieKitchen]

As a housewife somebody should shine a light for that girl to let her know that being at home is just as hard as going to work if not harder because you’re completely isolated. So don’t let that grass on the other side fool you.

[@lmi1045]

I agree with you. Being at home with the kids is a lot of work. Running a household is a lot of work. My husband and I worked full time until I had my first child. The cost of daycare amounted to my whole paycheck. It did not make sense to work in order to pay for daycare. So I stayed home with the kids. You do feel isolated sometimes because being a stay at home Mom can limit your contact with other adults. I miss the daily office chatter and whatnot. I don't regret a single minute of it. Right now the kids are grown and my husband and I are self employed, running a business together.

[@maurashouse624]

Yeah was thinking 'yikes' as they read that whole post. That girl actually wants to be a rich married woman who doesn't work, she doesn't want to be a housewife or SAHM. It sounds like she is just dreaming of not working and spending her husband's money. Keeping the house and kids would be a more than full time job

[@annasullivan2564]

I wonder if her plan is to marry someone wealthy enough to hire people to do all the cleaning and someone to take care of her kids? Someone who wants to specifically do only the fun things and be waited on the rest of the time? Or this is a troll?

[@ChrissaTodd]

@@maurashouse624 she basically wants to be Peggy bundy from married with children she's a stay at home mom but does none of the work and sits and watches TV all day

[@martinazafir9160]

it like work but 24/7.. you always have something to do

[@vivids2640]

Can we all agree how cute it was when Ben asked Cristine to say 'button'!? I love it 🥰

[@stephaniewayman6850]

Right!? And how Cristine was all "you're so weird". They're cute!

[@cyberspiderwebs]

crying screaming on the floor awww

[@dordanleaf7576]

“You take the tea bag out pretty quickly.” “Well, I follow the instructions.” “Oh, look at you.” Idk why, but this exchange made me LOL

[@spyscy]

When I was 12 I was shamed for trick or treating….I agree with that guy, let the teenagers trick or treat!!! Self esteems are still being built at that age, some teens want to party and some teens just want to dress up with their friends and knock on strangers doors!

[@ipg9404]

My kids would trick or treat in a neighborhood were they would give them handfuls of candy at every door. One time there were teenagers in front of us and the people would ask them how old they were and only give them about two pieces candy, while the little kids got handful. I felt sooo bad told my kids to give them some.

[@An262.]

Totally. Teen life is already depressing enough, especially when people treat you like a kid but expect you to be an adult. Let teens have some fun

[@alicialimon9103]

BENS BRITISH ACCENT IS EVERYTHING I need him to do audio books just in that accent 😂😂😂

[@_TheRoseCrow]

He sounds like edna mode

[@Katielovegood44]

I was thinking Margaret Thatcher over the queen hahahah

[@random23287]

It reminds me of like a wizard from a british movie or something lmaooo

[@alicialimon9103]

@@random23287 yes!!! I got dumbledore vibes lol

[@hannahbecker8470]

I was driving to work at 6am laughing so hard on the highway at his accent 😂

[@hollydancergirl4]

Cristine "do they suck on other things?" Beyyynnn "where are you going with that?" I see your dirty mind ben. lol

[@AdelaPondelickova]

ooooh he has a very dirty mind, we've seen it before :D

[@holliesloan9270]

Omg my name is Hollie Ann 😻

[@sachab6098]

I literally didn't think of that... I was like "other things? Like blankets and thumbs?"

[@littlejonesy5222]

as a ✨southern woman✨ allow me to introduce ya’ll to “y’ain’t”: you all are not = ya’ll ain’t = y’ain’t. in a sentence: “Y’ain’t gon finish that?” (also pursuing my master’s in english rn)

[@laurenmelissaj]

I love this 🥲

[@lissawhit966]

Also a southern woman 💜 yes!

[@roxypicasso66]

y’aint gonna find a better definition than this’n right here :D

[@kalum312]

I once used the phrase "did ya eat ya something?" while talking to someone from the midwest. They looked at me like I spoke to them in Latin or something. I had to translate after.

[@roxypicasso66]

@@kalum312 LOL at least you didn’t say “d’y’eat yet” basically sounds like you said “yeet?”

[@amoku]

I can't belive it's been 84 episodes of the pod already!! Definitely feels like it was started yesterday 😆

[@kathrinradovel6578]

Yeah that's crazy I remember when I heard the first podcast and my life was sooooo different Carzy stuff man

[@thenopedetective]

I remember finding the podcast and thinking "oh great I'll never get through these!" And I did because it's such a great thing to have on during long drives!

[@shezamalik7918]

Not even a podcast person but i have watched every. Single. One. Of these podlogicals. Good job cristine and ben!!

[@superlolgal555]

@@shezamalik7918 Same!!

[@hollyludvigsen6763]

My high school theater organization did an event every Halloween where we would get dressed up, go door to door, and ask for food donations for our local homeless shelter. We definitely got some weird looks before we explained that we weren't there for candy, but this way we got to dress up, hang out with our friends, have fun, and it helped out a local charity!

[@ashleylee1281]

That is really cool!

[@odeia18]

wow this is amazing!!!

[@mscookie3613]

I like this idea but in practice it sound strange. People prepare for Halloween by buying candy & might not have a ton of non perishable foods on hand to donate they weren’t planning on using for dinner that week. Seems like it would’ve been more productive if you set up a drive at a grocery store or something where people can add a few extra items just to donate.

[@citrine_sunset]

i'm young and definitely agree with the one about car touch screens. i want to know what i'm doing by the feel of what my fingers are on without looking. i have an older car from long before touch screens. its climate controls are up and down buttons to set a specific temperature or the fan location and i don't even like that, because i have to look at the little screen to see what i'm changing the temp to or whether the fan is on floor or whatever. in the car before this one, i had the dial style where you memorize what different dial orientations mean without having to look, and that's what i prefer above all else.

[@bladepanthera]

I 100% agree. My parents got a Seat Leon and the touch interface drives me nuts. There are climate control buttons which sit flush to the rest of the panelling and don't have lights so are useless in the dark. Trying to adjust it from the screen requires 2 or 3 taps and a fair amount of attention which is insane! Worst interface ever.

[@johndododoe1411]

Yep, it is important to keep your eyes on the road and traffic, not silly interfaces on the radio or AC.

[@ccooper6432]

I couldn’t breathe when Beynn was doing “the voice of the queen” because I was laughing so hard. Please more of any of those accents for both. So good. A much needed laugh.

[@nataliesue2485]

As a Stay-at-home mom who always wanted to be a wife and mother and enjoy being able to stay home with the kids... I completely agree about that one poster seeming like she's entitled. I still wanted to find love first. Thankfully I did and I still love being a stay-at-home mom and wife. However I do some times miss earning my own paycheck and that feeling of accomplishment.

[@Rekct22]

She said it all when she said she left the guy because he wanted to wait to have kids. Wish her the best but I don’t know if it’s gonna go well 😂

[@hannahzaner7062]

she said she's only 20 so hopefully in a few years she matures up a little and stops sounding so entitled and honestly a little lazy.

[@katiehoward4843]

Also she says she doesn’t want to work…. I’m curious what she thinks she’ll be doing all day as a housewife?! You wanna talk about work?! Running a household and caring for children all day in home is hard (unpaid!) work. Is she planning to find someone so wealthy she just has to do no labor period?!

[@hannahzaner7062]

@@katiehoward4843 she probably has this fantasy world in her head that her super rich husband is gonna give her a maid or nanny to care for everything. I also think she has this false image in her head about how hard/easy being a stay at home mom or house wife is. Some people are taught that it's a very easy and lazy thing to do, but a lot of times it's not (especially if there's kids involved). And she says that she lives at home so I want to know what her parents think about their daughter not getting a job and probably not going to college.

[@ishabiswas8224]

She wants to be a gold digger. Full stop, end of. Stay at home, but with no need to do anything around the house. She's just trying to find some other way to phrase it differently but I saw right through it. Hilarious and a tad bit pathetic cuz I know from observing people around me that this mentality never goes down well for women. Now, maybe I'm wrong about her. I hope I am cuz I don't want her getting hurt going that way.

[@jasmine-ruff-puff9951]

I always found it weird that we have it hammered into our heads not to even touch our phones while driving, but at the same time they put all your dash stuff on a screen anyway. 🤔

[@YouTubeSupportSucks]

And cop cars have full computers in them lmao

[@Jillillis]

Pro tip for messy snacks: Use Chopsticks! ALL snacks are now mess-free!

[@kianna270]

This is why I do with Cheetos lol cuz I hate getting the dust all over my fingers bc it stains my mf hands!!!

[@silvermeasuringspoons6462]

I'm even use chopsticks for pasta. I can't do the forks rolling

[@kayenjee]

Yes 🙌🏼🥢

[@KreeZafi]

My brother has a thing about hating his hands being unclean (he washes them so much they crack and bleed), and he will eat cheeseballs with a spoon

[@Purplesquigglystripe]

@@KreeZafi I eat a lot of snacks with a spoon as well. It’s just so much more convenient

[@hannahzaner7062]

Theres nothing wrong with being a house wife or a stay at home mom, but that poster just sounded so entitled and lazy. She said she's only 20 so hopefully in a few years she matures and realizes that there's more to a relationship than finding a super rich guy that you can drain all the money from.

[@heatherbonelli]

I think it's terribly sad that she assumes being a housewife is easy. I'm curious how she was raised, and if she is mirroring or defying her parents set of circumstances... Maybe she has an alpha mom and a beta dad who makes all the money and just allows his wife to control everything. I've always been of the belief that things should be equal. I don't tolerate "alpha" men, but I don't want a "beta" either... I prefer equals, communication, and being a part of a team in regards to my man, we've been together 17 years and have each other's backs 100%. I guess everyone is different, but I agree with you... Her stance is incredibly lazy, entitled, and out of touch with reality in my opinion.

[@hannahzaner7062]

@@heatherbonelli I mean if you asked me a few years ago I’d probably tell you that house wife’s or stay at home moms were lazy. That’s just what people around me told me so that’s what I always thought. I think whatever her parent’s situation is, they can’t fully agree with what she’s doing. Like she doesn’t even want a job or want to go to school while she’s waiting to get married. She just wants to sit at home and do nothing, or probably spend her parents money on stuff. I completely agree with you that relationships need to be equal. Like I hope she realizes that she needs to find a man who’s fine with her not having a job and who has a salary that can support them and their future children. Cause something that I didn’t fully understand until I got a job is that just cause you have money doesn’t mean you can afford everything you want. Like if I only have $100 in my bank account and I want something that’s $100, I can’t afford that. And I don’t think she will ever realize that if she’s as dependent on a man as she makes it sound in that post.

[@mariaaaaa456]

Yup. She heavily romanticizes the IDEA of being a housewife and not knowing what that could mean in the long run

[@kinderthannecessary]

small note from an English literature Ph.D. Candidate: English does not have a dedicated pronoun to refer to the second person plural. Y’all takes this place and does productive work for the language instance you are referring to. Other languages have the second person plural such as the Spanish vosotros. Yes, y’all is a contraction of you & all. As the poster suggested, y’all is a brilliant development in English to refer to the second person plural.

[@Ray_Vun]

yeah, y'all makes sense to me as a non native english speaker. in romance languages we have a different singular and plural you. but in english it can sometimes make it a bit hard to understand if it's referring to one or multiple people, and y'all does a good job at helping with that. i think a lot of us who have english as a second language use y'all because it helps with the singular vs plural distinction

[@atme365]

is "vous" in French an example of what you mean?

[@serendipity123325]

Another English lit Ph.D. student here. If you look at the etymology, "You" is the formal, plural of the second person pronoun ("Vous" in French). "Thou" is the singular, informal, second person pronoun which fell out of usage ("Tu" in French). Now, "You" refers to both the singular and plural second person pronoun. The colloquial use of "Y'all" is distinctly Southern thing. I don't think it has derived from AAVE as far as I can tell.

[@kelly-annrousseau-bedard7225]

@@atme365 exactly!

[@thenopedetective]

Folks is a nice option too

[@shinetilly]

My senior year in high school I took a life skills math class because I didn’t need any higher math class for college (I had already completed pre-calculus) and just needed a math credit to graduate. They taught us how to do our taxes! The course was intended for people wanting to go into a trade instead of college after high school. I can’t say that the lesson stuck with everyone in the class but I still remember how to do taxes 17 years later

[@SaruSama22]

So agree with Ben's opinion on the lack of creativity in modern books/movies. I used to be a huge reader when I was younger but I feel like every time I pick up a book now its a story I've basically experienced before with only the smallest of changes

[@abellabriell6872]

There’s definitely a stigma against “y’all” in some circles in the US, especially depending on who is using it, which Ben kind of alluded to but it is a GREAT word!

[@thenopedetective]

I used to think it was really tacky (Canadian), but over time it's grown on me as a nice casual gender neutral greeting, compared to formal options like "everyone". I'm a big fan of folks, but it's less close.

[@kianna270]

@@thenopedetective lol I use to think the same thing but living in the south, I literally can’t stop saying it lmaooo. Even if I tried to stop saying it , it just slips out

[@silverkyre]

I always use you guys instead but i agree with it being a usefull word.

[@madelineboss1259]

“Equal”s actually has a name that’s used a lot when referring to them: companion novels. When used correctly they are actually very effective, not to mention they’re more out there than people think in the form of novellas

[@recoil53]

Not Rashomon?

[@Aisha_Luv]

Like heart stopper and solitaire.

[@jaz9915]

Equals instead of sequels: Twilight and Midnight Sun 😂😂 And honestly, I loved Midnight Sun, I thought it was hilarious and I dont at all regret that purchase.

[@amanthacamille]

Devoured midnight sun in one sitting 🖤

[@hollydancergirl4]

"however you decide to acquire such children" i think Im in love with this sentence.

[@__ew__gross__]

I mostly agree with the car touch screen one. My boyfriend has one in his car and if its too hot outside (florida, its always hot!) then the screen won't work until the screen cools down.

[@mikaela3538]

the halloween one - i went trick or treating until i was 17. I looked a lot younger so I got away with it. I always liked dressing up with friends and actually doing it. felt safe in a way since I was growing up. i think teenagers should trick or treat if they want too and shouldn't be shunned for it. also devils night is oct 30 where people pull pranks and egg houses

[@adamemac]

😂😂 "Barbara in her Prius" is the most accurate description I've heard in a while! Move over, Barb, some of us woke up late and need to be somewhere! 😅

[@linaalvarado2905]

I was looking for this comment 😂

[@sachab6098]

It irks me so much when people going the speed limit stay in the passing lane. It's literally what the right lane is for, going the speed limit!!!!!!!! Literally there's a sign every xxx distance saying "keep to the right unless to pass." I reckon those Barbs are the ones breaking the law then, eh?!

[@SprinklesO]

Oooof on that housewife one. Never wanting to work? Ha!! You will work all day everyday. Your children and house will be your job and only if you are lucky to be with someone who is appreciative it will be THANKLESS work. You will be the one who wakes up every few hours when they're babies and the one who stays up cleaning vomit off the floors when they get sick at 3 am. I have absolutely loved being a stay at home mom/wife but having a job was waaaaaaaay easier and I can't wait to have my own business and goals to work towards.

[@KreeZafi]

She sounds like the kind of person who will have a BIG shock when she realizes how much work children are. The fact that so many people don't realize it until they have them is frankly concerning

[@ann1ka_]

28:48 Yes this is true here in Finland. In 2019 a NHL hockey player got a 120 000€ fine for speeding. He was driving at a 80 km/h in a 40 km/h city zone. There is a basic fine that is same price for everyone but if you drive over 20km/h past the speed limit then the fine is proportional to your income. There have been many other cases of celebrities getting like 1000€ speeding tickets because of this system.

[@tamhuy10]

thats dope ! every country should do that

[@lankiboi]

as a finn i think this is the only system that works. if the fine doesn't depend on your income, then fines for rich people are like "ok so i pay this and then i get to act like an asshole and endanger everyone in the road". Also I think these days if you speed more than 20 km/h, you lose your license.

[@lolsous]

In Sweden you would loose your licence driving 80 km/h in a city zone, but proportional fines for those much over speed limit would be nice to have also, it makes perfect sense

[@m0zarts-animation]

In Norway it’s the same as well - I think it makes perfect sense to do it this way!

[@allih615]

My highschool offered a class called "math and personal finance" where you could learn everything about credit scores, checkbook balancing etc. as an elective. Everyone thought it was weird that I took that class but its helped me more than most other classes I took.

[@elliottg4463]

All schools should have this! Or have a shorter course on it that all students have to take.

[@taylorkennington7375]

So, the trick or treating thing. I think you both are focusing solely on the candy aspect, but for a lot of us Halloween lovers, the candy isn't the exciting draw. I have never been a huge candy fan, but my favourite part has always been walking around and seeing different peoples costumes and house decorations - the candy was just a bonus! My friends and I went trick or treating all throughout high school, and while we had some kind and generous folk give us candy, there were others who clearly either judged us, made us 'do something' to earn the candy (like sing a song, or do a silly dance, nothing crazy) or would say "no, you're too old for this, go home". It is very disheartening when all you want to do is celebrate the holiday, and people tell you you're too old to enjoy it. That is not even mentioning people who may have learning disabilities, or sensory issues that may not be visual, that go trick or treating because they're still in a place in their life when this is important to them and they are turned away by crotchety old people. Also, in Winnipeg we don't have devils night, we call it Mischief night - on October 30th kids go out and destroy Halloween decorations or smash peoples pumpkins, just being jerky teens. If they were able to look forward to trick or treating I truly do think that less kids would partake in those activities. I'm not saying no one should stay home to hand out the candy, but I agree that there should be no age limit to going out and enjoying the holiday if that is what you want to do!

[@pasc8699]

If older kids came at the end of the night my mom would ask what the costumes were. If they seemed capable she would say they have to sing a song for the candy. It was fun for me as a kid since I was done going door to door at 7:30 and got to see “big kids” do I’m a little tea pot or who let the dogs out. If you are old enough to get a job and buy candy you need to work for it! If you want to dress up and see others costumes as an adult you can go to a Halloween party

[@jadziajan]

Yeah, I felt like they were a bit mean about this post lol. While going trick-or-treating as an adult may be pushing it, there's reason to believe OP was saying that lightheartedly anyway. I don't see the issue with teenagers trick-or-treating... it's a wholesome social activity, literally where's the harm? I don't even believe teenagers under 18 should *have to* work at all, granted they live in ideal conditions. It's very likely that a 15 years old wouldn't even care that much about being handed a few pieces of candy, so if they go trick-or-treating, maybe don't ruin their fun?

[@alyssamarie511]

As long as a teen has a costume I’m down to give candy. You can’t just come in jeans and a T shirt and be “yourself”. I also went in high school and we went hard with dressing up. It was fun and just kind of silly.

[@aliceros1]

Yes this is what I thought the post might have meant. I love dressing up for Halloween but I'm not much of a party person so its such a bummer that while I do dress up for work I wish I could go walk around the different neighborhoods with out looking like a weirdo because I don't have kids. It's such a bummer too b/c i live in an apartment so I never get tricker treaters at my door. And I also don't have a dog that I can walk that night to enjoy all the cool decor. 😭

[@KazekageOfTheFunk]

"I don't want to work, I want to be a stay at home mom." You can tell that girl has no idea how much work goes into pregnancy, parenthood or keeping up a home. I don't have kids of my own, but I was a caretaker for my nephew 10 hours a day, and those *just 10 hours* (I gave him back after 5pm lol) were both incredibly rewarding and also draining as hell. There's no 'break'. Every second of your time is focused on the child, the cleaning, the cooking, the planning, the doctors appointments, the "I'm gonna put this in the microwave real quick and get the dishwasher goi- OH SHIT WHY IS IT QUIET. WHAT IS HE UP TO". It sounds like she thinks her life will be easy if she stays at home and produces kids for a rich man, but pregnancy, parenting and housekeeping are all forms of work in their own right that can be exhausting, and hard on your body and mind. It's childish to think that's a walk in the park. Edit to say that a few comments I saw were suggesting that we may be misinterpreting her. I don't think this is the case. The information she gives is telling: she had a rich boyfriend that wanted to wait a few years to develop the relationship and then have kids, so she dumped him because she wants kids NOW, regardless of the quality of the relationship she's in. She says she wants someone to provide for HER and never specifies providing for her children. It's all very self centered and "Me" language, with very little care shown for her relationship with her partner or potential children. It reads to me that she just wants an easy life where she can immediately move out of her parents house and in to the house of a rich man that will let her stay home and pump out kids, which she perceives as 'easy' and 'not work.'

[@pande1461]

That Reddit post is most likely fake, like 99% of the posts on all "Am I The A-hole" type subreddits. It hits all the markers to rile up the stereotypical redditor with a low opinion of women, including the OP's desire to be a "kept woman" and have kids at a young age in order to "trap" a man into marriage / supporting her for life.

[@bloodyrose1995]

This is what I was thinking the entire time listening to this one… like what about having kids is not work??!! Lol Seems this lady just wants the kids to tie the man to her in some way, a very bad reason to have children.

[@chloewilliams1702]

I agree, and I hope she never succeeds in this goal. She would be a horrific mother, and those kids would have such a terrible childhood

[@CandleAshes]

I went trick-or-treating when I was 12 and lots of adults gave me shit for it. Idk about trick-or-treating as an adult, but definitely don't shame older children for it. Also a lot of the houses told me my costume wasn't good enough for trick-or-treating; my family couldn't afford to buy a costume, so I did the best I could to make one. The adults whose houses I was trick-or-treating at just thought I was a lazy teenager "taking candy away from the kids," but it was really mean and unfair of them

[@eleo_b]

12 would be way too old where I live, Yes, you’re still a child, but there are things you’re too old for at certain ages. Your parents should have protected you and told you not to go. Just like there’s an age where you tell children Santa isn’t real, if they haven’t figured that out themselves.

[@kelseybisset88]

I totally disagree with the other commenter. You're totally right! Teenagers should absolutely be able to trick-or-treat. What else do adults want them to do? Drink and party?

[@tianna6824]

I love hearing you guys talk. And how you navigate disagreeing with each other. I always learn from y'alls podcast

[@felixandforrest]

Right! Me too! Love y'all

[@GarliccDread]

My car has the major important buttons for the car functions, but a touch screen for the radio or if you want to use GPS with your phone connected, etc. I appreciate that there's at least a switch on the steering wheel for skipping songs and changing volume, so that's cool for not having to look at the touch screen.

[@kianna270]

ooo I wish i had something like that on my wheel, I have a old car so I just use an aux and have to use my phone to do any of that, and it’s frankly annoying and inconvenient.

[@sarabocko2491]

Can we just appreciate their mature opinions and conversations on the podcast

[@JustineAprilJ]

That's why this is my favorite podcast 😌

[@alecoloxa]

24:09 being a stay at home mom is SUPER HARD and is even worst when someone have to provide for you (they can disappear any day) pretty risky

[@LaurenAnne6]

My senior year College Algebra teacher took the last week of class to show us how to descifer credit card offers. That saved me from accruing so much debt.

[@TopFurret]

Got any tips? I'm 26 and hardly know anything about credit cards

[@LaurenAnne6]

@@TopFurret It was mostly just read the fine print. Credit card offers come with a slip or two of paper with a chart, describing the big picture interest rate and fees, then the fine print will give you all the special cases where they can change your rates and fees without giving you the notice that you might think they would. It takes a bit of time, but after you read a few of them, you'll know what to look out for.

[@YouTubeSupportSucks]

Decipher*

[@kc_lee_ann]

I have the exact same thought about school. My Econ class taught us about taxes and how to do all that and I’ve seen multiple of my classmates post “I wish we were taught this in school” and I’m just like WE WERE YOU WERE JUST ON YOUR PHONE THE WHOLE TIME

[@SammyLammy1D]

29:00 In Sweden we have that. It's called "dagsböter" or "daily tickets" basically, you get an amount of days you have to pay your ticket, like 50 days, and how much money you pay each day depends on your yearly income so it feels the same no matter how wealthy you are. :)

[@mangkokmie]

For the “equals” vs sequels, i would rather have “alternates” where the story started the same way but the characters make different decisions through out the story

[@recoil53]

Almost a "Choose Your Own Adventures". Also Rashomon.

[@bleepblop]

It seems cool, but the alternative stories would probably be lesser. In the original work, the author made the plot and characters etc the way they did to tell a message or theme or to teach something, so if they made characters do something else the story probably wouldn’t mean as much in that version. I think this is post English essay me talking.

[@meganheath1215]

Yeah! I completely agree! One example I enjoyed was the traditional Cinderella and ALW's Cinderella

[@paulamartinez3314]

@@bleepblop also, there is a psychological components on why a character chooses certain things so in an alternative world they aren't really the same person.

[@jacy_aka_dogmom]

Stepphenie Meyer did both with Twilight. "Midnight Sun" is an sequel from Edward's perspective, it gave some minimal background information that was previously unknown... but otherwise uninteresting. And "Life and Death" was a gender swapped Twilight, that made the other 3 books in the series irrelevant. I am sure that these methods can be effective, but I have yet to see it done in a satisfactory manner.

[@misspiece22]

In Pittsburgh we say "Yinz" for the same application of "Y'all". Example: "What are yinz doing later tonight?" Also, Devil's Night is the night before Halloween where teens go smash pumkins and vandalize houses.

[@0514heonybee]

can’t forget the famous “yinz guys” for example “are yinz guys going trick or treating?”

[@llJeshooinessll]

Is it two words made into one or just a made up word

[@misspiece22]

@@llJeshooinessll just a Pittsburgh word. Not a conjunction. But it is used the same as you would use the word Y'all or you all.

[@0514heonybee]

@@llJeshooinessll i honestly think it’s just a made up word

[@BUSHCRAPPING]

@@misspiece22 sounds likely to be from you.uns / you ins which would likely have irish routes

[@AndreeCynthia]

Now I need a video, at least 20 minutes long, of Ben speaking in different accents. This is awesome 😂😂

[@margarytavasylieva3732]

For me,personally, being a mom is much harder than work from 9 till 5. Being a mom is a 24/7 job. So I don't think that girl really knows what she wants.

[@gabrielledonn4098]

She literally says she doesn’t wanna work being a parents is still work you just aren’t payed🙄 thought this was common sense. She wants to be kept

[@florencefauna]

This is somewhat unrelated to the episode but more about Cristine and Ben in general. I really enjoy seeing them as a couple. A lot of the small interactions are just very sweet and just put a smile on my face. Also, Ben's attempt at a British accent cracks me up.

[@deannascorner8112]

I was so happy to see some of the teens that came to my house this year for trick or treating and I would never turn them away. I totally used my younger siblings to trick or treat for as long as I could 🤣

[@gingeelise]

That person needs to use chopsticks for "dirty" snacks. I crochet/cross stitch a lot and you DEFINITELY don't want cheez dust anywhere near your project. But... I love my snacks, so chopsticks it is.

[@recoil53]

Or pour it down your throat.

[@jasperj.d.g.4147]

@@recoil53 a lot Will spill

[@shanm08]

When Ben said he loves how Cristine says the word button, my heart melted. Absolute cuteness! 🥰

[@adamemac]

Hey, Cristine and Ben! Hope you're both well!! How about this _not-so_ unpopular opinion? This is one of the better podcasts out there!

[@Megan-vr4mj]

I never realized how much I like how Cristine ends her videos with "Ya'll" it evokes a nice sense of being in a close-knit community.

[@RamcatUru]

High five to Ben making the "These pretzels are making me thirsty!" reference. I see you.

[@beLIEver31415]

Book "equals": I love the Ender's Game and Ender's Shadow "equal" stories or as I think it is called parallel novel and it added more to both stories :D So cool and well done imo! And love they are the starting point for 2 different series :)

[@m0zarts-animation]

I also liked how that series did it - I feel like I’m ok with parallel novels because while they may have common events, they are ultimately not the same story. I would definitely not be interested in reading, for example, Harry Potter from Hermione’s perspective because she went through too many of the same events as Harry.

[@SundiMyint]

The most popular dish in my culture (Burmese) is a pickled tea leaf salad. There is a special kind of tea leaf that is harvested in a particular region in Burma that gets pickled. You then toss those tea leaves with sliced cabbage, ground shrimp, fried lentils / peanuts, freshly sliced tomatoes, and sesame seeds. And eat on top of hot jasmine rice! There's sooo much caffeine in this dish so I can't have it past lunch time, but it's my favorite snack / meal. So sometimes you can eat the tea! All I wanted to say 🤪

[@xoxo62477]

Cristine referring to contractions as word squishing just made my day 😂

[@almonmarie]

When you mentioned the Blackberry thing and I completely agree! I really liked the tactile keyboard but the software was not really keeping up with the pace. I miss it though hehe

[@Flutterfae7]

I love all the Seinfeld references Ben makes constantly! 🤣🤣 "Yada Yada Yada" "These pretzels are making me thirsty!"

[@angel_vii]

Re: Trick or Treating; My partner and I have a 4 year old son and dress up to match him for Halloween. We take him trick or treating and at like 50% of the houses we are offered treats also like candy or even alcoholic beverages. My husband was given like 4 beers this year and I was the sober responsible one. 😂 We don't ask for treats, but if you're offering, I'm not going to say no to free candy.

[@Tinkerelly]

The transparency about your business descisions is so refreshing. Love that

[@ollieanabella264]

Can't believe it's been 84 episodes and my country still hasn't recovered from covid yet

[@ann1ka_]

has any country recovered yet?

[@johndododoe1411]

@@ann1ka_ Not mine, and it's election day today. So they had to create covid-19 safety protocols for voting, including procedures for voting while infected.

[@recoil53]

@@ann1ka_ Some small island countries avoided it or only had a few isolated cases.

[@ollieanabella264]

@@ann1ka_ Well, relatively, a third world country like mine with fairly corrupt politicians prolly hasnt recovered as much as other countries have

[@sv-wolfheart_tfg2186]

Honestly one of the best things about knowing people is small thinks like liking how they say a certain word or do little things that make you just feel like “wow I’m so glad that you’re here”

[@Fran-vd9zk]

The queen BENlisabeth was the highlight of the century. I'm LMAO. Thank you BEN ♥️

[@slothdance2020]

In university my friends and I went reverse trick or treating. We dressed up and went to houses and asked to trade them candy for any random item they would be willing to part with. We then compared who got the weirdest stuff. It was a blast!

[@sabraex]

I actually took two classes my senior year, one of them being "personal finance" and the other "adult living". No, they weren't mandatory, but they were provided by the school. Do you think these people when deciding what classes to take that year actually chose these two options? No, they didn't. Things we learned in these two classes were how to do your taxes, car loans, mortgages, even how to plan a wedding and budget for one and when having kids. I've seen people from my high school on Facebook complaining about not learning these things, when they actively chose to NOT take these classes. My school might be in the minority having provided these types of classes, but they DO exist.

[@thevoidbender]

We had “Personal Finance” class as a senior in high school as a mandatory. It was mostly just writing checks and how insurance and premiums work but that’s better than nothing.

[@stephaniejoy6893]

My school had a required course about economics (including how to do your taxes) and by the end of the school year I could still hear people in my class saying that school should teach us something useful even though they just weren’t paying attention

[@nailsonpointbynina]

when you talked about speeding tickets and Cristine said something about no speed limits somewhere it was just that moment that I realised she said „Autobahn“ which is nothing more than just the translation of „highway“ to German in Germany you don‘t have a speeding limit on some highways…here in Austria you do but it‘s 130km/h and people often go 150 I think the „paying a percantage of your income“ thing is in scandinavia and maybe switzerland? I might be wrong here but I think it‘s the best idea cause it has an impact on everyone who gets a ticket otherwise rich people can just do whatever they want cause they can afford the tickets so that way they would also have to be more careful which would be nice

[@JavierReyes-vi7vj]

I always go 65-70 mph on the freeway, unless I see a sign that lets me go higher, my ass isn’t gonna get a ticket, so y’all can go around me lol

[@YouTubeSupportSucks]

Stay in the middle or right lanes then

[@YouTubeSupportSucks]

Not the passing lane

[@susanmiller4159]

As a woman of a certain age from the southern US, I can tell you that we were discouraged from using y’all in school as it was frowned upon as improper grammar. Also when I worked for a pretty large newspaper in the 80s y’all would never have been exceptable in print except in a quote. All of this being said, I think it’s great that a term from “southern” America has gotten the approval of other English speaking countries. Ironically I’m not sure other parts of the US use it with frequency. There (of course) is a map somewhere with demographics of “y’all’s” usage nationwide. I personally think it works well as a plural you esp in current world of inclusivity.

[@Phlimbob]

Yesss, it really grinds my gears when people take the same story is retell it from a different perspective, even from the same story. It is considered lazy writing and often times it flops because you really don't need to see the alternate perspectives. The only times it is truly successful/interesting is when they don't actually tell the same story, they tell an alternate timeline one. Think the Disney movies that focus on the villain, like Maleficent or Cruella. Those are new unique stories and that is why they were successful.

[@mojibien7570]

47:21 In Sweden we learn sewing, cooking, woodwork and the political system in school :) fun and useful to know how to fix a button and vote!

[@julia8523]

Ben's trying to get Cristine demonitized lmao. "In exchange for drugs or alcohol"🤪

[@sagessedantan]

I don't agree with the "y'all wouldn't listen anyway" argument - with that logic, why send kids to school at all then? I totally think school should include more life skills life taxes, budgeting, cooking, cleaning, etc...

[@recoil53]

They used to have home ec. But for some of the home stuff, I think the assumption is that you learn it at home - chores.

[@kianna270]

@@recoil53 well at least budgeting, money management, advice on things to look for in jobs (healthcare, 401k, etc) and types of jobs or some type of “career exploring”. I feel like so many people get so little education on how many jobs are out there, college degree or not. So many people settle for sucky jobs when there’s much better out there and they’re not aware of it. So many people stay at the same job in the same dead end role for “comfort” or “security” or they’re not confident in their worth. I know friends that are scared to ask for what they’re worth at job interviews bc you’re taught to just accept anything if you’re young. Most of the time if you ask for more, they’re able to do it. Idk, I just feel like more advice on life, that many kids don’t get from their parents because they’re busy working, or they’re not interested, or they’re in foster care, etc. not teaching these “assumed” skills is detrimental to many kids that don’t have a stable home and leads to a cycle of what their parents do bc that’s all they know. Ofc not everyone is like that, but many kids are robbed of valuable life skills because their parents weren’t able/ didn’t want to teach. I feel like we would see a lot more success in young adults if we pumped more confidence into them and taught them their worth in the future, because they are our future!

[@recoil53]

@@kianna270 I'm short on time, so - Some of that is negotiating skills, which nobody teaches. Some of that is using things as simple as career & guidance counselors as well as seeking out mentors.

[@leahbelieva]

I was taught about bank accounts, credit cards, and loans in a home ec class… when I was in the 8th grade. So at best being 14-15 years old? How was anyone to understand any of it and retain it for the future?

[@kianna270]

@@recoil53 yes but again, not everyone realizes that they’re lacking life advice or knowledge of these things. if you grow up around parents who never care to teach you, you’ll probably never go out of your way to learn it until you absolutely have to. but everyone is different, some people do seek out that help.

[@kahlanweir5868]

Fun fact for the reading one! Books that follow the same plot line from a different character’s perspective is called a companion novel; not only do they exist, but they’re becoming increasingly popular I feel. A great example is Jenna Moreci’s “The Savior’s Series”; book 1 (The Savior’s Champion) follows Tobias and his adventure through this gladiator tournament, book 2 (The Savior’s Sister) follows Leila and her adventure during the tournament but has its own unique storyline. The events are the same but the stories are different. However, yes, most of the time if you’re looking for a story with an IDENTICAL plot, you just want a few chapters detailing that character’s interaction with the events from their perspective, NOT a whole novel. Companion novels only work when the same events impact characters in wildly different ways :) (I’m not going to explain TSC and TSS differences because it spoils book 1)!

[@tryandsaycecili]

I just recently got a brand new 2021 vehicle after owning my used '97 Honda accord for 6 years and I made sure the seats weren't electric and there wasn't a key button start nor a key button gear shift because I knew the transition would be incredibly jarring. I do have dials for my ac and a touch screen mostly for the radio but I'm Bluetooth connected to my phone anytime I drive so I don't have to really touch it anyways. I loveeee my new car 🥰

[@ninjaahjumma]

Ben loves how Cristine says buttons, but I love how she pronounces “in lieu” at 17:15.

[@marypuppet110]

I love the glitter formula and I think the new ruby red and the black holo that launched for Christmas will be my new favorite nail polish 🥺 I can't wait to receive my package! I'll be sad if they're limited, I just have way too much nail polish by now, because I bought every collection and I don't use them enough 😭 I try tho

[@citrine_sunset]

oh and on the life skills one, this is totally true. in my state in the US (VA) you're literally required to take a personal finance class to graduate high school. we filled out mock taxes, mock checkbooks, participated in a budgeting simulation, learned about all financial products and most typed of financial institutions, and even participated in a simulation for investing in the stock market. yet as an adult, i keep hearing people here in my peer ground saying that whole "i didn't learn taxes in school but i'm glad i know polynomials i don't use" thing or whatever. high schoolers just don't always fully absorb what they don't care about.

[@dearvictoria4716]

Absolutely agree that touch screens should be minimized in cars, and screens in general (super light sensitive and find it distracting). Also, we just got a new heater and the thermostat is "smart" and it is the most annoying thing. Why is it easier than just moving a dial or lever?

[@Darkwiccawillow]

the thermostat for our heater has an old school lever on it and I never know if when I move it I actually set the temperature that I want or if I actually did anything at all. Our basement has an electric fireplace when we had to replace thermostat there, we put in a more modern one with a screen & buttons. When I set this one at least I know it does what I want it to do. I can’t speak for car touch screens, the car I drive is a 2010 model…

[@random23287]

I do occasionally suck on the tea bag, or like squeeze it to get the liquid out and then drink that. I won't chew the leaves though. I recently updated my iPhone from an 8 to an XS, and it took me like a week to get used to the lack of a home button. I guess I just adapt easily. I do agree on the car point though, the car I have has a touch screen (which is pretty bad on its own but Carplay is the best thing ever) and buttons and it still looks sleek and modern.

[@lupeflores9093]

Hearing Ben trying to speak in a British accent had me crying 😭🤣

[@patkabee]

Ben saying g-g-g-garbage at 49:43 is so funny 😅 I keep replaying it

[@dcdamio]

For “equals” honestly Star Wars isn’t the best comparison for how fleshing out more of the universe can narrow down the creative expansion of the universe. There are literally hundreds of stories across multiple media types that prior to Didnee takeover were considered cannon extended universe to the original trilogy. Were the prequel and sequel movies necessary? Debatable, but the expansion of that universe has led to more and more creativity for official media.

[@chelseal654]

On referring to people in the plural: I work in public radio and we always say you. We know that multiple people are listening, but we try to imagine one person enjoying the broadcast. It’s meant to create a connection that feels companionable. And funny story: in the south you say y’all for a single person, and “all y’all” is plural, lol. It depends on where you’re from 😂😂😂

[@SpookyDeerArt]

gotta disagree with the trick or treating one, mostly because it feels like you guys have an outdated view of teens. as a teen, i wanted desperately to trick or treat. a lot of teens now do too, but it's usually seen as embarrassing or inappropriate for them to. i gave up trick or treating because i'd get weird looks, but i thought it was really fun to go door to door and get to walk around at night safely with my family or friends then enjoy candy with them afterwards. not all teens are interested in the party scene, I didn't start going to parties until i was 18 and even then it was just my friends and i watching youtube videos and eating candy. i know i'm not some paragon of teens' secret wants, but i know a lot of teens still would enjoy it and only don't because adults give them shit for it. it's why i stopped. i had younger brothers still young enough to do it, why shouldn't i have been allowed to go with them without dirty looks from adults? probably a bit of a soft spot for me, mostly because halloween is my favorite holiday, and the spooky season is my favorite time of the year. i also know this want to still trick or treat is especially common in neurodivergent teens and teens who don't get a lot of other freedoms. i was both, i'm autistic and i didn't have many friends for most of my life so getting to dress up and go out was my favorite thing to do every year. i still dress up! long ranty comment aside, i just think the point of the post was missed. a lot of teens like going out trick or treating but give it up because it's seen as very childish in a world where they're made to be adults at younger and younger ages. let kids of all ages have fun, 6 or 16.

[@flonny1340]

I agree with a lot of what was said here, just one thing I'd like to add. I noticed and thought about their response to this and, yeah, it made me think ,'huh, I think THEY are only saying this cause it w a s how they would be when they were teens,' But like I said before, so long as you're in a costume that's good to go for trick or treating . I find it kinda silly to assume, and maybe Pressure, teens to make them think they should stop at a certain age trick or treating and instead go to parties. I mean, are they asking for HIGHER drug use, diseases, etc. from teens?! Like, going out to get candy 🍬 seems like a much safer activity

[@DrizzingSakuras]

14:14 I think that I like books like wings of fire that tell different, progressing stories with each book, but change the perspective to a different character who means more to the story. That's a great way to have many different protagonists and still not have to favor one over the other

[@char_rat13]

As a British person I find it hilarious them trying to do a British accent, only English teachers speak like that 💀 Lots of swears and a slightly drunk tone would be accurate 👍🏻

[@dawnthegoblin]

I got told by my British friend that my accent is good posh British. It leans a little Edinburgh if I'm sober because I like that softer British accent but when I'm drunk I apparently sounds like a royal

[@Chaotic_Pixie]

A really healthy way of parenting around food to take the novelty out of fun foods (basically devaluing them as a prize so you're less likely to overeat) by having the dessert be on the plate with dinner. I've actually started doing this with myself and my SiL does it with my nieces. It's surprisingly effective and I'm far less snacky because of it. So, if I want dessert, I have started ordering it and asking for it to come out with my meal and the very few times we've taken my nieces out, we order it when we order their dinner and ask it to come with dinner.

[@zackc5490]

I also suck on the tea bag, but after I’ve finished the tea, and I’ll usually suck the rest of the moisture out of it, then throw it away

[@boopointeshoes4116]

LMAO! I love that you brought up "yous guys" when talking about the word "ya'll". Reminds me of the slang my dad's family uses in Pittsburgh.

[@michellestoessel8427]

As a stay at home mom/housewife, I love my lifestyle and the feeling of being provided for, but I was lucky enough to love my man first 😅 in fact when I met him we were both broke lmao

[@tamhuy10]

yeah theres no issue about being a housewife, it was just the poster way of thinking about it

[@lh9591]

Yep and that’s the big difference between you and that person. You didn’t date him for his money.

[@CandyBoot]

Love your profile picture.🤣Also, lucky you! It’s hard finding a partner for life nowadays.

[@borgessosaanapaula9936]

47:04 Here in Uruguay they teach us what goes into a salary receipt and how to calculate it to not get scammed and also the days of license that you should get because is your right and actually we couldn't care less. I don't know why this happens, I think that because we see all this so far away, like in 3 years, we don't find it necessary to learn in that moment.

[@RK-re1wm]

Confused non-native speaker here: I always thought that "you" is both singular and plural. Did my teachers trick me?

[@bexc.5842]

It is. You can be used as a collective noun. However, it's more common to say you all, you guys, y'all, youse, etc.

[@elviratornay2070]

Yeah thats the reason it can be ambiguous, since there can be confusion whether someone is talking directly to one person or the whole group

[@thenopedetective]

Sometimes I rewatch these because they're so chill in the background. Hearing Ben's first British accent killed me though 😂😂

[@nuclearseahorse]

I actually would support eating dessert first IF the dessert is a small portion. The sweetness for me needs to be cleansed with refreshing or savory item, like a salad or just a glass of milk. I would say that eating some cheesecake before eating a bowl of soup, then eating a savory entree dish would actually be a very efficient way to consume food from a flavour standpoint

[@nichyates2652]

I love it when they have different chapters for different pov

[@vikkumari]

Honestly I'm a dessert first type of person. Deserts leave me feeling like I'm on a sugar high, and then savory foods being me down from that high. I don't do dessert first at restaurants but I do at home. I'll often just eat my dessert while cooking my food.

[@rachelcakes3929]

I’m here for bens Seinfeld quotes! Every time he drops one, I have a flash of the whole episode. Thanks Ben 🖤

[@BalancingForcez]

I dunno about anyone else, I trick or treated until I was 36. They gave me candy. It wasn't about just getting candy.. it's about being able to dress up and go out for fun. If they going to give me candy I'm going to continue to enjoy it 😂

[@flonny1340]

Sameee, who says "you're too old for trick or treating", only people who lost their sense of self say that, and I don't know about you, but I wouldn't listen to someone who says fun stops when you "grow up."

[@leahbelieva]

For trick or treating: I love seeing jr high and high school students out! I will happily give candy! In older kids usually have better costumes too. And group costumes! My grandfather was a hs teacher and my grandmother worked in the school as well. They have a photo album dedicated to their students who trick or treated at their house over the years. It’s awesome. We would trick or treat there and obviously visit and their students would come over and they’d have amazing costumes. And my grandma would always take their pictures. So cute!

[@alinagoberman1827]

I have an older car that was one of the first that had the car navigation touch screen. I also live in the frozen tundra. The screen won’t even turn on if it’s below 0F. Our brand new car has even more touch screen stuff, and as where my car doesn’t let you mess with the screen while driving, the new cars practically require it to do anything in the car.

[@seymat.3742]

I was looking forward to the podcast so much. It is such a nice break from the first few busy days of the week.