Hoarding disorder - what’s the psychology behind it?

[@ivy_caine5302]

I can not deal with hoarding. I come from from a family of hoarders, it’s absolutely traumatizing for children!

[@Rose-db6bx]

I can relate I hate it so much

[@kaiparker2658]

I am a hoarder...i doesn't like to let go of silly things like chocolate wrappers,covers, plastic bags,boxes, soft drink bottles,clothes, envelope, clothes etc... recently i realized this is a disorder...i have this habit of developing an emotional connection with things..I'm just 22 years old...what should i do...how will i cope up with this

[@Moulixpert]

I can totally relate to you 🥺

[@jsabri6324]

​@@kaiparker2658Sweetheart, I'm so sorry no one has answered you yet. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has been very successful for many who struggle with attachments to things. A good therapist can help you heal from this. I wish you every blessing ❤

[@okyoky405]

Most of them are women right?

[@ErichRaeder]

I’d argue hoarding is also connected to emotional abuse as well

[@hauaus934]

I FEEL like this is true. My mu was emotionally abused her whole married life and and she hoards so badly 😢

[@movingforwardfco1587]

It can be.

[@LisaG442]

They never discuss this. It must be taboo or they’re over analyzing it to give themselves more self importance

[@roseskyschmolesky]

I agree. I know two hoarders. Both suffered some level of emotional abuse from mothers. However one told me his father was a doctor and the home was kept clinically clean and tidy like a surgery, and I the he was unconsciously rebelling against that. He was sent to boarding school at an early age, perhaps to keep the house clean and tidy … lol

[@Leadership_matters]

I'm not sure why that is an argument. hell yah it is.

[@marklimbrick]

This is a bit of a muddle description. Basically, we all have attachment to our family photos. Old newspapers for hoarders generate the same emotions. Reasons could be displacement of loss in life and the rubbish is a substitute comfort. Hoarders understand this and want help because of the shame. But cure is combined therapy and learning skills to manage emotions.

[@TheEndIsUponUs]

I don't even have family pictures. Where am i supposed to store them? 8 who even wants to look at them?

[@Catherine-u8l]

@@TheEndIsUponUsRight. Somehow I ended up with all our family photos and they are taking up room in my shed. Too many possessions gives me anxiety!

[@kaiparker2658]

I am a hoarder...i doesn't like to let go of silly things like chocolate wrappers,covers, plastic bags,boxes, soft drink bottles,clothes, envelope, clothes etc... recently i realized this is a disorder...i have this habit of developing an emotional connection with things..I'm just 22 years old...what should i do...how will i cope up with this

[@user-rj1vj5wk9f]

same

[@KenMalia-xr7jn]

Hi Kai, my disorder was triggered by a shock, my dear Uncle committed suicide when I was 21 years old, he was the father figure in my life, have you had a trauma in your life? I was married to a narcissist for 25 years , I felt very insecure with him, he lacked empathy, we eventually got divorced as he met a woman he wanted to be with, many years later I met a man who loves me for myself and we are now married, he helps me with my OCD hoarding.

[@roseskyschmolesky]

I wonder if it’s a form of control… they have an inability to let go and surrender so they hold onto everything, in the same way an anorexic controls through not eating.

[@gracereyes2857]

Watch Marie Condos show and walk around clean minimalist rooms and imagine yourself being free and how nice it is to be free from all the trash

[@jameelsaazer]

Let go of these things. Stop buying things that you would like to hoard. Things are not important in life, people are.

[@user-js6ch1mf8g]

Everything is a memory they hoard. And have ptsd.

[@biancaiyo6866]

I became a hoarder as I grew older and I think it has to do with me being neglected with material things as a child.

[@LisaG442]

Why isn’t childhood trauma ever discussed in hoarding disorder? Especially sexual abuse and emotional abuse. Ppl who hoard are the same as alcoholics and drug abusers .. mentally damaged and seeking escape from their pain. Instead of over analyzing like you just did, why not ask the hoarder “what happened to you?”. Then get them the appropriate help.

[@MaleOrderBride]

Uh, we are not professional therapists?! We don't know how to ask those tough questions! Ugh, every Hoarder I know is a massive narcissist like this: blaming everyone around them for "not asking the right question"...when the hoarders clutter is impacting the lives of their loved ones around them!?😢

[@Romans828girl]

@@MaleOrderBride My husband is a hoarder and he is absolutely not a narcissist.

[@koushikhore7948]

I have learned to let go things or persons which has helped me in long run.

[@XFadedXSunX]

I’d like to know if I have hoarding disorder? Here’s my symptoms -I always am scared to let go of things, I refuse to let my parents throw any of my stuff away -Once a mess is there, I can’t fix it -my room is completely cluttered, my mom always comments on how she can barely move through my room, but I don’t see a problem with the clutter, it’s more comfortable for me. -more signs, I listen the main ones

[@BarrocoTarot]

I have lot of books and I can't let them go😭😭😭

[@Rose-db6bx]

How many ? I have 20 and I already thing I'm going wild but my desire to have books is killing me

[@BarrocoTarot]

@@Rose-db6bx I have more than 200 books and my apartment...

[@Rose-db6bx]

@@BarrocoTarot you added a 0 to my number huh 😭 well if you have some books you didn't like and never opened them again maybe you can give them to a lybrary this way you can have more space and the books will be safe but it's just my suggestion but be careful if you don't have space even to walk that is a real problem if you can get a bigger place maybe you can have a whole ly bybrary that would be awesome!!!

[@BarrocoTarot]

@@Rose-db6bx Yes, totally agree. I discovered I have a hoarder disorder and some of the books are rare and difficult to find I mean is not about the money is about te link but you are right I have to do something.

[@Rose-db6bx]

@@BarrocoTarot rare books!!! Their like diamonds so I don't blame you i would do the same take care of them.

[@pinkpotatoes9849]

I have empathy for the discarded objects from second hand shops. like I project myself onto them- they are discarded by others but they have worth, so I want to save them.

[@susanneashton1340]

Hoarding bags of household rubbish, second hand clothing, broken chairs and laundry baskets. There is no emotional attachment, but an inability to dispose-of. They don't like or enjoy the smelly clutter, from sll appearances.

[@gems8582]

Also hoarding disorder is closely related to ocd.

[@francyl4pin]

Fact

[@JensBrobergNr]

The difference is that most people with ocd know they have a disorder. Most hoaders don't

[@apotheticallyautistic73]

Thank you

[@Leadership_matters]

All I know is the next time my mom leaves her house, I'm tossing out all of those damn sunset magazines from the 70s, 80s, and 90s. And whyyyyyyyy all of the little plastic containers!?!?

[@Romans828girl]

This is a really bad idea. If your mom is a hoarder, going behind her back is a betrayal that can make her hoarding worse - in addition to harming your relationship.

[@Leadership_matters]

@@Romans828girl I have had one house burn down in my life. We survived. She can't move that fast anymore. Not what I want to do, but more of a need situation.

[@Ell-Zan]

Yg kesini gara2 ibu kos👌

[@altpotus6913]

Billionaires are hoarders...

[@Not-Ap]

Yes but hoarding and multiplying money has few downsides. In fact it's really one of the few things worth hoarding that help you and rest of your family live. A truckload of unopened toilet paper rolls (as a example) comparatively has less value or ability to help you or your loved ones survive.

[@altpotus6913]

@@Not-Ap Sure, but it doesn't help humanity in general.

[@richardswartz296]

So what if you collect from your life are you a hoarder???? I think they make hoarding serious because people want other people's things

[@butterblix]

I have it and its not just collecting i cant get myself to even throw away stuff like broken pens and get very bad anxiety when sharing things

[@richardswartz296]

@@butterblix then dont throw it away then. There is no law that says you half to throw things away. If it has meaning to you keep it if you wish too.

[@butterblix]

@@richardswartz296 my room look like junk yard

[@richardswartz296]

@@butterblix its your room it can look how ever you want it to look & doesn't matter what anyone thinks

[@butterblix]

@@richardswartz296 i dont like room lokkin like junk yard and cant help it plus family thinks im selfish for not donating these things

[@WendyJones-zx7is]

This is a disorder or better put a DIS EASE ? These sad people are not at ease ? Its all junk or rubbisn to us ! To them its an extention of them ! Who they are ? Its theirs , they own it ! Its a mess ypto us ? But the hoarder knows exactly where everything is kept

[@MintuDebbarma-nu1po]

I quit my father because of severe hoarder...

[@rosie6]

I wanna leave

[@johndawd4616]

No , you don't , how are you doing?

[@gijose83]

It's a selfish disorder

[@Not-Ap]

Yes but it's driven by fear of extreme loss. When you've nearly loose everything and I mean EVERYTHING especially at a young it can frighten you to the core.

[@WendyJones-zx7is]

No not so much selfish ? That's because you can't understand the psychology of the DIS EASE ? That's just your own opinion ? Rubbish to us ! Important to the holder though its an extention of their emotions ! Like an hamster buried in its cage because it feels safe ? Things are not as black and white in life ? Look deeper

[@rosebud1493]

Mostly hoarders stuff is crap no one else would want.

[@kookamunga2458]

I think the best thing to do is invite the hoarder somewhere away for a day or so and have the cleanup team sneak in while they're out and remove the entire contents of the house and send it all too the dump .

[@RadCenter]

That's actually the worst thing you could do for a hoarder. Not only would it traumatize them; they would never trust you again and they would re-hoard the space faster than you emptied it.

[@kookamunga2458]

@@RadCenter You are right but removing one or two items per day won't work either . My previous landlord was a hoarder and they had hoarded for years . My landlord ran out of room to store stuff in her house and started storing things in the apartment I was renting from her . She died and her stuff required eight 30 foot dumpsters plus a month long estate sale and her house was still crammed with things like peanut butter from 1963 and a years worth of canned food and booze which was given to me . Some good came out of it .

[@phillipamchugh7455]

It's to do with control. A way of controlling your life and other people. Obsessive behaviour can manifest in many ways. Eating, drinking, gambling, and so on.

[@rodenreyes6320]

Where do they lump money hoarders, a.k.a. multimillionaires and billionaires? ...money cannot be spent in several lifetimes.

[@Valchee9192631770]

A saw a farmer today and he was hoarding sheep. There was like 500 of them. Why does he need so many sheep? Isn't 1 or 2 enough?

[@imenehaddad2860]

Herding

[@Valchee9192631770]

@@imenehaddad2860 Yeah I know, right? He was hoarding them in such large numbers that it was literally hurting them. At least that's what I heard.

[@arvinsantos7478]

💀💀💀

[@Bruh-jr2ep]

Bruhhhh😂😂😂

[@jillmeader5882]

U must mean herding not hoarding right?

[@flaggermillions-tg3ti]

No excuse for for REFUSING to wash even one dish or throw used food in the trash. These people weren't disciplined as kids.

[@jamesspalten5977]

So wrong....

[@johndawd4616]

Lol, probably most of them were disciplined .

[@Stoviecakes]

This wasn’t useful so I’ll sum it up. Not all Narcissists Hoard, but every Hoarder is a Narcissist.

[@TR-ru7tb]

I don't think so..people who have been financially depraved from their spouses and not allowed to have any controll over their paychecks become hoarders..id argue the ones abused may be hoarders most the ones i know are very loving people who were neglected

[@kaiparker2658]

​@@happychick94how?

[@Not-Ap]

That's not fair. Alotta people who hoard can be highly empathetic but so much of their own emotions.

[@peach495]

This is very important to me. I may have a use for it one day, so I'm going to throw it on a pile of shit and continue to throw shit on top of it.

[@johndawd4616]

😢