VAGINAL TEARING DURING BIRTH: Myths You Probably Believe

[@Ash-fi1ls]

The tearing scares me even tho I’m 17 and won’t even have a baby at all anytime soon

[@allupinyomine]

fellow arianator

[@Ash-fi1ls]

@@allupinyomine yesss tiny elephant for life

[@mandboone1571]

Calling me out

[@shivanimanna8645]

I actually think that birthing of humans needs to get less horrible in every sense or some better methods should be invented for birthing without any major surgery or any kind of tear to be honest. And I think women scientists should be working at it.

[@DReed1945]

You don’t feel it and even when being sewn up, you hardly feel a thing after natural birth.

[@kaylawae9498]

First time mom here! I am delivering at a birth center and actually thought squatting was a good way for natural birth. I have watched some of your videos explaining how beneficial different positions can be vs. on your back. I would love to see a video on the best positions to give birth naturally for the least amount of tearing and easiest for the baby to move properly and not against gravity! Love your videos! Thanks for the great content!

[@sazzlepop321]

Squatting is good until when they baby is crowning. Squatting stretches the skin there too much. Better to be on all fours

[@nathandaigle5536]

Like the last point. My first I was rushed to push when I had no urge to do so. I also wanted to squat but western doctors dont accommodate that. I did tear and her rushing me was an awful anxiety filled time when I was in such a peaceful mindset before hand considering I was doing it without epidural or pain meds. My body knew. The drs need to understand this and respect that. Baby number two is to be here anyday now.. I'm overdue with him and this time I'm not letting anyone force me to push or tell me what position is best. I'm going to do this with confidence and peace of mind. I have midwives this time.

[@lajsilhou351]

I want to squat as well but would they be there to catch the baby to prevent it from falling on its head. Last thing I want is them to say "we told you to do the back position " this is the risk that comes with doing other positions

[@syanibibi]

I guess i had the same bad experience.

[@witchybitchy6735]

Yes exactly! Also we can be rebels, what are they going to do ? Kick us out of the hospital? We have to pay like around 22,000!!! We have rights to say no I don’t want this done or I want this done!

[@witchybitchy6735]

@@lajsilhou351 the doctor should be helping you to catch the baby! If you don’t have a birth partner the doctor should be there to help you

[@tylahoc9271]

Loved all this info. Sadly I was a natural first timer who delivered on my knees but tore my labia and perineum. I healed great and went on to have a beautiful unassisted 2nd birth 18months later and am currently 7 months pregnant with my 3rd 😊

[@djina3141]

Congrats mama🤗💕💕

[@MrEvldreamr]

Did you tear afterwards or only rhe first time?

[@tylahoc9271]

@@MrEvldreamr only tore with my first. My 3rd baby I birthed her in the bath :)

[@MrEvldreamr]

@@tylahoc9271 would you say the water birth made things easier? Or do you think you wouldve torn on your 1st pregnancy regardless?

[@tylahoc9271]

@@MrEvldreamr I think I tore with my first because it was my first and my midwife didnt guide me very well when she started crowning. Instead of her head coming out nice and slowly I pushed her really fast and hard out having no clue what I was ment to be doing. The water birth felt nice for sure, I had imagined it would take a lot of the pain away..... it did not lol

[@elisec1792]

Thank you, that was really informative and reassuring. I'm planning on doing a VBAC and going as natural as possible and this is the main thing i'm scared of.

[@unbelievablemoments7622]

I ripped while giving natural birth on my back, I was 18 at the time. My OB said “I have too cut or you’re going too tear” (my daughter was 9 lbs 5oz and had wide shoulders and I was tiny). But once she said that, I said NO let me rip then! Because I got scared of the thought of being cut down there. So I pushed as hard as I could and I definitely ripped, but she never told me how bad the tear was. I just know the aftermath was horrible, trying too urinate was painful! I had too pee standing up in the shower for I don’t remember how long.

[@Smile56329]

Wow I am NEVER having kids for sure now. I new I didn't before for other resasons but this is the conformation I needed!🙄

[@rabbimt]

@@Smile56329 u can get a C-section

[@helpmyspaghettiiseatingme]

@@rabbimt nooo! That’s major abdominal surgery and is a MUCH MUCH bigger recovery than a vaginal birth

[@minarwong9629]

I can never forget how long it took to recover, it took me 1 and a half year to start getting back to my normal life.

[@syanibibi]

I am having it right now. Though everyone is saying it's the normal process i have a strong feeling like its never gonna heal again. The heavy red bleeding is scaring me as it's not getting any lesser. The doc says it's all good. I don't know where to go now really. It's paining 24*7. 🙏

[@freyareikigoddess]

I went to my ob/gyn who told me that if I don’t want an episiotomy she won’t give one but was told depending on how one stretches down there she will ask me beforehand and this is my first baby. Thank goodness I came across your videos to be more informative

[@CajunStork]

If a doctor thinks she “might need to give you one” and will ask you, she is likely going to cut you. Episiotomies are only for medical emergency for the baby and has almost nothing to do with how “well” you stretch. I’d talk to her about it again ASAP.

[@dillama_abi6778]

I've had 3 babies naturally ALL on my back position and didn't tear with any of them.

[@CajunStork]

That’s great!

[@ivyfeenix]

That’s nice. Not all women are so fortunate.

[@rashmitalukdar8321]

Abigail betney did you do something to prevent tearing please can you tell me

[@dillama_abi6778]

@@rashmitalukdar8321 nope. I didn't do anything 🤷‍♀️

[@fk8395]

Lucky

[@MelbaToast7117]

Had a 9 lb, 6 oz baby boy on my back (induced with vacuum extraction- I am tiny), 2nd degree tear. Worst part of recovery. It took 6 months to heal fully

[@bonkers283]

U make me feel so safe🥺

[@BlawnDer]

I was extremely fortunate to not tear during my first two childbirths (epidurals and on back for both) but definitely pushed slowly when I felt pressure as opposed to when being told to push. Hoping this time around I am lucky again as this will be my first natural birth from home.

[@jasminethewriter]

I didn’t tear when I gave birth for the first time (3 years ago). Not knowing, but I did what you recommended in this video and that was not delivering on my back, “going natural”, and letting my body take the lead in pushing . Definitely plan to do the same with #2 that’s coming this year.

[@aliciamarie9704]

With my first birth, my doctor let me tear. I healed perfectly. The second time, my doctor cut me. I ended up with a scar that was somewhat bothersome for around 5 years. Eventually, the scar thickness lessened and it’s not so bad.

[@user-dm2jj1lj6n]

I had a 8 and a half pound baby almost 9 years ago when I was 25 and I didn't tear at all.Very lucky.Hoping the same for this pregnancy currently 37 weeks pregnant.But I can say my skin is in general very stretchy so that might be the reason.

[@ascha730]

This is so helpful. Thank you ❤️

[@rosea2350]

I had a tear and it’s been a week; I feel like I am being stabbed with a chainsaw down there.

[@strawbunnies]

Is tearing genetic? Not sure if that’s the right term at all but I’m curious!! I’m not even pregnant or planning on it anytime soon, but tearing sounds awful :(

[@arshantibad9064]

No not genetic

[@DuyenNguyen-xf4fc]

Thank you for the information! Now, I'm just curious. What about for delivering twins naturally?

[@pariswiles]

My first birth was not like I had planned or wanted at all. I went with a doctor per my husband's request and my babe hung in there until almost 42 weeks when I was encouraged to be induced because of protein and blood pressure. Well that intervention led to more and more until after a 24 hour labor with 12 hours of pushing I had an episiotomy and my baby was vacuumed out. Needless to say I am going with a midwife this time but will still deliver at the hospital (nervous husband) and hopefully a doula as well but I'm wondering if having had an episiotomy will affect in any way a completely natural birth next time?

[@mareekamills3159]

I definitely found healing from an episiotomy way more painful than from tearing with my 2nd & 3rd labours. I regret allowing it to happen. I’m trying to prevent a tear with my 4th baby due in feb any guidance and advice helpful. I had a home birth with my 3rd baby and the tear wasn’t as severe with my 2nd Labour.

[@777BABS88]

Wow, it's so hard to believe massage doesn't help.

[@CajunStork]

It’s extremely relaxing though! My clients really enjoy it in the third trimester when everything is soooo uncomfortable

[@AdisaKola]

I just subscribe. I'm 30 weeks first time mom. I have gained till now 11kg, If I gained more kg till 40 weeks, am I going to have a really bad tearing? 😨

[@sarahr4737]

Wow you made me feel so much about it! Thanks

[@minahtheweirdo]

I've had 2 natural births no tearing.

[@CajunStork]

yay!!

[@katenelson539]

When a mother does tear, what is your method for repairing the tear. I had a very traumatizing experience with my first (no epidural with pitocin but in the hospital on my back, local anesthetic and immediate sewing). My second was better but I’m not sure I want to go the same route (no epidural with pitocin but in the hospital in hands and knees position, narcotic that was allowed to take affect and then local anesthetic that was allowed to take affect, and then sewing) now that I’m expecting my third.

[@CajunStork]

We simply use lidocaine and repair. Moms do fine on ibuprofen, if anything. We also send out mamas home with an herbal sitz baths to help.

[@dayannasuarez5853]

My baby was only 6 pounds the smallest baby ever and it only hurt me when my doctor was stretching my vaginal open , it didn’t even hurt to push my own baby head out it only hurt wen she stretched me like crazy n now I have two degree tears thanks to her

[@rojarachupalli5417]

Mam veginal tear how many days for recovary plz tell me

[@candyluna2929]

Not all hospitals allows you to move freely. Mine didnt😔

[@allupinyomine]

who’s here after nicole tv

[@jaed6016]

"he can't go down shut the f**k up!" 😭😂 Yeah

[@rosanorman8475]

@@jaed6016 💀💀

[@schoolgyaru]

OMG HOW DID YOU KNOW LMAOOO AFTER I FOUND OUT SHE TEARED I LITERALLY HAD SO MUCH ANXIETY

[@rosanorman8475]

@@schoolgyaru she’s too funny😭😭

[@hannahmargaret3427]

So would sitting up be a good position not to tear in ?

[@sazzlepop321]

No

[@beatriz.stubbs]

Yes, I believed most of those myths

[@chelseasmith2603]

I just had my baby 2 weeks ago and the midwife said that the episiotomy would heal better than if I would have torn naturally that's why I agreed to let them do it even tho I said no on my birthplan

[@matinajazmine]

Am just so scared I dont think I'll give birth honestly .This is so effin scary

[@noellyjuste6476]

Hi there, is it a myth that a episiotomy with your first child increases your chances of tearing with your second?

[@carisaf7729]

I had an episiotomy with my first and healed well. 2nd child tore a little and the stitch came loose and took forever to heal. 3rd child I had an episiotomy and fourth no episiotomy and no tear. So I’m not sure what really matters in this.

[@sonampanwar402]

Is episotomy really necessary if you dont want to get stitch does it going to effect you in anyways in future ?

[@sweetnae21]

Can I use soap on my 1st degree tear? If so which soap

[@CajunStork]

It's not recommended nor necessary

[@bethanyholland6936]

Thank you ... question what do you mean by giving birth off of your back ?

[@CajunStork]

Check this out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/j3q6Z5mEYp6qmNk

[@elaalp3808]

Hello. I am writing from Turkey, your video was really helpful. But i have a little bit different situation which I have "varicose" around the outer of the genital area. And I am wondering what would happen if I give naturel birth to my baby which I have 1 month until. It hurts when I go to toilet or in the morning when I first wake up. So it makes me think that its going to be a lot harder to give naturel birth. But I would still like to know if I would still be able to have naturel delivery? Or is that a serious problem which I should consider a C-section delivery? I need to urgently decide if I will give naturel birth or not but I cant make up my mind because I want to do the right thing. I talked to my doctor but I would like to hear from your experience. Because when you explain it feels much more trustworthy information. Also the doctor said that my baby is not upside down yet which is another problem. And the doctors say that they have to do seserian if baby does not turn upside down. (i checked from dictionary for this word and I hope I am using the right word) thank you for your ideas and help. I hope to hear from you as soon as possible so I can decide what I want to do. Thank you so much(I m sorry I took too long.

[@CajunStork]

Those are unpleasant but generally don’t cause any trouble at the birth. Be sure you have a skilled provider serving you just in case.

[@5050TM]

Thank you so much for this info!!! 🌸❤️ Blessings to you!

[@marciaoppong]

In your opinion and experience, how should a second degree tear be treated? Should it be sutured or left alone?

[@CajunStork]

Evidence says second degrees should be sutured

[@shereenstephens8824]

I had my first baby at 18, and i got tear and received 6 stitches

[@komalali2377]

Is it necessary to have sutures after natural tearing of 3rd grade?

[@CajunStork]

Definitely recommended!!!

[@komalali2377]

@@CajunStork thank you for your reply, your points were logical. Can you please give me some tips to heal my stitches fast and other things to get well soon in postpartum, I'm exhausted

[@deborahsmith27]

Five kids no epidural and no tears

[@evelinapreza6767]

This is really helpful thank you

[@asmitakumari266]

Is vaginal tear after delivery will heal naturally..

[@ari-jv]

34 weeks start massages

[@maidahabdi9991]

A video on after care for tear?

[@CajunStork]

OH GREAT IDEA!! I'll add this to my list today!

[@marischwab3597]

I’m sorry but I’ve had 2 episiotomies and the last one I tore bad, I’d take episiotomies over tearing anyday.

[@CajunStork]

Once you’ve had an episiotomy the scar tissue is easy to tear open again and again afterward at future births. Often it follows the same line or deeper. Also, if you birth on your back it even more greatly increases the risk of that episiotomy scar tearing.

[@erikaanaya1097]

Is aloe vera safe to insert to prevent tearing ?

[@CajunStork]

It’s not necessary. Just deliver off your back :)

[@erikaanaya1097]

@@CajunStork ok... Just in case is it safe to out aloe down there ?

[@maddiebyfaith]

@@erikaanaya1097 Yes it's safe

[@kate0315]

I had a 4th degree tear with my first child, is it likely to happen again?

[@Robohead-z6z]

Not if you find ways to prevent it.

[@lilpandanesegirl]

i tore from top to bottom first degree.

[@yeahbuddy5004]

Scariest thing is the 3rd and 4th degree tears. Do you see those in births with moms not on their back and doing self directed pushing?

[@CajunStork]

Rarely! I’ve seen 1-2 naturally-birthed tears that severe in almost 200 deliveries. IOne was a double Nuchal hand (two hands were delivered with the head/face) and the other was a baby delivered abruptly in a squatting position (on a birth stool actually). Believe it or not, squatting can increase the severity of tears as well so I try to avoid that position when possible.

[@MsEvReN81]

@@CajunStork Hi, do you have a video of ideal birthing positions in your experience?

[@abidaliwaseer2905]

I have got scnd degree tear till rectum...I am so much depressed got two times stitchng but it didn't work...it's my first baby...Will it heal??

[@rashmiraman2]

ABID ALI WASEER will you recommend 2nd time stitch? Please share your experience .

[@arshantibad9064]

My cat close to my back hole so I’m scared😭😭🤣

[@victoriaasfour9698]

hello

[@satyashreejena1348]

Do stitches hurt after normal delivery

[@CajunStork]

We use Lidocaine!

[@BigNoonie25]

@@CajunStork what’s lidocaine and this is also my first baby I’m really nervous on tearing but if the doctor cut me will I feel it

[@pinkroseyrose]

@@BigNoonie25 its numbing meds

[@dayannasuarez5853]

I believe my doctor teared me

[@sabaducia]

Your myth about perineal massage is completely wrong. It wasnt one study, it was a review of all studies, and VERY CLEARLY demonstrated a reduction in severe tearing with perineal massage. Your mythbusting here is harmful.

[@CajunStork]

Respectfully, I have attended births for over a decade with 0 perineal massage and my laceration rates are greatly below average and this is the advice I give my own clients. Mamas can take what they will from my advice but to use the word "harmful" is grossly inaccurate.

[@ekatrinya]

Cajun Stork is right 👍👍👍

[@warrenarden1681]

that doesnt reashure a mother much who has to get an cut omg D:

[@MsEvReN81]

So what should she do? Lie or omit info? As an expecting mother I'd rather hear the true information than have it be omitted to protect my feels now at cost of unexpected surprises later on.

[@doesestinynanette6447]

I'm my country you give birth on ur back.

[@quoccuong6370]

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