Soulmates: Destiny or Delusion? | Not Alone Podcast EP4

[@thiresia]

These people met when Valeria was young and since then she continues flourishing and evolving. Gary's devotion and dedication to his family is from another planet. Two enlightened beautiful people that i ve loved throughout the years ❤

[@Fjfhhdkdk]

Gary: I don’t believe in magical soulmates. Also Gary: once I kissed you, I knew you’re gonna be my wife.

[@violettababenko4847]

Lol he tried so hard to act like he doesn’t believe in the sappy crap, and then proceeds to be hella sappy but with a very stoic face

[@lisabella-es9gh]

Love is real feeling and choice of life not a magical thing … anyone has ther own definition…

[@thaisass6024]

I think that inexplicable raw emotion that Valeria was exhibiting as she spoke and listened was something that came up for me too. This was a special moment to witness and Gary has started a movement. Women telling me and supporting me with words like "you deserve more" was important to me in ways I can't express but hearing Gary articulate his love makes me feel I can find a partner who at the very least makes me feel we can exist on an equal field

[@Lily4444]

Gary is so honest and in balance with his emotions ❤

[@violettababenko4847]

Really? His body really struggled with expressing his emotions. He eventually was able to articulate it, but his body fought him.

[@habibamohshina1623]

We need more couples like you in current world. My husband is never expressing but I know what he does everyday for me. I feel prevelaged, hounoued, safe and strong beside him. I am glad that there are people who think similar to us over there

[@petitejullie]

I always said it " we all need a Gary in our lives". Valeria, you are a lucky woman :)

[@taniabuddy9564]

For some reason… i feel that Valeria as a young woman was inlove with the mature Gary but the more she got older and got her “power” and independence feels less attracted to “know it all” Gary. And the older Gary gets, the more insecure he feels about his relationship with Valeria, because the age difference will start showing more and more. I do feel at some point there will be some tension between them, even tho i do not wish or want this for them. I wish them all happiness in the world🙏

[@lavenderlovee]

True, can't blame her though 😬

[@kristenk708]

Why would she feel less attracted? I don't think independence has much to do with attraction, a woman can be independent and still attracted to her man no?

[@heYMIO]

It’s true, is a shifting in roles, every couple pass through that for different circumstances. They have to be wise enough to assume the new role and space. Now she is a well experienced and veeery smart woman, as we evolved relationships have to do it also.

[@annlatham]

Every marriage feels tension-people do change… as you grow, you have to learn how to adapt and learn about one another- boundaries-being accepting of who one another is - Either you grow together or you lose it it’s a choice! They are both on a healthy journey you can see a difference in Gary yes sure he has more to learn about Valeria but that’s the beauty in being married! What keeps a marriage alive? GREAT SEX, communication, and making sure each other feel valued.

[@tereza2271]

Yes, a huge age gap is challenging

[@karinafischer1041]

Great conversation❤ When Gary said "kinder to who" was hilarious😂

[@charlotterhotilde7388]

That was shade lol

[@chinwenduejezie8699]

The way Gary loves you🙏🏽… love it for you both

[@YenNguyen-mw9lm]

The way Gary expresses his love for you sounds like you guys are twin flames! I don’t like the way the concept is romanticised but if you can find authentic sources, I think you’ll definitely resonate ❤️ This big feeling Gary has is unconditional love!!

[@LittleMew133]

I didn't believe in any of that BS until I met someone and I think they're my twin flame for real. Like I feel most if not all of the signs.

[@anagonzalez8300]

Beautiful to see Gary loving his wife and Valeria respecting her husband, may the Lord continue to blessed their beautiful family. Greetings from Texas.

[@stefangeorg5435]

I think you are not fully letting it go...it's like you don't want to share some things and wondering how to talk without giving too much away...

[@kristenk708]

I felt the same way too. But she may not have wanted to share as to not go into too many details and make the podcast long

[@alexarobertson17]

I find this format really artificial and unnatural. Especially since it’s Gary. I get that the women in past episodes may not live close by so zoom is a must, but I so much prefer a relaxed chatty couch podcast. The question and answer is too stiff. I love Val and the fam! Hopefully it gets more chill.

[@stefangeorg5435]

yes i wish she would just relax and talk like she talks at home without fear of what you're going to say and how you're going to say it@@alexarobertson17

[@fairyprincessunikitty2032]

I had the same feeling with the other episodes. The Podcast Format needs more time and vulnerability but it has great potential! The themes are perfect 😊

[@alexarobertson17]

@@fairyprincessunikitty2032 totally agree! It feels like Q, A, Q, A. abrupt ending!

[@GildaDouglas]

Stop with AD between What’s Gary what saying was so emotional and boum Joe fresh no please 😅 it’s too rude !!

[@Roro-bu8zk]

Why so short :( and the adds

[@AtHomewithJada]

this was so tender 😌 you two seem more connected than ever !

[@nathaliebroun3466]

A pity you've included so many adds

[@summer4659]

Pay them directly

[@oliviamaria328]

It’s Gary saying he felt all the feels when he met Valeria and Valeria’s face remaining exactly the same lol

[@taniabuddy9564]

I think thats because she is a bit out of the romance fase. Its normal for couples that are together for long time.

[@Mermaidhaze]

@@taniabuddy9564yes that’s what I thought also. Just because her expression is the same doesn’t mean she isn’t feeling great as he’s retelling their story.

[@yulir522]

Two beautiful souls❤ you are such a beautiful couple 😍 thank for this podcast.

[@mildabijami]

I really enjoyed watching you guys’ videos on KZbin when you answer different Q&As together. I feel like that could turn into great podcast series🤍

[@lorelwebber6435]

If you both had no money to your names and weren’t heavily connected I don’t think you would have wound up together no. You both seem to have wealth as your most important friend.

[@goooska33]

Valeria wasn't wealthy when they met, but she was working from a young age. I don't think that Gary comes from a wealthy background either. They worked for what they have, and yes, they are enormously financially privileged but the respect and love they have for one another is not something that is rooted in money.

[@hanee8049]

I would love to hear Garys opinion about women not being ready for such declaration of devotion. Great chat.

[@katiie7]

Love these kinds of convos! 🤍

[@kristenk708]

"You make it sound like I had a choice in the matter" 😅😅

[@anetaaugustyniak9224]

It was real and beautiful ❤ You are soulmates 100% 😍

[@sethm3856]

I think me and my current partner might be soulmates. I thought before we got together and we were just friends and I thought, that's ok because soulmates don't have to be a romantic partner, they can be a platonic friend, and they can be someone of the same gender even (eg you're a straight female, your soulmate could be a straight female friend).. & then I read somewhere that either soulmates or the perfect partner for you is someone who: "is on the same frequency intellectually, emotionally & physically. Intellectually: enjoy thinking about the same ideas, the conscious mind deals with ideas. Emotionally involved with the same ideas, the heart is on the same frequency. & Physically they enjoy doing the same things. It’s harmony, it’s resonance”.

[@luisduarte9813]

Her level of emotional intelligence is so high. It makes sense that she has so many followers

[@ByBoLe4kA]

Maybe all the Ads in the beginning, like Huberman for example, will help a bit to make the podcast feel more structured

[@soraya4890]

I feel Valeria did not say if she feels he was her soulmate.....i feel husband loves her more

[@AndreaPetrova-c1n]

I'm curious on how you'd behave when you don't feel this soulmate connection. Would you rather not have any relationship at all, waiting for the person, or would you go through these relationships gaining experience from each one?

[@Eaehn]

Beautifully structured and talked pod of soul mates! Wau

[@elisabethtshaikovski8562]

what a beautiful message, this is soulmate mentality

[@RafaellaG.]

I believe in soulmates and twin flames but it doesn't always end well and your soulmate can still hurt you badly... :(

[@larrywatson3479]

Hello Valeria! You and Gary are such an incredible inspiration and such a beautiful ❤couple! Love you so much Valeria! Love,Janice and Larry Watson Pittsburgh PA USA

[@jdchickster]

You’re lucky your pregnancy was quick. Lots of women suffer from pcos. Maybe that may be a good topic for podcast discussion with fertility doctors.

[@Stef.stefii]

Not valeria holding back tears!!!

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Love your supportive dynamic.❤

[@user-cs4fg7bh4r]

I feel cultural differences is a big one

[@frcerf164]

Absolutely agree with Gary’s realistic soulmate understanding. For me this is (often!) this Disney girls-thing.

[@dipendrasah4255]

I loved it. ❤️

[@evitamihalecko4682]

Guy’s I am for the first time on your channel and also this the first time I am seeing you. And my first impression is; you are not soulmates, you are definitely Twin Flames but in some way you’re still in a healing process of your childhood or ancestral trauma’s. While Gary is much more in his Devine Masculine energy (too much in his mind and rationalizing the things) Valery is much more in her Divine Feminine energy and still in some healing process. It was wonderful to see you both so open especially Valery and so vulnerable. But when you connected with your emotions and become so vulnerable I find it a little bit regretful that Gary didn’t connect with his own emotions what in the way didn’t give you Valery enough space to go deeper inwards and become even more in touch with your own emotions. As we are entering the ages of Aquarius both women and man are expected to balance both their Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine energies inside of them only then they can live in a harmonious relationship and together create Heaven on Earth. Sending you much Love, Blessings and Light ❤❤❤

[@cristinitaandco]

I wanted to finish this but Its like you know the camera is there so you are not reacting to the words naturally

[@veronikafojtikova7392]

Advertising is so disturbing 😢

[@esther-4345]

"You are the definition of my extistence...."❤

[@dipendrasah4255]

Amazing ❤❤❤

[@lavenderlovee]

The short answer is No

[@Nectarine333]

Exactly lol

[@toryz3781]

Gary has hurt her and she’s internalized the pain and rationalized it. Yes don’t take it personally. He is getting old and cranky keep that in mind.

[@ЕленаВойцик-э7т]

You are amazing❤❤❤

[@MiraSlava24]

You both are so beautiful ❤

[@charlotterhotilde7388]

But a soulmate can be anyone it doesn't mean your husband or boyfriend. It can be your mom, dad, friend or siblings or even a family member...I never understood why people only associate soulmates with the man or woman they're with.

[@eliano6685]

Beautiful❤

[@violettababenko4847]

Lol not Gary trying to stay masculine while talking about soft topics. Like as if he’ll get caught for loving his wife 😂 🙈🤦🏻‍♀️

[@frenchiemillie1699]

Merci beaucoup ❤

[@sittowardi6781]

Sixteen year age difference? Yikes.

[@zoebradley3870]

❤️❤️❤️

[@kbb8844]

I totally ha

[@annaniedziela5641]

its called buying wives :)

[@janinesuter3630]

Valeria you need a baby-girl so you can teach at least one of your kids your beautiful understanding of the concept of Soulmate love ;) -> men are from mars, women are from venus. men are sometimes just too logical for us - takes away all the magic ;) I get you. and to Gary: women are more than ready for the Gary-Movement. Women are craving for it, the same way men are craving to just be understood, nurtured and accepted for who they are

[@helinkardy8006]

They definitely made love after that !😂

[@larissaj.e.4361]

Gary is like the Model of a good husband.

[@perfectsense988]

No. Sorry.

[@tugceyldzer586]

too much commercial

[@gracecooper5715]

I will pray to have someone like Gary

[@Nectarine333]

I guess….. 🥴🤢

[@dask1516]

She's going to want some young hardbody stud to give it to her the right way eventually she's far too young to be with this old man.. he should have signed a pre-nup that he's able to keep everything that he came into the marriage with.. any man that age needs to protect what's his that's ridiculous!! Anyting obtained after the marriage can be split equally but anything before the marriage what a dumbass she should have allowed that to happen or at least made it happen that way

[@goooska33]

Honestly, what? Why are you saying that?

[@dask1516]

​@@goooska33age difference issues

[@TheRealBigMike]

Great episode ! Wish I could find an amazing sophisticated woman like Valeria. Most women are so lazy and fake these days.

[@360Jelly]

That last line Gary said was so cute! Something about my existence is you. I can see what he means. It shows in the so many ways. 🤍

[@divyagiri1772]

I really value what Valeria and Gary has to say🤍