You both are very capable but different people , easy to find ways to fight each other especially given a cold silence and a person constantly chasing one away with cut downs gaslighting each one making them go crazy and posting to each other images of him with the other person in cartoons or such nonsense. Neither one realizes that all three are alone and He is playing necrotic mind games trying to keep both of you capable people in low vibrational patterns , mil goes to junk food and shallow passive bitterness trying to suck up to him thinking that she was out of the loop the lady gets plastered and laughs at stupid shit, which is funny as hell. He maintains control through toxic jealousy which works on women well because that is how sexual relationship have been for you both. wanting a guy that has multiple partners and in your ways trying to compete for. in fact that is how alot of women operate. I am just writing this so You to can break the cycle of literal idiocy based from perspective bias and ideas of being the odd one out i guess.