Vim Muaj Koj Tsim Kuv Kuv Thiaj Rau Siab Ua Neej. 6/16/23

[@leefamily6061]

Brother, you are not obligated and responsible for your half siblings. You need to focus on your family and love your sister.

[@xeexiong6908]

Yog lawm os muaj tseeb li koj hais kawg peb cov me nyuam ntsuag ces txhua tus yeej zoo li koj hais xwb ua tsaug rau koj cov lus muaj nqi tshaj li koj lo hais ces cover tag nrho rau peb cov raug niam tshiab tsim os mog 😭😭😭😭

[@colleenchan9872]

Pab koj tu siab uas koj tsis tau txais txoj kev hlub.. tabsis vim txoj kev ntxhub koj thiaj tsheej neeg es nrog koj zoo siab thiab.. kuv yog ib leej niam tshiab thiab tabsis kuv lub siab tsis coj nqaim li ko peb yog xaj maim tshiab peb tsis zoo li cov OG lawm os..

[@jalynnkat]

The advice the father gave son at the end sums up the kind of man he is. Selfish til the end.

[@Llis3322]

there's a fine line between loving your kids and giving them free handouts. This story owner says he buys businesses for his kids (car repair shop, etc). That's giving them a handout in a way. I hope his kids don't take him for granted and use him as their safety net all the time. that's one of the hardest part about parenting: you want to love and support but you don't want to become a safety net for your kids either because they will think they can always run to you for money. either way, I'm proud of the story owner for NOT repeating his traumatic childhood cycle and doing better for himself and his kids! Too many hmong people have trauma in their lives and instead of doing better, they repeat the cycle for their kids 😭

[@brendayangvang9756]

Lub neej ua ntsuag niam ntsuag txiv mas thiaj txawj tu siab

[@ibleejtxivzoo7856]

We want to hear the story of May Vang! 👍 People talking so we want to know if it's true. Tell us tell us......

[@kaoxiong6148]

Smart man…take care of your family first before anyone else. I’m totally support your decision not to get involved with your step siblings and your dad. Just support your clans…👍🤠!

[@chaivue4167]

You have a big heart…i wouldn’t have been able to forgive my father or stepmother. I would’ve left everyone in the dust and focus on my family.

[@gamerboylogan3655]

Koj ua yog lawm tab sis koj hais tsis yog ntsim nyog koj yuv tsum hais thov koj cov niam tshib thiab txiv tshiab yuav tsum hlub cov menyuam ntsuag thiab thaum lawv zoo lawm lawv thiaj xav hlub nej nawb .

[@may1581]

It’s okay to be a little selfish. Before you can love the outsiders you must love yourself first and then your immediate family, second. Others come after. Do what makes you happy with no regrets. 🎉

[@simvang7101]

Koj yuav poj niam. Koj twb tsis tau mus pe leej twg, vim koj tseem muaj txiv. Zoo siab nawb. Kuv mus pe thoob cov niam hlob txiv ntxawm. Thaum kawg ma li tau poj niam os brother. Txob tus siab

[@vivohuaphan8383]

Tsi yog niam tshiab phem me nyuam tshiab los yeej phem thiab

[@maivelasquez9024]

This story is common within the blended family. It’s life, as harsh as it may sound, but it is. Sometimes they have real parents and they don’t get the love that they should be receiving from their parents. There are stories like that too, so if you were to think about it, what’s worse? Your real parents who doesn’t love you or your step parents. We get dealt with cards that’s not in our favor and it’s up to us to make something out of it. In this case, you were smart, and you did was right for you and it worked out in the end, you have a blessed and grateful life and I’m happy for you.

[@meexb6368]

Step fathers are evil too not just step moms. Some cases the step children doesn’t like the step parents too. It goes both ways. I’m happy that you have a happy good life with your wife now.

[@akulathao4654]

You should've told your dad don't be mad or sad if i don't love you in return. I just want you feel my pain but don't be mad or sad at me. I just doing the same things you did to me, i can't help you because my wife say no!😉

[@maiyang1508]

You cannot help your younger step siblings because your step mom has already mold them into what they are today

[@leevue7803]

Lawv cuan tsis cuag yus ces lawv tsis hlub yus lawv npaj lub los tsim txom thiab rhuav yus kom yus poob qi tshaj lawv mas thiaj zoo lawv siab hos yog yus muaj dua paub tab dua ces lawv ua txhua yam los rhuav yus kom yus tuag los yog pluag tshaj lawv thiaj zoo lawv siab

[@menkaujntsesmenraugnoog6718]

Cas Koj txiv Yog ib niag txiv dev xwb os Koj txiv ces koj tsis hlub los tau lawm

[@Linkcutevaj]

Siab phem li nws niam ntag mas yom tsis txhob thab cov niag neeg siab phem ntaws os

[@tiaxiong1872]

Niag txiv siab phem twb tsis hlub koj es tseem yuav hais nws cov yau twb tsis hlub neb ces nws txhawj txog nws cov niag kab tsaub xwb koj tsuas hlub koj tsev neeg thiab koj tus muam xwb

[@neejkajsiablor4279]

No matter what cov niam ntshiab txiv ntshiab txawm hlub nej cov menyuam ntsuag ko npaum cas los lawv tsis yog nej niam nej txiv ces nej yeej tias lawv tsis hlub nej ces ib yam xwb

[@Jinjinjin88]

They said step parents are the most evil and I believe it’s true .. I see some that r treated horribly .. I am one of the luckiest human being to have a step dad and step grandma that step up and love us as theirr own.. my sibling and I r truly bless.. my mom found one that is one out of a million and my dad n phauj is truly one out of a million…I would trade them for anything ..

[@awalktoremember9857]

Not all step moms or dads are bad. I'm an stepmom and I love my three sons from my husband's previous marriage a lot. They respect and love me a lot back. Call me mom instead of stepmom. And if you're a step child love your step mom/dad as well.

[@bluewhisper5008]

I stopped feeling too sorry for orphans. If you love them too much many are ungrateful, and if you discipline it means you don't love them. If you don't discipline it means you don't love them. No matter what you do its because you dont love them. Many orphans in the US are ungrateful. Just be glad you turned it to make your life better. I bet you can't love an orphan either. Saying this because I've seen too many cases of ungrateful orphans in US.

[@pajdawblis4291]

My parent raised my brother and his wife’s kids and when they reached 18 they all run away and never contacted us or remained in contact whatsoever.

[@bluewhisper5008]

@pajdawblis4291 I know many orphans in my husband's side of family and they orphans who are ungrateful. No matter what you do, you are the bad one. You don't discipline they say it's because you don't love them, you discipline they say it's because you don't love them. You can't win with orphans here in the US.

[@bluewhisper5008]

@pajdawblis4291 besides he still got $500 car and I'm not even an orphan and I had to buy my own car! Lol. I started working at age 14 at Walgreens, go to school for my own stuff.

[@Mumof4kidz]

May, I know you are trying to earn money, but you have too many ads. You have an ad every 5 minutes. Please limit your ads.

[@miahart8932]

Niam tshiab phem nws cov noob thiaj phem li nws. Hlub tsis taus los txhob tsim tus ntsuag. Yog tsim Ntuj yuav tsis foom Koob hmoov ces cov nws yug yuav xiam tsis muaj jev vam.

[@MySunshine71]

Some of us are lazy and we live paycheck to paycheck okay? In some cases rich parent spoils their kids and the kids turn up into trouble kids but in some cases parent are careless and poor thus the kids struggles and they learn to be good kids and hard working kids. I don't think "money" matters it's the mind over body that matters.

[@pkcyang2910]

Your father is not a good father. He allowed your step mom to mistreat you and your sister as long as he have a good life with his new life. I'm sorry but he is wrong for not protecting you and your sister. Don't need to care about those half siblings. Don't need to love your father and step mother.

[@tbjjbjbv9596]

😭😭😭

[@chibalee9052]

Brother you should told your dad and half brother straight up they don’t even love you they just want to use you. They should make their living by themselves you should have told your dad how it is. I hate this Hmong mentality,they don’t even know how you when you are so down but when you have a good life they always claim that they really you and claim that without them you are probably dead by now hopefully when all old g are dead and gone all this mentality’s will stop. You should just forget about them or else they mass up your life

[@yupatcha316]

Koj hais yeej yog kaws li lawm nawb. Tas si kuv yog ib tug niam tshiab thiab kuv ho tsis tau ua npaum li ntawm thiab. Ib qhov uas kuv tu siab yog kv muab Nyiaj rau menyuas txais es menyuas tsis kam muab rau kuv ces lawv cia tsis hlub kv lawm xwb

[@leek-te5dx]

Your dad didn't love you or your sister. He didn't want to suffer but he was willing to let you both suffer. Lol you take care of the younger siblings hellz no so he can know the kids he love will be ok. Brother your half siblings don't like you. Throw that son dad talk in the trash and love only your wife and kids. 🎉🎉🎉

[@jiaxiong8991]

I’m so sorry you had to endure that stepmother’s hateful wrath. Just wished your father had more backbone to stand up for you guys but he’s the one wearing the dress. It’s ok though they’re there to teach you how to be independent and thrive on your own. When they’ve treated you wrong you don’t need to pay any attention to them anymore. Don’t lend them any money or help at all! Your father is to blame for everything. He should’ve loved you and protect you. Not all stepmoms are bad. It’s the personality that matters. I’m glad you’ve learned to be independent.

[@saiyang8877]

😅😅99

[@xaixiong3956]

😊😊

[@mivang4768]

O😅o😅😅😅😅😅😅😅 in

[@hlubtushlubkuv9881]

Peb ua neej nyob mas txawm leej niam tshiab phem npaum li cas los yog cov halfsiblings ntaw respect koj ua tij mas koj thiaj li yuav nrog cov sibling mus tau os mog. Yog cov sibling ntaw khwv kaus koj ua tij noj xwb ces kawg lub good bye xwb.

[@ItsYou2]

Im sorry, but torturing someone physically and mentally is not considered teaching to me. Im almost 40 and is still traumatized from what I went through....

[@pkcyang2910]

I agreed

[@ShouaTojsiab]

Your father did not protect you and your sister, instead he went along with your evil step-mother to add more grief to your lives. No excuse for that kind of behavior from a father! He clearly showed where his loyalty is; his other children and his current wife. I’m very proud of you for your success. Love those who love you and those who stood by your side through thick and thin. People who only love you when you are successful are not worthy of your love.

[@elisely5353]

Niam ntsuab Teev, koj pheej nyiam 2 hais Lo lus TSIS LAIB no tsis yog 1 Lo lus meej yog lus khib nywab xwb koj yuav tsum hais TSIS TAU no thiaj li meej..

[@hmoobdawb9591]

The saying, you get what u paid. You should use that to your father and step mom. Ur dad was just as bad to u as ur step mom. Forget them. Yuav npam koj ces twb yeej npam koj txaus tag lawm nav. U paid your due already. You have a clean slate now. So forget your parents and uour half sibling

[@Hmoobsibhlub2022]

Cov niam tshiab Ces yeej phem…. Koj txiv los ua Tsis tau txiv nkag rau koj niam tshiab 2 ceg

[@user-bw9ro3jz4v]

Please love yourself and your biological sister only. Your half siblings will never love you because of their mom. Who care what they say about you. Just live your life.

[@xaiher9236]

koj txiv thiab koj niag niam tshiab cov niag me nyuam ko ce yog lawv ua siab phem rau koj es lawv npam lawm

[@maylee9765]

Next

[@maipha8560]

Unfortunately, this experience is common in the Hmong community especially when it comes to step parents. Be grateful that you learned this experience early on to help you prepare and face the true reality when you are older. At the end of the day, don't feel bad or regret any decisions you've made or didn't make. It's all about priorities and as long as you get them right, that's all that matters. Do what's best for you and your family. Regarding your step siblings, their parents are their first teacher. If they didn't learn anything from them, I don't think you could make any difference or impact.

[@nancymoua4982]

Thaum twg yuav tuag mas lo hais lo lus qhuav2 twb tsi muaj kuab.

[@sengyang5402]

Me tub ntsuag tsi yog lawv hlub koj lawv tub vam kaus koj noj xwb os mog tsi txhob ntshaw ntshaw ua tus koj os tub ntsoj ntxhais ntsuag tsi zoo ua os mog vam tia koj yuav to tau zoo nawb mog.

[@gaohmoob6816]

Being a step parent/children is hard. Even being a biological parent is hard, but because it's your biological parent/children you just seem to be able to forgive and forget. But when a "step" comes in, we just can't forgive and forget at all. I guess it's life. Regardless, just do good because whatever you do, it will come back in return later in life.

[@amyvang6074]

Story like this frustrated me.

[@hmoobqabteb7943]

Blotha that normal in Hmong culture.

[@ItsYou2]

Your Wife and your Kids are your family. They are the ones you only need to care for!!!!

[@funaventures]

Very inspiring story brother! My mother in-law and father in-law never help my husband and I while I was in school and working and my husband was also working . We paid extended family members to watch our children because my in-laws were too busy helping my husband’s younger brother’s family. Now that my in-laws are old my husband’s brother and wife want nothing to do with them. The saddest part is that my children and I have to care for them now. I convince myself to do things and care for them because I understand how much it hurts when they did it to me. Sometimes I cry silently to myself when I think about those cold raining nights where we have to pick up the kids at 1 or 2 am from our cousins house or meeting at grocery parking lots to switch our kids.

[@leek-te5dx]

then why you take care of them you won't get any blessings you get npam only

[@neejkajsiablor4279]

Thov qhuas koj kawg li thiab tab sis nej cov niag menyuam ntsuag ko los nej yeej siab phem ntxub txauh txog cov niam ntshiab thiab txiv ntshiab kawg li thiab os

[@tomxyooj4715]

Very inspiring story! What an evil mother! Yes, but at least you learned from and knew how to build your life better.👌👍🏼💪🏻

[@baothao1728]

Aub yau koj parents ces yog koj lub neej poob qab tsis zoo li ko ces nkawd tsis hais lus zoo rau koj li ov nkawd mas twb tsis leej muaj koj li os hmoob parents mas muaj lub zoo li no ne. Ntsuag tub nkeeg no xwb naj yog koj txiv tuag lawm tseem tshuav niam tshiab ces tsis quav ntswg ntsia txog yog koj muaj ces niam tshiab xam muaj koj ho koj pluag ces niam tshiab luag xwb moj nim muaj txhiaj ntsim rau niam tshiab naj…sad😢 😢

[@Loves_GodSR]

Everyone's life trails teaches us something. May you focus on the lessons learned and grow from that. May you learn to forgive those that hurt you. May you NOT carry bitterness and become an old bitter, mean person.

[@heysoniher]

No, I wouldn’t give them credit for making you who you are today. It was your hard work and perseverance. They were horrible to you and now that you are older you can forgive them but don’t give them credit. They don’t deserve it.

[@chouathao2122]

this father is so selfish and useless. your son will love you as much as you've loved him. sometimes, you just got to let some people out of your life.

[@GtPhone-qu4qu]

๖๗ อผม

[@meemeeh33]

I find it very saddening that your father even admitted to not loving you. He did everything for the sake of his new wife and shoved you and your silbing to the side and turned a blind eye. Your father is a cruel selfish man. Now, that he is old and have no successful son. He wants to deceive you into thinking what he did was okay. It is not. If you and your silbing was not minors, i agreed but you two were minors! Love your dad but if you don't fully love him, that's okay too since it was okay for him not to love you.

[@tonglee8682]

Another bachelor's degree lol...... May I think you like to tell stories of those people who are Master and Bachelors lol.... or you either make the stories up.. all your stories are either Bachelors or Master degree lol....

[@jackieyunan4899]

Cov niag nkauj laug yeej siab phem li no nawb lawv aw...

[@leek-te5dx]

Brother I'm glad you didn't develop an illness or stroke. Stop with the lessons learn to love yourself only.

[@hlubkojforever1901]

I am so sad I didnt have a stepmom that why I am still poor today.

[@jeannedurand141]

Txhob hais tas zog « lub sij hawm dhau lawm zuj zus… »

[@saLLy0608]

Never leave ur kids for a lover…

[@leethao3975]

Your Father talks as if he was homeless before marrying your step mom. Was he?? Like, he stayed with her so he won't be homeless?? I don't get it. Its just an excuse.

[@atthao5631]

No,no,no, no man.

[@shouathao6281]

Ab cas yuav khav theeb ua luaj ne

[@PH-ThailanD]

ua phem2 rau koj nub no.npam nwg2 pab niag raub thiaj tsw hlub nwg ntag lauj. laug tas koj peem koj kuv peev xwb as. twb tsw hlub koj. tseem paub nraw koj txoj kev pab kev hlub thiab. koj yuav hlub2 luag2 tsw muaj kev cia siab rau koj. nyob twb ywm zoo dua. cov neeg zoo li kom koj pab ntau tseem yuav ntxub koj heeg. pab dawb noj dawb

[@amazinggrace8136]

Naw your parents are a failure. You don’t have to sugar coat it. Yes forgive them, but that doesn’t make them losers. I don’t have to get punched in the face to know getting punched in the face will hurt lol

[@Linkcutevaj]

Siab phem li nws niam ntag mas yom tsis txhob thab cov niag neeg siab phem ntaws os