為愛成婚是婚姻的理想狀態嗎？ 沒有愛情婚姻還成立嗎？ 如愛情和婚姻沒關係為什麼多數人認可這種觀念？There is no relationship between love and marriage

今天，婚姻被人们视为爱情与友谊、性与稳定生活的幸福港湾。但同时，它又常常在现实中给我们带来种种焦虑和痛苦。这种令人沮丧的落差让我们忍不住去探究：什么是婚姻？它跟爱情是什么关系？ 它如何变成今天的样子，未来又会走向何方？
历史学家斯蒂芬妮·孔茨在这部开拓性的著作中，把我们带上了一段婚姻探索之旅。从古巴比伦的婚姻密谋，到维多利亚时代情侣们的性苦闷，再到当前关于同居、离婚、同性婚姻的争论，作者用真实、丰富的婚姻故事，粉碎了诸多关于婚姻生活的神话。
实际上，在人类历史上的大部分时间，婚姻并不基于夫妻之间的相亲相爱，而是一种专门用来获取财富和权力的制度。到了19世纪，当妻子成了“家庭的天使”而丈夫成了“养家者”的时候，婚姻才得以进入人们感情生活中。然而，当人们期待婚姻中有浪漫和亲昵的时候，它也就变得脆弱易碎了。20世纪50年代开启了一段短暂的婚姻的“黄金时代”...
Today, marriage is seen as a happy harbor for love and friendship, sex and a stable life. But at the same time, it often brings us all kinds of anxiety and pain in reality. This depressing gap makes us wonder: What is marriage? What does it have to do with love? How did it become what it is today, and where will it go in the future? In this groundbreaking book, historian Stephanie Kuntz takes us on a journey of marriage exploration. From the marriage conspiracy of ancient Babylon, to the sexual distress of Victorian couples, to the current controversy over cohabitation, divorce, and same-sex marriage, the author uses true, rich marriage stories to crush many myths about married life. In fact, for most of human history, marriage was not based on love between husband and wife, but as a system dedicated to the acquisition of wealth and power. It was not until the 19th century, when the wife became the "angel of the family" and the husband became the "breadwinner", that marriage entered people's love life. However, when people expect romance and intimacy in marriage, it also becomes fragile and fragile. The 50s of the 20th century opened the "golden age" of a short marriage...