Something similar happened to my neighbour, neighbour had no son and later adopted one, they had quite a few daughters before adopting a son, the adopted mum did not like the son at all, soon after they had one of their own, the mother was abusive to the adopted one, many years later their own died in the fire!!! Love I know for certain is a gift, if one does not possess the gift of love, do not adopt, since it is a sacred duty to look after a child!!!