Dating in Germany: Dating German Men | German Guy Explains FAQ

[@Waleochronicles]

Hey there my friends, the list of stereotypes is very long but we just decided to talk about the major ones to keep the video short and sweet! 😊 Are there any other ones you have heard about? Tell me!

[@sundryemail8823]

Lol... I'm over the girlfriend thing,it's a necessary phase but can be such a drag 😂😂

[@ronabeatty3685]

Italian, Greek, French, Danish, Canadian, Puerto Rican, Cuban, Middle Eastern, Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Vietnamese

[@NaigagaFlorence-zd3cn]

No

[@NaigagaFlorence-zd3cn]

No

[@this_is_nyeleti]

I dated a German guy when I was in Shanghai some years ago. I still think of him and hope to meet another German guy like him. He paid for our dates, liked going shopping, was a gentleman he opened doors, held the umbrella, was so respectful, the list is endless!!!! I actually pray I end up marrying a German guy

[@edithputhy4948]

German guys are usually more egalitarian when dating, splitting bill, less traditional gender roles etc.

[@edithputhy4948]

@@Valentina-eh5zf nah as a German guy I'm pretty sure it would be off putting if a woman started expecting traditionally gendered courting practices, it's considered weird

[@edithputhy4948]

@@Valentina-eh5zf I am a Southern German literally from the deepest province at the border to Switzerland and france. Dating culture like the US has it simply doesn't exist in Germany. Some may be more traditional than others but the courting process as practiced in America just isn't a German thing, except maybe for old people.

[@keiraxxx74]

@@Valentina-eh5zf lol no im eastern european living in germany and 99 % demand split the bill I know many russian woman which want german man First and then they are super suprised that they must move ass to work and pay everything 50/50🤣

[@keiraxxx74]

@@Valentina-eh5zf yes some german pay for First dates but after marry no mercy , all bills costs of living in 50/50 Russian culture is like "kiss woman in ass buying flowers for princess " german culture is like "you dont work you dont eat doesnt matter which gender you have "

[@marytweet8170]

Alex is very handsome.

[@Waleochronicles]

I think an Alex fan club is in the making 😀😀😀

[@hoesmad_17]

Very HANDSOME

[@ladysumangkut3911]

Lol i am thinking the same

[@Tebony2]

@Don Bab looooool

[@graced.6711]

Ofc his Instagram is private. German men are SO hard to stalk. That is one stereotype people need to know about.

[@bryanalejandro7323]

Just stalk Austrians 😗✌🏼 they’re the same font and they usually aren’t private 😝

[@biancafelton6087]

All germans are hard to stalk lol. Ive noticed that too.

[@graced.6711]

@@biancafelton6087 ikr! Having a crush on a German dude is HARD smh.

[@farahdivanti]

MANN how can this comment is so relatablee 😅

[@ladysumangkut3911]

What is alex’s ig🤣🤣

[@piriyaj1347]

All of the German guys I know paid on the first date & were perfect gentlemen as well. I think it’s actually normal that when a man cares deeply for you, he just wants to do nice things for you. Sure German guys respect women as equal, but they are never exempted from the power of love. They can get protective, possessive, passionate (though in a much more reserved way compared to the Italians). They are happy to treasure their wife like any normal man.

[@lynnsintention5722]

I have lived in Germany 17 years and this guy is not at all like most German men I have met! I wish they were like him but sadly they are more like what she described. But the fact that he was willing to be videoes aaalready shows he is not the typical German

[@Melag07]

I like it when people hold the door for me, mostly men I haven't even flirted with them. They just do it and it's kind.

[@sambrown5867]

i do also :*) :*) Xx

[@hermanubis7046]

German men, at least those from my generation, were raised to be chivalrous, it used to be expected to be that way. I was taught to open doors for women, or to help them carry groceries and other heavy stuff, but it's true that some women feel offended by it, nowadays. So now I ask, "may I help you with your groceries", for instance. Especially elderly women will usually be happy to accept.

[@anetak.9494]

Younger women too. Where it gets problematic if a woman gets treated like a liability, aka forced chivalry without her wanting. So checking in if that's OK for her is great.

[@nicolelillis2077]

Wow! That's so kind and decent of you Hermanubis. Don't ever change. I'm sure there are still some German ladies who appreciate your assistance and good manners. I wish men did that in Australia, but it only happens occasionally. I guess it has everything to do with equality. Men no longer feel they should be chivalrous, so they aren't! Anyway, cheers German Gentleman! 😁

[@arteynacreates9794]

Most of the German men to be honest are so handsome. I have 2 new German guy friends and gaaawd.. they are so attractive

[@boipelomoiloa4052]

I agree

[@angelabrown-bessau4127]

Not where I live.

[@andreacamille3918]

🤔 there is no finer specimen on planet earth than a black man ✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[@bleachedout805]

@@andreacamille3918 🤣🤣🤣 You can claim that fetish!

[@andreacamille3918]

@@bleachedout805 that's a fact and am black so it's not a fetish

[@emmawilding9484]

i think about the flirting thing its just that germans are a bit more held back and prefer to maintain boundaries where people from other countries are maybe a bit more comfortable with being more touchy with people. this can make germans come across as less flirty. but i also think sometimes german men are SO worried about being respectful and not making a girl uncomfortable that they don't realise you're flirting with them unless you overtly ask them out. i flirted with a guy all night, was basically sat in his lap, my friend even asked him what was going on between the two of us and he still thought i was "just being friendly"

[@dominicdannies7482]

As a german I would like to say that this is a very true statement.

[@keepinitkawaii]

🤣🤣🤣🤣"just being friendly" thats so funny. "She needed a place to sit so i offered my lap, nothing romantic or anything".

[@lbrosas]

UGH he is SO cute

[@nadineclarke2130]

Yes, Alex is handsome. But have you seen how amazing Wale's hair looks?!!😍

[@Beckkerable]

For sure!

[@Aldo_Regozzani]

As a rule: If you invite someone explicitly, you take care of everything (bill). If you agree to meet, it's splitting bills. Hope this helps, Greetings und Munter bleiben! :)

[@HappyLibra-xx3kv]

I have successfully secured a German man - Highly recommend you do too XD!

[@vivianrobinson2849]

I like his smiles and he is intelligent….Thank you both for the information

[@babyboasty6033]

This guy is so handsome

[@Waleochronicles]

I think an Alex fan club is in the making 😀😀😀

[@KolnFriedChicken]

Of course the personalty of a person is way more important here, than his nationality but in general I would say... Germans do less small talk than many other cultures and small talk is the basis for flirting. You can be interessted but you still need some artificial communication to lay the ground and if you're uneasy in these kind of conversation your flirting attemps are uneasy, too. It's often times seen as impolite to just talk to strangers let's say in a bar, therefore it's less likely for a man to do the first step here. However it's totally acceptable in a club or at a party. I would argue that the location and event is pretty important in Germany.

[@bibibello2181]

Very informative. I was wondering about German men after seeing a bi-racial cute couple of a black girl and German man. Prior to that I had the impression that Germans hardly step out of their race to date or marry.

[@KolnFriedChicken]

@@bibibello2181 Guess that's more a lack of opportunity than racial bias. There're hardly black people in Germany and of those many of them are either erasmus/ exchange students, asylum seekers (mostly from Eritrea) or migrants (often from Namibia). So it's not very common to have black colleagues or friends, circles in which you mostly find your partners. E.g. I never met a single black woman in my age other than very briefly while partying and I live in Cologne...

[@bibibello2181]

@@KolnFriedChicken Oh wow! @you not really having met a black woman. I once met a guy online who lives in Germany after talking for about a year he invited me to come live in Germany. I wasn't sure so he told me there were many black people like me in Germany and I would be okay. I guess he lied to make me come out there. 🤣 I never went out there anyway. Lol. I never thought Germans were 'racially biased' anyway, I just wasn't sure of the man i was talking to.

[@spaceowl9246]

@@bibibello2181 There aren't many people of color here in germany. I only ever talked to one black girl that was my age in my entire life but she was lesbian, so yeah lol. I wouldn't be against it, it's just as KolnFriedChicken said, there are almost no opportunities to date black women.

[@bibibello2181]

@@spaceowl9246 Oh wow! You've seen just one black woman all your life? You should come to Africa lol and I definitely plan on visiting Germany now. I am in for the social experiment✌✌My curiosity about the German culture just heightened and so far I like a few things I have learnt about Germans.

[@angelaprz1388]

I get the same look when I try to make a conversation with my German colleague at work and he gives me this look like “why is she talking to me?” So I started using simple sign language and he responds to me better 😅😂

[@me-4033]

I dated a german guy. He is not shy at all and he puts lot of effort and so gentle. Most time he paid the bills but sometimes i get him something in return, he opens the door, car, etc. but yeah,, they know what they want and very open for any ideas, very realistic and waay opeeen. Be ready for that 😂

[@lydiaagbetsoamedo3874]

German guys are not shy but they are unique people that is their culture to respect other people they have to be careful about everything

[@thehorseinwordandpicture]

When I move to Germany for my PhD I will want to live where German men are chivalrous. German men are very straightforward and they do make the first move toward women.

[@karstenvoigt7280]

Most german men would prefer to commit acts of chivalry. But unfortunately german women tend to perceive that as belittleing and disrespectful. So - as a result of those experiences - we learned to not do it anymore. What we'd need in this country are far more non-german women, who allow men to be gentlemen.

[@anetak.9494]

Not true. Women want you to be chivalrous, without being belittling. Unfortunately guys kept the belittling part and dropped the chivalry.

[@bikotheanimator6169]

It's the same in the U.S.

[@noelliebtsie]

@@anetak.9494 Ich kann das gut vorstellen. Das Kultur von "besser wisser" und dann das Patriarchat. Wohnst du in Berlin? Ich will nach Berlin nächstes Jahr und bin neugierig, wie das Leben da geht. Die single Männer in Kalifornien sind auch meistens Vollidioten.

[@noelliebtsie]

Mein B.A. beschäftigt sich mit Bewegungen in Berlin vor und nach die Maueröffnung.

[@katemaina4578]

I was looking for this comment. Whoever you are thank you @karstenvoigt7280 .

[@upscaleavenue]

My attraction is typically restricted to blond, blue eyed men, but jesus christ, he is a gorgeous man! Absolutely stunning 😍

[@plerpplerp5599]

The phrase "chivalry is dead" is often used to express a sentiment that people are not as polite or courteous as they used to be, particularly towards women. The demise of traditional chivalry has been associated with societal changes like feminism and evolving gender roles, leading to a reevaluation of the role of chivalry in contemporary relationships and interactions.

[@gigih.hammer306]

If a guy invites me and we go to a restaurant, I would expect him to pay for the bill. Otherwise I would not except the invitation if I had any doubts about about that man. I dated a few German guys, but not one asked me to pay half of a bill. I like a man opening a car door for me, light my cigarettes, pays me compliments and don't go nuts if other man stare at me. If a man complimented me on my body, I never minded that either. I had a good looking body then and still do. I'm an average height of 165 and weigh 125 pounds. I forgot what that is in kilo. I married an American because the where easier to get along with and not so up tight. I loved the way I was treated by them. Another thing was, I never invited a guy in to my place to have sex. That is not the way my mother raised me in Germany. In clubs or bars I never approached a man, the approached me. I'm talking about Americans, not Germans. My first American husband turned out to be somebody I didn't know anymore after he brought me to the States. In Germany he treated me well. Here he became so obsessed with me, tried to tell me what I could wear, how to wear my hair. After a few years of that I couldn't stand it anymore. He became abuse too. So I divorced him. A few years later I met another American who had a bad reputation of being a slut puppy. I refused to go out with him. He chased me for 10 years. Then one day he came into the place I worked and I swear I don't know what happen. When he looked at me, and I hadn't seen him in about 6 month, Electricity crackled between us two, and it felt like I got hit by a lighting bolt. That is when I fell for him hard. He became my husband and he was so good to me and so romantic. At that point I knew we where meant for each other. I never regretted it. My beloved died from cancer several years ago. I became a widow and stayed one.

[@biancafelton6087]

Aww... its sad that he has passed already but its a nice love story. Imagine being pursued for ten years

[@louisecoffey9843]

@@biancafelton6087 that’s what I was thinking…. 10 years??? Wow. He must have loved her a lot.

[@vh6289]

I'm not German, though I live here in Germany for about eight years. I'd say, I'd like it if a man was chivalrous to me or I'd like if he paid for my coffee or something. But I feel like the reason for it is more that I just don't want it to be awkward for both of us, hence I'd prefer a "traditional way". That and that I'm broke :D Apart from that, I've met both kinds of Germans here in Berlin - those who open the door for you and those who don't. And again, it's kind of awkward because you never know which kind of man you'll meet next time, so sometimes you try to let them go first and sometimes they try to let you do it, and in the end you do some kind of a stupid dance around the door :D

[@kathleen8897]

He is really handsome so he can't have any problems with flirting. And he doesn't look like shy at all.

[@Waleochronicles]

😄😄😄 Well he accepted my invitation to make this video without hesitating. therefore, he is definitely not shy

[@silvanelsire5971]

we are not shy, we just like to have the flirt go in an equal manner. We only go halfway, maybe that´s explaining it a bit

[@ahgavlive4517]

Yupp and german guys can appear shy in the beginning but if they get to know someone better they actually aren't!!

[@rizman6053]

German are not shy. They are respectful and care about feeling of others

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

Germans in General lack empathy , they do no care lol

[@GabdeVue]

It drove me (German woman) nuts in Ireland and England how one person of the table got up to get everybody drinks (and paid for them). It made sense: Bar is crowded, don't go clogging it up with 5 people who separately buy drinks. Nobody was stingy or counting up if you actually also paid for a round. People noticed if somebody never pitched in though. But...I feel guilty and want everything to be just. It's not about spending on others but on getting spent on, when I am not sure that the round I'll buy will reach what the others paid. I will also flat out tell people, if i cannot afford a certain place. And it is perfectly fine in Germany to ASK about the paying arrangement beforehand: "I'd love to go. Are you planning to invite me or are we going to split the bill / i am going to invite you." I know other German women, who enjoy being pampered. I prefer to be seen as equal and want to be treated as such - including paying for my own stuff. I do really enjoy inviting people, if i can afford it (ice cream :D ) My husband earns a certain percentage more than me - i appreciate if he pays that percentage more in bigger expenses, but i will not haggle in a restaurant. I always offer to pay, when i can and he appreciates that. And i feel good that I could treat both of us. Since he earns more, he pays more often. When we dated, we usually split the bill (in clubs)or did a this time you / next time me (movie theatre)-way.

[@TS-tv2ik]

I am not those women, I am very much a lady! Looks like German men need to marry American women, we love that! That's right, preach, sister! Open the door for me, and I will edify him with thank yous, where are the gentlemen and ladies these days?!

[@mayayolanda4821]

WHEN SHE SAID “WHICH WOMEN LIKE TO PAID AND SPLIT THE BILL” HAHAHAHA I LOVE THIS GIRL

[@Waleochronicles]

Many months later ... I am still looking for these women 😂

[@TaCC2]

Youll find them in Germany.

[@user-tf2tt]

Feminism does not mean that women don’t like chivalry. It means that women want to have basic respect and not be killed by men.

[@natgeox]

It used to mean that, maybe it still does for others. Feminism has mutated into a man-bashing/hating/shaming, masculinity-killing, sky-screeching, vagina-hat-wearing, feminazi monstro. It's an embarrassment to women. There are divides in every category these days. "Us against them." It's getting boring.

[@toomuchinformation]

​@@natgeoxWhy is it an embarrassment towards women? We don't say incels are an embarrassment towards men. Why do men get to keep their individuality and women do not?

[@natgeox]

@@toomuchinformation incels *are* an embarrassment towards men... imo. Extremist behaviour=imbalance. I think women that hate men under the guise of being a feminist is many unpleasant things, including embarrassing. Just like misogyny; misogynistic behaviour is the opposite of attractive healthy masculinity, its cringe and awkward to see what manifests when a man feels threatened by a woman and vuce versa....imo. These are all my opinions remember:)

[@bell9930]

💯

[@hillarybillary21]

Alex, I’m very fertile.

[@Waleochronicles]

Buhahahahahha 🤣🤣😂🤣 y'all killing me in this comment section.

[@bonielyngomez9579]

HAHA i am dead laughing with this comment 🤣

[@somethinggtwo]

Lmfao

[@faittwilliams2094]

Wow

[@sandykl]

The video was so fun to watch. You’re so vibrant 😆💛 also, I have met a French / German guy.... so gentlemen like. He would also always pay for my parking if we took my car. But I’ve meet others that weren’t this way. I guess it depends on their individual upbringing

[@Waleochronicles]

Glad you enjoyed the video. Yes I think it depends on each individual. This is a case where generalizations surely do not apply.

[@princefazzahamdan1636]

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[@openthewayformygreatabundance]

German has the best male jaws in th whole universe 😮❤

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

Sure , but they age horribly. What the point on that

[@erlynadress5161]

I think, they tend more introvert (zurückhaltend). Normally they find their girlfriend or boyfriend from other friends

[@HelloHello-xm1ek]

I really think that depents on the women. I could be wrong but living as a foreign woman in germany i think german men behave differently towards women from other countries. They are more gentlemen and traditional to foreign women, because most likely we are used to this kinda things and german women are not. So i even think that they are a little bit more "german" to german women ;)

[@meelys1554]

How does it look like to live in German?

[@HelloHello-xm1ek]

@@meelys1554 I really don't recommend Germany anymore. I just came back yesterday from a vacation to Germany and again I realized how bad it got here. Only shit people, almost everyone smokes, lots but looooots of Refugees. You don't see Germans anymore, lots of Arabic men where u don't feel safe as a women anymore. What happened to this country, it's sooo darn sad :( Good old Germany doesn't exist anymore!

[@ATypiclaNPC]

​@@HelloHello-xm1ekProbably depends where u live? Whwre do u come from?

[@ATypiclaNPC]

​@@HelloHello-xm1ekah and i don't wanna say, it didn't got worse, but i don't think everywhere. Someparts have it harder then other ATM.

[@HelloHello-xm1ek]

@@ATypiclaNPC well if you live on the country side of course you don't see all the shit that's been going on. It's EVERYWHERE now (especially in the cities and smaller cities) in small villages 'Dörfer' starts also...just give it a few more couple yrs (3-5) then it will take over. Horrible and sad!

[@Rhabarber54321]

Who is paying for dinner is not that much about German men being cheap; it is about respect - and insecurity. There is one thing many people like to forget: Dating can become a power game. This is a fact, and it is nothing you can stop by just saying it isn’t. There are men out there (and women, although less), who start marking their territory by doing things that seem to be harmless, even friendly, but which are used to put the other in a vulnerable position. But even if that isn’t the case, and in most times and with most people it isn’t, this consequences can ensue, even if it is not intended. In Germany, it needed centuries, many struggles and a lot of legislative action, before women became legally able to open a bank account or to enter a job without their husband’s or father’s formal consent. Men became legally independent with their adulthood; women did not before their husband died, as a widow. Paying for the meal was not a question of chivalry, but of sheer necessity and vulnerability. A woman in a crinoline just isn’t able to open a door by herself; her clothes always get in the way. Guess why they wore such useless junk? Right, to please men. And when women became legally independent - this was only about the legal act; it took many decades more to actually enter the brains of people. Until now - I’m talking from my experience as a lawyer here - there are men who think a woman has to ask for consent about decisions, they themselves would come to without any thought about the opinion of their wife or partner. Even men who would consider themselves not to be sexist in any way, sometimes encounter thoughts in their own brain that come from this horrible past. The human brain sometimes is like a swamp: things sink to the ground, but are not gone; from time to time, they come back with a overwhelming stench. This is why “chivalry” was looked upon with distrust by the women’s lib movement. And today? You might say that this is not a problem anymore, so chivalry is not an instrument of suppression, but just a harmless and friendly act. And this is true - to a certain extent. But as human history goes: there is a development, and there is a rollback, and so on, back and forth. You will never know for sure, where in all of this mess your society, and more important, the person in front of you is at the moment. He might be a sensitive, sensible person, who just makes an old-fashioned, friendly gesture, but it might also be a predator who thinks to buy privileges over you by paying for a coffee. And many men are afraid their friendly symbolic act of kindness might be misunderstood as a trespassing of borders. This is relatively new development, so that field isn’t easy to navigate. Yes, there are men who are just cheap, but the vast majority just tries to find some rules to follow. In my opinion, the rule to split the bill for the first dates is one that can be used: Both act as equals, at least until they know each enough other to avoid misunderstandings. Opening a door is something you can do for everybody, regardless of their gender. Helping a woman to get into her coat one should do because of how ridiculously complicated female clothing can be (even a formal suit is ten times as comfortable and practical as any frock or dress). And adjusting a woman’s seat you should never do, as long you don’t work in the service industry. It is not a nice way to start an evening by wrecking your companion’s feet…

[@Waleochronicles]

Thanks for taking the time to explain things in such great detail. I agree with you on some points you have made. Dating can indeed become a power game if one is unfortunate enough to fall into the hands of a predator or an emotionally imbalanced individual (this applies to both genders). I like your closing sentence of wrecking your companions feet 😂😂😂 I always appreciate a good sense of humour.

[@sweettagada22]

Well this is just your opinion, I personally have a very different analysis of it:)

[@barbilocsin1183]

I recently had a first date with a German guy and as far as he said, he wanted to keep on seeing and get to know me. Plus, we are still texting everyday. The only thing that I would like to know is, he is not really asking questions about me (he’s asking but I’m always the one who initiate the question). Like how’s my childhood is like or something. I know it’s just the first date but I would really appreciate it if he asks more about me because I really like him

[@congelesegirllivingincanad422]

I have the same problem

[@Iammercy100]

Same here 😂

[@jennifermutesi7880]

Same here. Maybe it's their Nature or not being interested in the Person.

[@KimChi-iy7jd]

Hm, if they are genuinely interested they ask about you in general. One reason can be that some may be "slow" to ease into getting to know you. That can happen, that it takes more than one or two "dates" to spike earnest interest. Nevertheless do not engage in anything physical if you want a relationship and the guy does not give the impression he wants to get to know you. That is my advice as an older woman, who really appreciates German men. Of course if you want a quick "hook up" I am sure no profound questions are needed. 😅🙃🙂

[@Iammercy100]

@@KimChi-iy7jd hello dear , I am dating a German guy from Austria . We met on tinder.i normally initiate conversation .he doesn't ask questions. He told me he was going to be in Nigeria in March but later told they have lockdown that will end in two weeks time.that was in mid March he told me . It's two months now with him..but I don't know any of his family member not friends am getting worried . he's always telling me that he is busy that we can only communicate around 8:30pm but sometimes when we get talking he like talking more on sex ..I know sex is important but at least him asking me questions and getting to know about me should be the one thing...if I don't send him a message he won't send . please I need your advice on this ma'am

[@topehassan]

Alex, you should ask Wale out. Your chemistry is great on screen 😍😍😍

[@Waleochronicles]

Please no oooooo 😅😅😅😅

[@israeliana]

She's so gorgeous he better get up

[@moroccanbarbie2767]

“open the window” loool, I’m in love with this. you are so well spoken and orange/red suits you very well :)

[@Waleochronicles]

I know right 😂😂 I wonder why I was thinking of windows instead of doors 😂

[@princefazzahamdan1636]

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[@faittwilliams2094]

WOW

[@teeskyers]

As a woman who dated a German I offered to split the bill at dinner I always offer to split the bill because I don't like waiting for someone to pay for me like I'm needy, I just rather pay for what I ate, the guy I dated was surprised but was okay with it :) also he approached me for a date at a museum but then I said no and then I approached him for a date lol. I tend to date guys I approach more than guys who approach me, something about a guy approaching me can be a turn off unless I already like them.

[@johnballard6725]

Guys love it when ladies make the first move.

[@Melanated483]

So, how is all that working for you?

[@Melanated483]

I make money 💵 like more than enough to support a household and I STILL WILL WANT a Guy to ALWAYS pay for me. Otherwise, what’s the point of living under a Male Patriarchy. Like what would be the benefit to me as a woman living under a patriarchy if he’s just okay with me splitting the bills…. THIS IS WHAT I JUST REALIZED LATER ON IN LIFE… The more you know and grow😉 😘

[@warcrimeconnoisseur5238]

@@Melanated483 How can you say that you live in a patriarchy but get so much money that you can support a household alone?

[@Jadegirl23]

“Which women?” 🤣🤣 When talking about splitting the bill. Haha

[@LibraEmpress-z4o]

I am very very happy with my German, so Im keeping him for life, even after im dead XD.... Once you go German you never go back.

[@nonomabokela8858]

😂😂 they're for keeps hey.

[@jdstep97]

So, I gather that when a German says "invite" the other person, that means HE is actually PAYING. That wasn't clear from this video, but I think I've heard it before. Funny thing is, where I'm from in the US, you can still invite someone somewhere but expect them to pay their own bill. :)

[@loveroftrueandlastingpeace]

Yes, if a German uses the term "invite", that means he / she is gonna pay for it.

[@mystickal6342]

Alex is a German and already Shy with the questions you asked..😜.. You on other hand are so Beautiful inside and out..Modern Bold lady..i love your smile and Lovely aura that you have. thanks for this video.

[@Waleochronicles]

Wow all these compliments just for me ... now I cant stop "blushing" 😄 Thank you very much for leaving such a kind comment. 😊

[@Astrofrank]

I like your hair style in this video, works very well with your face - please keep it. And an on-topic comment: In general Germans seem to have a problem with flirting.

[@Waleochronicles]

Thanks for the compliment 🙂🙂🙂 ... As for Germans and flirting lets just say it doesn't come naturally to them ...😆

[@ArmandoBellagio]

It only really works in clubs/pubs in Germany if people are a bit drunk and open for it 😁 Yeah, German women are very much into equality and stuff, that's why they are into splitting bills. And yeah, many women here in Germany also don't like when you open doors etc for them. Too old-school, sexist, whatever. So that's why chivalry is dead here to some point, not just in Berlin.

[@annao.5240]

I have been taught to always split the bill when beeing on a first (and a few following) date. This way there's no expectation like : "I've paid for the date, now you should kiss me" or things like this. There's no power imbalance. It's actually pretty smart 😀

[@Sarah-zt2qz]

If there’s an expectation from a man after paying for a date then he’s probably the wrong man for you. 😬

[@annao.5240]

@@Sarah-zt2qz but why should men pay for a date? It's the 21 century, women earn their money the same way men do. Why the very outdated expectations towards men? I genuinely don't understand it 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@Sarah-zt2qz]

@@annao.5240 For a lot of reasons but one is even though it’s 2021 women still make way less money than men do while working the same job. So why should they be expected to pay?

[@anushka6559]

@@Sarah-zt2qz Then I think we should reduce wage gap instead of letting the man pay the whole bill

[@Sarah-zt2qz]

@@anushka6559 given that we live in a patriarchal society (another reason why men pay the bill) that’s unlikely to happen. So until women get equal pay men will continue paying the bills. ☺️

[@moonaymc]

I think in this video you can see at least one reason why it can be hard to date Germans: They're often being rather analytical, and they don't show too much sensuality (out of fear or habit or whatsoever), which actually is key to flirting, I would say. So it's even hard to find out whether the person is making an attempt to flirt. This is just my hypothesis haha, I'm German myself and I find it hard to date Germans, also because of the above 😅 No offense ^^

[@noelliebtsie]

Ich kann es total nachvollziehen, deutsche Frauen ausländischen Männer zu wollen. ^_^ Aber dennoch will ich einen Tag in Berlin wohnen. Ich studiere die Stadt.

[@BellaNarain]

Lol I laughed so hard when you said “Which women?”

[@Waleochronicles]

Still looking for them 😄

[@angieisoverit8742]

I’m a huge feminist, but if your only complaint is that men open doors and pay for things you probably don’t face any real problems in life 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@samkobby3567]

Hey , are you in Germany ?

[@angieisoverit8742]

@@samkobby3567 not currently

[@samkobby3567]

@@angieisoverit8742 wanna know you, send me your email address , we keep in touch

[@colstonlchinese]

He has a handsome smile, with great teeth.

[@Kaisaya]

Hahaha i love it when you keep on asking “which women???” Hahahhaa i can relate lol

[@ATypiclaNPC]

What an answere do u expect? Do u want an answere like, " The women on the 7.6.20what ever..that sit right begind me when i was in the bar, who was with another guy there, and then this happend" or what? XD we all learn by watching from others. How to behave, how talk everything. So if that was what he learned probably some of the women in his living cyrcle were like that. 😅

[@kiamysuamimodel8948]

He is really cute

I think the power dynamics of "paying on a date" are rather important. Essentially, the one paying is putting the other into "debt" - not of a financial, but metaphorical kind. And German culture is very conscious of obligations - the German word for "debt", or "Schulden", is derived from "Schuld", or "guilt". Basically, each person on a date paying for their own meal allows them to treat each others as equal, without any obligations to each other.

[@PlumbonChanel]

Hello

[@Србомбоница86]

Omg that's beyond stupid

@@Србомбоница86 Why?

[@sakuralein1]

@ ok thank, I better don’t date German man

@@sakuralein1 A valid choice.

[@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz]

Splitting bills is not going to happen for me

[@sambrown5867]

Cool and sociable conversation Wale; not too fake or rehearse! :*) xxx Alex is CUTE; full stop! Xx

[@Waleochronicles]

I suck at rehearsing stuff. I would be a total disaster if I had to do that. 😄

[@a_bogoduhova]

Hahahahh... she's awesome! 😁I'm from Russia and it's normal here to show show good manners, open doors, pay for dinner and make the first step. I guess men are stressed mostly to meet a girl first and they like when a girl text him first more often but... girls in Russia would definitely like it when a man shows himself first.

[@edithputhy4948]

well in Russia women also aren't treated equally

[@keiraxxx74]

@@edithputhy4948 its not true in russia feminism have longer history than in western countries , when german woman was at Home with kids russian woman in comministic times have working in fabric and have right to do abortion

[@keiraxxx74]

@@edithputhy4948 till today russian woman are treaten speacial and have more "princess" life than german woman In russia when woman dont want to work she dont have to its man duty to give money, in germany man dont want to work for woman so she dont have choice

[@Србомбоница86]

@@edithputhy4948 Russian women were feminists when you westerners were still stuck in home serving your husband's

[@Србомбоница86]

@@keiraxxx74 abortion is not good ,But I agree with rest of your comment

[@reginakorth1809]

I don't believe he would make the first step. He s pretending to be different... He would not pay the bill either 😂

[@Србомбоница86]

Effeminate ,passive guys like him are so unattractive to me

[@FreeElf25]

Alex looks like a model !

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

Not really

[@noelliebtsie]

Definitely recommend paying for yourself, ladies! So there are not any weird expectations. This is smarter to do. Stay independent. That said, why do men suddenly become passionate feminists only when it means not doing nice things for women. Ha ha ha. They ignore the rest of it.

[@kannot1]

That is exactly why women should let men pay! Who cares if they feel entitled, women owe them nothing. Chivalry is not dead... I do feel that Western women have made it harder for more

[@noelliebtsie]

@@kannot1 Well, the problem is how men approach the whole thing. Like, paying for you then thinking they own a piece of you. OR make you feel as if they're hoping NOT to have to pay for you,. That's an uncomfortable vibe! Lol. So really, I think equality has to seep into our cultures better, then there's no underlying weird feelings. I still feel strongly that women need to redefine our relations, regain perspective on what we're looking for with men. Confront our male savior/leader image. We're trying to create equal partnership in society, equal decision-making, equal distribution etc. essentially revise world society to reflect feminine values prominently. I'm not even sure men will ever allow equality. So women have to be talking about how to deal with that. Amazonian warrior kind of consciousness, to rescue our world. After centuries of patriarchy, undoing our own deep-set conditioning is job number one.

[@meganhopkins9788]

No

[@joimonae4090]

I like traditional but you do what you want and I’ll do what I want 😅

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

If you want to be independant for all your life then stay alone . It applies for men and women

[@opheliadunn5769]

He reminds me of Adam Groff from Sex Education. Very handsome young man and Waleo, you look so beautiful with that red lipstick.

[@graceamelia1331]

Am looking forward for the man of my dream, who is loving, caring and focus.

[@samkobby3567]

Hey , are you in Germany ?

[@fresitafawn]

woah he’s gorgeous wtf

[@alexiakelley4245]

I lean more traditional because that’s how our culture is out in rural East Texas. But I don’t think the woman should take advantage of the man either. What I mean by that is if she wants to go out to eat constantly, it can add up to a super expensive monthly expense or if she always picks expensive restaurants then that’s also a costly monthly expense. Since I am a little traditional I also like cooking homemade meals for my boyfriend. I just say do whatever dynamic makes you happy. If you want to split everything equally than do so. If y’all both want to be traditional, then do so.

[@PJ-cu4cl]

God bless me with a guy like that

[@nathaliacarbajal3496]

So, if you're new in Germany how do you meet people?! It seems hard to make friends there if you're new in the country

[@airdrophunter9521]

Tinder, Badoo 😎

[@mayankdewli1010]

You will have an easier time trying to be friends with other immigrants ( or expats if you're an anglo saxon )

[@MetalBere]

You two would make a beautiful couple

[@Jessica-li2ib]

He’s so cute tho

[@mikejurgens1013]

as a german i have to say we are not shy but rather layed back and think about the situation. we think through our options to make the right decision

[@JeBusInYoutbe]

Keep thinking and you will end up alone and old

[@mikejurgens1013]

@@JeBusInYoutbe keep not thinking and you'll end up with a foot in you're ass because you thought being naive is better

[@nonomabokela8858]

😂😂 in your thinking, kindly let ❤ takeover. Risk it all.​@@mikejurgens1013

[@Lucas2811pet]

“Then this could be a problem” 😂😂😂

[@anaaofiabarreto2943]

I am Colombian and when I was there, every single man thought I was into him 😂. But k was just being friendly😅

[@raven061495]

i love German men they are always so cute

[@Itsjennygomes]

Loved the video ❤

[@carmareber77]

He is so handsome

[@ngamjai2207]

My german boyfriend is respectful and gentleman

[@thesunisout2858]

German people are hard work to date.

[@marvin2678]

how ?

[@val-schaeffer1117]

I have rarely ever seen interracial couples, that too living in multicultural Frankfurt for about 10 years. Except elderly German divorced men in "relationship" with much younger South East Asian women.

[@Waleochronicles]

Ok. I'll consider this.

[@umaaikarai997]

I'm trying to approach and flirt with a guy but it seems a very hard task for me because we are always surrounded by our friends😫 I really like him and idk what to do to get him

[@jusemagine1919]

Tough fam😭

[@jusemagine1919]

It's been 5 days, did you by any chance make ur move yet?

[@teeskyers]

I usually just walk up to a guy and introduce myself and flirt, show I'm interested, ask him if he wants to do something with you, exchange numbers :)

[@karolinaparmas]

Love you guys, thanks!

[@maritawanazw]

Ma'am you have beautiful natural hair! 😍From when this video was uploaded i hope you didn't cut it!❤

[@suneku78]

Many guys, particularly those well-educated and with good morals and a decent family background, honestly look for girls they can have a serious relationship with. These guys will not start anything, and some of them will even literally refuse to get kinky during the first couple of dates, partly also to test the girl. The idea is that if a girl is willing to kiss on a first and do some more on the second or third date, her self-worth and self-respect is considered as not being appropriate to be considered for a serious relationship. Serious girls, meaning, "marriage material" (no offense) know that too well in my experience. That is why very often, the same type of girls end up with the same type of guys, both on the lower end as well as on the high end. Very often, girls and guys meet at university and that is where relationships are formed. Very often, university-educated guys will look for university-educated girls. So the best way in Germany to find a quality guy is to enroll in university.

[@YeahButCanISniffUrPantsFist]

eh, i wouldnt agree with the testing girls out thing. usually those prim and proper men who dont want intimacy on the first dates, wouldnt iniciate anyway/would shut it down anyway

[@michaelmeier270]

I would disagree too. In sterotypical terms: We don´t have that dating culture in Germany with all the rules and expectations. Most of the time there is sex befor developing deeper feelings. And that is true for both sexes. If the girl wants to sleep with you on the first date doesn´t mean shes cheap or something in Germany.

[@graced.6711]

Yeah, no good woman wants to date a misogynistic idiot like that.

[@AS-rd4xi]

@@michaelmeier270 glaub schon um ehrlich zu sein :P

[@dagda3000]

@@michaelmeier270 Buddy, of course does it also mean in Germany that she is cheap if she sleeps with the guy on a first date.

[@Pewtah]

"Which women?" German women. They are the ones who want to split the bill and do not want unasked help to show independency from a man and autonomy.

[@TS-tv2ik]

Not American women. We can take care of ourselves, but we like a man who wants to provide and take care of us, most of us do! We love a good gentleman.

[@samogavorto8763]

Is this the reason why many German men look for Russian and Asian women? Maybe they do not like women behaving like men.

[@Pewtah]

@@samogavorto8763 "Many German men"? No. I do not notice more relationships of german men with non-german women.

[@Jeremy-sj3pr]

@@TS-tv2ik speak for yourself and people like you. American woman aren’t an ethnicity and they definitely are far too diverse to stereotype in this way. In the setting (US university) that I’m in, it’s not necessarily that woman want someone to take care of them, but they generally want someone better than them in most ways. The very smart girls (which is most woman at my university) want someone even smarter. The girls that want to be pediatricians want a guy that is aiming to be a neurosurgeon. However, none of them are incapable of taking care of themselves. It’s ingrained in them to want someone more dominant than themself.

[@pinkliberty23]

@@samogavorto8763 behaving like men?! 🤨 I don’t feel less of a woman opening doors and paying my bills. Plus it takes away the pressure from the woman to owe something to the man if they split the bill. PS: I was born in Russia, so cut the bs!

[@leticiarosas8547]

Wow he is gorgeous!

[@princefazzahamdan1636]

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[@Kosiso-by1mc]

He’s talking about the feminist trend of splitting the bill😂😂

[@princefazzahamdan1636]

Greeting to you Dear ❤️... Am Prince Hamdan Fazza the Royal crown prince of Dubai.... It's a great pleasure knowing you better... How are you doing? You can add me on hangout for a private conversation 👇 ( [e-mail] )

[@moniquenavarro4131]

❤this is the best ever!!!! U guys rock, it was amazing 😍

[@topehassan]

Dude said No I ain’t prepared for the cliches! 😅

[@Waleochronicles]

I know right? 😅 I expected him to come with a script.

[@princefazzahamdan1636]

Greeting to you Dear ❤️... Am Prince Hamdan Fazza the Royal crown prince of Dubai.... It's a great pleasure knowing you better... How are you doing? You can add me on hangout for a private conversation 👇 ( [e-mail] )

[@ngamjai2207]

I have a German boyfriend long distance. I like him so much.

[@N3dita]

What is he like?

[@xogoessweden]

I love this video, Alex is also super sympathic, from which part of germany is he?

[@thepretorian5292]

Bayern

[@topehassan]

Wale speaking gems!!! Damn girl! She stepped on those toes and You can step on it anyway 🤣

[@Waleochronicles]

I am sure some women police will come for me sha 😅😅😅

[@lesliearias8804]

🕵🏾‍♀️🕵🏾‍♀️🕵🏾‍♀️ Here a peruvia trying to understamd a german man 🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️ .... He looks very kind 🤗 You girl looks too prettt too 🤩

[@moraien3278]

About spliting the bill: German women often like to split the bill. They are independend and don't need/want to be treated like their helpless. They also don't expect the man to have more money than them. A woman who expect that the man has to pay is often seen as selfish and egocentric.

[@anushka6559]

Thank you for this comment

[@journee8724]

Coz they're Feminists

[@booboobunny5655]

Seriously?

[@keiraxxx74]

@@journee8724 lol german man are also feminist so?

[@journee8724]

@@keiraxxx74 Oh Lord... you sound really ignorant

[@josephinelagmay6012]

Alex is handsome ❤

[@fruitfulprince4479]

Ayooo

[@lydiaagbetsoamedo3874]

because German are decent the don't flirt around that is why they are the way they are and is the best is no good compared to African mehendi can flirt around and sleep with any woman know I like the way the German men are is the best German shouldn't change the should be the way they are please Africans don't teach me German to be bad boys because they are not bad they have a unique culture and they should stick to it please Lydia from Ghana

[@teezaraildaf5866]

Black hair red lipstick orange shirt umm 🤔🇩🇪 🤣 Love the video good chemistry a lot of enlightening information ♡ love the look too girl u killing it Support and love from ur african sis

[@Waleochronicles]

🤣🤣🤣 Omg this is so funny cos I didnt even notice the combo until you mentioned it. I must really love Germany then if I am representing it in my appearance 🤣🤣 Thanks for the kind words and support. 😊😊

[@Astrofrank]

Makes the German colours sexy. ;-)

[@aryunakhalzarova6579]

Nice conversation 😊 keep up the good work 😊

[@Waleochronicles]

Thank you! 😃

[@dswan5173]

He’s totally not my type but his dimples mesh well with mine.

[@fusssaurus]

I'm German and i don't understand why are all saying that german guys are handsome i don't think they are

[@punchline9131]

Du wirst keinen abkriegen und hast sowas wie eine kognitive Dissonanz

[@journee8724]

@Don Bab yeah right

[@rheamaesenalde6484]

Haha my thoughts to my fellow Filipino.

[@beryosa]

They are, actually :) But it depends on what you think is attractive. Germans are very masculine in their physique.

[@musiccer7446]

@Mahinda Rajapassa of course it is genetics. What else would it be. Most northern men are taller and stronger build due to their evolution. A wake thin person could t survive under such conditions in the past and therefore the successful genes were given to the next generation leading to what many people consider masculine physique

[@steviemackey4160]

Am looking forward to see if I could find the man of my dream who is loving,caring and who will love me for who I am

[@brunoheggli2888]

Buy a dog!