Wanna "help"? Ask them how they're doing, feeling, etc. Don't assume!

[@aliciamcgarvey2774]

I gained 30 pounds after covid and dealing with a subsequent diagnosis of an autoimmune disease. My MIL (who has never been overweight in her life) always feels she needs to tell me how to lose weight. I usually gain weight while in a flare-up because of the steroids. So, there is no way the weight is going to come off while on the medication. Then, she tells me how to speed up weight loss when I'm in remission. It's very stressful being around her as this is the only thing she will talk to me about.

[@marinestch4070]

I’ve been there and honestly no one is ever gonna have your back so I would advise you to speak up and tell her that it is inapropriate

[@kristincarr118]

My heart breaks for you! I hope one day soon you just take the plunge and tell her to kick rocks! Seriously, idk your situation but you have every right to ask her to never to mention your weight again if she would like to remain friendly. The choice is hers...she can either stop, or she can lose her relationship with you❤

[@hazardous205]

I hate when people do this. My mom is immune compromised too, and she has a bunch of other medical issues that make it extremely hard to lose weight because she can hardly get up out of bed every day. She got put on oxygen because of long COVID

[@nikkisinger6583]

I am so sorry, that really sucks!

[@Nøahisdead666]

Yass THIS HAS BEEN WHAT IM SAYING DUDE "Good" or "bad" it can HURT! You do NOT understand their pains, unless they're bringing it up please fluffing don't 😭

[@miraminouche154]

Yes!!!! thank you for all those people selfish and disigusting mind🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@allenehunt8340]

Ok Colleen. So, how ARE you doing and how ARE you feeling? Many of us are worried about you and have good reason to be. While I know you get trolls, the vast majority of us genuinely wish you well and hope there’s something else going on and not an ED relapse. Some people don’t know the best way to comment on it and I’m sorry for that…but we do genuinely hope you are ok.

[@izzyzmind]

wait what now i’m concerned. you do you think she’s relapsing?

[@Barbarasanchez2008]

Why are you worried about her isn’t she eating normally

[@hellokittyfan7592]

She ok you don’t need to worry how or what she eat

[@born2becloud9]

I'm confused..

[@anklebiterfromebay]

To the people in the replies that are confused: Just because she films what she eats doesn’t mean its always what she is eating throughout the day, she could be eating so much less and thats unhealthy.

[@marykristenfoxx7995]

Thank you!!!! I have my whole life and it’s gutting!!!!

[@Sky-c9p3x]

So true thank you for telling society about this your. true hero

[@juliepiwaron7033]

That is so true! I have been skinny shamed all of my life, even after getting released from the hospital due to a major health event.

[@sarahdoanpeace3623]

Yep

[@esiquashie9325]

Any weight is good weight unless it's making you ill, and that's just how I see it

[@SeannaRose]

I've seen way too many dedicated trolls posting mean crap in your comments sections. I hope you're doing well. Let us know if the viewer community can support you in any way. ❤

[@__zj__]

Selling a course around intuitive eating while being severely underweight without adressing it sends the message "you can recover and stay super skinny" to your vulnerable young audience with eating disorders that you cater to. It's dangerous and irresponsible.

[@katiie6549]

How do you know she's underweight??

[@youre764]

@@katiie6549find a picture of her wrists and legs, she frequently posts her legs in photos

[@__zj__]

@@katiie6549 How do you not see it?

[@katiie6549]

@__zj__ because i don't? Iam not picking a fight with you or anything iam genuinely asking

[@katiie6549]

@@__zj__ .

[@katheleenrojas6777]

Thanks for saying this I was bullied before

[@JM-om2pn]

Sometimes it is needed out of pure concern. A year ago you looked healthy. Now you have clearly relapsed. There is no shame in being honest to your audience . Maybe it’s good for your viewers who are largely from the ED community to be aware off. I know this to me is triggering and why I have to unfollow you for now. I hope you can find the help you need ❤ no hate just concern.

[@ice_pls]

I've just looked at her oldest videos. I've been seeing alot of comments saying she lost weight. But I don't see it? She's always been very skinny. I guess her collarbone is slightly more pronounces now but still. What are people talking about?

[@kathrynahedrick]

​@@ice_plsI don't get it either

[@JM-om2pn]

@@ice_pls look at her wrists too. Plus her cheek bones. Screen shot similar angles. She has always been thin I agree but she has definitely lost more weight. I hope she is okay but!

[@sabrinaaretz9769]

I personally don't see it either and there are so many different reasons someone loses or gains weight, also our body structure just changes with aging even without weight change. Of course I hope everything is ok with her.

[@virtuall0ser]

what if theyre getting unhealthily thin? Like bones.

[@lifeisabreathingpoem6378]

When I was in my ED, that would have been a neon sign to keep going with what was doing because it was getting results.

[@virtuall0ser]

@@lifeisabreathingpoem6378 oh youre right... i never thought of that, even though that happened to me too :( i feel like somebody should be told to keep an eye on them atleast?

[@samanthabarczi6896]

So agree!!!!!!! I had a first cousin tell a friend that they better talk to me about my weight because I was looking so thin and terrible. Tell me to my face at least and don't talk behind my back or how about you keep your mouth shut entirely!!!

[@yunaflower_2]

omg your hair is gorg😻

[@randomuserxpondrapops]

The sad thing is that it's my mum, she started doing it when I turned 11 and now that I finally had the courage to talk to her, she says it's so get use to getting comments like this later in life so that it doesn't affect you, she's kinda right but I think this is truly not the answer...any comments?

[@kalenanichol8375]

She's your mom. She's supposed to be in your corner, all the time. It's a lot different to have a random stranger call you fat than when your mom says something like that. The logic that "if I'm mean to my kid, it'll prepare them" is bs. Ideally, you don't have to rely on, live with, or look up to mean people. The only thing she's doing is tearing you down, not teaching you resiliency. Please do what you can to take care of yourself and treat yourself with love and respect ❤️❤️❤️

[@Phenobarbidoll.]

My mom swears she never said a single word when I was overweight. And it's true she never harped, but she did occasionally comment. Now I'm thin, and apparently it's ok to comment on smaller bodies and what's put into them. Like threatening several times to have me committed for an eating disorder. Like ma'am I'm in my late 40s and a size 6 with a healthy BMI. The time to have me treated for disordered eating was when I was 15 and started gorging myself until I could barely move.

[@essiewaggel]

I'm Happy there is more awareness for what can hurt. But as an overweight person myself, if somebody comes to me with real concern and it they ask me why, then I would not be offended. But the tone and reason really matters. You dont have to tell me I'm heavy, I already know 😉

[@assumptamunsuang6683]

Love when you post everyday

[@abbymiller6781]

This makes me feel so good cause I’m fat

[@Grace-m5g3i]

My mom needs one for sure

[@sunshine13546]

Thx for this one!!!!

[@kittster2785]

But what if that person makes a living off making content for the ED community and many of them are triggered by the person's change in appearance? What if the content they are creating that was intended to help actually does harm? Should we just stay quiet? Colleen, many people have expressed genuine concern for you and continue to ignore the elephant in the room. Enough is enough. Stop lying to your audience. It is harming them.

[@propogandalf]

That's a very good point and very well made. Maybe the responsible thing to do would be to stop making videos until she gets herself sorted

[@__zj__]

Exactly. She's avoiding the point either because she's in denial or because there's money to be made. Selling a course around intuitive eating while being severely underweight sends the message "you can recover and stay dangerously skinny" to her vulnerable young audience with eating disorders that she caters to. It's dangerous and irresponsible.

[@StephenMarks-l4o]

Unless they were getting into shape for something.

[@Renee-n9y]

Soo true!😊

[@TheRPGNerd]

Sometimes this includes doctors. I am technically overweight. I dont look overweight. Nor do i feel overweight. But i have had that brought up at least once to explain a health issue (it wasnt the cause) and its annoying! I actually like how i look for the most part. Most of the weight is in my thighs and i think thats ok. As long as it isnt causing you pain, and it doesnt bother you, who gives a shit what your weight is?

[@StephanieNguyen-zo3qb]

Yess !!

[@rishabhanand7204]

So trueer

[@britmarie4859]

Exactly

[@kidwhizmo]

I have commented on other people's wait, but never on their weight.

[@emikerr]

YEEEESSSSSSSSS thank youuuuu

[@christineeversole4818]

Truth ! We are All Unique , Beautiful and Sexy!!

[@biharitirkye5585]

I am waiting for you ❤❤

[@yizzynightingale138]

YEP!! AGREE!

[@sarahdoanpeace3623]

YEP! Even us smaller petite ladies don’t like it. I have medical issues, I am not this tiny by choice.

[@NatashaThomas-nf9ys]

❤

[@Its-Raining-Outside]

me when someone comments on me or my cousins amount of food irl:

[@EternalYorkieMom]

Just sub in you look good. Then I’ll tell you about all the things that bring a smile to my face and confidence to my step.but that’s hair dye and a good job before going to the gym

[@shamhason3659]

Do that to my dad plz

[@Letthelightin222]

i suppose this was waaaay easier to do than be honest and acknowledge the truth. everything you post is contradictory to who you are physically and mentally Colleen, quit the bs already !

[@lialatorre1]

you’re right.. i just hope she can be honest with us and seek help bc being this underweight is just rlly unhealthy.. not to be mean but she looks like she doesnt eat anything

[@Letthelightin222]

@@lialatorre1she’s quite literally emaciated. This woman is 31 yet could be mistaken for a 60 year old in some angles because of her ed. she for sure needs help i agree

[@annie7902]

Tell that to all the popular girls at my school who comment on my weight every single day of school I hate school just because of them they make my life so hard cause whenever I turn my back there always laughing so yea

[@Ellatheshylittleweirdo]

Yeah whoever still says that is a child

[@kathyl3832]

My mother-in-law sure could use a bigger piece 😂

[@Thayanithy-z5j]

You'er so pretty

[@markerickson4273]

Ah yes, the duct tape!

[@0agatha]

exactly!!

[@HaninIssa-ui2gs]

Yesssss queeeeeen❤

[@Jen_l_g]

If your friend is starting to become either very thin or very large and they are your friend then there’s no reason you can’t let them know your concern.

[@mnccslls]

Your friends weight isn't your business so ask how they're really doing instead of pointing out their insecurities.

[@allie2121]

I think she means to strangers/in a social setting, etc. Like where its not private and for concern. This creator is very body and food positive, i sincerely doubt they meant to not show concern for a friend if you see signs.

[@jr900man]

I guess for some women it is. My guy friends and female friends be like "bitch you got fat!"

[@Jen_l_g]

@@allie2121 I would never say it to someone in front of other people. This creator is more concerned with getting views than with the heath of those who watch her.

[@Jen_l_g]

@@mnccslls if they are truly your friend, then you should definitely tell them when you have concerns about their weight. If not, then you are not their friend. You are a polite stranger.

[@avre4899]

i make jokes about my own weight 😍

[@fakecake1989]

hi!!

[@woodymclendon2552]

You

[@scarletwitch3405]

Thank you did not appreciate my cousin and everyone leting me know "you lost weight" 😤 i hate comments on my body

[@showtalker2107]

lol my mom every time I eat something good. Even though I’ve been struggling for years to try and get to a comfortable weight and look for my body

[@MsJones-mc9gq]

🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@Delulubooklover]

Those are the kind of people we don’t invite to the barbecue, this is a burger eating bun having second serving safe zone

[@jeremy8481]

I don’t care if ppl want to b fat if u want to b fat go for it b fat all u want it’s ur life but I have a problem when ppl are literally obese and they still think it’s healthy know I’m all for getting chunky but theirs a limit when it’s not and u still go around sayin it is that’s when I have a problem

[@dontfit6380]

If you live in the US you need to rethink your comment of it’s your life do what you want. You see what you pay for health insurance is based off the health of the majority and as I’m sure you’ve noticed the majority aren’t healthy.

[@darshsinha3595]

Just accept it if you are unfit

[@Jasprz]

Just accept that you’re wrong and need to syau lil cuh !! 😂

[@janellek6022]

My sweet grandma asked me if I’ve lost some weight yesterday…just had my second baby few months ago 🫠

[@ricenotrizz]

As someone who just got out of eating disorder treatment. (I lost 30lbs and gained it back for recovery.) hearing comments is so upsetting. I’m 14 and hearing comments on my body is heartbreaking. It’s genuinely gotten so bad to the point I have lost 17lbs (I’ve been home 3-4 weeks now) and will most likely be going back into treatment. I just really wish people would be more mindful, to any age as well. Whether it’s an 8 year old or a 50 years old it hurts and can do damage. ❤

[@Simp4DemonSlayerCharacters]

Ikr 😞

[@allie2121]

Good luck with your recovery. Just remember whats most important is your health and not people opinions about your health. I lost a bunch of weight (i have the opposing problem in that im bigger) and my family started calling me beautiful again. But i didnt hear anyone saying that about me when i was larger. People really do treat you different, its sad. Like, if i lose weight, everyone is like WOOOO. And when i eat, its like this massive weight on my stomach, either from anxiety or the previous lack of eating. Then I get really upset and eat everything i can find. Anyways, bottom line is, im sure you are beautiful at all sizes and please please dont let those fools upset you, i know its hard. You got this, you will make it out the other end.

[@charlottespets3091]

I’m truly sorry that people haven’t learned how to be kinder to you. I may not know exactly what your journey is like, but I gained 35 lbs as a 14 year old. I didn’t get any harsh comments, but even getting through the internal ED voice is hard. I know you’re strong enough, and you will see the light at the end of the tunnel ❤️‍🩹🙏

[@Simp4DemonSlayerCharacters]

@@charlottespets3091 yea I thought I saw a light at th end of the tunnel but it turned out I had just gone low enough to see the flames of hell

[@Crying.Cherub]

COUGH COUGH on old " friend "

[@KaileyCarrington]

I feel like you are one of the only KZbinrs that actually help with no food rules and feeling better about yourself and your body please stay like that ❤❤❤

[@diverstalent]

Yeah

[@samanthamartin5989]

You're amazing