Your personal disappointment keeps it between you and your hubby, talk to him quietly and nicely then he can hear what is in yiur heart, such as your tiredness, you might need his help , his comfort and some areas of your differences, grew up different ways. Let him lead you, he should understand how to live in NY while you know how to overcone in BKK or the southern lifestye and mentality , perception or mindset of Sao Tai.