We answer your problems on 'Overthinking' | SPILL THE TEA

[@adelinaduinea6858]

I need a podcast with you guys!! 🙈💕

[@starchannel123]

This is practically a podcast already

[@adelinaduinea6858]

@@starchannel123 True, but I’d love for it to be longer, you know?! 🙈

[@lindseydipinzi]

I was literally going to make a separate comment saying the same thing! I can picture myself listening to them in the car when I’m out and about or going to work! ☺️

[@adelinaduinea6858]

@@lindseydipinzi Exactly!! ❤️

[@doantrang.12]

yeah

[@noor.357]

I am OBSESSED with these videos Ben. Never stop doing what you’re doing, you have no idea how much peace, wisdom, clarity and direction you instil in your listeners. Lots of love xxxx

[@HaveAGoodOne]

You're too kind, Noor! Thank you so much! x

[@veronicaz13]

why did I not realize Jenn's full name was Jennifer

[@janeosun]

i was like, who the hell is jennifer?!?

[@Kamillouu]

Saaame hahaha

[@JJ-yu6og]

🤣

[@engineerepixlele2845]

She only publicly revealed it like a few months ago on her Instagram iirc on a pregnancy post. Her full name is Jennifer Dohee Im

[@shalomkitty]

It’s pretty obvious, no?

[@96Fransisca]

I like how the way jen looked at ben while he’s explaining betterhelp. The look of “how am i so blessed to have this man here” “good job my man” “im a proud wife” vibes.

[@mk-ye4gr]

They are so in love the way they look at each other.couple goals.

[@almarojas5233]

I totally agree with Jenn that if you’re feeling health anxiety, instead of searching it up constantly online, just go to the doctor or urgent care. For me, one time I had really bad stomach pain and misdiagnosed myself. When I went to urgent care, it was not what I had predicted at all! It was actually a totally different scenario that actually required emergency surgery and instead I believed it was something totally different and took medicine I didn’t need to when a simple doctors visit answered my question for me. Stressing about it only made things worse and wasted time that could’ve actually been used to save my life sooner.

[@alexmcginness8859]

Such a powerful story. Glad you’re ok!

[@JooHee1994]

This felt so much like a friend giving you some solid advice. Also, I can’t stop thinking about the monkey.

[@eeyiaa16]

I literally just had a mental breakdown because of my overthinking and this show up in the morning?!?? What a coincidink I needed this

[@HaveAGoodOne]

I'm sorry you've been going through it, Vanya. And think of this timing as a message to put your mental health first and find daily rituals that can lead you to a happier mind. You got this!!

[@eeyiaa16]

@@HaveAGoodOne thank you for being here.

[@kas_iris]

20:02 I absolutely love Jenn's face when she's mindblown

[@rileywithendo]

Sometimes seeing a doctor and getting an answer from them is not always right. I have gone to more than 24 docs and i self diagnosed with endometriosis and was confirmed with surgery that I had to force my doctor to refer. I think it depends on what the health scare is and how well you know your body.

[@JJ-yu6og]

You are the ONLY person who is with you and your body 24/7. You know yourself 100000% better than any "expert".

[@LittleLazyKitty]

I completely agree, I’ve been told for years that my pain is just something I have to deal with but I knew that it wasn’t normal. It wasn’t normal to literally be incapacitated by pain every month due to periods. So now years later and after 10+ visits to the GP (including speaking to two ambulance doctors who were completely clueless), I got diagnosed with endometriosis and need surgery for. Depends on the person, but I personally think we should trust our instinct when we think something is wrong with us. Of course doctors are professionals, but they don’t feel our pain and sometimes need a little bit of pushing to really take us seriously.

[@milikoshki]

Talking about breathing- I swim 6 days per week. There is nothing like a good swim to reset and calm the body and mind- the combo of intentional breathing with long exhales + physical activity is so so good to stay in a healthy place mentally.

[@FowldsRJ]

This came at a perfect time. Jenn’s explanation and advice is what I needed to hear. Thank you for this.

[@roalguacil356]

Thank you so much for creating this wholesome space of expression and connextion .

[@Juliet-ASMR]

🥰 both so eloquent and wise, listening to this was like therapy. love all your analogies as well Jenn and Ben 💕✨

[@v-r-o-n4978]

If we are anxious about something that has not yet happened, we suffer twice: once when we worry, and again when it happens. On the flipside, what you worry about may never happen. Either way, worrying only doubles (at least) your suffering. There is a quote I love, and to which I relate hard: "My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which never happened." ~ Michel de Montaigne. This makes me laugh and lighten up. Over-thinking rarely if ever serves a person. Our brain has never evolved past its original purpose to warn of potential threat, back when potential threats were imminently life-endangering. Most of us do not live dangerous daily lives (not so in may countries). It is best to accept that most of what consumes us with fear will never actually come to pass. And in the worst-case scenario that it does, then we have suffered needlessly in anticipation. Don't suffer twice.

[@GabriellePanetti]

Mortality is a big anxiety I have. I'm not religious so I think a lot about the nothingness and like you mentioned, my sons no longer having a mom :( But I then try to remember that I'm only 24, healthy, and need to appreciate the time I have with my husband and children!

[@joykim641]

this INTRO was the friggin cutest thing ever! bravo ben!!!!!

[@dalalg2604]

Loving these videos ♡ Personally, I think that maintaining a spiritual mindset is beyond helpful. As a human, for sure I don't know everything, and in times of overthinking, I should remind myself that I don't have to. For example, my faith in God put me in ease because I have someone who will always have a better plan for me even if something went wrong or got out of control.

[@Followurheart110]

I am In love with this video!!!!! I have been dealing with this ever since covid started each day I will tell myself I will try harder to not think. By watching this I already feel better please make more !!!

[@BillyWhaler]

If there is a solution there is nothing to worry about. If there is no solution there is nothing to worry about. Don’t recall the source but I love this mantra.

[@meilany]

I love this series! You two are both so smart and well-spoken, honestly I could listen to you both talk for hours. 💖

[@shrutisingha5372]

Thank you so much for the series Ben😇🥰

[@shesyen]

You guys are answering some really dark answers, i hope these letters aren't putting off negative energy towards your ways. Please stay who you are strong and resilient. Kudos to you both for taking on this subject when you really didn't have to. People on the internet can get really really dark, try to stay away from that.

[@raquelgrech4741]

I love how knowledgeable you both are. I like how you share what you learn through your readings and personal experiences. It makes you more interesting to watch as well as more relatable. Besides the fact that this video made me feel like I was in my own therapy session, found it very helpful. Something I find very helpful when I'm overthinking or feeling insecure is spending some time alone to reflect about why i'm thinking about certain things. Did something happen that day? Am I comparing myself to someone? Finding the answer, reflecting on it and then giving myself a pep talk really helps/ has really helped making me feel more secure and carefree.

[@yomirajm7249]

sometimes if i feel a thought thats in constant loop or overthinking, I write down the thought and then write how rational is that thought, how is it really bothering my life right now and will it matter later on. Breathing is also so helpful as mentioned!!

[@itsLoveAngela]

Hi Ben & Jenn, I love this series of yours! Thank you for sharing your learnings & thoughts on this. Can you please make a SPILL THE TEA on self-discipline/motivation/doing what you have to do/life purpose that kind of stuff? Lots of love xx

[@Mellixir]

I was struggling the past few weeks with overthinking which was causing insomnia, anxiety, and stomach pain. Amazing timing!

[@yagalterry]

I feel so at peace hearing you both talk 🥲

[@rashreenolorcisimo5527]

Clicked this video. Clicked the like button. Commenting and now I’m listening.

[@Skinnypnny]

i love how i can be doing my work and also listening to this yet another SPILL THE TEA talk!!! love both you and Jenn, thank you for another video content talk

[@asummer9460]

Thank you for this vid... it’s so informative n educational for us all to get to know ourself. It’s a difficult topic but both of you put it together so well.. I’ve watched this vid again n again each time when I feel I needed some help with Anxiety, u have no idea how much your vid helps one’s mind to move forward n try not to overthink and keep reminding ourself how to overcome it. Thanx guys ❤👋

[@Nora2]

Hi! I just want to say that I really love your videos. Your and Jen's videos inspired me to live a better life.

[@trisha3962]

what a great timing , just when my mind started to fall apart these past few days 💖

[@518natalia4]

love the opening of SPILL THE TEA!!!

[@superlyobsessed]

This is so extremely relatable and helpful during this long pandemic. Thank you so much ❤️

[@mardelus]

Omg, super helpful! Please keep doing this 🙌🏼

[@razzzels]

Ugh i just love this segment so much! You and Jenn literally covered a huge fraction of being in dilemma of overthinking. Loved how every questions relate to myself! Can’t wait for your next video Ben!!

[@arrumanggraeni8665]

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[@crashtatti]

oh my godddd i needed to hear the part about ppl living rent free in ur mind when in real life u’ll never see them again like

[@rinkitripathi26]

Thank you very much for this wonderful video ❤❤

[@ClarisseDeGuzman]

This series has been so enlightening and it's great to see your perspectives on different topics. Really hoping for an evergreen podcast in the future : )

[@beabiii]

I think this was one of the best episode ♥️

[@inmyhead22]

Cosyyyy Friday night with Ben and Jenn, playing it now! 💖 💖 💖 Loving the new set btw!

[@carrieb1027]

This episodes was helpful beyond words. I’m so moved by the conversations and appreciate Jenn and Ben and also those who asked. Thank you.

[@angaragunurbileg1808]

Jenn looks amazing 🤩 she’s glowing

[@nataliegates16]

Wow that health one was so relatable. I've struggled with that a lot on and off for a few years. It used to be so bad I could barely focus on other things. Basically all I ever thought about was being worried I had a terminal illness when, really, all the physical things I thought I felt were literally anxiety but I couldn't know FOR SURE. That's actually when I found yoga and meditation and it seriously transformed my whole mindset around it... Going to the doctor to also definitely helped ease my mind. Of course, you also want to advocate for yourself at the doctor's if you truly believe something is physically wrong. I still overthink health stuff once in a while if a new 'symptom' comes up that freaks me out but I have tools to deal with much more efficiently now! Love the suggestions you guys gave to deal with it :)

[@rebeccatmeow]

I so deeply needed to hear all of this, thank you so much for such a valuable video! Keep doing what you’re doing! 💗

[@fraffee]

There's a quote I love that goes something like this: "Celebrate until further notice." :)

[@silviaa.9759]

Thank you so much for this guys. God bless you!

[@oookarin]

Ahhhhh thank you for this!! I super love all the episodes of Spill The Tea pls don't stop uploading them hehehehe ❤️❤️❤️

[@marevercammen200]

This style of video is a winner, please film more ❤️

[@kyliem2379]

This video gave me some very much needed clarity in an anxious week. Thank you SO much.

[@angaragunurbileg1808]

Wow all the questions were so relatable and it’s nice to know I’m not alone. Thank you for the great tips. It felt like I had a great talk with my bestie.

[@NutsaChubinidze]

Jenn looking at you as you speak is the cutest thing ever

[@laurwata]

Thank you, Ben & Jenn, for addressing these concerns that were brought up as I feel they are common ones that many of us think about. Overthinking has probably evolved more during the pandemic as isolation and mandates have isolated us for some time from friends and loved ones. Human interaction is such a vital part of life, especially for our mental well-being. Thank you for your insight, heartfelt guidance and advice and for being an amazing, inspirational couple! You are both appreciated and loved so much! So, about that monkey ... LOL

[@tinawhoo]

I love this series! Thank you for being so candid and I love all the analogies especially the baby one at the end 🤯

[@ThegirlFanny]

Thank you both for this! I needed this. I'm a person that overthinks thing. So this had great tips! 👍

[@mjmjmj-ko2mq]

Thank you all the advices😥😥💗💗 Jenn and Ben are the BEST!

[@soshicarlo]

Jenn is glowing!!

[@MNshubhiMM]

Ben and Jen, you're both so wise and compassionate, Lennon is really one lucky boy. P.S. Jen, you're GLOWING. I know you're overwhelmed right now, but man, it doesn't show!

[@samraslam3022]

i love you guys❤ thanks

[@Natalie-uf4lb]

I was feeling down but this made me feel better. Thank you. 💕

[@synsi5012]

Love this series so much. btw jenn's dress is beautiful

[@sierra5726]

Islam is an amazing faith that truly consoles a person about what happens after death

[@magdalenamacuba700]

Thanks guys! Always a pleasure watching and listenning ;) 👍

[@PLam1986]

I can’t tell you how much I needed this

[@bonbon7637]

Koving the series guys, love all that you do!! Xoxo

[@nininguyen8511]

I absolutely love this series! Wish it was longer! Love y’all!

[@samanthaher985]

This is so helpful. ❤ can't wait for more videos like this!

[@رباب-ب9د]

I love these! Please keep them up 👏🏽

[@selmahassane8420]

Love you guys. Please start a podcast!

[@clarry2157]

Thanks guys - this has been so helpful and I’m sure has helped so many others too. 🖤

[@anettezimmermann9564]

The topic of the last question always makes me feel this inevitable anxiety. A lot of it has to do with the fact that I always try to escape this thought rather than face it. I completely understand that, in favor of not feeling the anxiety, the idea of death and everything that comes with it needs to be viewed as a transformational state, a continuum. I am still on the journey of achieving that positive outlook and peace that Ben talked about. Thank you both for reminding to just...live!

[@soniaadetu4560]

A new episode!!!😩🥺 So happy

[@tanatrzebinski7972]

I appreciate you guys so much! Love from South Africa ❤️🙃

[@hapikohw]

The death one really got me, I have thanatophobia (death anxiety) and needed therapy for it. CBT and ISBR

[@joeychan6548]

This is veryvery helpful and inspiring!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and really appreciate this spillthetea series! Love it

[@cheeunlee9259]

This video is so helpful & informative👍

[@alexmcginness8859]

I do the health overthinking with my pets when they’re sick. I’m actually glad I don’t do it to my own personal body. 😬

[@JPFlySolo]

Thanks for that breathing technique. Definitely want to try it out!

[@crashtatti]

looooving this series

[@Stellaplayspipa]

I did the breathing techniques and it helped ❤️

[@joannaherrera8065]

Love this so much!!! You guys helped me so much!!!!

[@sweetpotatey]

Great topics guys and nice advice

[@annalizkim5770]

Literally what I needed

[@welje3191]

please make a podcast you guys! 🙏❤

[@Zofia2]

I really love this series ❤️ I also wanted to add for people who feel bad because of the focus on the negative... It's completely natural to focus on the negative and on the failures. It's a survival mechanism. If you made a mistake that hurt you, you learn not to make that mistake again, that's why your brain is so firm on you remembering that moment well. It helped me to know that remembering difficult, awkward or hurtful things means that my brain is trying to take care of me and I can help it back by letting go of the pain that those moments caused me as if saying "thanks brain! I got it from here!" ❤️

[@sierra5726]

Wonderful video!

[@bitterbiter]

I need more of this 😌❤️

[@katie_l]

When Ben said “Water off a duck’s back” 🥺🥺🥺

[@hyurisa]

I loooove this series 💗 Are you planning on uploading these to spotify? 😊

[@lalewilan]

Jen was always beautiful, but now she became a woman and became even more beautiful, she is glowing and has such a charisma.

[@liz6245]

Omgg I love the opening

[@kiraeatsrice]

Love this!! 💖

[@vanessahuynh5993]

Usually hear you tubers just promoting better help app but don’t dive into what their experience is like with using it! Anyone have experience with this app/therapy that they can share down below?

[@lousbruise]

im curious too. and also wondering how much it actually costs.

I've went on the app cuz I wanted to know how much it cost too😂😂😂 It's in Canadian dollars so it'll be more pricey than in USD but for me being a student + 10% off with a KZbinr code, it was about $310 per month (1h therapy session/week + unlimited texts). I didn't go through with it cuz I'm about to submit a thesis so I don't have time to talk to a therapist even through text, but they also told me I was eligible for financial aid. Hopefully that can help! 😊

[@KristinaRaqs]

I use it as a health benefit for my company and it’s pretty great. It took me a couple of tries to find a therapist that I resonated with but now I’ve been doing sessions with her every week. She’s AWESOME. Have had psychologists for years, but having my therapist in my pocket is pretty great. ☺️

[@baebeec8205]

Lovely❤️🙏❤️🙏

[@MarisonArcilla]

JENNIFER?!🤩

[@mercyasile]

The way Jenn looks at Ben!🥺🤍 This video was highly needed. Thank you 🤧 Can't wait for future videos of this series again!

[@Rusthlen]

you should make this a podcast!

[@usagimoon.x.o6256]

Love the intro 😍

[@whatvidhidoes]

I never knew jenn is Jennifer!!!!