We Are Dívorced But My Ex-Wife Keeps Begging For My Cucumber - Just James And Lily Petals

[@anniedaniels9937]

How can a full grown man be this childish? Divorce can be messy but dragging an ex wife with whom you have kids on social media in this manner is most unfortunate and totally uncalled for.

[@ldkgn1]

Oh my gosh! THANK YOU, so on point.

[@exquisitecaribbeanqueen7198]

NO he was not, she started the nasty name calling. So sad

[@uthmanshawwalkomeh7952]

James is just so childish 🙄

[@rebeccamatjila8972]

Social media is a problem of our generation....a Blessing and a Curse!! As much as there are good things about it, there are also very bad attributes!

[@JoyFay]

No. My “Baby Boomer” dad was like this. The only thing social media does is amplify peoples behavior-good or bad. You also have to remember that many men were not raised to respect their wives and children. The Bible and Quran teaches them that women are beneath them.

[@oekuase6633]

Of course. SM is the devil's eye.

[@lizz741]

I canceled Netflix months ago...these real-life folks on social media provide all the drama I can take...I've always said spouses and lovers come and go but your children are forever...

[@melindakalenga4268]

That’s also my philosophy as well sis.

[@olukemiadura-ojo309]

Sincerely, after reading for hours and I feel like unwinding , eating or resting, I just go to KZbin and lookout for Summer's recent post. They are entertaining, informative, refreshing and packed with so much wisdom. If you ask me, I think she was born for this. And to think that she was planning on quiting early this year. She is amazing and does it differently. Thank God for social media. Perhaps I would never have met her. She gives a new and sane perspective to the issues of life. Love u loads Summer.

[@diamonddre4626]

Spouses and lovers come and go? Is this how black women think? No wonder yll are the least married in America.

[@lizz741]

@@diamonddre4626 you tell me what you'll give your energy to? A failing relationship or a growing child? I'll wait...

[@diamonddre4626]

@@lizz741 The issue is you holding that kind of mindset. Divorce or separation are mostly felt by the children. It can turn upside down the future of the kids and subject them to abuse which may leave a traumatic pact that lasts a lifetime.

[@evie9202]

I think both individuals are being immature at this point. Unless they are doing this for content. Because we dont need to know about their divorce details. They can keep it private.

[@ngoziofurum5144]

Summer should be given a Secondment position in Nigeria as "Minister Of Women Affairs".Her advise is quite excellent.

[@tombimashri8149]

Agree

[@Flourish_today]

At this point we need social media divorce court for all these youtubers. Something like Judge Judy.

[@blessedinchrist88haleluyah77]

Brilliant idea! You do it! 😁

[@soinda87]

They’re all pointing each other in a negative manner. I’ll never take sides in any social marriages because we don’t know who’s telling the truth.

[@faustinaarthur4883]

Falling in love with your back to back contents. Keep it up cheers 👏 ✌️ ❤️ 😍 💖

[@ofekotv2174]

I love the way Summer analyzed this topic 👍👍👍❤️

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

Yup

[@orpm369]

My opinion: They are too CHILDISH - IMMATURE ...!

[@twingonetwork3034]

I remember this couple on KZbin. I knew from the beginning this day will come when I started watching them from the woman's behavior it was clearly evident....

[@dinydgeraldine3254]

Immaturity is a disease, he should get cured!

[@shelterlovely]

James was actually quiet for a longtime ,he only started speaking when Lilly said something that needed a response or his chair would have assassinated

[@niggaramos]

No real man would leave his family who is totally dependent on him so destitute. He left his first wife and child for what she says is a Chinese woman. He marries again and has a child with Chinese wife who is his second wife with child. Now, he is involved with Lily who has know him since at least 2016. Watching the videos of Chris and Lily and their former spouses all together the one thing that hasn't changed is Chris's gift of gab. I would say the supposedly intellectual jargon that rolls off his tongue is that of a used car salesman and I personally feel he is as crooked as his teeth. I only hope and pray Lily, Yuri and Dasomi do not become the next victims of a silver tongue devil once the honeymoon is over.

[@onenessesor9017]

I've been hoping to hear your thoughts on this and bring awareness to this issue. Thank you Summer! 😊❤

[@belisebibi2399]

I live in Korea and knew about them. I actually stopped watching them after a few videos because something was off. Praying for the kids🙏🏾

[@TheGreenlove87]

He is so immature. I feel bad for her.

[@onuohaameachi8290]

Must he say it to d world. Gladly ignore her romantic calls. Period

[@JoyFay]

I agree he is immature but she probably chose a black man for his cucumber.

[@shachede6828]

Huh?? Did you watch one side of the video?? She is terrible

[@meep2605]

Black men are either childish or petty.

[@leonardorjioffor6683]

Just to cut off all the bruhahaha, just don't marry outside your own race. When you do, just expect anything less because culture difference plays so much roll which destroy mix race marriages

[@jackiebenjamin8772]

All she did was answer him, but he used to be on the KZbin channel with them. If you go back to Lilly videos the children were in gymnastics before they were divorced. I was once married to a man like James, he made everyone think that I was the bad one.

[@diamonddre4626]

You don't know James. And btw, stop choosing the wrong men and blaming a generic "James" that you didn't even know

[@TheZehahaha1]

Lol A man wanting to lead his family is not cause for a divorce. Wake up.

[@deceaseda7x22]

Lily is not so innocent, watch James video because he has proof.

[@kayslzy]

It is soo sad that these two adults have decided to be behaving like kids. A big pity indeed

[@nsofwacb4715]

I know nothing about the family therefore can not take sides however I think it's incredibly important to keep the children's life private and off social media.

[@lightbearer1255]

You too wise Summer. I think you should be the 1st female nigerian president because you like social justice. You have qualities of a great leader

[@mabelconnect1387]

👌❤️

[@ritausua9993]

Nigeria don't need decent person

[@titi9238]

@@ritausua9993 what a pity!

[@mercy615]

SUMMER FOR PRESIDENT!! OSHE!!! 💃🏿💃🏿🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬

[@hopealivewithevang.olubunm2287]

Ridiculous! Messy situation. Both parents are very raw!!!

[@damselola7719]

He actually put all these out! Oh my goodness, that's so so immature 🙄

[@LishWanjogu]

He is the epitome of immaturity and pettiness. I knew he is shagala baghala the first time I saw him on their vlogs.

[@dizdimples]

Ati nn 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@soinda87]

Both

[@lewalewa7509]

You knew right !! Shagala baghala he is !!

[@janepherkhisa8581]

James was right

[@mabelconnect1387]

Summer my darling sis you’re so on point as always. Blessings ❤️

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

As always ❤️❤️

[@-Flower83]

Beautiful analysis Summer

[@cassandradenson9686]

i just love you summer, you are so real, it is too bad there are not more of you on social media, i really wish you had a talk show, you would be great, because you are very wise, and very fair!

[@brendadickson9583]

Truly I wish she has a talk show one day God bless you sis Summer

[@yakubuwuyep]

Giving us tea on the daily! Summer you don vex and I'm here for it!❤️

[@nnekairoegbu2360]

Summer is the best. 😍😍😍

[@mazichinwenduugwu4827]

I DON'T KNOW ABOUT THE FAMILY BUT I THINK IS NOT WISE TO PUT CHILDREN PRIVATE ON SOCIAL MEDIA 🤔

[@jennifergeorge7778]

I’ve followed the family since she was the only one with Chanel. It’s unfortunate when anyone decided to share text messages for likes

[@diamonddre4626]

But it's not unfortunate when a woman is promiscuous?

[@ngoziofurum5144]

If you listen to this lady some of your behaviours will automatically change.

[@flourishing5168]

Narcissistic men never mature..they act so childish you just want to beat them up!!this man is so petty for anyone's liking, too full of himself..!!!selfish..

[@FitLifeFabless]

The ex-couple needs good therapy.

[@tinaodoh1318]

Thank you so much for this motherly advice. You said it all.

[@thecocomama]

God bless you Summer for spilling the Truth..It feels so disgusting to even read those private messages..James needs to man up 🙄

[@anmweyma3845]

I can't believe those two divorce.

[@oluomalocs4964]

Sis said, "That information is too much" 😆 God bless you for using such a terrible situation to teach wisdom. I hope for the best for those kids and that they grow up to build drama-free lives for themselves.

[@oshamaushie8034]

Thanks Maam for this piece of wonderful advice. God bless you

[@onyinyechinwazue9955]

So sad. I believe he wants to humiliate this woman. I am Sorry for him.

[@hopealivewithevang.olubunm2287]

Thanks Summer. Life coach❤

[@janicerichards8959]

Irresponsible behavior so call parents. Here we go again Children been used by selfish parents. Totally missing their assignments. The Children forever destroyed by useless Folks. Children needs to be protected emotionally, physically with lots of love. Therapist needed for this Family.❤

[@hopelove7358]

💯

[@Jay_Ayo]

Summer low key reading s*x chat on YT. 😂 😂 😂

[@summeraku]

My brother, see what they made me do 🙈

[@mabelconnect1387]

@@summeraku 😂😂😂😂

[@Jay_Ayo]

@@summeraku 😂 😂 😂 you’re okay Summer.

[@WORSHIPSOUNDWITHIDA]

Eei eei eiie oh this world . Let's Try to be human ooooo MY people! Aaaba! Lord have Mercy! Amen Summer I love u! I Haven't seen anybody who puts their Privacy on social media Last together!!!!!!! Is like a drinking spot . Everybody poke noise o. Oh God ! Family is Prescious! Marriage is Prescious! Again love u Summer ! Always learning from your Wisdom!❤🇧🇪🇬🇭😇

[@sinapreneur__]

Haaa.. Wetin Musa no go see for gate ni?!!

[@nia8065]

Thanks for the beautiful mother’s advice “He who have ears……”

[@germanehabib7345]

"Oya Gift, put off the light o!" 😂💪🏾🤪🕺🏾😜👍🏾🤣

[@olaoluwaanuoluwapo8337]

If in this LIFE only we have hope, we are of all men most miserable. 1 Corinthians 15:19.

[@solagesture.9982]

I knew this would happen to this couple one day, I've not watched them for over a year but it's tense watching their videos, especially, the daughters' reactions to things, especially the first daughter

[@nubianqueen4375]

Mostly that’s what these Vazungu women love Black men. If it comes to respect, they have -200%

[@shkorinabowey7958]

Sick of those people who put there life on KZbin for money and Listening there private life what the hake is this

[@Essex_Favgirl8]

I’m sorry I’m not trying to be discriminative here but I have stayed in China, Vietnam and South Korea before and to my view of these African marrying Asian ladies,, first as an African man you have to worship them, second the lady and her family will control you whether you like it or not because once you came in to their life as foreigner, you turned to be their business and if you as that man fail to do their ways or try not to be a f00l, that relationship will never last,, another thing is they good at using our men and leave them for another. It is what it is .. James seems to tolerate so many things as black man and lily Also maintain so many things just because of the KZbin business. For Asian, business first. Take it or leave it.

[@tombimashri8149]

probably can be visa versa in all country's and nations

[@JOSzeto1]

Love your comment - your children are your responsibility; your partner is a choice. Hope Lily Petals hears this. Praying for the girls🙏🏼🌷🌷🌷

[@janedell2427]

What u shared is very fair and neutral . The man is very petty and immature regardless of cheating. Why does the whole world need to know? Do u think he is narcissistic?

[@thecocomama]

James gives information overload joor..Eziokwu bu ndu 🚶‍♀️

[@diamonddre4626]

But Lily sleeping around is a good thing?

[@NeneBlessing]

Wishing them all the best

[@alefreg7491]

To me, the man is not mature.

[@ireneirene4866]

Summer you are the best.beauty and brain

[@Sunshine-zi4nq]

Pity the kids. Divorce is one thing but dragging all the mess in the mud and publicising it is something else

[@kachioguamalem2368]

Hello summer, please this is not a contribution but a request to help some one who is about to die for kidney failure. Please how and what's the process to reach out to you. So could make it public for people to help her.remain bless

[@ugochukwudick6285]

Summer ,you need to study about Korean ladies ,I have lived with them for 15yrs

[@Bedianawalker]

Well spoken dear

[@hopealivewithevang.olubunm2287]

Either we believe or not, divorce has lots of ups and downs too, legally, social, financially, spiritually etc . Don't seek divorce just because your spouse hissed on you . Know when there is a limit. There's no perfect relationship, even in biological families; parents, siblings, cousins etc

[@lc9497]

That was when James already planned to get married to Miss Jane Mahianyu yet he cheated with his ex wife Lily lol what a jerk is that guy, James Tindi

[@sonjaanderson6933]

He exploted them also, now he is complaining. Cry baby.

[@Brenda90210]

Kids are going to get bullied .

[@helloify498]

Joystick 🤣🤣🤣 summer no kill me abeg u🤣🤣🤣 this reminds me of "Virgin Island video".

[@Nursenyasha]

I think he also got hurt because the new guy is their friend .i know him from a vlog they did 5 years ago .i think hes ex is a korean or chineese woman

[@mimi-dq3xc]

Yes!I just watched there video together from 5 years ago. He's definitely hurting

[@yvelineyuok2235]

Wow

[@diamonddre4626]

She has been sleeping with the new guy way before the divorce!

[@africachannel7773]

I enjoy this channel. Thanks lovely lady, 😍

[@Yoshi2x]

I'm black and Asian women who ONLY date black men are a serious risk. Only for fun. Lily basically broke up their family to sleep around lol.

[@ericwasonga8134]

There are lots of cucumbers 🥒 in grocery stores how many cucumbers 🥒 does she want

[@famapapann2250]

The Signs been seen from different angles , the Respect or Companionship has never been there if it Comes to This Extend 👈 Poor Kids in a Firing 🔥 squad Zone .

[@peaceiskey3272]

There visitation is switched off weekly not daily

[@theresadixon6148]

All of them need a real job. All just want the free youtube money.

[@wittydougie1355]

James too messy please he's petty

[@wittydougie1355]

It's his kids mom former wife why sharing text messages between them 2 it's 12 years of relationship there must be something good he saw in her why dragging her on social media James is about him he's a narcissist smh

[@ritahinabukenyaiii838]

They got divorced? I’m surprised they did.

[@yinksx6084]

I’m sorry why can he not take her to gymnastics on his visitation days?!?!? Why should the daughter now stop her extracurricular activities on his days? That doesn’t make sense.

[@LINUSANDFAMILY]

African man will never move on especially when he is paying child support. He will still like to be controlling the woman like his forefathers thinking that he is in his lawless African country (e. g Nigeria) This kind of thing happened when two babies got married. They should carry their madness out of their children's lives.

[@niggaramos]

To hear Lily say she thinks she's falling in love with Chris so quickly makes me wonder if maybe she had feelings for him before her divorce and vice-versa for Chris. The sad part about all of this is the children (Yuri and Dasomi) have become exposed to the world by the videos posted of their lives and most times they are recognized by the public who viewed them. I pray they are not subjected to teasing by other children because of the nasty videos posted by their parents. Divorce is not the children's doing and they shouldn't in no way suffer because of it. Maybe their lives need to be private and not posted for the world to view.

[@niggaramos]

@@ebonyspice473 Yeah, I'm not too long finding out and putting the pieces together now in 2022. I saw him in a couple of her 2016 videos. He was a fast talking used car salesman type even back then. That's why I wondered if he, she or both of them had feelings for one another back then. They had to keep in contact some kind of way. I'm just saying.

[@hopealivewithevang.olubunm2287]

Right Summer 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@juststill5932]

Na everything them dey use mouth talk?

[@reallifehappens8637]

These things that you people are sharing...there is God oooo.

[@joanmiksabel3598]

His cucumber! James the monster's ego been crashed! She did well to go for his friend! This man was abusing her on camera.

[@thinkinbox2541]

Interesting nuanced discussion Summer - very well put. Put the kids first & protect their privacy and mental health. One small bone of contention - Mercedes & Toyota no be the same thing O 😝🤣

[@summeraku]

But they are types of vehicles na 🤷🏽‍♀️😂

[@thinkinbox2541]

@@summeraku 🤣🤣🤣

[@obiudeh-paul1202]

I agree with your analysis on when a marriage is over, then its over and people should move on. But i totally disagree with the assertion that it now means that the woman can do as she wishes on how the kids are raised. If the father /ex husband wants to play a full part in the children's life, then they both have to make decisions together on the kids upbringing. And Women and men should take a long time before introducing the kids to their new boyfriends/girlfriends. All this actions of women using the kids as a weapon against fathers by blocking access has led to a generation of useless kids. Example is Kanye West who protested against his children being allowed on social media and introduced to her various men by his ex wife , and now the child stumbled upon the sex tape which made her famous. Who did she go and cry to about it ??? Not her new boyfriend but to Kanye as the father of the child

[@summeraku]

Hopefully you watched this video before commenting. The lady is not holding the children back, he only complained that she's dropping one child off late and I spoke against dropping them off later than the agreed/court ordered time. As for how she runs her house/raise the kids when they are under her care, yes she has the right to run her house 100% as she chooses as long as its not against the law. No man or women has the right to dictate what their ex can or cannot do in their homes. You may not like it, but it's what it is.

[@obiudeh-paul1202]

@@summeraku Hi Summer. I am no way saying that the man or woman has the right to interfere with how each other run their homes/lives nor who they see going forward. All am asserting is that where children are involved they both should have an equal say and agreement on how the children are raised in both home ie values/morals/boundaries and who they interact with. Especially if the kids are of underage. I don't care whether the woman is seeing 100 men after their divorce but what the young kids are exposed to should be a matter agreed by both parents. I have friends who are experts in the social services and family court lawyers and they have confirmed that the cases involving abuses or troubled children involved kids from broken homes where they are not raised via a cordial co-parenting arrangement and the woman is asserting her right of having exclusive control on the lives of the children and where the woman uses the children as a weapon to get back at the fathers. In the UK where I am 90% of black kids in knife and gun carrying gangs are those raised typically in these types of home set ups with selfish women or absent useless men. And in the news quite a few female kids under the age of 14yrs have been killed or raped by their mothers new boyfriends. So women should not rush and introduce new partners to kids under age of 12 and whenever a man is ready to be a proper father after separation should be welcomed by all for the sake of the children where they don't end up being messed up kids. Yes this woman drops off the girls as ordered by court but she is spiteful by dropping them when it is too late for the man to spend quality time with them under the excuse of activities which is very sad for the children. Whether people like it or not or whatever the law says, the fact is that statistics has shown clearly that children who do not have good father figure in their lives end up messed up. unless the man is one of those waste of space absent fathers. Hence i think social media commentators like yourself should look at the bigger picture and not about asserting rights. After all it is the kids that should ultimately matter and not silly egos

[@oraltraditions6127]

That is a dirty man Summer. You would be surprized how many people are begging for attention. These people dont realize that the reasons why these platforms are created ie the know your business. People put everything out there. Paper is not selling anymore or magazines- social media took over. May God help us.

[@aminatbello6074]

I didn’t even know that they were divorced😔😔😔 wow. What is really happening these days.

[@yvelineyuok2235]

Me too

[@diamonddre4626]

You said so many things and didn't blame the promiscuousty which was what ruined the relationship. You didn't even mention the fact that this NEW guy isn't even new, James and Lily initially met up with him and his ex wife. You didn't mention the Spencer that James talked about. Is it just that some women throw out logic whenever accountability comes in? I bet it was people like yourself that blamed johnny Dep.. damnn!

[@tochukwunjoku]

Hi Summer...!

[@summeraku]

Hi Tochukwu

[@lindih111]

At this point it looks like its the battle of the bulge..."Whose piece can engorge the hardest so to speak",because it looks like it's been over a little while they have divorced ,but immediately James read that the girls have met the guy he went berserk.He expresses so emphatically leaves you wondering if is it hard for him to see her move on or he regrets not still being there with his family?!...meanwhile she seems like she still prefers James "physically" more than the new guy's.Without sounding crude I hope you can read between the lines what I'm trying to say...

[@nnekairoegbu2360]

Chaiiii waytine be this?

[@ibironkekafidipeaduke4817]

Pls don't have anything to do with her again in life for God sake

[@shellonterrill1026]

African men are too controlling, he was been very nasty to her, she didn't do him anything wrong, he wanted to control her money let him go to hell

[@ogunleyeolumide5213]

The kenya guy is not mature, he is just making fool of himself.

[@penninahthegrace3036]

No no he got upset and that's why he did what he did,the lady did it too,anyway I can't side to any of them,I know them for a very long time those two people are hurting and they think the only way to solve it is social media which is wrong.

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

@@penninahthegrace3036 Louder 🎤🎤🎤

[@ogunleyeolumide5213]

@@penninahthegrace3036 Thanks, I expect the guy to be more mature than placing darty cloth on social media.

[@soinda87]

@@ogunleyeolumide5213 no he can speak if the other party doesn’t shut up.

[@ogunleyeolumide5213]

@@soinda87 The best way to handle such situation, is to maintain silent, else you will be putting dirty cloths outside, public is different from private and private is also different from secret.

[@demolakosoko6416]

Summer, please reply my comment. What is Cucumber?

[@preciousgoje2193]

It's your type that likes to be failing English comprehension. When they say table your request, you will be asking if the table has four legs? And if they say yes, you will ask if it is walking like a dog! 😆 🤣

[@titi9238]

Cucumber is banana😜

[@dudumagola5827]

Cucumber 🥒 is fresh green vegetables you can give to children aswell if you wish mmmm

[@vixlet9122]

How do these private messages that transpire between two people even leak out😮 am shocked

[@summeraku]

The man posted it

[@helloify498]

That guy is veryyyy immature he is acting like Kanye west.

[@mabelconnect1387]

This joystick is nothing to write home about, that’s why he is covering it up with this story. Oga show us and that will convince us on your claim.🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

[@godwinejiofor8064]

Show you what? Are you a ......?

[@mabelconnect1387]

@@godwinejiofor8064 Whatever you think. Tell me one reason that will make him post their discussion if not insecurity.

[@ryharuto]

Gossip

[@NileGoddess]

These two couples visited Kenya last few months ,since when are they divorced?Are they just looking for money on KZbin ?

[@bellaolum9768]

They had already started divorce proceedings when they came to Kenya.