We Compare First Relationship Red Flags • Sleepover Games

Jazzmyne, Joyce, and Lindsay welcome a guest into the Sleepover Fort to discuss red flags, pros and cons, and other juicy details of their first relationships!
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[@YouCanCallMeChrys]

Love this! A red flag for me is when they don't put in any effort. Effort to plan dates or spend time together. If I'm the one always planning stuff its a no for me. Especially in the beginning of the relationship.

[@7VISIONS7]

I mean I agree with you but I got cheated on for being to clingy and saying "I love you" in the beginning of my relationship so some men may want to plan to spend time but they think they you dont like clingy people so dont leave them. Instead ask why they dont plan for dates or hangouts with you

[@kenyapeary340]

@@7VISIONS7 Don’t bring the drama from other relationships into your new one. You should be able to give love and see it returned. Also some people may have boundaries. If you don’t know what those are than just ask. Talk what makes you comfortable and uncomfortable.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Lindsay is giving me such ‘Hallmark TV Heroine’ Vibes where it’s like this girl in the city and then she goes back to her hometown and there’s a hot handyman who is cool and funny. I think I’ve seen too many Christmas Movies. Who else watches them?

[@KnitsByNayla]

I’d watch this movie featuring Lindsay

[@Something125_]

“It’S nOt a sEaNcE” **Sasha pops in outta nowhere**

[@doxaweit]

sasha is actually so fun too

[@ProtectWomenDesigns]

I love that they are supportive of all the different experiences. No judgment here.

[@EN-mh6sr]

Them keeping you a secret is the worst. But I do realize that in certain situations it's done out of legit fear,which is tragic.

[@LauraRunningGoddess]

"Focus on the school...the check..." LMFAO. She is just everything!

[@espressomartiniprincess]

someone who wants you to feel insecure so they can feel better about themselevs is an insane red flag...

[@LG-of8ue]

I’ve been married for 30 years and I loved your thoughts on relationships! Spot on! 💜

[@Erin_S_J]

Period! I’m not your therapist. Not your mama. Not your chef. When I found out my love language I realized I was giving what I secretly wanted

[@irisschueller1360]

Oh Joyce...you're speaking my language...alone time is soooo important!!!😊😊

[@yesterdaydream]

I live 3 hours from my boyfriend and honestly it's pretty blissful LOL

[@nataliacoss593]

I love to see all the girls taking about this so casually, the 4 of them are so awesome! 💖

[@tropicalvirgo]

Please do more of these! I loved it 🥰

[@kaciano_]

I love this speaking the truth need more of the fort from you ladies💚💚💚!!

[@aprettycrier]

I literally love Joyce so much omg

[@yesterdaydream]

This is my dream sleepover crew. Honored to be invited!

[@Dellzrocksthebellz]

Off topic but I love Joyce's cheekbones. 😊

[@maggotbitch]

I was just thinking that!

[@carolniemczyk365]

Jazz, Lindsay and Joyce are my favorites!

[@justineglickman]

Damn, so just everyone who isn't Sasha? 😑

[@alexiamarano3067]

I’m so happy when I see your videos 😍

[@AwkardDani]

Love The Little Green Cars! Saw them live and they were fantastic! Soda Blonde is just as great if you haven’t already listened Joyce!

[@rur1279]

I love that quote!

[@abigailmaturana741]

i love these 3💖 and the guest! 🥰

[@Believeinyourself-00]

Very interesting topic!

[@mortua_conjuga]

"you breathe and i like you" hahahaha same, girl. same 🥲

[@loganelizabeth5063]

I’m so glad to see jasmin and Lindsay back together I missed them

[@PokhrajRoy.]

JAZZMYNE randomly going “Makeout. Hickey. D**ks.” 😂

[@paryamin7340]

Yessss, a seriessssssss, let's gooooooooo!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Omg it’s the iconic trio of Air Signs. I love all of them. ♥️

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I love getting relationship advice from Joyce.

[@peppanotpepper4672]

YES. A 10000% YES TO EVERYTHING Y’ALL SAID! ❤️

[@kittykisses7346]

One of the most relatable Jazz lines *someone could dangle a red flag in front of my face.* Me "ooo is that a scarf!!??"

[@stephaniepowers-tanguay6346]

I so want Joyce to find great love!

[@MF-pj9xv]

I LOVE ALL THESE PEOPLE. I LOVE JOYCE !!!!

[@Kellykadesha]

Love hearing your experiences. I met my bf in the 8th grade. We’re 24 now and still together 🤗

[@TheChazzmander]

Omg I love The Little Green Cars!!

[@niclikeotine7337]

Hey love this

[@pocothehotdog9684]

Now I'm curious about Joyce's film project that helped her to graduated filming school!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Sasha has riveting stories. More power to them!

[@JazyBlaze]

This is fun. More of these open fluid convos necessary.

[@chevweez]

Wow didn't realize how much I have in common with Joyce

[@BarnaAuddy_the_writer]

What an I C O N I C trio❤💫💫💫

[@angelicataylor7179]

Awe I want a fort....and friends

[@erinm6684]

Who else recognized Meagan's voice right away?

[@jaza4407]

Sorry but comment appreciation of Hope World hoodie, love it

[@alexisthompson4526]

My favorite group

[@Danesha_M_H]

9:14 Lindsay's face 😂😂😂😂

[@reiempire4978]

The thumbnail literally has Jazzmyne, Lindsay and Joyce and I’m not supposed to click on the video how???

[@clairedear8320]

Omg Sasha Colby!!! 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤

[@breannageorge6447]

Lol is that Megan's voice asking the questions?

[@ml3877]

JOYCEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[@neliababy7361]

Great ☺️☺️☺️☺️

[@NawiXXI]

I THOUGHT I RECOGNISED SASHA SOME WHERE!!!! QUEEEEN!!!🎉🎉🎉

[@lyricrue7069]

My first relationship was in first grade.

[@ravenwalter8727]

My biggest red flag is when I don't feel like I can be honest with the other person

[@PokhrajRoy.]

That sphere in the centre reminds me of Lana from ‘Too Hot To Handle’. 😂

[@Artsysj]

Like a secret is that a Tay Tay reference 👀😁

[@abigailmunoz8536]

Jazzmyne’s shirt looks interesting. Is it a movie or show quote?

[@KrystalMichelle15]

I think it’s a quote from Jersey Shore lol the note that Snooki and Jwoww made for Sam about Ron 😅

[@nerddegreeburns]

Questions from Episode: How old were you when you had your first relationship? What level of relationship would you say it was? How did you meet? Did you take it very seriously it was it just a fun casual experience? What did you learn from your first relationship? What are the pros of being in a relationship? What are the cons of being in a relationship? What are some red flags? What advice would you give someone that was starting their first relationship? Love or lust? Stand your ground or apologize? Little spoon or big spoon? Honeymoon phase or farting openly phase? PDA or privacy? Would you rather be the dumpee or the dumper?

[@mybiasjisoodekumyheart2742]

Hey 💕💕💕

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Omg Lindsay had a cute love triangle. That’s nice. There’s a YA novel there.

[@efficircus]

What happened to as is and why they dont upload anymore ???

[@esavmox307]

can joyce stop playing and give us a come back with Ari to bless us with ze ro ze ze rp ze ro ze ze ro ZERO WASTE CAUSE THE PEOPLE ARE DEHYDRATED AND NEED THET TO QUENCH MY THIRST

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Lindsay’s type is Harry Styles. We Stan that 👏🏽

[@alisapeltomaki4280]

Can we talk about how damn gorgeous Sasha is!?

[@andie3448]

Someone in the video is eating and i immediately had to leave.

[@user-xq9st2zu4n]

K Y L E

[@kipnelson177]

what red flag?, bestie I'm color blind!

[@zam8676]

5:34 you don't know what that means girl

[@PokhrajRoy.]

OMG WE STAN SITUATION-SHIPS!

[@quick-chemistry]

hey girlypops

[@siangata4235]

Lindsays reaction to Joyce’s answers are giving me mean girl vibes. She’s not it. Love Joyce

[@kamc8979]

:)

[@hydrus77]

iq fell 10 points im out

[@shelbylynlowe]

First!

[@bibi8908]

First🤞

[@AIC5150]

Just looking at them and listening to them talk, they all seem like they are the red flags.

[@julia-ex7im]

I'm not fully understanding the support for obesity in the media idk man

[@bethanyslaptop]

This has nothing to do with weight

[@mannequinn_made420]

Me watching this video while still being in my first/only serious relationship since I was 14 😬🥲….. thank you for the advice 😊♥️😂

[@user-hr6kw3pk4r]

I love that they are supportive of all the different experiences. No judgment here.