we need to bring back gatekeeping

[@jordanguillory7180]

I think they should go back to gatekeeping so we don't have so many damn ads

[@thehappyproject7117]

😅

[@haaimaj]

😂😂

[@pencilwisdom6161]

Literally same, also so the prices don't go up. Sick of my fave products getting popular and becoming unaffordable or out of stocj

[@Minnie_Stronni]

"Instead we get a rotation of Clean Girl, That Girl, and Vanilla Girl, who really amount to nothing more than an amalgamation of the Amazon Store Front links" I'm dying! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@hotties3v3n]

Its so true though‼

[@melw9147]

Such a swift read 😂

[@faithjarod8818]

when i first saw the "where did you get your plain white socks" i was livid that was my last straw

[@Lkn6789]

😂😂😂

[@Popcontrol]

Literally I had to leave Pinterest bc ppl would ask about the most basic things!!

[@globalelite3042]

Even the idea of presenting yourself as a peoples princess feels like a manufactured concept and the real “peoples princess”is someone entirely unplugged and uncomfortable with even the idea of being put on a pedestal

[@LoveAndSnapple]

It just sounds like "Girl's Girl" rebranded.

[@lalaland7961]

@@LoveAndSnapple EXHAUSTED of the word girls girl . At this point NO I’m not-- thank you very much 😌

[@Loveiskindloveiskind]

I think we need to also acknowledge the fact that the reason many of us (especially black/ brown and or curvy girls) are able to do good make up, understand how to dress for your body type, take good pictures, edit and make good videos etc. is precisely because people aren’t gatekeeping. A lot of women learn their beauty habits/ secrets at home or from their culture. Not everyone had a mom/ auntie to teach them Make-up. Or if they did maybe not in the style they like. There is empowerment in teaching young girls that the beauty they see takes work, that every Instagram/ tiktok influencer has beauty rituals, poses, lighting, workout routines, diets, etc. than highlights their beauty even more. Y’all remember when Victoria secret models were pretending they eat a lot of pizza??? Should we start gatekeeping the truth about our diets and exercise as well? I do think there is power in mystery and not over sharing, no one should be forced to spill all their secrets. But let’s be real It-Girls will never go out of style, people are sharing more but there is sooo much that goes unsaid especially for really successful influencers/artist etc. Curation is the key. You might learn from one person but then combine it with something else you learned somewhere else. I have also noticed a trend of very beautiful women acting relatable (“oh look I’m a lazy couch potato, ugh I can’t afford nice things”) when it’s very obvious they workout regularly and have an intense work ethic and people eat it up! We want aspirational people to make us feel better (buy this product to be pretty, oh look I’m gorgeous but I’m just as lazy as you, etc.)

[@kk65275]

I agree with both parts, as someone with a mother who didn’t teach them things I’ve learned so much of everything on the internet and I’m so thankful for it. We do need to be taught to surf it better though because it’s so easy to be misled

[@vanessalamartiniere-ic4iv]

Agree. Would you guys happen to know how to find in-person help with makeup? I'm not good with understanding tutorials and feel like if I could go to someone with one on one help it would be helpful.

[@Loveiskindloveiskind]

@@vanessalamartiniere-ic4iv you could always check for makeup artists in your area and ask if they also teach or make-up courses in beauty schools in your area!

[@nessiemour4750]

Fair point

[@nodrvgs]

fully agree

[@Genorgin]

I agree this "hot girls don't gatekeep" trend is just encouraging over consumption especially when is comes to skin care

[@hotties3v3n]

And it's just boring, nothing is new, different or interesting anymore.

[@MrFirefox322]

ha, also funny how we reinvented "je ne sais quoi" in english as "it," an interestingly similar semantic statement in its emptiness yet that very emptiness is its power.

[@MichellaneousMe]

Your comment makes me remember the 90’s when people kept saying “carpe diem” as the “it” phrase

[@ThatCaliCrys]

Zendaya does a great job of straddling this line. She’s the people’s it girl.

[@ThatCaliCrys]

Cardi B as well

[@9og7h]

@@ThatCaliCrys cardi b is not an it girl

[@mythicalfairyprincess]

They went to an event that costs 75,000 for ONE TICKET. Neither of them are. They’re both mega celebrities that DONT CARE ABOUT US or how the average American is struggling so bad rn

[@Lala-lw6pi]

Virgo energy ❤

[@bibaolaitan5189]

You afro looks so good on you.

[@MB-ig3tm]

Yes it looks amazing!

[@monejohn9973]

😊fabulous

[@MrFirefox322]

the people's princess seems like a slightly more self aware form of the it girl, and like a step toward social maturity. i wonder, still, how different they end up being from a parasocial relationship standpoint, and if a people's princess in her accessibility and vulnerability presents a more realistic front, one less conducive to the mythologization that pairs with parasocial situations. interesting and fun video :)

[@GuineaPigEveryday]

Greta Lee, Ayo Edebiri and Quinta Brunson are great examples of genuinely talented people you want to root for rather than the oversaturated market of spoiled rich brats who buy their way into being famous rather than you know offering the world anything interesting and new

[@Truthteller978]

Quinta? Yes but the rest nope!!!!!!!

[@Ray03595]

Quinta will also just be that girl on Buzzfeed we never stopped rooting for 🥹

[@mutintam3986]

Greta lee for me! Her style, her poise~

[@Keesha_Hardy]

@@Truthteller978Why not Ayo or Greta too?

[@NoniLizah]

Ayo Edebiri 🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪 Queen

[@174mars]

We are so washed. Social media and monetization has cooked us. I’m so exhausted after this topic

[@hotties3v3n]

I loved it back circa 2008. No scripts, ads, perfect lighting, or over saturation, just very authentic and fun.

[@Imxel21]

@@hotties3v3nyeah the ads were on tv and magazines instead and eating disorders were on the rise. Not to mention that beauty standards were mainly white women

[@falafelfelon]

"You can't buy charm." FACTS

[@MrFirefox322]

also interesting how gatekeeping is being used in this instance. It's more a marketing tactic than an actual recognition of reality, used as a way to flaunt being a 'hot girl' without the negative press associated with being so self-proclaimed. It makes the person doing it seem more amenable and approachable, and makes it harder to question 'why' someone is sharing these links. And it is, of course, as your rightly point out, for the money.

[@EmL-kg5gn]

But yeah it is often a way to make an advertisement seem like a favour

[@johnrockyryan]

Your natural hair looks gorgeous its makes your natural beauty shine alot more if that was even possible

[@detriticore]

I think that believing you can become more well-liked by imitating popular people is a side-effect of mass self-consciousness, and being overly self-conscious misses the point of why people are more attracted to someone who doesn't go out of their way to be well-liked.

[@kellygreengables3936]

I think that we are somewhere in the middle. On one hand, it is great that people are so willing to share things like beauty tips or where they got their clothes. But on the other we need to stop feeling entitled to certain information just because it's public and, we need to stop sharing excessively personal things and then getting mad that people ask about them.

[@foxwilliamulder]

i want tiktok to be gone so that everyone gets offline and stops jacking up the prices of thrifting, skincare, clothes, even certain FOOD products bc of viral recipes. im over all of it, im so sick of hearing and seeing the word "tiktok"

[@Alltheworldsillz]

Got grapes for $7 for 2 lbs because people wanna make candied grapes. Marshmallows are starting to go up. My kids love marshmallows.. plain.. not all fancy like TikTok. Sorry the food part hit me. 😂 I’m tired of certain foods being more expensive than ever!

[@Iquey]

I agree that foods shouldn't trend so hard to the point of making ingredients surge in price. That is really harmful. The only way around it is to be flexible to eat "untrendy" food. 😩

[@globalelite3042]

I feel like tiktok only is partially responsible for one of these, that being thrifting. Flipping culture and people like Gary Vee blew it up and tiktok (and yt shorts) was the platform that enabled them. The others are just high pressure limited availability sales tactics (also not needing to pay to store inventory) already prevalent in the market before tiktoks ascension

[@Kingofthenet2]

Same dude

[@ant.8]

REAL.

[@texashg85]

I feel like there’s a link between being an internet star BEFORE being a Hollywood star is what distinguishes It girls and People’s Princess. Issa Rae (the OG millennial people’s princess 🤘🏿) and Quinta were iPhone famous before they were big screen famous. Same with Lena Dunham

[@shels7328]

yea i see that. renee raps too. but lena dunham is not the people's princess! she shoudld be in jail

[@patriciaboateng9675]

@@shels7328 thank goodness other people recognise that Lena Dunham is actually the worst. I thought something was off about her from the start, but after she blew up it felt like most people refused to see Lena's creepy, weird, (criminal) etc., antics due to her underwhelming "art".

[@Iquey]

Lena Dunham is gross though and I never understood her sway.

[@MP39]

i was gonna write timestamps and comment on them individually, but honestly the whole video just consistently delivers amazing input Your comment on beauty being more inclusive, yet still not fully accepting was amazing

[@normalouis8593]

Your hair is so beautiful and cute!! The shape is literally perfect and suits your face shape so well. Curls look amazing too ❤️

[@scorpia-lovebot]

hmmm this is a really interesting take!! i agree in general, especially with how it ties into capitalistic tendencies. at the same time, as a trans person, i think the anti-gatekeeping trend can be really helpful for trans people who are coming into themselves and learning a way to present that they were never socialized into! i also think there are middle grounds between "tell no one anything" and "affiliate links for every product you've ever breathed near." for example, giving helpful tips as to how and where to start thrifting or reputable websites for specific styles! basically i think it's more nuanced than either approach being fully correct in all situations. loved the video!! thanks for the food for thought :>

[@kellygreengables3936]

This is beautifully said and thank you for bringing up the aspect of being in a certain community that may lead one to feel the need to gatekeep for safety. I agree that there's a middle ground though.

[@morningglory.2]

This is such a good point!

[@boydcrowdr]

this video taught me how to properly pronounce so many celebrity’s names i’ve been butchering for YEARS

[@Justauri-asdfghjkl]

I also feel like people feel entitled to know everything. Someone doesn't have to share what concealer they are using if they don't want to. Only time I think they are obligated is if they are selling something. Like selling shampoo while wearing a wig or something

[@Imxel21]

I mean if you’re an influencer… you have to influence.

[@B0OBIES]

14:48 Just because I want to know where you got your blush from doesn't mean I lack individuality or personal style. And asking for said blush does not infringe on your personal style that you've worked "sooo haaard" to curate . We all consume some of the same things anyway, plain white socks is something you could find at target so why bother Gatekeeping? Gatekeeping accomplishes nothing.

[@jams1070]

Right? I was like gatekeeping honestly isn’t an issue. It’s the thought of someone copying your style head to toe. Which i mean, yes is annoying but imitation is the best form of flattery. I like sharing where i get my stuff from, i like helping people find their own style by seeing me. Idk, you can be an individual and still not gatekeep 😂

[@AboveRubiesTV]

@@jams1070This is my exact sentiment! 💯

[@_NoirV]

@@jams1070 imitation leads often to not, too cultural appropriation and a one way ticket to getting your ass handed to you by the people you're imitating. This is such a I see no color view, I thought we were being a little bit more nuance this year

[@teliciouz]

The real problem is how narcissistic we are all getting…I mean the only reason why we want to be such individuals or it girls in the first place is because we want to be seen above others? And people can’t do that if we are all so similar. Some people find value in simply being different but also feeling like they are better than others. Some people…in fact most people, cannot afford the luxury of curating their style and simply are just trying to survive especially in this economy. I understand that there is a time and place for conversations of all different topics but truly I cannot deny that the narcissism that sets the foundation for these topics is quite pitiful.

[@SaffariRose]

You're quite right! Narcissism 🤝 Low self esteem, thrives hyper consumerism.

[@useruseruser501]

This got me thinking... what if people are tending toward narcissism in order to financially survive? For example, people see this hyper individualistic strategy work (make money) and then want to copy it because of said money: not necessarily due to inherent narcissism or wanting to be seen as "above others", but a will to survive. When the economy encourages this kind of stuff is when we need to rethink our economy.

[@teliciouz]

@@useruseruser501 I completely agree with you. There are many reasons for people displaying narcissistic traits whether intentionally or unintentionally and what you said Is definitely one of them. Unfortunately looks do matter in this world and people who look the best will get better treatment and opportunities. It is a vicious cycle and an unfortunate part of humanity but I do believe that due to everyone being able to access good looks more that the being good looking is actually becoming the norm and people are now looking at personality or skills if you really want to be different or stand out. So maybe society had to peak as whole when it came to looks and materialism in order to figure out that this way of living is not truly satisfying and now we are going to see changes on what people to perceive valuable or not. This is what I hope for anyway. But like all things in this world, things come in cycles and seasons 🍁

[@SorchaRattigan]

2 things: 1) You’re voice is so calming on this Sunday morning 😊 2) As a UK human who who grew up in the 90’s, the People’s Princess gives me Dianna vibes.

[@SorchaRattigan]

And I just got to the part where you mention her 😂 Yes it was an insane out pouring 🧡 still remember going to throw flowers by the side of the road as she was driven past in the herse

[@Genorgin]

I wish I born when Dianna was alive she is honestly so inspirational and your hair colour in ur pfp looks so pretty BTW

[@gcopeland442]

Hello fellow UK human! Yes, Diana is the queen of People’s Princesses. I went to Hyde Park with my sister for the funeral and we cried - never before have I shed tears for any individual in the ruling class, but she was a real one.

[@uniquenewyork3325]

People's princess gives America's sweetheart

[@fashionwithoutlabels]

I have been saying this for the past 5 years…..stop telling everything!! Now we have a bunch of women looking ALIKE Same bbl bodies… Same wigs/braid styles/lashes… Same waist trainers… Same makeup… Same decor in their homes… Same SHEIN outfits Same Fashion Nova outfits,,, Same lip, Botox, cheek injected look….. Same Walmart outfits (who would have ever thought this one lol) Same,,,same…SAME!!! No individuality anymore….

[@sophspice32]

u look lovely amanda😭💕

[@sunday9722]

So true!!! I haven’t watched the vid yet but I know you’re right

[@pepperminttree]

Zendaya will always be the IT girl. I dont think a people's princess is real, no one is "real" on social media no matter how authentic or relatable they seem.

[@biboebbs624]

i feel like zendaya is more a people’s princess

[@Las645]

No she won’t 😂. No one always stays the It girl, whatever that is. I don’t even think she is one tbh. And there are plenty of real people on social media not everything is fake and fabricated.

[@SaffariRose]

Exactly! If the 'people's princess' has a PR team, then she's likely fake as well. And it'll only take so long before people turn on her for being 'not like other girls' or some other obscure reason (like they did to Anne Hathaway for not pretending she didn't desire an Oscars' during her acceptance speech like everyone else 🙄).

[@MrFirefox322]

also (and sorry for so many comments) it's interesting how hot girls don't gatekeep turns beauty into a product. It is something that you consume, not something you cultivate. Something that a $60 lipgloss and intense nightly routine can ensure, so long as you buy the right moisturizer. It seems to continue to play into the idea that beauty, especially for women, is something that is bought and sold, when in reality beauty (in general) seems to be something so much more than that. very interesting and very late-stage capitalism feeling :')

[@kellygreengables3936]

I feel like it's just modern marketing. People tell you that you can achieve a certain lifestyle by getting a certain product is no different than commercials or magazine adverts.

[@MrFirefox322]

@@kellygreengables3936 Sure, but the mass saturation of these sorts of things is probably at a greater scale than previous marketing ventures and is coming from "peers" which encodes them with a bit more force. When a girl your age is using all this product and looks beautiful and tells you that you should do this, it's a little more direct and likely plays on an individual's shame a bit more than normal adverts which are far easier to just ignore. Plus, there is a huge offloading of labor onto the individual creating the content that ultimately saves the company money and likely doesn't rightfully compensate the influencers. Also, even if it isn't that deep, advertisements are still autonomy denying ventures which usually seek to play on some fallacious line of reasoning to get you to buy something you likely don't need, so consumerism in either case is present and is still gross and sets tones for what people *should* do based on nothing but a company's bottom line. and idk but i don't want a company or my peers who want to make money being the one setting normative stances for society.

[@viennna]

Loved the video!! Laura Harrier's take is interesting, but I think it should be less about whether you're gatekeeping or not, and more about mindful consumption from the public tbh. Telling people what you've bought wouldn't have as much power if they were more conscious about their own likes and dislikes (and how to find basics without someone holding their hand lol). Btw your sweater is so cute, it looks amazing on u

[@Japansepuppy2481]

A major aspect of this that’s tone-deaf is the fact that products aren’t fully accessible to everyone. People share what they’re using because it works for their skin tones, unknown indie brands, etc. Ifs not a “lack of individuality” to ask someone what blush they’re using. Girl Bffr 💀

[@Genorgin]

Girl calm tf down and she does have a point I've literally seen people comment where someone got a basic black and white striped shirt plus she brings up good points this "hot girls don't gatekeep" trend just encourages over consumption especially when it comes to skin care when majority of the skin care products just throw in a bunch of scientific words to trick people into thinking this product is scientifically proven to fix X problem when it doesn't your just wasting money and polluting the planet

[@ambientbirdsounds3917]

your hair looks sooo good!!! I'm inspired!

[@plottwistpleasethepodcast4469]

Great takes! I think the influencers who are smart get a huge following by being *authentic* (as authentic as you can be with a camera) and treating their audience like someone they are familiar with.

[@akosuakoranteng3327]

Telling people where you got things from is demonstrating lack of restraint? im gonna go with no!

[@monarebranded]

I’m so impractical on this topic. Yes, gatekeep you’re signatures, you’re individually, you’re secret sauce but because everything is moving from brick and mortar to e-commerce most people don’t know where to shop for hair products, makeup, clothes etc but I will say people are so entitled to not share also.

[@prettynpetty8342]

Unpopular opinon but whenever someone asks me where I got an article of clothing, I say "It's thrifted". Sometimes, that's true and sometimes it's not. I'm not gatekeeping anything, they can look at my tags if they want to (if the artcle of clothing even has them) but I want people to spend their money at thrift shops, that could be doing good for the community, rather than become prey to hyper captialism where huge clothing conglomerates contribute to landfills. Thrifting has taught me to think outside the box, consume less and curate more. Instant gratification is a huge problem and I think gatekeeping fixes that. It puts the onus on the person asking to be interested in the style enough to do their own research. Ideally, people should be making their own clothes to cut out the middleman but we're not there yet as a society. That's why I've taken up crochet as a hobby.

[@xTheMorbidManic]

So it’s okay for you to contribute to hyper capitalism by buying these pieces in the name of “curating” but not others ? Thrifting is not realistic for a lot people including plus sized individuals or those of us with an unconventional body type.

[@minahlee6381]

​@xTheMorbidManic Agreed. Almost every time I go to the thrift store, I find nothing that fits my body shape. Sadly, I, and I'm sure many other people, haven't been able to participate in this movement as much as we'd like to.

[@platelessordinary]

Great video! I appreciate your clear thesis, timely topic, and deep research.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Lmao the title is simply iconic

[@rabiyatoubah1362]

3:42 Before you said Diana I was 100% going to say Anne Hathaway

[@amyy.celeste]

Loving the natural hair, so gorgeous! ✨⭐️

[@JB-id4sf]

love the video!!! I don't disagree with anything said, however, I think another aspect to consider is how hostile the internet has gotten in the last few years. If I see something I like and google it, the odds of it being a badly made dupe, drop shipped and upsold, or just straight up a scam are much higher than it was 5 years ago. And I'm saying that as someone who would consider themselves actually really good at navigating the internet. I could imagine that it may actually be difficult to find an item, especially for a younger demographic of people. (And I will say I actually have seen quite a few people gate keep what their wearing- for the purpose of making more money of course. For example, leaving links on a separate platform that's either pay walled or allows access to affiliate links)

[@ko.allen7]

Not to shrug off the topic but just wanted to say that your thought pieces are just so good. Even when you "lose the plot", you still present an interesting discourse.

[@teryakisoda]

this is the first video of yours that i’ve seen! so good BUT YOUR VOICE REMINDS ME OF HILARY DUFF

[@lewa3910]

I also like where this discussion went despite starting out about the difference between it girls and peoples princesses

[@autistizzy]

Your sweater is to die for! It looks so beautiful on you too

[@Nessa2Bea]

I think the gatekeeping happened in real life. I’ve known supposed It Girls who used acrobatic level skills to avoid telling people where they bought things (especially clothing) because they didn’t want to be copied. That was back in the day though, now it’s much less common.

[@clover3843]

This is an amazing take!!! Thoroughly agree!!!

[@rebecca-9083]

loved this amanda, also loving your hair too ❤

[@victoriagreenberg4982]

yeah, i think not gatekeeping in this context also leads to a lot of micro-trends (bc we have ready access to what 'everyone' is wearing) which we all know exacerbates over-consumption and fast fashion. if you always know where someone got something and its very easy to buy it, you feel like you can easily 'become' an it girl. but in reality, i feel like many people don't feel like an it girl after buying that thing, thus it goes out of style quickly and something new, something that will finally make you an it girl, takes it place. and the cycle continues forever.

[@amarualvarez5215]

i loved ur comments about lack of restraint. people share waay too much sometimes. ive seen people share detailed medical records!!! its way too common and even expected in some way to list ur mental health problems, marginalized identities, age, workplace, etc right on ur public bio,,, people can get hurt by that shit!! information about others turns into consumption as well,,,

[@ang3lica2k]

Correction to chloe sevignys career start in the movie kids, she was dating Harmony at the time, he did not write the role for her, they had another girl they hired prior to Chloe who was from another area but she did not fit in well with the cast after a first hang out that they had to do for it. She was the only trained and more experienced of the group with acting (it was all of the main casts first time acting in this film) and she did not know any of the cast prior like the rest did, it quickly became clear she wasnt gonna fit into the film well due to this. So they dropped her and it was very last minute this happened, near the start of filming and they needed someone quick. Harmony suggested Chloe to the director as she also already knew the cast prior as well, she auditioned quickly and soon got the part.

[@Iquey]

Thank you for this video!!! I'm so burned out on ads and affiliate links everywhere. I want to curate my vibe now with consumable products or brands that are online ONLY, and not sold in stores (it makes it less likely to be copied or stolen/resold..which is i know sort of classist on purpose.) And for durables like clothes, more thrifted vintage items that are either rare or one of a kind, or items DIY, self created and bespoke. And hobbies that are uncommon and interests that are unexpected. I want to rebel against the ultra consumerist conformity that the algorithm is constantly chewing up and spitting out, turning us all into broke mush. So either way, whatever you get it would be hard to find, both online or in person.

[@mucklavision731]

it feels amazing to see something you know ayo is also going to see

[@Bookib]

Your hair is EVERYTHING omg!!!!! ❤

[@anony1596]

Your hair 😍 14:40 I agree tbh

[@sdb1082]

Oh your hair is looking ultra cute! ❤😊

[@mmm-amba]

ugh i love your analysis and subtle jokes

[@Alltheworldsillz]

You have such a lovely voice. Nice video

[@svvmaq_]

yea but u know what.. i’m tempted to say that originality is derivative. we all borrow and are inspired by each other. i think vapid emulation is easy to spot but i think most of the time, i u wanna adopt soemthing from someone else, it already exists in you. and i feel like if ur emulating, it could be an opportunity to fuck around and find out that you need to develop an individuality of your own and that you aren’t going to achieve that by buying things.. idk.. it’s an opportunity for self knowledge i guess bc ig influencers gatekeeping or not.. ppl do this all the time and have always have.

[@tea-wo2yr]

gatekeeping will always be so selfish to me 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@emanymton8771]

First off, you are insanely brilliant. I learn so much from your videos. Second, if you created a fun word of the day calendar, I'd totally buy it. On that note, I need to figure out how to spell so-brick-ay, so I can learn the definition. I'm assuming it's French... It sounds French... Sobriquet? Perhaps? I dunno. Wish me luck!

[@Katherout]

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[@ilovemovies76777]

girlie i miss your videos!!!

[@Katherout]

@@ilovemovies76777 coming back next week!

[@LeyaNicole]

I missed you ! Loved it !

[@princessm8977]

I know I'm getting old bc when you said "the people's princess" Princess Diana was my first thought lol.

[@barbiebunnybakery1896]

I think gate keeping is kind of the wrong term here. It implies that you withhold Information that you were asked for in order to keep a perceived advantage or to hold other people back. I would however say that it would be nice to see people talk about selective items and not put a shopping list of their life in the bio. Then again I view influencers as one person magazines like Cosmopolitan or Vogue so giving out that information is their business. Consumers need to take responsibility for their buying habits and try to find a more personal style but that might be easier to say for me as I grew up without social media (I was born 88 ) and I probably can’t 100% understand younger people how have been socialised differently 😅

[@ChaseFrances]

“Have you ever seen someone gate keeping the bush they wear or the products they use? No?” actually yes lol, I’ve seen people gatekeep the makeup/clothes they use, even like their tattoo artist or hair dye colours. Don’t get me wrong no one has to tell anyone anything, they can just ignore the comments if they want. But I have definitely seen people being like “um no I’m not telling you where I got my shirt/jeans/shoes/lip colour/earrings because everyone just copies me all the time” and it’s like…… ok girl. You don’t have to make it into a thing, you can just continue living your life. I don’t get influencers that are just essentially amazon storefronts, as you said. I couldn’t consume content that’s constantly trying to sell me shit I don’t need and trying to make me feel like I need it 😭

[@c4tac133]

Im loving your hair!! ❤❤

[@diinalens]

absolutely killer takes! i came across a couple of substack pieces which float in this realm, mainly algorithmic vs human curation.

[@graceevans9895]

hii I have just found your channel and I wanted to say that you´re absolutely lovely!! it was a pleasure listening to you ♡

[@Kayla-kd8ov]

I love that you are wearing your fro! it's beautiful

[@TheKittsPajamas]

I don’t get it. I am someone who is a curator (not on purpose just something I noticed I do naturally bc my thinking is naturally different) and has a very specific style (again, not on purpose) that gets a lot of attention. Telling someone what I’m wearing or where I got it doesn’t bother me at all. I also have very healthy looking skin and don’t wear makeup so I’m endlessly asked about skincare and it doesn’t bother me. It gives me joy to help another person achieve whatever they want to achieve (in every aspect of life in fact). Even when seemingly *all* the girls at my school would start doing/wearing something after I did it didn’t bother me. I was flattered, I *liked* knowing I was a trendsetter and I’m still that way now that I’m older. I feel like you may need to see someone if you’re huffing mad or sideeyeing other women bc of your need to be the only one to wear/do/have a certain thing. If we’re talking about bw gatekeeping bw tings, then it’s a resounding yes from me bc the disrespect is real. Outside of that… chill out and see more value in what you bring to the world besides fashion/style and beauty. I mean, are you nothing at all without those things?

[@AccordingtoNicole]

I realized how old I am 20 seconds into this video. I have no idea what any of this means, and I don't care to learn.

[@Pushnotificationsalwaysoffbye]

lol I straddle the fence on this. But I get it. Arguably, this video itself existing is also a form of an overconsumption-rooted culture.

[@ZayabelDraga13]

I forgot who, but there was one girl who would actively ignore or gatekeep her things when people asked. It was so funny seeing people on tiktok literally make videos answering peoples questions,

[@Booksngoodlooks]

You are the coolest!!! Great work girlie 🎉

[@o.ruoroch9869]

You are OUR people's princess Amanda. 🥰🥰

[@dinoelsaurio]

Cutest hair everrrr! (and sweater too)

[@shalenah]

your hair and your face look gorgeous!! 💛

[@celestialbunny]

this feels so silly.. asking someone where they got their shirt is bc 9 times out of 10, is bc it's exactly my style and i can't find it anywhere except like pinterest. people dont' have to share anything, but to me it always reeks of insecurity if ur so scared of sharing the brand. it wouldn't even matter bc half the time, it's not afforadable to most people. ur not losing originality by telling someone where u got ur niche dress from. it always gives me the same vibe of when artists gatekeep the program they use and it's just paint tool sai or adobe photoshop lmao. it's never some unknown program or hardly ever one that isn't known to be good. are they'd that afraid if someone found out what program they'd used, they'd do it better? i will say, when i think of gatekeeping fashion, is with lolita. i saw a fashion influencer call, what was rlly just a mix of cutesty and alt (like punk/emo) fashion mixed together, gothic lolita. like?? if ur gonna call it lolita, pls make sure it's actually lolita fashion. lolita clothes in general, are very distinctive. i would not want to ever become mainstream. but i don't think it would. it's about being cute and feminine without being sexualized which is why it's not popular with japanese men. they just dont get it lol. and i would like it to stay that way. i think it would be ruined if it got mainstream. but something to also make clear, is that there is a sheer distinction between influencers gatekeeping vs irl. a beauty influencer with 5 mil follows is obviously going to make a difference by sharing and promoting a certain brand. this is why so many things will stay sold out for weeks bc of influencers saying "you GOTTA check out this product". but also, makes it even harder to understand irl. i get it, if we are soley talking about social media. but is there rlly anything to lose by telling someone on the street where you got x thing? and no, no one has to share anything. but i just don't get why it's such a bother to people.

[@darianacatorce]

Im so tired… so now se have a term to refer to nice and charming people.. it girl, that girl, stargirl, girl next door, peoples princess?? Can i just be a girl 😭? Fuck

[@Justcanary8888]

Right, this generation need to start touching some grass

[@jeredi3376]

You looks so good with your hair girl ❤️🫶🏿

[@hyquiemistheg.o.a.t1671]

15:21 I think it’s more on the idea of differences being less obvious and common pieces being more impressive. You know one of the biggest examples of this is the iPhone. In America we’ve socially outcasted android users and inherently observe it is as negative difference despite being mediocre and almost meaningless. Another example is designer clothing, while certain pieces are not for everyone they rarely catch the glamour of others if they aren’t name branded. The death of the “it” girl as it relates to her customization is mainly how culture has become fixated on what’s perceived as of extreme value. Designer clothes are one example of that, among many. That being said if society was to accept and be generous to not immensely wealthy items the it girl would still exist even in the realm of social media.

[@kimberleya5408]

Loved this video! Really interesting and fun💕

[@cjlynn]

amanda where did you get that sweater?

[@heatherhaven1268]

🤭

[@mojaslatt]

Need to gatekeep my faves more lmao

[@sunshineeee]

Hey! I get what you’re trying to say, but the way you went about it made it a really weird take..? I don’t understand the dead serious usage of that last or those last couple articles…

[@Amanojaku8]

Great vid,, learned a lot and will try to track down that old B&W movie. One other thing, Chloe Sevigny's name is pronounced Sev-en-nee and the French (correct) way of saying it would be Sev-en-yee

[@n09p]

People’s princess will always be and only be associated to Princess Diana for me.

[@ZechsMerquise73]

I feel like I need calculus to understand the people's princess math

[@kwesifields]

At my initial thought from reading the title, i would say absolutely not. Let me get through this and see if i change my mind though.😯

[@Damnjoyce]

Can’t wait to get off work and watch. I’m genuinely curious what everyone is tripping about now

[@allieconzola]

Commenting for the algorithm bc this video was great ❤

[@jaznappier7992]

Amanda I watched this the day it released and I’m so shocked to see that another creator seems to have like, done the same video a couple days after. So weird

[@SaffariRose]

Honestly, I dislike when this happens. Especially when bigger channels just jack off content and ideas from smaller content creators without giving credit. 😑

[@ellomate07]

Tiktok is a cancer to society, but especially to the impressionable youths. When will this madness ever end 😭

[@nonnieJ94]

The Afro, skin, and sweater did not come to play hunny ✨😍

[@AlanQSmithee]

Holy crap Jim Henson's Rosario Dawson Babies at 8:02

[@shellbeebo]

I am loving curly haired afro amanda