we’re in a sassy man apocalypse BUT still thriving and vibing

[@J_jewel91]

“Until You Find A Good One, Men Are Optional” I FELT THIS 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@law11school11girly]

So true

[@cbreeze123]

Girl. This sums it up perfectly.

[@xxhshrebyba]

basically

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Bingo! 🎯

[@Tealaful]

The sad truth is that although I agree with your comment, there are so many women who don't want to die alone. I mean, I am on the fence myself, being a millennial woman that dealt with undercover sassy men. Should I find as much love as I can or risk dying alone. It's a frickin hard pill to swallow. Especially because I'm not financially set so having extra income could prove detrimental to me not being old AF and homeless. Uhg, it breaks my heart because I just want real love and partnership. I'm just glad women are brave enough to talk about these things because it's become almost taboo. This is what real feminism was all about. It was about men dropping the ball and women trying to survive. We need more women and men speaking out about this.

[@alexandra5127]

I remember meeting a ‘sassy’ guy at salsa recently. He tried to pull the ‘what do you bring to the table card,’ and when I said… ‘uhh myself,’ (because I knew not to play that game) he acted all smug and nasty like ‘that’s it?’ ‘Just yourself lol?’ You’d think after that, he’d leave me alone right? No! He KEPT asking me to dance And kept trying to squeeze out all my attention for the rest of the night. Proof that men who try devalue you totally know you have worth. They’ll just try talk you out of realising it. #ick

[@Kelsthestylist]

Ewww I dance too and totally could see that happening. They are such con's. His behavior def told you the truth! But wow they are entitled

[@alexandra5127]

@@WynnWynn-gl3fk yeah, or just straight up ignore ha

[@pReCiOuStHePiMpCeSs]

I remember going to a store and a man looked me up and down and asked me "Are you going to share what you buy with me?" I looked him up and down and said no lol he IMMEDIATELY changed his question to "will you let me share what I buy with you?" Men will literally test to see what they can get away with and I promise you he would've had zero respect for me if I had responded positively to the first question and a lot of women don't understand that unfortunately.

[@missrebel634]

So he thinks you’re worthless, but still tries to get with you? What?

[@jlspracher]

@@pReCiOuStHePiMpCeSs what a chad

[@NidzShah-ps6kr]

I have a cousin who is a "sassy man" and now he is single and miserable. He has a whole host of psychological problems and he was actually healthy and okay to begin with. He has done this to himself.

[@Mystika777]

Like KS says “I’m going to hell and taking you all with me” like sheep led to slaughter.

[@courtneyr.3556]

Wow I going thru divorce with husband 24 yrs. As soon as he started KS red pill content all hell broke loose smh

[@KantoCafe715]

'In his divine feminine receiving mode era' is bloody hilarious 😅

[@НатальяБ-й5х]

The music had me dying 😂😂😂

[@bluefairy8564]

@@НатальяБ-й5хomg!! saaaaaaame 😂 I swear it gave me Deedee from Dexter vibes. Dancing in her ballerina outfit 😂🤣🤣

[@devinchapman3912]

Choose better my nigga 😂😂🤷‍♂️

[@KantoCafe715]

​​​@@devinchapman3912 it's a stand alone funny phrase!

[@Amanda-hc5ld]

I don't get it. Women been telling us to be more feminine and in tune with emotions and here is the result. Shame insult and guilt

[@katv3116]

Honestly very true! my ex lied about his degree and career and bummed in MY apartment, used my car, and financially/physically abused me. It was the biggest mistake and learning lesson i had in my life. He tried to hold me back in MY thriving career due to his insecurities.

[@Rainbowssugar]

“Just because you’re an independent woman doesn’t mean you have to be with a dependent man” yes sing it baby!

[@minabotieso6944]

“A man who depends on you subsidizing 50% of expenses. That’s a man dependent on you” you guys have the same insane focus on money as pull people. lol you all are a perfect example of horseshoe theory. You guys hate the pill people so much that you loop back around and agree with them on many issues. An insane focus on money and a relationship as a transaction, other top liked comments in this video argue that divorce being allowed is bad and sex before marriage is bad.

[@Amanda-hc5ld]

But with your attitude that's all you will attract

[@aobaichiko122]

@@Amanda-hc5ldum no, it’s not black and white where we have to be dependent, we can hold down our own and we don’t need to lose our autonomy to attract a man who will take care of us. If you’re straight up dependent all you’re going to attract is a man who will make decisions for you and that’s dangerous. Until we find a good one men are optional.

[@DutchessSarahJ]

I’ve been saying this for years. Women run the dating market. We control who gets action and who gets shut out. It’s why they hate us. It’s why incels and their various spin offs hate us.

[@vikki8699]

And yet these sameen tell you to "choose better" when you give one of THEM a chance. This is why I never gave these types of men the time of day after dealing with just 1 of these vile men when I was 20.

[@DutchessSarahJ]

@@samtula5946 that’s where withholding sex before marriage comes in. It’s so easy to weed out who’s serious and who only wants temporary pleasure like that. And then no harm no foul. Just move on. No heartbreak, pregnancy scares or energy sharing. Just keep it stepping.

[@rensii-e8b]

@@DutchessSarahJyuppppp

[@AfuaYmani]

​@@samtula5946yeah but we're the ones who have to say yes so, were the gatekeepers of it all, including men's lineages

[@BlackGirlLovesAnime6]

@@DutchessSarahJy’all have to stop being so male identified. Withholding sex does nothing. A man can wait on sex before getting with you and when he finally gets it after months or years he switches up now that you’re stuck with him. A man can have sex with you earlier and stay with you for life. It’s not about sex it’s about the man so if you want to withhold sex do it because you want to not because you think it will weed out the dusties. Some men have no concept of time.

[@twinkletits2459]

This is the most empowering channel on KZbin. The world would be so much better for everyone if women had never lowered their standards in the first place. 🎉

[@Heyjennydee]

Agree! ✨💖 elle is thee best!

[@saharkhalili5303]

There was a time when women were threatened with violence, lucky we are progressively climbing out of that ditch

[@ak-47intelligence75]

It's their fault. They bully you into lowering your standards. Some women couldn't stand the nuisance + headache and gave in to the pressure.

[@saharkhalili5303]

@@nicelypenn explain? Very vague to the point its meaningless

[@Tealaful]

The sad truth is that although I agree with your comment, there are so many women who don't want to die alone. I mean, I am on the fence myself, being a millennial woman that dealt with undercover sassy men. Should I find as much love as I can or risk dying alone. It's a frickin hard pill to swallow. Especially because I'm not financially set so having extra income could prove detrimental to me not being old AF and homeless. Uhg, it breaks my heart because I just want real love and partnership. I'm just glad women are brave enough to talk about these things because it's become almost taboo. This is what real feminism was all about. It was about men dropping the ball and women trying to survive. We need more women and men speaking out about this.

[@jordanrintoul-thomas722]

And they're also quick to call WOMEN entitled for just having standards

[@JumpRopeQueen111]

Like just say you like tall guys and BOOM

[@JumpRopeQueen111]

@@muslimmetalman So what? Cry about it

[@lottavuorinen]

@@JumpRopeQueen111 Are the tall guys in the room with us right now?

[@jlspracher]

And they are also quick to call MEN entitled for just having standards

[@HaleyMary]

True on that! if I just ask for some decent respect and expect them to make a plan if they ask me out, all of a sudden I am entitled.

[@LiaBunny93]

My brother is a mommy's boy he's old and still want to be a mama's boy I can't. He does nothing for my mom

[@therealmanifestelle]

thank you for sharing🤎

[@typicalairhead6846]

I know a woman who came out of an abusive relationship. She waited a year to "heal" but still ended up being in a relationship with a man who gave her the bare minimum. She doesn't see it as the bare minimum, to her he is a saint who would save her from her misery. 2 months into their relationship, she got pregnant, and engaged to him. She doesn't see the financial and life difficulties ahead. She is a well-educated woman who earns more than him, yet they can't move in together because no landlord wants to rent them a 2-bedroom house. Once the baby is born, the sassy boy plans to work part-time to be the "main carer" of the child, while the wife would work full time + overtime to make ends meet. She must work 12-hour shifts, six times a week just to support this sassy man she chose as her baby daddy. All this suffering just because she didn't see her worth. That she was worth more than this. She just rushed into the next man who showed her a bit of basic human decency. I wish I could tell her all of this and show her this video (and most of your videos), but she had cut me off from her life. It's safe to say she didn't want me to burst her bubble. To all women out there who accept the bare minimum from a sassy man, I really feel for them. I hope more people see your videos. This should be a wake-up call to all women who can't see their worth.

[@patty-pat-pat]

it's hard to be friends with women like this, isnt it? They'll be sitting there, with their entire life burning in the background, going 'I'm so blessed! I have the best life & babydaddy eVeRrRrrr'.

[@typicalairhead6846]

​@@patty-pat-pat it really is. and they justify their impulsive decision like, "When you know, you know." like sis, how'd you know? what did you know? why do you know? like what---

[@cp_honey]

@@typicalairhead6846 'When you know-' -you know you're in a storm of hormones. 🤷‍♀ And why should it _become_ love eventually, esp. when it's so forced by accidental procreation? I even get that she wants this romance+ happy family fantasy, and to be this lucky one, the chosen one to 'know' 🙄.. but esp. with this financial future, all this sounds sooo bad. ..At least you won't have to babysit and listen to years of drama and despair.

[@typicalairhead6846]

@@cp_honey You're right. it's the happy hormones. like the high, isn't it? I've only realised that if she didn't cut me off, I would babysit her for years. Thanks for pointing that out.

[@BlackGirlLovesAnime6]

@@patty-pat-pat yes those women are delusional and it’s really sad they can’t see how their low self esteem is making their lives harder than it needs to be. I have a bestie that go with an older dusty man who lives with his mom , had dv accusations, court cases, he was verbally abusive to her, cheated on her, got her pregnant and had her get an abortion, came in between our friendship to the point where we almost fell out and they were on and off. They’re not dating now because of the cheating but I could see she was still in contact with him because “he’s a good friend” 🙄. NOW the fool lost his current court case and he’s finally in jail and she stays in contact with him. I said please don’t visit that man he is not worth all of that. She makes comments about her hopes for a better man but clings onto this man because she’s afraid to be alone. Oh and he was on drugs, forgot to mention that.

[@down-to-earth-mystery-school]

As a woman of 50, who understands the lesson Elle is talking about, the hardest way possible, I am so glad you get women know this decades before I did! Women don’t tear each other down, we clear the path for everyone in the future! People (men) are NOT a project!🔥

[@susannehuber3996]

Yes, I’m 40 and I’m astonished how much young women already know. I had to learn the very hard way.

[@Joe-qm4yv]

@@susannehuber3996men feel the same way about y’all . Women your age ruined marriage for men and women younger than you . We’re all bitter and use each other because that’s the standard and expectation y’all set

[@kanikakumari7219]

​@@Joe-qm4yvbut you are single staying in mom's basement.

[@Joe-qm4yv]

@@kanikakumari7219 actually I’ve got my own home no thanks to mom and dad it was all me . I’ve been on my own since 16 bc I’m a guy and we’re capable of financial responsibility self reliance unlike y’all 😁 being by yourself means nothing when all you girls are living on your dads money

[@Obinsfnubf447]

​@@Joe-qm4yvNot dad's money, child support.

[@amerikatt]

Advice for young women: when you introduce the idea of not sharing 50/50 to a man, mind you that he might say "that's a great idea!" because he wants all that honey and will agree to anything. Happened to me twice in my life, and now I have a vengeful ex-husband blaming me for stealing all his money and using him, spreading gossip amongst our families and in our friend group. If a man doesn't get this naturally and shows that he is willing to spend on you naturally, don't go there. You shouldn't have to educate a man on the basic economics of being a woman: if he doesn't see it, you will not change his mind by sheer force.

[@tonyonaperky2128]

But your basic economics is to cook and clean and be subservient to him, correct? If a man's duty is to uphold his traditional gender roles as buying you everything you ask for, or making sure you're in your "Devine feminine energy", wouldn't you do all the chores, do everything with the kids, cook and clean?

[@T-Laydie]

Testosterone levels in men are at an all time low. That may explain a few things.

[@NeyamStar]

Because of chemicals in food and everything else it isn't just cultural it's biological

[@indigoneutral]

High test also causes lack of empathy and narcissistic qualities. It's a no win situation right now. Until both men and women take their responsibility to themselves and others seriously, it's going to continue to be a hot potato throwing contest of who loses first (it's telling that so many modern men are keen to make women make the sacrifice when that's literally THEIR role).

[@Melcatsite]

I literally have an uncle (grown, in his 40s) and his mother (my granny who is 64) is still working nultiple jobs to pay his bills. SMH, when I learned this, i realized how pervasive mooch men were 😔

[@NalloryLove]

It’s not nice or fair but some men hate their moms because he blames her for spoiling him. I had an ex who even stated he dislike that his parents made him the way he was. I read a book that stated in order to not turn into a masculine woman and create a feminine son you literally have to stop catering to your son’s needs after 5 years old. This doesn’t mean neglecting them of course but they are suppose to be given chores. You aren’t suppose to adhere to their cries when they demand wanting something (or everything when it comes to my kid) when you go to the store. If you choose to buy them something it has to be tied to a reward system. They have to actually earn whatever item they want so you basically start the allowance routine very very early for your boys. Meanwhile you give freely to your girls so they don’t feel they have to bring something to the table later. I feel the roles of how we raise boys and girls have been flipped by women that wanted approval from their spouse so they spoil the boys and punish the girls (thinking this is what they should have done in their relationship) when in reality they chose the wrong mate. Plenty of single women have raised healthy adjusted men (just think of the countless widows left after multiple wars). So this topic is so much more complicated than the whole men are this way because they are fatherless. It’s more about the culture of women for some odd reason that continue to raise their son’s like surrogate spouses even when they are married thinking these boys will magically become men that understand women and their needs in the future. Not going to happen, they just get worse the older they get. then due to guilt as well as how mothers are wired we just keep giving to them until they have turned into whole sassy men. So unless there is a man (husband, brother, father, even an uncle) around that can stop that mom from giving into that child/ boy without her flipping out or going into overprotective mode those men child are going to continue ruining our life/ society as a whole.

[@AdrianChang-q5f]

100% agreed

[@9395gb]

100% spot on. What's the name of this book?

[@alienazed]

my dad been a sassy man nearly my entire life (just recently he starts to provide financially, when we're all grown and sick of him lol). my ex also had this disease, and i was like "nah, not gonna suffer from this disease again" rather be single than interact w these men again

[@OurDreamsInMotion]

Lol I love that lil character you added 😂❤

[@tayjane21]

The way this video opened, she’s so passionate ahhaa - I love

[@therealmanifestelle]

🤎🤎🤎

[@XZ858XZ]

“…and the OTTOMAN” bahahaha 😂 love that line

[@polymathica]

😲 Oh my goodness! I just had an epiphany: Buddhism solved the “men who are in receiving mode” problem by enticing them to be celibate monks! I mean, being a Buddhist monk is literally the highest form of receiving mode because everything they have must be given to them by laypeople. BUT it also solves the Incel problem by giving those men a higher goal to boost their self-esteem, methods to develop some real wisdom, and group living with other like-minded men to provide the social support that is essential for human happiness. Yet again, the wisdom of the Buddha can continue to solve “modern” problems!

[@Kelsthestylist]

Genius

[@WhamBamUrWelcome]

The “man” who raised me also ab**ed me, mentally & physically. Looking back, he was the sassiest man I’ve ever known. My mother worked full time. 😒

[@moremiaj4786]

The feminist movement changed the guardian of a woman's body from her father, to herself. Back when women were owned by their father's, even the father would not allow his daughter to marry a man who could not provide for her financially. So just because the guardian has changed, does not mean, the transaction is now free and a woman should allow herself to be with a man who cannot fend for himself or her and their offspring. Being a married woman, means you are denying yourself the pleasures of other men ravishing your body with pleasure and showering you with gifts. It is more of a sacrifice for a woman because were she to have a child, she could die. Men do not die when their wives give birth. Therefore women should not cheapen the transaction of relationships, by giving themselves over to silly, immature men who cannot provide and if she MUST give herself over to an immature man, there had better be the best financial incentive in doing so.

[@larryshipper8070]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@abrawolf]

I mean, men are still held liable for the child though which can ruin them financially for the rest of their lives, even if the child is a product of the woman raping the man he can still get taken to court for child support

[@KP-ej7gc]

@@abrawolfyes, and that’s wrong. But men don’t die in childbirth, which was the point of her commenr.

[@abrawolf]

@@KP-ej7gc it's kind of muddled by the points surrounding it. "Getting married means denying yourself of being ravished by other men" and "only get with an idiot if they have money" like, whatever happened to marriage and having a kid just because yall like each other

[@naediggs4816]

​​@@abrawolfBut, women did try that - the fact that it failed and keeps failing is how we had to learn it was a bunch of bull. A man just "liking" a woman will never be enough because of how men treat women statistically and because they are fickle - women who keep falling for it, keep ending up abandoned, broke, and struggling because a bad choice in a partner destroyed their lives. All over TikTok/YT/Instagram there are countless examples of women having breakdowns, after being abandoned by men during or right after pregnancy. All those men told them they loved them, and wanted to be with them, and the women believed it. The men clearly lied, and now those women are burdened with those children forever. Having a child is one of the single most financially calamitous events that a woman can undergo, married or not. It immediately puts her at risk for poverty and financial ruin, as well as being physically and mentally dangerous. To take on a risk like that, she needs every insurance possible, and that's just how it is. Sayings like "love isn't always enough," exists for a reason.

[@elishavincent555]

Having a son at a young age and his dad passing away at a young age while looking around and u realizing most of the ‘males’ aren’t actually grounded in there masculinity.. aka sassy but pretending to be mucho.. 😢 no choice but to do it until a good father figure is seen.. protecting his masculine energy

[@vikki8699]

They are haggling your worth and you are letting them, BESTIE WAKE UP! Hell yeah! ❤ Excellent video lovely!

[@jessenoelle262]

Sis, if you work your butt off so that you can have the power to purchase your own assets (vehicle, place to live, etc.), and he wants to move in with you, or use your car while you're at work, or have you pay his phone bill because it's "cheaper" for you to be on the same contract.... Sis, just let him go. I don't care how sweet or sexy he his. He will use you-either intentionally or unintentionally-by taking advantage of your natural feminine tendency and desire to nurture and nourish. He NEEDS to learn how to nuture himself. A man needs to learn how to hear his own needs. And he needs to learn how to honor those needs by responding to them in whatever way is most nourishing to him. (NOT by reacting impulsively to his feelings, or acting on some compulsion to smother a feeling). Because here's the thing-he can't treat you with the love and respect you deserve if he doesn't know how to treat himself.

[@ladybug3380]

Maybe men are acting how they truly are. They are done acting how patriarchy wants them to act 😅 men are sassy

[@AmericanDreamer]

yup..seems so more and more

[@orangecrusader1177]

I'm not

[@tonyonaperky2128]

​@@AmericanDreamerThey are tired of "masculine" being mistaken for "accepting of mistreatment"

[@sierraalvarado2558]

These dudes need the YMCA 🤣

[@internetbee2786]

The opening statements and the dramatic music, I hit like STRAIGHT AWAY

[@harmony7838]

The music you play when you talk about divine feminine energy in men takes me out every time 😭😂

[@signebl906]

I just want to say that entering the millitary isn't an indicator of a good man or a "ritual of manhood" that is and indicator that he has improved or is somehow more competent as other men. Some of the most selfish and misogonystic men I've met, have been in the millitary. The millitary might teach them dicipline etc. but most of the guys I've met only applies these teachings to themselves and doesn't change their view of women. The one's that I have met have horrible self-control when it comes to women and s*x. If they go in to the millitary having allready been taught sexist beliefs from their cultureb or at home it's not likely to change after. More likely it just becomes worse if the men around them thinks and acts the same, so they don't think there's anything wrong with it, so they don't change how they treat women. This is just speaking from personal experience - people I've known from the millitary (men and women) and the stories they've told. Ont time this guy told me how their friend got kicked out of the millitary for SA, and how he is scared that he might do something like it tpo at one of their parties when he gets drunk - IDK why he felt comfortable telling that, but he did. This also shows in the statistics of SA and R*pe of women in the US forces. www.rand.org/pubs/tools/TLA746-2/handbook/resources/data-on-sexual-assault-in-the-military.html So just please don't go around saying that the millitary is somehow a manhood ritual which imrpoves men/the quality of men and how they think of and treat women. But I do agree that something needs to change for men to grow up and start treating women better, and I think that you're spot on that it starts with what is being normalized and allowed in our culture by women.

[@ro2974]

thank you elle ❤ i was so confused about wtf a sassy man was and um....nope nope nope really appreciate the captioning too!

[@pattyjlopez1970]

Spoiled girlies unite! 👑💕💫

[@HM_00702]

I know you’re an Academia girlie. Pls make a video on tips to do well in any career as a girl.

[@phtherapyxcast7996]

Yess

[@jentran1876]

Dang sista, this one hits home. I've been pondering breaking up w my 5-mo bf for a while & even initiated one time but he talked me out of it. I'm far from the Nelly's or Pickies, but the reason I struggle w leaving is because we go way back (karmic rls type thing) so he knows how to give me the right nuggets to make me think he's different while downplaying his sassy male tendencies really well. It also helps that he's exactly my type physically & emotionally. We might share a very special bond & are madly in love, but as always my hunch about this rls was spot on. This video is such a wake up call for me so I guess five months is long enough! #DECENTERED #justanotherone

[@AmericanDreamer]

💛 much strength to you sis, to follow through and honor your own hunch and well being first

[@AS-hr6cn]

Why do I sometimes feel you're about to slap me 😂

[@MotoG-lu3ws]

😂

[@Tealaful]

I have to comment one more time for the algorithm because she is literally on it. Some women could teach men but most men will not respect a woman in that aspect especially if she's not his mother. Only other men can teach each other and hold each other accountable. Please, any man that watches this, make your own podcast or video. Idc if you have to copy this amazing women because the messages are so detrimental for society to socialize better. We need men to have healthy family dinamics. Women can't be blamed for everything by these men anymore because we are supposed to be led and submit. Healthy men create healthy men and women period. There will always be bad apples of course. Men have to start really talking like this because women can not lead men into a healthier culture. It has to be men holding each other accountable. ❤

[@AmericanDreamer]

yessss !!!! You really vocalized it 💯💯💯

[@plantauniverse8848]

Finally a woman knows what she's talking about!

[@caroliinec]

Elle, what did we do to deserve you 😭🙏💕 thank you for sharing your wisdom with us ✨

[@littleboyimnida]

This channel changed my life. Thank you so much❤

[@patty-pat-pat]

the ottoman took me out 🤣

[@xxwoman]

Men: What do you bring to the table? Me: Why are you at my table?

[@Closedeyewilly]

what makes you the table? genuine question

[@xxwoman]

@@Closedeyewilly where did I say I was the table? I said "why are you AT MY TABLE?"

[@Closedeyewilly]

@@xxwoman okay, gotcha

[@tonyonaperky2128]

Why do women hate having this question being asked but ask men

[@penthehuman]

12:46 😂girl stahhhhp!! I know a few girls that are just trading money back and forth with their (sassy) bfs and I get insane second hand embarrassment from seeing those public payments to each other! humiliating

[@malinasworld]

My friend got her bf to our meet up once and we watched her cashapp him 80 cents 😭 Guess it costs her 80 cents to be seen as an independent equal in the relationship, what a bargain 😶

[@tonyonaperky2128]

So youre not your man's equal?

[@WhamBamUrWelcome]

Girlie, I’m almost 30 and you’re saying things I didn’t ever think I could put in words. I wish I knew these things when I was younger, and single. 🤣

[@alexanadeva]

OMG! I just realised i was with the sassy man, who drained me emotionally, energetically, asked to buy him flowers. Was waiting for bringing to the table.

[@tonyonaperky2128]

A man only gets flowers at his funeral. Why can't you show him you appreciate him? Show him something nice

[@justnufspice]

I love the non-toxic calm way you explain this and check busters😂😂😂

[@LammyHowl]

That's it, I'm making my "Gatekeeping Humanity Since Last Millennium" Poster! 😂💙💙💙

[@Tealaful]

I would say that a sassy man is also a man that is jealous of women or resents his gender role. I see a lot of men resenting their gender role but because they know it's wrong, it manifests in sassy behaviors. Like when he says, oh i pay the bills, what do you do? He isnt grateful that you also go to work and pay bills or do all the cooking and cleaning. Men just don't appreciate that anymore because they say they can do that and would rather have someone take the lead especially financially. It also manifests when they wont take the lead at all. Or its like giving hint after hint to make a date and they dont. Theres your first clue ladies that he could have this mindset. Unfortunately, a lot of men are like this now. A lot of people are going to die alone because men don't hold themselves and each other accountable anymore. A lot of men are actually ok being predators. Don't get gaslit either, a man willing to lie and play games is definitely a predator. We should all call that out asap. Hurt people hurt people and we need to hold each other to higher standards by discreetly calling people out and talking through things with them to let them know their behavior is unacceptable. Its only harder now because they have a hardened heart filled with bitterness but if we keep fighting the good fight then things will change. I love this girl for having the strength and braveness to breach this taboo topic. Shes killing it in the spirit!

[@indigoshivers5721]

This was a whole word, my child father actually said that to me. Sir didn’t you ask me to be a SAHM? I left because if i got to do it by myself now… then why stay with a man like that. He still lives with his mom and I’ve been thriving but i know deep down it bothers him that i didn’t need him.

[@sarahmicro]

I love your channel of women empowerment

[@secilperkins]

It is so true some people out there might look like they have a normal family and a father figure but their mother is the masculine one. Meanwhile the father out there living careless. But at the end of the day they’re coming under the same roof and trying to portray themselves as a healthy family mainly because of the mother’s ego or something else that I don’t know. Sometimes it takes a while to realize it especially if you’re programmed yourself to love them

[@numerologicatarot3333]

I subscribed like a week ago and it was a great decision!

[@jenndesharnais6101]

Men cry about the whole 1/2 thing, but the reason that came about is because of their own bad behavior. Men will leave you and the children on the side of the road.🤔🤔🤔

[@tonyonaperky2128]

Statistically speaking, it's the woman who takes from the man and leaves the man on the side of the road. Women also cry about going half when it comes to finance and duties and responsibilities. But demand that they are their partners equal in the relationship

[@dha2464]

I blame Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson's let's get in touch with our inner, vulnerable man. Oh, and I would be remiss to forget the damage of the "not so illustrious" Incel movement.😮

[@lil_crossgg1029]

It’s funny you say that because they say very similar things to what this lady is saying to a point where they agree on a lot of things

[@9395gb]

​@@lil_crossgg1029Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro and Matt Walsh are feminine and sassy men. I can't see them as men or protecting their family or women physically from harm. They seem like they need protection.

[@tonyonaperky2128]

​@9395gb You really haven't listened to andrew tate at all. Because he's said pretty much everything this woman is saying. "The woman doesn't chase the man. That's some prissy shit. It's YOUR job as a man to go out and provide for your woman. It's YOUR job to your roles as a man. It's YOUR job as a man to make sure you woman doesn't even work. Never sees a bill" -Andrew Tate.

[@tonyonaperky2128]

​@9395gb the only difference is that he says a woman has her duties to a man as he has his duties to her. Next time educate yourself before you make a comment. Because you only come out looking Goofy when you're proven wrong

[@delideri3518]

How much she glows from within. It’s a reflection of the man for sure.So true.

[@jaylynnfarr1276]

Facts! And we don’t have male initiation ceremonies like we did in tribal times.

[@lhippocamperouge7845]

I’m glad women has evolved still because if we were like the women before with actual men we will be in much bigger trouble

[@Kelsthestylist]

Like back in the Aqua Tofana days? Lol

[@MadMax-cg6gh]

Girl you read my mind 😅 I stopped dating since my 20s because I understood some of these things about men 😐 I absolutely relate to your content, and you're so funny I got to subscribe. Take care of yourself, that kind of video won't please men, they might try to set a trap to you like they did to discredit Mikaela Peterson 😬

[@Kelsthestylist]

See? They are so bothered instead of upgrading themselves and evolving 😅 They can come here and be sassy but it won't help them. Women are stepping back into our power

[@MadMax-cg6gh]

Upgrading is on the program of anyone I guess, but it's difficult to upgrade with too much distractions. And Idk what power you talking about but you better show that power abroad. But not in China, for your safety, it is said that there's an epidemia of sida there. I wonder why 🙄

[@mspresidentsa4090]

“We see it on the Venmo feed” 😂

[@Kelsthestylist]

🤣

[@don_cdgroup2186]

This is the most motivational comment section ❤

[@z.k.7472]

I don’t think we can blame even literal and figurative fatherlessness for this, cause tell me why some of the guys in question have a provider dad and turn out very sassy anyway😆

[@jennifergarner9101]

No lies detected! All 100% FACTS

[@Huda-bu]

Honestly I'm so done of us men and women blaming each other, can't we just live in peace? Be complete on our own, only getting married to someone who add to our happiness? Like 😭 isn't this something normal and logical, what is happening to us as a society

[@anka6356]

We blame each other because many parents are neglectful and/or abu$ive. The answers are always in childhood trauma. That's why we'll never have the utopia you're talking about and instead we need to "defend" ourselves and have lots of discernment.

[@jentran1876]

She's not blaming. Adding to what u said, we ought to work on ourselves before committing to a quality partner. She's providing discernment tips for us women to weed out the bad ones.

[@ericad8412]

Just remember they wouldn't be throwing s*** if you didn't shine. Stay in good spirits without their perspective and watch the world unfold

[@BB_brightly]

I am asking this with a complete desire to learn and understand a bit deeper: what is it about feminine energy that indicates recieving and not masculine? And what is it about masculine energy that indicates providing? Im genuinely curious as ive just started my journey into exploring the divine feminine and really do want to learn more! Can anyone point out some resources for exploring this?

[@kilaa3417]

There's a book called "The fear of the feminine and other essays on feminine psychology" I myself haven't read it, but it seems to explain it well from the reviews and summary

[@alagodela1142]

Such a good vid, Elle thank you so much for your content, you are truly changing our lifes for so much better ❤❤

[@ArK--mh6ot]

These men are so annoying. I have vetted "high value men " and they expect you to give everything a woman has to offer and nothing in return. They expect you to go out of your way to make it convenient to sleep with you, what are women even getting out of that ??? I've definitely humbled some egos by walking away when they are expecting me to chase after them . 👋

[@EyeGoByFaith]

I felt that. I share the finance spreadsheet with him but he never even looks at it.

[@DivineFeminine99]

OhmyGAWD, the intro parody is H-I-L-A-R-I-O-U-S 😅😅😅

[@AndreaRosevear]

*insert Greta Gerwig's Little Women, Amy monologue about marriage being an economic proposition*

[@AndreaRosevear]

"And as a woman I have no way to make money, not enough to earn a living and support my family. Even if I had my own money, which I don't, it would belong to my husband the minute we were married. If we had children they would belong to him, not me. They would be his property. So don't sit there and tell me that marriage isn't an economic proposition, because it is. It may not be for you but it most certainly is for me."

[@ereniz09]

honestly i like listening to you even tho i don’t particularly agree with all your points, for one i don’t agree with traditional gender roles being romanticised as “feminine energy” etc or one part of the relationship having more receiver and the other being the giver. women or men aren’t different species who crave different things, you just need to be in a loving relationship where you are mutually invested and giving. personally i don’t like being the pampered one, never liked being the receiver, i’m much comfortable being the “giver” and that’s fine too. we don’t need strict gender roles.. as if they haven’t been traditionally haunting us for centuries now, they don’t need to shape our entire personality or needs

[@jaimiejin7992]

Elle is a bit wired in this episode lol. I totally agree with you. Everywhere I look I see sassy men that just want to take, take and take from women.

[@donamariadubois2402]

Like Morris the dusty man who wanted princess treatment in the movie “the heiress”

[@esthermirandalima]

Omg i never clicked so fast!

[@Alexandra_aja]

I love your content ! 💖

[@alexandracoleman9371]

Once again a very insightful video, thanks so much ❤

[@anka6356]

Preach, bestie!!

[@speaktruth9989]

3:40 true 5:41 Yup

[@solonewhead]

Can someone tell me, what sound is used in 14:30. How can I find it? Really need it

[@luna0000]

Omg you killed ending I love it. I’m sharing this now!

[@lemonlime2288]

Whew....a whole word

[@tinafe8701]

Please write a book Manifestelle!

[@romanaa7070]

🚨 send this message out through the national emergency alert to all the girlies, expeditiously🚨

[@JuniperGal-ek2pu]

Sassy men >>>

[@delideri3518]

The figurative fatherlessness crisis is real

[@MofoGoLoco]

I needed this video.

[@kmbrlia]

more vids on sassy men please

[@luizacanella9877]

did you know that I LOVE YOU?????

[@x.nitkov]

bestie wake up ☁

[@gracemcbride3853]

This one fucking slaaaaayed

[@Annie-cz3jd]

ily girl

[@no.6377]

@ 4:37 why was my first thought ASAP Rocky😂😂

[@Je-Vette]

Comments here are the best!❤❤

[@netra238]

I love uhhhh from India❤❤i wanna start a channel wt camera or phone u use?❤

[@ladybug0633]

"we see it on the vemo feed" lol

[@AshleyCummingsYoga]

❤❤🙏❤️❤️

[@ForestTiefling]

TANSTAAFL! as Heinlein put it...

[@Lifeeewithsabrina]

Elle, I WAnnA bUY YOUR MERCH, But it only allows US😢 Not International addresses

[@tickledxoxpink]

The title of this video is perfect!

[@alanabowker1363]

I'd rather grow old with my cat than be a married single mother.

[@sithqueengigi588]

Same ❤❤❤

[@mbalinomusa355]

Same same. Ain't non way

[@НатальяБ-й5х]

Yess

[@sarahmicro]

hahaha me too

[@chrzig554]

YESS. I feel so bad for them. Imagine having someone and still feel lonely

[@kellarenna]

The bee doesnt come to the flower then ask it "what do u bring to the table" 😂

[@085665372]

This needs more likes. I'm gonna frame this on my wall.

[@jlspracher]

The bee looks for what the flower has to offer (nectar) no nectar, and the bee moves on.

[@aayushtiwari3272]

Bee uses that flower and moves on to the next one if that flower is not good enough

[@iridescentraindrops]

​@@aayushtiwari3272The flowers also use the bees to create more of themselves. Also female bees search for bigger variety of flowers than male bees, because they gain not only their nectar, but their pollen too. Male bees drink nectar just to stuff themselves up, while female bees do it to create the hive.

[@Joe-qm4yv]

Except y’all aren’t some pristine flower y’all are more like a used car with 250,000 miles on it 🤢

[@patty-pat-pat]

The reason men were courting women back in the day (and even being selective about women), instead of sitting on their high horse crying about 'yOu hIt ThE WaLl aT 30' like MoDeRN men today, is bc only a few decades ago, they HAD to marry the girl if they got her pregnant. For life.

[@thepanda9782]

Well ~ not always but it would definitely be highly pressured to do (because otherwise you were literally ruining that woman's life and condemning them to poverty). It definitely would harm your ability to get a proper wife as well, regardless of class.

[@enchantinggg]

Yep, that's why my grandparents got married. They hate each other too 😂

[@BlackGirlLovesAnime6]

Exactly it wasn’t necessarily because there was so much love back then it was because people weren’t allowed to have sex until marriage. Also women could not provide for themselves they needed a man for that

[@patty-pat-pat]

exactly! I heard a content creator (I believe Tonya) say 'Motherhood is determined by biology, but Fatherhood is determined by culture'@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6 The culture not too long ago was that it was even shameful for men to walk away from their children and wife. Now that it's not (anymore), men are walking away in droves! There's no one to shame them into behaving correctly anymore. I believe the culture & the church/ religion kept them in check back then.

[@findingmyself2446]

​@@patty-pat-patit still happens in the east though.

[@Sofiaawang1]

I had a man tell me he has extremely bad financial habits. That "He might have six figures one day and he might be penniless in three days" I told him I need a man that understand finances...he said since I'm there I'll cover for him. I said I can't be keeping finances in check and you're ruining it...then I peaced the fvck out

[@vikki8699]

Well done sis!! ❤🎉 Glad you walked away from that man child. I know a guy who makes £30K a year, yet, he is so good with finances, he will retire when he is 55. He's married with 3 kids and gis wife is a stay at home mum. He told me one word to having all this. Investing. Legend!

[@Rosemary46840]

​@@vikki8699he definitely wont retire that early taking care of five people on that tiny barely one person salary, definitely not in America, that's poverty level.

[@Trollingizlife]

@@Rosemary46840He lives in the UK if she used the pound “£” sign.

[@haileyt857]

@@vikki8699 it sounds like he is only taking into account himself with those finances

[@lilrodz]

👏👏👏