Wearing Historical Clothing in Public: How to Feel Confident and Manage Criticism

A few of the lovely subscribers of this channel have asked me to cover the topic of how to feel confident wearing historical fashion (out in public for instance) and how to manage criticism when it inevitably arises.
Any time you choose to do something that is different or not in the "mainstream", you will most likely receive criticism in some shape or form. Even if you do stick to the "mainstream", chances are you'll just receive criticism about something else. You do not have to let that criticism stop you from living your most authentic life. Having self-confidence when wearing historical clothing starts with recognising that thoughts are just thoughts, and they do not have to mean anything.
This video covers some of the deeper thought processes behind judgement and how to mentally manage feelings of insecurity when being judged, along with some practical steps you can take to grow more comfortable with wearing anything you desire to. Then, a series of potential responses to criticisers is presented, so you can have an answer (or a lack of answer) ready if a negative comment is made towards you.
It is so worth it to live a life of authenticity and self-expression, and so I encourage you, regardless of how people react, to wear all the historical fashion you desire. It may be uncomfortable at first, but there are ways to mitigate any feelings of distress that may arise.
I should make it clear that I am in no way a mental health professional or medical practitioner. None of this should be taken as medical advice. Rather, I cover some of what I have learned throughout my own mental health journey, and as someone that deals with the day-to-day impacts of severe obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD).
And so I ask, if there is anything stopping you from wearing what you want in public, what exactly is it?
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[@VBirchwood]

Thank you for watching! If there is anything stopping you from wearing what you want in public, what exactly is it?

[@ReinaElizondo]

One of the things that stops me is not always knowing what makes an outfit cohesive. I have favorite pieces but putting them together feels hard. I lean towards one favorite statement item and all the rest of my outfit being neutral, because I don't know how to make multiple statement pieces be more interchangeable and cohesive in outfits. I often find myself judging too-wide collars as too embarrassing, even if I like them. I've internalized other's comments on them. Lastly, I really love bright colors but have gotten people calling bright outfits 'clownish' or that it's 'like a pimp' multiple times in the past. It makes me so frustrated because I know that's often just a misalignment of style and/or society driven prejudice, but it still makes me self-conscious. I want to undo that type of internalization of other people's opinions that don't match my own, but sometimes it's hard to even catch yourself believing something because of others voices in the back of your head, instead of what you actually believe. I never thought I looked clownish and what does looking like-a-pimp even mean? It's just rude to say that to anyone. And I like some larger collars. I want to judge an outfit on cohesion (and tying unique things together) but not on whether someone else will like it.

[@OscarFeathers]

One thing that stops me is that I am still young, so I live with my parents, and they would most lik disapprove of me wearing historical clothes at all.

[@VBirchwood]

@@OscarFeathers I’m so sorry to hear that ☹️ I’m sure that’s extremely frustrating. Do you think there are subtle ways you can implement historical elements that are maybe more “mainstream”?

[@ThistleandInkwell]

Simply don’t have that many garments made, hard to make it look fresh, but I am working on it!

[@VBirchwood]

@@ThistleandInkwell You've got this! It takes quite some time to build up a historical wardrobe, so take your time too and be patient with yourself 😊

[@nataliestanchevski4628]

In my teens I wore a lot of ripped jeans, black, and long skirts. My parents hated what I wore. In my twenties I wore a lot of formal ladylike blouses and skirts. My punk friends thought I was square. In my thirties I went through a rough patch of depression and I wore a lot of pyjamas and whatever was comfy. Everyone was concerned. I'm in my forties now and I know that no matter what I wear, someone is going to have an opinion. But I'm still the same person I ever was and long skirts, waistcoats, and frilly blouses make ME happy.

[@VBirchwood]

You're awesome Natalie! Keep on pursuing what makes YOU happy (as I'm sure you will). ❤️

[@brianaschmidt910]

Damn straight!

[@corasgrove3474]

Thanks for highlighting the positive reactions from others - need to remember that side more as I get up the courage :) Also, the video felt very like meditation - your voice is confident, soothing and relaxing.

[@VBirchwood]

My pleasure, Cora! It’s important to remember that typically the good will outweigh the bad with wearing what you want to, though the brain likes to latch on and remember the bad a lot more for some reason 😂 thank you for your kind comment! And I wish you all the best of luck with continuing to build up the courage, you can do it 😊

[@helenkemp6468]

I am about at the ripe old age of 53 about to start on my history bounding adventure. My 3 awesome adult children smile as they say mum is going to dress like a female hobbit. Your beautiful words have made me more determined than ever to do it. My husband is just seeing my history bounding adventure as me being the real me at long last

[@hydrangeadragon]

Have you considered getting an assessment for autism? a lot of your traits and experiences you talk about kinda point to that, I don't mean this in a negative way, I'm an autistic woman myself, and it made my life and past experiences make so much more sense

[@VBirchwood]

I have been assessed, when I got my ADHD assessment, however, the psychologists determined I’m not autistic. I did get diagnosed with ADHD and severe OCD but both of those for me stem from c-PTSD and childhood trauma. I think there can be lots of overlap with all of them which is cool because it means more empathy and solidarity amongst people

[@barendfaber]

i am a tall, muscular male. when i was a child i was abused. and recently my family and my girlfriend, who i care for a lot, have not been supporting me at all. the only moments i feel good is when i put on my 11th century clothing. i have red linen pants i have dyed myself, and a brown-beige herringbone tunic which is incredibly comfortable in the northern-european climate i live in. i just want to wear this. what i really need is support and validation but i just want to dress in my favorite clothing. I don't think that that's too much to ask? i feel so terrible and even though i am physically very strong, i feel like all people I know just want to have me dead. my girlfriend is very abusive and my family is trying as hard as they can to get me away from them. right now i am packing my stuff to move into my new appartment. i dont think i want to live anymore. i think that tonight is the night im just gonna dress in my favorite clothing, the clothing i worked so hard on, i made it myself. and just go into the woods. i dont think im gonna come back. i just want to wear my medieval clothing and lay down in the beautiful dutch nature and lay still until life leaves me.

[@VBirchwood]

Hi barend faber, I'm so sorry that you're feeling like this. Please know that you matter to so many people, and though it may not feel like it right now, so many people care about you (even people you might not know of) and your life matters to so many too. You mentioned "dutch" so I am assuming you're in the Netherlands. There are many mental health professionals who want to help and support you and care about you. Please call 113 Zelfmoordpreventie at 0800-0113 which is a mental health support hotline that will be able to connect you with professionals who are there to help you.

[@Ava.Lorene]

Recently I learned about the "Ten Second Rule," and I wish we were all taught this while growing up. If someone can't change something in less than ten seconds, don't bring it up! Salad in your teeth? Ten second fix. You don't like someone's outfit? Definitely not a ten second fix, what good are you doing telling them so?

[@VBirchwood]

This is a brilliant rule! Love this. Thanks for sharing 😊

[@eilatanggoh693]

I was taught this but as a 5 minute rule

[@MiljaHahto]

​@@eilatanggoh693 If there's something that needs a needle and thread, 5min is probably appropriate .

[@irisw8446]

I want to add an advice: never let your sense of self or confidence be affected by people staring at you! I stare at people all the time (i try not to bc it’s not polite but sometimes i can’t help myself) and it’s always either because i admire a person’s ambiance or look - am even captivated by it - or because i am genuinely interested and hope to get a better insight by simply looking because i’m too awkward to go up to strangers and ask questions. I think lots of stares are motivated by such reasons rather than by ill motivations

[@rustyclam238]

Take a picture.

[@piccalillipit9211]

*REMEMBER* that feeling you get when you see another person in a historical outfit - THAT is how 99% of people feel when they see you... The 1%, well that's either jealousy that they don't have the confidence or genuine ignorance. They dint understand WHY you would wear that, it's so outside the boundaries of their world.

[@VBirchwood]

Well said!

[@westvirginiascoolestcanadian]

not a historical dresser but i definitely have my own style and used to get bullied at school for wearing skirts and dresses every day , became a tomboy between 13 and 14, i’m now 16 (still pretty young) and now i just wear whatever i want because i’ve learned that i don’t value their opinions.

[@VBirchwood]

I’m proud of you though for getting to that place and also realising it by 16 too. It’s wonderful that you’re pursuing the path of authenticity and doing what actually brings you joy 😊

[@westvirginiascoolestcanadian]

@@VBirchwood thank you!

[@SimpleDesertRose]

Very well said. I have often discovered that those who criticize the loudest are often the ones who are the most insecure about their own looks. Another thing to think on is just look at all those people of Walmart pictures. These people wear some of the wildest and silliest articles of clothing (or lack there of) to go shopping in. If this people have no shame about the way they dress, why should you? Its not like you are wearing Sponge Bob pajamas with matching bathrobe and slippers. You are dressed nicely. I typically find that when I go history bounding, that I get lots of complements on how nice I look. Often I find myself in discussions about sewing with people. Most of the time I get complement like "where did you get your skirt? Its so pretty." To which I proudly say "I made it." Which usually leads to conversation about sewing. I too one had a little girl tell me I looked like a princess. Totally made my day. 😁

[@VBirchwood]

Thanks for your comment 😊 I think a lot of it is cultural as well. In Russia, for instance, it is often looked down upon to wear sweats or anything overly casual (especially things like spongebob PJs lol) to go out in public. While in America, this is more societally accepted. That's the other thing about judgment. It differs so much from place to place what you will get judged upon, depending on that society's own preconceived notions and perspectives. Just like, if I were wearing historical fashion 150 years ago, that would have been totally OK. I would have been mainstream. So it just goes to show that in many ways, judgement is inevitable, and in many ways, it is also an illusion. It is constantly shifting and changing, with cultures and periods of time. Even more reason to take it with a grain of salt 😊 It's great you've had conversations about sewing with people because of what you're wearing. It's always incredible when that's the outcome of wearing what you want to wear out and about. And it's wonderful to proudly wear the things you've sewn.

[@SimpleDesertRose]

@@VBirchwood at some point I stopped caring about what society told me what I should and shouldn't do. All my life it was expected that I would go to college and have a career. But the more I pursued that the more unhappy I became. When I started having kids I got a lot if negative feedback about being a stay at home mom. I stopped wearing pants years ago because I just never likes to wear them. I wore them because it was socially excepted. One day I just stopped caring about what everyone else thought. It was like the ability to care was just turned off and I just did the things that made me happy. My life just seems so much more enriching as a result. When Morgan Donner brought the idea of dressing historically for everyday, coining the phrase history bounding, I knew that would be something I would want to do. Especially now that my kids are older and my daughter no longer wants me to sew for her, I feel like I have a new outlet for my creativity. Especially since I have always loved the way people used to dress prior to the 20's and all the long flowing skirts and beautiful dresses.

[@huntclanhunt9697]

"You offended someone? Good. That means you had an opinion." -Winston Churchill

[@Mellimaus02]

This was do beautiful. The calming images paired with your strong message - a true piece of art. It is just what I needed to continue my path in wearing historybounding clothes, as I am also struggling most with the perception of other people. Thank you

[@VBirchwood]

Awww thanks so much for your lovely comment! I'm so happy to hear this is exactly what you needed at this moment 💕Keep going with the historybounding 😊

[@An_inquisitive_thinker]

Please don't hurry to misinterpret why people stare at you or what they actually think. Please rest assured that vast majority of them secretly adore what you wear and want to have a closer look at what they've seen so many times on TV. Many wish they had your courage, so it's all good.

[@devinsnow1351]

Finally at age 72 I feel comfortable in me. I love the 1800-1910 ish styles and I want to learn to make these styles, because I really like them.

[@VBirchwood]

That’s wonderful! Congrats 😊

[@Cellottia]

I want to wear clothes I've made because I have woven the fabric and that's a whole new layer of achievement and a reason to walk tall! It's especially nice when someone complements the garment and I can say "I wove this, as well as sewed it," with a big fat grin on my face, and they almost fall over because they've never come across handwoven fabric before, and it's just as good as -- no, *better than* -- shop bought fabric, and wow, I'm really clever to have done that!! (I'm not sure clever is the right word but that's often what I hear.) I want to wear historical clothing because it will keep me warm! Modern skirts are utterly pathetic when it comes to warmth, as they are neither long enough (I mean, nylon tights, what use are *they* ?!?!) nor thick enough. I have a project in mind using some lovely tweedy-mix 100% fine wool, which I thought I could weave and felt; but instead of making a coat, as was my original idea, I reckon I'll make a petticoat and a top skirt, as well as cotton or linen (purchased fabric, or else I'll be 105 before I finish this project) petticoats for other seasons. Then I can have warm legs and feet indoors and out. And invest in a corset, which I've secretly been longing for for 30 years, ever since I wore a basque to be married in -- it just felt so good to be held or wrapped (swaddled?) like that. I've no strong desire to train my waist to be tiny, but a little less 'relaxed' a silhouette would be welcome, as will the support to improve my posture, which is giving me aches in my back and shoulders these days. Yes, I've watched your corset- wearing video, or rather, your video *about* wearing a corset for over 2 years, and it has confirmed me in my decision to go ahead and buy and wear one, just because I want to (yay!). So thank you, V, you are a part of my journey now, and I think you're wonderful and will keep watching! Warmest greetings from Katherine in Kent, UK 🤗🤗🤗👌😁

[@VBirchwood]

This is so awesome, and definitely does take knowing where your clothes come from to an entirely different level. Thanks for sharing 😊

[@lpion6803]

Not sure if you read comments on videos that are 2 years old, but thank you so much for this. I always struggled with how others might see me and what they think, even though I only wore unusual clothes as a teenager. I lately get into historical clothing, and exactly those fears is what made me wonder if I am "ready" for it. Your words however are very calming and motivating, thank you and please keep up with what you are doing, love your videos.

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you so much! Keep on wearing the clothes that feel authentically you. The world needs more people bravely being themselves (obviously without harming others of course).

[@Greenlantern345]

I started wearing Victorian era/Steampunk clothes a few years ago. I just got a cloak this year, I don't ever want to wear a traditional coat again! I find it funny the range of responses I get. Some are what I like to call the, "Ahh another rouge scholar belting out the latest soliloquy" lol and then there are the ones that really make your day and hopefully theirs as well. Cool to find more people that dress similar to the way I do!

[@VBirchwood]

Ahhh that’s awesome to hear that you wear historical/historically-inspired clothing as well! It really is quite fascinating how much responses can vary lol. Thanks for watching 😊

[@UNknown-sd3ki]

Didn't know you had OCD. I recently became aware of pure OCD like intrusive thoughts and urges. I think you describing that one. Agreed 100% Vasi, not everyone has the privilege to look There best. Some may be facing there inner demons. The nature walk looks so peaceful reminds me of my own walking path. The only problem was tarantulas come out in sunset.

[@VBirchwood]

I do indeed! This is my first time talking about it on here though. I plan to go more into depth about it in the future. I would say most OCD starts with thoughts, and then certain physical or mental compulsions have to be created because of the thoughts. In my case, it is more pure O, more so that the compulsions are mental and I mainly experience intense intrusive images that create deep dissociation/derealisation, and a slew of other things that comes along with that (like fatigue, brain fog, panic, anxiety, etc.) These days I'm doing much much better, even if still in recovery, but a couple of years ago it was debilitating and I could barely leave my home for 2-3 months due to the paralysing and crippling fear. It's important that accurate awareness is brought to the topic of OCD though, as it is so often a misconceived mental health condition. Everyone is definitely facing their own things, and that's totally okay. I think it's important for us to approach others with compassion for that exact fact, because what's going on in a person's life is often so much more complex than how it seems on the surface. I'm glad to hear you found the walking path peaceful! Your tarantula situation still sounds terrifying though lol.

[@TM-lc7yw]

I really like the cinematography in this video gives of the vibes of you being an 18th century adventurer.

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you! I was hoping it could create that vibe for people, so I'm glad it succeeded (for you) 😊

[@mellie5899]

When I was 5 years old my mother gave me the Mother Goose book to help me figure out what I wanted to dress up as for Halloween. I chose Old Mother Hubbard and loved what my mother made me to wear than I ever did in modern clothing. When I was 7 years old I wandered into the adult section of the library and found Women's Costume in Detail 1730 - 1930. I couldn't get enough of it and desperately wanted to stay home from school so I could read it all day. I would sit and watch my mother sew for hours until I learned how to do it myself. She taught me how to knit and I taught myself how to crochet. I majored in historical costuming when I got my bachelor's degree. It has been a deep-seated longing, an unwavering dream all my life to wear historical clothing everyday and to make each item myself. I'm 61 now and think this video of yours has finally convinced me to just do it. Thank you!

[@LiljaHusmo]

Such a lovely video. I hope it inspires many people to dare to wear What they want, historical, or just strange or unusual clothing! Your words were really intelligent and you explained so wonderfully. You’re right! Thoughts are just thoughts, and it’s good to remind oneself ☺️

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you so much for your comment and kind words, Lilja! It's always great to hear from you 😊

[@LiljaHusmo]

@@VBirchwood i always look forward to new videos from you 🥰

[@VBirchwood]

@@LiljaHusmo That's so sweet, thank you! I love watching all your new videos too 😊

[@ParkrosePermaculture]

Things I try to instill in my kids: 1. Don't yuck on someone else's yum. If someone's interests aren't your style but don't directly harm others, let them enjoy their thing. 2. Get express consent before offering advice or feedback. 3. Be your authentic self and know that when someone ridicules or criticizes your appearance, choice of fashion, style, it says far more about them than it does about you. Appreciated your thoughts on this, and love that you have such a healthy perspective on other folks' comments and also feel confident wearing clothing you love and enjoy.

[@ParkrosePermaculture]

I also wanted to say thanks for speaking about your OCD and getting treatment. As the parent of a teen with OCD who is currently undergoing treatment, I deeply appreciate folks speaking about their experiences or even referencing them in passing. It helps destigmatize OCD. Thank you.

[@VBirchwood]

Thanks so much! Those are all wonderful things to teach your children. I appreciate you acknowledging my mention of OCD as well, as it is extremely misrepresented and normalisation of it is so crucial (as you say.) I’m actually about to film a video regarding my OCD journey which should hopefully be out in January, so more content to come on that topic 😊 The best of luck to your teen on their treatment! One of the best things a therapist ever told me was, “never stop seeking support.”

[@user-dg7st6io1c]

Great advice there! .. I have a very eclectic family. My wife wear a mix of of the fifties and twenties, and I wear late 17th century.... And my daughter? well she is the personification of the words pink and purple and she's deeply in love with Kyary pamyu pamyu style... so yeah over the top. You should see the reactions we get when we go outside for shopping .

[@VBirchwood]

Hahaha I’m sure they’re brilliant! It’s great you all wear exactly what makes your hearts full though!

[@D3ATHMIND]

I love to wear Victorian styled clothing as well as formal clothing. I recently started getting into ouji fashion. I have recently been adding more pieces in more wardrobe. I combined new black formal pants, with my formal shoes, my white Victorian styled blouse with its own ribbon bow and a new black vest that compliments the high collar. As soon as I went to work, one of my coworkers asked me if it was dress like a pirate day. -_- I didn’t even bother to discuss the Victorian aspects of my look. My sleeves weren’t trumpet sleeves or even puff sleeves. They perhaps thought that because of the large bow. People also get confused why I dress this way. They think it’s for a special occasion, but I just like the style is all. I’ve been working on being more courageous and embracing what I love. I shouldn’t let remarks get in the way of what I want to wear, especially when I add some fun accessories later on like more string bow ties, perhaps hats, jabbots, and such. ^_^

[@VBirchwood]

I’m very happy to hear that you’re continuing to wear what you love to regardless of the remarks! Thanks for sharing 😊

[@anothervintageday]

So wonderfully said. I wear vintage style clothing every day. It is an expression of my vintage soul. I am so happy being my authentic self. Recently people have told me I am an inspiration to them and they are ready to step up and live their authentic lives. It warms my heart to know I am able to reach others in such a positive way. Keep up the great work.

[@VBirchwood]

Your photograph and channel are both so beautiful! 😊It's always deeply encouraging when choosing to live authentically inspires others to do the same, or inspires them in whatever other way it might. Thanks for the compliments!

[@nurmihusa7780]

One must either be a work of art or wear a work of art. - Oscar Wilde

[@VBirchwood]

Great quote, thanks for sharing it 😊

[@Horsefaire]

I love it!

[@opticalexcellence-wendytob862]

Every once in a while, if I see a woman wearing something I think is pretty, or looks good on them (I’m talking about strangers here, not people I know, simply because it’s so random for them), I will stop them and tell them. Why? Because I believe that random compliments from anyone, but strangers in particular, can go a long way to brightening that person’s day. I also do it because I never heard these kind words directed at myself, so I direct them to strangers and I feel better knowing that I brightened their day, if only for a minute or two.

[@girlwithoutpearlearring]

This was so lovely to listen to and to look at. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences (and adressing the amazing phenomenon of neuroplasticity)! I always fear judgement from others, even my own family, even though I actaully don't have any reason to. This makes me feel uncomfortable when I'm putting on some lipstick, curling my hair or wearing some extra fancy shoes. When I get no feedback, I'll imagine what people could be thinking about me but do not dare to say out loud. And if there is a reaction to my appearence, it better be exclusively positive or otherwise my self-esteem is going to crumble immediately. When I curled my hair last time, my mother was so surprised that I gathered from her facial expression that she dislikes my look, when actually, I think, she liked it once she got used to it. (Because I really look like an entirely different person with curled hair. :D) Also she isn't really into fashion and I'm always thinking that she might think that I'm too vain. - There you go: just thoughts. But I think a lot and even create my own worlds in my thoughts. Maybe that's the reason why thoughts in general have such a strong impact on me. However I'm planning to incorporate more historical elements into my wardrobe. Because I love all the different styles and the experience to wear a piece of history and the confidence that actually comes from wearing something that you have made with your own hands. So, thanks again for sharing. There will never be too many videos on this matter out there.

[@VBirchwood]

I think everything you are feeling is completely natural, and many others experience these feelings too! So just know you are not alone. I certainly did for a long time as well, and still do feel these experience you describe sometimes and it was really therapy and reprogramming my thought habits that helped. I am obviously not a therapist and cannot give you mental health advice, but I must say, it's wonderful firstly that you have the awareness to recognise your responses, etc. That's really the first step. Is there something you can tell yourself internally/mentally when the thought arises that creates the discomfort that can help remind you that the thought is just a thought and we are the ones that place meaning upon each thought? (Thoughts are trying to get our attention often times to protect us or keep us safe from a "perceived threat", which in this instance might be the very natural and primitive fear of rejection, and so in turn, the thought will get as loud and as noticeable as it possibly can (which includes being as absurd as possible sometimes), because it thinks then you will take notice and in turn keep yourself safe. In reality, it is more of an overreaction of the brain, as there isn't an actual physical life-threatening threat). The thing I always tell myself internally, in particular when dealing with OCD, is "Hi Thought! Thank you for sharing that. Maybe it will happen, or maybe not. I don't know. And that's okay. You're just a thought. And I'll cross that bridge if/when it comes to it." Hopefully, this helps. Thank you, as always, for your comment and for watching 😊

[@girlwithoutpearlearring]

@@VBirchwood I never really developed a strategy to deal with my reactions. My instinct is rather to push everything away from me that could hurt me potentially or already has hurt me. Which isn't exactly a very healthy coping mechanism but also kind of natural response, I guess. Maybe I can find a way to face these things and not be as afraid of them. Your are actually the first person I met that really talked about how thoughts are just thoughts. They don't have to be hurtful and they can be changed. Thank you, too, for your response! I really enjoy these little conversations :-)

[@VBirchwood]

@@girlwithoutpearlearring If we consider that our primitive response is fight, flight, freeze, (and some psychologists also say fawn, which is like when a baby deer starts fawning in nature for its attacker to almost take pity on it - which can be equivalent in humans to people pleasing), it makes perfect sense that your natural response is to want to push it away or run away. That's what the brain is often biologically programmed to do. But we can change all of that. It is completely possible to develop new habits in the brain to alter the way we respond to things. It will take time and practice though (and most of all mindfulness and awareness). It's actually quite empowering, I think! And I believe you absolutely can find methods that work for you. There are tons of resources to help online as well (if you dig into mindfulness and neuroplasticity, that may be a good place to start). I really enjoy them too, so thank you for continuing to respond haha 😊

[@Eithne21]

À few years ago, we used to go to restaurants with a few friends and we would dress for the occasion. Victorian 19th century for Asian, viking for Greek, Japanese for celtica bar... Always a style different from the theme of the place. And people smiled and were appreciative. We often got a free tea or beverage for the effort, offered by the owner of the place. It was fun, and logical to be looked at, since we were out of place but it was OK.

[@heatherisobell]

Such a beautiful video and such inspiring content! Beautiful visuals, wonderfully well thought out words, and your voice and the music is so soothing. Thanks for putting all your creativity out into the world. Hugs 💛

[@VBirchwood]

Awwww thank you, Heather! I was craving releasing some cinematic content, so this video just needed to happen (for my own creative sanity 😉). Hugs!! ❤️

[@repeatdefender6032]

Really spot on with the psychology and absolutely wonderful advice and perspective! I don't wear strictly historical clothing, but I've always dressed... weird... especially as a non-feminine-presenting guy who's just very comfortable wearing skirts and long, flowy things... that really throws people off. I get a lot of negative comments, unfortunately, but I learned to really not give a single f about what criticism people have regarding what I'm wearing. I figure, they might just be jealous because I look so comfortable and they don't have the courage to try something unconventional. I still am queer though and I get scared sometimes (ok, often, I live in a conservative town) of being the victim of a hate crime; I really want to live in a world where that's not a thing anymore, it's so stupid and pointless.

[@VBirchwood]

Thanks so much for your comment! I'm so sorry to hear that the world we live in leaves you feeling scared as a queer person. I, too, wish our world was more compassionate and understanding as everyone is entitled to live their most authentic life as long as they aren't hurting another. It's tragic that some feel they can control the way others choose to identify or express themselves.

[@rustyclam238]

I watched the construction of your waist coat. And I have to say, you look absolutely fantastic. Never let anyone criticize the skill and craftsmanship that you possess.

[@BattleAxe1345]

Started making my own late-18th century coats and waistcoats for casual wear earlier this year. This video is always a wonderful treasure to got back to. Currently making a splendid wool coat for the later seasons.

[@VBirchwood]

That’s so amazing to hear! Your projects sound lovely 😊

[@brandihayes1274]

Vasi, I really needed to hear this and it made me cry. I have been trying to put my art out lately and I feel great shame every time I want people to look at what I've done. I immediately want to burn it with fire. My partner will only say "uh, huh" and glance at it. Because of your video I realize I don't have to internalize their disregard. It's going to be hard but your words have helped me immensely.

[@richardhsiung7007]

You must be about my daughter's age. Yet you are wise beyond your age, in my ooinion. We really enjoy your life's journey.

[@emilie4058]

I've gotten into Song-dynasty Hanfu over the past year, and what got me past that initial hurdle was... being a trans woman. Some proportion of the people I encounter were going to hate me anyways, so what does it matter if they also think I'm dressed weird?

[@thenow5559]

Great topic! I too was insecure initialy wearing victorian style clothing as a man, i developed my own style by mixing it with modern wear, like jeans & cowboy boots, i think i will also start a channel as it is my passion. I really love victorian/steampunk style.

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you! You should definitely go for it 😊All the best!

[@val_nightlily]

Frankly, I'm surprised you get any criticism at all. You're a beautiful young woman and your costumes are amazing. Still, the best lesson you can teach yourself is that you simply don't have to care what other people think.

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you! Someone in the world will criticise anything, no matter what one does or doesn't do. I definitely have reached a point where generally most things don't bother me (with regards to criticism in public) but I felt it was important to make this video because everyone is at a different place in their journey.

[@val_nightlily]

@@VBirchwood Agreed, and the video is a lovely way of addressing this.

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you very much 😊

[@OldMotherLogo]

I’ve never worried too much what other people think of me or what I wear. I’m just learning to sew and went to a local community sewing room to get some help with my first project - a pair of split crotch bloomers to I can more easily use the bathroom when wearing a corset. I was just slightly embarrassed to tell them what I wanted to work on though I knew, of course, that obviously they would need to know. As a way of explanation I said, “I do steam punk.” They got very excited. “Oh, well you will have to meet A., she comes here and she does steam punk!” Of course, I already knew A. I loved it that they were so encouraging. The only criticism, if I would call it that, I’ve gotten was when I went to buy some fabric for my next project, an Edwardian walking skirt. The woman at the fabric store acted like I was strange. What a contrast! Meanwhile, back at the sewing room they loved it that not only was I making that but also taking the time to flatline it and do a good job. Recently the woman who runs the place gave me two antique chemises that someone gave to the center. The donor asked if the center would have any use for them and right away the director thought of me. I am happy to be their caretaker. They are stained from having spent years in a trunk but the detail on them is inspiring. Mostly what I find when I go out dressed up is that total strangers will start conversations with me and they enjoy my creative expression. I’m almost 70 years old. Who cares what other people think? When we express our true selves we attract others who appreciate those things about us and it gives us room to be ourselves even more.

[@beziergrin]

Here take this criticism You look amazing, the clothes look so great I wish everyone did it. HA take that!!!

[@armitagehux8190]

I wear early Victorian clothes and, even though I have a tough skin, there are reactions I just can't deal with. Firstly gross comments from men, especially when they are in group in the street, it makes me feel in danger. Secondly when people don't even acknowledge me, for example a cashier that was polite to the person before me but now doesn't say hello or look me in the face. They usually frown or have a disgusted look. I'd rather be laughed at than not considered at all .

[@Xaforn]

I love seeing people dress different, historical, vintage or plain dress is so exciting to see, cultural as well. I prefer simplicity and comfort personally, so organic materials in earthy tones or minimalist secondhand is my favorite. Yes, understanding where criticism comes from is very important; people have been so ingrained with “societal norms” they do not know how to process those who step outside them. Beautiful footage and advice.

[@jessicarogers6801]

I'm glad I stumbled upon this as I'm in the middle of learning how to sew my own clothes. I've been interested in aesthetic styles like cottagecore and light academia so integrating historical clothing feels an exciting next step.Also the quarantines & the globel pandemic had forced a lot of time for me to research which eras I like on my body vs what I like to see other wear. I have a few patterns based on 1790s-1820s as they mostly higher than the natural waist to accommodate weight fluctuations in that area due to my PCOS.

[@VBirchwood]

I’m so glad you’re here too! Welcome to the channel 😊 it’s wonderful you’re discovering what you feel would work best for your own body. I’m so sorry you have to go through PCOS too! A few of my friends suffer from it and it can be so hard sometimes!

[@tomstoller1086]

I once took a hike in my viking kit and there were only three reactions regardless of gender, race, or age: 1. Nobody cared because they are that fixated on their own world. 2. People thought it was cool and wanted pictures. 3. People were visibly uncomfortable but kept it to themselves because, who is going to pick on a guy with a hauberk and sword in the woods?

[@VBirchwood]

Lol 🤣

[@justadude117X]

Youre an inspiration. Thank you.

[@Zach-hq3uh]

Thankyou for this. Im so afraid of what my partner would say if i started dressing like this but now i care a little less!

[@_scabs6669]

"Those are their thoughts, and thoughts are just thoughts." Beautifully put. Thanks for sharing this video. I think this advice goes for anyone who is ambitious, counter culture, who swims up stream. Thanks for bringing inspiration and calm.

[@2enigma8]

well I don't know if its because I am deaf and when the "backstabbers" say things I just don't hear it hahaha but if they have something nice to say, they say it to my face. but generally I just grew up with the mindset that being different was better so it NEVER bothered me what others say about my clothes and trust me I was an oddity. I believe if you carry it with confidence people will see that and respect you for it. or that's just been my personal experience..

[@VBirchwood]

I very much agree! Many will respect the differences and those who don’t, well it’s not personal as they probably have their own things going on 🥰

[@cnawan]

"You there! What year is it?"... "Damn, I overshot". :)

[@VBirchwood]

Hahahaha 😂

[@julieheath6335]

Thank you so much for this discussion. I'm sending it to my niece, who is studying psychology. Bet she'll love it!

[@VBirchwood]

That’s awesome Julie! I’m glad you enjoyed it that much 😊 I’m very passionate about psychology myself and my therapists over the past 5-6 years have helped so much.

[@gloriahanes5338]

I live your life through my home decor while enjoying the Victorian era in every aspect of my home. The only areas of modern conveniences would be the kitchen and bath, otherwise I live the Victorian era to the extreme with Victorian clutter of opulence. This is my comfort zone and my refuge where I find peace and tranquility.

[@VBirchwood]

This is great to hear Gloria 😊 I would never want to live in Victorian times personally (as I think many wouldn't for a number of reasons), but I do also really love the clutter of opulence and maximalism of the period (for the middle and upper classes of course, since it was different for the working and lower classes).

[@hemigod2]

You’re probably right about judgment being a natural part of the human brain. But from me, it wouldn’t be negative.. There are things that people do To others that just blows my mind because I certainly wouldn’t think to do them . I guess it’s my principles And values. I have was raised sartorial by a mother whom was like yourself , into vintage , and a military vet father.

[@AdamMclardy]

As a LARPer I’m prone to walking about in full pirate kit or even full Tudor garb and I just smile at them

[@VBirchwood]

Smiling is always a great way to respond too! 😊

[@lilykatmoon4508]

Wonderful advice! I'm wanting to start my journey into historical dress. I'm in my 50s and have often watched historical dramas internally lamenting that I can't dress like that. After having discovered the historical/vintage dress community, I am so inspired by all of y'all! Thank you for sharing your journey and advice!

[@xyz8512]

I love what you do.

[@chefdianenomore]

What a wonderful video. Thank you for sharing such uplifting words of encouragement. Your philosophy pertains to almost all aspects of expressing individuality, and I bless you for sharing it.

[@VBirchwood]

So glad you liked the video!

[@cydile]

What a lovely and beautiful video. The editing was superb and on point all the way through. I especially loved the closing of the book at the end. Predictable, maybe not the most original, but it felt exactly like the perfect ending to those shots of you reading. Sublime. What's interesting to me is that everything you said can be applied for almost any other situation where judgement from onlookers is unavoidable. Getting a tattoo, doing a sport others may think is silly, creating a KZbin channel or streaming on Twitch, delving into theatre or dancing performance, doing environmental work or protesting for a cause you believe in. Cosplay, steampunk, high fashion, cross-dressing, makeup or anything you wear, not just historical fashion. There are so many things we want to do, but never dare trying because of that fear of judgement. Because I think it's really just that, fear, holding us back for almost any new thing we know would go against the mainstream perception. Breaking through that fear is not easy, and it will take some time, but ultimately you will find that it was not that big of a deal after all. Why else do you think dressing up on Halloween does not feel all that weird at all? Perhaps the judgement we carry inside ourselves is the true obstacle. We are so caught up in the idea of what others *might* think that we never even get to the point where people can think anything at all. People will judge you no matter how you look, what you do or how you do it. Most never voice it. Perhaps they will if you try that thing you want to try, or perhaps they won't. Either way it's still only just thoughts and you are the only one who can put weight into those thoughts. Speaking from personal experience (mainly in the LGBTQ+ community and in moving to the other side of the world), you will usually find more love and support than anything else when expressing yourself in a new way. If you never try, think about all that love you will miss out on. That is real, in contrast to judgement and imagined thoughts that hold no power at all. I shall end my essay by answering the question in the video description; depression. I barely have the energy to dress myself at all, so I know I could not deal with a completely new style and type of wardrobe. One day, perhaps, I shall be able to sew my own historical garments and wear them proudly in public.

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you, Maia, for sharing all this! You're definitely right, there is so much possibility and opportunity to find love and acceptance, and sometimes in the most unexpected of places. It's a beautiful thing, and it makes all the risk in life worth it. I'm sorry to hear you experience depression (and all the challenges that come with it). I have a ton of empathy for what I imagine you're going through (without knowing first hand because, of course, I'm not in your shoes) due to my own mental health struggles, and they can just be so debilitating. So I wish you peace, recovery, strength, patience with yourself, and many other things. It's wonderful that you have that goal to hopefully work towards one day and always to stay focused on, in particular during your most difficult days. Sometimes just having a plan to do something in the future can make all the difference (along with having a support system that really cares and gets it). If you ever want to email and talk about it, just know that I am here and ready to listen (you can find my email on the About section of my channel 😊).

[@michaelsommers2356]

If asked why you are wearing something, I think the most appropriate response is, "Because I feel like it."

[@evadorotaczernekova6178]

Thank you so much for this video. It's wonderfully made and very helpful.

[@VBirchwood]

I'm glad to hear that! Thank you for your comment, Eva 😊

[@evadorotaczernekova6178]

@@VBirchwood you are always welcome 😇

[@feezlfuzzl564]

My biggest fear was people thinking I'm homophobic. I wear 1950s-style dresses, with big sleeves and big skirts. I didn't want people thinking I stood for something I didn't, and make other LGBTQ people uncomfortable. But, well, I don't know if I'm hurting someone else by what I wear. And it makes me SO happy! So I do wear my big, beautiful dresses. Most times I go out, literally nothing happens. I've never been criticized out loud before. Very rarely, a middle-aged man will stare like I'm weird, or an old man will smile--USUALLY not in a creepy way. But more often, people love my dresses. Especially old ladies, and younger queer people who think, "Ooh! Cottagecore Girlfriend!" Ironically, what I thought made me look homophobic, actually helps me make friends, and maybe more.

[@VBirchwood]

That's a very understandable concern, and it shows your care and kindness for the world which is a beautiful thing. I think too now there are so many blatantly a part of the "vintage style, not vintage values" movement, that there is the space to dress more old fashioned, and I think more often than not it's just seen now as artistic or even just quirky (and people like that are perceived I think as more open on the social front). I'm happy to hear though that you still decided to wear the clothes you wanted to regardless, and that it has been more of a positive thing!

[@elinordrake7129]

I love the suggestion of 'wearable art'! :) Definitely borrowing that!

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you! That’s wonderful 😊

[@JonasM.M.]

im most say thath your tendencie to working class clothing you seem to have at the moment is not all for me though this kind of clothing something the british sristocrazy would have worn somehting thaht looks like a piece of art which im shure it is is truly beautifull

[@jeanfranl305]

A wonderful video! So true! Often people are just "hurting" for whatever reason. Some people wish they had the courage, but can't or won't admit it. Perhaps they dealt with similar rejections. From my experience, telling "white lies" does not feel so good, but there are situations when it is better to use them. It all depends on the situation. I don't wear historical fashion every day, but I wish I could. I really wish I could sew them myself, and videos like yours are an inspiration!

[@vewok]

That scenery is amazing and goes perfectly with the amazing message. I started wearing historically inspired clothing that could pass as modern enough, but I stopped caring about what others think. I like the way you dress, and your decision to dress historically inspires me to be more daring and wear what I really want to. Thank you sooo much!

[@VBirchwood]

This is all very kind of you to say, thank you very much! 😊

[@rubylace9963]

I think what I'm most afraid of is being laughed at. I think I'd rather someone say something rude than being seen as a joke.

[@kevinromaine]

I love that you’re openly left-handed! Seriously, it was one of the things that divided me from my peers in school, but it’s a core part of who I am. As someone who is socially transitioning, I love your attire. I might find the energy to make myself a new outfit this year, and you are such an inspiration.

[@juanduque7983]

i need more historical wardrobe (only have 2 short tunics and one pair of pants) as i found it to be more comfortable than modern clothing, only benefit i found to modern clothing was the easy of put on/take off

[@ofirshorshy8281]

OH wow this is so beautiful!!! It does incorage me to order some traditional clothing I don't dare to wear because I am not in Europe and people will not understand. I want to wear traditional european, mainly north and western Europe. I have a romanian head band that is traditional in Romania, over there I felt comportable to have it on my head, as other also (mainly old women ) were also using this traditonal head band, but when I came back to my "over progressive" country I felt as if I cannot wear it anymore becouse people will laught at me being "ganndma like" and i am 27 . AndI didn't use it almost at all since (alomost a year) and it is such a same becouse I love this head bend so much, and it does remind me of my soul more than my "normal clothing" and of who I want to be. This really inspires me to try and wear this traditional clothing once more.

[@wordsmithgmxch]

How would one say, in the 18th or 19th century -- or would one -- YOU GO, GIRL!!!

[@kaoskronostyche9939]

A large, masculine escort dressed in kind carrying a formidable Blackthorn walking stick at your side would change the character of the attention drawn. Upon arrival in my new city I shall hire myself to the local historical fashion interest groups for outings and excursions. Now to order that cool walking stick ...

[@karolinaprofaska3074]

Very helpful, but still it's hard for me. Even if I'm not wearing historical. I love long dresses different than common ones and I can't feel completly confident 😣😥 I want to feel good and not attract unnecessary attention, i.e. I hate when someone looks at me as a weirdo.

[@Sputterbug]

ive never been criticized for it (yet) but people asked me if i was in a play once. and i went out in garb after ren fest day was over and someone said "nice outfit" i said "thanks i just got back from ren fest" they went "yeah obviously. no one would wear that otherwise" i was like, wow, rude. well they probably didnt mean it that way but they're so confident about it and yet so painfully incorrect lol for the most part people stare silently or say i look cool/nice

[@rustyclam238]

I for one find you very refreshing. You are very smart and articulate, and quite the craftsman and your videos are superb. I wish that we were friends. It would be such fun.

[@Belisarius1648]

I have worn landsknecht clothing when in public and most people give me stares, but very few people have even asked me what im wearing, But almost no negative talk.

[@officiallymrp]

I'd say it also depends where one lives... Country side? City? I live in deep country side and whenever I have public events to attend, I tend to leave the house already settled up and I've been lucky enough to have lifts to train stations. After that, some people who are not that zombies by their phones or lives, some do look (specially kids) but no one approaches directly, or rarely do. On the streets tourists do engage. Beggars also, they spend 5 min naming all the historical characters they know or remember (they just don't ask a photo....) ... Lol

[@dianesmigelski5804]

Great advice. Thank you for the tips. They can help in other aspects of our lives as well. 👍😊

[@alennabraley1115]

I enjoy dressing up as my pirate character in my novel sometimes. It's neat that you wear historical everyday.

[@catherineleslie-faye4302]

Lovely outfit... I is there a pattern available for the jacket? I would love to have one.

[@josephstevens9888]

V. Birchwood - as a young woman, you sound wise beyond your years. Good luck and be true to yourself!

[@bunnoffiber]

This is honestly a beautiful video and made me cry in a good way. thank you

[@captainkenzie6873]

My thoughts are, If someone has a problem with the way you look that's their problem not yours.

[@paulvink1992]

Thanks for sharing this message 🙏

[@bunnybgood411]

When I was in college at CU Boulder I wore mostly historical-adjacent clothes that I designed myself. I am an artist and I was my own sculpture. I got a lot of flak, mostly from other women-- even in the costuming department! CU Boulder was not avant garde or the bastion of bohemia I'd imagined to be. The college uniform was blue jeans and hiking boots, even if the only thing they hiked were the steps of the student union. I hiked a lot myself and only rarely dressed as Galleria in the mountains, lol. Personally I love to see y'all in historical costume, and anything unique and creative.

[@bunnybgood411]

Dressed as GALADRIEL, not galleria! 😂

[@halfsourlizard9319]

Things that others say can only hurt you to the extent that you value what they say.

[@Strange9952]

I would say try and also blend in a bit, sticking out and getting stared at isn't great for our minds as a social species

[@sirarthurfiggis]

You are the coolest person who has ever existed. This outfit needs a concealed Queen Anne pistol in case someone doesn't come correct

[@ryanshoaff5471]

I want to wear a tricorne hat and sit by a stream reading my grimoires

[@larisa8490]

Omg ….to be judged because you wear some clothes doesn’t matter what kind of clothes …..WTF IS GOING ON WITH THIS STUPID WORLD????? I love history of fashion from old ages….is very elegant and beautiful …..YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND VERY SMART!!!! Thank you for your videos!!!!

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you very much! People always have (and potentially always will) judge others for whatever reason, and the reasons always change depending on so many factours. Which is why it's important I think to learn to embrace oneself regardless of the judgement, because there's a good chance some form of it will always be there.

[@richardhsiung7007]

I'm old, so if I wore period wear, no body will notice.

[@huntclanhunt9697]

Hard choice in life that this made me face: Which historical hat should I get first?

[@thomashankelbjerg72]

thank you so much for giving the world more ❤

[@goonercestlavie]

Très jolie scène. Finding yourself, being yourself, thriving. 🌅✨☀️🌈

[@VBirchwood]

Exactement! Merci ☺️

[@goonercestlavie]

@@VBirchwood De rien, great message, you picked a nice quote and the sceneries are beautiful. And you do look like a princess. La vérité sort de la bouche des enfants. 🧚

[@VBirchwood]

Merci! Oui, c’est la vérité.

[@melaniewilding9716]

So lovely! You brightened my day! Xo

[@susanne4028]

Wonderful. Thank you.....💚🩵💙

[@edi9892]

How about your job, or any official event?

[@rachaelj13]

This is one of the most beautiful videos I've ever watched! Gorgeous job on the filming & editing, it was so peaceful. ☺️ I am getting more confident in wearing what I want the older I get. However, I'm sometimes held back by the thought that since I am not conventionally beautiful or thin that I don't have the same allowance to be different. I'm trying to overcome that assumption, and embrace my size, looks & historybounding. I like the thought of wearing art. 💜💜💜

[@VBirchwood]

Thank you so much Rachael! It’s totally understandable that you feel like that sometimes, especially with the way contemporary society makes us feel, as if we all aren’t enough and we need to fix something. It’s so wonderful to hear that you are embracing who you are for you, because honestly, screw conventional size and beauty. I feel like it’s just an illusion anyways and is based so much on subjective experience and also what’s trending at the time. I think you’re absolutely beautiful! 😊

[@rachaelj13]

@@VBirchwood thank you so much!! And, at very least, we have this little online community to befriend. Thank you for making this video. ❤️

[@VBirchwood]

That’s very true! I’d say having this little community goes a very long way. It’s my pleasure, thank you for watching 💕

[@nathaliesaisons]

Thank you so much for this !

[@VBirchwood]

My pleasure! Thanks for watching 😊

[@jaynedavies2757]

that river is amazing, where is it?

[@jackhamlett68]

I wear homemade 19th century/Amish clothes every single day. I have done this for 16 years straight now except for several times when I have worn 18th century clothes when portraying ministers such as George Whitefield and John Wesley. Jack

[@landomilknhoney]

❤

[@cyndih4720]

I would be like, "oooo! I love that. What you're wearing is so cool!" And then I'd make you stand there while I looked at everything and then I'd ask you a bunch of questions. 🤭 I love seeing period clothing. It's pretty, and neat to learn about what people used to wear. If I chose a time period, it would be the Regency era and the 1940s-1950s. I think some people just like to make fun of things they don't understand or think is not as good as what they do. Just pride.

[@cyndih4720]

@Chrissy 123 hi Chrissy, I don't know your age, but are you highschool? The reason I ask is because I went through those feelings when I was younger, so I completely understand. But I want to share something with you that might encourage you. I was entirely too conscious at that time about what others thought of me and now I can look back and see how it really doesn't matter what people like that think about what you look like or wear. No one can validate you as a person, especially on the basis of what you look like or clothing. You have value and are special just simply because of who you are. Those others who look at you or treat you differently have not learned that lesson yet, but most will at some point, hopefully sooner than later. I still have those feelings come back from time to time, but I've gotten so much stronger when I remember reality. When you pass from this earth, you don't take your clothes with you, only your love, your character and lessons you've learned along the way. You are beautiful and loved simply because you are, because God created you and smiled when he made you. I hope speaking about God doesn't offend you, but that's what I believe and the reason I have become a stronger person. I wish you the best in your life. Remember your beauty and value comes from within 🦋💓☺️