INFJ, THIS IS HOW YOU GET PEOPLE TO RESPECT YOU | Stand On Business

[@Wenzes]

How do you deal with people who you can‘t/don‘t want to escape and still want to create a harmonious environment as an INFJ?

[@vivianebuelens9512]

I leave them ! 7:14

[@infjmale91]

This is a paradox. Most INFJs hate people but love humans. How to get people to respect you? Why? Who cares what other people think? You live your life & that's it. Do other people control what you do, what you wear, what you eat ect? If the answer is yes, you have removed the freedom & beauty of life. Other people are just selfish, ignorant & broken. Once you can be completely in Nirvana without others; the world becomes yours. Sure it's lonely but I trust myself more than ANYONE.

[@bymysense3861]

This is exactly what is happening to me. In my job there is a female coworker who divides people in to two groups - people who are weak and she can do whatever she wants do with them to use them to let her personality shine, and the others. And everybody who is not willing to play her game is devaluate it from her side almost each time you do, express or say something. She has to be involved in every situation or conversation to control what is happening. I pushed her away with strong approach the very first day I was at this new job. It was not cool reaction, I strongly feel what people are doing and i dont like people who conduct other peoples lifes to control them or use them. My weakness was that I still played the nice naive girl, whi needs a strong women around. But she was impossible all the year and then something happend and she ultimately crossed my boundaries. Now she is suffering a lot because my cup just got full with this her game and I am not allowing her to use this false personality she has. I am thinking one thing, that the solution for this would be straight talk with her about our situation and tell her what I am about and what not to do to me to not push me into that approach peeling off her fake personality every time she uses agains others or agains me. That required be brave, I am collecting bravery for this. Because I still want that we both feel good and happy at work that we both like, there is no reason why we should not enjoy it the most. And I am sorry for her. I am really sorry that she lost what made her happy, that she lost place where she was shining and thriving like she likes. But it was against others and against me. Every person around her has to be small and weak, or being devaluate in almost every sentence from her site. She really should not crossed my boundaries. Now it is too late for her.

[@sgustavsson2674]

I usually just laugh lightly with a smile call them out on out on BS in a funny way. (Ex: Wow! It must be hard living so perfectly that you feel the right to say such things. How do you do it? LOL! )

[@sigmainfjbulgaria4478]

You have to know that harmony doesn't always mean good relations. Harmony is also keeping away people who can't take you for who you are and there are no healthy and harmonious relations possible. Harmony and healthy boundaries are actually one and the same.

[@prschuster]

I must remind myself; I'm not the reason they suffer.

[@braxtonmills1235]

I don't know about y'all but I'm very proud of Wenzes. I love her authenticity and growth. It's Good.

[@Wenzes]

thanks Braxton :) I appreciate it !

[@staciehaneline9533]

I struggle so much with this. It's important to me to maintain a certain level of humility, but when people realize that I'm actually confident and comfortable with who I am they do get triggered. Then they try to trigger me and when it doesn't work it pisses them off even more.

[@wendydaniel1110]

"My alone feels so good. I'll have you only if you're sweeter than my solitude " ❤

[@yvettepatterson156]

“We tap into something that is universal truth.” Amen, we sure do. We pay the price for calling it out but that is our job, we raise consciousness. Great observation Wenzes.

[@katerinarevinthi1909]

When we feel our best they experience it as personal attack 06:48

[@bamgold4677]

​@@katerinarevinthi1909Yes the evil ones do.

[@geetu1]

As you quite rightly pointed out I used to make myself small and it just got worse. After 45+ years (it took a while and a lot of punches) I noticed that it’s no longer an issue since I stand firm and sometimes I don’t even have to say anything, the look of disgust says it all and people literal have shaken in their boots 😂

[@SECRETPURPOSE]

Amen

[@leilanoorani2976]

Yes, my family patterns - i inadvertently “make them (feel) wrong”. So I tried to win them over, was caring and helpful, despite their jealousy, competitiveness, scapegoating. I did blame myself. But then I woke up, actively pushing against back, but that too did not end well. They doubled down, smearing me to every family member. After years of exhausting abuse, including discovering their stealing from me (the latest), and a lot of deep introspection on my part, it looks like I’m about to enter in a lawsuit against them. This is a real challenge to my INFJ lower functions (my Si in particular).

[@bamgold4677]

Yyayayayayayayayayayaya I'm so happy about this. Yes lawsuit time.

[@sheilagavin8281]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@mrstanton81]

We stay in our own lane... Having boundaries and discernment is a must. 💯

[@marcp.1752]

So true. ❤

[@SG-xw8js]

People think I think so highly of myself..I am so arrogant and rude.. That's why I don't interact with them... But the truth is I can't interact with each and everyone even if I want to... So they show me attitude unnecessarily and avoid me at all cost...

[@ellenchristie9608]

me too, even my children who knew how much I loved them while being raised and now they all keep away from me, hell I havn't spoken to my daughter in 6.5 yrs and it's killing me, I havn't even met her children, my g/children, i'm heart broken and smashed.

[@RubyLeth-r5k]

someone had a nerve to tell me that I think I am a know it all and dont want to be told. Tip of the iceberg, surface level. Only if they knew how much knowledge I had and how stubborn I can be 😅

[@PenelopePitstop0078]

“….really getting on your last nerve.” I say this often.😁But, generally, the STARE can often neutralize that, and I then just ignore that individual.

[@SupaMac1002]

I love how its so easy to crush others & not even use our full power

[@g.i.r.l.]

I hate it. I wish we could just be without crushing anyone

[@SupaMac1002]

@@g.i.r.l. I know that sucks too. Bc they usually bring it to us first. Not even being able to bully us lol.

[@ls-a-fl2zi]

I really needed to hear this today. I had to stay home today because of the mental stress of dealing with a micromanaging boss who is trying harder to control me daily the more she realizes that I cant be controlled. My hope is to respectfully share tomorrow that it needs to stop, or I will need to resign for my mental safety. I already have a plan in place if I need to take a break from working for a month or two to figure out what type of job is feasible for me to be in as me. Thank you for this video.

[@PenelopePitstop0078]

🥹sorry you’re experiencing this: classic personality clash. It happens, unfortunately you realize this only after you chose to take the job. Protect your mental peace, yes ma’am❣️

[@bamgold4677]

Choose what your best at in the job. Tell your doing great. The more you give in the more she wants. Apply for tons of jobs. When you leave the company mention her as the reason you left. The don't use it on your resume.

[@bamgold4677]

War time.

[@annastone5624]

Just to add a perspective. I don’t think micromanaging is a personality clash. one person who is over-controlling, negatively impacting another.

[@PenelopePitstop0078]

@@annastone5624 it could be that person’s personality quirk to micromanage.

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

I can't be changed.

[@jasonkrick1614]

Respect yourself, treat others with respect. ‘If’ the other person has similar respect beliefs. Then respect happens. If it doesn’t. Be polite and know that you tried and do your best to not be sucked into their world of negativity and destructiveness. See how simple my solutions are. Btw. It works everything time. Every. Time.

[@Sallie_O]

I’m finding it ever more difficult to earn a living as a self employed person - being a genuine and peaceful human. The fact that we have so much warmth and understanding to offer is disturbing.

[@tvrmfix]

I've been self employed for years & experienced the best & worst of people. I stood up to one client & it worked, they actually came round to accept what I was saying & were more respectful. Others were not so able to stop & think about the way they behaved, causing much grief, so choosing to lose them for future work was not a problem, There will always be good & bad, just be yourself & try to read their game (of they have one) before it gets too out of control - be in control ;o)

[@Sallie_O]

@@tvrmfixAs long as I earn enough money to maintain a basic standard of living, I’m good. I will not tolerate behaviour now that I wasn’t discerning enough to understand would lead to turmoil in my thirties. There are so many reprobate minds today. Lack of self awareness and emotional maturity is systemic in society. I appreciate your response. 🤍

[@bamgold4677]

​@@tvrmfixYes business can be crazy.

[@MrRuandewet]

Beautifull dress and great message!!

[@marinamayer6920]

Probably it's a coincidence, because I'm taking pretty much care of my own life, but it feels like Wenzes is narrating my weeks.

[@R.S-1986]

As you grow smarter, the amount of bs you can tolerate gets equally lower 😅.

[@7goldglamour777]

There's a fine line when you reach the point of having a low tolerance for bs, to simply avoiding any chance of it altogether.

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Yep

[@marcp.1752]

Zero tolerance for BS & FUD. 💯

[@martindavid1972]

I expected 'money stuff' just by the title, but.. you're able to explain such important thing so clearly. Hit the spot, thank you so much. You look amazing, it seems like it's underlining importance of this message.

[@bamgold4677]

Money is important.

[@manipura_sun]

What then when they come back at you with, "Oh, you think you're so perfect?!..."

[@_amelianogueira]

Percebemos coisas tão claramente que outros parecem cegos. Ir contra essa percepção pra agradar quem quer que seja, é ir contra nossa própria natureza e pura estupidez. Mas quantas vezes já agimos assim com medo de desagradar? Acredito que precisamos insistir em nossa verdade até que se torne normal pra nós, sem ficarmos nos lamentando ou nos culpando, não porque "ferimos" alguém, mas por termos nos sentido rejeitados de alguma forma ou incompreendidos. Ame-se e se aceite, abrace a si mesmo. Fique bem com quem você é. Apoie-se, viva sua essência até se sentir seguro ao fazer isso. As pessoas depois perceberão que não podem te intimidar com dramas. Isso será um amadurecimento pra todas as partes envolvidas. Obrigada pelo video! (Brasil)

[@larryb1903]

Great message Im really struggling with exactly this, with my parents atm I really dont know how to deal with them, i trigger them constantly. They have never understood me

[@braxtonmills1235]

What did they do.?.

[@sagebay2803]

Boundaries. I listen to Michael Singer here on youtube. His videos help ground me and keep me strong. Hope this helps.

[@bamgold4677]

​@@sagebay2803Good idea.

[@Joohee4]

I can’t tell you how many jobs I’ve had that I’ve left because I’ve been unethically competed against. It’s exhausting.

[@zaylinstar8883]

Going through it now, need lawyers.

[@Lisa-w7j]

Insanely accurate. It's sad that people get so defensive and often reject INFJ's when INFJ's are just diligent and benevolent individuals.

[@Joohee4]

I’ve only recently started finally giving myself permission to be different and it’s so freeing. ❤

[@galespressos]

Right, I do see it as a weakness and do not respect others when others disrespect me, want me to be less, and try to cut down. Have always been that way though was fortunate as it rarely happened, but suddenly got deluged. Surprised people respect that kind of cutting down others to be higher attitude. Nice talk today from Wenzes. 🙏 😊

[@matthewsolidum3494]

Learned a lot from this video ❤️. This is what I've gone through for years and I didn't even realized Im doing this on autopilot /it became a habit to me especially the part of "expressing myself aunthentically triggers a lot of people" i feel like it's my fault and felt guilty doing it. That's why I dimmed my light. Thru your videos, im practicing integrating all part of myself especially the ones that I've been suppressing and hiding throughtout the years. Thanks wenzes for awakening us to become a better version of ourselves as an INFJ 🤗❤️

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

Same here

[@PenelopePitstop0078]

May the insight you gain set you free❣️

[@matthewsolidum3494]

@@sunshinesunflowerz1647 we can definitely do the hard things as wenzes said 🤗

[@matthewsolidum3494]

@@PenelopePitstop0078 yes i agree 👏🤗

[@hurtjonnegut]

Off topic, but you look fantastic!

[@Wenzes]

Oh thank you!

[@RubyLeth-r5k]

Its the codependence that I had to fight for me. Reminding myself that I am responsible for my own joy, peace, satisfaction... the lesser I expect these from others, the more authentic I live my life.

[@ZetsubouBlack]

off-topic, but super nice shirt!

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

Be all that I am.

[@IRACAROLINA2001]

Dearest Wenzes, thank you so much for this video. I have watched it repeatedly and will keep re-watching it. It is an eye awakening video. Thank you very much. Have a great day to you and your loved ones.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Wenzes]

So glad it‘s helpful ❤️

[@882517]

Thank you so much for this video!The only thing that still scares me is; what if someone gets so upset when I show my truth that he/she is trying to hurt me.

[@SECRETPURPOSE]

They'll probably be too terrified of you

[@bamgold4677]

Become hateful yes.

[@steppentofortune7934]

Shine your light so bright the darkness has no choice but to flee

[@pietrogrimaldi5711]

What a nice dress

[@julitols2082]

Never have I ever felt so understood. This video helped me so much, I'm in tears right now. I always wanted to set boundaries unconsciously but every time had to fight this inner "codex of being", basically inner bully that kept bringing me back to people pleasing and abandonment of the authentic me.

[@Wenzes]

❤️‍🩹

[@deborahcole593]

Thank you so much!!! This is exactly what I’m dealing with and I thought, let me see if Wenzes has a video to help and it’s exactly this. I seriously want to tell this person they need to stop trying to make me feel small or we are going to have a serious problem.

[@bamgold4677]

It will happen.

[@nickalexander4431]

I've certainly experienced alot of what you are describing especially about holding up a confronting mirror for people and inadvertently causing triggers

[@sansypansy4999]

thank you Wenzes. I really needed to hear this today. I have a difficult situation to deal with at my music group in about an hour. This has helped a lot. I just want to stay in my own skin. 💓xx

[@braxtonmills1235]

What was the situation?.

[@Scaredycat55]

Thank you

[@davidrahman389]

Incredible information and I agree and live this reality in many of my interactions with people in the professional environment..

[@SheenaPangonis]

Nice 😊

[@PenelopePitstop0078]

Extra powerful message today❣️

[@anthony-e6g]

Haha. This is excellent advice for anyone who is already leading an innate lonely existence, that wishes to be even lonelier. 🤣🤣 I've been on this course for a long time and it's just getting lonelier. At best, 2/10 people aren't immediately triggered by me. And some of those 2's are simply cause I was being lazy in my convictions when we met. It is great for all that face this to understand that it's not that they're defective (because we already live in that house of feeling that, all the time), that it isn't them. I wear a shirt. It says on the back "it's not me, it's you", and I get compliments constantly. Meanwhile I'm laughing because I mean it's them, and they're too ridiculous (to use a nice word) to understand that. I'll add that since I started down this path... meaning when I stopped naturally catering to everyone's needs. I realized how ignorant people truly can be. And exist like that for a lifetime. Sure I always kind of knew, but now it's clear as day. And that, my friends, is one of the saddest things I've had to accept. I personally, learned to lean into the skid. I am definitely seen as an a hole. And it's intentional now. I'd much rather be seen like that than to continue to be the world's punching bag for the most nonsensical of reasons. The older I get the more and more I'm drawn to solitude. It started as my go to coping mechanism. But I'd rather debate or discuss things with my ever nearing insanity, mind, than to become dumber by engaging with the everyday person. I may seem angry. I mean, I am, but no one knows that. 😄😄 The mbti has been great, but it's also a terrible means to justify my askew logic and stay trapped in spots for way too long. Idk how you do it, cause whenever I ask people about their mbti 7/10 claim infj (I'm not asking about it to the estp crowd 😁). And I can't help to judge them (in as much a way as I can) because they lied on a personality test. Either lied on it or lied about what they got. It's easy to see that they aren't. I do think though, I operate so far outside the lines that people may think the same about me. Thing is, it doesn't matter to me like it does to them. I'm always happy to call them out on it. Ok. I am through with my rant. Back to bottling my shh up for another 364 days or 12 years until I just can't take anymore. I love your content and am equally frustrated by how well you put it together in such a coherent way in such small windows. I saw the prestige, and I'm thinking you may be twins! 😆😆 Oh sorry, spoiler alert for the movie.

[@rosezaz6607]

So right on. Thank you, Wenzes.

[@Heatlthiswealthinexile]

Sigma INFJ: I was hoping for a battle of the Witt's but, most appear completely unarmed. Sigma, parts of the sum equals 3, = 4. Sigma 5 an object equals it's mass times it's acceleration, quantities indicated standard inherent friction. Deviations of human population probabilities and it's distribution individually that follows a pattern that comes from delta. A classification that belongs to a trine element T3 for humans who are considered above and outside the hierarchical diffusion. Indicating Summation of the numbers or quantities of sigma electrons. Indicates a product of values, items with their corresponding frequencies and dimensions all squared deviations from the mean of humans and it's dogma. That indicates such a change in it's psychological variables, increments of the population, a mean sum of all scores present in population. It's a logical conjunction which is equivalent to the operational elements in statement. A set of the sum techniques of character and archetype INFJ. The strongest covalent chemical are sigma electrons, atomic orbitals, sigma a constant in Hammett's equation. Rough draft, whatcha think 🤔, hows that sound ? Don't know if I could date an INFJ Female my mind might be consumed by her beauty.... 😎

[@TheLordsbattleaxe]

I agree with what you say.

[@Ron_Boy]

Wenzes, I found your channel about a month ago and have been watching daily. This video is stellar, laced with wisdom and insights. Like so many of your other videos, what you share here makes perfect sense as soon as I hear it, but I really struggle to find these truths on my own. Really can't find the words to express my gratitude for your work -- and for sharing it -- but it has been life-altering for me after years of struggle. Thank for all you do....

[@luciana1930]

Thank you, it helps a lot

[@wendydaniel1110]

"Standing on business" means you are choosing to honour living in your truth regardless of how others feel.... Peace of mind and self respect is a non negotiable ❤

[@tamikajackson4977]

I can relate to so much of what you stated! Spot on here! I’m dealing with this scenario in a work environment! Thanks for the vid👍🏾

[@braxtonmills1235]

What happened how did It go.

[@vincentkretzschmar4988]

It's amazing you counsel us thru these vids. Feels myself relaxing as you describe this objectivity

[@yanamclaughlin]

Fantastic video. Your talks just get better and better. This one is especially difficult for me and your perspective has given me fresh encouragement

[@slycloutiermusic]

Very insightful. Super well articulated. This is great

[@RubyLeth-r5k]

Thank you Wenzes❤

[@rebeccalouise81]

Great video Wenzes 😊 spot on!

[@corporaterobotslave400]

Wow Wenzes love your look today: you've got that IT girl fashion & hair. I'm looking for actors for my next horror thriller, if you're interested or know anyone who is. This was one of your best videos ever. Thank you.

[@Giovanni-o3h]

Thank you

[@MylezNevison]

"Stand on business!" That intro caught me off guard fr.😂 Great video though! It's weird, l'm literally going through a volatile co-worker situation & you described it as though you've been watching us. Perfect timing!

[@Wenzes]

😅

[@bamgold4677]

She's cute and fly and knows the lingo.

[@karlarodriguez6085]

I really like your content and I was wondering if you have encountered someone who's an INJF + HSP?

[@bamgold4677]

Of course :).

[@sheila.pretty]

First, I just wanted to tell that I love your outfit and hairstyle ❤ It suits you so well ❤ Thank you again for new video❤

[@realizationstation2173]

Thank you, sis

[@Eleerm]

Thank you, Wenzes! I really needed this message.

[@braxtonmills1235]

Love your profile photo

[@suegleeson4392]

Best video ever! Go wenzes go!

[@Candyliz2003]

This is the scary part if you've learned from an early age to put others first.

[@Wenzes]

Super scary

[@adatybor]

Super good and true words. I like how you always compress essential points into a few minutes! Thank you for your perspective! And how could it be otherwise, similar thoughts crossed my mind. Sometimes that can be scary. Fortunately, I like that. And you look wonderful in that outfit! 🎇💎

[@ellenchristie9608]

NIce TOP x

[@vincentkretzschmar4988]

So glad that I freelance from home and live alone so I don't have to deal with this. Should be paid more to put up with this person haha

[@evbemma33]

Iam an inrtovert I need a lot of peace, psychological safety. At work when i dont behave as others loud gossips sarcazm I am excluded from the group. It happens few times already. So its difficult to be yourself.

[@RisingRemnantOfEphraim]

People start crying when you stand on business

[@gabrielWachong]

Pecs, biceps, bruised knuckles and a mean face 💪💪🔥🔥🔥

[@mlbullbooks]

🦋💯👍

[@TheGameSeekers]

pretty eyes😊 pretty dress.

[@Wenzes]

Thank you! 😊

[@danielkenpo4052]

💯🤝✅

[@sherimc4869]

🎯🎯🎯🎯💥

[@UnbreakableGhost]

But I'm too nice :/

[@bamgold4677]

Your too good.

[@stevenjohns-savage7024]

😡. Hahahaha 😃😡. It's a EGO WAR.😡. I'm SMARTER 😑