What ADHD Is Really Like - It's More Than Poor Attention

[@DrTraceyMarks]

LISTEN WITH NO MUSIC!!! You can now listen without the music by tapping on the settings wheel and choosing the English (United States) Audio. You will watch the same video but only the speech track WITHOUT music.

[@Callumxfisher]

thanks dr marks thats incredible!

[@moongoddess1978]

Thank you ❤

[@moongoddess1978]

That is a LOT better! I had no issues getting through it with no music. 😊

[@GldnClaw]

Thank You. Also, what baffles me the most is that some aspects of ADHD I don't seem to have at all (such as being early to places/events, rather than late), but when I have a negative aspect, it's particularly intense (Working Memory and Cognitive Flexibility). Any thoughts?

[@cecilialucas3307]

Omg, that was such a relief!

[@kelseastovall5613]

Damn. This video almost made me cry. I am 27 and was recently diagnosed with a ADHD primarily hyperactive/impulsive type. My whole life I felt like a failure in society even though I was always busting my butt and have always had a VERY strong desire to succeed. I’ve switched jobs every 3-5 months for the last 10 years, each time starting out with starry eyes and for the first month Or so at each job I would do so well that some of my managers would even promote me. But things would quickly fall apart as I could no longer pretend to be “normal”. This would lead to making many mistakes throughout the course of the day, even if it’s something redundant. Eventually it always leads to a severe mental breakdown or feelings of dissociation. Then I’d leave the job or get taken off the schedule, to move on to a new job and the same vicious cycle over and over. I’ve always said that the only jobs I TRULY thrived in were the seasonal jobs I worked at, which were pop-up stores. I was a manager at each season for a few years, loved it. The jobs aren’t the only thing in my life I’ve failed at incessantly, but it was relevant to this topic. I was beginning to doubt my diagnosis because I thought maybe I was just a worthless and terrible person who was doomed to fail in all aspects of life. and then I saw this video and I am reassured that I’m doing the right thing by seeking treatment, taking medication, and starting ADHD coaching pretty soon. I’m currently in between jobs and I hope to find some job to stimulate my mind that I can actually keep. Thanks for making these videos ♥️♥️

[@LilyOfTheTower]

Wow this is very hard to read because A: you poor thing, trying do hard and thinking you're a failure. And B: it sounds like me at that age. I'm 41 now and I gave up on trying to fit in. Luckily I'm able to be a stay at home mom but I struggle with self esteem issues because I "never made anything of myself". Finding out late in life that you are different and require different ways to do things is hard. My goal has been to raise my children the best I can and really help them navigate life to avoid my mistakes. I hope you are doing better and you are back to working hard but for yourself and not to try to keep your head above water.

[@Nivieee]

I know it's been 8 months since you posted that comment, but I relate so much to it. That feeling of being a fraud when you are appreciated at work, cause you know it's a facade... i know it all too well and I feel you! ❤

[@avril.227]

No one is worthless, regardless, the struggle is real and occasionally stressful. You’re not alone. 🙂 Im a jack of all trades at 50, and I still don’t have a burning desire for any realistic occupation. I have simply chosen not to judge myself by my success in occupations - my true happiness is focusing on my hobbies.

[@mightymintychili8411]

:( pretty much the same

[@PuddilyOops]

This is why being a costume designer in a theatre is the perfect job for me. It’s always a “new” job every 6 months. Heck it’s a new job every week actually. Even my job-job that pays, which unfortunately theatre does not, machine operator changes from hour to hour so it isn’t boring. Jobs where you aren’t doing same thing over and over and working with the same people, like carpentry, plumbing, auto mechanic are perfect for a short attention span/hyper focus mind set. Unfortunately they heavily sell the college track and snub blue collar in schools. It does everyone a great disservice people suited to those jobs and society that needs people to do them.

[@kellykilander1885]

Omg I hate meetings and paperwork. I feel like I am going to die. Like my soul is being sucked out. I have never had anyone articulate it so well. You hit the nail in the head. You are a very good doctor

[@lady4recovery]

🧚

[@JamesThomas-pv5en]

Yeh me too paperwork all around me is an absolute nightmare for me 😢

[@abbyegbo]

This is me 😂

[@alexquinn795]

ADHD is hard when something doesn’t seem to be intriguing. I found things I was interested in I could focus more on and things I wasn’t interested in ended up not being bothered and giving up easily on.

[@macmedic892]

The music is a little loud and distracting.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Ok thanks for letting me know

[@DrTraceyMarks]

How ironic that I make a video about attention then put distracting music in there. 🙂

[@BitterQueenSassyPants]

hahaha! I can't block out the music... Funny because sometimes I work quite well with trance or classical music playing in the background, but when listening to verbal input, background music makes it quite impossible (though sometimes humorous) to pay attention. :)

[@LunaGer]

I was here to say the same! Odd choice for a video on ADHD 🧐

[@jadeauburn9220]

I didn't even notice! I'm usually very sensitive to noise. Maybe it's my computer!

[@raymondlewis2484]

I've only been diagnosed about a year, but since then I can see how clear it's been throughout my life I have ADD. Extremely hyper as a child, easily bored, smart yet a slacker/underachiever/lazy...ect. Being diagnosed with ADD made things seem not so bad at first because I understood that I am trying hard, but comparing myself to others who do not have ADD was eating me up on the inside. Recently I have come to understand that I have many strengths being ADD. I am awesome at working with my hands. I can pretty much fix anything, and anything I can't I become so hyper focused on it that I'll buy a text book read it, learn it then fix it anyway. Learning to work with my strengths, and not beating myself up for my flaws has really helped me come along way in dealing with the issues that noone talks about that come from being undiagnosed for so long.

[@FvckTheFvckingSystem]

I had a very similar experience growing up... I wish it could have been recognized and treated..

[@walida8885]

Raymond Lewis I had the same as a child. My kindergarten teacher saw that and advised my mom to check if I have add/adhd but my mom thought that was ridiculous and now here I am, failing school :)

[@Cjinla777]

Amazing video! I feel like inattentive type often gets overlooked. I was diagnosed a year ago at 28, and in retrospect the signs were always there, but since I wasn't "hyperactive" and developed some (possibly harmful) coping mechanisms to get through school with good grades, I never thought ADD fit what I was going through. One of my earliest memories is when we started doing timed math tests in 1st or 2nd grade. The pressure of focusing, especially under that time limit, would cause my thoughts to go everywhere but down to my paper and I would break down in tears every test. I got in so much trouble (and I'm such a people pleaser that this was the worst possible punishment to me) and eventually learned to practically beat myself up mentally and essentially summon an adrenaline response in order to pull focus for short periods of time. This tactic stuck with me all throughout college and into my working life, and whenever I would have to do a task that required sustained concentration I would feel exhausted and crash after. This felt like going into a fight or flight mode, and as I got more reliant on it I would get pain from constantly tensing my muscles, and I would become increasingly agitated to minor distractions like other people's music, chewing, etc. Classmates and co-workers could always tell when I was having an "episode" of attempting to focus because I'd be massaging my neck, looking around, tapping my feet (hypocritical since I would give dirty looks when other people did it lol). Around college I also developed extremely bad anxiety and my concentration symptoms got even worse especially in regard to social life, following/engaging in conversations, even being able to follow movie plots, etc. I got treated for anxiety, but it actually seemed to make things worse. I was still unable to focus, I just cared less about it, which was horrible for my work. Once I got treated for ADD it was that "light bulb" moment, and my doctor was surprised to find that it also helped a good amount of my anxiety (she thought it would make it worse, so she was at first reluctant to medicate). It seems like most of my anxiety was from having (or worrying about my perception of having) a "foggy" brain and not being able to cohesively string thoughts together in order to function in social settings, complete tasks, function at work, etc.

[@amyrowles1486]

Really enjoyed your story. Well put together, clear, and very informative. Glad you've got your diagnosis and thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I related a lot to this.

[@adamfreiholtz929]

This comment was so spot on that I had to screen shot and save it. Except some minor details this sounds like I wrote it… I think I developed some insane coping and masking techniques, that in the long run has made the situation much worse. I just turned 46 and I’m seeing a doctor about possible ADD next week. I really wish I know more about this condition before so I could have done something about it. I’m really hoping I get a “light bulb” moment as well.

[@z5scott]

THE TIMED MATH TESTS gave me SOO much anxiety and teachers would get mad! Ughh I quickly learned to just sit there and fidget and doodle in class and I happen to be good at remembering facts when I write enough down so no one thought much of it. I was so embarrassed by my repeated social failures and feeling "slow" in everything except my grades so I kept so much to myself and started to isolate more and more, especially when life required more focus and energy to just keep up and survive... Led to many years of depression. Somedays the meds are like waking up from a dream. Wow, I'm here. Physically AND mentally. Learning how to go with it instead of beating myself up and fighting my nature.

[@xneptunianx]

So true. I have ADHD and it’s hard to stick to things long term. I have combined ADHD.

[@carlospretel4630]

I've seen two psychiatrists and both have told me I do not have ADHD, still I have the same traits of the disorganized type. Studying/working hasn't been easy, it's difficult for me to concentrate, to start a project and to finish it; anxiety also kicks me in the nuts. Forgetting things has cost me relationships. I used to think I was the black sheep of the family. I event thought about killing myself some years ago. Those were dark times. My advice? Be honest with yourself, you're different from most people, you must not be embarrassed about that; rely on the people who love you, mostly your friends and if your family doesn't uderstand you, set boundaries; lower your expectations both professionally and academically but still never stop trying; be more compassionate with yourself; and try everything you can to accomplish your goals. Look for and try different strategies to be as efficient as you can.

[@cherp5837]

I read your comment half way and started scrolling down only to come back and read it again.. And scroll down. Then come back and write a reply.. I have severe adhd and other symptoms. Thanks for the advise though

[@Cnsalmoni]

I would strongly recommend you go to a clinic with experts ( psyD degrees ), who can test you and be more definitive with a diagnosis. It is a long and exhaustive test, but more accurate than a psychiatrist, especially one who has no testing experience and is relying solely on the DSM5.

[@wendyleeconnelly2939]

Psychiatrist may not be the first stop. See a psychologist and by that I mean find a psychologist that specifically does assessment testing for ADHD. Get treatment recommendations from that provider if they indeed confirm ADHD or anything else. Once there is this diagnosis based on testing, then see a psychiatrist or have the psychologist refer you to a psychiatrist they trust, for medication if medication is indicated.

[@gracechua9571]

This is the best advice I've read ever. I've caught myself in this scenario in life , not knowingmy worth. . Thank you.

[@lindyloo7177]

I was always getting into trouble for being distracted and being a chatterbox as a child. I was diagnosed with recurrent depression and have been on different antidepressants for 27 yrs with no success. I am beginning to think I have a.d.d.h as I relate to a lot of the things that have been described. I mentioned this to my psychiatrist and he dismissed it straightaway without any openness to it being a possibility. I don’t feel that he is receptive to my struggles. I have been neglecting my activities of daily living for 13 yrs now. It is getting worse and worse. I will contact my doctor to ask her advise about an a.d.d.h specialist appointment. Thank you for your videos they are really enlightening.

[@natashabaileylmft1379]

I am a school-based therapist and these videos and very helpful! Thank you so much!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Excellent NaTasha! Thanks for letting me know.

[@rey_nemaattori]

I never heard of inattentive / disorganized type of ADD and it baffles me it exists. I really identify with these symptoms and often had my ex-partner scolding me for forgetting things(although i have a system for that now), being late, having my thoughts wander of into some sort of daydream like state. Even if i know i have to do something, I sometimes just can't get to it until it's almost too late(unless it's something that catches my interest, then I'm still doing it untill 2 am in the morning forgotting i have to go to bed in time). I often thought of this being my studentlike mindset, which only starts to get things done on the adrenaline of deadlines, but perhaps there's more going on...

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Yes there’s more going on and now you see how this can play out and be a part of ADD.

[@kinglewisjtl24]

What system did you develop?

[@kathrinjohnson2582]

😂😂😂 I love when you where trying to get his attention! Thank you . Your videos are amazing

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you Kathrin! 😀😃

[@bradgordon8835]

It's uncanny how until I was 57 years old I had no idea but an ADHD diagnosis followed immediately by a TBI have started me down a rabbit hole that is described detail by this smart woman 😀 I look at my condition as a gift and I enjoy as often as I can, The important part is where is my focus!

[@richardleetbluesharmonicac7192]

ADHD is a blessing because it makes you a genius and highly creative if you stay away from medication’s and people that think you’re mentally ill

[@EsotericFleetMechanic]

This is me. The disorder of my memory and thoughts are so difficult for me. Again, thank you so much for your time and effort with all the videos!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

you’re welcome.

[@Purpleskyshorizon]

I've had untreated ADHD for my entire life. I even had trouble focusing on this 4 minute video. I'm hoping to finally get treated for it after the new year. I've tried Adderall before and it helped _tremendously_ . It's just that my doctor is worried about addiction. I had absolutely no euphoric "high" when I tried the Adderall. The only "feeling" I had was being fully focused on mundane tasks like straightening out my cluttered desk! Anyway, thank you so much for not only this video but _all_ of your videos!! You're a huge help to myself and so many others!

[@87kittykate]

the music on this makes it hard to focus on what you're saying and I don't even have ADHD

[@ricka0917]

What amazes me about you other than the fact that you’re brilliant.is that you take the time to answer everyone what a great person. I could really use someone like you is there anyway I can get in touch with you.?

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hi Richard. Thank you. I appreciate people taking the time to comment and interact with me. It helps me feel more like I'm talking to someone instead of talking to a camera lens. That said...between working full time, maintaining the channel and home life, I'm pretty saturated. It doesn't leave me much time for more interactions via email. Thanks for being a part of the community.

[@carito7899]

Trying to concentrate and hear the information in this video having ADHD was specially challenging.😅 that music was so loud and distracting. 😝

[@regigrace27]

My husband and I both have adhd.. your videos have been essential in helping us gain a doctor's perspective... So we can have a successful marriage... Understanding the differences of how his adhd manifest and mine does... As well as being better parents, keeping up with our home ( in what ways we can) , and watching for and Understanding our daughters, who have a higher chance of having adhd... If we had not gone through the journey together of getting back on our medication within the same year, along with further investigating management outside of medication... managing two daughters and a marriage, probably would have failed.... It took 8 years for me to seek treatment again after high school, I spent 8 years thinking I could manage my way out of my difficulties or I could learn how to be mentally disciplined enough... Until the things I was failing at in life just mattered to much for me to not break that perspective, hear out what good people like you had to say, and talk to my doctor. Thank you.

[@sabina6199]

Dr. Tracey, the more I learn about ADD the more characteristics I notice in myself. Should I maybe see someone to see if I actually have it? Like ask to be checked for this? I was supposed to see a therapist for depression and anxiety, but I never followed through with any of my appointments. Part of my missed appointments was because I just forgot I made them, and also just dreading the idea of working through my mind. I never know where to start when I speak to someone about what’s going on in my head because there’s so many things. I also just feel like sometimes I’m being dramatic about my problems, because that’s what I hear when I do finally talk about it, and sometimes I can manage my personality for a little bit and other times my life feels like it’s spiraling out of control. How should I bring this about to my heath provider?

[@adhdcoachsheila9005]

YOU ARE NOT BEING DRAMATIC. I see this was 4 months ago, so I hope that since then you have see a psychiatrist. Avoiding and having trouble with making and keeping appointments is very common in folks with ADHD. Once you get a diagnosis you can't believe how validating it will be and you can start to figure out how to actually enjoy the way your brain works instead of fighting it. I am an ADHD coach and EVERY one of my clients talks about the shame that was piled on to them for years. The sooner you figure out what's going on with your brain, the sooner you can start to let go of that shame.

[@reynaldacontreras9165]

@@adhdcoachsheila9005 wow :) I wanted to say thank you for that comment. I was really feeling like how Sabina was saying. I feel like I'm just being dramatic. I think that mainly I feel this way because I have A LOT of friends with ADHD and they have an official diagnosis and stuff. I don't, nor have I considered it until recently. I find myself relating to a lot of ADHD things. But I always got discouraged because most of them walk the line of "oh everyone does that" and I just kept minimizing my problems because of that mentality. So thank you :)

[@marinazagrai1623]

sabina…you’re not being dramatic, it’s just that unless has your symptoms, you can’t express yourself - you probably feel you’re wasting your time with someone who doesn’t get it. My fear for those who have these symptoms is that doctors will automatically put us on some pill/s. Find out, if not already, what it is and work out what you need to do besides taking pill/s. I have a dislike of pills because my mom was on Diazepam for over 50yrs and her doctor never tried to wean her off, so now she forgets everything - long term effects are far worse than mild depression.

[@Cieraroland]

This describes me 100%. I am unfortunately the combined type that combines symptoms from both Hyperactive/Impulsive and Inattentive/Disorganized. Finding the right medication has definitely been a long frustrating ongoing journey. Thank you for this video. 🙏🏽

[@siswdeen]

Peace what was the right medication?

[@wesriojas]

Found your videos today. Just sitting here watching them. Trying to hold back tears because you are talking about seems impossible for me to explain to others. Me and my wife both have a form of ADD/ADHD.

[@twormstedt]

I am nearly in tears, just reading about other people’s stories. A lot of it I can really relate to. I genuinely hope everyone can find a job or purpose that interests you - and doesn’t suck your soul out from trying to fit in and suppressing your inner self to simply get by. I say screw that! I’m 42, was diagnosed with ADD when I was 12, but learning difficulties when I was 5. It can be frustrating, sometimes I have to really try hard, simply to squeak by at a job that is so repetitive, I start to lose focus and can’t sit still when my mind just goes all over. Sometimes I just want to scream.

[@TheAdhdGardener]

I'm combined type and whoa is it INTENSE

[@SuicideJade]

The Adhd Gardener same

[@justmai2476]

Thanks again for a great video! Though I lost my focus and had to relisten to this a few times, haha.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

LOL!! Good one. 🙂

[@justmai2476]

I was wondering if you could do a video regarding mental health/illness in the Black community?

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Hmmm - maybe...I'd need to have a specific focus within that topic. Let me think about it. Rashawndra Carey has a mental health channel and she has posted a few videos on the topic. Here's one on what black folks think about getting therapy kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJjHY42gfbakf8k

[@justmai2476]

Definitely, be sure you wish to cover the topic first. Thanks for the suggestion!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks for the suggestion. I'm open to more suggestions.

[@hbaker5905]

The BEST, organized, descriptive explanation of ADD/ADHD EVER!!! This video is what I will be using to teach family members and friends who need to know this information. Especially those who do not believe ADD/ADHD is a real disorder, a REAL Medical diagnosis! Thank you so very much! I look forward to learning more from you😃

[@Topg1]

Thank you for this video. I like the parts where you said that people can mistake us for having selective attention. I unitentionally made a lot of friends and family angry because I didn’t answer the phone or follow through on things. This helps because someone gets it.

[@shouldent]

I work in a very collaborative environment... it is very stressful because every meeting I am tired of trying to focus... and when my mind starts wandering all the key points are explained. It is very hard, but, when I am hyper focused I can do my job in matter of hours... so that is for me...

[@iahelcathartesaura3887]

Thank you a million, Dr Marks. You are a lifesaving angel with all your good, objective, compassionate information. Ive been severely abused, given CPTSD & hugely worsened/attacked by a family member all my life bc of having ADD & other issues. But i have happily found a profession late in life which fits very well with how my mind works (hyperfocus for 1-2 houra at a time, calm environment, low hourly shifts per week :) I cant work enough hours to finally "launch" myself (and get away from the sick home environment & extreme stress/abuse, but i am still trying wholeheartedly to do so, in spite of multiple chronic meducal issues & chronic headaches etc. Trying not to give up & to keep going). You described it all perfectly!

[@jeaniebird999]

I'm turning 52 this month and was diagnosed with ADD at 49! They've given me so many dx's, over the years, but never got that one? Wow. My GP figured it out! I've been wondering, all my life, WTF is WRONG with me?! I've been thinking I just need a better diagnosis. But the more I learn about ADD the more things make sense. I'm FINALLY starting to get answers, after ALL these years! Now, if only I could pay attention to your helpful videos without getting distracted. I only caught the first few seconds, before my mind wandered off. Gonna have to watch this over and over, like everything else, just to hopefully grab a sliver of info. Then, I have to convince my brain it's ok to make room for this. (My brain seems to think there is very little storage space, so tosses out EVERYTHING that isn't ABSOLUTELY important.)

[@RashawndaJames]

I really enjoyed the information about ADHD! This is so helpful, I had to watch twice!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Very good, Thank you

[@aspiring.creative.person6092]

Oh my god. Oh my god. This is the second video of theirs I’ve watched and I’m subscribed. Firstly, I like how they talk about adults with these things, because I feel like a lot of doctors even talk about mental health and only talk about small children. But they address adults. They explain the topics well and in a short time, so very consumable videos. And I’ve been thinking for a few months that I might have ADD, and when they were explaining it just now I could relate to it (the disorganized one) and I almost cried because I just feel so seen by them. I’m definitely going to watch more of these videos. Thank you ❤️ Edit: I would still be hesitant to say I have ADD, but that’s probably because I’ve just always said and assumed I have perfect mental health, and I don’t want to settle diagnose and be wrong. I’ve always been good at school too but it’s starting to not be good. Anyways, I’ll probably accept it over time.

[@mingleandflock]

I am so thankful for you with this video to not giving it an extra diagnosis. As if you're an adult with ADHD all of a sudden after years of meds working managing you have to go see a new doctor. Never been in a psych hospital nothing. They lower your meds. Or take you off then. Well they decide you have bipolar disorder. Which okay if you do. However after 18 years in psych. This aggregates the hell out of me. When other doctors just assume or do that. THANK YOU💜

[@KatJ3st]

I'm definitely a combination of both types. No clinicians treating adults with ADD/ADHD in my town.

[@echase416]

Try to get to a bigger city for an appointment?

[@JustDr.S]

I just learned something new today. I have been diagnosed with depression for too many years. Now, I'm not so sure. My son was diagnosed with ADHD many years ago. He had all of the characteristics of the hyperactive type of ADD. His symptoms were so severe, he struggled in school and sports, etc. to the point it was terribly affecting his life. Medication helped him greatly. It changed his life. Now, after hearing about the other type of ADD, I'm convinced I have that type. As you listed off every one of the 'symptoms' it was me, to a T. No doubts about it. I have a feeling, going untreated for it, caused symptoms of depression with anxiety. So, I was diagnosed with depression. Is this possible? It could explain why no antidepressants or treatments have helped. OK, now how do I go about finding another doctor to RE- diagnose me? I'm going to do that. It can't hurt. Thank you so much for this video! I wish I saw these ADD videos years ago. I was looking them up to see if anything was new, in regards to my son's ADD, and I think I found myself, instead. 🤯

[@businessisboomin7252]

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[@geoffreystuttle8080]

This lovely lady's family and friends are blessed to have her in their lives. Many thanks for the clear, concise info. ❤

[@TessT101]

ADHD is torture. I did poorly at school unless it was something that interested me. I couldn't stop talking. Just awful. I never went to college. I don't know if this was something that was addressed with kids in The 70s and 80s but I wish I had help. I'm 57 now and hold down a job but I only do well in the moment urgency. I've never taken medication for it. My heart goes to all who are struggling with this and mental health in general. We are warriors and get it done...eventually ❤️

[@melissasaal8577]

I have sooooo sososos many reasons to think that I have ADHD, but because I wasn't a "bad child" (rather a bit annoying one, have learned to tune it down ) per se and I am intelligent in topics that I hyperfocus on, people think I am smart. Although I just can't get my head around how people sustain normal lives and are productive regularly.. it's like everyone else knows some secret sauce that I don't. Therapist thinks I have depression and anxiety but I feel like it's more because I just can't seem to handle my life like people around me and just so many blockages. but here the therapy community has this notion that if you are not delinquentand are somewhat intelligent then you can't have ADHD. I feel soo hopeless and clueless about how to just LIVE and get things done in a normal manner. Such a scatterbrain.. especially when left on my own to get things done and maintain all areas of life.

[@echase416]

It’s very common for girls and women to be undiagnosed.

[@rachelr1195]

Your videos on adhd helped me understand myself in a way I was unable to before. Thank you Dr M

[@RichardTetta]

Dr Marks videos are such a revelation. It seems like for decades, we were only focused on the “hyperactivity” subset of ADD. In fact, they used to just say “hyperactive.” Now, learning about the “other” type of Attention Deficit Disorder, particularly in adulthood, I recognize so much of myself and my behavior patterns.

[@amorton94]

At no point in my life have I really considered that I have ADHD. For whatever reason one of your videos popped up in my recommended and the thumbnail had a half dozen symptoms and it was like you were describing me. I've watched 3 of your videos so far and all of them describe me and my daily life perfectly. It appears that I have ADHD.

[@Gutigwolfe]

My family needed these videos when my brother and I were younger, it would of helped my parent's understand us better. Instead of being punished for things we can't control.

[@itscalledlogic7]

OMG I could barely watch this video with the distracting music playing over the dialogue. My frustration and irritation went up to 11! Not your fault, but funny having this issue on this type of video! Love your stuff, Dr. Marks!

[@chaosblow4838]

really feel connected to this and i think my brother has the other type, me as the disorganized one him the hyper, it always felt bad i had to rewind a video back so many times or someone talks to me and i just automatically answer and forget what were even talking about, i agree about the hyper focus about your interest i think we both share it and i might be imagining it but from the description fits me to a tea also love your channel :)

[@nimamousavizadeh5621]

I love these videos. It makes me feel like i can understand myself finally.....,..in a somewhat more objective manner. :) Thank you.

[@alphafert608]

I like that you included that ADHD can be the cause of the anxiety. I keep getting dumped on therapists that only want to treat the anxiety & depression. The treatment doesn't seem to work & no matter how much I ask my adhd is ignored.

[@winfreyc2010]

Dr. Marks, can you please PLEASE TURN OFF THE BACKGROUND MUSIC? I really want to watch this video but the music is so distracting. Thank you!

[@Captain_MonsterFart]

She told me she's gone to get her time machine....

[@AdrianColley]

2:24 - 2:28 that's great! You normally seem so serious because you're on-topic, but this was a fun interlude.

[@joelyazell7380]

My Impatience ,clears my clutter. Well organized by using my extra energy to put things where I always do. Keeping me ready for the next thing I jump out of and into. I give 100% at whatever I’m doing,and if I don’t finish it now,I’ll circle back around and eep going. If not doing ,I’m realigning so I can. Clean my house ,when I’m waiting on someone. Don’t like waiting one minute after you said,so I’ll meet you.

[@pennydollar1586]

Dr. Tracey. I cant believe the music! True ADHDer. I couldn't do this video. Personal opinion, yes. Personal difficulty,, yes. Personally needed information, yes.

[@juliusdavenport707]

Omg these videos just explained my entire life. HELP ME!!! PLEASE!!!

[@louayaljawabra]

I am glad to have found the videos, I hope they are all translated as most of the videos, thank you very much 🙏🏼

[@catherinewooldridge9981]

My ADD has me not listening and just looking at your amazing hair❤️

[@minagica]

I'm so thankful for your channel, Dr. Marks!!!

[@senayozonur9521]

In my opinion Your videos are very helpful and already great without music. Music makes it hard to listen.Thank you 😊

[@franimal86]

The fight or flight response kicks in for ADHD so quickly! It’s funny how even normal conversations with friends I’d have to be “on” to focus which would begin as excitement, but could turn into anxiety and eventually exhaustion. It is way easier on medication to be conscious of the “on/off response” and to just be me.

[@businessisboomin7252]

Could you elaborate? I suspect I have ADD with the inattentive type and oh boy am I in fight or flight most of the day

[@franimal86]

You’re right. I am inattentive type ADD. I don’t have hyperactivity. I can hyperfocus really well. But as an adult, I started to get a symptom where I just didn’t feel comfortable looking into someone’s eyes when talking to them. I also found it difficult to pay enough attention for long enough during normal conversations. I usually clean or play video games while I listen to someone. I learned from 10 years of isshin-ryu karate to pay attention to someone talking by looking at them in their eyes, so it was annoying to me that it seemed I couldn’t do it anymore. I learned about the wide array of symptoms of ADD and also felt my depression and anxiety were tied to that. Started taking adderall in my 30’s and many of the symptoms went rather quickly.

[@businessisboomin7252]

@@franimal86 good to hear. If I want to get diagnosed for ADHD, which type of psychiatrist should I go to? And I feel like I have anxiety and depression co-occuring with ADHD, so how to diagnose all 3 at once?

[@lebojay]

It never occurred to me that most of my anxiety is connected to the problems my ADD-inattentive creates. Thank you.

[@manestage5403]

You really are mindful of us. I was just about to click off the video seconds in because I was so distracted by the video and just knew I would not be able to follow AT ALL. Then I scroll down and see you telling us how to get rid of the music. 😂 Thank you!

[@andrewpipitone1572]

Thankyou Doc I am 60 and still learning.

[@eboniclarke177]

Hyperfocus has been my scapegoat and has helped me

[@bucii01]

You are awesome for taking the time to make these videos for the masses.

[@judewuski]

2:13…”hyperfocus” demo gave me a much needed laugh. Thanks!

[@neilpk70]

I love Dr Marks' personality in those little skits!

[@elgatodelskz]

I always thought I had Anxiety plus depression episodes. In fact, I feel that for years. And then I went to my current psychiatrist and she said she suspected I had ADD because I told her my life story and how I always have trouble with being late, disorganized and demotivated. My wardrobe is a mess EVERY DAY. I don't wash my clothes for months. My mom and sister help me. I was always late at university, my chemistry professors (2 of them) even called me out a few times. When I started working my boss did that too. Because I was late. She said I needed more attention but I was trying my best to pay all of my attention to my work. I always thought that was caused by anxiety/depression. Now I started to think differently...going back to my childhood and teenager years I was always called as clumsy...

[@poshlal5340]

The background music is helping me focus. Thank you.

[@kdbee6086]

This lady lives in my head!

[@ajon5304]

Such awesome information! 💜 I’m learning so much about myself. I could really use an in-depth video on job suggestions for people who want to thrive in their ADHD journey.

[@patrickbutler777]

Thank you for you content, I have been showing it to young justice involved adults with ADD challenges.

[@avril.227]

I fluctuate often between inattentive and hyper focused ADHD with comorbid anxiety. Getting the meds correct so I’m stimulated but not too stimulated is challenging. I hope everyone out there that thinks they could possibly have ADHD, seeks help. I wasn’t diagnosed until my 40’s because I primarily presented as inattentive.

[@dua4272]

I'm pretty sure that I have Adhd but when I told my mom she just told me it was all in my head , and I can't focus on anything and I'm failing classes cause I daydream alot

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Sounds like it's time to see what your doctor thinks. If your mom doesn't think you need to see a doctor, maybe you could reach out to your school psychologist for help with how to handle the situation.

[@watcherwlc53]

Would your mom be receptive to educating herself via watching these videos?

[@heidifedor]

I don’t have a lot of hyperactivity, but I do have some. I tend to lean more towards the the procrastination side, but I definitely have all of the symptoms of ADHD that you describe.

[@Hassanov.a]

What you said about ADHD-driven anxiety being resolved with stimulant medication was exactly what happened to me! It was a profound moment when I noticed my anxiety fade away because my whole life I've always thought that my anxiety was it's own thing. Every step I took, every plan I made, to try and get rid of it stemmed from that notion. So when I noticed it had gone while I was on the ADHD meds, it was revolutionary. It completely upended my previous understanding of what my anxiety was. Nor could I believe that the solution to free myself from the relentless horror of anxiety was that simple.

[@Meme-go9ts]

Me, with diagnosed anxiety and OCD: couldn't pay attention to the video due to the background music 🙈 I'd better retry. I love how informative your videos always are!

[@dirtyerty]

Thank you so much for making these videos!! I have recently started the diagnosis process (I'm in New Zealand and it's a very long, frustrating and expensive process for Adults to be assessed and diagnosed in the first place, let alone getting any useful advice!!) but have found it hard to access useful information and advice. Thank you for sharing your wisdom :)

[@HeatherValentineMsFoodie]

I love how this is about ADD then play CRAZY LOUD ASS MUSIC so I can’t hear the speaking without pulling my hair out 🫥🤬😔

[@stanleycoop7204]

Could you discuss the link between ADHD and neurotic personality traits? I feel as though many people don’t realize the connection between the two. Thanks in advance, keep up the great work!

[@echase416]

ADHD causes executive dysfunction (the brain’s manager is impaired) which can contribute to anxiety a.k.a. neurosis. Try treating the ADHD and see if the anxiety improves.

[@pamyuhnke8143]

Combo baby!!!! As an ED nurse it’s my superpower!!! Gotta love myself!

[@LilyOfTheTower]

I'm 41 and this sounds exactly like me. I wasn't ever diagnosed butnim going to talk to someone. I've always felt that I was different from others and life is just harder for me.

[@mishkalarsoncreations]

I have all of that and then 5 years ago had a brain injury - now everything is worse!

[@eboniclarke177]

I've been successful, but my whole life it's been up and down. I use the depression to create and the hypermania for getting the ideas down, hyperfocus for getting last minute things done. So in a way I've copied, went to a councillor she says I have signs of Asperger's a bit hyperactive etc.

[@judyfrost175]

I'm 71, and never diagnosed, but have had ADHD all my life.Nuns told my mom that I was "always looking out the window" I am disorganized, always late, forget & lose things, it's horrible.

[@zaireyljedgelua4995]

@2:43 that explains it! I’ve always wished I’d hyperfocus on things that are significant and add value but nope, they’re mostly videos and other stuff and catches my attention

[@isarose1237]

My hyperfocusing used to be so severe that I used to get in a lot of trouble at school. It was awful.

[@roxyross3765]

Hello, I appreciate you and your vids. This specific (early) vid on ADHD seems to be contrary to the purpose or the message as the background music is very loud and make it hard to focus on the information. Thank you for all that you do!

[@ajwriter5699]

I’m definitely the COMBINED TYPE.

[@dannikats4995]

2:26 I love her goofy reenactments 😆😂😂

[@mario-qi3yw]

Your hilarious! That’s so true about the hyper focus ability.

[@spacecat8511]

I appreciate how you mention the hyperactive symptoms can just look like squirming or needing to use a gadget to keep engaged. That’s always been me since I was at least 5 and I’m now 29 and “never grew out of it.” (I now also need to fidget to keep myself distracted from chronic pain symptoms related to an auto immune disease, but I digress.) So often people expect adhd to look ONLY like the little boy running around the room and stubbornly harassing his classmates, or maybe a feminine girl who’s “too chatty” or “daydreams too much” but it’s more diverse than that, and no one agab truly presents “only This Way”. A lot of us are mixed, or have the “stereotypically the OTHER agab/gender” But…yeah. Despite finally getting disgnosed a few months ago? My family still doesn’t really believe I have it despite the “quieter” hyperactive symptoms, or all the ways I try to manage the inattentive ones…but meanwhile trying to get enrolled or deal with emotional regulation or sticking with projects (especially the ones that are “mine” vs “contributing”) is SUCH a struggle, and really worsens my anxiety/depressive symptoms (which…definitely came After, and only getting things to Work with my adhd or addressing trauma helps; anxiety meds trigger something akin to serotonin syndrome for me)

[@gail9566]

I had to listen 3 times to catch it all as my mind wandered.

[@evilqueen13]

I have been picked on for my hyper focus my whole life lol. I didn't realize that was a thing. Every single point in the disorganized type has been a huge obstacle in my life. Luckily I'm self employed so I could work on these at my own pace.

[@banterj]

I gotta save this and watch it again.

[@tiahamilton1818]

Meetings in a job sounds like a nightmare

[@poida007]

An excellent video in many respects. Important that the issue of anxiety and comorbidity was addressed. Also that ADHD isn't a problem of attention deficit but rather interest deficit. Great how you mentioned that ADHD people need to focus on their strengths and learn better manage relationships. Medications may help but there can be serious side effects with them, especially stimulant medications, and specifically around sleep. ADHD and sleep problems are common. The use of stimulant and non-stimulant medication can lead to chronic insomnia, which opens up VERY serious health problems, both physical and mental, including depression. That leads to more medications and a seriously compromised life. Essentially ADHD is a "self-regulation disorder" frequently leading to self-sabotaging behaviors. Unfortunately, the side effects of medications are not addressed in this video and very much need to be given the potential life altering consequence. Sadly, there is much stigma around mental health in general and ADHD in particular. To make matters worse, there are serious clinician related and other external issues around how it is diagnosed and treated. Most doctors get very little medical training in ADHD. The practice of psychiatry is itself very "subjective" which opens up debate, controversy and contradiction around treatment. The reliance of pharmacological treatment as the first line when it should be the last, after nonpharmacologic approaches and supports have been tried is highly problematic. "Pills don't teach skills". Seeing a patient for 20-40 minutes to focus on medications alone is unfortunately the medical standard and the norm with ADHD. Access to psychological treatment is prohibitive for most and what is most needed for most. It's also hard work for everyone involved. Building good habits for people with ADHD is extremely challenging. At the end of the day, unlike in Europe and Australia, the medical system here is reactive vs preventive in orientation. Look no further than to the oversized influence of "Big Pharma". Most people just don't realize the immense influence of the pharmaceutical industry on medical training and ultimately on treatment. "Big Pharma" is heavily invested in marketing strategies to doctors, who are a key part of the distribution channel via prescription writing/generating. Even more disconcerting is the conflict of interest with respect to doctors on their marketing payrolls to: a) advocate on behalf of the brand/company to other doctors at lavish "educational events" and b) to fund ADHD "corporate research" supporting their products. Fortunately, doctors are being forced to disclose their relationships with big Pharma but much of these disclosures are buried in fine print or quickly glossed over. I wonder how many doctors have ever been to an ADHD peer support meetup to see and hear first-hand the horror stories of lives forever altered because of outdated clinician thinking and carelessness around diagnosis and pharmacological treatment. Unmanaged/improperly treated ADHD is very serious and has a significant impact on those afflicted, their families, those they interact with at school/workplace and society. Russell Barkley, PhD, an ADHD authority speaks to the reduced lifespan and quality of life for people with ADHD the the public health issues and impact on society. His findings are stark, depressing and alarming. He has made disclosures regarding his paid relationship with Big Pharma. Education, more research, more healthcare support and social awareness are vital given the impact of this disorder. The costs are just too high to not address.

[@DevPreston]

Great video, thank you - very helpful. A request - please would you reduce relative volume of background music to speech a little?

[@jasonjackson3114]

My mind wandered at around 3 seconds into the video. It's night and meds are wearing off.

[@12342087]

Thank you for your interesting and informative videos plus your voice is very soothing makes it easy to listen too.

[@joyg2526]

I wish I knew this 30 years ago. :(....

[@bloodsweatphilp4310]

hyper focus. If my dad gets a book for Christmas, all of a sudden he's no longer participating in the rest of the day. He will read until he is finished the book, taking only short breaks to eat & sleep. He is a slow reader, so often he is 'gone' for weeks. The children are used to it. They used to play with their new toys most of the day, so they wouldn't notice. But now that they are older, they will socialize & play with new toys in the afternoon when we are resting. But they know, Grandpop won't socialize, he has a new book to read.

[@karlakay]

Yes. Treating my ADHD reduced my anxiety! Because anxiety is based on uncompleted tasks!

[@thirdycooks]

I always thought I was weird because of the way I handle situations and my emotions are always in the extremes. Reading the comments here made me realize I'm not alone in this.