I hope that you've kept up your perseverance! If you have, good for you!!!!
@iris.esteves9 жыл бұрын
I like that she says we (...) insted of saying they (...)
@huddlespith8 жыл бұрын
completely
@riotxxx8 жыл бұрын
+Iris Esteves Same, it really helps. It's strange that more professionals don't do the same, since it makes so much sense.
@starkillermatt918 жыл бұрын
+Iris Esteves professionalism
@crystalreiser81537 жыл бұрын
Iris Esteves also it's setting boundaries too
@amberrose12496 жыл бұрын
Iris Esteves my friend does this whenever I talk about my problems. She is always like "what are we going to do about this" instead of "what are you gonna do about this" it always makes me feel less alone it's such an amazing thing I've tried picking it up myself to use for other people Bc it makes all the difference
@shanleyphillips11114 жыл бұрын
I like the way you say “we” and “our” and that you don’t describe it as a sinful thing
@kendrickdinger5 жыл бұрын
Two weeks clean today, it’s been incredibly hard but I’m proud of myself😊
@kyshiajacob84704 жыл бұрын
Are you still clean ?
@busssygrumbles96844 жыл бұрын
I'm 7 minutes clean🤧
@evanstomlinson61674 жыл бұрын
Amazing! You are hope and love 💜
@narchleor98624 жыл бұрын
Kendrick IM SUPER PROUD!!!
@narchleor98624 жыл бұрын
Jackson Morris you can do it!
@BallinBunBun7 жыл бұрын
I self harm because it's the only way I can release the hatred I have for myself.
@thereader75106 жыл бұрын
Joy Rose
@Anayaah4216 жыл бұрын
Joy Rose same
@NancyGonzalez-vv9mh6 жыл бұрын
Joy Rose I understand you because I self harm myself
@theeggomovie19725 жыл бұрын
I’ve never heard of anyone else who does it the same reason I do so I’m glad I’m not alone in that
@dekobro23685 жыл бұрын
Joy Rose yea same
@skramzsexual10488 жыл бұрын
I thought you made a very good and non-judgmental point on the "doing it for attention" idea
@chloeamelia17895 жыл бұрын
I started self harming by punching my legs when I was angry, I always lived with big purple bruises on my legs but only a few people noticed, they thought I was clumsy. I wanted someone to care about me and help me because my brother had attempted suicide and been diagnosed with BPD and he had so much support and I had no one. I started digging my nails into my skin but it would only leave a mark for a day, I had noticed a few of my friends had started to cut and thought maybe that would be a better idea. Soon I started cutting my legs every night and I would have scars on my legs all the time. People started to talk about me but nobody seemed to reach out. I realized this didn’t help anyone to notice I was suffering so now I cut for my own reasons, I cut because I deserve pain.
@salsabvute51854 жыл бұрын
Hey I don’t know where you are in your life right now but I hope your doing well. I realized you didn’t have any replies so Ill be the one to uplift you! No one deserves what you have gone through and I’m sorry that no one has payed attention to you. I can relate from personal experience. IT SUCKS!! I can’t say it’s gonna get better because I don’t know you and your life, but I hope you hang in there. No one deserves to feel unimportant or like they deserve what the get. I hope you learn to love yourself and realize that when you have your own back. Nothing anyone can say or do can hurt you❤️
@durpyrainbowp84054 жыл бұрын
Sal Sabvute even though it doesn’t mean as much since I’m not Chloe, thank you for writing this. I hope they see it soon and take what you shared to heart.
@salsabvute51854 жыл бұрын
DurpyRainbow :P It means just as much. Your welcome💖
@Elite_Sturmgewehr4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I grab something sharp and cut my skin
@SmashtheCmachine3 жыл бұрын
I never could cut. But I have snapped my leg with chains, I have violently beat my own head with solid plastic objects, the butt of my hand, and even smashed a glass jar over it (and yeah, got cut by doing it), and started blistering... heating up metal and plastering it against my skin, and lately started putting cigarettes out on my own face.
@jay__89853 жыл бұрын
I like doing it because then I can look at the scars later. They give me confirmation that whatever I felt was real because if it wasn't I wouldn't have made this scar. It's like whenever I feel guilty I self harm so that I can get the confirmation that that feeling was real and I wasn't just making it up.
@cleitonlin24883 жыл бұрын
I hit myself up with a belt everyday before studying and doing my physical practice it helps me want to do my activities
@ruthgenesis1203 Жыл бұрын
same here
@MagicalHannah1210 жыл бұрын
I harm because I hate myself and as a punishment, the pain is the goal because I feel like I deserve it for being like I am
@sarahnorton374810 жыл бұрын
I hope you keep working on talking back to that self harm "voice"...I have similar thoughts, so know you are not fighting alone! I know you don't deserve to be hurt, and I hope you can find ways to nurture and be gentle with yourself (it can be very hard at first!) ...hang in there, you can beat it- don't let the jerk self harm voice win!
@aztocaligal59575 жыл бұрын
MagicalHannah12 I can relate. Thanks for this!
@sarahbethluckey27005 жыл бұрын
this is also the reason that i harm, thank you for sharing so i know i’m not alone
@carleflores90655 жыл бұрын
:c
@harrietfletcher-hall76515 жыл бұрын
i relate to this. nice to know we are not alone.
@wrightlaura108 жыл бұрын
I know for me it was I would rather feel the physical pain rather than emotional
@SmashtheCmachine8 жыл бұрын
+laura wright OH YEAH. Same reason for me. It's almost like a trance, a sense of nirvana, as the physical drowns out the emotional.
@sagelatte8 жыл бұрын
That was the only reason I ever cut myself
@renearamsey44068 жыл бұрын
Yeah me too. Because the physical pain ended while my emotional pain wouldn't go away.
@cedricburkhart37385 жыл бұрын
I remember being a little surprised when I accidentally cut my self. I thought why do I feel so much better.
@TheFebruaryDragon5 жыл бұрын
I agree with this. I haven't self harmed in about 3 or so years, but I do remember that I used to do it because I had no one to talk to or be there for me and felt incredibly alone. I felt so much pain inside and used self harming to in a way so that the physical pain cancelled out the internal pain I got from emotional abuse.
@sanny87166 жыл бұрын
Also self-harming as a punishment is a thing. Although I pretty much don't do it anymore because I realized that it doesn't actually help achieving things. I do do the anger thing. "Experiencing anger inward" made a lot of sense to me. I don't do anything serious though, usually just punching. The most extreme thing I've done was scratching, but it was just once, and I was in a really dark place in my life at the time
@IamMissPronounced5 жыл бұрын
I absolutely used to self harm as a form of self-punishment. Because I have PTSD I have to actively work to remind myself that I'm not to blame for everything, otherwise I feel the urge to turn that anger inward, like Kati said.
@llbabyk12345 жыл бұрын
Sanny we all deserve happiness. & saying you "didn't do anything that serious" downplays your trauma. We all deserve to have our traumas taken seriously. Something happened to make us feel like that. I've been there, head slamming, scratching with sharp scissors ..never went far enough to cause real harm but I still needed someone to take me seriously. I hope life is better for you now.
@thisisntallowed95605 жыл бұрын
I self-harm out of shame
@niaig14564 жыл бұрын
サニャSanny wow you’re really strong 🥺❤️💞☺️
@dancingpencil23 жыл бұрын
I also see cutting as a self punishment tool
@futureamnesia96724 жыл бұрын
Kati's eyes shows how deeply she cares about people
@esterbengoa60774 жыл бұрын
So true. She makes me feel loved and cared for, maybe because she's not judging me.
@amsumathyanilkumar73892 жыл бұрын
Yes
@renearamsey44068 жыл бұрын
Whenever I self harmed, it was to release the emotional anger/pain. When I was really upset, it would feel like my throat was closing and I couldn't cry, and when I self harmed, it relieved to closed throat feeling and anger.
@shyviolet75208 жыл бұрын
That's exactly how I feel when I self harm
@Lav3nd3rForest7 жыл бұрын
me too, especially when I have a bad day
@ashp57937 жыл бұрын
Renea Ramsey same
@skeletonsinscarves39657 жыл бұрын
i was the same way, i couldn't see the scars years afterwards but these days i see them more clearly. i remember also doing it to dissociate
@al.kenzie7 жыл бұрын
Renea Ramsey exactly!
@HeyHeyitsSami9 жыл бұрын
when you talked about being numb and that being the reason...hit me so hard...
@stormaurora55366 жыл бұрын
I cut because the pain in my head makes me feel like it will explode and cutting relieves that pressure. I also do it to stop myself from committing suicide.
@thatlibrarysmell7205 жыл бұрын
Storm Aurora Same. Please don’t commit suicide. You seem honorable and you have good taste in profile pics. Also that would be one less person I could relate to.
@videocadet4 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to see that nobody else has commented here. Know that you are unconditionally loved by all of those who believe in you. Not just the people close to you, but even strangers you have never met. *sending unconditional love* FIGHT ON! 😁
@bearloafing4 жыл бұрын
I used to do the same thing, it used to be a way of handling my emotions I was thought I shouldn't have. Dissociation, as kati mentioned. I used to cut so I can have something to focus on, the pain was kind of a focl point, something I could concentrate on when I felt emotions I fought were 'illegall' to have and I didn't know how to handle. Later on, as cutting is really not socially acceptable, I moved on to alcohol and drugs, as they kinda served the same purpose. A decade after my last cut, I'm still struggling with the same problem, but now I'm finally aware of what the coping mechanism was used for, and that helps a lot- understanding the process behind the behaviour. It's a difficult and slow process, but it's a start.
@evanstomlinson61674 жыл бұрын
You are loved sweetheart. Please remain safe. And reach out. I'm sure videos like this may really help. 💜🙂
@AaronEllisOfficial3 жыл бұрын
Me too. If I dont "let it out" of my body by cutting, i eventually end up having an anxiety attack
@wateva1454 жыл бұрын
When I'm angry at myself I self harm...and its oddly satisfying.. I feel like part of my anger just go away... and when I try to control not to harm myself, I feel like those anger won't go away... its frustrating..
@sunnishae50473 жыл бұрын
Same whenever I get frustrated or just angry I just start punching myself in the head to cope whenever my feelings get overwhelming even over stupid stuff and I've been like this for a long time.
@samaraberry33943 жыл бұрын
Its because physical pain is just so much easier to focus on than mental pain
@recoveringlibertarian59823 жыл бұрын
I thought I was alone, with the head beating
@JayaLakshmi-tm5vn3 жыл бұрын
Same here
@MarkTheMedium8 жыл бұрын
Hi, I am a middle aged guy who had a lot of physical and mental abuse when I was younger. I self harm as a way of coping when things get to stressful I tend to cut my body in various places. I'm just pointing this out, because most people tend to think It's a teenager thing! But Whoever you are, when reading this! Please be safe!
@rayac5787 жыл бұрын
Mark hello! :) I see that this was written about a year ago. I was just wondering how you are doing :)). I hope you worked through it and if you still havent, I know that you can fight through! !
@WindyKelleykpop6 жыл бұрын
Mark I understand you
@interlude47006 жыл бұрын
I hope you're doing well
@lexy53166 жыл бұрын
Mark, I hope you're doing well.
@dr.mywifefuckingdivorcedme5 жыл бұрын
I hope you're doing okay, Mark!
@vanshpuri89218 жыл бұрын
I just now started self harming, and I think mine is self harming. Its like my mind is at a war, "stop seeking attention" and the other part "no you need help, come on, somebody listen" I'm so tired, one part trying so hard to fight and be positive, the other part ending up tearing me apart.
@karaharrison43348 жыл бұрын
💞I understand...
@vanshpuri89218 жыл бұрын
thankyou
@Existingalive7 жыл бұрын
same, I used to self harm and now I do again
@sarahmccarty13726 жыл бұрын
AHHH SOMEBODY PUT IT INTO WORDS🙌🏽
@BlackCampariBlue5 жыл бұрын
It was similar for me, I hope you do feel better now and received the love you need
@akezia88295 жыл бұрын
3 years self harm free today! 🙂❤️
@playgirl42494 жыл бұрын
A how are you now?
@madzazmarland37853 жыл бұрын
Amazing, well done
@akezia88293 жыл бұрын
@@playgirl4249 going on year 6 and I’ve never been happier in my life. No matter what life throws my way, I’m able to use the correct coping skills to avoid self harm. Recovery is very real and something that’s achievable for all of us. 🖤
@playgirl42493 жыл бұрын
@@akezia8829 I’m happy for you ❤️
@jasminsanny42692 жыл бұрын
I hope you are still fine even after 3 years of commenting that
@harmonyhenry64002 жыл бұрын
I relate to both the silent screaming and self punishment forms of self harm. I usually would cut sentences on my forearm. Because I’m an artist, I would use the blood to paint a picture in hopes that someone would hear my screams for help. You are spot on with your explanation.
@selenajane46017 жыл бұрын
Physical pain takes away the emotional pain that feels worse then the physical pain. It takes your mind off the emotional pain, like a release.
@camryn57878 жыл бұрын
I will just dig my nails into my skin until I like almost bleed when people make me upset
@crabby34247 жыл бұрын
I do that but rub my nails into my skin until I see blood. Thing is I don't stop afterwards.
@elizaracle50457 жыл бұрын
Same
@christienbbrooks73347 жыл бұрын
I do the same thing!! My hands are all tore up and when something going on or I'm worried or anxious, it gets really bad. I'm glad that I'm not the only one that does this. Thanks
@izzyg.19336 жыл бұрын
me too
@leoc91026 жыл бұрын
Me too
@sad-fv5jo5 жыл бұрын
I have resisted the urge for 4 weeks now...struggling to keep going strong but trying my best! :)
@haylee79514 жыл бұрын
Taekook Fanboy I’m struggling with this too. Especially lately. But I’ve been clean for a long time now and I don’t want to feel guilty so I’m trying rly hard to stay clean.
@evanstomlinson61674 жыл бұрын
Amazing. You are hope. And Love💜🙂
@sad-fv5jo4 жыл бұрын
i've been clean for 4 months now!! you got this trust me!!
@madzazmarland37853 жыл бұрын
Keep going sweet
@richardmanduch51043 жыл бұрын
@@sad-fv5jo Congratulations!!! I wish you all the very best!!! 😊🙂
@beandlunt4 жыл бұрын
i have always felt if of it as a competition with myself. like “last time you cut worse, last time it bled” and then it gets worse.
@teenyweeny30054 жыл бұрын
dude same
@Moon_wolf78999 жыл бұрын
Most of the time I self harm when I am unable to stop thinking of suicide. So basicaly I am using it as a distraction from suicidal ideation. I also don't hide the cuts especialy when they are on my arm cause I just dont care.
@cedricburkhart37385 жыл бұрын
lady wolf That's sad.
@jirlboss82695 жыл бұрын
@@cedricburkhart3738 that comment is three years ago, I don't think you'll get an answer..
@cedricburkhart37385 жыл бұрын
@@jirlboss8269 Yeah you are correct.
@nm12785 жыл бұрын
Same
@princessminmin17855 жыл бұрын
PLEASE hide fresh cuts, they can trigger people like me, to cut :(
@CowllHatesHumanity8 жыл бұрын
i need someone to hug me
@Amela8748 жыл бұрын
I am sending you a huge huge hug, but you also need to do that for me.
@CowllHatesHumanity8 жыл бұрын
+Urszula Gadowska ofcourse
@musicnow57448 жыл бұрын
big hugs
@musicnow57448 жыл бұрын
Hugs
@tombalabombification8 жыл бұрын
+CowllHatesHumanity SUPER HUG!
@fannykupcsik89755 жыл бұрын
anyone weirdly addicted to see her/his own blood?
@marissabracamonte25934 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@notengelch42924 жыл бұрын
Omg, I thought I was the only one lol
@pubalipaul95004 жыл бұрын
Me
@strawberrymochi52074 жыл бұрын
Fanny Kupcsik yes when I cut it’s I keep going till I see blood when I do it makes my feel Happy to see I was successful on hurting myself I know sounds weird
@nathanhall87574 жыл бұрын
yup
@Ingrid_11Sa5 жыл бұрын
Just relapsed.. after being clean for a year and more, it just makes me feel so good..
@howdyfucker4433 жыл бұрын
@@jhopesprite1335 same
@hypnos43508 жыл бұрын
Sometimes when I self harm it is because I had a very stressful day, because I'm dealing with anxiety and sometimes to cope with anger. BUT normally i just to do it because I feel the need to do it, like something in my head triggers and I have to do it. The whole point of self harming is the blood and the scars, It's never about the pain, I mean the blood brings me a lot of relief and it amaze me, the more blood the better I feel, and it is the same for the scars because I see the scars as trophies, I find it beautiful (It's really hard for me to explain it, to transmit the whole idea) If there's anyone who can relate to this we should maybe talk.
@bunnyringeisen25797 жыл бұрын
that's how I feel too. thank you for trying to explain it in words
@im-at-home7 жыл бұрын
Andy Carreau same, for me the blood is the reason
@carlyyanne87 жыл бұрын
Andy Carreau I totally relate to what you're saying. ! It was always the blood that I wanted and I wouldn't stop until I cut my self deep enough for the blood to flow out. And I was never happy until I felt I drew enough blood, but looking back the funny thing is I started out harming and didn't even draw blood half the time and towards the end I was only satisfied if cut deep enough to where I may have needed stitches... interesting how that developed
@that1person6956 жыл бұрын
Andy Carreau a part of me felt that way too. It always felt wrong knowing why I was doing it.
@shookyology86816 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this in the same
@ss-on3ll7 жыл бұрын
I've started self harming again yesterday after stopping for a while. I don't feel good at all. I feel so pathetic..
@superladdercat16427 жыл бұрын
xXSilentSoul Xx
@annebannan98177 жыл бұрын
xXSilentSoul Xx I know that was a while ago but still... something that helps me is to not focus on breaking a no self harm streak, and focus on the fact that you lasted so long without doing it. Relapse just happens, but if you can go longer and longer without self harming after every relapse then in a way you're getting better. :) And it's okay if you need to take a step back before you go forward.
@mariahwilliams53334 жыл бұрын
How are you doing?
@evanstomlinson61674 жыл бұрын
You are a fighter!! You are amazing. You are hope and LOVE💜
@xxshin_shinxx12473 жыл бұрын
Me too....and no ur not pathetic
@Nasreend3 жыл бұрын
I’m an LPC and I am so grateful for you and your content! Thank you!
@Katimorton3 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@Matt-zb7js5 жыл бұрын
It puts emotion into physical feeling and physical feeling are a lot easier to deal with
@foyiuh107 жыл бұрын
I used to self harm for attention like that. I just wanted someone to know how badly I was hurting but I couldn't put it into words. I still do it sometimes, but differently because it developed from that into me doing it to relieve my frantic feelings when panicking
@ayladelphine37947 жыл бұрын
BabyBeetroot same here. i dont like how people say its attention seeking. because even when it is. its because where hurting so bad that we wont someone to see and to tell us its ok.
@sophiebates19717 жыл бұрын
BabyBeetroot me too! I want someone to tell and do something about how I am feeling but I don't want to have to say I need help because I feel people might think I am just overreacting
@infinitejellyfish15916 жыл бұрын
BabyBeetroot same here!!
@lavyumor6 жыл бұрын
THIS.
@brandonscholfield71986 жыл бұрын
This is relatable. I’ve found no one has ever spoken to me about it however. I’ll put cuts on my arms and bites on my hands but no one seems to care, so nowadays it is only for relief, but there is no substitute I’ve found
@sleeplessmax8 жыл бұрын
The anger example is so accurate to me.
@ashleighmitchell24845 жыл бұрын
김당순!💕
@mariap-xs1vt4 жыл бұрын
Same
@live2die2liveagain4 жыл бұрын
So, I only bite, pinch and sometimes hit myself and I’ve for some reason always told my self that that isn’t ”real” self harm. Cause there is no scar or blood or anything like that. Just temporary marks that go away. And for me I’ve done it because it stops all the feelings that feel out of my control. Like anxiety, loneliness, numbness or panic.
@saraa63363 жыл бұрын
omg same i do that every day but i didn’t know it’s self harm
@oleviawatters23522 жыл бұрын
It's been many years since I've cut, but I did as a teenager. 1. It made the emotional pain visible. 2. The physical pain distracted me from the emotional pain. 3. It gave me something to take care of... Like I would almost ritualisticly cut and then clean and bandage the wounds. 4. It hurt less than before, which may have been the endorphin release thing. It's been 15 years or more since I've done it, but I still get shooting pains down my arms when I'm sad which was usually the precursor to cutting. I just push it down now.
@MirandasAngel10 жыл бұрын
A self harmer, cutter, burner, for 40 years. I just finished a full year, no SH. Of course unless you are a cutter, it's hard to understand why we do it. But your video here has shed a lot of light and I hope a lot of clinicians work harder on learning to understand how to help the self harmer.
@sarahnorton374810 жыл бұрын
WOW, WAY TO GO!!! That is a very impressive feat- I hope you are very proud of you, and I am excited for you to be taking care of yourself, and you are inspiring me to keep fighting for myself! Well done :)
@MirandasAngel9 жыл бұрын
Thanks, I do feel a sense of achievement. I'm glad to be inspiring you. Keep taking care of you. Thanks again, Always here if you need to chat.
@MirandasAngel9 жыл бұрын
Thanks
@mae337810 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate that you don't pretend you know absolutely everything about the topics you speak about. You are a really helpful person, thank you for posting these videos
@angelbyrd16362 жыл бұрын
That book cutting has changed my life, how I looked at myself. It helped me understand what I was going through
@beavertailspoutine77664 жыл бұрын
The strange thing is, I’ve noticed I have different ways of self harm depending on how I feel Like when I’m angry I punch myself, and when I’m sad I cut myself
@samaraberry33943 жыл бұрын
The reason i dont cut when im angry is because im afraid ill go too deep, and then its not a punishment its an attempt. Its easier to batt at yourself when you’re angry.
@rosemaryrobinson24173 жыл бұрын
@@Vinawina101 Yeah, I know what you mean, Brandy. I feel like I can't tell anyone because they might put me away or call 911 or think I'm suicidal which I am not, so I don't say anything but I want to because I want comfort as well. I don't know how to stop either but I finally prayed after slapping my face with both hands as hard as I could and then cutting "loser" on my leg. I prayed and then when I was about to hit again, I was able to stop myself a lot easier than usual! I'm here for you, if you want to write me something here. I will pray for both of us...we will be okay, I know it and I really hope that you will start to feel better and have comfort. Thank you for your post, I thought I would never have that ONE person to tell this to, and here you are. Thank you, Brandy, for being in this world :) We both have bright future's!
@missbiee99156 жыл бұрын
I dont do self harm to get attention... I did it silently.. And it feel so GOOD..
@yellowgoose50434 жыл бұрын
Same....
@meggwith2gs3 жыл бұрын
Yes....except sometimes in public if i hit the losing shot in tennis or mess up at running, i have to hurt immediately because delaying the pain makes me weak...i have to hurt, i can't stop.
@oliviapirie69417 жыл бұрын
I used to find that when I argued with my Mum, I would suddenly flip and hit myself continuously in the head. idk but I feel that maybe I just reach a point where I'm so full of emotion and I don't know what to do with myself so I lash out momentarily :(
@elma28286 жыл бұрын
Me too i would get so angry that i start hitting myself
@mathildecolls4 жыл бұрын
Same, except i bite myself (arm or hand)
@procrastinatingmoth18764 жыл бұрын
Same. I hit myself in the head or face. I would get big bruises on my cheeks and my mom would ask where did i get them. Even tho i really wanna tell her how our arguments make me feel but i also don't want to hurt her and make her feel like a bad parent (she already does). So I'm just here continuing to hit, bite and cut myself 👀✌🏻
@mathildecolls4 жыл бұрын
@@procrastinatingmoth1876 same with the biting part. At least it doesnt leave any scars like cutting
@procrastinatingmoth18764 жыл бұрын
@@mathildecolls most of the time it doesn't. i still have one bite scar tho
@dsfghhgh5 жыл бұрын
Discovering this a bit late, but watching this was really helpful for me. I suddenly started battling the urge to self harm in my late 20s and early 30s, and I have been really confused as to why these feelings came on seemingly out of nowhere. Hearing you describe one of the reasons as “turning the anger inward” is exactly what I have been going through. Feeling alone, isolated, and having nowhere to turn with my pain and anger except to turn it on myself. Thank you for sharing this.
@Madd_M004 жыл бұрын
I never knew what self harm was until I was actually doing it, and I started looking it up, my mum saw me self harm but she didn't do anything about it, I self harm to express self hatred, and to express anger, and to feel pain.
@kellikall8 жыл бұрын
Pain was definitely not the goal for me when I was a self harmer, I got a huge rush of calmless when I saw my own skin divide and expose the fat and blood underneath. I'm glad my brain doesn't work like this anymore, to anyone reading this you will find happiness, some day.
@cedricburkhart37385 жыл бұрын
Broccoli Queen How do you know?😭 It's encouraging to hear but that doesn't mean it's actually true.
@aricleveland5035 жыл бұрын
Yes I love watching when the flesh underneath starts to get red spots and then pools up.
@mrubbykat10 жыл бұрын
I do it because I like the feeling after it... I feel proud og how I was able to handle the pain, I also like covering it up and being concerned of hor making it up so other people don't notice. I like seeing my scars... of course I know it's wrong but sometimes I just don't care. I like the feeling after I'm done like I accomplished something
@jessicanicole17579 жыл бұрын
Katzia Ramos I feel you. It seems like you can't do anything right but If you hurt yourself and you do it 'good' than theres this kind of relief and the 'voice' who's telling you 'See i told you you can do something good and next time i want you to put more effor in it'
@catharinanielsen30015 жыл бұрын
I usually self harm bc i feel so much that it’s overwhelming so I hurt myself to become numb bc self harming is making me calm.
@abbygay42165 жыл бұрын
I self harm because it’s a distraction. Like basically if you burn your hand and then cut off your leg your no longer focused on the pain of you hand but on the one from your leg.
@jo.w73169 жыл бұрын
Does self harm also exist as a form of self punishment?
@jaidan31539 жыл бұрын
yes
@littleliyaloves67948 жыл бұрын
Yeah they do. I do it as punishment. Often very impulsively without even thinking and sometimes in front of people.
@christinab.28648 жыл бұрын
Sure not to me but to punish someone else.
@SmashtheCmachine8 жыл бұрын
+Yuliya Zhelbakova The only time I've done it in front of someone was when they made me angry. And I stared at them while smiling as I did it. Usually, though, it's because I can't make sense of my emotions, and am stressed, and the pain is actually like a warm blanket on a very cold day.
@jjsol3748 жыл бұрын
I make incisions on my legs when I embarrass myself or do something that angers my parents. Or if I feel like I've been selfish about things. Especially with the Christmas time. I'd be upset that I asked for 3 items when everyone asked for 2 or 1. So I'd self harm to punish myself for being so selfish and inconsiderate of everyone else. Fortunately, my 3 closest friends are the only people who seem to care about me, since I've seen people not to give a crap about me (probably because I'm a male), when I was in public breaking down. Even so-called "friends" didn't do anything. Then I got upset with myself for crying in front of everyone. So it'll sometimes be a vicious cycle. I haven't had any medical attention, mainly because I don't want my seeing a psychologist or going to a hospital being an inconvenience to them.
@AngeliaChanel8 жыл бұрын
self loathing, that's my issue and the reason I do it.
@SmashtheCmachine8 жыл бұрын
+AngeliaChanel I have self loathing, but that's actually not the reason for me. I do it when my emotions start running rampant, and the WONDERFUL pain sort of puts me in a trance. Calms the raging storm inside.
@hermionegranger51088 жыл бұрын
+I'll vote TRUMP over Shitlery and I hate Trump! - I totally agree! I only stopped because of a promise to a mentor. Even though that was in October of 2015, I have come so close to breaking that promise more and more......
@user-zu7mm8ni8x7 жыл бұрын
Same, I do it because I punish myself for being such an idiot
@cedricburkhart37385 жыл бұрын
But you wouldn't loath another person if they had the same thing that makes you loath your self.
@bearoqueiro89053 жыл бұрын
It resonated so bad with me when she said it was silent screaming, because although it's not the primary reason why I do it, I kind of want people to notice and take it seriously. a lot of times you can say you have depression, anxiety, etc but they won't really take it seriously unless they see actual consequences of what depression did to you. plus, it's more subtle than announcing I Have Depression out of nowhere
@VildeStokke5 жыл бұрын
Ive used self harm to ground myself when I'm freaking out and over thinking. Its like channeling the emotions I can't deal with into physical pain is easier to handel
@abrianaschaeffer30509 жыл бұрын
the anger one was like whoa that's what I've been feeling? it was anger and stress and frustration? whoa... so I'm not the only one?? it was weird but i had to pause the video and think for a minute lol
@oforth8 жыл бұрын
silent screaming... yeah that resonates a lot. not that i'd have admitted it at the time. while i was self-harming i was so convinced of my success rate in hiding it in plain sight... but i really think, looking back that part of the problem was that there wasn't any followup.
@sugarskull37714 жыл бұрын
I completely understand
@BlackCampariBlue5 жыл бұрын
I self harmed when I was in a really dark place by scratching and bumping my head. It was usually when I was in a conflict with someone (and boy was I fast at being hurt) and normally I totally broke down, screaming and cursing the person and thinking about how the world would be a better place without me. I don't self harm physically anymore, but sometimes when I'm feeling worthless or really misunderstood or under pressure I still feel the urge to scratch myself again. I don't know how, it was such a liberating feeling. Such as "everything is awry but at least I can show what a piece of sh*t I actually am. At least I can set everything aflame". It kinda makes emotional sense for me, although it's confusing when tried to be verbalised
@cayleighkearns22465 жыл бұрын
I’ve been 2 years self harm free. Even thinking about it makes me anxious. I could never think about doing it ever again, whereas at one time I thought I’d die that way. I thought I could never live without it. I overcame it with lots of help and wonderful people and the right medication. There are always going to be bad days, but I know the worst are over. This is a very accurate and valuable video. I have always wanted to read this book but I had wanted to read it in the past for wrong reasons (better ways to harm) but now that I know it would be safe to read it I would love to read it. Although it may bring back unwanted feelings. I’m currently in school to become a psychologist, so I feel the book would also be educational for me to better help clients. Love your educational videos! I will definitely be using them to study from!
@Brigid-Silverstone137 жыл бұрын
You deserve happiness and peace. You are worthy of healing. ❤
@maiajayne80026 жыл бұрын
It helps with control but most of all focus. when I am spiraling and having an anxiety attack self harm is an immediate thing i can focus on and for 5 minutes my brain stops running a million miles an hour.
@tania_siebzehn4 жыл бұрын
I am sad... but I don't want everyone look pitty to me when I am in crying and depression.... I slap my face till my cheek so hurt
@evanstomlinson61674 жыл бұрын
Stay Encouraged and Strong. 💜
@ariaachann83313 жыл бұрын
Yeah me too
@mylastdime75 жыл бұрын
I'm crying throughout the whole video 😭 hug me
@girlplease24524 жыл бұрын
Khiara Cruz I will
@evanstomlinson61674 жыл бұрын
🤗🤗🤗You got it girl!💜
@NICOLE_THE_SIMMER4 жыл бұрын
🤗
@TheSanctifiedBabe3 жыл бұрын
Sends virtual hug 🤗❤️
@caitlincintron64573 жыл бұрын
virtual hug 🤗 💝
@tinabod832110 жыл бұрын
I'm 20, my whole life and still now I am abused emotionally by my mother... No one believes me... But it happends.. I've self harmed for 7 years... Because i'm made to feel worthless and pathetic, I was never allowed to follow my dreams... I'm finally taking a long trip to travel Australia even though she threatens to kill herself because i'm leaving.... I don't think self harm will ever leave me because now I feel so badly about myself and my mum just encourages it in a way...
@Kabberri10 жыл бұрын
I wish you all the luck and love :) you can get through this
@Jenniferlynne07146 жыл бұрын
Tina Bod same dude, 2 now
@What-sr2pk6 жыл бұрын
hey how are you now?
@yjadalyn110 жыл бұрын
I just wish I could understand why I choose to SH when things are actually looking OK in my life. Everytime things are at a standstill, or a calm place (as far as my ED, SH, and drug use is concerned ), I have this strange desire or this craving inside to mess it up. It's like I'm uncomfortable with growth and positivity for myself but I love to see it for others. I hate being so destructive.
@annebannan98177 жыл бұрын
Jüdah Morgan God damn that was three years ago but I'm gonna respond anyway. I'm the same way with depression and self harm, I don't want to let myself get better in a way. Anytime anything starts to look good it just makes me so uncomfortable and guilty, like I don't deserve to get better. I feel more comfortable and content with myself when I'm really low, because it just feels like what I need.
@inbalbenbenishty68016 жыл бұрын
YAJA how are you?
@inbalbenbenishty68016 жыл бұрын
Annebannan how are you?
@healinginafricamymentalhea76925 жыл бұрын
Its called Munchausens. Or Factitious disorder.
@notmyopinion49814 жыл бұрын
I just have to say... omg. Thank you for the title. I clicked on this video bc i was banging my head or on my legs sometimes. And i wanted to know generally, what to do with self harm, thinking that me banging my head till i am dizzy is just me being crazy... like i didnt know that there are others who do this, and it made me think its rather common. I am so thankful to know, that i know now that i can talk about this, without feeeling ashamed. I am 22 and i started recently. I think with 21... i just get so frustrated with my self that i start hitting myself on my head with my fists, like really hard. Thank you very much. That made me very brave and make me consider going to therapy.
@emmotionless98605 жыл бұрын
I haven't self harmed for 4 years! I still get 'urges'.. but your video definitely resonates.. thinking back it was a coping mechanism.. self medicating by using it to feel and express anger or frustration even saddness.. as well as to escape, even if it's just for a little bit.. I like your comparison to a 'drug' because it was so addictive after I started... When I started getting tattoos it helped me a lot because the actual process gives you that adrenaline and pain however afterwards there's an artists work on your skin to admire ^-^
@glvdnbinge24406 жыл бұрын
I feel like I’m wearing a mask all the time 😞
@thatlibrarysmell7205 жыл бұрын
Soju Senpai If you’re willing to admit that then the real you is PROBABLY so bad that you need to hide them.
@ar_gusp16743 жыл бұрын
If only you knew about COVID 19
@nicolealexandra13923 жыл бұрын
@@ar_gusp1674 very funny ha ha
@gunnarerickson87083 жыл бұрын
This aged well
@cxldstar4713 жыл бұрын
Feel you bro. Not alone.
@TheTibimaruko10 жыл бұрын
Thanks for eng subs. I'm not English speaker so it helps me a lot to understand. Reading English is easier than listening for me. I'm a fan of you. You've helped me a LOT. I love your videos!!
@hayleyf94385 жыл бұрын
I love how people tell her to shut up yet she’s the professional...
@bevneesam79942 жыл бұрын
Silent screaming 😱 thankyou so much 💓 I'm trying my best to support my 12 year old grandaughter. I can't bear to see her suffer 😔 any advise would be so appreciated from anyone who sees my plea
@lizzymitchell28188 жыл бұрын
I think that in a way self harmers are more sensitive then people who don't self harm. If you think about it the people who self harm will hurt themselves than whoever made them mad and also proves that self harmers actually have emotion
@lm93276 жыл бұрын
Respectfully disagree. I don't self harm, but I would consider myself extremely sensitive. In fact, I have severe anxiety & depression and the triggers that would lead some to self-harm lead me to different *albeit equally unhealthy* coping behaviors. I believe there are many ways for extreme sensitivity, and therefore extreme pain, to manifest itself. Yes that certainly includes self-harming and I respect that, but let's not minimize anyone else's pain based on the nature of their coping behaviors.
@amandapanda91186 жыл бұрын
Lizzy Mitchell Yup. We hurt ourselves instead of you. Example: Person A self harms so their parents/family/friends don't get upset. We don't want to hurt others. Please don't judge us if you think we want attention, we just want someone who will understand and be there for us. To anyone who is going through anything, abuse, self harm, bullying, whatever. Please, don't be afraid to reach out. It's all okay, I love you and I'm proud of you for staying this long. You're probably thinking, "You don't know me, you can't be proud of me. " ect. Yes, I am proud of you. I understand. I'll put myself out. Need to talk? My instagram is: mandypandy1026 Love ya'll♥❤
@aztocaligal59575 жыл бұрын
I know that I'd prefer to spontaneously combust than be as mean as I was given & as mean as I once was. Being a monster was in some ways scarier than being the recipient. After this long "joy ride" has been so far, spontaneous combustion is a consideration, lol. j/k
@em-wv4qt5 жыл бұрын
Sister L. Its honestly A personal thing. Most of us are very sensitive .
@datawizard1308 жыл бұрын
I have a problem with using social media too much as a coping skill
@seagull6538 жыл бұрын
its like a shield
@JessLotte6 жыл бұрын
ME TOO!
@GeeaRCee5 жыл бұрын
5:00 Its the other way around for my friend. They told me that they self harm because they are experiencing so much emotional pain and they use physical self harm to numb the overwhelming feelings of their emotional pain.
@mae7906 жыл бұрын
It’s been 2 years and I’m proud of myself, and everyone else that’s trying to move on from their pasts and start fresh x
@christinab.28647 жыл бұрын
What about self punishment from being bored all day, bored the day before and will be bored tomorrow?
@taylormichelle46406 жыл бұрын
I've been self harming since I was in 5th grade and I'm now a sophomore in high school, sadly still doing it. It's mainly because of bullying, never experiencing having a friend, and my social anxiety. It helped temporarily take away the emotional pain and I've gotten so used to it that a lot of times I'll go out without sleeves and forget it's even there and it makes others think I'm weird and just seeking attention.
@cedricburkhart37385 жыл бұрын
Taylor Michelle That's really sad.😭
@MaTTheWish2 жыл бұрын
Try to love yourself, the fact that you are here means you care and your life will be awesome someday soon!
@taleef17606 жыл бұрын
I've been watching some of your videos and I just keep crying. All these things you're putting into words that it's always so hard for me to express. Thank you for your videos.
@evelyn69205 жыл бұрын
I‘ve just found your channel and I am so happy that you decided to take on this topic. I feel like nobody is talking about it and as a result, nobody understands, but judges easily. I myself used to self harm - my scars will never vanish and I have a hard time talking about it. I want to really thank you for making this video, I am very grateful for what you are doing. And to all those people in the comments who are still struggling: I wish you change, love and happiness. It will get better
@theyordle277 жыл бұрын
I always love the way she says "does that make sense?" it's very calming in a way and makes me feel like she genuinely is expecting an answer before she continues. love her vids!
@p0t.n00dle47 жыл бұрын
why is cutting always described as the only type of self harm, I keep banging my head on the wall and kinda punch and scratch myself when I'm really angry or helpless kinda like frustrated like something doesn't work from me like my phone won't open I kinda take the frustration out like that and I feel super guilty afterwards and I do a lot of silent screaming with all that and I just feel like everything I feel is fake and I ve wanted help for so long but my parents don't support me I've tried to kill my self before without telling anyone but didn't take enough and I'm jus kinda done can someone pls tell me what's wrong cuz I'm about to give up.
@zain40195 жыл бұрын
TheUltimateEmoTrash oh my goodness you poor soul :(((( I hope you’re doing okay two years later. Please please try EFT (Brad Yates has a channel), it’s life-saving. Try it, it will help, I promise. You can see an EMDR therapist as well. They do wonders, like mine did for me. I hope you’re doing better two years later, please please take care of yourself. You are worthy. I Promise.
@marycredo6835 жыл бұрын
Cutting is not the only self harm. It’s just the most common that’s why people use cutting as an example of self harm.
@renab.73905 жыл бұрын
Me too. I scratched myself, bit or pinched myself till I had bruises, bit my lips, nails and the skin around it till it was bloody, ripped my hair out in patches, cut myself in different ways, strangled/asphyxiated a few times... and everytime I realized I was getting addicted to one self harming behavior I forced myself to stop, but in actuality I immediately + subconsciously replaced it with another one. Cutting and ripping out hair were definitely the most difficult to get rid of for me...
@dayanhajjmoussa17974 жыл бұрын
Please tell me you're still here, I hope I'm not to late but please don't give up you probably don't know me but you're not alone it gets better I promise if you want to talk about it I'm here I would love to talk to you.
@tim45424 жыл бұрын
Thank you for talking about this, it's so important to get this information out there. I self-harmed for 5 years and was hospitalized for it and no one knows how to have a conversation about it. I really appreciate what you're doing by talking about this.
@Immortal_swine6 жыл бұрын
I’m so grateful for your compassion to self hammers in this video. Its hard to admit, but self harming to call for help and to express my anger is what I’m getting from the act.
@wisermiears8 жыл бұрын
Hey, Kati! I LOVE your videos and as a Behavioral Analyst for children with Autism, this video really struck out to me. A lot of my nonverbal kids exhibit self-injurous behavior either for escape from a task or simply for attention. Finding the reasoning behind it has always been the key to understanding how to react or approach it. I feel like you really addressed the MULTIPLE functions of SIB and I have been spreading your videos as much as I can :)
@princessreili238210 жыл бұрын
Oh my, I can relate to all of the types she talks about :/
@renab.73905 жыл бұрын
Finally someone who explains it in a way that feels real and makes sense from the patient's perspective (imo).
@alexadellastella52476 жыл бұрын
YOu are amazing! You made me cry.... You are so authentic, non judgmental and empathic, thank you!
@christinab.28647 жыл бұрын
I used to want people know but not now
@toottootbleetbleet8 жыл бұрын
do you know anything about obsessive skin picking? I do it a lot. I have depression and anxiety so I'm not sure if it's self harming or solely just and obsessive activity. I pick mostly at my fingers, around the nail, but sometimes it'll be scabs or other things like that
@fishingwithorigami598 жыл бұрын
I do the same many times I start to bleed. If I don't chew or pick my fingers I get really bad anxiety.
@toottootbleetbleet8 жыл бұрын
+Fishing with origami😸 I usually bleed as well. I just need to. part of my brain drives me to do it even though I know it destructive. my fiancé tries to stop me but then I just try and be secretive and I keep doing it
@abbycolby45437 жыл бұрын
Summer Folster it could be dermatillomania
@swivelkeyring35126 жыл бұрын
I do that since I'm a child tbh and I often bite dry parts of my lips til it bleed, I cut but stopped early
@janedoe68665 жыл бұрын
I pick at my loose or calloused skin and use a nail clipper to clip off the skin around my finger and toenails because I want to smooth it out. I think it's an OCD thing (I have been diagnosed with OCD, GAD, and various sensory issues). It's not about pain, it's about making it feel "right" or even. And sometimes I do bleed, though that's not the goal. Sometimes I get paranoid about people seeing me after I shower or when I go swimming because I don't want people to ask me about why my skin looks so weird (because it is only "smoothed out" when it's dry). And it's actually worse after I swim or shower because I can see the parts of my hands and feet that aren't smooth, so I want to pick at/clip them again. I don't know if it classifies as a self harm behavior, but it's a crappy, annoying cycle.
@mrsaah76 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this video, Kati. I struggle with a lot of shame about my few visible scars. It's so good to know I'm not alone, and that this shouldn't be a source of shame.
@jazcastle24224 жыл бұрын
After 14 yrs of on off cutting ive come to relise that whatever is going on in my life if i feel like the world is out of my control its a safety blanket. As my wounds are healing so am i, i feel stronger as my wounds heal, mentally.
@un2mensch6 жыл бұрын
The point about "inward anger" is interesting because there are two very different versions of this. It is, as you say, a way of containing an outburst - an urge to lash out violently - perhaps because of a feeling of powerlessness against someone, or even a feeling of being dangerous to someone else due to one's own near loss of control and self-restraint. This one isn't enjoyable at all. The other is an inward rage similar to self-hatred, in response to prolonged and repeated emotionally traumatic experiences. At some point, you realise the only way to make sense of the bullshit affecting you is to blame yourself for it, and you realise you're forever doomed to repeat the same mistakes and end up in the same situations. So the next step is to torture yourself physically (and mentally, I suppose) because you deserve it. People have strange coping mechanisms.
@JM-yx4ew5 жыл бұрын
I compulsively pick at my scalp. It's a self soothing thing when I'm watching tv or hanging around. It's super embarrassing so I generally catch myself around other people, but I do it at home in front of my bf who doesn't say anything if he notices. It's something I feel compelled to do, and like, it's oddly satisfying. I need to find a way to self soothe that isn't so self destructive but I haven't found anything that replaces it. Note: I used to pop zits and pick at my blemishes on my skin more but that would often result in worsening the problem and bright red, blotchy skin. The scalp picking is mostly concealed except when I go to get a hair cut.
@gaspshichat4 жыл бұрын
April 2nd, 2020 I am one year clean of cutting!!
@sandramontesdeoca9514 Жыл бұрын
I am a student becoming a social worker, thank you so much for this video. I know people that self harm, and this is the first time I understood it, and know I will be able to use it seeing patients.
@carlyyanne88 жыл бұрын
I first saw it in a movie and one day when I was upset did it and was hooked from that day forward. It escalated to doing it when I was upset, to doing it to feel because my emotions shut off, when I was bored , or needed to relieve stress even when I wanted to use drugs or drink and couldn't I would do it in place of using. It's a nasty spiral and if anyone is reading this DONT DO IT ! Because it's never just one time, believe me
@mallorysirko67978 жыл бұрын
what movie?
@uruppy14068 жыл бұрын
+two stupid girls "Girl, Interrupted"? but I never saw it. I'm not really sure if it's a movie on self harm or it just included a self harm incident. I wanted to watch it but I always forgot. Ive read about it on a blog
@DanKirchner51505 жыл бұрын
the secretary
@lambykins147110 жыл бұрын
This resonated with me a bit too much
@sandrajhall22422 жыл бұрын
I used to cut and burn for 19 years because the emotional pain was too much to bear. I was suicidal for decades, in and out of hospitals, because of severe childhood abuse and neglect. I no longer need a therapist and am no longer depressed or suicidal after decades of therapy.
@ebonyemmi2306 жыл бұрын
I really love how you ask,,OK?" because it makes me feel as if you would address to me directly and want me to understand that I`m ok
@jacobmullens3745 жыл бұрын
When someone puts me down and belittling me it really upsets me and makes me mad and self harming makes me feel like I’m in control. I also do it when I get upset I was told a guy doesn’t cry so it makes me feel better.
@jordanclava9316 жыл бұрын
The other day a friend accidently dropped a heavy backpack on my arm, and it was nothing serious, not even a bruise, but for some reason I really enjoyed it and I became obsessed with the adrenaline that came with it.
@samaraberry33943 жыл бұрын
Relate
@amyherrick67725 жыл бұрын
I really love your channel bc it is so informative and also breaks the stigma. Also- I love the fact that when you speak about the patient you say “us” and “we” in every video. That makes “us” feel included.
@harmonyhenry64002 жыл бұрын
I started mildly cutting as a result of an eating disorder. A recent relationship and some difficulties with school have caused me to cut like never before. Another form of self harm I have dealt with is piercing. When I would think of the failed relationship I would feel embarrassed and guilty, then resort to jabbing rings through my ears and lips