What Does an Orgasm Feel Like?

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Hannah Witton

Hannah Witton

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Let's talk about orgasms! 🎆 what do they feel like? are they important? how do you have one? Thanks to CHEEX for sponsoring this video! CHEEX which is a membership that gives you unlimited access to a whole bunch of incredible erotic films, audio stories and education. Head to their website and use the code HANNAH for 14 days free access! 💋 bit.ly CHEEX-hannah
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CHAPTERS
00:00 - Introduction
02:14 - What is an orgasm?
04:27 - Vaginal vs clitoral orgasms
07:05 - Word cloud time!
09:38 - Orgasms in the mainstream media
14:17 - Orgasms are amazing, but…
16:46 - Orgasm tips
21:16 - Wrap-up
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@Kjane921
@Kjane921 2 жыл бұрын
So glad you made this video! I remember being very concerned that I wouldn’t recognize an orgasm if it happened (I spent a while being jealous of the penis people and their very unambiguous sign of orgasm). This video would have been super helpful in that stage of my journey, and I’m sure it will be helpful to lots of young people like me.
@moonthurst
@moonthurst 2 жыл бұрын
As part of the Penis People, I am sorry for your loss all those years. ;-P
@barrychuckle5565
@barrychuckle5565 9 ай бұрын
I think that by the moronic warped terminology of 'penis people ', you mean MEN.
@banrions
@banrions 2 жыл бұрын
i'm 31 and i've def never had one. its actually made me so self concious and less likely to try and have any sort of sexual relationships with other people. thank you for making this, it made me feel a little better
@chrisbeantine
@chrisbeantine 2 жыл бұрын
Hi! I’m also 31 and have never had one. Im glad I saw your comment, because I often feel like im the only one who hasn’t had an orgasm at this age.
@moonchild708
@moonchild708 2 жыл бұрын
@@bubblegumblood8995 well, i wouldn't tell anyone that any experience is overhyped if they hadn't had it. it's like if you're giving "advice" to someone who has never dated anyone and you say "it's not great, it's a waste of time" or "you'll find someone eventually" or "you just need to love yourself", meanwhile the person giving this advice got married at 18 before they knew themselves but have now been happily married for 15 years. just because they've never had an orgasm doesn't mean one won't be good for them when it does happen, and even if it's not that good when they do, they are missing out *right now*.
@imogenminoli238
@imogenminoli238 2 жыл бұрын
I’m 26 and I’ve only just had my first orgasm a couple of months ago, still can only do it with a “clit sucker” vibrator - had tried loads of other vibrators before. I know what you mean though I felt embarrassed pretty much any time anyone brought up sex or orgasms and now I’m worried about having a sexual relationship because I don’t think I will be able to with them and definitely not without the vibrator 😬
@patricknelson1471
@patricknelson1471 2 жыл бұрын
women are more attached to their emotional side so their whole existence is orgasmic men just have those moments of extreme happiness
@jamestrentham8576
@jamestrentham8576 Жыл бұрын
​​​​@@imogenminoli238 Hi Imogen. Firstly, congrats on your first orgasm!!! There will be many more to come, but at your own pace and you should never feel under any pressure at all. It's a fantastic experience to guide a girl through her early climaxes and it'll click. You're beautiful Imogen and I wish you amazing orgasms. Btw how have they been these 11 months?
@sofiaivarsson3482
@sofiaivarsson3482 2 жыл бұрын
Orgasms can also be painful. When I had a endometriosis flare up a few years ago, orgasms could either work as pain relief or trigger pain for me. A total gamble. If anyone is experiencing pain in connection to your orgasms, I want you to know that you are not alone in this experience.
@unicornalley_30
@unicornalley_30 2 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate! I have endometriosis as well, and even if the orgasm itself isn't painful I still have horrible after pains. It seems like such an extra insult to injury. :/
@chloehuggs4017
@chloehuggs4017 2 жыл бұрын
Wow so glad someone else said this! I have deep infiltrating endometriosis in my bowel and bladder and sometimes this can make sex and orgasms super painful. Or like a deep pressure so I just stop having sex before I could even climax. Other times it can be an amazing pain relief, like you said… a gamble!
@alissa6380
@alissa6380 2 жыл бұрын
I don't have endometriosis (as far as I know, at least), but I definitely find that a few days before my period's about to start a good-feeling orgasm is often followed by an hour or two of not-worth-it cramps. this experience has become less frequent later in my twenties, but was definitely a tell-tale sign up until a few years ago and would make me avoid trying to have orgasms if i knew menstruation was approaching. which, as a person who *loves* orgasms, was quite disappointing
@TinksiehTink
@TinksiehTink 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah the long cramping after, sometimes pain up to a day or two after, makes it hard to really enjoy an orgasm.
@SamWest96
@SamWest96 2 жыл бұрын
Oh man yeah, it's massively impacting my sex life because I have to decide if I want the risk each time
@c8linlovesyew
@c8linlovesyew 2 жыл бұрын
I didn't have an orgasm with a partner or in sex at all until after my 3rd child was born. I had finally stopped birth control and my husband had a vasectomy. I had finally stopped birth control and wasn't pregnant and worried about having another baby. It felt free and I could really enjoy myself.
@julesk3816
@julesk3816 2 жыл бұрын
for me, i can reach that point of "pressure/feeling tightly wound"... but i can't keep going and have to back off, otherwise i feel overstimulated and almost in pain. and descriptions of orgasms are so vague that i don't understand if what's happening to me IS an orgasm, or if i'm meant to push through the discomfort and there's some "promised land of orgasms" on the other side.
@Emily._.Reepicheep
@Emily._.Reepicheep 2 жыл бұрын
It can also be that you're stimulating too directly, that it would work better for you to do it with the clitoral hood over it and if you're alone with panties on, that makes the sensation less intense and might help get you there
@lucie8765
@lucie8765 2 жыл бұрын
That used to happen to me when I tried but wasn’t already physically aroused, it would end up being painful and I would give up. The game changer for me was finding a way to get aroused (in my case reading porn stories) and only starting direct stimulation when I’m sufficiently aroused
@kyliefitzgerald6984
@kyliefitzgerald6984 2 жыл бұрын
I agree with Emily. Try going at it with less pressure, slow down, and go indirect (if youve seen mastubation porn, so the opposite of what theyre doing lol). If you're using a vibrator of some sort, use a lower setting and go indirectly. Indirectly as in, from the side or going further up on the clitroal hood or even further up with light pressure going down towards it. I know exactly what your feeling and that...is nearing an orgasm but not in a pleasurable way. I still feel this when using stimulating toys or if my husband has a brain fart and forgets what I like 😂
@cecileleducq9278
@cecileleducq9278 2 жыл бұрын
Omg I have to say thank you for this comment, because this is exactly what I feel a lot of the time (and used to feel ALL the time) but I hadn't been able to put it into words, heard the same from anyone else or felt comfortable enough sharing it. But yes it's exactly that, it gets to so much it almost hurts, and I felt I was going to shatter if I kept going, but maybe I was supposed to keep going and then it would turn into something good? Honestly it made me afraid of my own body for so long. The thing that's helped me the most was experimenting with a vibrator that uses air pulsing rather than vibration (like the Womanizer brand). The vibrations can be to intense for the clitoris, whereas the air pulsing really helped creating a much more pleasurable build-up which ultimately I was able to turn into a release. That being said I'm still not feeling the fireworks, it's just my whole body becoming so incredibly warm from within, but this video made me realise that that's okay too!
@lennytrue8576
@lennytrue8576 Жыл бұрын
this is what i feel too, thank you for sharing :) I've kinda accepted/decided that i probably wouldnt enjoy an orgasm bc of feeling that big pressure and overwhelming feelings
@mrswats
@mrswats 2 жыл бұрын
"Damn you, Freud" is a whole ass mood!
@Brie_Cheese_
@Brie_Cheese_ 2 жыл бұрын
Shame the video turned into 4th Wave Feminist garbage halfway though.
@JudyCZ
@JudyCZ 2 жыл бұрын
@@Brie_Cheese_ You're not staring any specific things that are wrong with what Hanna's saying nor any counterarguments, though.
@meganann_2213
@meganann_2213 2 жыл бұрын
I think “pressure” could mean a build up of pressure in a good way, not necessarily feeling pressured to orgasm. Probably a combination of both answers !!
@liltashmuh
@liltashmuh 2 жыл бұрын
Came here to say this! I think it goes with the idea of 'release', too. I could see people describing it as a release of pressure or a building pressure leading to some of the other words such as explosion.
@92Pyromaniac
@92Pyromaniac 2 жыл бұрын
It's a bit cliched but 'a very powerful sneeze' is by far the best description of the full-body sensations of orgasm I've ever found. I think I'm quite tactile sensitive compared to a lot of people and for me sneezing genuine feels amazing! It leaves me with this full-body glow. Multiple sneezes in a row are heaven XD
@madisonbrown3296
@madisonbrown3296 2 жыл бұрын
Same. Right before it feels like I'm about to sneeze...but deeper lol
@yosoysoya7944
@yosoysoya7944 2 жыл бұрын
Haha, yeah, I recently thought about that too! The difference for me though is that sneezing relieves me from an unpleasant feeling while orgasming from an unbearably pleasant one :D...
@user-tn8xq2so2y
@user-tn8xq2so2y 2 жыл бұрын
It feels like the pleasure you get from itching a misquote bite.
@milkchaser
@milkchaser 2 жыл бұрын
Sneezing is my second favorite spasm.
@EmsIsFab
@EmsIsFab 2 жыл бұрын
I could have used this video when I was younger! When I was 19 in university I was asking my friend what an orgasm felt like and all they would say was "when you have one - you'll know." TURNS OUT I had already had many... literally thought I hadn't because I don't associate the feeling with "fireworks" and all that... Literally just like muscle spasms but good is how I would describe it LOL
@honestlyholly7657
@honestlyholly7657 2 жыл бұрын
Omg me too, I didn't know what the fuss was about?? It was just like... My vagina pulsing for a bit and a nice release for a couple of seconds lmao
@ClipsByLaura
@ClipsByLaura 2 жыл бұрын
I love that 'scratching an itch' is in the wordcloud, cause I feel like that is such an asexual experience.
@angelique3636
@angelique3636 2 жыл бұрын
Wow Hannah... You managed to upload a 22:02 minute long video on 02/22/22. Nice job 😁
@testosteronic
@testosteronic 2 жыл бұрын
Works even better the way round the date's written in the UK - 22:02 on 22/02/2022
@angelique3636
@angelique3636 2 жыл бұрын
@@testosteronic Haha, didn't know! In Austria we write them like that, too! That was stupid of me then... This is a UK-video after all 😅
@ehzmia
@ehzmia 2 жыл бұрын
Hearing about educators getting in trouble over links makes the rampant porn spam in the comment sections even more annoying.
@ghostlight4644
@ghostlight4644 2 жыл бұрын
this video is exactly what i needed - i’m in a similar place as you were ten years ago where i engage all the time with sex ed & discussions of sexuality, but have not had an orgasm and don’t know what to look for or how to take the pressure off of having one. thank you so much for this hannah
@JoyandSerenity.
@JoyandSerenity. 2 жыл бұрын
I have seen other videos on this topic saying you should romance yourself. Get time alone, light some candles, put on some sexy jazz or something and just explore whatever you have to offer. Toys can help but aren't necessary, lube is your friend. The goal should never be the destination but rather the journey of finding yourself.
@mariatrinidad1370
@mariatrinidad1370 2 жыл бұрын
I 100% recommended using toys! I had my first orgasm with a vibrator, it helped me realize what it feels like and I can now make myself come on my own
@honeycombc
@honeycombc 2 жыл бұрын
I’m personally Asexual and find this so interesting! I’ve come accept that sex is just something I don’t want to be a part of, maybe in the future that’ll change but regardless. I love your channel so much!! As someone who doesn’t have, or plan to, have sex, your videos are super informational and I learn so much! It’s so cool that we have people like you who talk about sex so positively for the sake of everyone! I love it!! Keep up your awesome work Hannah!!
@Thelegendhimself16
@Thelegendhimself16 Жыл бұрын
@@anvithequarsonist imagine believing some retested thing. Freak weirdo
@mpiper456
@mpiper456 2 жыл бұрын
I don’t know if I agree that I always feel ‘done’ after I have an orgasm. After I orgasm once I feel like I’ve experienced an event but I don’t necessarily feel completely spent or done. It’s almost more like a series of peaks and if the most intense part of my orgasm is a 5 then immediately after I’m at a 3 and can wait to come back down to 0 or can build up again to another 5 or higher. Sometimes after really intense orgasms I also feel like I need a smaller orgasm to kind of come down like a cool down after an intense workout haha. It’s fascinating how different people’s experience of orgasm and arousal can be.
@testosteronic
@testosteronic 2 жыл бұрын
I'm more like that too. Often my first orgasm feels like a prelude to better or bigger ones. I don't feel "done"--I feel like I'm just getting started
@mpiper456
@mpiper456 2 жыл бұрын
@@testosteronic ooh yes exactly!
@SamWest96
@SamWest96 2 жыл бұрын
Oh I'm so glad I read this! I'm the same, it's like I've not quite released enough and it can almost be uncomfortable
@LilyUnicorn
@LilyUnicorn 2 жыл бұрын
....i find that happens more often with girls/women who have recently just started having sex for the first time.....................
@mpiper456
@mpiper456 2 жыл бұрын
@@LilyUnicorn That’s not my personal experience but it could be someone else’s!
@melodybales2038
@melodybales2038 2 жыл бұрын
I really like the thing you mentioned about taking a further look into why you feel orgasm is the goal of sex. And thinking on whether or not that's actually satisfying for you. I regularly orgasm, but it doesnt always translate to being satisfied or feeling connected with my partner. I love orgasms, but there have been times I was disappointed or sad that it happened. I've struggled with sex feeling like a checklist, and we climax without it actually feeling 'sexy.' Really loved this! I wanna discuss it with my person soon.😊💕
@nuelexploit7749
@nuelexploit7749 2 жыл бұрын
Hey I like you
@baz1263
@baz1263 2 жыл бұрын
Try black guys, you will fly each time
@Parmesito
@Parmesito 2 жыл бұрын
Maybe the word "pressure" on the word cloud meant a physical sensation of pressure to some of the people that chose it?
@SamWest96
@SamWest96 2 жыл бұрын
That's how I interpreted it too, interesting how the word could be interpreted in 2 very different ways
@eleanor243
@eleanor243 2 жыл бұрын
Another thing that I think is important to mention is that medication or medication changes can change how achievable orgasm is and how they feel and that is completely normal. I changed medication shortly before getting with my current partner and I used to worry that I was having more difficulty achieving orgasm because of them. I realised tho that it was my medication (decreased libido etc is one of the side effects) not my partner or me
@valeriabustos9635
@valeriabustos9635 2 жыл бұрын
Some medications actually improve libido. I’m on Wellbutrin 150 mg xL for depression and it actually is approved off label to help people with libidos issues…. I find more pleasure taking this and having sex… I came 6 times in one hour omg
@FaerieDust
@FaerieDust 2 жыл бұрын
I love this video! You've hit all the talking points I usually touch when talking to people about sex without orgasms. I'm 31 years old and have had exactly one orgasm - with a one night stand in another country (on another continent even, bc why not 😅) when I was 25. I was a sex educator for several years before and after My One Orgasm (TM), it was a bit of a weird experience. I'd also never had sex with another person for the majority of that time. Part of the reason is probably that I've had a major clinical depression since I was 15, and a Very Negative relationship with my body as well. I still enjoy sex and masturbation though - the process still feels good, even if I never orgasm. I'll feel good, then better, then just done and oversensitive and unsatisfied. It's quite frustrating tbh, but better when I'm with a partner - the intimacy and distraction of focusing on my partner's pleasure often reduces my own frustration, which in turn makes the whole thing feel much better.
@sreemoyeeroygosthipaty3697
@sreemoyeeroygosthipaty3697 2 жыл бұрын
Really insightful! Thank you for putting down all the points in one place.
@elizabethpinkandturquoise8325
@elizabethpinkandturquoise8325 2 жыл бұрын
Would be interesting to make a video about how the orgasm changes while being on hormones for trans people. Even with the same genitalia the difference in the dominant hormone in our bodies affects how an orgasm works and how you get to it.
@annakissed3226
@annakissed3226 2 жыл бұрын
it changed for you how? For me the sensation of this intense wave over the body has always been the same, equallly I never had an issue thank goodness with having just one. I can keep going until I get the relief I seek, what orgasism have never been us pleasurable, they have always been about managing a body that bits that shouldn't be there, that would enlarge & get in the way & would make me feel utterly violated by their existance. Part of my day to day existance is having to deal with their existence & the sensation of them being their & stopping myself getting a knife & get rid of them. Sometimes during the day I can forget, other times it dominates my every moment and I use various prescribed prescription drugs to reduce try tension to the point I can manage it. But getting turned on makes everything so much worse. Hence seeking release & relief. The worst thing in some ways is knowing personally that surgery will help. I got some stuff removed & I can't recall what it was like to have them. Its as if they never existed. It's like being in intense pain, I can remember times when I was in screaming agony but I have no idea what that felt like other than I don't want to experience it again!!
@sarahelcombe
@sarahelcombe 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve learnt so much from your videos about all sorts of things. So glad you came up in my recommended however many months ago, you’ve helped me be more open about talking about these sorts of things with other people. Please keep making your content ❤️
@ashen_fields
@ashen_fields 2 жыл бұрын
How I wish I had this kind of video in my early 20's. I didn't have my first orgasm until 25 and I thought I was broken. Thank you for making this!
@unicornalley_30
@unicornalley_30 2 жыл бұрын
I love to see content like this! My orgasm journey has been...interesting. But, perhaps backwards to that of some people? Because of several chronic illnesses and some trauma, in the past 4 ish years my relationship to sex and orgasm has drastically changed in some very negative ways. It's been a journey rediscovering what orgasm can feel like for me, and learning not to be judgmental about what my body does and doesn't do now(especially since it is SO different to what I used to experience). I really like that you mentioned that it's not always positive. I wish people talked more about that side of things. Painful sex and orgasms can feel very isolating; it's definitely made me feel broken. And it's changed my view of myself in ways I couldn't have imagined.
@annakissed3226
@annakissed3226 2 жыл бұрын
Hugs. I have no idea what you have been through but thanks for saying what you've said. Because of my body issues orgasism has always been a relief not a pleasure, a release from suffering, I hope you find a way back to finding them pleasure & whole making!
@unicornalley_30
@unicornalley_30 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Sending you positive vibes as well 💛.
@jessicalinde8558
@jessicalinde8558 2 жыл бұрын
Hannah, you are an absolute dear for making this video! Thank you! 💜
@QcReader
@QcReader 2 жыл бұрын
30 yo here, never had one. Definetly feel broken or missing some parts.
@autogenesis
@autogenesis 2 жыл бұрын
Unrelated - the ASOS dress you're wearing is like the sister hood of the travelling pants of dresses. I've had it for years and it just always fits no matter what haha It's wild.
@isidoraspasic6543
@isidoraspasic6543 2 жыл бұрын
the "damn you Freud!!" thing you did is basically my mife in a nutshell, as a Psychology student 😂
@MrR4nD0mDUd3
@MrR4nD0mDUd3 2 жыл бұрын
Such a great and informative video hannah, one of your bests.
@AndaraBledin
@AndaraBledin 2 жыл бұрын
So, I heard the comment about "keep breathing" and it made me think that, just sometimes, that advice might be a little counter-productive. Some people might discover that holding their breath might actually lead to heightened arousal and help someone achieve an orgasm. But, on the safety side, definitely don't try this other than simply holding your breath, as doing more could be dangerous, and nobody really wants to suffer an injury just to come.
@KurikoLaJapoMana
@KurikoLaJapoMana 2 жыл бұрын
Loved this so much!! Thank you for sharing this 😍❤️
@natel426
@natel426 2 жыл бұрын
Great recommendations for Cheex, thanks for the code.
@minniefawcett331
@minniefawcett331 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video hannah!
@cassidybrewer
@cassidybrewer 2 жыл бұрын
I also didn’t orgasm until my twenties and definitely felt broken! I also felt the need to try and fake it. Now if I have one, I do, and if I don’t, I don’t. No big deal as long as the experience is still a good one!
@SixtineLys
@SixtineLys 2 жыл бұрын
I wish I could have seen this video years ago, when I felt broken. Thank you so much for your content, this is SO important. Come as you are was a breakthrough reading fo me !
@sarahthesarah2850
@sarahthesarah2850 Жыл бұрын
This video is excellent work. You have such a chill vibe and lovely aesthetic. Thank you for this.
@daydreaminglizzy7332
@daydreaminglizzy7332 2 жыл бұрын
this video is so important!
@maddiemac55530
@maddiemac55530 10 ай бұрын
OMG this help me out so much. I would get the stereotype signs of one but wouldn’t feel a thing and I thought I was broken. I thought of me not feeling fireworks meant something bad was happening to me. But having the definition of feeling done and stuff made me realize that I never had one before and knowing it is more of a mental thing. Thank you so much for this!
@tabithadehaan8405
@tabithadehaan8405 2 жыл бұрын
thank you so so so much for this video. It makes an enormous difference to me.
@dogcathorsefish13
@dogcathorsefish13 2 жыл бұрын
My contribution made it to a word cloud!
@fae137
@fae137 11 ай бұрын
Your channel is so good
@crystalsheep1434
@crystalsheep1434 2 жыл бұрын
Interesting and informative
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@laurenschenck5355 2 жыл бұрын
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@noragoubyou2255
@noragoubyou2255 2 жыл бұрын
You re great! Awesome, as a midwife and register nurse I never learn in uni how to approach sex! This is great for education
@vblake530530
@vblake530530 2 ай бұрын
I’m a physician and your one talk here was better than our entire Sex Ed Course in Friggin MEDICAL SCHOOL. WTF!
@TheUsename123
@TheUsename123 2 жыл бұрын
I feel like the whole clitoral vs penetration was an issue maybe like years ago but at this point I find a lot of people discount penetration the same way they did clitoral.
@qpSubZeroqp
@qpSubZeroqp 2 жыл бұрын
Maybe both are important. I've experienced that most of the time that rubbing and penetration at the same time are what drives home the point rather than one or the other. Although this is just my personal anecdotal experience rather than a proper scientific way of testing
@TheUsename123
@TheUsename123 2 жыл бұрын
@@qpSubZeroqp although scientific experiments would be interesting I think for sex it's more important to just listen to the other person. Sex is something you experience on an individual level not as a statistic.
@qpSubZeroqp
@qpSubZeroqp 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheUsename123 completely agree
@jennivamp5
@jennivamp5 2 жыл бұрын
Right! A lot of the time I prefer vaginal orgasms over clitoral ones, I find them more satisfying and can find too much clitoral simulation overwhelming and sometimes painful. I do feel that in the quest for the clit those of us who do orgasm via vaginal penetration have been somewhat forgotten or overlooked. Sometimes I feel like I'm kinda broken or wrong or at the very least in the minority because of the way I orgasm. When my husband and I first got together it took ages to convince him I wasn't faking my orgasms because he was under the impression that women couldn't orgasm without lots of clit stimulation. 🤷
@runningoutofhay
@runningoutofhay 2 жыл бұрын
@@jennivamp5 Amen to this! I'm exactly the same way, and have had a hard time convincing partners of what I enjoy.
@ffiontill5924
@ffiontill5924 2 жыл бұрын
Such a great video I really appreciate and enjoy your videos. I always find your videos informative and just really allowed me to feel less shamed with my personal feelings towards sex and intimacy. I was wondering if you’ve been watching euphoria and if you could make a video discussing the drama around the show also the discussion and Sydney sweeney asking for some scenes to be cut and how well Hollywood has basically failed her with protecting her and making her feel safe. Just something I’d like to hear your thoughts on although I’m sure I already know your feelings towards this but if you could discuss how this is a bigger issue of exploitation and the depiction of teens and being a “tease” in the eyes of the media or just being friendly and mistaken for flirty and leading people on? Idk just an idea. Love you! Hope you’re well x
@MarnieLuna
@MarnieLuna 2 жыл бұрын
To this day I am still unsure if I've had one.
@reneeturcottecicigoi9435
@reneeturcottecicigoi9435 2 жыл бұрын
I’m a 49 cis female going through menopause and have started to cry sometimes after sex. The first time this happened my boyfriend was so upset because he thought he hurt me. We have a very fulfilling sex life so I’m assuming it’s just hormones as many other annoying things are happening with my body. Can you recommend any books about sexuality and menopause?
@iversam
@iversam 2 жыл бұрын
You mean... actual female
@josymarie4327
@josymarie4327 2 жыл бұрын
Obviously, she is not as short-sighted. A Transwoman is an actual woman, too, you know, maybe even more, because they have to work through their identity while cis women, as I am, don't. The parts are just that and do not determine anything.
@Theawesomersibling
@Theawesomersibling 2 жыл бұрын
My mum found the Menopause Manifesto by Dr. Jen Gunter really helpful when she started going through the menopause. I don't know if it says anything about crying after sex, but it definitely has information on sex in there.
@reneeturcottecicigoi9435
@reneeturcottecicigoi9435 2 жыл бұрын
@@Theawesomersibling My Mom bought me that book for Christmas but I haven’t had a chance to read it yet 😊
@chelled.4622
@chelled.4622 2 жыл бұрын
I also cry, its been something that has put me off sex the older I got and now Im at the age where I avoid it because even though I want sex I dont want the full out sob fest afterwards.
@paperback8659
@paperback8659 2 жыл бұрын
HOW MANY TIMES CAN I LIKE THIS VIDEO
@zapfanzapfan
@zapfanzapfan 2 жыл бұрын
"Arriving" is an important part of traveling but the longer the journey is the better the arrival feels, so, don't rush it! Take the winding mountain road and get lost a couple of times along the way instead of taking the autobahn 😉
@blubistheword
@blubistheword 2 жыл бұрын
This is a really good and helpful video. Thank you for making it💕 Also: “Dam you Freud!” indeed (eff him)
@cottagebirder
@cottagebirder 2 жыл бұрын
I needed this video! I'm 22 and can only orgasm from nipple stimulation currently but it's underwhelming! Hannah I was wondering if you could make a video about vaginismus?
@nicolelanae98
@nicolelanae98 2 жыл бұрын
yes! i second that suggestion for a vaginismus video
@hollys297
@hollys297 2 жыл бұрын
She actually made a video about vaginismus about a year ago! If you didn’t know already
@finnholls5328
@finnholls5328 2 жыл бұрын
I really wish there were books about this for transmasc people... the whole "vag = woman" thing just makes me super dysphoric. But it's great to hear you talk about not being able to orgasm. I haven't ever had one and I'm close to 30. Usually I just... lose the thread, so to speak. I'll be into whatever I'm doing, and then suddenly my brain just says 'nope" and instead of what little pleasure I felt before there's just nausea and disgust with myself. This is definitely one of the (many) things that keep me from even trying to find a partner. So I'm here, almost 30, never had an orgasm, never had consensual sex, never had a relationship. I know it's not too late but it sure feels that way.
@testosteronic
@testosteronic 2 жыл бұрын
I'm transmasc as well, and I have a lot of dysphoria specifically about my vaginal canal, NOTHING ever goes in there. It would be so good to have sex resources specifically for us, that consider all the different ways being transmasculine can effect your experience of sex and sexuality, and your own body. I can and do orgasm, but only on my own with one specific way of masturbating. I've tried sleeping with other people, but I've never got anywhere near an orgasm with another person, I usually feel less and less like doing anything sexual as we go along. I used to get that nausea and disgust that you describe, I honestly don't know what made it go away, I wasn't actively working on doing anything about it. I know that's not that helpful, I just want to say as a fellow transmasc that you're not alone in struggling w sex and orgasms, and dysphoria around sex resources
@SleepyBoyoxo
@SleepyBoyoxo 2 жыл бұрын
I’m also a trans masc person, I don’t love PIV but I don’t hate it. I prefer PIA. I often also experience the icky feeling after I do finish, but I can only finish from solo stimulation, many of my partners have actively tried to help me get there but I’ve yet to be able to. I usually am very up front with new partners that they likely will not be able to do it, and it’s nothing to do with them, and it also doesn’t mean I’ve not enjoyed any of it either. It’s just I can’t quite get there until I actively participate 😅 I think some of it for sure is a mental block but I’ve made my peace with it, I won’t stop trying to achieve orgasm with a partner but it’s never my end goal, often they’ll finish and then the focus shifts to me and they’ll either watch or participate slightly as I finish myself off so to speak, and that’s okay with me.
@kaiyodei
@kaiyodei 2 жыл бұрын
I normaly see people say 'vaginas are not just for FEMALES males have them too"
@WaterAce168
@WaterAce168 Жыл бұрын
Your experience sounds incredibly familiar, thanks so much for sharing. I like the phrase "losing the thread". It becomes work, frustrating. I can feel my face shaping into a big frown and completely lose momentum/"the moment" haha. It's not necessarily painful but just so annoying. Like driving at an exhilarating speed and having to suddenly stop at a red light. It makes me not want to try. Sometimes I think it's just a form of asexuality on my part. But it's all very vague and fuzzy, so yeah, no answers there. I have also never been in a relationship, and have little desire to even try (as you say as well) Partially because of this. I feel like I have to "master" the orgasm before experiencing it with a partner, so that I'm a sufficiently competent sexual individual. It's all very silly. Maybe the orgasm/partnership or whatever will never be for me. But it's going to take a lot longer to accept it and be okay with it. I wish you the best and hope you are doing well
@illegiblytyped
@illegiblytyped 2 жыл бұрын
I think about “pressure” as a neutral word to describe a physical sensation
@joshtaylor4583
@joshtaylor4583 2 жыл бұрын
I find that visual stimulation (real and/or imagined) is quite effective.
@JoyandSerenity.
@JoyandSerenity. 2 жыл бұрын
Its not about the destination, its about the journey. ;P
@pepsimax8078
@pepsimax8078 2 жыл бұрын
It was when I was watching Twilight Breaking Dawn part 2 that I got the perfect imagry of what it feels like for me. The fireworks shown is just perfect. For me that is excatly how I experience it :D *but for me its during solo sex and not with a partner
@hsjfds
@hsjfds 2 жыл бұрын
thank you
@julypatchouli9719
@julypatchouli9719 2 жыл бұрын
I've been around here for a while now. But I have to say: Demo for clitoral stimulation on the vulva puppet. I did not see that coming. Pun intendet 😀
@meganlampa3293
@meganlampa3293 2 жыл бұрын
I have mild cerebral palsy and occasionally am too tired to orgasuium so opt for a massage after spending my energy on my evening shower
@Sariot666
@Sariot666 2 жыл бұрын
it feels almost weird how we're wired so differently just for the same sorta goal so to speak. Especially how that changes even for ourselves just over time as we age. Like right now, I don't really need a "mood" or anything to just get going. But, in say 10 or 20 years. I'm probably gonna be totally different. crazy shit
@bookterror
@bookterror 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, pulsating is a great word. - 10 Things I Hate About You screenplay writer
@justanotherweirdo11
@justanotherweirdo11 Жыл бұрын
I've recently realized that I have actually orgasmed a number of times. I never noticed because they haven't been super super pleasurable or anything. Definitely not a thing I could immediately tell. Absolutely no clue when my first orgasm was. I’ve had a release of tension where I go from horny to normal. I've also had involuntary muscle contractions.
@FranFellow731
@FranFellow731 2 жыл бұрын
I completely forgot about it when i saw your stories, but the sex scene in Lady Bird is truly excellent. Awkward, clumsy, confusing, not sexy, protected, uncomfortable, and short.
@viviana_s
@viviana_s 2 жыл бұрын
I’m so confused cuz sometimes I just randomly feel like I don’t want to do it anymore but I consider myself to have never had an orgasm and now I’m like wait is that what that is ??? 😭😭
@artnerd3727
@artnerd3727 2 жыл бұрын
Not sure if Ive had one or just got really close, but also I know it's not the end goal but I kinda feel like Im missing out
@zeptozetta3792
@zeptozetta3792 2 жыл бұрын
As a cisgender male who has never had an orgasm, I appreciate this video, but I also feel like many of the tips for getting one later in the video are geared towards people with breasts, vulvas, etc. Which leaves me feeling a bit left out. Particularly around the 19:00 mark.
@snail_smoothie2314
@snail_smoothie2314 2 жыл бұрын
I mean she has more experience with one half of it so it makes sense
@elizaprice2124
@elizaprice2124 2 жыл бұрын
Hannah does specify that the passage is geared toward vulvas as that is the focus of the book, however taken generally the tips still apply no matter what anatomy, taking your time, low pressure private environments, exploring different touches and methods, all can apply to any genitals
@KetilK
@KetilK 2 жыл бұрын
In my experience as a cis-man, I feel that the advice for women generally works quite well for me. Especially the importance of getting in the mood, and how to get there.
@ciara1045
@ciara1045 2 жыл бұрын
Feel like I need to show this vid to ,y ex bf 😂He was always so concious that I hadn't had an orgasm even tho I explained to him that the antidepressants I'm on make it so difficult
@nastjuschechka
@nastjuschechka 2 жыл бұрын
it is also immportant to say, that you are not solely responcible for your partners pleasure. because it can put a lot of performance pressure on you and get to the point that you feel your needs neglected and your selfe used. so yes you can ask but don´t demand!
@lilidonna
@lilidonna 2 жыл бұрын
When Hannah said yep you guessed it, I immediately answered porn as she said the cis hetero patriarchy... same thing almost.
@mitilife
@mitilife 2 жыл бұрын
It's interesting the recommendation of breathing. I actually told my partner not so long ago that I felt that when I'm close to orgasm, if I take a deep breath, I'll lose the orgasm. I feel I need to take shorter almost non-breaths to let the orgasm come 😆🤭
@thatnewplayeral3993
@thatnewplayeral3993 2 жыл бұрын
Hannah you should make a video on what else can be the best part of sex. With like a poll from your audience. I would be in that poll asap
@roBLINDhood
@roBLINDhood 2 жыл бұрын
I’m 34 and for years I’ve heard the critique of the mainstream portrayal of the simultaneous orgasm, but honestly that’s the ONLY context that I hear that in. I watch a lot of movies, tv and porn and really don’t see this simultaneous orgasm trend.
@laurenschenck5355
@laurenschenck5355 2 жыл бұрын
I love your dress so Beautiful 😻
@goldensprite3373
@goldensprite3373 2 жыл бұрын
It's very good when it happens! 😆
@patrickchambers5999
@patrickchambers5999 2 жыл бұрын
Your toes curl up and eyes roll upwards out of sight.
@pile333
@pile333 2 жыл бұрын
Surely good.
@lolsaXx
@lolsaXx 2 жыл бұрын
They feel like peace
@peachxtaehyung
@peachxtaehyung 2 жыл бұрын
3:50 I have even felt this while walking before! And if I didn't sit down I would nearly fall! It wasn't super pleasure able but I would feel good a bit and I would get a hot flash and from waist down would go numb if that all makes sense. It was so weird
@zobothehobo
@zobothehobo 2 жыл бұрын
This is my favorite video on orgasms thank you Hannah for this incredibly comprehensive discussion of orgasm 101!
@ajs41
@ajs41 2 жыл бұрын
I get the impression they're much more enjoyable for women than men because women's last longer, and also they can have more than one in a short period of time.
@sailor4664
@sailor4664 2 жыл бұрын
it’s actually really hard for a lot of women to have multiple in a short period of time. we get sore and sensitive just like guys do. and i honestly don’t think women’s Os last that much longer. but it really depends on the person. interesting perspective though :)
@testosteronic
@testosteronic 2 жыл бұрын
@@sailor4664 Hannah talked about orgasm length in a video a while ago, the average for someone w a penis was significantly shorter than someone w a vagina, I can't remember the exact numbers. Yeah it does really depend on the individual tho, apparently some people's orgasms can last up to two minutes
@kyliefitzgerald6984
@kyliefitzgerald6984 2 жыл бұрын
@@testosteronic 2 minutes!? Oh no thank you 😂
@jimphilidor9031
@jimphilidor9031 2 жыл бұрын
Try to resist the orgasm as long as possible, until you just explode uncontrollably. I guarantee that your orgasms will be way more powerful.
@kristinakorenkova3340
@kristinakorenkova3340 2 жыл бұрын
Im 31 and dont know :/
@lemo8986
@lemo8986 Жыл бұрын
i cant believe it, a video explaining post-nut clarity
@nellyls7872
@nellyls7872 2 жыл бұрын
Hello Hanna can you do a video about sexual shame ? I
@laurenschenck5355
@laurenschenck5355 2 жыл бұрын
You are so amazing inspiring remarkable and inspiring unbelievable and unique and blessing angel 💖
@kaiyodei
@kaiyodei 2 жыл бұрын
what is the point of masturbation without an orgasm? I think I'm incapable of romantic love and sexual attraction nor a relationship. then what is the point of that journey? I'm never left with satisfaction or maybe I don't. it's like climbing the hill and just rolling down it. then lack of sensitivity. no thrashing, no bliss, no glow. no screams, pants, grunts anything I read from those "things sex does" what ever it is. "what to look for" I want to cry just thinking how much it sucks. and how important it is that I have a partner but I'm to shallow and picky and only fall for fictional characters I don't want to be that. I want to be the kind of gal who'll have sex with almost anyone any time. even telling someone who lives 50 miles away to come plow me.
@pigfarts13
@pigfarts13 2 жыл бұрын
Me trying to figure out what’s happening at 12:33 🔎
@LukeIdontKnow
@LukeIdontKnow 2 жыл бұрын
Good
@jessicahutton82
@jessicahutton82 Ай бұрын
Spoiler alert it feels really good
@kevinwaag9976
@kevinwaag9976 2 жыл бұрын
Hey this could be a fun survey with the differences between male and female. I want to know how it is for woman. I don't understand the penetration (how it feels)
@amazinglyace
@amazinglyace 2 жыл бұрын
After 20 years of anorgasmia...I've forgotten.
@benlarmouth
@benlarmouth 9 ай бұрын
This a beautiful woman and she killing that dress 👗 😍
@joannebogias9299
@joannebogias9299 2 жыл бұрын
👏🏻👏🏻
@DavidLindes
@DavidLindes 2 жыл бұрын
13:46 - interesting, you've gotten in trouble even when you are (as I see you did in this video) selecting yes for the includes paid promotion question? That surprises me... is it just because it's "pornographic" or whatever? Sigh, silly KZbin!
@girliestmammy
@girliestmammy 2 жыл бұрын
💖
@goldensprite3373
@goldensprite3373 2 жыл бұрын
I was at least 25 when I had my first one.
@sailor4664
@sailor4664 2 жыл бұрын
idk why but to me sneezing feels like an O. just a bit toned down. it’s like a little o :)
@alhsa
@alhsa 2 жыл бұрын
remember when i had an org@sm and had an ovarian cyst burst 😭 i reminder rolling around on the hospital floor (uh yeah), and crying. 0/10.
@SteampunkHorse
@SteampunkHorse Күн бұрын
Wild horses couldn’t drag this out of me. Honestly, respect for the bold abandon
@alhsa
@alhsa 23 сағат бұрын
@@SteampunkHorse LOL THIS WAS TWO YEARS AGO. WHERE WAS MY MIND?
@SteampunkHorse
@SteampunkHorse 23 сағат бұрын
@@alhsa LMAOOOO I HOPE YOU RECOVERED OKAY!!
@kaiyodei
@kaiyodei 2 жыл бұрын
what if my partner is imaginary or inanimate object? should I tell him to up his game? is it me? how do I hump a pillow the right way? I am coitophobic and feel lame that i don't have anyone and don't want anyone who wants me. i feel stupid laying there rubbing my breasts or thights. it just also feels so akward. maybe I'm never turned on. it's just an itch I need to scratch. I can't bring myself to romance my self. put mood lightning... i'm dead inside
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