What does it mean to be someone who "can sing"?

Finish one of these sentences for me:
“People who can sing…”
“People who can’t sing…”
“Real / good singers always…”
“Real / good singers never…”
What beliefs do you have or have you had in the past about what it means to be a person who “can” or “can’t” sing?
Let me respond to you in the comments!
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[@dianamiftakhova5047]

Oh yeah, gatekeeping in music is strong. Everyone can sing, and it's worth trying. I personally used to be dependent on external validation, waiting for someone to say "you sing beautifully". I don't care anymore :D i just enjoy my singing

[@bectilleyvoice]

I love this! That's a great place to get to, well done!

[@DulcetNuance]

My voice is not deep but I also have trouble with high notes. So when I sing I can generally be pretty ok but only if I do it quietly. Overall I have a very monotone singing voice because of it, not really sure I can expand it.

[@bectilleyvoice]

Hello! Thanks for your comment! There are many kinds of techniques that can make higher notes easer. Some that I teach including lifting the larynx, using twang, reducing false vocal fold constriction, tongue height, managing airflow, some physical movements that can reduce excess tension... there are a lot of things that can be learnt to make challenges in singing like this easier. You could Google/KZbin search for some of the things I've mentioned, or if you are interested in working with a vocal coach, we could have a chat on a Discovery Call to see if I'd be the right match for your goals :) bectilley.com/singing/get-started/

[@TempleoftheSon]

I'm pretty sure I have a disorder called echolalia and I work in a loud environment where almost everyone has their own music playing all the time, so I'm pretty much singing all the time. Which is fine, i love to sing. There's one co-worker who hates it. He says my singing is terrible and whoever told me I could sing are liars. Everyone else pretty much doesn't care and a couple of them say I sing well and they actually enjoy hearing me sing. I personally think I sing pretty good, but I do sometimes sing badly intentionally as just sort of a way to have fun.

[@bectilleyvoice]

Great! Love that you feel comfortable and enjoy yourself singing. And of course it's so fine to make weird noises and do goofy voices and sing "badly" on purpose just for fun! I can't fathom why someone would make rude comments like that person. Like what is his motivation in saying stuff like that? I don't think I could see that as potentially honest at all. Sounds like he just wants to put you down and be a jerk. You can give constructive feedback to someone if you want to help them and have asked their permission to share it. Being an unsolicited jerk like that is more of a reflection on him than it is on you.

[@nevakear4834]

I don't think I can sing because I don't sound as good as the professionals. I'm not as loud as the professionals, but I've used a mic a time or two and realized that having a microphone helps. Maybe I just need to learn how to breathe because my breathing is off from the song and I'm not sure what it's called, I think it's the tempo or beat is off when I sing.

[@bectilleyvoice]

Hi there, thanks so much for sharing these beliefs. I'm going to make a video response to this comment, so stay tuned!

[@nevakear4834]

@@bectilleyvoice thank you

[@markbernier8434]

People who grow up in musical families have an edge in that they started learning to sing when they started learning to talk.

[@bectilleyvoice]

You're right Mark, it is a beautiful gift when someone grows up in a family, or a culture, where music is part of daily life. Music is like a language, and it's certainly easier to feel more comfortable and fluent in that language if you were immersed in it from an early age. But it's never too late to begin immersing ourself in it at any age, whether that's through taking lessons, just exploring by yourself with your voice or an instrument, or just listening to more music and making it a part of your daily life. Where are you at with it at the moment, what role does music play in your life, or what is your relationship to it?

[@markbernier8434]

@@bectilleyvoice I discovered music for myself in my early teens. Listened and collected ever since but barely even tried vocals.

[@bectilleyvoice]

@@markbernier8434 Do you have any interest in doing so? :)

[@dismurrart6648]

I can sing but I don't think my voice sounds good. I'm a breathy alto and wish my vocal chords were closer together. I think I have nodes though

[@bectilleyvoice]

Hi there, thanks so much for sharing these beliefs. I'm going to make a video response to this comment, so stay tuned!

[@dismurrart6648]

@@bectilleyvoice omg thank you so much

[@bectilleyvoice]

I responded here! (Two more videos for you coming!) kzbin.info/www/bejne/q5S2cn9trrZ3otk

[@bectilleyvoice]

Part 2/3: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bGirkGBobrCno6M

[@bectilleyvoice]

@@dismurrart6648 Part 3/3~ Let me know your thoughts :) kzbin.info/www/bejne/iKLHYaKLi8eNbNk

[@funfettirapunzel]

💖 love this! My mom is someone who says she can’t sing and always dunks on herself for it. I don’t know if she can lol, but I agree that training makes so much difference

[@bectilleyvoice]

Everyone can sing!! Training can definitely help with some skills and confidence. But everyone should feel welcome to sing, regardless of whether they have had any training or not.

[@carleen7508]

Love this! :)

[@bectilleyvoice]

Thanks for saying so! Where are you at in your journey, what's your relationship to your voice and to music?