What happens when people have multiple personalities. Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) Explained

[@devoragoldman7150]

As a person with DID, I am really appreciating your intelligent, thoughtful, and extremely educated analysis. And I'm feeling so hopeful that there are caring, smart providers like you who have this specialization.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you, I am still learning but I’m glad you thought it was accurate, really appreciate the kind feedback.

[@devoragoldman7150]

@@dr.beckyspelman Absolutely. I have shared this video on my DID groups and with my providers because I think it's an amazing resource, and so validating. It's so hard to find accurate and educational resources on DID so I am thrilled that you produced this.

[@shannongilmartin4168]

I agree and love how she explains it. I have had DID since I was 18.

[@proudlyplural9506]

THIS! :)

[@HollyJSquad]

@@dr.beckyspelman I’m wanting help but I’m scared because I’m in the United States and I worry it will be to expensive because not all insurance covers a D.I.D specialist

[@terimyers6872]

My husband has DID. He isn’t diagnosed. I’ve knew something was going on with him even before we dated. We’ve been married 35 years now. I’ve noticed some of the identities get along while others are not aware of each other. I’ve met two different women who have not shared their names with me. There is a younger male that goes by his middle name. There’s the host personality, the control personality, and the irresponsible addictive personality that split along versions of his name. Some of the personalities seem to play tricks on the host. Sometimes the personalities have conversations. One particular time, a friend noticed my husband’s tendency to ask a question in one voice and answer his own question in another voice. The biggest problem is that my husband is in denial about having these personalities. I’ve learned to put things in writing so that whichever personality he is in, the host has access to any necessary information.

[@kevinbissinger]

It's not a problem to be in denial. It's literally why we have DID to begin with. You don't know what he's been through and why he needs to forget and not be aware. Don't force it unless you want to retraumatize him.

[@seans9203]

Hi - we are 'the husband', as it were - we were diagnosed 6 years ago. I/we are 61now - married in 1985. I say that because perhaps you might want to view this video yourself and, if it feels safe, show it to your husband. Helped us - best of luck. Such a familiar story - very challenging - you're not alone - g (seans) - KZbin: "Dissociative Identity Disorder: Denial and Recognition Later in Life" CTAD Clinic - Dr Mike Lloyd (We have been in therapy for 7 years, fortunate to have a therapist with 30 years experience treating this excruciating but very treatable disorder.)

[@helee28]

Thanks for sharing. May I ask how are you able to be married for so long? Did he not need help for this kind of suffering or do they get along just fine? And what about your needs? Are they ever met?

[@motherofintuitives]

my babys father is like norman bates and his other personality is his narcissist mother who hates women he gets feelings for....he also wont acknowledge his DID.....

[@CompleteK9Canada]

Great video! I look forward to the day when most professionals in the field have an understanding of DID, like you do. I haven’t met any yet, that even really believe it exists, and those who do, expect to witness something bizarre during switching. When the client knows you don’t believe or have doubts, it’s impossible for the client to form proper trust. I think working with a professional who doesn’t really believe in DID is a set back for the client, as the not believing is often very triggering.

[@devoragoldman7150]

I agree with you. Safety and trust is so important for a DID client to be able to progress, and when it's not there, therapy can even be harmful and counterproductive. And acceptance by the therapist for the client- and all of their lived experience- is so essential for building safety and trust. Fortunately, there are more professionals who are becoming educated and reading the evidence and research and providing up to date care for DID.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you for watching and sharing this.

[@wadecohagan2388]

You could also maybe "help" them believe . But I do understand they have to at least be open to it. And I also see your side. You have to trust someone you share all your secrets with. Plus it takes so much for systems to even get to the point that they can talk about ti and accept it

[@aurorawhite7071]

You are an empathetic and beautiful soul. Thank you for your compassionate and deep understanding of this overwhelming condition. Listening to this made me feel safe

[@proudlyplural9506]

Well said! We are so amazed to see this level of respect, empathy, and understanding... We feel safe and seen. It's truely just... A giant relief. It feels really nice to see a professional like this exists, we hope for a future where this is not rare, everyone should have access to care from knowledgeable professional who sees them respectfully. We love to hear respect for individuals within a system as much as the system itself. That should be the norm. We hope people will stop seeing DID/OSDD as a "broken" neurotypical person, and simply accepting us for our neurodiversity. Thank you to this channel/video for your respect and wisdom towards systems. You rock! :)

[@patchworkperspective1733]

This is one of the best videos on DID I’ve ever seen. Much of the time when I watch DID videos, I feel angry at the misinformation. But this was such a great video!! Thank you so much for helping to spread awareness to what DID truly is like.

[@twinstarssystem2857]

it should not be as surprising as it is to find a therapist that's so understanding and competent!

[@eternalpoint]

This is the most accurate and up to date video We have come across about DID. Thank you for making it available.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you for watching

[@sapphier0soldier]

I wish she was our psychologist. I'm pretty sure this is the best information video about DID I've ever found.

[@ynntari2775]

"the personality who chooses to host" oh boy, lol, I wish it was that much of a "choice" :v but to be fair, I think nobody would pick that role up.

[@TheCrisses]

We don't have a "host" - we share front and rotate responsibilities as a team. Trial and error over many years, but we were determined to work together from the start.

[@kathrin9674]

hahaaa I feel you. Sometimes I experience something like a burnout.

[@FirstnameLastname-cx6go]

Yes, my job was easier when I was dissociated.

[@FirstnameLastname-cx6go]

It's all about the situation, internally and externally, and stressors.

[@adamjohnson3973]

I'm new to this but I think I have one alter only. I don't know. But she is protective. I have tried to find time to ask her to come out. I think that's healthy. My football team was playing last night. But I let her come out because I'm trying to build a relationship with her. I missed the entire game. But it was worth it. I think she turned the fridge to a colder setting because my milk was partially frozen. Perhaps confirmation of her existence. But at least we're talking kind of. And trying to come up with a host schedule kind of. I'm glad to hear this comment. I really don't believe the videos where people present like 6 different personalities in a snap. Um... I don't think that's how this works.

[@ynntari2775]

Best video I've seen so far. And the fact that it's a psychologist specialised in the disorder adds a lot to the credibility. This video should have far more than 39 comments, 128 likes and 3,457 views.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you so much

[@LiEnby]

@@dr.beckyspelman I think the fact you shifted to harming people on purpose because precious gender norms (see latest videos) kind of destroys any credibility unfortunately

[@andersonsystem2]

OMG she is amazing. She gets us. This is a very good video, thanks.Our system would love this therapist.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Glad it was helpful!

[@KimberliRoyal]

Hi, I am 57 years old and was just diagnosed in the last year of having D.I.D. I am struggling to come to grips with this and have times I don't believe this is happening. I feel my whole life is in turmoil now. I have a wonderful therapist and she is so supportive and lets me know I am not crazy. I am just trying to understand all this more.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you for sharing and sorry to hear this.

[@lizholden3939]

Be gentle with yourself and allow time to get to know your alters. Part of the challenge is realizing they are the reason you survived what happened to you. Jounsling helped me as well. Finally, you are not crazy and you are not alone ❤

[@deirdrehbrt]

Thank you so much for this. Living with DID is difficult enough to live with; it's much more difficult to explain it to others.

[@KarmaWilFndU]

Switching just happens in my case. There is no calling one up at a particular time.....it just happens. Sometimes I'm aware of it then sometimes I'm not. The scariest thing about having DID is that I have ran into people that knew me and were expecting me to talk to them but O didn't recognize them. So some alters know people that my core does not. Sometimes I'll be one alter then someone will come around that my core knows so then I'll switch back after being dort if lost and not knowing the person.

[@kandie3127]

I hate that, also when my friends have accused me of snubbing them in the past.. for years on & off. Thought I had a doppelganger. My town isn't big enough to not have someone I know who knows "her" too though & so far no one has come forward. Though I admit I do like the feeling when someone remembers me & treats me so kindly like it's obvious they really like me even though idk them. Someone in here is apparently a people person! Lol

[@AmethystWoman]

@@kandie3127 for years I have wondered why so many people look like me. I've never met anyone I think looks like me. And when someone shows you a picture of someone whom"looks like you" do you often think "they don't look like me at all." I'm newly diagnosed and wondering how all these things play into this. And of course the times people say they saw me and I deny I was there, then they say I had my service dog with me, ugh. Gets harder to deny. Esp when these things were just starting to happen a lot.

[@momotoons2769]

@@AmethystWoman me too.. I am also newly diagnosed with DID. And I also had same experience as you. Most difficult part is that people around me are not aware of this disorder so It's very hard to go on.

[@flyingpotatogamer0336]

It's annoying af, majority I cant control the switching but I can a little bit like with my age regressed alter called jazz we tend to switch with her when we are at home and in a safe environment so then we can try prevent her fronting as much due to it putting us at risk becuase she's only 5yrs old and sometimes she can front and people don't know what to do or she doesn't know what's safe or not so it's hard wiv her, in the past we had a similar incident but that was when we was younger and didn't know we had it so now we older any friends ect I (kay) will let them know about it so then sometimes if an alter fronts and has no clue who they are they should introduce themselves ect and act like it's a whole new person they are meeting but yh it's hard

[@lissaggrohman8403]

I to have the same problem I don’t always know when a switch is happening and it’s scary not to remember anything when you are back to yourself

[@rainbownadratowski4439]

Best video by far I've seen about DID. It will help me a lot on seeking the appropriate treatment! Thanks for making this video!♥️

[@KarmaWilFndU]

The first time one if my child alters came out I was actually around my son and my ex partner, but I wasn't sure what was happening at the time. It was like I was standing back watching myself act and talk like a small child. Then after about an hour I was back. Once I was aware of my DID I realized that I had switched back then.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you for sharing!

[@Elya08]

I’ve been looking into the fact that I think I might have DID… I had something similar to this happen to me, too… Feeling like I was watching myself react as if I was watching another person, kind of in the back of the head.

[@renschuon4992]

I wish there were more practitioners like you that were willing to learn and to help us

[@mrmrspettersson8205]

Please discuss OSDD 1a, OSDD 1b, and the new accepted term Partial DID as well as DDNOS. Not all clients present in the standard DID way. It's so hard for individuals who get misdiagnosed.

[@RaiokIncaris]

This is extremely insightful, and it's something I know I've had for almost 15 years without treatment. It's not been easy getting this far, but it gives me hope that I can actually get someone to understand in a clinical setting

[@brandonburgos2079]

personally found out by the notes I would leave myself and not remember, people recognizing me and me not recognizing them. Sometimes being able to do things very efficiently that I normally cant. People saying my voice changes, and people recognizing me and me not recognizing them. Also realizing I had an extensive list of trauma I was choosing not to remember. And disassociating so strongly I couldn't pay attention or speak. I treat it with trauma therapy, medication and neurology.

[@laineydory8446]

Would you mind explaining how neurology has been helpful? I never thought to take my child to a neurologist. I want to get her the help she needs and it's really hard to find that help at the age of 7. I'm reaching out to anyone in the community that may be willing to talk to me that seems competent on the matter.

[@MissMatched]

How did you remember you trauma How do you choose to remember?

[@michaelraydominguez3163]

I can really control mine with self journaling. I feel like I can talk to my true self since I loved writing as a kid before my trauma began. The trauma comes in waves but it took me 4-5 years of self journaling to find and talk to my true self. If that makes sense.

[@dreamznaspiratons7064]

How to you trigger someone back to their true self?

[@brandywilleford9157]

Fellow DID'er here,in our opinion if each personality is treated as an individual then that individual person has things they know that the others don't for a reason,I believe it should be up to THEM/us to reveal any information to the others that they/we have shared with you.Remember you are treating us as an "individual"which means we should feel safe to share trauma etc with you and depend on you to keep it quiet until the appropriate time..also their are systems with thousands of parts and who are actual sub systems...other wise you are doing great!!😘

[@kandie3127]

Omg thank you! I was thinking, lady if my alters tell you that I'm not ready to see & remember it all, that means stfu bc I don't question my system one bit. They've done a remarkably incredibly successful job at keeping me from entirely shattering. I'm impressed as hell at the ones I know of now.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you for sharing!

[@proudlyplural9506]

We agree. We are *all* a client and each of us should be able to disclose our own personal trauma memory without fear of our trust being betrayed. Thank you for your respect and for listening to Plural voices! It's sooo refreshing.

[@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice]

@@kandie3127 True, protectors are good at their jobs. We look after eachother. But then again, someone else's secret is their secret, but a secret about me is my business, yknow? I'd take it as solid advice, but not as law.

[@333Eriana]

Wow, it is so helpful to hear your compassionate approach and ideas to people withDID. I had doctors tell me i was lying when i asked for help and didn't get help until my 50's My doctor was really lovely and we did a number of trauma therapies , and then we did IFS . We both found that the core Self idea was confusing within the context of how and why DID is present. We did our best and he helped me with learning communication. Sadly he died last year and i'm on my own - but remembering the 'always compassion and curious' approach is the best. Many people i know have had to re-live their traumas in their therapy sessions- and i saw that wasn't very helpful and often so harmful to the person's ability to function in the world. Our focus has always been to listen to the emotions and hear the belief systems learned , and discuss letting that go. Unburdening. I like what you said about more than one 'being up front' as this is something i have found with more communication there is alot of cooperation in my ''system' (though i don't prefer to call that')

[@xsystem1771]

This is pretty accurate based on our own experiences and other systems that we have met. The only other things I would add are: 1) The host is also an alter. Although you kind of hinted to it, I think that's a fact that a lot of people completely miss all together. Every single personality, including the "main fronter"/host, is equally an alter. The host can fuse/integrate and split, just like anyone else. 2) Hosts can change over time. I think you mentioned this. 3) Sometimes a system doesn't have a set host. Some have frequent fronters or all alters front around-about of the same amount of time. 4) Although each system is different, alters can be highly complex, more than just gender & age. Some are introjects of real or fictional people. Real-person introjects are called factives, which may be that of an abuser or maybe someone that the system admired, like an actor or uncle. Fictives are based off of fictional characters, such as Superman. Many times we can rationalize introjects, such as, "If only I were as strong as Clark Kent..." and sometimes it just doesn't really make any sense on the surface. Either way, they're just as valid. Also, they may even identify as different species, such as a dog or even fictional species like a werewolf. Many times these types of alters are discriminated against and made fun of, or even the system as a whole is shunned and fake-claimed (called fake), but they are absolutely real and valid. There needs to be more awareness on this subject. 5) Although there's no such thing as an evil alter (unless the person as a whole is cruel, which CAN happen, but no more so than any other person), there can be some seriously problematic persecutors. Working directly with those persecutors, treating them with respect, and working through their issues is vital for system balance. As an persecutor myself (I'm trying), I can say that it can get very complex. Thank you so much for your video. It's going to be a staple video for us to educate others about DID.

[@The_LMB_Team]

Oh that Answers my question because I feel like an alter because I have some that are older some that know more and other things

[@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice]

You're doing great as a persecutor! Changed behavior is the best apology as they say, and you're in your butterfly stage for sure! Our system didn't really have one, but we're so proud of changed persecutors and the hard work they do trying to support a healthy system!

[@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice]

@@The_LMB_Team Yup! Everyone's an alter ^^ It kind of blew my mind the first time I realized I wasn't "the real one", but then again, I'm not even human so I shouldn't have been surprised lol.

[@greywolfTomyris]

I was diagnosed with bipolar 1 disorder. I became aware about my personalities after the diagnosis because I saw myself as so different people not only "long term mood swings "which bipolars experience. For an example if I'm in the manic zone I could be acting and thinking so differently, I mean I could be very bright kind friendly or dark or no emotion,cold . The thing scars me is one of us is so dangerous to me and others , I/she committed suicide once , she wants to break ,kill and she's cold like a narcissist, anti social . I sometimes can switch the people in me it depends on where I'm inside or outside world, but sometimes I can't stop them . I really learned a lot of things in this video . I am not a doctor or psychiatrist but I know my experiences in my life . The video from the beginning to the end was talking about me . I had meds and physical therapy for bipolar but later I stopped all because it was awful . They treated me as an animal. I wish I could meet someone who really cares, takes responsibility and helps .

[@gerahuey3706]

I pray you find someone who you can trust and who really cares and understands!! ❤🙏 🙏 ❤🙏 🙏

[@deirdrehbrt]

Same here. The diagnosis of DID came after years of lithium and seroquel.

[@twinstarssystem2857]

You sound like a person our system would be able to trust and I commend you for that

[@dreamznaspiratons7064]

More drs need to be educated on this by specialists. Its often misdiagnosed especially as bipolar or psychosis

[@treylawrence5487]

I have just been diagnosed with D.I.D. it’s not an official diagnosis which worries me but the therapist I have been talking has said that she has witnessed what she believes is personal changes that can only be D.I.D. She has suggested that I seek out a specialist but hasn’t put me in touch with anyone. I’m at crisis point now. Literally alone. I recently tried to take my life after my world blow up. I am a mess and after being prescribed lorazepam for over 4 years for what I thought was depression and anxiety I have been cut off completely. I was sectioned for the attempt on my life and medicated for the first time ever. This medication has helped me think clearer than I ever have before. I have huge memory losses and the ones I have are a blur. Like I have been a passenger watching things happen. If I do have DID whoever I am now is fighting for survival but there is a part of me that wants (feels more like needs) death to come. I don’t know if this is making any sense or if I can be helped.

[@gerahuey3706]

I pray you find the help you need!! In the meantime please talk to someone you can trust. 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@ArleneMyers-ii7iy]

My mom discovered it when my dad was crying. She made an appointment with Dr. Angermire PHD that evening around 6:20

[@littletoyinstrument]

this is a brilliant, brilliant video and its sparked my want to talk to my doctor about whats going on in my gosh darn head

[@gretelsargent105]

This is really well spoken and explained, Thankyou so much

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you for your comment

[@StormFox-j5x]

IV been diagnosed with D.I.D for many years, since being in recovery things have become very unmanageable, Its been suggested after years of talking they were need a safe residential trauma rehab as the ones hurt the most go to self harm or substance abuse.. mental health help in this country is so hard to find .....

[@GigiHoly]

Thank you for this video. This was the first time when I heard that 2 hosts can exist in peace. I am a twin. Thank you.

[@wadecohagan2388]

20:00 ish ...."don't force the client" hahah More like don't fool yourself into believing you can make them do anything they don't want to do. Not trying to make A joke and this is a great video you did great. I just wanted to bring that up. Thank you for informing all of us.

[@TheCrisses]

Not caring for the part where you will disclose folk's information to the host. Firstly, the host is still an alter in the system, no more your client than anyone else though they may be the person who directly hired you, but disclosure can create a huge breach of trust. It would be better to work with the individuals in the system on why they feel the need to keep a secret. Because they need to trust you and they may hide things from everyone if they can't trust you. There needs to be a way to help them work on disclosure and rebuilding trust in their system if the new information damages trust.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you for sharing this

[@lizholden3939]

I used my journal as a way of communicating with the others. My alter, Simon, co-ordinated who had avcess to the information so we were not overwhelmed.

[@daisydeg98]

Hi please could you make a video explaining the differences of DID, CPTSD and BPD. Regarding Dissociation symptoms, PTSD symptoms, emotional regulation. As these diagnosis have great amounts of over lap between the 3 while also being completely separate diagnosis in how the brain with each separate dissorder will be connected.

[@CN-dv9nj]

Different personalities can have individually separate diagnoses. One could be Bipolar another NPD or even stomach ailments. There are literally sometimes different sizes uie if there is a male personality the body will be different. I found this out accusing my kids of messing with the drivers seat positions. Once diagnosed and learning I have a male that co-hosts often and he is taller than me and I promise he does love all of us. Someone else vision is not the same, sometimes my contacts don't fit or help me see. I have an infant that doesn't speak and she is often very tearful other times she sits as if on a lap and just looks around the area.

[@annettehutchins9768]

you are a wonderful doctor wish i could find one lije u. thanks for the content

[@veroniquevandewoestyne9987]

Hi, thank you for this interesting video. Have been diagnozed a few months ago and accurate information like this helps me a lot. I was wondering, we are mapping my system, but I do not have all answers to my therapist's question. I don't always know names or ages of my alters. Is that common?

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Yes it’s common for people to not be able to communicate with all alters in the system. Becky.

[@finsterthecat]

Yes. Alters can sometimes not have a name. More of a title like “The Nun.”

[@lorainisrael]

Yes, that's normal, not all alters care about names and ages. I have one alter who only picked up a name after a few years of existing and only for convenience, not like he really needed it himself. And none of my alters care about specific age, , it is more like a range, like in his 30ies.

[@pandapearl385]

I have many alters that are named by their job, like The Manager, The Spiritual Advisor, The Quiet One

[@rainbownadratowski4439]

This happens to me as well.

[@crazyeyedme4685]

Wow. Just typing to myself is therapeutic. I calling my dominant back. Yes! I need him badly. The way my life's been without his FU Attitude and boundaries has been miserable. I thought I was becoming BPD when I read about the diff between did BPD, I think I was. Ppl at work can deal with me not trying extra hard to be considerate and fake nice.

[@TheBananaWZD]

Hello, I found this video while doing research over the past week. Roughly 8 days ago, my significant other had a mental episode that lead to 6 to 8 individual, distinct personalities emerging. This happened at a rate of almost one per day over the course of a week. After watching your video, I was hoping there might be some resources you could share that may help me in my situation? -Thank you, Nicolas

[@laineydory8446]

My 7 year old has DID with at least 9 alters. Currently, she has 6 alters that front and 3 internal alters. There are a few more suspected alters that influence her system. It's almost impossible to find a psychiatrist that treats DID. Especially one that will treat a child so young. I am told it is unheard of and I won't find one. I have a background in trauma and dissociative disorders so fortunately I do have some understanding of her disorder. Do you have any suggestions for caretakers raising a child with DID? Does DID effect the child's ability to attend public schools and participate in extra curricular activities? How can you assist the child in learning communication skills within their system?

[@Indigo_newness]

I would suggest some type of art therapy at such a young age and then introduce journalling and writing as she gets older...good luck....

[@pollysshore2539]

The very best thing you can do is research information on false memories created by therapists, or parents unintentionally asking leading questions, and DID/MPD being created in patients by poorly trained - conspiratorial therapists. That, get your kid, and run. Repressed/recovered memory junk science, and the belief that several different personalities are created by child abuse played a large role in starting and fueling the 2 decade modern witch hunt known as the Satanic Panic. It destroyed the lives of countless troubled - mentally ill women in therapy sessions with malpractitioners who claimed to somehow magically know their patients were abused in childhood but had forgotten it, that their psyches had shattered into multiple personalities who remembered the abuse for them and that only the magical therapists could unlock the secrets of abuse. Several children were harmed and left with lifelong “memories” of humanly impossible Satanic Ritual Abuse that never happened. Fair warning… Therapists routinely convinced children that they were abused by their fathers, grandfathers, uncles and eventually their mothers. Look into the parents that had to fight to get their children back after RM/MPD/SRA malpractitioners got the child to claim that all family members abused him/her, and then got full medical custody of the child. It happens often in these circles. See the 1995 documentary on KZbin called Frontline The Search For Satan. This is life leveling junk science and you will regret it if you do not get your child far away from it.

[@chanellecinnamon6019]

@@pollysshore2539 Stop spreading bullshit

[@Elya08]

Consistently teaching emotional regulation skills will also be helpful, and just deep breathing to help all her parts calm the nervous system down. Makes notes of what does and doesn’t calm each alter/part of her down. I have possible DID, btw, so I’m speaking from experience what has been helpful for me. I’m 33, but I can look back and see memory gaps as early as 4-5 years old. And I still have major gaps from 9-14 or so. Emotional regulation skills and social skills will go a long way to help. Public school was a nightmare for me, because I was hyper vigilant all the time and couldn’t focus on learning. Yet, I had all A’s and B’s up through high school and graduated. How? Dissociation. My emotions didn’t hit me until I was an adult. Help her with her emotions now, because they’ll come back to bite her later if she doesn’t know how to name or express her emotions from each alter/part she has.

[@cianparker]

Thank you for your excellent video! 🙏🏻 thank you 🙏🏻 thank you! We need more allies!! I do have a question for you. How do you suggest explaining and/or telling a new romantic partner? I have always supposed it to be extremely important to tell any new romantic partner very early on about any mental health issues. But I was hoping you might have some insight into how to approach this potential stressful situation?

[@pandapearl385]

My husband and I have been together for 25 years. Although I have had DID since infancy, my husband has never seen me switch until a recent therapy session. It was very disturbing for him to watch. My team does not feel comfortable switching in front of him because they know it's so hard for him. While I applaud you for wanting to be honest and up front about your DID, I have experienced this to be counterproductive in my friends. Hopefully you will find a very supportive romantic partner who will accept your alters and encourage you in your inner life. Best wishes.

[@larryrobertsemarkphd3677]

Great video, are there any online support groups for people with DID?

[@larryrobertsemarkphd3677]

@@mrmrspettersson8205 Other than Facebook?

[@forevermusiclover3335]

Sure hard to find help for kids under 18 with DID in the USA. So far, nobody. A child I know is going to be diagnosed with everything else and she needs help now. It breaks my heart.

[@finsterthecat]

There are different degrees or a sliding scale of how severe the symptoms are. I started off with the more severe blacking out and coming to consciousness in another county at my most extreme on the scale. Age 24 Now 56 I am pretty good at presenting as if I did have blackouts. There is a lot of co-conscious sharing that happens now. If I went in now to be diagnosed I would probably would get the Non Specific diagnoses. The only thing (I am covert) about having been diagnosed in 1991 with DID and now being older is now some family think I am showing signs of dementia. Lol I’ll take it so much easier to let them think that then trying to explain away why you can’t remember major events. When in high school my nick name was Ditzy for my forgetfulness and Gel (which was a nick name for LSD to explain my extreme behaviors.

[@spicepandaexe]

Can alters be variations of yourself? I'm researching this because I may be an undiagnosed system myself and upon reflection, I can identify 4 alters but they're all versions of me frozen in the time/age at which the trauma occurred. Is this possible with DID or should I explore another potential diagnosis?

[@Butterflygirl327]

You could have OSDD.

[@CN-dv9nj]

The days switching is happening every few minutes or hours it becomes exhausting and most involved become very cranky, have high anxiety, have arguments, i be abusive to one another. When it's a good day everyone wants their turn being creative or radibng or playing piano. I have a degree in piano but there are a few of us who cannot play. It's very strange.

[@highenergy509]

Does anyone have a thing like a partial dissociative identity disorder? Because I feel like I have dissociative identity disorder but I feel like the alters barely come out. There are voices in my head though, that’s how I know that the alters are still there

[@Cricket-wk1jo]

Mine r like that..voices..but sometimes alters take over...now learning info on d.i.d. at age 59

[@Obitus89]

I have gone through DID and it is an complete mindfuck after you realize that. You start crying because you completely blocked your emotions and now after i know that i understand why people werent talking to me. Now i realise i am sick.

[@flyingpotatogamer0336]

So I'm not diagnosed with DID but thought to have it (the specialists I'm with want to wait a bit longer as I have alot already goin on) but I was wondering anyone who has DID do you have pretty much no memory other things any more then like a week before becuase majority the time we are comfused af about what's goin on but then 1 of our alters called de as soon as he switches it's like we have all memories flood at once especially the bad memories and becuass of that we have had many injuries ect but then we have been sat in the hospital after aprently punching the hell out of a wall and not understood or know what happened like it's not even like an outer body experices it's like me (kay the main host) was never even there and its comfusing becuase then we have docs ect asking why we did it and becuase de wouldn't switch and we have little to no communication with him we had no clue and still don't till this day, similar with our youngest called jazz like yes she's 5 but like just in general memories is a hardest thing for us and in the headspace thers very little communicating like there's some but not much at all, so is that pretty common for yall who have DID? It's really anoying not knowing whats goin on and then getting into trouble becuass I ain't got no full proper diagnosis it's like people treat me like I don't have it so then I get basically bullied on for stuff I cant control

[@ynntari2775]

what people think: it's the "main person" pretending to be a different person! what actually happens: many alters trying to pretend to be the current host.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you for your comment

[@finsterthecat]

That is our situation. What makes it even harder is being married and trying to pretend to be the wife.

[@bluedevilphillieable]

@@finsterthecat do tell more

[@jabsluna]

@@finsterthecat Couldn't agree more!

[@The_Cyber_System]

I mean, you know what you're talking about, but I thought there was a reason the name was changed - because we're not 'personalities' and it's not a 'personality disorder.' Love the whole video

[@runlolarun8957]

Why do psychologists only speak on the very small percentage of DID that present in such a dramatic way? I know it is interesting and real, though controversial, but in a book like Intense Psychotherapy for Persistent Dissociative Processes the writer shows much better how the other 94% manifest too and no one speaks about self states and how too many and too often switching into these states are DID and can greatly impact one's quality of life. It is a debilitating and isolating disorder that even therapists often misunderstand and do not properly identify.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

This is a very good point and you are absolutely right the disorder can often be experienced in much more subtle ways, however DID is still a very challenging disorder for anyone to life with regardless of their severity. It is indeed important to emphasise that there is spectrum in terms people’s level of severity.

[@peachsystem1024]

@@dr.beckyspelman being overt vs covert has nothing to do with how severe your symptoms are though

[@VladaldTrumptin]

Wow. Thank you so much for writing your comment. I was literally just about to click off mid video, turning away in disappointment yet again because of the dramatic way it’s being portrayed. Thank you, I will look into the book that you suggest.

[@kathrin9674]

I'd love to know, too. It is like you are supposed to act and behave in that very showing flashy way you often see on youtube, while the most people I know with DID (including me) are that as unimpressive (which, crazy fact is the "goal" of developing DID,...) and undramatic. @Private Therapy Clinic: what RunlolaRun (are your German Lola? It's a German movie) ment was that DID is portrayed as a very intense, dramatic disorder, wher you can watch sytems change in front of camera, chaning clothing styles and developing strange accents while the covert DID systems (like mine) will NEVER EVER in a million years appear dramatic or overt. And that narrativ causes harm to all of us covert DID systems as the typical therapist will look out for dramatic changes, different clothing styles, rapid and announced ( as if) switches, different dialacts... And most of us want one thing really badly: to appear as normal as possible.

[@runlolarun8957]

@@peachsystem1024 Really good point.

[@kellygerhart8552]

A recent DID video touched on need for therapists serving DID sufferers, to disclose their own mental health continuum, Re individuals s/s. Otherwise too hard to buil trust through Coq resourcing. Lived experience …. Gifts….. as opposed to intellectual reasoning during absence of a heart.

[@edwardhurton8004]

Starts as a heat break and then falling into a never ending dream 😘

[@celiasandaniels]

Thank you for sharing. Does DID and Gender Dysphoria have any similarities ?

[@wayfaringstrangerreviewer6458]

Hi can you therapy via video link or does it have to be face to face

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Hi Yes, we are currently offering both video call therapy and face to face therapy. Please email [e-mail] for more information on how to book in.

[@bambi_saurusrex]

Hello, I have a question for one that is friends with an alter of a person with D.I.D. What can I do to be as supportive as possible? And also as having the Alter of a person as my friend, how can I myself deal with my fear of that Alter dissapearing/dying if its one day not ”needed” for the main individual anymore? I appreciate answers from anyone and everyone that feel like they have some knowlege or experience about this. I also highly appreciate you making this video, spreading education further and the time and effort you made. 🙏🏻

[@marcusnl66]

Thank you for sharing. To me it’s very theoretical which I understand and recognize but how and where do you start? Where does one start when the “demons” (alters) only deregulate and hide iso cooperating when seeking help? In the Netherlands there are a few trauma centers but are unable to deal w/ DID. O

[@lissaggrohman8403]

I am extremely engrossed in this video about DID I was diagnosed two years ago and I had been seeing a counselor that I had actually trusted for the first time in my life unfortunately my family moved and she can no longer be my therapist/counselor and I have a hard time trusting anyone with my mental health and opening up with my condition. I know I need to get back into counseling again but how do I learn how to trust another counselor again I feel like it’s my gatekeeper/ alters that prevents me from trusting or being able to talk to anyone these days and it’s affecting my every day life and my family it’s killing them to see me suffer and also it takes a toll on all of them as well. If you could please give me some advice or suggestions if you have time to reply I would greatly appreciate it Melissa

[@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice]

I'm sorry you're going through that. 1. Make sure you tell your alters that you respect and appreciate them, and that you know they are only trying to look out for you. 2. Ask politely for them to listen to you about your needs and wellbeing and ask to have a serious conversation about it, and go over strategies for longterm health needs. 3. Assure them therapy is beneficial, private, and won't hurt the system, and that if you get an ill-suited therapist, you can always switch to a new one. 4. Tell them they can have as much control as they want over the therapeutic process as long as they allow you to benefit from therapy and start healing. They can be the ones talking to the therapist, or listening in, and have control over what information is being shared and how, and judge for themselves if the therapist is trustworthy. Hopefully you're able to come to mutual understanding with your alters. It's normal for protectors to be over-protective at first, but if they realize that it's doing more harm than good, they will change. That's why it's good to stay in contact with them and talk to them regularly. And try to be kind and respectful, even if it's hard. They need to feel appreciated to feel safe, and they need to feel safe, to change. Even when they do realize the problem, change can still take time. Just try to have a positive, mutually respectful, supportive relationship between all alters.

[@KarmaWilFndU]

Ahhhhh.....psychotherapy would be so awesome, buuuut we are targets and have been since we were children. With that being said I haven't been able to come into contact with anyone that's not involved in my targeting or at least aware of it.

[@kandie3127]

I'm so sorry you have to bear that weight & depth of darkness. I'm jw if you remember alot or if it's pieces that all point towards the outside system having hands in this? I hope I worded that well enough.. I'm asking bc I can't trust anyone in the outside system & the things I do remember (& the result of me) scare me in context to things like mkultra or ritualistic trauma but it's too blurry. The insanely strong instinct to never trust any of them doesn't go away though. This lady even..a part or parts of me like her & feel trustworthiness but then there's the kicking & running for my life feeling I get in my gut too. Much love & best of everything to you on your journey.

[@finsterthecat]

Trust issues are huge and I hate that.

[@odradevia4511]

Hello, My name is Julliette, i''m currently going to a psocologist that haven't diagnosed me but says i have this condition. i was wondering if i can have a consultation with you? how can i get an appoinment?, i really need answers

[@dr.beckyspelman]

We can offer you a free 15 minute phone call with one of our practitioners to discuss psychological treatment options we have available? Please email [e-mail] to book your free call or to find out more information about our services.

[@MacgiollaIG]

My friend just told me she has multiple personality disorder and I am ashamed to say I am freaking out. She says, other personalities are male. I have PTSD and my immediate reaction is to protect myself and flee. I want to learn more but don't feel I can ask without being judgemental. Can someone give me some advice please. "is the person I have known the same person or are they a group of different people I've been hanging out with" "How do I know - who is who" If she has a male and female identify is she bisexual?

[@christinaking4611]

I understand my ptsd tells me to run as well my bf has it and I’m scared if he could hurt me or something

[@thomasrobinson3704]

Great Video to Watch in this second Virus Lockdown 👍

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Thank you that’s very kind of you to say.

[@yolandagrabowski6043]

A lot of people I meet here split split personalities. Most of them seem to be narcissistic. Some act like they're doing me a favor. Next time, they deny being the one.

[@motherofintuitives]

my babys father is like norman bates his other personality is his narcissist mother who wants to hurt women he gets feelings for.....it is agonizing to me knowing one of his personalities loves me and the other one is a narcissistic momster who wants my blood......

[@keysle8635]

Thank you for this information, it was very helpful. I recently found that my partner has DID. It's been a challenging week of questions and processing. Unbeknownst to me I have been partnered with an alter from a system of 5 including the host. I notice similarities in the host and the alter I have been partnered with as well extremely polar personalities. The host is in the forefront and he appears to have little interest in me.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Gosh I’m so sorry to hear this, thanks for sharing your situation.

[@nm6857]

How often do the other 5 alters appear when he is with you? Or does the alter you are in a relationship with stick around? If the host doesn't like you how does he deal with that?

[@gerahuey3706]

I know what you mean since I found out about 2 years ago that my husband is DID. This personality does this and that personality does that-- in him. Wow- something else.

[@ArleneMyers-ii7iy]

I also have a extreme diagnosis of DID 600 total and keeps increasing

[@alexisjames5894]

I am looking for assessment for DID. I have already been diagnosed with dissociative disorder, ASD (just) and complex ptsd which I have had since about five yrs old. Could you contact me about assessment I wonder? Kind rgds Alex

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Sure, we can provide assessments, please email [e-mail]

[@twinstarssystem2857]

Do you use the ICD or the DSM, or some other manual?

[@thisbeem2714]

In hospital once I revealed it and one doctor believed me but another didn't and only once my psych confirmed it did she listen. I don't tell my medical doctors, ever. Only those who are close to me know.

[@yoooyooo8441]

Stop the bullcrap.

[@thisbeem2714]

@@yoooyooo8441 😂 trolls are so predictable.

[@Believe30]

Please help. Do alters have to have different names? I am teying to figure if a relative has this after denying something very important AMONG OTHER things that were crazy. Thank you for any help. P.S. i am only talking to her on phone so I can not see her.

[@greywolfTomyris]

Thank you so much for the info! you are so beautiful!

[@PeacefulThoughts303]

Is there like a different word for it instead of alter? I feel like it makes me not a person.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Of course you can use whichever word feels comfortable to you

[@disorganizedorg]

I've seen "personality state" used frequently.

[@ArleneMyers-ii7iy]

I'm in intense treatment and going to Church to manage it

[@babyprincessplayground4250]

Need talk to you just got diagnosed I don't know how to handle it and I get lots of headaches and I'm always upset my channel do live ddlg and abdl lifestyle also witchcraft vampire Gothic talk

[@angryunicornproductions2633]

This is a good vid i have adhd and anxiety since childhood but didnt know till adulthood and i got symptoms of did and my tharapist says its orob bc my nd brain i dont have did but we have suddke differences between us

[@supermenthol5531]

Beautiful woman .. very smart .. going to watch more ..

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Wow that’s very nice of you to say, I’m glad you are enjoying my content. Thank you.

[@OyemiAnkhara]

I know this video is old and I probably won't get an answer. That is okay. As a budding therapist due to get their licensure in a few months, I have a client who says that they have D.I.D. your video answers all of my questions except one. My client, or who I thought was my client has turned out to be an alter. I spoke with another alter who finally explained that the client, host, has not fronted in years. They are 15 and an alter told me the host hasn't made an appearance since 8 or so. I hope I am explaining this to your understanding. Can a host just choose to disappear? Like choose not to control their body? Apparently the real host is now in the backseat and decides who can front.

[@faithmarielake592]

I just recently met a person who believes she has this disorder. Im trying to understand it.

[@despicabledavidshort3806]

I have a closet I'm my mind where I put all the bad stuff. I think there's a little girl stuck in that closet and she wants out. But if she gets out she's bringing shit with her so there's another little girl on the other side of the door that won't let her out bc we can't deal with the avalanche that's going to come out and we won't be able to shut the door. How can I see get the little girl out without everything else coming with her??

[@TheBoyofHearts]

Can my alter-ego be removed from my body with the right exposure therapy?

[@nirmaladrieskens4338]

Great video ❤️❤️❤️

[@dotsyjmaher]

I was married to one..DEAR GOD.. I had NO idea this existed... Over time I could NOT understand the CRAZY things he did... Often denying doing something while looking at the evidence... After years of insanity..I could take no more... He was trying one last pitch... "Yes I can admit the person you SEE did do these things but MY MOTHER ACTUALLY MAKES ME DO THEM( SHE LIVED IN ANOTHER STATE...SHE DID PRACTICE BLAK MAJIK...BUT I WAS DONE... MY EMPATHY FOR THIS PITIFUL BUT DANGEROUS PERSON WAS USED UP THAT IS WHEN HE WENT REALLY CRAZY...AND TRIED TO HAVE ME KILLED... NOT ALL OF THEM ARE JUST "DIFFICULT" SOME ARE DANGEROUS

[@dr.beckyspelman]

Sorry to hear that. Thanks for sharing.

[@Shadow-nlr]

Could someone dissociate and not return? Could discussing trauma cause someone to dissociate more?

[@BlueHeron654]

The host person can change. One can get worse when discussing trauma, but treatment should not encourage it. You want to stay within the window of tolerance.

[@Shadow-nlr]

@@BlueHeron654 "Window of tolerance ". Very well could be the mistake made.

[@BlueHeron654]

@@Shadow-nlr It is hard to navigate. Work to keep distress levels low.

[@Shadow-nlr]

@@BlueHeron654 I agree. It definitely opened doors to triggers.

[@fang5059]

How do you get diagnosed?

[@loveforever5687]

I have DID. I switch between my adult self and being like a 1 year old baby. Sorrow, a need for comfort, sometimes anger, sometimes even happiness triggers me to be a baby. I've never told anyone, but I realized my condition about 6 months ago, but I've been like this since I was 19, I'm 32 now.

[@SuleSAkbas]

thank you. it helped a lot.

[@Lauralu61]

Thank you.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

You're welcome!

[@christinaking4611]

My bf has DID will he ever try to hurt or kill me im scared as I don’t understand what they r capable of

[@AngelaKessler-dk2qb]

How many patients have you personally assigned with DID? It's a lot more than people say right because like me and three of my friends def have it.

[@Flusterette]

I feel that stating it's not about "split personalities" & not "multiple personalities" as the disorder, & calling it "DID," but then using the term "personality" when you mean "identity" through the video isn't helpful & adds to confusion. It's not a personality disorder, which MPD/SPD seem to suggest. It's an issue of multiple dissociative identities in different capacities. In DID you can have multiple identities not only of different age, name, gender, skin colour, perceived height, body shape/size/weight, personality, but also their physical health status can alter (diabetes, pain, fatigue, vision changes). Hence it's more all-encompassing to say identity, not personality, when referring to DID. Because it's more to do with the brain, nervous system & body as a whole! For instance: It's not a personality flaw to have chronic pain or chronic fatigue. Calling these identities 'personalities' would suggest that other symptoms they have in the body are malingering or just choosing not to feel well because of their mood or personality... When that's not the case! Consider why we use the term "identity theft" & why we don't say "personality theft." In DID, the identities can mask as the host's personality. I may be a bit off with the rest of my understanding, but I think it paints a picture of the spectrum of identity/personality/part or self-state as you move away from DID... I'm trying to articulate why proper terminology matters, which is why I'm critiquing the host of the video for repeatedly saying personality, which is offensive to full fledged identities in DID who feel reduced to their personality & not the rest of their experience as a uniquely formed identity. When identities merge, you see a new identity with new personality (often a blend), & a new understanding of the physical experience as well. Consider in inner-world experiences, or even yourself in dreams: you're not a personality, you're an identity. Personality isn't tangible like identity, though you can perceive personality. With less individuated but still more-noticeable multiplicity (some presentations of OSDD) you may see different "personalities" of the same individual that all identify as the given name... There may be some shifts in the body-state, mind you. It's a spectrum. And even within OSDD on milder presentations, sometimes those personalities are referred to as "self-parts," which everybody has; aspects of themselves that conflict or oppose or are just very different from eachother. But the same unified identity, just different identity states. That's why Borderline Personality Disorder is a personality disorder: the unified identity is in conflict of self-states/parts, thus disregulating the individual from a stable personality, & having disorder.

[@Saraswati-c9e]

Hi, I am 20 year old and I am suffering with DID and due to this I am facing a lot of trauma and due to this I had break up with my male bestie because that person has mesaaged him and created a rift between him & me and that person thought that it was done by me and broke all the contacts with me. Please help me with this

[@dr.beckyspelman]

I'm so sorry to hear this. You can book a free initial call with us here if you like: PTC.as.me/?appointmentType=38919764

[@abitofeverythin3535]

Hello what are the alternatives for a young boy still in school where his mother won't take him to or pay a therapist plz. 🤔 asking for my daughter s freind who is getting no therapy at all. no money at all. 😞 thanks .

[@sr2291]

How do people pay for therapy?

[@dr.beckyspelman]

we can offer you a free 15-minute phone call with one of our therapists to discuss treatment and payment options available, please email [e-mail] to book your call.

[@SombersoSweet]

Do you do online calls ?

[@dreamznaspiratons7064]

Its vert often misdiagnosed 0:44

[@hobojellyphish1]

Thank you so much.

[@dr.beckyspelman]

You're welcome!

[@The_LMB_Team]

How do you know if your an alter or a person

[@FirstnameLastname-qp4hf]

I came here to prove myself wrong.