What I Learned About Relationships & Self Love | GRWM | Faceovermatter

[@user-ys9zq2mn2r]

When you said “life is hard don’t matter the circumstances” I really felt validated. I always invalidate my struggles because someone is probably doing worse than me which doesn’t allow me to heal. It doesn’t help having family invalidate you either.

[@ToniaAlex13]

Since the pandemic I have realized how important it is to not invalidate my struggles no matter how small they may seem as what you're saying is so true. You don't get to heal properly!

[@kailamcnair]

Hey Jae, I’m turning 32 on the 16th ♊️ and I’ve been watching you since you were a teenager (so your audience may be older than you think lol). Don’t be too hard on yourself about school... I went through the same exact thing and it took me a while to figure things out but once I finally did, I was soooooo ready and there was nothing that could stop me from reaching the finish line. I had to wait on God’s direction bc honestly, I was so confused.... I’m finishing up my Master’s degree now and can tell you for a FACT that age is just a number and there’s no timing like God’s timing! You can do all things through Christ that strengthens you! 🙏🏽🙌🏽 Happy early birthday hunni 💜

[@faceovermatter]

You said some GOLDEN words! "there's no timing like God's timing" WHEWWWW 🙌🏽😭 Congratulations on your masters degree! that's so amazing! Thank you so much Kaila ❤️😘

[@destinyleander]

Trying to juggle a toxic relationship whilst dealing with the stresses of college , is really hard and mentally taxing . Struggled with anxiety because of it and failed multiple classes . Left the relationship sophomore year and have been happy and prospering ever since , two years later I have my degree . And I’m continuing on to my masters . For anyone that needs to hear it , leave him sis . Put yourself first !

[@faceovermatter]

whewwww good for you love!! ❤️ It is no joke trying to juggle both, and the thing is that we shouldn't have to juggle something thats toxic, just drop it!

[@TheLovelyJewell]

Whew this >>> I feel like no one understands how deep that really is and the effect it can have on your school work. Thank you 💕🦋

[@teyperview]

Listen, my life didn’t turn out as I expected .... I left college after 3 1/2 years... didn’t get married until 30, I’ll be 32 this year, and no children yet. I am just truly coming into my own, and dealing with certain things from my younger years... but like you said, everything has divine purpose..

[@D3093_]

Im 26 no kids, no bf and im loving it,took me a while to get this way though, im so content,like you it wasn't until 25 I started dealing with issues from my past, like if im not completely healed from my past,how am I going to love and be there for someone else and have a successful life long relationship? ...im so glad I have figured this out before it was to late, I'd rather be 26 instead of 66 trying to heal from things the sooner the better.

[@ShakiraKGardner]

God was like what plans!! The quicker we realize that His plans are the only the only plan!

[@faceovermatter]

Yes, divine purpose! I think we focus too much on when everyone else gets things done, and we compare it to our lives. But it's all for the glory of God ❤️

[@teyperview]

faceovermatter absolutely!!!!!! Sometimes we do it subconsciously, and that’s the trick of the enemy.

[@tmo6695]

TeyPerView that subconscious mind smh, it is the devil. JESUS!!!

[@lovelyjay4400]

I agree that mental health is important. I just started my Gap Year for college and I'm so grateful for my choice.

[@softballstar811]

What compelled you to take a gap year?

[@ameena6911]

I definitely agree. I was apart of the Class of 2020, and I am TIRED.

[@lovelyjay4400]

Hi @@softballstar811, I felt like I was being rushed into college. I wasn't mentally prepared to enter college, so I made the choice to take a gap year after my second semester. Also, I reminded myself that I don't need to follow a specific timeline as expected from a high school graduate.

[@softballstar811]

Lovely Jay Wow!!! I love that! Thank you for your candor and sharing your journey with me🖤

[@unabashed]

Good for you. I'm 40ish and I wish I would have taken a break at that age for my mental and physical health. I do it allll the time now. So I'm catching up later on in life, but regret not doing it earlier.

[@MSantanaG61]

I needed this video. I'm actually crying. It feels like we sat to drink a coffee and you just read my mind. I'm almost 21 and I feel like my whole life since I started dating, I was constantly looking for something outside when I needed to look inside of me.

[@faceovermatter]

hmm, that's good, we do that a lot. trying to find and look for something thats right there inside of us 🤎

[@D3093_]

Gurrrlll! Although my last relationship was my first and only when I was 22 (im 26 now)...i was just like you ,but i wasn't in college. I had already finished school. now looking back that relationship was from me being lonely and I guess bored, and I see that what was needed was for me to start loving myself, and see myself how God sees me in his eyes. Im in such a better place interms of self love, prayer worship , and having a true relationship with Jesus...im truly focused on me and continuously learning who I am through gods eyes...like you I don't feel 26 at all i still feel 23 ,ill be 27 in sept...i still feel like I'm in college lol. But I wouldn't trade where I am now for anything. I thank God for his continuous work on me. Im glad im far from how I was at age 23. Growth is always key to success. Thanks for this Jae, u my fav frfr💕💕💕😍😍

[@faceovermatter]

I'm so happy for you! This is so encouraging, thank you for sharing this! It all works out! Thank you so much Dez for your support ❤️

[@gioovannabp]

I'm 22, just left a toxic relationship emotionally. I was very attached to that person, or more specifically the idea of him. I'm doing a lot better, but the pain was deep. Healing and loving myself, being in tune with myself are changing everything. I never rushed into relationships but that time felt right, I don't regret, but I see what was wrong. I accept it and I'm moving on. I even shared here on yt a bit of what I've been learning. I recently found your channel and I love the vibe of it. Value yourself and only share energy with those who deserve it ❤️❤️❤️

[@faceovermatter]

The pain won't last, thats for sure. I am happy you were able to leave that relationship. Grow into the beautiful woman you are! Thank you so much for your kind words. ❤️

[@gioovannabp]

@@faceovermatter wow! Thank you so much for giving me this boost today! I'm so happy I found your channel! We can grow together 💞🌱

[@TheLovelyJewell]

🙌🏾🙌🏾 I felt this. I’m 22 turning 23 in August and I decided that I wasn’t gonna repeat another year of the same toxic cycle. I love myself so much more now and I do know better is in store 💙

[@gioovannabp]

@@TheLovelyJewell sometimes we are so blinded we don't see the toxicity and the emotional manipulation. I was drained. Visit my channel, I made 2 videos on healing! ❤️❤️❤️

[@letrice2892]

Iam 43 and when i was younger i had this entire life planned out for myself thinking this is what will make me happy this is what i want but life shows u differently and what i learned is dont place too much pressure on yourself bcuz its hard living up to the image we want for ourselves u will spend so much time trying to check things off your list in a way that u will forget to enjoy the journey u will view it as a task rather than life i learned to get out of my head so much stop analyzing and over analyzing every aspect in my life and i think spirituality had alot to do with that bcuz we have to realize we arent in total control like we think theres a difference between our plan and his plan and once we learn to step aside and let god direct us things will become more clearly

[@chinellecole8763]

Best advise ever! Mental health in college is so important and some relationship are just a draining distraction. Focusing on yourself during college is probably the best thing you can do for yourself because you’re still learning yourself, getting used to a new environment and most importantly you have to secure that career so you can be independent and never feel like you have to put up w certain things because you need a man. Depression In college is real, and focusing on yourself during these times is imperative!

[@StandupGirl-ym3ey]

Im 39 years old and im just now figuring out everything youve said in this video! Noone told me these things! I feel like ive spent my whole life teying to get my mother and fathers love and didnt know it! Thank you for this !! I can pass this on to my daughters who are 12 and 13!!

[@MamasitaMimi1997]

"You are only able to love someone the same way you love yourself" I definitely needed to hear that!

[@cassidytatum3644]

This video has come right on time. I’m 19 and earlier this year I dropped out of college the same way you did, I just stopped going altogether right before the semester finals. Right before I graduated high school my father passed and college was just draining me. Now that I’m growing and going through life, I know God has a calling on my life but I’m having trouble finding out what that is. I feel I should go back to school, I just don’t know what my next chapter holds or where I’m supposed to go. This video helped me know I’m not alone and that God will show me what I’m called to be. ❤️

[@toofavvv]

Never alone sis, grief has its up and it's down, a rollercoaster of emotions and thoughts.. but I've learned to embrace the reality of what was, and what no longer and in some way find peace through the uncertainty of asking God why?!?

[@faceovermatter]

glory to God. You are definitely not alone, and I'm sorry to hear about your father's passing. Take time to yourself to see what it is that God wants you to be doing at this very moment. It will come to you. Our purpose lies in Him. You got this Cassidy! 🤎

[@CarasPlace]

You’re so transparent and raw. 💯

[@sheistalesha7724]

Girl I just turned 26 on June 6th I spent my high school years in a relationship and my early 20s in another relationship. Sis I’m just now at peace with being single and wanting to enjoy my singleness . I’m realizing that I’m young and my relationship with God is more important right now. If I could I would change a lot too but if I didn’t go through those things I wouldn’t be the woman I am today ! You got this sis ✨💕

[@CreatedinHEAVEN]

Please make more videos like this, please!!!! I felt so convicted by this topic because it’s so relevant in my life rn. I graduated high school at 16 and dropped out of college at 17 from anxiety, pressure, and trying to “be in love”. God gave me a year of rest and here I am, turning 19 in 10 days. I am ready for the next test, next chapter, and I am focusing on my purpose and my MYSELF! Thank you for being obedient and transparent in this video. I admire you so much! This is what I needed! So empowering🤎

[@mariafilar3077]

I just turned 33 and it felt so anticlimactic, haha. The older you get the less you care. I freaked out about turning 30 but in the 3 years since, I’ve never felt more comfortable with myself! Comparing my life path to others just dragged me down, especially when i don’t even want the traditional “life path” aka having kids and moving to the burbs. So you realizing this at 23 is awesome and you’re definitely on the right track! Also it’s amazing you want to go into the funeral industry. Do you watch Ask A Mortician? Her content is fascinating. Highly recommend!

[@tayloreford7135]

I wish I could hug you! We have so much in common in situations. I'm 23 too and hearing this spoke to my heart. God has is using you for something great. I love your platform and your personality. Keep progressing because I see God in you and His work moving with you.

[@faceovermatter]

Taylore, thank you so much for this❤️ I needed it. (I love the way your name is spelled)

[@joniseledbetter3943]

This was the video I needed. All day i’ve been focusing on Romans 8:28 and this is just confirmation that God will really work all things together for our good. 💛

[@faceovermatter]

LOVE that scripture! And we much hang on tight to that truth❤️

[@kendragreene5953]

Thank you so much for this video! Where was this when I was your age? (I'm 29). I can relate so much to everything you said. Even at 29 years old I still need this reminder that its OK to focus on me and to better myself so when I do get into a serious relationship I will be able to love on that person better because I would be loving me and taking better care of myself. Still patiently waiting on the Lord to send me my guy and Christian friends as well. I just want the right people in my life. People who will keep me encouraged and sharpen my iron.💖

[@raldadunn5680]

Finished high school I went to college I left I focused so much on the relationship even when it was toxic I held on longer then I was supposed to God showed me so many times the season is over but I ignored it fell pregnant the relationship is over I left school im 25 with nothing to show for it and this video helped me remember it's never too late and God will restore the years I've lost Thank u

[@gracajose8474]

Ralda Dunn amen I'm 23 and plan to go back to college

[@ayoolabayo]

I spent my whole life feeling like I had to be in a relationship so I could get married, have kids etc. I tried to force things to work with guys who shouldn't have been in my life to begin with. I finally got into "THE" I thgt would complete me at 23. After it ended I felt more broken then I did before it. I had to learn that I must be complete within myself FIRST and then add a man as my accessory not my necessity. So whether I ever get married or not, I will still be whole.

[@cherika_skates]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@cindigreen9899]

Happy birthday. Live for today, not 2 years from now. Enjoy 23. Don't stress over things that haven't even happened yet. I'm constantly telling my daughter, who is your age, that same thing.

[@faceovermatter]

wow Cindi, thank you. That just freed me 😭❤️

[@jordanwall6301]

I needed this. I’m 21, will be 22 in December. I’m not graduating at the same time as others. I still question if I’m moving at the pace I should be. I question a lot of things. I do not have a job and rely on my parents; i always wonder if that’s how it’s gonna be. No matter what I do, no one wants to hire me. I’m lost but still moving forward. I feel like I’m close to my purpose but still need a little guidance. This video is helpful and inspiring. Thank you ❤️🤍

[@Annge2078]

Girl you are not alone !! ❤️❤️ I Will be 22 in oktober and I’m also not graduating at the Same time as others Its So Sad Because I just want to Get My degree and study something different I have been struggling with My self If nursing is what i should study.

[@jordanwall6301]

patricia judkins awww December baby 😊 if you’re applying for a new job, keep trying. Also for each position, use some of the words from the job description in your resume/cover letter. Real friends stay, fake ones don’t. You’ll attract new people every step you take ❤️

[@faceovermatter]

The right job will open up for you! Don't lose your hope and faith. ❤️

[@jordanwall6301]

faceovermatter 😊 I’m not, it’s just discouraging

[@alissenoel1216]

I love your channel ! I to just went through my alone season to find myself . I just got tired of the same outcomes with men . Then I realized I wasn’t pouring enough within myself and pouring to much into them , thinking that in order to be happy I had to be in a relationship . You can’t seek happiness within someone else without seeking it on yourself . I’m reading “Relationship Goals” and it has blessed my life !

[@DanielleD_]

I’ve never connected to something more. I’m 23 too and I’m going back to school this fall. I did the bare minimum and didn’t get the grades I needed to get into a Radiology program. But this time, I feel more confident and actually focused to overcome all my fears and lack of self love. When you love you, you’ll want better for yourself. Though I wish I reached this place sooner, I’m soooooo happy to be here! I’m happy you’re here too! ✨

[@faceovermatter]

Danielle, this is so good! When you love you, you'l want better for yourself! that is so good!

[@gracajose8474]

Danielle Don that's a,along I'm going back too, so nervous because if feel embarrassed to start uni at 23

[@ugochiemerole9000]

I really needed this video. I am 21 and about to graduate from nursing school next year and it's my second degree. Lately i've been trying to figure out my purpose in life. This video has really helped me realize the importance of taking life one step at a time and trusting the process.

[@AerielSade]

Sis, don’t ever feel the need to apologize for dropping out of college! College is HARD, mentally and emotionally. And I too struggled year 2 in college. Like that’s when EVERYTHING was hitting. The ONLY reason why I didn’t drop out was because I knew that my parents would make my life hell if I came back home. But if you’re in school and realizing that things aren’t working out, I believe that it may be the WISER decision to leave or otherwise, you’re just blowing money fast!

[@vievie3661]

I'm so happy I found you. I broke up with my first ever long term partner today and I'm feeling very confused and anxious. sad too, but for some reason more confused. I love how this just feels like 2 friends having a moment, talking about some important stuff and learning from it

[@humongousppenergy6693]

I've always avoided these kind of videos because I just preferred to forget and repress the memory of my past toxic relationship in my head, but after I watched your other video about you putting on make up on real skin, I knew by then that you'd be all facts and gathered all the strength to press this video. I needed this, especially from you, queen. Thank you for being staying true, Queen. I appreciate you so much.

[@jilliannequejadafiquaiere3151]

Girl I feel you. I am at the college right now and I am at the other end of the scale. All my life I have dedicated myself to study and put aside relationships and now I find myself a little behind on the dating stuff. So my advice is, learn to balance things and the day you feel tired of college and feel that you have to rest, then rest but do not leave it.

[@lifeasmakaylon8918]

I totally agree with you I was the same way in Highschool. I’m in college now and developed my relationship with God. I’ve committed to being celibate and owning my purity and just getting my spirituality, mental, and physical self together. Being in a relationship was all I focused on and yes I feel like I wasted a lot of time but I know I had to go through those seasons to get to the point where I am now. Loving myself and being in a season of singleness or however long God says for me to be in is what I’m focusing on.

[@briapitterson]

Girllllll. Whew. This is 100% so true. I’m at the stage in my life where I’m learning who I am & I’m 27. So I DEFINITELY feel like I wasted time & really didn’t know who I was. Especially when my relationship ended, I realized my life was so wrapped up in the other person I really didnt know who I was when it ended & what i truly wanted to do in school. So I’m grateful for this single season because God has given me purpose. & I’m so happy for you going back to school! 🎉

[@kaylabear6125]

This video definitely moved me to continue to find who I am on the inside and never give up on self love thank you for your wisdom this is definitely needed!!

[@brej1991]

Your videos are always on point. I was always in a relationship as well in highschool and my relationships were toxic. My current relationship i did everything in the relationship and i lost myself when we were together. I ended up breaking up with him and finding myself but also going through my Mary Jane stage as well in College. I went through alot physically, mentally, and emotionally. I went through growth spurts so i decided to apologize to him for how i left the relationship but i had no intention of going back. He said she had changed and the biggest mistake was losing me and everything. I decided to give it another try because we were young. I will be 29 in a few days and i just want to know if it is worth holding on too. He is a good guy but the maturity level is not there to say he will be 31. Alot or people say women mature faster than men and i believe that. I have also met mature men my age. I just find myself getting irritated or annoyed at certain stuff. I know im not perfect but i also believe everyone is not meant to be in this journey called life with you. Im just trying to stay prayed up and focus on me and what God has for me. Sorry so long i just feel like i needed to vent about my situation. Any advice would be needed. I want to get that book and start reading it. I was just talking to my friends about it the other day. Confirmation!

[@lifeofliv3162]

I turned 23 last Sunday and I feel that fear of having a lot of work to do! I’m currently going through the ups and downs of leaving a toxic relationship and not really loving myself yet and your videos really help 💕

[@faceovermatter]

Happy belated birthday Liv ❤️ I'm glad I could be a source of help for you. You got this. Keep staying strong and press through!

[@victorialindsey3164]

This is the video I needed to hear. I'm 21 and currently learning myself and living myself. I'm glad I went through what I went through at this age because I now I can learn from the mistakes I've made. I love being in tune with myself, it's such a blessing!

[@UzomaIroche]

i am so incredibly prod of you for how far you've come, the words you've spoken in the past and even right now, have given me so much hope and i know God is going to do such in credible things through you, God bless you🤍🤍

[@folamimak3423]

Actually have watched you from the beginning and just wanna day congrats on 360k ! However, I just want to speak to how relatable and touching this video was for me. You are not alone, I’m 22 in the same frantic “what am I gonna do next” state, but am now appreciative of the actual process.

[@astoldbyamberjanel]

Yes June birthdays!! I just turned 25 on the 11th. Happy early birthday. 💚💚 This video is right on time too, thank you for this!

[@ariearlene]

I am so happy watching this. You are literally saying everything I've been feeling lately and its so amazing to learn that other people are thinking along the same line.

[@Mini-rt8bm]

Why did I think you were older!? Oh what I would do to go back to year 23!

[@uncommonsense2564]

The new generation looks older then they are. Some of these 18 year olds look like they are in their mid late 30s. This young lady is also highly mature for her age.

[@faceovermatter]

@@uncommonsense2564 thank you so much ❤️

[@faceovermatter]

Alot of people think I'm 25+ 😂

[@uncommonsense2564]

faceovermatter your welcome darling. Your an old soul. Very wise and full of wisdom beyond your years.

[@divagirl2409]

Oh baby, I’m 35 lol.... but I love your channel. And yes you’re right, your 20’s is a time to focus on life. I needed that talk when I was in my 20’s. Enjoy your 20’s. You are such a blessing.

[@jessicawatts9807]

You are such an inspiration and I thank you for sharing your life with us-and dropping 💎’s 💕We are all living and learning!! I’m about to be 29 in 2 days and I have finally learned everything you discussed-self awareness, self love, and purpose..critical seasons of life. Our 20’s are all about ‘finding yourself’ aka ‘growing pains’ and that’s okay! Yes, we are supposed to grow and mature; however, I know my foundation will not change-family and God first! I thank you for your transparency and I am almost done with Relationship Goals!! Yaaas!! (Perfect timing!🙌🏽) Last, I wish you a blessed birthday and keep allowing God to use you! ☺️

[@faceovermatter]

Yes Jessica, this is soo good❤️ Thank you so much ❤️

[@jessicawatts9807]

faceovermatter you’re so welcome ☺️

[@Kalmxcape]

This spoke to me, I’m 21 and thinking about going back to school. Life really does go by so QUICK. I made the mistake of going to school and getting into a relationship when I should’ve just been focused on school. I feel the same way exact way with the age and all that and feeling like I should’ve went to a 4 year school so this just spoke to me because I’ve been feeling low about the decisions I’ve made so thank you

[@AhlannaLaShaye]

Happy early Birthday in case you don't post on Sunday! I still can't believe how wise you are for your age. I'm so glad you're pursuing your mortuary dreams I asked about it a few videos back and never got a response. I remember you mentioning interest in it a loooong time ago! Look at you now! You go girl!

[@faceovermatter]

Thank you Shaye❤️ My apologies for not responding, but I'm glad I was able to answer it now! Thank you for supporting love!

[@heavenpollard3853]

I needed this video ♥️ you’ll forever be my favorite KZbin influencer!!!

[@lachangill4197]

Your channel popped up in my newsfeed a few days ago and I'm glad I clicked on your video. I've been watching your videos back to back because you are so inspiring!! You are extremely mature and full of faith. I think I gravitate towards your courage because these are things I would have told my younger self and I didn't and I am just now finding out who I am and what I can do, how strong I am. Whose I am. God loves us and it always works for the good. This is extremely helpful for young women and any woman. Thank you for your transparency.... Love yourself 1st. It is not selfish!, then you can love others❤

[@AngelaWang724]

Yay!! Love this topic💖💖💖 also HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY!

[@faceovermatter]

Thank you Angela ❤️

[@JourneyWithJay1123]

I just turnt 23 in May and just became single from a 2 1/2 relationship..and just got back in school .... you literally took the words out of my mouth!! Like I feel everything your saying !!! I left college the same way . I went into college so not focus on school but like “ I’m gonna meet my husband “ . Now I’m so focus on deeping my relationship with God and reaching all my goals ! Just waiting in purpose! So happy you made this video ! God bless love ❤️ Oh and Haapppyyy BIRTHDAY 🥳

[@kendallles]

You are NOT the only one that deals with these thoughts!!! Love you lots

[@faceovermatter]

Good to know I'm not alone❤️ i love you back ❤️

[@ChicStrands]

First off, You’re so beautiful,!!🥰 and secondly, you have a beautiful mature mindset for your age. As a 28yrs old young women, I applaud you and I’ll say continue to be as beautiful as you are❤️🙏🏽 God bless!

[@melodiemalone5209]

I thoroughly enjoy the transparency of your channel. You are such a light!

[@neikv5428]

You went through seasons of learning and growth. We often need those intermissions. You’re still so very young with so much ahead of you. I call it older and wiser and I truly believe that is often needed to make the best decisions. I wish you all the best, always! 💕

[@pwincezzetz]

Thank you so much for this meaningful message. Navigating life as a young woman is hard and it is nice to learn from your experiences!

[@nayacherise6925]

I had no idea you’re only 23, I always thought you were my age. You’re so wise & mature 😩 I can definitely relate to a lot of things you said in this video, so thank you for this! But happy early birthday! God bless 💕

[@yasha36]

100 % I am glad that you learned that! You still have your youth! I am finally accepting that need to love myself 1st. I am 28 and I am on my journey to self love! Keep going! You got this!

[@AmberTookes]

Don’t rush the process, sis. You have more than enough time. I’m saying this to you but I’m also saying this to myself 🥴. Happy birthday, Jae! Wishing you many more beautiful days of life! 💕

[@luluarueyingho7429]

Awww! My birthday’s June 14th as well. Happy birthday doll! 💕I knew there was a reason I could relate with you even though I’m gonna be 31 and freshly single. Lol I’m still trying to navigate life and figure out what I really wanna do, but I pray everyday for wisdom and discernment so, I move in the right direction/path 🙏🏾❤️ p.s- you’re truly beautiful inside and out

[@faceovermatter]

Happy Birthday Lulu ❤️ and thank you, thank you so much ❤️

[@rachelflansburg]

I’m a new subscriber and I feel like we would be best friends in real life. I’m so proud of you for creating this platform to spread love, glorify God, and share advice with other young people!! Your introspective nature inspires me to self reflect and learn from my past💕

[@ashleybarnes5363]

God literally speaks through you ❤️! You’ll say things in your videos that are confirmation for me & my current situations. So glad God is using you to speak to young women. Praying for many blessings on your behalf 😭🙏🏾

[@BeingTalisa]

I used to be the same girl that was so focused and relationships and being “loved”. Once I found the love of God and learned how to love myself...lol it was a wrap.

[@jnielle9028]

loveee this video! so profound & needed. love the set up as well! Love you Queen, Keep flourishing!

[@sameishamcdonald1510]

I love your honesty and the fact that your so open to share such private parts of your life with us.

[@heatherrichards3103]

Mental health is very important and self love. Thanks for sharing. Continued blessings to you 🙏🏽😊 my birthday is also Flag Day. Gemini’s rock 🙌🏽😊

[@Sandrine419]

You are strong and God is using you! keep doing you girl and thank you for your all your videos!

[@MikaPoodle]

Well I’m 41 and listen attentively. So please keep speaking your truth. Don’t wait to you get my age and recognize your worth! Sending you blessings.

[@simplydebby5674]

I have homeworks but it can wait! 😍 I love this soft beat, tbh, we learn and we grow and we love ourselves more because of what we’ve learnt !

[@florxiste7025]

yes!!! I need to start appreciating more of the things i have accomplished and not being so down about things I have not accomplished yet!! I don't need validation from NOBODY else but myself.self love!!!

[@donique4539]

Yaayy! Jae, it’s like you know when I need some encouragement, your wisdom and just your videos. Happy early birthday too!🥳 You carry yourself so well and honestly it’s something to look up to❤️

[@faceovermatter]

Thank you so much Donique❤️ I appreciate your kind words!

[@haley33323]

I’m a rising sophomore and I cannot help but notice how very similar your story is to mine. I’m 19 now and literally everything you went through I’m experiencing rn. You gave me a lil motivation lol.

[@elisanguyen881]

Lol!!! “I’m gonna work on someone who already passed so the outcome is gonna the the same” (talking about working as a funeral director rather than doctor). Thank you so much for this video overall. I’m so encouraged and inspired to grow into who God made me to be.

[@pat_7870]

Glory Be to You, 🎂Happy Birthday Jay🙏🏾

[@UneakTershai]

"Do what makes you happy!" 💕✨

[@Miyieshia_Yvette]

I feel you on so many levels. I'm feeling the exact same way when it comes to loving yourself, taking care of your mental and making it a priority, finding your purpose and pursuing it, letting go of toxic relationships and finding strength moving forward, feeling like your life is moving fast and your on a time clock. Kinda like a mid-life crisis exact where in our 20's. I'm 21 going to be 22 in July and I can relate everything your saying.

[@bintouj5227]

the camera quality, this set up!! I'm loving it all!

[@therealkenj98]

Happy Early Birthday Jae, also your story/testimony about where you’ve been and where you’re at now is sooo relatable. While I was in college I was doing the same thing. Focused on a dude and not myself, school or God. I’ll be going back to school too. Thank goodness for grace and being lifted from that place. I am more than a relationship.

[@stephaniemodkins4624]

Happy Birthday (early)! So glad you're approaching what you learned from relationships as lessons. It's a challenge to do this when you're dealing with emotions.

[@samekhward]

Thank you so much for sharing this! Happy Early Birthday! I am excited for what our Father has in store for you! You have really encouraged me so much with my walk ❤️

[@Quayyah]

Happy birthday Jae! I pray this chapter of your life brings soulful gratitude, clarity and joy 💓

[@chocol8cugr]

Great information young lady, blessings on blessings on blessings to you for a very Happy Birthday. BTW I am yearssss older than you and I still look back and thank God for delivering me from a few of boyfriends when I was young, dumb and thought I was in love😀

[@alexisnicole1091]

Hey! First I wanted to say thank you for this video you are amazing ♥️ I recently graduated for the class of 2020 and honestly girl same here. With me, I’m constantly worrying about my future and if God will send me a good hubby with children. I’m 21 and at times it gets tough because I’m constantly comparing myself to friends I know who are in good relationships and with social media relationships. It makes me feel like I will never find my person as you stated. This video was very helpful video ♥️

[@moriahda99]

Our minds are LITERALLY the same. everything you said is what I stress about every. single. day. I’m 20 and I feel like I’ll never find my purpose

[@sheshakera0634]

Your message is relating to me right now. Girl I just love listening to you.

[@reginafenner3801]

You are an amazingly mature young woman. While your channel may be geared toward women/men your age, your message can resonate with anyone at any age. So thank you! I wish you well and know you have a wonderful future ahead. I leave you with Jeremiah 29:11. For I know the plans I have for you you said the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future. God bless!

[@shanellkhan]

Happy birthday love !!! I pray that you have a wonderful and successful year !! Love love love this video ❤️❤️

[@JohnneseP]

Happy birthday beautiful! I pray God blesses you with everything you might want but with things you might not have known you needed. Enjoy your day ♥️ Now come through setup! Absolutely love it. This topic is amazing and I absolutely love it 🙌🏽

[@callingclaire3017]

You’re so beautiful 🥺 just found your channel & I’ve been binge watching! I love your message!

[@adiahenderson5167]

I thank God for leading me to your channel 🥰 Happy Early Birthday 🎂

[@LifeInTheWord]

I love the optimism you have gained from your past seasons! Perspective is important, it changes the way we go into our present and future seasons.💕

[@byNaikaJean]

Hey love, any skincare videos soon?? Skincare is literally my coping mechanism somehow, lol sounds weird but i feel like i show myself love by taking care of myself by shopping and doing a good skincare and pampering session.

[@DebbieOre]

1st of all, PROPS to this setup! Great talk, thanks for sharing these words. Happy birthdayy 🎉🎉🎉

[@musingsofgold19]

I love this new set up Jaelan! Happy early birthday love 💜💜💜

[@DMKC]

Happy early blessed birthday to you! Know that everything you have said is relatable to everyone in age. As years go by, life never fails to teach you, but God never disappoints to teach you to sharpen Wisdom and discernment so you can apply it and teach it to others like you already are. As you continue to live, I know for sure that God will continue amaze you with His love that He has made just for you and so much more. May this new season that you walk in, expose you that your life was never wasted but purposed and created by God. So have a beautiful birthday and continue to enjoy life to the fullest.✨🤍

[@faceovermatter]

Thank you so much for this. What you've said here are golden words! ❤️

[@DMKC]

faceovermatter you’re welcome!✨🤍

[@MikaPoodle]

Also i was a whole career woman and decided to get my degree! It was different being an adult among young folks... but i pushed through and then right after got my masters... it’s never too late. Focus on you and save yourself the time, energy and money to figure out what you want. Trust me it never happens the way you planned it out. I would have never thought i would be single at 41 with no children. I have a home i purchased alone and a great career. My purpose is divinely timed.

[@entertainmenthub216]

Happy Birthday in Advance Jae..... Thank you for this video❤❤

[@LetriceAllia]

I didn’t start learning who I am until after college. I’m 27 now. When I was your age I was in a very bad toxic relationship. When I was 24 that’s when I decided to leave that relationship. Once I had my awakening at 25 that’s when I started to become the woman that I’m supposed to be. I still have those moments of not knowing my true purpose in life. It’s definitely a journey. 🌻

[@bobodbest1]

Happy Birthday! thank you for your beautiful message ❤️❤️

[@fearless0122]

Your such a strong woman, proud of you too Jae 💜 Happy early birthday 2️⃣3️⃣🥳🥂🍾

[@youselandesimon6358]

SELF LOVE is the BEST LOVE!!!💖 Happy Birthday Jae!!!!! Hope you have a blessed day!!!!❤🙏🏿

[@faceovermatter]

I love that! ❤️ Thank you so much!