What I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a STAY AT HOME MOM

[@JessicaJSpiers]

I wanna hear from you mama’s, what’s your experience being a SAHM or a working mom…I want to hear it all!💗SUBSCRIBE for new videos like this every WEEK! bit.ly/2GEpcrj

[@julieschmidtlaw]

I’m a lawyer going to switch to a SAHM, thanks for the video! I’m a little nervous for the transition but glad to hear you found your groove eventually

[@DianaPalm]

I was a single mom and worked in jobs that allowed me to be home for my daughter after school to make cookies and do homework. I wrote articles and books at night after she went to sleep and saw clients on weekends when she had play dates. I worked for myself for most of my life so that I had more flexibility to offer as a parent and my daughter often came along with me as my little helper. So, I was a mom and a dad and working/stay at home parent. She was my priority...she's now 25 and we still spend an amazing amount of time together. I love your video! Great job!

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Diana, how inspiring!! You truly sound like a real life super hero, your daughter must be so grateful for all you did and continue to do.

[@sophiaraquel8470]

I really appreciate you being real about this subject I left me career after the pandemic and I have to say this is the most challenging experience I have ever experienced. I feel like I’m going to have a nervous breakdown. No one prepares us for the real life of being a SAHM

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Sophia, that means so much!! I feel like it could be really challenging to fully understand how you may feel as a stay at home mom. So being authentic and having an open conversation is crucial. 💗

[@amyplotzke3745]

Not every day is easy, but every day is worth it !

[@JessicaJSpiers]

SO so true!!! You're the best, thank you for watching and commenting! 😘

[@bonniemullins6769]

I resonate with you as a single mum. Im just learning to accept the way my life is atm. By the end of the day Im just exhausted to even watch a show I like or read a book... But ive accepted it and i love being a mum, seeing my daughter happy is the best feeling ever...

[@LydiaNicoleLive]

I love this honest look into the life of a stay-at-home mom. We need more open dialogue about the life of mothers!!! Thank you for leading a conversation.

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Thank you SO much, I'm glad you enjoyed the video. I hope others find it helpful.

[@katesong661]

I am the same type of SAHM as you! I imagined that my experience as a SAHM would be hanging out with other moms and having play dates, it’s not the case! So much to do around the house + breast pumping or breastfeeding is a commitment so being out and about with kiddo makes it almost impossible.

[@gabriellar6271]

I currently work and take care of my baby and wish I could be a stay at home mom but I need the money. Thank you for your honesty into the sahm life. I wish moms on KZbin or social media in general would stop posting these perfectly curated videos and posts as they set unrealistic expectations for others such as myself. That’s why for my mental well being I try to stay away from social media as much as possible

[@EliMagidsLuxuryHomes]

Congrats-Long Term, I think u made a wise Choice-- As a Dad, I was home most of the time with my son ,who is 11 Now. And I could never get that time back... I am grateful for that time ! But everyone is different !

[@JessicaJSpiers]

You can never get this time back, I totally agree! Thanks, Eli!

[@nhacocara]

I'm thinking about this staying at home mom or going back to work, I have to work long hours and it breaks my heart to think about leaving my daughter at childcare for that long. Thanks for sharing your insight!

[@JessicaJSpiers]

It's such a difficult decision, and hard to know which one is "right." Sending you hugs on your journey, know that you're not alone, Mama!

[@ndreader]

As a former childcare worker, in a baby room specifically, I took care of 4-8 babies at a time. Age ranges 3 months to 1 year. Let me tell you, those kids would be dropped off sometimes from 6 am to 5 or 6pm and during that time they attached to me. So much so sometimes that they didn't want to leave. One time I ran into a mom and her baby, 11 months, I was taking care of in Target and the child was screaming for me and reaching out for me. I cried when I got into my car because that child and I bonded for 8 months already. I knew her cries, what she would eat and wouldn't eat, her bathroom schedule, and I even saw her first steps. After experiencing that, I decided that I want that bond with my own child. Not everyone can swing it, I get that. I just didn't want another person doing the things that I want to do/be as a mother.

[@erika4300]

Thank you for sharing! I too just made the decision to leave my job. It took me some time to make that decision because I also really enjoy my career. I have a 9 month old and 2.5yr old, I know it will be challenging being at home but my children need their mom, and I want to be there with them so I know I have made the right decision, and feel so at peace with it.

[@mutshidzinetshiavha5182]

Thank you for sharing your experience.. I am preparing on becoming a stay at home mom… and this has helped me a lot❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@StasiaAleen]

I've never worked full-time. We moved alot as newlyweds, then started having kids and have stayed home ever since. You were spot on about everything about SAH. Thanks for the booster that I'm not alone on this journey.

[@julieragle1695]

I love this so much. I am a solo mom my husband works away from home and comes home once every month or two. I'm so grateful that you make content that I can relate to as I am a holistic health coach and it's so enjoyable to feel like a have a mom "friend" that geeks out on similar things that I do. You're amazing!

[@janinelazarus1009]

Wow this video was so timely for me. I've been a stay at home mom now for the second time with my 10 month old. Having the second baby kinda threw me for a loop. I thought I knew what it was going to be like but it absolutely has rocked my world as you said. I feel guilt for not taking them out as much but I've also feel guilty for not being able to keep my house tidy like I used to before kids. I am a very organized person so having to deal with the mess takes a huge toll on me. I love how you said you finally realized what kind of mom you were...because I have this nagging feeling like I'll never get this right. My home will be a mess we wont have nourishing food daily and my kids won't be able to get out as much as they need. I struggle with this so much and trying to figure out a routine. This is like a breath of fresh air Jessica I am so glad I found this video. Your so right about the isolation especially parenting in a pandemic. 😓💕💕💕🙏

[@AdrianaGirdler]

I love the honesty you present your perspective with. Both of these have their own challenges. Love how you explained your journey with figuring out what kind of mom you are and what activities/schedule works best for you. Amazing video!

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Thank you, Adriana! I appreciate your kinds words.

[@doubleroti4672]

I was a working mom with my first born and my mom was there to raise her and I was extremely young. I then transitioned to a stay at home with my 2nd and 3rd and boy it was a huge change for me. I had the career I always wanted and was a high level executive as well. I went through a lot of issues adjusting and it’s not easy to make friends at this stage because not everyone has kids this little and it’s hard because you don’t work or go to school to get to know people before you start to hang out with them. Things started getting better when my 2nd went to school as I made friends there but it’s usually short lived because you kinda get to know them on play dates and it’s basically for the purpose of your children. Looking back, I wouldn’t change anything but I wish I knew what was going on with me while I was adjusting and was able to tell myself or have someone else tell me what a huge emotional and physical adjustment it would be.

[@Briham]

Your home is beautiful. Love the editing in your videos! I’m positive your babies will appreciate your sacrifices to stay home with them. It is very lonely at times but youtube is a great outlet for us sahms for sure!

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Awe, thank you SO much, that truly means the world to me. I agree I think it's such a wonderful outlet for creative expression. I appreciate your support and you stopping by my channel! 💗🌸

[@therestartspecialist9229]

Oh Jessica I am right there with you. I made this transition about 8 years ago but now I run a full time wedding photography business. Bless you with all those little ones. I know I couldn't have done it. Being a stay at home mom is a full time job with NO benefits in regards to pension or 401K. But it is the most rewarding career I will ever have and I wouldn't trade it in for anything as i have seen my babies grow up. Great video just subscribed

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Thank you, Meredith!! You're spot on, it is by far the most rewarding decision I've ever made! 💗

[@myneighborhood3466]

thank you for sharing . I have so many worries and doubts. Just pregnant with my first baby and wondering how to juggle it will all my family living miles away

[@IevaKambarovaite]

Your house is absolutely gorgeous 😍 I love your honesty. I really don't know how you and all the other mums do that. Amazing!

[@JessicaJSpiers]

You're so sweet, thank you so much!!

[@ashleymelton3367]

Thank you for being so real!

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Thank you, Ashley! It can be a difficult decision, however, also one of the most rewarding. I appreciate you taking the time to stop by and leave a commen!

[@heatherkumar8260]

Yes. This is helpful! Thanks for being so real!

[@veraandrews205]

This was my first time watching one of your videos. And I just loved it! I almost never comment on an videos ever. But as a stay at home mother for the last 6 months, I’m now going back to work on Monday and my daughter is sick from something she caught at her Montessori school and I’m really contemplating not going back and waiting another 6 to try again. But this video has helped me imagine how it may be possible to have a version of a life that if I decide to stay home that I can thrive at home a good chunk of the time if I work on it. I will definitely share this with friends and family that are preparing to have children.

[@alexiacontreras8408]

This video was everything 🙌 you took the words out of my mouth. Thank you for being real

[@jacquelinebhg2325]

i love how you covered the different types of stay at home parents. im social but see myself being at home during the week and doing the socializing on weekend 👍

[@JessicaBurgo]

love the editing in this video! sharing this with my sister! she is considering quitting her nursing job to be a stay at home momma! This could really help her!

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Awe, thanks Jessica! Please do, I hope she finds it helpful!

[@starklionda9007]

so glad I stumbled upon your video while search for sahm advice . and i can really identify with everything u said, enjoyed the video so helpful and glad u made it .

[@mrso0611]

Thanks for sharing. I just gave birth to our sixth child. I'm ready to stay home. I know that I'd be crying my eyeballs out when my maternity leave is over... for the first time.... and I think it's because for the first time, I'm actually ready to stay home and be self employed or something

[@eks007]

“Answering the exact same question 50 times in a matter of 10 minutes...” haha 😂 #truth

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Real talk tho! 🤣💙💗

[@IslandTriGrahamforever]

Thanks I really like how you are so real in this video I can so relate!

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Thank you, Trina! It's a complicated transition and I wish I would've been more prepared. Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave a comment! 💗

[@mariskajoe252]

With every video I watch I am more thankful that I found your channel... I went from corporate to sahm 2 year ago and you hit the na on the head.... But working mom's don't get it... I still hear how lucky I am.... Yeah thank you... She says as she adds the tenth load to the washer....

[@Teacher_Clara]

Thank you so much for this video. I am currently considering if this is something we can do as a family. My kids are older, but I am career driven and in a a senior position too so leaving is not an easy decision. Do you consider going back to work as your kids get older? Have you gone back since this video?

[@abagaleleboeuf1927]

I know this is an old video, but I loved listening to your perspective! We’re trying to decide if I should switch from full time student and full time job to stay at home mom of our two girls while I finish my degree and get my license.

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Abagale, thank you so much for taking the time to watch & comment, that means a lot to me. Older video, but absolutely the same perspective. It can be extremely challenging, but also the most rewarding decision in the world! 💗

[@mnx7244]

Super helpful and honest video! Thank you!!

[@nikcollettekristin]

This has been perfect for me to hear today. I have a two year old and and now 2 month old. I am currently working full time but don’t want my husbands mom to raise my children. I want to! I’ve been considering finding a new part time or just being a full time stay at home mom. It’s been hard because sometimes I just don’t know what I’m doing. I’m still learning and growing but it hasn’t been easy. My 2 year old is just so challenging, I love him immensely but running after a 2 year old with a 2 month old is difficult especially when your doing it by yourself. Like how do I go to the bathroom or take a shower or eat?

[@JessicaJSpiers]

Hi NIkcollette, thanks for taking the time to watch and I absolutely know how you feel. It can be incredibly overwhelming and yes, such a rewarding experience. With age does come more flexibility, but each stage has their own challenges. I'm glad you were able to relate.

[@idongesitadegoke7366]

Quite helpful. Thank you

[@thefragrancefreak9059]

Wow the 1st person that gets me!!!!

[@mani-ksb]

Lots of respect to you! I can absolutely relate. Bless

[@cjsschoolhouse276]

I feel so understood right now 😭😭😭

[@theashleebrookee]

I’m a new stay-at-home mom to my six-month-old daughter. Before becoming a mother, I was a lead designer at a commercial architecture firm and then opened my own business which was very successful for three years and I worked until 39 weeks pregnant. After having my daughter I planned on going back to work (for myself from home) in about three to four months. It was extremely difficult and I completely underestimated what it took to be a “SAHM”. I felt guilty for spending time on my work vs. spending quality time with her. It took me 10x longer to complete a work task than it did previously. I don’t have help with her as I don’t trust my family who’s local to me and my husband also owns a business, so he has a very demanding schedule. We recently determined that it’s best if I just dedicate 100% of my time to my daughter and be all in sahm. It’s been difficult, as I really enjoy my work, but also I’m a mother and thought that would never happen due to infertility issues. I’m trying to find balance and create tasks each day. This video really helped seeing things from your perspective and how you’ve managed to transition. I love my daughter more than anyone in the world, so I’m excited to do this, but it’s just a different world that takes some adjusting to get used to. Thanks for the insight!

[@tracyjasmine9180]

Jessica we are so alike, we have the same style of mommy. I like to get **ish* done around the house because I’m a neat freak** OCD & then sit down and watch my favorite series’s w/ a glass of wine or even coffee, but please!!! No interruptions!! “which never happens, something always gets in the way!!” Lol ..I rather walk my German Shepard and train him instead of being in a mommy group(with all respect to those who are, good for you ) I’m just the same way. Also, I was in the working industry, from working in the city, from working w/ Law enforcement & Board of education, to physiologist. Oh! & also Baking cakes as a hobby & making money 💰.Having two kids, including new born & breastfeeding, my husband having a stressful job as military as a shooting coach, I recently had to make the hardest decision like you and let me tell you!!! I have cried!!! But I know my kids will grow and it will pay off, that’s why I’m glad I watch this video because that’s how I feel. It not depression it more having to sorta loose what you thought 💭 it was your identity but honestly it more of the unpredictable or the wake up call of being a mom of two and life reality.

[@godstimeisthebesttime321]

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