Every time I can recognize that the issue is forgiveness, I remember a parable... the one about a king who forgives his subject an enormous debt... and then watches his subject go back to his household where he expresses enormous displeasure in one of his servants who had not yet been able to repay his small debt. Jesus paid that enormous price... the sins of the WHOLE WORLD... and then we can't turn around and forgive someone of their sins (which are about 1 tenbillionth of what Jesus paid for on the cross). Sometimes I really don't want to forgive... but I always get to that prayer - "forgive us our sins just like we forgive those who have sinned against us." So, yeah... I get what it's like to be constantly wronged by an Ex.... especially one who chooses to be especially torturous with any aspect of your life they have even a modicum of control over. It happens a million times a day...right? But... gotta lose that ego and dig deep to find that compassion to forgive just the same. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this with us. I think it hits home often in our lives too.