What is EMASCULATION? || What Women and Wives Need to Know

In this video, I define emasculation, why it's hurting your marriage, and why you should change your emasculating ways.
Emasculation is a rampant problem in marriages and relationships between women and good men. It is often a behavior we don't want to see about ourselves as women, but doing so transforms your relationship with yourself and your husband or partner.
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[@NN-sj9fg]

We hear about "Toxic Masculinity" but never about "Toxic Femininity". The reason is simple - it doesn't fit the agenda. Thank you for speaking about it.

[@melkerner]

Misandry is the accepted norm in Western society - Men are the brunt of all jokes, emasculated and sidelined once Women get what they want (safety and security) - then there is no need to be nice to their man any longer. Yet, they still expect the princess treatment. They withhold affection and sex to the point where it destroys the man's T levels and drive for life. This is on purpose. Whether conscious or unconscious.

[@TavistockLiesBrainwashing]

You hear about it from me.

[@DangerousWillie]

@@coreycleven8414 Sounds like you need a healthier group of friends.

[@robertlunderwood]

I think it's more Toxic Feminism. Femininity is the opposite of feminism.

[@jamesrush6705]

I was married for 40 years. Three children, all daughters. My ex wife never trusted my judgement. She was always interrupting me in mid sentence. Very few times did she side with me when the kids were involved. As we got older it just got worst. There was very little sex during the whole marriage, she told me It was not that important to her. When all 3 kids where grown and still living with us, I was NOT the man of the house, I don't think I ever was. I was just one vote of 5, But I was still expected to pay all bills. The day I told her I was leaving , she cried and yelled at me. I tried over the next 8 months to reconcile with her, to no avail. Yet I continued to pay all the bills for her during that 8 months. She told me I was a sex maniac with anger management issues. Then she said " I don't change for anyone". It was her way or the highway. I chose the highway.

[@sloppytightbottom]

If a wife doesn't acknowledge and do her part regarding the physical intimacy bit of the marriage, then she's not worth much, IMHO.

[@robertscott911]

Yep, that's the conclusion I have come too after being told the good old " I never really wanted to have sex anyway speech" but I am happy for you to pay for everything and be my slave. Goodbye 👋

[@ronnie1638]

Paying all the bills should never be done by a man. If this is how women are going to treat you … then enforce 50/50 and get a prenup

[@v.r.2834]

Why did you stand that horrible marriage for 40 years?! It could not be so bad if you sacrificed your whole life for it, come….

[@mtyscott]

good god man! 40 years of that...wow.

[@regulaguy1733]

My first wife was an efenist. She would speak to me in the same tone, one would use to chastise a child. Call me names and order me around. I am not that kind of guy. I was in love with her, and maybe she took my kindness for weakness. In other words, she thought I was a wimp. I am a big believer in respect. Give it, demand it, and never tolerate disrespectful behavior. We argued a lot. Mostly about her behavior. She threatened to divorce, we had no children, and since I was miserable anyway, I called her bluff. Best decision I ever made. I went on to marry a beautiful woman and we had 2 kids together. We're still happily married many years later. She's still single.

[@18JR78]

Glad it worked out for you. Never look back.

[@LLS710]

God, I am so damn f888ing happy for you. What a mode (California term for super put-down of someone who needed an autocorrection) that you called her bluff & best thing ever that you didn't father any children with her. Think you're correct about the kindness thing. Some women say that men are awful and cause wars, etc. but if you are kind or soft-spoken, they hate you with hell fire.

[@regulaguy1733]

@@LLS710 Thank you!

[@Bruno-tm3xo]

Good on you. I went through the same thing

[@ChavoMysterio]

I'm also glad that you dodged the Child Support bullet as well.

[@jtoddherbst]

A beer, a sandwich, and a little lovin' - so simple, so true, so not normal anymore. We, men, are simple creatures deep down. We want a woman, a partner, a discerning, but loving, female to share our time with. Everything on this channel I've seen so far is spot-on! Thank you for this content showing us (good men) that we are not crazy like we are led to believe these days.

[@TroyStevens430]

Part of our problem as men is that we are so easily seduced by good looks. If we're honest the kind of girl we should've married was the less attractive girl in high school with the great personality.

[@boethius9173]

"It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, Than with a brawling woman and in a wide house." Proverbs 25:24 (KJV)

[@johntiggleman4686]

For me, it's "Its better to just go to the basement and listen to my stereo with headphones, than to live with an emasculating alcoholic woman in our house."

[@winstongoodman3244]

Proverbs 25:24 No better way to describe this.👍👍🙏

[@timotahowhitehawk3756]

Even God's Word Agrees with this... Happy Wife Happy Life, is BS. Another way for them to Simp us out. I agree if she is happy with herself, and takes care of her husband, then life will be happy!

[@Eye_of_a_Texan]

Add verse 26 "A just man falling down before the wicked, is as a fountain troubled with the foot, and a corrupted spring." DRB

[@zolamadda5980]

I was two years in a relationship with a feminist and it was the most god awful debasing relationship I ever had. Never felt so unloved. She was a good person but I could not stand being with her, she was so unpleasent. She had constant unfounded animosity towards me. Super conflicted and a hypocrite. Only after ending the relationship I noticed how this new environment we live in was affecting the relationship. Never again.

[@ach2lieber]

Ditto. Same thing happened to me back in the 80s. Die-hard feminist who believed that all men were untrustworthy by virtue of their sex. Never took responsibility for her own bad behavior. Always created drama if things ever went well. We briefly sought couples counseling, and even the therapist had trouble dealing with her. After our breakup, she went on a rampage at work, lashing out at innocent people, including other women.

[@jackdeniston59]

'she was a good person' wtf No.

[@Jack-eDaytona]

Literally just went through this exact situation, almost to the letter. I just ended it recently and see just how toxic she is.

[@joseluismarin5968]

"Feminist" and "good person" are opposite words. All the best.

[@entlim]

What amazes me is, if you knew this...... why did any of you just dump them .. immediately

[@garrydavies7797]

My wife was a violent bully. I put up with it feeling that I would be laughed at if anyone found out that a woman half my size was so awful to me, and thinking that that was what you did as a married man. Divorced 7 years now and I can sleep soundly at night without worry of attack. Bliss.

[@FiggsNeughton]

You deserved better brother!

[@johnkauppi7078]

My marriage was horrible.A feminist woman like my ex,who craves power and control in the relationship set about trying to emasculate me right from the start.But I was aware of this and too macho to go along with her hateful behaviour.Being a farmer,I just stayed at work,mostly 7 days a week to avoid her.Thats why it didnt work for her.She left after 3 years.Good ridance.

[@ROForeverMan]

Why did you marry ?

[@AMNationMedia]

Im sorry bro, you may need to take some accountability on that one. Why did you not background check/flag check her before marriage? Ask questions about relationships and her beliefs. It would have come out. And then on top of that a real man does not run away. He will face the problem head on, and check his wife and work through it to the best of his ability. Sounds like you didnt even try. You essentially put the ball in her court and proved her right.

[@johnkauppi7078]

@@AMNationMediaI was young and in love.And she was quite nice before the wedding,but changed dramaticaly after.I thought feminism was about equality but found out it was about getting on top of men.I always believed the best of people then,that changed.This was in 1994.

[@AMNationMedia]

@@johnkauppi7078 guilty too brother. I empathize with your situation. Now its up to us. Men have allowed it to get this sideways by allowing it to get this far. I have finally grown into my manhood, still growing and learning. Im seeing my wife still playing these games. Hoping she eventually chooses to make a change for herself but she cant do that until she allows someone to hold her accountable. We need to hold firm and set the example through peace, stability, strength, and stoicism. Dont bend to tyrannical dictator temper tantrums. We need to raise young boys and coach the game to them, break the cycle of men being emasculated.

[@ronnie1638]

You should have left a long time ago

[@alex1vid]

3:10 - it's so true. For me it's the complaining, like it never ends. I used to bring flowers. I thought they were nice, it would make her happy to be thought of with something beautiful, and it brightened the room like I thought she did. But I stopped. At first there started to be a complaint about having to trim the stem, or complaining about finding a vase like it was a chore. So then I started to just trim and put it in the vase myself. But then it was the 'wrong' vase. And the final straw and why I stopped was when I brought a bouquet home and they were 'the wrong colors to the theme' she wanted. So I gave up. She'd say she wasn't complaining about me or anything but if you hear too much complaining, then to me it's that someone's not happy and if they're not happy something has to change. It isn't being happy 24/7 of course, but there have to be times where you can just breath...

[@JohnDoe-wy5kh]

Wow, I can relate to this. The complaining drives me up the wall, and that’s usually the first indication she thinks you’re useless

[@rebelsoldier2391]

I've not only experienced emasculation from certain girlfriends but in my early childhood from my older sister. She would constantly throw jabs at my self esteem with slick comments here and there. And now that I'm grown I sometimes get this gaslighting from my mother who sees me as a threat to her authority when we're in the same room. She tries to maintain the same control over me because in her eyes I'm still her little boy, I guess. I've had to assert my own dominance over her at times because she can get emotional. I blame my father for never putting her in check.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@rebelsoldier2391 thank you for sharing your experience. Mothers can be even more emasculating to their sons than wives are to their husbands.

[@rebelsoldier2391]

@thehappywifeschool Despite all that, I love my mother and older sister. I only want to protect them and they've started to accept a level of authority from me because now they realize I know more about the dangers of the world than they do.

[@Plans4YouJer2911]

Not me Learned very slowly what the problem was Now have very strong boundaries and a very high fence as well from my mother My father was lazy mentally and emotionally and just let her do as she pleased He is now dead and gone Don't miss him or his sarcasm She still alive Only seen her twice in about 7 years Don't need the crap anymore

To be fair, though, I don't think any mother _ever_ fully accepts her children as adults. ;-) That obviously doesn't mean you should accept her trying to boss you around, though, just saying... mothers being mothers until the day they die is, on it's own, not anything unusual or necessarily bad either, just as long as healthy boundaries can be maintained.

[@afulay-hy2oy]

you are still her little boy as long as you do not live in your own apartment

[@daycrow8651]

This channel will take time to grow, many women will watch responding with outlash if at all but please keep making content. Older women in successful marriages need to have humility being examples for younger women instead of saying what assuages their feelings. Men will greatly appreciate it showing these vids to their women and have in mind a sliver a good women are still around. thank you so much for acknowledging our feelings amd struggles

[@thehappywifeschool]

I have no shortage of good content to come. I have worked with hundreds of good women in my programs over the last decade who want to grow and evolve as women in relationships with men. They are out there. I appreciate your support.

[@jackdeniston59]

@@thehappywifeschool So what brought redpill to you? What can we do (men) to encourage accounting in women. Absence fails, communication fails, a good Connery slap fails.......

[@ROForeverMan]

As far as I knew, that's exactly the job of the parents: to be examples. But apparently, there are no good parents either.

[@emiliajojo5703]

I disagree.every channel goes through a plateau phase, until it explodes. Just be patient.

[@RealHomeRecording]

If she edits in b-roll stock footage of things like couples holding hands etc that go along with what she is saying along with some music and graphics her channel will grow a lot quicker.

[@bradleymosman8325]

I once was involved in a one-sided conversation with a feminist. She stood facing me, stomped her foot on the floor, and proclaimed that "women don't need men." This genius spoke those words as my wife and one of the daughters I was supporting were listening ( I have three, and a son). That was a huge lost opportunity. Because I could have turned to my wife and child and said, "Hear that? You guys don't need me. ! I'm outta here!" This feminist didn't have a lot of snap. Had I driven away, she'd have stood there with a self-satisfied smirk and watched my family get hungry. Feminism is not a persuasion. It is a personality type. A very weak one.

[@andrewpizzino2514]

All tyrants are weak at heart. That’s why they’re filled with resentment and want to control

[@jeffmuller1489]

..and if you would have left, she would have to provide for the kids or admit that she was wrong, so she'll complain about how you left for the rest of her life with the intent to turn your kids against you.

[@robertlunderwood]

When she said that, you should've thrown her out the house.

[@mztokyo7630]

A complaining, disrespectful woman is self destructive. You are on point. Dr. Laura's advice was correct then, now, and eternity. So sad she was cancelled. No one is perfect. Two things can be true at the same time. Intent and context is everything.

[@LLS710]

I've been cancelled my whole life. Probably you as well. It's no big deal to not be a big deal.

[@MF_DOOMer]

I will never date a Feminist again. It was brutal. I did everything for her. Never raised my voice, tried to hear and apply all her concerns. All that just for her to F my best friend. I ended up with a broken heart, no friend and an eternal distrust for Women, especially the Feminist kind. I find it nigh impossible to trust Women these days. I don't even care about a relationship either. I'm better off alone.

[@edheldude]

You don't "trust them" because you actually betrayed yourself and don't trust your own discernment and competence to have boundaries and self-respect. It is how it is. Look into the mirror - you chose it, you are accountable. You can't heal that breach of trust before you put the blame where it always is: on you.

[@goofywill90]

I dated a poser one who did the same thing. It's funny they were complaining about their brother being a player. Not bitter to be honest but that time really opened my eyes to general/modern female nature.

[@Riceman-o1p]

You are better off alone! Enjoy it! Just give it a little bit of time and you will be super happy. We don't need women to really enjoy our lives. Plus you can buy super high quality silicone rubber torsos that are pretty fun and when you're done you just put them back in a drawer.

[@MoxieOne-msg9]

I read dr Laura's book 'The Proper Care And Feeding Of A Husband' about 15 years ago... And boy did I weep!! It crushed me. That I had been doing everything so wrong and emasculating my husband so much! But guys, I have to say something. I was naive. And a lot of it WASN'T INTENTIONAL! I just didn't Realize! Some I was aware of, but not all. And it took very little to actually change things. For the Better! Time to refresh my heart and mind to the proper care and feeding of My husband! I'll probably cry like crazy again 😳😭 Thank you for your wisdom Karyn!!! ❤ You are helping women, marriages, you are helping Me find my way back to my man. I have forgotten how to care for and love my husband... All the absolute Gold nuggets to learn from in her books .. I'm excited!

[@raze956]

was something in that book that especially surprised you, that you are "feeding" your husband now but were not before?

[@ohdiverdoc]

My question is, "Are women just naturally nasty, or just clueless?" I ask that because I, as a man, know exactly what words come out of my mouth. I also know the tone of those words and I can select my words to be as gentle or firm or hurtful as I want. Do women not know the impact of their words? Are they not able to choose words properly, and so randomly hurt the men they supposedly love? Can they not moderate their thoughts and words? And if women say that they ARE moderating their thoughts and words, then I guess women are truly nasty and horrible through and through.

[@jjalexg82]

Wow, who would have ever thought that a little kindness and human decency would make a man happy. I mean like, who knew??

[@atwntennisclub]

Ive just come across your channel and commenting for the algorithm. Your channel is absolutely a much needed panacea for women these days. You will get a ton of backlash from women. But keep doing what you do as over time, your wisdom based on your experiences will slowly and positively influence the good women out there who are willing to be open to it and listen. Thank you for what you are trying to do. From all Men

[@thehappywifeschool]

"Positively influence the good women out there who are willing to be open to it and listen." - This is my mission. I appreciate your comment and encouragement.

[@dukelps9132]

When women have negative emotions associated with men, starting with their father, it is almost impossible for them not to engage in this type of destructive behavior. Women, and some men, will carry past trauma with them wearing it almost like a badge of honor refusing to let go of the dead weight that is destroying their quality of life

[@robertlunderwood]

This is why we need to not deal with when women who weren't raised with their fathers and don't have a good relationship with their fathers. Women like this don't know how to respect men or how to deal with men.

[@geppertmail]

Very well said

[@XeroFailGames]

Its simple ladies men are usually pretty chill and we will LET YOU run things. Until we feel the need to step in when you are wrong. But you take that portion of the relationship as an attack...you take everything personally. It isnt personal its making sure we both are ok. You take the wrong thing personally and then the dude starts to resent you.

[@deconstructingnarcissism3062]

I let a woman do that and then she said she felt more like the man. So I started becoming more assertive and setting up the dates and the she just went cold on me. They never know what they want.

[@TheDalinkwent]

I remember thinking my ex respected me until we worked on a project together and they made me the leader. She challenged everything I said and did and her demeanor went from friendly and loving to being a rival and insulting everything about me. It made me lose so much attraction to her.

[@nelsonquintero269]

Did you break up with her right after that?

[@TheDalinkwent]

@@nelsonquintero269 No, I was still young and blue-pilled. So I paid the price for it.

[@americandissident9062]

I dated a girl when I was 20. It was my first adult relationship, had only dabbled briefly in dating in high school. The girl was cute enough and because she showed a lot of enthusiasm and happiness in saying yes when I asked her out, I was ALL IN. I’m not trying to brag or anything, but she had nothing going for her, and I had everything going for me. She had a high school diploma and no prospects to go to school or get a job. She lived in a fairly low class situation. I was almost done with nursing school and was on the fence between joining the military or working as a civilian nurse. Either way I’d would have a good living and no issues providing for a partner. I lived in a decent situation, and was soon to improve it more. I already worked and had no debt, so I always had money and my own new car. Basically, she had scored. And instead of helping me build a relationship with her, she tried to destroy and emasculate me and even cheated on me at one point (I didn’t know until after we split). Luckily I dropped her and moved on. Eventually met my wife and we’ve been married 13 years.

[@blackfire5179]

I thank God your voice and message is here. I was in an extremely unhappy marriage with a women who began drinking the feminist koolaid while watching those feminist talk shows in the 90’s and watched her behavior become more and more toxic by the week. Life living with her became so unbearable that I mentally checked out of the marriage and stayed in it physically only long enough for the kids to get older before I finally left her. To this day I regret staying as long as I did that hellhole.

[@dougsmith6262]

"A beer, a sandwich, and a little lovin" is so much more proper than the "Keep his stomach full and his balls empty" saying that I've always heard, 😄.

[@rudolphferdinand3634]

Almost 35 years of marriage come November 5th, 2023. She wasn’t satisfied with me not being an insane person like her, she left 30 days ago , saying I am on a vacation, I will be back some day. Emasculation from the start in our marriage. I soon realized that it was a learned behavior from her childhood- mom did it to dad, so she felt that it is good enough for me to be under her control. I maintain happiness, I wasn’t going to allow her to run me. Thank you, Jesus Christ! The grace of Christ.

[@hotice8885]

I am just now seeing this comment, Rudolph. I HATE that this happened to yet another of my brothers in Jesus Christ! I hope you are diving into the Word more than ever, and that you remember that even the most fiery and painful parts of this are coming to a definite end at some point. Christ promised to wipe away ALL TEARS from our eyes!!

[@sifublack192]

You hit the nail on the head with this one. I dated a far left Feminist last year and her deep seeded hatred toward me caused me to check out a few months before the relationship ended. I stopped doing things for her after I tried to surprise her for her birthday with a concert (her favorite venue) and sushi (her favorite food). She told me she didn't like surprises and was angry that "I assumed she had no plans and no friends to spend time with," yet was sure I would "totally disappoint her on her birthday." 🤦🏿‍♂️ You've gained a new subscriber.

[@brianhoyt3780]

My ex-wife criticized me for most of our marriage. It took my attraction away from her. The reason I know this is because she had lost weight and look better after we got married yet I was not attracted to her due to her constant criticism.

[@barneyboy2008]

I think the problem is that a modern woman can't judge good masculinity from bad.

[@edheldude]

They can but they are just bad faith actors, and want you to have a bad deal because they have next to nothing to offer. If they can crush you, they can feel superior. It's pride and envy - that's why they try to become the men they want. They themselves see women as inferior because of their mother wound.

[@FiggsNeughton]

Yeah that's why they're attracted to prison goofballs.

[@BurgerBoyda3rd]

My last face to face conversation with my ex involved her saying that I'm not masculine. That cut the anchor free for me

[@danilaroche1156]

Oh no she dint!

[@JY601]

“It doesn’t take much for men to be happy in the relationship” true statement but the issue is what does it take for women to be happy in the relationship. That’s the real challenge

[@thehappywifeschool]

@jy601, thank you for your comment. Great point.There is nothing a good man can do to make his wife happy if she is not happy in herself. Good men must know that they are not the source of their wife's unhappiness - she is the source of her unhappiness.

[@logantawhiti55]

You are spot on men don't ask for much all we want is to be happy.😁

[@Livelarge913]

As someone who’s had gf’s, I find female behavior of the last 7-8 years very disturbing.

[@mcc7762]

It is actually more like 30 years. Look at the beginning of the P.C. movement in the 90s.

[@Livelarge913]

@@mcc7762 I just don’t get it. The condescending attitude from xy chromosomes is crazy. Shit is ridiculous I don’t even want a gf, but even chicks younger than me talk down. It’s tiresome

[@mcc7762]

@@Livelarge913 ...Look at how the mother treats her father. It foretells the future with that girl. Only about 10-15% of women out there are even dateable anymore. I understand why many young men no longer want to get married. Even boys in their teens are saying no way these days. Decades of rampant feminism has eroded any hope of finding common ground with most females. Just look for the signs. Like I said, her family will eventually show you the dynamic, but you have to watch them for awhile until they become comfortable with you enough to stop acting, and show how they really interact.

[@danilaroche1156]

It's spiritual. The Bible says it's a spirit that will increase in last days. Enmity between the sexes and dishonor. There are many lovely, respectful, God fearing ladies so don't give up!! 0:12

[@geppertmail]

I agree, well said

[@iancarlin5714]

The way you just lit up when you were explaining all that a man needs, made me just realize how deeply I am hurting right now and how I’m probably not with the right person . Thank you.

[@danilaroche1156]

Your probably not.

[@TheABCD3912]

emasculation is a form of gaslighting, to convince the man that hes not masculine. its really a form of manipulation and not actual destruction. thats something important for all men battling this.

[@marybell2002]

Like manipulation for the woman to get what she wants? I remember hitting it off with a guy at a bar and his female friend was acting jealous. She started insulting him and making fun of his man boobs in front of me, he ran away, she ran after him and he was trying to placate her. The two of them left the bar together and I never saw him again...Emasculation seems to be an effective way to get what you want. Its rare to meet a man confident enough not to reward that behaviour.

[@ocean1305]

And 95% of them won't be able to retire at any age.. who's going to support them then? We're looking at an inevitable collapse of society. It's time to focus on ourselves Men.

[@nickskywalker2568]

This is it. My 4 years girlfriend/ex was constantly complaining and disrespecting me because of her insecurities. She would always put the blame on me, never taking any responsibility. I've said enough two weeks ago and went no contact. I wish she would see your video. Thank you.

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

There were some things that my wife appreciated, small things, i loved that affirmation.

[@bluefig797]

I never realized it until now, this is why I stopped endearing my ex-wife. She was very emasculating and sometimes even in public. I’m a deeply affectionate person, after so much of this, I couldn’t generate those feelings towards her anymore. Yet I really wanted to.

[@Innateworth]

Im a woman that's watched a bunch of your videos. Thank you for creating them! You've given me a lot of material to reflect on. A lot of the comments I've read make me sad - some of the men's wives sounds like mean girls that would bully me in school

[@christys.3912]

As I've said to another group of women in the comments on other videos, I'm saying it again in hopes that Karyn will take notice and do better at acknowledging the women that hear and recieve her messages. She rarely comments to encourage or uplift women on her channel that she says focuses on bettering women... so I'll do it for her. Thank you for listening and taking accountability for the things you need to work on and being better for the men in your life. Keep up the good work!

[@jillhargrave-george4510]

She's not always right..why this blanket condemnation of women..not a US citizen ..plenty of weak 'good' men out there! Sigma female here!

[@HalalFitLife]

God please preserve this woman against all odds!!!!! She's too important to all the men on the planet!!!

[@simoncameron4355]

I pointed out my ex's toxic behavior for the last 6 years of our relationship. It was getting worse day by day. About 2 years ago one of her friends got blackout drunk and started hitting me then passed out. After that happened I pointed to my ex and told her, "This is as much your fault as it is hers" the next day her friend apologized with the caveat "But your mean to her" I calmly explained that I cook, clean, pay all the bills, and generally do anything I can to make her happy. I also told her that if she feels that way I can no longer drink with her, as I knew it would just happen again. After we got home I spent 2 weeks sleeping in separate rooms. We had a long talk, but nothing changed, a year and a half and another incident and I call it quits.

[@sreach93]

Thank you for exposing Toxic Femininity and emasculation. Probably one of the key factors in relationship breakups and divorce which isn't widely talked about.

[@Orecatmeatprocessors]

I love your videos. I like to comment because I believe I had one of the worst wives ever created. Because of my religion I stuck it out and supported my kids. I paid for everything and supported her. She just got worse and worse. Hated me more and more. I tripled my income which was a lot of money her comment was: "It is still not enough" I remember her running around in her gold shoes and fancy clothes. Thank God when my youngest was in his last year of high school she ran off with some guy. Of course she turned my 5 kids away from me. I did not realize a women could be like that to someone that provided for her selfish ways For over 30 years. How can a women hate so much! I'm ok I moved on to a better life!I I am a little scared. I will not co- mingle my funds. Nobody will ever write checks or withdraw funds from my accounts ever again. I basically do what I want and will never tolerate that kind of behavior again. I expect my wife to be a wife and be accountable and show love and respect! Us guys finally realize we don't need them. You girls keep up your selfish and destructive ways we have moved on and could care less where you go or what you do or want! We guys are through!

[@rickallmightyjones6189]

Feeling even a small amount of appreciation goes for miles! The constant feeling that your effort is not good enough will make me stop trying altogether. Why try? And then love becomes motionless. Just give me a real hug and kiss and let me know I matter.

[@markh4926]

I met a girl, the meeting was great and we laughed and talked a lot. Then she began to try to tear me down so that if I wanted access, I don't mean sexual, then I'd have to bow down to her demanding ways. I told her to go away.

[@DummyFace123]

I think the root of it all is people seeking ego fulfillment instead of love. And thats not just women thats everybody. When people are no longer dedicated to love but more focused on protecting and satisfying their own egos

[@danilaroche1156]

Well said. Jesus..help!!!

[@petersonpierre107]

In the garden of Eden after the fall, Adam’s consequence for disobeying was that he would have to work by the sweat of his brow. Eve had 2 consequences: painful childbirth (every woman knows that) AND (this is the one everyone glosses over) “Your desire will be to control your husband.” And so it has been for millennia…

[@amandaparrish9128]

So glad that someone pointed this out . This is definitely a constant struggle for women.

[@snowplow7883]

Men need respect, loyalty, and love is secondary… we may have simple needs but we are not simple creatures

[@Xinkgs]

😮 Wow a never thought I would hear this from a woman

[@jeffreyjackson5229]

You are reinforcing one of many reasons why I have gone no contact with my mother: the potential for emasculation. When you spoke of feminine toxicity, you are absolutely correct. She is one such woman, and, ironically, my brother and I discussed this same issue a few years ago. As I put it, "some women want to emasculate their men and their men-children." Of course, there are other issues regarding my family, which can be summarized by the term "dysfunctional"; however, I was blessed to get away from it, now have a better life, and am determined to protect it. Thank you for your insight and blessings to you and your family.

[@gtpcruiser02]

Looking back now as a young man my nature was kind easy going and compromising. I wasnt competitive or combative and that was seen as weak and a pushover that at the time I was blind to. I tolerated BS from wife, family and friends and would eventually walk away and be done with them one by one to their shock and surprise. I couldn't understand at the time woman arent sexuality attracted to nice guys though I was handsome, tall, lean well endowed. If I could do it all over again I would have been a selfish bastard and would of gained much more love and respect.

[@LLS710]

and potange, can't forget how much more of that you could get or if you are faithful how much more satisfying the sex would have been for you. and her.

[@franciscogomez2565]

24 here… your comment means the world. I will heed ur advice 😁

[@hotice8885]

Would you have had inner peace, contentment, joy and integrity if you had made yourself to be a "selfish bastard?"

[@Charlie-hd8nr]

Try not to lower yourself to her level

[@scotttracy9333]

Don't lose yourself or your frame just to get some tail. Work on yourself and they'll be throwing themselves at you. That's the advice I would give myself

[@plusfour1]

Thanks for posting. I notice that most of the commentors here are men who have obviously been hurt. I have been separated for 13 years and officially divorced for 7 years. Now, I'm not even looking for another relationship because I think that I was damaged by my marriage of 20 years. I am attracted to women so that is not the issue. I am wary of any woman who I meet because I fear that they are looking for a man who they can control and dominate. I am strong and independent and would conflict with a mothering or domineering type. I think that most people are perfectly capable of managing their own lives. Why do so many seem to think that they need to be the boss in a relationship?

[@iamcedricpowell8051]

Girrrl you better preach!!!! Nailed it

[@A_Well_Traveled_Man]

She is so right when she said all a man really needs is a beer a sandwich and a little loving..🎉🎉🎉 Lord knows that's all I want...😅

[@ROForeverMan]

But apparently whimin need PhDs to understand this kindergarten knowledge.

[@A_Well_Traveled_Man]

@@ROForeverMan ain't that the truth!!!

[@RationalNon-conformist]

And you could still give them all this and more and they withhold intimacy, etc. Narcissists exist.

[@sirg-had8821]

I've been on the receiving end of two domineering narcissists. I was the codependent sap that allowed it, so that's on me. Knowing what I know now, I'm standing up for myself one time on the first offense. She's going back to the street on the second offense.

[@J_S209]

Good on you, been there with two wives who drained the life out of me and everyone! We blame ourselves but men often come into relationships with good intentions only to find they are stuck with women with agendas or lazy women who feel entitled to take and lie.

[@butfirstcoffee1648]

Women are here guys reading your comments too😂 Somehow I just realized by this video that man should not be the source of the happiness. I think it’s a key misconception of women thinking exact opposite of. They hope and desire that men will bring them happiness and when they don’t they are really disappointed and reactive and understand that as a significant lack of love from their partner. It makes them controlling for they still feel that they deserve that happiness they don’t get. That’s how I understand the marriage issue.

[@quasidoc7726]

Unfortunately I see very little female responses - Like another response, I hope they (females) begin to listen to women like you. It is very clear there is an imbalance between men and women and while Id never want females to go back to or feel enslaved, I think if both sides take what we have learned from the past 20 years, marriages could be better than before. But I also think we are 20+ years from getting back to that type of society.

[@danilaroche1156]

I'm a woman who never wants to emasculate a man. I used to. Why? I witnessed my mom do this to my dad for 40 years.

[@Nnmtes]

I didn't realise how MUCH i was missing out on in my marriage. Not having sex and never being wanted was a huge part of it, but i didn't get the beer, the sandwich, or any kind of loving. It was always on her terms. I was so lonely. I'm divorced and on my own now for four years, and I'm much less lonely. I'm glad i decided to end my misery. Life is just too short to live that way

[@ChrisKadaver]

Amen! ❤ This is interesting. Even though you're probably 20 years older from what I normally felt attracted to before I lost my mojo and went mgtow. Even though... I do find you attractive. That simple mindset of yours that actually want me to be a good man. It's so true. It's all that it takes. Not more complicated than that. It's like you just made my hard wired age preference obsolete in a few seconds. Lol!

[@WillBrooks-h9d]

Good! Doctor! You make everything better!🎈

[@ShamusMcShane]

It’s not in my nature to allow myself to be emasculated.. but the constant power struggling with my ex wife was exhausting .. which is why I divorced her

[@loverofgolf]

Karyn you are a unicorn. No wife is ever going to see the light.

[@kendrom]

Great advice. If there are any men watching this, be sure to set your boundaries on this matter. A good woman will listen and be reasonable. Don't let yourself be emasculated. If you do, that's your fault, not hers. Find a new woman.

[@sammy2840]

You should study corporate America! You have a message that can liberate business in this country!

[@tonya5468]

If you are with a miserable woman, you have to accept that you cannot make her happy and then decide what it makes sense to do. There are a lot of deeply unhappy and confused women. If your wife or girlfriend is one of those women, it is best to make a realistic decision about what you are willing to live with and how much you are willing to compromise your own happiness and well-being.

[@_..____]

It takes courage to say this. Thank you for your support and taking the time to provide these amazing presentations.

[@PeterShieldsukcatstripey]

That makes a lot of sense. Brave lady to recognise this as ive noticed for a long time that women struggle to recognise their own limitations and also struggle to satarise themselves, whilst men are much better at this and have had a lot more practice. Also, I've noticed that in our culture women are the only ones able to make these observations openly as they have the benefit of being recognised as the elite gender and so can talk openly for the benefit of women and men.

[@MGWGuitars]

Please keep this channel going! It's so long overdue and you are doing God's work! Now if only the modern church would have the guts to confront women on their sin like they do the men EVERY week! (And don't get me started on Mother's Day vs Father's Day sermons)

[@affinityfunable]

Man I feel this. It's like I love my wife but I'm left feeling super broken Everytime she undermines my decisions and efforts to provide and protect. I have no idea where to go and what to do except live in another house and have very very limited contact with her

[@TwanBankz]

cheat on her , sneak another girl over while shes home. assert ur dominance 😹 thats what i did (im not married)

[@michaelsawyer158]

Thank you for this video. I subscribed to your channel. I agree with what you're saying.

[@DrEmilioPastor]

Realmente extraordinario todo su material. Esta mujer describe perfectamente todo en forma directa.

[@sadrablue]

I think it takes training to subdue our egos in order to support men. Even non feminists can be controlling bc of the detail oriented operations management style they must have as mothers. Work encourages this and then women have to switch to a new role which is harder. My aunt from the old south used to say make it his idea and do what he does. She’d be over 100 and no feminist. It takes upbringing to know how to dance the dance.

[@amandaparrish9128]

Very well said. It is enough to know what the problem is, it takes guidance to know how to change.

[@alanlurie8675]

The person that needs to hear, listen and understand this would never listen for more than 5 minutes. She would then dismiss everything you try to teach and accept no responsibility for the outcome she has created.

[@rustynails68]

I watched my father being emasculated. My son watched me being emasculated. I hope he can break the cycle. Unfortunately, he cannot benefit from any of my experience because I am very tiny.

[@uprightmovement]

#FACTS. Also, Women/Mother’s and Parents can help with the Toxic Dilemma regardless of being a Woman or Man.

[@MVProfits]

3:56 on onward is so spot on. And simple! Yet somehow so rare. It seems to me once a man is committed, which yes, can take a while, he looks for the good in her. While on the flip side, the woman now gets doubts and seems to focus on all the faults of her man. I don't think 99% of women "bait and switch" men. They simply become negative focused.

[@floyddavis7221]

I think of myself as being a good male. As a child, I found pleasure in being male. I reasoned that she did the same and found joy in being female. The gift of friendship was to create memories that were a joy to recall. The sharing of sexual pleasure was reserved for marriage. The creation of the most intimate joyful memories. It was a surprise to find that she was enslaved by body shaming. How could her husband find pleasure in what she is ashamed of? She teaches her husband what she knows. The first one who gets to NO, wins. She is no longer naked with her husband and his nudity is mocked as indecent. He loves her, in sickness and in health. He married his best friend.

[@raversfantasy8873]

Kinda weird, even i gotta say

[@shrimpman8422]

Brilliant as always

[@investorbro21]

Thank you for this video, i wish my ex would watch this. I feel horrible and suffer from deep anxiety and yes i loved her and didnt wana leave. I took the abuse thinking she would change. I left her but its clear i am not emotionally available for the next so i choose not to date right now until i heal from this.

[@gsxrfem5180]

I 100% agree with the underlying message. I hope that 100% of the "problem" is not being placed on women. Neither men or women are being raised correctly in current culture, or very few. So when a man or a woman stands up and goes against the grain to correct culter and to be the change; it is so much harder than it should be. Your channel will bless so many men and woman, Thank you.

[@thehappywifeschool]

@gsxrfem5180 thank you for your thoughtful and kind comment. I appreciate your support.

[@RationalNon-conformist]

Agreed. It seems to me that it’s extreme and all blame is in fact being placed on the woman, she is lacking empathy and fairness in these instances.

[@interestingtimes6242]

@@RationalNon-conformist this is a woman showing you what accountability looks like. Yes, it looks like someone taking 100% of the blame on themselves. A good marriage takes 2 people, both taking 100% of the accountability on themselves. It falls apart when either party, the man or the woman, starts keeping score. Keeping score is what fighting children do. It’s not what mature adults do. That devolves into fighting and bickering and will kill a marriage. To take accountability, as a man or as a woman, you have to recognize this childish tendency in yourself, and not allow yourself to participate in it. That is what maturity looks like.

[@leovolont]

Thank you. I was once married. I got married coming home from a Foreign Tour in the Army. I owned next to nothing, so while visiting my Oldest Brother in the Big City, I stopped in a store and bought a Pitching Wedge Gold Club and a few golf balls to knock around the park. My new Bride read me the Riot Act, that I was a MARRIED MAN now and had to ask her permission for everything for now on. She was really mean. This was in front of my best friend. She didn't even wait to be alone with me. So I thought, WHAT THE HELL DID I DO... I JUST MARRIED THE WORST BITCH IN THE WORLD. Then some time later I was in a good mood and I came home and I said, "How was your day Sweetheart", and she told me that her name was... let's say Barbara because I don't want to use that bitches name, but she said "DON'T CALL ME THAT... I'M NOT YOUR SWEETHEART. We had a daughter and I loved my daughter, but from that moment on I really gave up on my Wife. I would be polite, but I no longer felt any sexual attraction towards her. I would have, if we would ever do something like having a romantic date, but her idea was more like coming up to me while I'd be watching a favorite TV show and say "Do you want to have Sex", and it'd just piss me off... is that the best she could do in regards to trying to Seduce Me. Eventually I went off to get a job and settle in a New City and when I sent her enough money for her and the Baby to follow, she decided the Air Fare was worth our Marriage, and she called and asked if I'd like to Separate, and I said, NO, I was finally just completely tired of her shit. But, yes, I've come to believe that practically ALL Women are like that. They will SAY words that Can Never Be Taken Back. In a Real World, without the Artificiality of Marriage, men should be able to just boot such HORRIBLE women out of the house, and let them live on the street, to earn their way as whores, so that they may live as Object Lessons to all other Women, that nobody appreciates a BITCH. But, yes, God Bless You... As the KZbin Messiah, I hope your Message is spread far and wide. Thanks Again... God Bless You.

[@johnbolongo9978]

This woman is spot on.

[@sevecheverria3592]

So true no real man will require financial support from his wife. We are go getters and all we ask for in return is a loving affectionate wife who is respectful and make feel manly.

[@ojonasar]

It’s sad but I got taught, by a girl I was friends with at the time, just how nasty and self centred girls could be and I was done with them. That was around the age of 7 - I’m 55 now.

[@danilaroche1156]

Your a bitter cynic. You want to be alone all your life?

[@Dan-r4z8y]

SPOT ON! Couldn’t agree more, Beer, Sandwich and a little loving! Less nagging, show respect and appreciation go a long way. Give affection get affection back.

[@rayellejohnson9961]

The trick to not being in a toxic femininity is healing and staying in relationships in which we aren’t receiving the things we need from a partner

[@johnepavek]

A beer, a sandwich, some good lovin’ and knowing the most important person in my world is happy. I’m pretty easy to please.

[@ROForeverMan]

But apparently whimin need PhDs to understand this kindergarten knowledge.

[@RationalNon-conformist]

Oh, if this were true, life would be so easy.

[@CyrusFreeman]

@@ROForeverManI have noticed that the most oblivious and misguided people in the world are frequently very well educated. There is, however, a huge difference between knowledge and wisdom, and modern education is a void of wisdom.

[@jeffmuller1489]

I divorced a narcissist and got remarried to my wonderful, loving, supportive wife, but I think the emasculation from thr first marriage is still affecting me to the point of conflict in the present under certain circumstances. We're both the products of abuse throughout out lives, and things are more difficult than we expected they would be. We love each other dearly, so the conflict is heartbreaking. Thank you for this channel. Im still trying to heal so i can help us both be happy. ❤

[@danilaroche1156]

You need to FORGIVE. There's a reason Jesus admonished us to do so. If we don't it affects the rest of our lives.

[@jeffmuller1489]

@@danilaroche1156 thank you. Forgiveness is key, and I believe I have done so. Narcissistic abuse has long lasting effects that don't just disappear. There's a lot of regret and frustration and anger that has a lot to do with my own choices and naivety.

[@danilaroche1156]

I was married to a violent, cheating, psychotic narc. It took a while to heal. My relationship with the Lord Jesus helped. Thanks for replying!

[@CDdelaRionda]

My definitions... toxic-masculinity and toxic femininity are similar in that they both are forms of self-entitled aggression based on different gender social norms that are exaggerated to the point of abuse to exert dominance while diminishing the other. Can be physical or emotional abuse that is believed by the abuser to be within the norm of societal gender expectations, but is an excuse for bad behavior to disrespect or harm others.

[@goforitrazz]

Maybe I’m off topic but I have seen men just expect a women to look after their every little need,get off your ass and peel some potatoes,but that’s not so easy when you,re yelled at doing everything wrong,My second marriage was much better ,I also received some good advice from her.She was good at getting along,we helped each other.Which she was still here.

[@dbconstruction7892]

4:10-4:33 The definition of a good marriage.

[@Donjasoni]

Great points!

[@tbilod]

People try to rate their relationships by love. But love is nebulous and it can't be measured. But the many expressions of RESPECT can be measured. They show you no respect? They downplay your judgement? They have no time for you? You are being disrespected, and there is no love between you. Leave them for someone better.

[@davecatton8773]

HOORAY !!! the penny has dropped !! thank you x

[@lorengordon9626]

Women are natural manipulators but when they misuse it they create a chasm between them and thier man. Then yelling at and blaming him for thier mistakes and not admitting them is the fastest way to turn him into your worst enemy. A gentle and peaceful spirit in a woman will empower a man to be more than just muscle and brawn. We as men are compassionate but when we get stepped on enough we draw the line

[@teddyduchamp832]

I was super attracted to a woman and so I put up with some of her bs. As a result, she said she didn’t feel safe around me. WTF! I walk places many don’t. I’ve stood up to people most would run from. But since I don’t pass the stupid little test she thought I couldn’t protect her. Well, passing that stupid little test is not the same thing as standing up against genuine threat.

[@bkthree1409]

Same bro. And good riddance.

[@SW-vc5re]

Ladies, it's as simple at even the beginning stages or until death do you part!

[@henrikstenlund5385]

Thanks for saying the truth

[@leistico]

“Happy wife, happy life.” That saying has been so co-opted and distorted by so many feminist types nowadays that it has acquired an often-unspoken third phrase: “Happy wife, happy life…pick one.”

[@hamvocals]

My ex-wife is a toxic feminist and narcissist. She refuses to believe that she could do or be anything negative; everything was my fault. I wish she had seen this and actually LEARNED. Perhaps then, she would've kept her husband and daughter.

[@Globeguy1337]

I don’t really like the sun/earth analogy, but the point is mostly good, and if you have to look at it that way to function properly I guess it works.

[@rexbennett7414]

If you base a solution on a man's experience or desires, then all the ladies are seeing narcissism or chauvinism. If you base a solution on a woman's experience or desires then the men are going to see narcissism and feminist Kali worship. What is missing from these approaches? Simply a higher power to look to for guidance. God has written the answers on your heart. Not one of us doesn't know when someone wrongs us or when we have wronged someone. Period! Through not having the appropriate relationship with God. Loving your creator above yourself. We make unlimited excuses for the way others treat us and the way we treat others. Without the blueprint, the process is flawed. Yes it may be better than it could or would have been. But by no means will it be as good as it should without putting God before both parties. Just by two cents....