What is So Special About ShxtsNGigs? | Lovers and Friends Ep. 97

James and Fuhad, the dynamic duo behind the top 5 Spotify podcast, ShxtsNGigs, stop by to talk about dominating the sex/ relationship podcast game and how their show has transformed their own sex lives. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes, these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships.
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[@Immis_snow_globe]

The crossover i never expected

[@co-signstangents8074]

Right!!

[@onikavanda4593]

Brooo🫡

[@MaiGoodLife]

But needed!!!

[@lialivingpurposely]

Innit!!!! I thought she was gonna have something to say about them instead 😅

[@aura5944]

But needed 🩶

[@trix4092]

these crossovers are getting insane, SnG collabing with everyone I love

[@PrinceInawRakah]

This ain’t really a crossover tho.. a crossover is her having a guy or girl with an opposing opinion on the show.. challenging each others views and seeing who has the most evidence to support their philosophies.

[@nebojsavelickovic5388]

​@@PrinceInawRakahnah, a crossover is when something from somewhere goes somewhere else as a guest

[@YesIlikebananasSo]

@@PrinceInawRakah that is a potential occurrence on a crossover, not the crossover itself.

[@NieshX]

I love how James doesn’t interject when Fuad speaks, vice versa. The duo is amazing and you can see James LOVESSS Fuhad, that stare says it all and I love men being able to love their male friends without it being judged or sexualized.

[@emnwl]

Ngl, I screameeeed and wobbled my feet when I saw the thumbnail, and I am a 29 year old manly man male 😂 This got me feeling like when my favorite Nickelodeon shows did a crossover back in the dayss hahah

[@msmisunderstood4348]

That Is a great 😂spot on comparison

[@jasmineizhar9023]

Hearing James and Fuhad speak so eloquently about such a hard to approach topic was great. I've watched their show for years and to see them verbalise their growth as men and sexual beings is such a great thing. The safe space that Shan provided them to discuss these things and their willingness to participate without hesitation speaks volumes about Shan and her energy. Great episode!

[@anastasimankesemokgobu1724]

James and Fuhad have had us subscribing to unknown podcasts over the past three weeks. We are literally on a tour with them ❤

[@mahuka2006]

Hahaha! Hilarious but true!!

[@vivianzivulu]

So so true!!

[@fabersoul]

fuhad is such a naturally funny guy. love him for it. just the way he says stuff it hilarious . natural comic

[@MsTravelchanel]

My boys are looking so good in this lighting and camera work. But i really appreciate Shan aiming to have a more grounded conversation with them is so appreciated. This is most I’ve felt connected with them on this podcast tour.

[@Flygirl19]

James is gonna be fine when he goes gray because the way the light hits it’s making him look salt and pepper and I’m loving every piece of it lol

[@Jude266]

I thought I was the only one who noticed it 🔥

[@animecrazed101]

I was thinking the same thing.

[@TheeTage]

I had to do a double take. This was not on my bingo card this year but great to see this happening.😊

[@salimarsmith]

I want to take a moment to thank the Sun for shining the way it did on the day this was filmed. It really showed us that Fuhad is serious about his skin (and we are here for it) and it gave us all a glimpse of what James will look like when his beard starts to go gray....Daddy (in James's voice). All jokes aside, AMAZING episode!! I love James and Fuhad❤

[@EhabAboud]

there's so much to unpack but can we quickly appreciate how sensational those fades are?? Bravo kings

[@00jomo]

Aye they are CRISP lol. It’s the same thing I was thinking, “Damn these UK dudes got some BARBERS!” Lol

[@Daniiduhh]

Daddy’s chocolate skin is glistening and the cut is sharp 😮‍💨😮‍💨😻

[@newgirl3660]

James and Fuhad are terrific. I like how humble they are. I feel grateful because we wouldn’t get this episode or have the S&G podcast if James didn’t persist for 6 months begging Fuhad to join him in starting the podcast. I appreciated the questions discussed during this episode because they helped me acknowledge personal issues I didn’t even realize existed. The advice she gave the female colleagues having issues at the end of this episode is the basis of nonviolent communication introduced by Marshall Rosenberg which involves expressing our feelings and needs. He said (and I’m paraphrasing here) the main reason we communicate with anyone can be summarized to “please meet my need” or “thank you for meeting my need” and we often go about expressing ourselves in ways that are less likely to get our needs met. He said solutions will come about naturally when all sides can hear the needs of others without hearing judgment and can successfully restate what they heard. He has a video on KZbin from one of his workshops where he discussed how this concept can be used in resolving conflicts and the example he used that resonated with me was that of the married couple whose conflict was around finances. It was a great example showing how we can mistakenly use judgment instead of expressing what is alive within us aka our unmet need.

[@dararegina99]

I didn’t see this coming !!! Perfect peering . James and Fuhad are not afraid of talking about intimacy

[@danielafurtado5095]

Non-violent communication changed my life!

[@glocoabydes4498]

Shxts n Gigs doing an American tour and I’m HERE for it. Love these men!!! 🙌🏾

[@thejones222]

I loved this episode. It’s cool to see James & Fuhad slightly more serious but still light, authentic and playful. I love their platform. I watch everything they put out weekly. This was a treat

[@whatsupwithit782]

The way Fuhad is ✨glowing✨ 🤧

[@drumchik09]

They came to America and hitting all the podcasts! Lol

[@oreobabe1020]

james trying to keep his composure is so funny to me lol i’m happy for them

[@luckyarchery]

I love Shxts N Gigs, I've been following them from basically the beginning and really happy for their growth. Excited to listen to this convo!

[@indiasurgeon1487]

I love these two! Bromance at its finest! Best friends! Laughing partners! I love it! I have so many crazy stories I want to go back to the beginning and submit answers to their prompts lol

[@keelyandere4956]

Fuhad is so handsome 😢❤

[@BelanceM]

What's funny to me is,i think people keep thinking they are a specific pod. But I genuinely think it's two dudes talking. Just chatting. And that's why they themselves struggle with answering because it isn't that deep for them either. Which I think is all the more amazing. They're popular because they are regular men that's not trying to put on a show. I didn't even thick they were well known until I'm now seeing all of these shows they are guests on. I can agree with them probably getting more popular because they came up during a time there was a war. And I guess they really was like Switzerland. They just never really spoke about it. Aba and preach was similar but was kinda taunted in because of the type of content they post (reactions) they're actively sharing wisdom. These guysste just silly close dudes. James is a little extra and pushes to see fuhads reaction. And fuhad does the same knowing James is always like brudaaaaa. What is great is that they often include their crew. I like that, brilliant idiots does it. Whorible decisions use to do it. ;changing the subject: I miss enjoy the pod I wonder where they would be now they were similar to these guys. Litterally just being dudes talking. Except I do feel like enjoy moved with intent and then slowly turned into a pod that reacted to pop culture but that was at the very end. But reaching out to fans and including them aswell.... mannnn that was new amd something special. It was very much radio. It would make for great filler.youve even added some to your show

[@bellastar1299]

Thank you for saying this because this is exactly what I feel. I don’t think they’re deep or analytical and that’s what makes them so great to watch! I love them crossing over but, I don’t want them to try to be all serious because then ego comes in! They have a naturalness to them we don’t see in men lately. Truly!

[@Darkhorse_Dawidi]

No one is talking about how she smoothly introduced the babble ad!!!! First time I don’t skip an ad on KZbin

[@queeenmidas]

so smooth! i didn’t even realize i was being sold til it was too late lol

[@jairmorales2017]

James and Fuhad tour of America really was diverse 😂

[@stephpowell7648]

Fuhad really shone in this episode. Love his responses. Also the base in his voice goes straight down south. I almost have to cross my legs lol

[@Mimi-uh5gr]

Mam....that's too much ew

[@christinewhack8860]

Shan, you've mastered weaving ads into your podcast. Enjoyed it all. 🌻

[@ignoreme1269]

That Babbel ad was well introduced 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@gettin2knome828]

Do you know I'd she said her husband has been living in Puetro Rico for almost 2 years? I'm still learning Spanish lol she said it fast

[@erikapierre9603]

This was such a great interview! I love the vulnerability of these two men & how they’re open to learning and having fun. Might have to go find me a Brit 😂

[@Makeupnista]

Loving the serious tone from mandem. Definitely great coming from the licensed/certified perspective. So darn good

[@thedarkam3thyst]

35:30 Yess the “witch hunt” for “narcissist” is so absolutely frustrating. I would love to hear an expert (psychologist/therapist, etc.) on the topic because I’m sick of hearing that word and the misdiagnosis as if everyone has suddenly become an expert on narcissism. 😭 This was a great episode. It was nice to hear them outside of their podcast.

[@roxywyndham]

They making the roundssssss 😂

[@justtece]

Right!!! 😂 I’ve seen them all over my recommend page.

[@copiouscat]

Tha mandem are on TOUR!! 😩🤣🤤the YT Zaddies are campaigning yeh!!! 🤩🥳😍 the should stay on this side of the pond for a bit

[@BOO4EVA]

I felt she kept reverting back to to them being a relationship/sex podcast when they explained thats not category or the intent of what the podcast is lol..but nice collab regardless

[@devjohnson5039]

It makes more sense if you consider the fact that that the focus of her podcast. I don’t think she’d invite guests to her show to carry it out in the way they would on their platform. She focused on their commonality

[@RealReactionNation]

37:00 the light hitting James actually looks pretty good with grey beard… maybe half grey/black just like the reflection lol 😂

[@take2tayt2t73]

The boys are looking HANDSOME you hear me!? The camera quality and lighting on them 😍

[@laurboo16]

Damnnn. That transition into the first ad about babble had me shooketh. Woww girl you did that! What a flawless transition dude

[@Passion84GodAlways]

KevOnStage introduced me to SnG with that crossover and now they're with Shan Boodram?! 🤩 These crossovers are unexpected but SOOO APPRECIATED! 😃👏🏾👏🏾

[@luluthePoet]

I love this and the level of emotional and social inellegent from them is amazing love it

[@jennyjenny105]

James looks IN LOVE 😂😅

[@CookItUpKay]

I love the advice you gave at the end of the podcast! It’s obviously easier said than done, although it’s much easier when you have a long standing friendship/relationship. I think overtime they will find a way to mend what has been broken and grow to understand eachother more effectively. I can use this advice in my own life. Thank you ❤

[@ExodusThePup]

I love watching the boys just vibe…they have me in tears…also love hearing the male perspective

[@jyu3193]

I've been watching these two through their channel and others, and have always really really liked them. After this video, now I LOVE them. So grateful to see two men be so honest, authentic, humble, and empathetic. No wonder majority of their listeners are women. They deserve all the 😼they're getting (going to get) 😂

[@littleloverableri]

This was so enjoyable for me, Shan. Love you and the guys and I’m glad you decided to give your opinion on the ending of Know For Sure.

[@Alycat25100]

If they didn’t manscape the company would stop supporting them😂💀

[@janinepolanco319]

Mann I love you Shan. Thank you for highlighting The Know For Sure podcast! That was heartbreaking but we knew it coming just not this soon. It were such a great duo with great contents I wish them the best.

[@JanelleBearden246]

This episode was a delight! Well done, as always Shan!!!

[@sarahmathieu6122]

Shan, I’m so grateful for you. This space that you’ve created is essentially…for me. From the interview with shxts & gigs, your struggle French (I can’t believe that’s what you chose to say 🫢😂); I’m Canadian living is the states too. To the commentary on TKFS pod… I’m thoroughly entertained and educated. Thank you. Also, I’m a former those girls are wild fan..fave video was accents during Carribana 😂

[@shanboody]

I love you hello and sadly Hail Mary, O' Canada and Three Little Pigs are the only French things I remember lol - so it's unfortunately the best of the 3

[@sarahmathieu6122]

@@shanboody 🫶🏾 for me it’s the Our Father and the national anthem 😂

[@ailynnmckae1130]

I remember you saying you enjoyed their podcast a few episodes ago, so cool to see them on the show!!

[@Dori_TheRealtor]

Yessss the Daddies are making their mark and hitting all the best pods ❤️🤗. Proud cult baby right here

[@Bthalight]

Love this crossover❤ also I've never thought fuhad or James was ashy but fuhad is moisturized and baked to perfection on this one🫶🏾 legs are chocolatey

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

"Baked to perfection"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@shaneadockery8508]

Very much so!!

[@BE19LL95A]

SHAAAAAN my heart exploded yesterday seeing that collab preview on Instagram! I follow you for yeeears and them as well. This is just 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@AnnaMarieDeeTV]

So happy to see this crossover! ❤

[@KaeRoque]

Girl that first ad was so smooth🤣🤣🤣 you’re a genius

[@Taewills]

Wow Shan! You bringing up that blog… Memory Unlocked! Time has really flown - it’s been so inspiring to watch you evolve as I do too. I may not always agree with you but I love your openness/ willingness to talk it out! 😍😍😍

[@kandyedwards1376]

I do enjoy these guys, everything with them I'm in. Plus they were just on 1of my favorites, HTH!!! All y'all keep being great

[@TinkOutLoud]

9:44 The transition/Segway into the ad is flawless!!!!

[@fxxlv]

FUHAD AND JAMES IN L.A I’m here for it

[@kayL0608]

BEEN WAAAAAATING FOR THIS ❤❤❤GANG GANG GANG!!! Thank you for this

[@alexatoribio]

Im ngl, when I saw your story I was confused but I’m so glad this is happening!!! Ily both

[@siliziwex44]

I’m locked in , subscriber of both 😭🤣😍 it’s going to be beautiful and wild

[@adaaleide]

thank you for this shan! never heard of their podcast previously but i have a feeling it’ll be a new favourite of mine!

[@franchescasebastiao6772]

Omg 😲 omg in my Janice from friends voice! I am sooooo excited for this collaboration 😍 doing backflips loooool x

[@moyjuju6022]

this is fun and you can see they are taking notes in there head😂

[@izzye7307]

The part where you explained how you would have gone over gripes jury style was amazing! I will keep that in mind in case I ever need that in the future. And yes, Fuhad and James are awesome lol

[@lovereena86]

I loved this interview. I laughed, I got excited, I was educated, and I received some homework. Thank you for this entrée because it was savory ❤

[@FloridaTesfay]

Two of my favourite podcasts are together, this is great ❤

[@darklawyergirl7]

Yay! I’m glad to see my faves on Shan‘s podcast. Seriously talking for once- I enjoyed learning something new about them.

[@ohkhay]

Loved this crossover and I would’ve LOVED to see Know For Sure on here as well. I didn’t know what you shared was why they ended. Sad to see

[@LindaTinahTV]

I could have watched this go on and go. This combo is what we needed.

[@ashabell2089]

Love them ❤ the crossover of the year 😂❤

[@floydbailey4771]

Been WAITINGGGGG on this they mentioned they collaborated with you and I’ve checked ya page for the past two week!!! 🙏🏽

[@nikauryroman22]

This feels like my worlds colliding. Im so happy about this episode!!

[@cdubb_]

oh they're definitely coming to the States next year for a tour; it's already in the works...they said it on KevOnStage's podcast. And I will absolutely be in attendance. Love them.

[@jennifertaylor-wright7694]

THIS CROSSOVER IS LIFEEEEEE ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@kechynara]

I had to blink twice when scrolling through youtube! My faves!! 😭 about to tuck in and I know this is gonna be so yummy!! 🤤

[@akua6046]

My two favourite podcasters of all time omg I’m so excited

[@afeleymaduro9765]

The crossover I never knew I needed but now I cant live without!

[@sofiajimenez8359]

Ugh I love seeing you with other of my favorites! ❤🖤💙

[@pamelashehu]

Love that you had them on your show and were able to ask deeper questions! Different from any other collabs I’ve seen with them

[@najabeach1374]

my two favorite podcasts!!!

[@petrineberthelsen735]

This is my favourite Collab ♥love your personality!

[@ashtameria7341]

Yay was waiting for this, perfect topic for them too!

[@Kay-xq7rm]

a crossover I never knew I needed! Great interview !

[@thatbollywoodwench3837]

Loved shan since 2010 and these boys are my weekly light. Thanks for this

[@mickiprincerizzo8394]

quite the breath of fresh air these two men are. 💜

[@inesgomes7649]

Wow I just watched these guys yesterday and would have NEVER thought of this collab 😂

[@AndSarahAppeared]

Shitz n Gigs with Shannon is pure Gold 🎉🎉🎉

[@pmccray551]

SNG CULT BABY .... guys, l watched all the stateside interviews and all have been magnificent 💜💜💜 But this episode really showed the main ingredient of your podcast. Your willingness to share how men deal with vulnerability in a society that disapprove of men who do. Congrats!!

[@kanyinsolakuye8510]

Fuhad and especially James was trying not to laugh during the conversation lol

[@deonrhodes8588]

Love this crossover

[@TheOnlyTaps]

Fantastic watch 👊🏿

[@beloncekamz2821]

Yhoo! This is the collabo🔥🔥 I didn't see coming, let alone manifest. Cult Daddies been everywhere ❤. I need Shxts and Gigs vs Jared and the Squad too.

[@Simply_Letitia]

Thank you Thank you Thank you I’m late to the party cause this was posted days ago but I’m right on time for me. This is just what I needed in this moment and in this season of my life. This was a wonderful blend of two beautiful podcast that I enjoy deeply Just life! Thank you 🥹

[@shebatukes]

That Gojo x Tupac shirt is fire

[@jacindamoad284]

Wow this collaboration was so unexpected but very much appreciated 👏 ❤️ 😊

[@kadelu1137]

Subscribeddd cant believe I haven't seen this lady's podcast before Absolute fire

[@sharnettewashington6924]

I found you because of this collaboration. I like your vibe, and I'm now following you!

[@unread00]

Wooow I did not expect this but I'm definitely watching 🤣💗💗

[@helinsaid]

Fam when I say this is the most raaandom linkup, I couldn't believe what I saw on my home page! My guysssss James and Fuhad, and Shan 😍