WHAT LED US TO HOMESCHOOLING | Our Issues With Public School | Why We Left The Public School System

[@esharp86]

This popped up in my feed randomly, probably because I’ve been googling homeschool resources lately… my experience has been EXACTLY like yours. It’s heart breaking watching my kid who went into kindergarten reading and doing advanced math come home and tell me he hates school, he learns nothing, and he doesn’t like the other kids. I feel like I’m on the edge of making the same decisions.

[@catherinepleasant9192]

Girl I was the mom who said, “I’m a better mom because my son goes to school…” God definitely laughed at me too 😆

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

🤣 it’s definitely a humbling experience

[@ari3lz3pp]

I hear you! 😂 I said that too. And that it was my way out of a broken marriage, so I could be a boss babe etc. In about 2017 we left public school. Our eldest was in a preschool program for special needs. It was recommended and considered amazing because it was for ASD kids and a 2:1 child:staff ratio. I didn't know preschool is actually developmentally unhealthy. Not ideal. But my child ended up abused. They let other students abuse him, staff did, they warehoused him and would often mix up the kid's work (I'd get three kid's work with very different names). Then we discovered plenty of signs of SA. Going to class late a stranger called my child by name. I knew everyone so was shocked, my child hid behind me. I asked the staff who that was with the "briefcase". They acted crazy then finally told me it's a personal masseuse for the kids they hire. "so that was a massage table?" And they responded "uh huh". So no permission needed for a man to be in a PRIVATE room with my child laying down on a table. They claimed my child didn't do that.... Parents barely have rights when they interest their kids to the public system look at how it's run everyone I have been to including my private school was like a prison. It's practically impossible to get evidence of abuse for a child that is nonverbal especially and disabled. Unfortunately as we prepared to enter kindergarten at a different school in the district suspicions were popping up and I asked to have some kind of recording device placed in the public classroom for my child and found out that it's illegal and enroaching on privacy in a public classroom. Talk about an oxymoron for you. You're not allowed to just randomly show up and see your kid at the drop of a hat It took forever anytime I wanted to sign in to see my child before and it definitely would have at the bigger school. I did a lot of research and found out that it is an unfortunate reality that many kids get abused every year within our school systems I looked at my state of California to begin with.I could hardly believe how many cases there were that never made it to the news of severe abuse if not even death and many times the staff have excuses that let them get off very easy with the legal system if they get charged with anything at all. I even did find this out with my narcissistic mother becoming a special needs teacher around that time and she would brag about the way she abused the kids in a power play. I reported my mom of course it did nothing and many teachers and other staff that do terrible things to children and get caught have still been allowed to continue working as teachers whether they have to go to another school or another district or even another state. In our situation our child was not even the required school age yet. Unfortunately we had interested him over to the school for 2 years including summers at that point because that is what they recommended and we blindly trusted them. There were so many signs of abuse that we ignored and let them gaslight us on and some of them are regressions that have yet to return to where they happen to be before preschool. My special needs child was potty trained before they went into preschool They are 12 now and legitimately we still struggle more than we did before preschool. And it all started there at that school coinciding with signs of SA. I am so glad that we homeschool now. Even before we homeschool we were using the charger It just so happens that my husband and I accepted salvation. Our marriage was saved That was about 7 years ago now. One of the worst decisions we have made as parents if not the worst has been to trust the public school system. The best decision we feel we have made as parents is to homeschool. Sorry for the rant. But thank you for reading! I hope my anecdote can help as many people as possible open their eyes and take the leap to homeschool!!!

[@kimberlyccrn]

Hey sister! I’m a nurse too. We started homeschooling in July. I still work outside the home 40 hours/week. Are you still working as a nurse, along with homeschooling? It’s a lot!! I’ve been praying about it. I’d love to be a full time stay at home Mom.

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

I’m not. I was offered a job when we moved here but ultimately decided to turn it down. We don’t really have a support system where we’re at and the price for a nanny is crazy expensive. I hope you can find a way to make staying at home a reality ❤️

[@kimberlyccrn]

@@HomegrownHomeschool me too!!! Thank you!!

[@ari3lz3pp]

I'm so sorry but how are you doing that??? 😔 I was in nursing but no way I could afford childcare even nursing. (ASD child). I don't mean to offend people who are desperate and need work, I typically say if you work 40+ hours outside the home you're not raising your kids, someone else is. By at least you're homeschooling. 💕 It's just that my husband and I have been OT for over a decade and the math comes out to not having much time with family on the other side. I work in the home, with my kids...(Yes, work as much as I love it...I'd call it work to hire someone to do the same things so I'll call it that for myself. ) I actually can't find anybody trustworthy and willing to do it because it is unique situation more difficult than any career I personally have had including the military. But it's the best decision I've made. I was going to study to become either a clinical psychologist or a nurse anesthesiologist as well. Not much more schooling to go but I needed to be with my children. I'm sorry if you are not able to afford this. We were in poverty but at least my husband had enough income for us to scrape by. Unfortunately we are again thanks to the economy, but we had started to excel. We would give up anything possible to be able to continue to homeschool. If I had help it would be so incredible but I just don't. We hope a family member that just moved back will be able to help a bit but he's smaller than my 12 y.o. so it's intimidating. Lol There are co ops you can look into...they can have an easier time getting funding and supplies. We personally just get used supplies a lot and get creative with what we can use around us...for my NT child when they get into high school we might need more. Like a tutor or co-op but it's been virtually free at this time if we wanted it to be. We spend a lot on fun curriculum but it's unnecessary. If you are a nurse you probably could do a lot with a white board and pens! (I use glass because whiteboards are toxic...I got a pane for frames and put it up with frame brackets). There are a lot of free resources online, we seriously use a lot of KZbin videos and songs too. I of course watch with them if I don't have time to watch before then, and we fact check it! Lol 🤣 Have to teach them how to seek unbiased information with critical thinking. Something the schools don't do. Again, I hope I didn't offend you. I mean in love, I didn't know it's so healthy to be with our small children especially. It's the ideal for their development and it's just great for our relationship with them! We are going to use more thrift stores but I take some time to search good deals online too. At home we use cotton dresses a lot, shirts with holes and stains. It doesn't matter. I don't buy make up but maybe once a year, most of it is toxic, even natural stuff. I rarely wear it. Fancy shoes and clothing are basically in the closet for years at a time. (My husband and I have a wonderful marriage but we have only been on 2 dates in the past 10 years and those were each about 3-4 hours. 😂 Lol To the firing range - expensive I know...and to a burger joint). There are also many ways to make money from home. We have to try it but I'm just not at that capacity right now. But there are plans in the works! Be creative and you'll do great I'm sure, you already are great! As a member of society, and as a parent I thank you for homeschooling. I want my children to have more peers that were not run through the institution!

[@ari3lz3pp]

Oh it's a year later! 😅 I hope you found a way! If you know about IHSS and other financial aid for disabled kids, we do not get that. Lol Just FYI if you think I'm preaching and making an income that way. I'm not unfortunately. We are approved but issues with bureaucracy for the past 9 years. So you can do it! If your kid is special needs and you don't know about those things look into it for sure! 😊

[@walkswithholly4610]

Shauna! Love hearing your story of how God led you to homeschool 💜 I NEVER thought I would homeschool - but like you - God changed my heart!

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

It’s amazing how he works ❤️

[@LivingWithEve]

Praise God that you have had this time to pour into your kids and encourage them in your home environment. Thank you for joining this collab, it’s so encouraging to hear your story. ❤

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Thank you for hosting it!

[@CalmintheChaosHomeschool]

I love the "I was that mom... the one that said I was not patient enough to homeschool"!

[@DailyOpinionsUSA]

I am going through exactly what you are sharing with my kid is in HS. The school is turning their back to parents and students who voice their own concerns against racism and discrimination and bullying. They don't want to be responsible for what is going around the school yard. with HS, they use cameras and law enforcement to get away their responsible.

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

I’m so sorry you’re going through that

[@ari3lz3pp]

Many are the bullies and abusers...and others are trained to practice CRT and DEI. To them that means it doesn't matter who starts it, "no tolerance". My child was abused in public school....not just physical injuries they struggled to explain....but academic warehousing (their methods of teaching were just atrocious anyway, yes even for preschool and pre K). My ASD child actually regressed, in the little vocabulary they had, punished for talking in class. Potty trained early, that regressed, then signs of SA. 😭 I'll never get past how blindly we trusted them. Parents are helpless...it's like a prison, we can't just go check on our children at any point that's a huge red flag right there. And in my case this was for a part of the public school that was specifically for ASD with a 2:1 student teacher ratio. We made it our business to know all of the staff even in the office It's not like they didn't know who we were and yet it took a bunch of warnings to the classroom and time for me to be able to go check on my kid and I was not allowed to give them their own lunch etc. Of course they have their excuses for this but the bottom line is that it's proven to be developmentally unhealthy to send your children to preschool in the first place a lot of students in other countries that we consider very successful compared to us don't even start their children in this kind of school until they are at least 7 years old. I know don't believe that it's healthy to send most children away to be raised by strangers until they are at least 13 years old and that's for a neurotypical child. Unfortunately the districts are very protected My mom had started working in special needs around that time. She had a degree in environmental science and was able to transition it over to a master's in teaching within a year. She was a narcissist which I was also figuring out at that time and she loved to abuse the kids as a power play and would tell me about it proudly. When I reported her nothing happened of course. I learned that that is very typical not just in California but states across the country that teachers get away with these things and other staff like bus driver. They rarely are held accountable They actually are allowed to keep teaching in most cases if not in that district and or state they still are allowed to teach or what not. Her children are not very protected at all within these systems. I had looked back on how I myself was in an inappropriate situation with another student on top of being bullied all the time when I was in private school and then when I went to public school middle school. This is not new. With my child when we discovered this was going on it was about 2017 and of course for me that my experience was decades before that. When we removed our child and unenrolled them from kindergarten we got harassed by the school about truancy. Even though my child was not yet the minimum required school age and they did not leave us alone until we brought up legal representation then suddenly they said goodbye to us. We went to a Charter school for several years which I suppose I needed to gain confidence into learn that homeschool was even legal in the first place. Unfortunately the teacher we trusted at charter school ended up bringing up puberty blockers because I said that I as a parent would be uncomfortable with pubert. There were a lot of other problems there including the fact that as I help my child learn and did research on subjects like history and science I started to learn how biased the school curriculum is and has been even for my generation. There are so many reasons that I find public school to be the worst case scenario for a way that a child can get educated. The best case scenario is definitely homeschool for any child I believe that that is the way for them to reach their full potential. Of course this is not including the minority of students that are abused at home or not getting educated at all... But that is truly a minority and it is a huge misnomer that it's more common for homeschool kids to get abused. Unfortunately we have witnessed plenty of child abuse in our family by not only my mother but a cousin that abuses their child and of course they send their child to public school as soon as they can because they cannot stand them. And of course even though the teachers are mandated reporters you have to depend on them paying attention and caring not being some kind of abuser themselves... And that the system will do anything about it to begin with.

[@CalmintheChaosHomeschool]

Thanks for sharing the whole story. I'm sorry that Noah had to go through that, but I'm glad we are now homeschooling buds!

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Yes! Another blessing that came from it!

[@faithfullyinfertile]

That makes me so sad for your son. Good for you for being in tune with what was happening and to take that leap to start homeschooling. ❤

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Thank you ❤️ it’s been a huge blessing

[@schultesweeties]

Oh I’m so sorry your son dealt with that! I’m so glad you knew God was leading you to homeschool ❤

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Thank you ❤️

[@analysistv2024]

Thanks for sharing the whole story. I'm sorry that Noah had to go through that, but I'm glad we are now home schooling buds

[@lifewithginab]

Thanks for sharing your story! Homeschooling is definitely a blessing ❤️

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Thank you ❤️

[@crazychappellchaos9910]

As someone who went through bullying personally I can really sympathize with your son! I’m so glad you chose this crazy homeschool path for him

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

So am I. They worked so hard to make him out to be the bad kid but funny how he hasn’t randomly hit or pushed anyone since being taken out. Which further proves the point to me that it was him defending himself

[@jessicam2792]

I saw a trailer for Kirk Cameron's movie on homeschooling. I couldn't get to the movie, but the trailer had so many great points that I started to consider it. I started paying more attention to the way kids acted and what they are teaching these days and I decided that he would not go back for first grade. Come to find out when my son could read nothing. The school sent him home with 9 weeks of summer reading work for me to do with him. If I still need to teach him, then what do I need the school for?

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

I’m sorry you had that experience with the school. If you get a chance to watch his movie you should check it out! It was really good. So glad that the little bit you saw brought you to homeschooling. There are so many blessings in it ❤️

[@ari3lz3pp]

Yep! You hit the nail on the head. They teachers right now are blaming parents and parents blaming the teachers (which makes sense honestly because they are leaving their children with them full time....) The sad reality is these teachers are raising the kids. I had sent my kid to public school as well because I was raised that way my mother was raised that way... My ASD child was abused unfortunately. The staff was responsible. They knew we were poor and nothing we can do vs the district...these places are like prisons anyway, hard to get evidence on these cases ... And they warehoused my child like crazy. Parents SHOULD always read to their kids and help them read but the schools definitely are not doing their part. Even charter school made my job as a teacher more difficult. Standardized testing (for state tax data) pulled us away from what we were learning, the therapists sometimes tried to drive my kid to sit on their laps, sniff glue, and beat up a cat on a video game when we told them we have a cat...I couldn't make this up. Thankfully Since it was a charter school I made sure that I was there so we were able to put an end to all that nonsense. But I also had to retrain anytime they change staff and teach them about my child It's just exhausting. Their schedules also are not optimal. My children have excelled in full homeschool and I love researching what we learn. A lot of what I was taught in school is just extremely inaccurate. The forefathers were not Christian for example...on the OR trails most people died of being crushed to death or drowning... The ones that did get sick were more likely to die than people in towns because of the stress they were also exposed to elements didn't have as much clean water access and nutritional food out on the trails.... hygiene was worse. People in schools will try to make it about vaccines etc but it's nonsense. They didn't have vaccines in towns...yet were often much less likely to die from such illnesses. Stress is a huge contributing factor for most illness and disease. Not to mention the endochrine disruptors and phatlates present on school property...the whole family feels healthier with homeschool. We plan to teach more and more real nutrition as well! 😊🙏🌿 The food pyramid is a scam...the food plate is not a one-size-fits all either. Far from it and they don't teach appropriatly about vitamins and minerals either. Sex Ed was originally funded by Hugh Hefner and Planned Parenthood...the Rockefellers simultaneously pushed for more parents to start sending their kids to public k-12 (in the 50s) while they had the universities they funded, halt holistic medicine courses. The Chinese Communist party also funds a lot of our school districts. Just saying. Communists like to divide parents from children and to make reliable cogs that depend on the system. I just wish us homeschoolers didn't have to give taxes to this nonsense!

[@kjandpencil]

I had a similar experience with my son. He attended public school from kindergarten through second grade. We moved during that time as well, twice, while we found the right house in the right area. Because of this we gained perspective from 3 different public schools in two states. Our son handled the school changes well. But I wasn’t impressed with the schools. They barely communicated anything. In the last school he was in it got to the point I had to ask my neighbor, “Do the kids have school today?” She worked in the schools sometimes so she knew the schedule but it wasn’t communicated with most parents. I didn’t know what my son was learning day to day, I didn’t know what his day consisted of. It always bothered me. I sent him away at five years old and wasn’t a part of the majority of his day. It felt so unnatural to me. But I kept him in “school” because that was “normal”. My son finished second grade in spring of 2021. The school shut down the last two months of that school “year”. When schoolwork came home, I saw the quality of what he was put in front of during the day. That was the last straw for me. I am an English nerd. I had to correct grammar on the instructions. I found the direction wording very confusing for a seven year old. They could have reworded the directions to make it more direct very easily. It’s like a robot wrote it. Before the school shut down due to the pandemic, I was getting messages about my 7 year old being disruptive during tests. I was told he wasn’t testing well so he was “behind”. They separated him from other kids to do his tests. I was told he was behind in reading comprehension. They separated him from other kids to go to reading tutoring during class. His teacher gave him 1.5-2 hours of homework at night and said it shouldn’t take more than twenty minutes. Then they wanted to put him in an afterschool reading tutoring class for an additional hour per day. He was so stressed out that he would cry every morning because he didn’t want to go to school. Then he would cry when he got home because in a given day he had maybe 1 hour to play with his siblings. He was 7! He was away from home 42.5 hours per week. This is without doing an additional 4 hours per week for a reading class that I said NO to. Everyone around me and the school told me, “This is normal.” But it felt anything but. I watched my son go from a little boy that loved learning, smiled all the time, into a stressed out shadow of an adult. Stress shouldn’t be in his life at all. He was homesick, burned out from workload and had his intelligence humiliated in front of his peers. I’ll say this again. He was 7 years old. My husband and I said, “No more.” When we didn’t put him back into the public school that fall of 2021, he was so happy. He relaxed. He became a kid again. It took 1.5 years to unlearn bad habits and expectations that the public school instilled in him. However, within a matter of months, it was obvious that our son did not have a reading comprehension problem. He could read a text once and tell you every detail of it. He’ll read instructions once and build a model. The school’s testing rhetoric is insanely screwed up. My son is now 11 and he’s thriving academically at home. He has his childhood back. He asks a lot of questions and we help him with the resources to find the answers. All kids ask many questions up until about age 8. Public school beats them into conformity where they learn to be told what they should know instead of the child’s curiosity driving their education. It’s very sad that the majority of American parents don’t recognize this as an issue. They believe it’s “normal” for a child to quit asking a million questions by age 8. It’s not normal at all. The longer I homeschool all 3 of my kids the more I realize that all of this “normal” is just an excuse for bad results that feed a fixed mindset. Give your child their childhood. Sacrifice convenience and luxuries-they don’t matter as much as your kids. Do everything in your power to homeschool your kids.

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

I’m so sorry you all went through that. I’m so glad you have found the blessings of homeschooling.

[@SoniaLeli]

You just mentioned many of the same reason I had to homeschool my child, we are just starting

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

@@SoniaLeli I wish you the best of luck 💕 I’m so sorry you went through the same ordeal.

[@ari3lz3pp]

Yay! 😊💖🙏 Welcome! My child had horrible experiences in public school and even some in charter school. Home-school has been such a blessing. I'm now convinced it's the ideal for most children. I'm grateful to every parent who engages in homeschooling their children! 💖 Don't be afraid to get creative! If you haven't, look into Charlotte Mason home-school. 😊🌿🕊️

[@sarasali3077]

I had always considered homeschooling, but got pulled into the idea of public school when our son was diagnosed with autism. He was 3.5 and started preschool with the special education program. I was so sad to let him go, but was told it was what he “needed.” But he graduated out of that program and would have been placed in kindergarten (at 4 and would have to repeat it another year). My son has an amazing brain and truly brilliant, but socially struggles. We decided to try a young 5s program at a Montessori school with small class size and more child lead learning. It was awful. Then the shut downs happened and I was thrilled lol. It couldn’t have been a better choice after that to continue homeschooling, even though it’s been a huge learning experience every day (for all of us). He’s 8 now, and we have learned his autism expression is demand avoidance (severe anxiety driven need for control) and public school would have never worked for him, no matter what. He and his sister (6 years old) are both doing well, and we have flexibility which is so needed and appreciated. I’m beyond grateful for homeschool So glad it has been a blessing to your sweet family as well!!

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

I’m so glad you shared your story ❤️ it’s such a blessing to see how God is working in all of us and how he led us all to homeschool. Im so glad it’s been a blessing to you

[@ari3lz3pp]

Amen! 🙌 Praise YHWH for the opportunity to be a FT parent and to raise your child in a way that works for them! They can't excel when they are not cared for as individuals. Especially w/ASD. I too tried similar for my child with ASD and lots of abuse took place. They couldn't explain the wounds and we turned a blind eye because we trusted them so much, I feel like a terrible idiot now. But thankfully we stopped public school in 2017. Two years of the special needs program from preschool to pre K including three summers as recommended. 😢 I researched it and LOTS of abuse happens and they usually get away with it sadly. We tried charter for years but red tape and terrible staff made my job harder. Not worth the funding even though it was thousands per year (though You have to go through them to see if they'll approve curriculum and of course for a special needs child our curriculum is going to be very different and mostly things like educational toys and sensory so they didn't approve most of it anyway). We were in poverty and I had been looking forward to full-time public school so I could return to my career and go back to school and escape a terrible marriage. The Lord had plans! Lol 💕🙏 My husband and I accepted salvation around the time I pulled my child out of school. My child is now 12 and we've been homeschooling for 2 years It's been the best choice we've made as parents other than two parents together as a married couple. Our marriage is more amazing than I ever would have thought, the first five years were tumultuous but God has blessed us so much! We will do anything we can to keep homeschooling even though the economy is making it so difficult. Thank you for home-schooling, it's so important for our society and my children's future as well, to have peers that are not indoctrinated. Peace.

[@ari3lz3pp]

Do you have an AAC device for your son? Idk if you've tried Writing Wizard, or if you need help with tracing/writing/reading but it's worth it to us. So amazing. A favorite and can make your own word lists! 💖 There are also some social learning apps available now though shoddy, we talk about it together and it helps.

[@lifewithginab]

Still watching. But can't stand bullying. I'm so sorry he went through that!

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Me either! It’s so sad the degree that it happens in public school

[@RockSimmer-gal4God]

We had no issues until year 1 with my twins where expected to have no learning issues and they both were struggling and we found out they where dyslexic and the school didn’t want to know and help them!!! My oldest was getting by at the time but we found out by middle school he was dyslexic!!! Public school homework is way too much!!! My older kids hated learning and we knew it was school!!! Kids should be able to defend themselves!!!

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Oh, I’m so sorry your twins went through that. You’d think the school would offer services to them to help. That’s a shame. Yes, public school home work IS too much!

[@mariasousa-hg7kf]

Hi, i'm a mother of 6, and some bad experiences in Secondary school. Too strict, detentions for almost everything and nothing, and the childrens doesn't like. Bulying and drugs. How to make the state schools safe, where the childrens are happy to go and make the best of their talents. I've been temporary home school my daughter, after some bully in her school, and she was refusing to go. She was stressed.

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

I’m so sorry about her experiences. Sadly, I feel like most schools (not all) are like this now a days. They’re not like what we grew up with.

[@TheHomeschoolBreakroom]

The homework load would have sent my middle kiddo into tears, too. He would have crumbled underneath it. My oldest & youngest, I think, would have been okay but. not loved it. But school would have completely ruined my middle kiddo.

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

It’s so sad that that’s exactly what they do to so many children. I didn’t realize I liked learning until college

[@TheHomeschoolBreakroom]

@@HomegrownHomeschool I always said I was a great learner but not a great student. As an adult, I can see how true that was. I didn't do well managing homework, time management, tests. But I LOVED learning. Even in high school, I remember thinking how unfair it was that I didn't get better grades because I loved learning more than some kids who could do all the things "right" but hated school. I wish schools were better set up to keep fostering that love of learning.

[@ari3lz3pp]

It's proven to be unhealthy for most kids. Sadly it's the norm to just push them off into public school and to shame parents and tell them they can't do it...that they are weak if they can't reject their young children leaving them with strangers...we removed our children from public school in 2017 and I'm still reeling over the fact that I just blindly accepted the BS. In no way is that developmentally healthy for any child to be forced into preschool and pre K etc with strangers. For some it's necessary, and unfortunately for some it's better than at home but not for most.

[@CarterKey6]

I’m not the most social person but I feel like I’m being led to homeschool but I worry that I’m not allowing them to have the socialization.

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

There are so many ways to socialize! You’ll find your groove with it. If God has called you to it then He will equip you for it ❤️

[@ari3lz3pp]

There are online forms of socialization but of course also in person is vital. Unfortunately most public school students aren't appropriately socialized either! You can go to parks and even community events, as well as co-ops and other groups. (We have had plenty of socialization in our neighborhood though no co ops yet because I refuse to pay for my child to socialize). If you have a good family dynamic and they have siblings that's very helpful. Honestly external socialization is overrated as far as the concept of kids should have 10+ friends etc .."friends". If they are forced to be with those kids it's unnecessary IMO and not teaching appropriate boundaries most times. One to two good friends can berke valuable relationships, most kids (public school included) don't have friends anymore. It's just a tough point in society unfortunately. I think the best thing you can do is to make sure you're reinforcing good social skills at home. I have autism and even though I'm high functioning I have actually been able to learn a lot trying to teach my ASD child about social skills. There are a lot of neat workbooks about social skills and CRT if necessary. I honestly think these are good resources for anyone. That way when they do meet new people inform new relationships they have that solid foundation. They can make better choices about who they want to be around and when and what they will tolerate and how they should behave as well. What the expectations are in an ideal circumstance and not ideal as they get older as well. I struggle to be social myself and I am still trying to be better to be a good example. You can use it as a way to challenge yourself for sure and try to look at that as a positive thing. 💜 One thing I really love about homeschool in general is learning with my kids. When I research and fact check are curriculum to make sure it doesn't have noticable bias etc...I've learned a lot. But do also consider bias within social skills resources... CRT and DEI concepts can be anywhere.

[@ari3lz3pp]

Online socialization for children of course is not social media that's not what I'm talking about in the typical sense... I'm saying there are websites specifically made to be safer for very young children and just school aged children in general. There are also different groups you could look into I haven't joined yet but there's the heavenly-minded homeschool group and they have social opportunities as well for the children. 💖🙏🕊️ Take care!

[@laurendsouza148]

Can you please share the link for the video where you talk about how you convinced your husband to homeschool?

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Yes! Here’s the link kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6DYomRje7WBe7csi=ebG8Jp8_4l5ay9PF

[@laurendsouza148]

@@HomegrownHomeschool Thank you!

[@ari3lz3pp]

😊 God has plans for us too! I was one of the moms that thought I would not have the temperament either. In about 2017 we left public school. Our eldest was in a preschool program for special needs. It was recommended and considered amazing because it was for ASD kids and a 2:1 child:staff ratio. I didn't know preschool is actually developmentally unhealthy. Not ideal. But my child ended up abused. They let other students abuse him, staff did, they warehoused him and would often mix up the kid's work (I'd get three kid's work with very different names). Then we discovered plenty of signs of SA. Going to class late a stranger called my child by name. I knew everyone so was shocked, my child hid behind me. I asked the staff who that was with the "briefcase". They acted crazy then finally told me it's a personal masseuse for the kids they hire. "so that was a massage table?" And they responded "uh huh". So no permission needed for a man to be in a PRIVATE room with my child laying down on a table. They claimed my child didn't do that.... Parents barely have rights when they interest their kids to the public system look at how it's run everyone I have been to including my private school was like a prison. It's practically impossible to get evidence of abuse for a child that is nonverbal especially and disabled. Unfortunately as we prepared to enter kindergarten at a different school in the district suspicions were popping up and I asked to have some kind of recording device placed in the public classroom for my child and found out that it's illegal and enroaching on privacy in a public classroom. Talk about an oxymoron for you. You're not allowed to just randomly show up and see your kid at the drop of a hat It took forever anytime I wanted to sign in to see my child before and it definitely would have at the bigger school. I did a lot of research and found out that it is an unfortunate reality that many kids get abused every year within our school systems I looked at my state of California to begin with.I could hardly believe how many cases there were that never made it to the news of severe abuse if not even death and many times the staff have excuses that let them get off very easy with the legal system if they get charged with anything at all. I even did find this out with my narcissistic mother becoming a special needs teacher around that time and she would brag about the way she abused the kids in a power play. I reported my mom of course it did nothing and many teachers and other staff that do terrible things to children and get caught have still been allowed to continue working as teachers whether they have to go to another school or another district or even another state. Unfortunately we had trusted the school for 2 years including summers at that point because that is what they recommended and we blindly trusted them. There were so many signs of abuse that we ignored and let them gaslight us on and some of them are regressions that have yet to return to where they happen to be before preschool. My special needs child was potty trained before they went into preschool They are 12 now and legitimately we still struggle more than we did before preschool. And it all started there at that school coinciding with signs of SA. I saw public as an opportunity to return to nursing and school myself to get a clinical psychology degree. I was NOT in a happy marriage at the time. We were on the brink of divorce and in poverty. My child was not yet the required school age. I didn't bring that up initially, I just unenrolled. We had harassment from the school about truancy for this...for weeks until I finally said our attorney could inform them of the legally required minimum age...(We didn't know of home-school yet, and many teachers even think home-school is illegal, or did at the time). They left us alone. We joined a Charter school which was mostly online, not great as it was more work for less positive outcomes. Casually chatting a teacher we trusted, I said "I'm not looking forward to puberty!" 😂 The teacher responded in serious tone "have you looked into puberty blockers? We could help you with a recommendation..." 😑 I told them not to give us medical advice. Then that school started to infringe more on us and our privacy. A new policy was to meet in home for the work turn in. (My child was special needs the work was one worksheet per term). The teacher cancelled the meeting and she picked a new day, told us the day before...I was sick (and the main one she would talk with since I'm the teacher). She insinuated I wasn't and said it's required or they would send authority over ...😮 My husband said "send them" lol She said she just meant it's required etc. Saw my child was good, saw I was sick. Apologized a lot and we thankfully had already been planning to homeschool so we told her then. She said a lot of students are leaving the CHARTER school to homeschool. No kidding. Doing research to educate my child from charter school forward, it's shocking how many lies are taught as facts. Especially in history and science. Deeply misleading. They have become even further from the truth in the past two decades. The forefathers we're mostly anti-Christian. We have had documentation for a while at the Library of Congress...about this. I could go on...but it's all about their agendas and clear it's been a long game. If not ineptitude. Teachers don't know they are carrying the torch for this but they are. Most good teachers are leaving the districts to help tutor homeschoolers, to raise their own kids etc. If you're an employee 40+ hours a week you're not raising your kids...someone else is. You're the fill in. It's sad but true. My grandmother and mother were this way. Even my nonna was the first to give her child over to public k-12 when it was a massive new idea for the general public. I don't think it's a coincidence my nonna was the most wise of the bunch, most grounded, and most ethical. For the rest of her life she struggled to have a good relationship with her children. The Chinese Communist party has been funding public schools here for a long while. In communistic countries they split apart families, and teach children their parents are not to be trusted. The state is what they should be loyal to. Etc. Look at what's happening today...

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Ariel, I am so so sorry that that happened to your sweet child. I pray you all are guided through the trauma of what you all went through.

[@MeganJoosPureRomance]

Ugh that breaks my heart!

[@user-dl4pi1lg7x]

I think it's instinctive for us to be the ones teaching our kids. It's in our nature like everything else. We're supposed to be the ones teaching them from the beginning till adulthood, like the animals. That's why u don't want to disconnect and let them go when they go to school, because it's litterally not time to do that yet. We need to raise them in our homes the way were meant to until we know there ready to be on there own. Not let the world do it. We're supposed to be Involved in everything I believe.

[@user-dl4pi1lg7x]

There ours, it's our job to raise them, not the schools.

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

I love how you put that! Makes complete sense when you look at it that way

[@julians9763]

I can understand why homeschooling is becoming a better choice. School bulling, the danger of becoming sifted, and. schools will not teach lifeskills. School is based on academics and not lifeskills. Teachers are not interested in teaching calligraphy skills. Schools are specialising bullism,. student favouritism, and prefer individuals who are institution compatible.

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

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[@catswatchingtv7578]

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[@crazychappellchaos9910]

Don’t ask me to give you my kids birthdays or ages 😂they all have over lapping numbers and it gets confusing 😅

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Hahaha it’s so hard sometimes

[@herhomemakingheart]

Pretty sure we are pulling our kids out after trying it for a month. 🙈 school run is a horrible experience lol

[@HomegrownHomeschool]

Oh no! I’m sorry it didn’t work out but so happy you get more time with them. What a blessing that is ❤️