WHAT LIVING WITH A narc DOES TO YOU

If you know someone who's living with a narc, or you wonder if you're living with a narc, this webinar is for you.
Dr. Clarke will teach and interact with you, so make sure to join us for this live event.

[@jayjo77144]

I felt that one comment …… “ I Don’t even cry anymore “ If you know you know ~heartbreaking 💔

[@jodyfolkers8236]

that's real? I don't cry as much anymore but I thought something was wrong with me besides narc abuse...I thought I was becoming like him😞😢 married 25 years, escaping AGAIN!!! why didn't I stay gone after a year & 3 months 2 years ago! 😭

[@DashadashaPilova]

Being with a toxic covert narc did following to me: my pregnancy got complicated because of emotional abuse, I lost job, because I couldn't concentrate on it, I got PTSD, I lost my iphone, my money, my good relationship with my relatives. Finally, I discarded this toxic predator, this manipulative liar, this deceiver, abuser, this monster. Thanks God. People, just stay away from them. They are impossible people to deal with.

[@ckvarnmass]

I was nearly 9 mo. pregnant with the narc's 5th child. I was to pick him up at work that day, as he rode with another person that morning. It was a very hot, summer day. I felt miserable. My other kids were all young and I had to get groceries, after I picked him up at work. I told my children that daddy would be tired and hot and so keep the noise down in the car and be good when we shopped for groceries. I was hoping he would keep an eye on the kids so I could do that shopping quicker. Back in those days you didn't have air conditioning in cars or homes. Immediately he had to go use the bathroom, at the store. I started my shopping. Now I can't understand a person using a public bathroom and wanting to spend any amount of time in there if they didn't have to. Also, I only went grocery shopping every other week, so it would be a longer shopping time, that day. Well, needless to say, he never came out of that bathroom until I was finished shopping. To this day I have no idea what he was doing so long in that bathroom, but I can guess. I was so exhausted and so pregnant and so exasperated with him being of no help. We were to pick up his own car left at the person's house that he rode with that morning. Due to my condition I certainly didn't remember that. So once we were home he remembered and yelled at me for not remembering. I cried and told him off. He went and got in the car and took off, telling me he was going to go talk to his friend. He had no friends and I told him that and I asked who his friend was, "Jesus" he said. When he returned he was still furious with me. Therefore I had no help in unloading the bags of groceries and putting stuff away and then I had to take him to get the other car. Never any resolve, no apology, nothing! He always managed to get out helping me. Divorced after 20+ years, free of him now for over 30 years. What a waste he was!

[@kuma5343]

Narc becomes the 6th toddler at the moment you marry him.

[@sarahm3614]

One time I was bagging groceries while pregnant and I had three or four small children with me while my n husband was criticizing the way I bagged. I told him loudly, " I would do it your way if you were the one carrying the bags into the house." He didn't say anything or react in any way...not even with embarrassment!

[@Loveusa8219]

I felt for you being pregnant, hot day and 4 kids . Narc do not possess empathy.

[@Loveusa8219]

@@kuma5343só true

[@kuma5343]

@@ckvarnmass Don't ask narc the things they don't have.

[@CarmenPerez-kz6rw]

Thank God I have no children with him. He tore me down, kicked me in the face while I was down, said the devil was trying to use him to kill me. He told me to kill myself before that. Only five years. I got a restraining order. Today in court he told the judge he’s terrified of me. lol 😂 he’s 6’3, big dude. I’m a little thin short girl. The judge could see right through him. This guy is crazy. I’m in shock. I’ve called the crisis line about 13 times recently.

[@jackiep5009]

I also have no kids. I have been terrified since my Narc mom and the generational Golden child Narc abuse. I have dogs. And sadly I did not get her in our separation. I hope to get a puppy soon but God is doing some work in me first I guess

[@tamaraparris1589]

Satan and his servants are real, but God is all powerful. Praise God for giving you the strength to escape!

[@rbee2150]

You are a gift, Dr.!🙏 My first husband was a cheater and an abuser. He left and divorced me. God brought me an amazing, beautiful, and incredible husband. Would you believe it that two years later my family still refuses to meet him? They believe I should still be married to my tormentor. 😢

[@monicas3307]

😢 I'm sorry 😞 it's okay. They don't need to know him

[@rbee2150]

@@monicas3307thank you, very true!🩵

[@jackiep5009]

That says VOLUMES about THEM. Good! They are not ALLOWED to meet him

[@rbee2150]

Wow. True!! Thank you!!

[@debbiehardy40]

My church is such a house of worship and a respite from the week!! So thankful!

[@tammyrichardson818]

I just ordered 2 of your books..."I will be free" and "I didn't want a divorce now what".

[@hopeinhumanity.]

Your videos are good reminders to keep coming back to. Thank you 🌹

[@Brenda-t5r]

I wonder why so many narcs dye their hair black?

[@cynthiacassel]

I just found you on another page.

[@MrsK976]

Eggshells.

[@Gemisnotmyname]

4:37

[@cynthiacassel]

Could I be accidentally married to someone by video?

[@sarahm3614]

Get a life!

[@cynthiacassel]

I’m really healthy. Kind of scary.

[@melissa8696]

My husband has destroyed my health and mental health. And aged me 20 years. I have no tolerance for any thing. I’m about to snap a tree in half. He is making me insane.

[@Loveusa8219]

Me too

[@girlinterrupted9145]

@@Loveusa8219🙏🏻

[@girlinterrupted9145]

🙏🏻

[@tamaraparris1589]

I can’t speak for God, but I can’t imagine he wants you to feel this way. Get out, and don’t look back.

[@lggig534]

Any holiday, birthday, special gathering was completely ruined by the narc I was married to for 32 years. Thank God, I got free but the narc caused me, our son-in-law and pregnant daughter running for our lives, when we supposed to be having the baby shower! It’s been 13 years and I’m now having the time of my life.

[@JackieMARSHALL-q7l]

How do I find a divorce lawyer who can help me get out of my marriage to a narc for 38 years. I'm dying in health issues, I know if from the stress of this. I am a Christian who used to be soo active with God's work. I want my happy, kind, caring life back.

[@annenew8220]

Living with a narc has literally drained my energy. Working on an exit finally. We would have to sell the house & I would have to start over in life.

[@sonjamccart1269]

Totally worth the peace.

[@monicas3307]

Proud of you! ❤

[@anneofgreengables1619]

Energy vampires.

[@tikster67]

Off you are with a narc, plan on unfortunately taking it to court to get your half. I just went through it

[@lggig534]

Do it! Completely worth your sanity and discovering the person that God always meant for you to be!

[@mickey-hu4cd]

Thank you for helping me survive. I've highlighted so much in Enough is Enough that it should all be yellow... My husband is a wonderful, compassionate, kind and caring person - when he's his 74-yr-old core person. With Multiple Personality Disorder from a hideously abusive childhood, he can also be one of at least 12 alternate personalities, all of whom are passive-aggressive covert narcissists. Trying to cope with all of that has made our 30 years of marriage a nightmare. I left the first of December, moved 1,000 miles away to be near my own family. He's in absolute denial, and most of our acquaintances believe I've lost my mind. I would have, if not for being able to run to the Lord. I lean hard, and I'm so grateful that there are Christian counselors to walk me through it all.

[@hollysalwan6736]

Thank you for actually caring for all of us!

[@SLLiberty23]

Excellent video … validation, vindication, wise instruction Dr. Clarke. Almost didn’t make it through this nightmare… almost ended my own life. You’ve helped me escape with my children and now healing… thank you and praise Jesus for rescue …. hope restored 💯🙏🏻♥️🕊️

[@nancydyer8942]

I pray God sets me free and heals my heart. How do we even think we love them? Why is it so hard to let go? I know I need to let go...I'm so tired of all he puts me through!

[@jackiep5009]

It’s called a trauma bond and is part of the brain wiring.

[@melissa8696]

My freak husband just sent me a video on hypochondriac. He said one. I blocked him. I was about to text him some stuff and go off but I said no I’m. It wasting any more of my time on a narc and I blocked him. The only thing I have to say is Bye.

[@nikkikruz8458]

I have been with my NARC husband 8 years. Over the past year, I have been having EXTREME panic and anxiety attacks and hot flashes for 1 year straight: I thought I was going through menopause. He packed up and left me 2 days ago and I haven’t had a hot flash or panic attack in the past 2 days. We weren’t talking in April for his birthday, so on May for my birthday, he PURPOSELY picked a fight to ruin my birthday

[@DottieMaddox]

They pit your children against you and uses your love for them to manipulate, bully, gaslight, and threaten to have them file with the court when they turn 12, which is coming up very soon. My attorney-no help

[@karriphillips5090]

I am still in the healing - recovering from this insidious narc - Psycopath parent. They are total evil - They are agents of Hell - They have truly sided with Lucifer. They operate through devination. God Bless you.

[@cynthiacassel]

Ever since I got here people have talked about me living with a narc. I don’t even know what they mean.

[@We_shall_overcom]

28:26 erase your identity, spot on 🤔

[@mollisashshimi8491]

When is the next live event? I need to attend and interact with the Dr. if possible.

[@christinaheagy4602]

What he hasn't done to me I've done to myself. I hate myself. No self-confidence. I don't look forward to anything. My place in life is to clean up after him and help him pay bills. There is next to no relationship, like Dr. Clarke said, - unless I agree with him. I was told early on in our marriage I'm too heavenly minded to be any earthly good. I told him I would not worship him. I felt like I went through that with my dad. Now I'm trying to figure out how to restore intimacy with God. I lost my job due to stress from the job and stress from him. Now I feel like I have depression and brain fog. I don't know how to dig out of this hole. I've been living frugally off of savings but I need to go back to work, I need a new car, I need to repair my house.

[@karenroy9031]

It’s definitely aged me. He’s not always angry. Only when I confront him or attempt to speak to him in any way other than polite chit chat. I’ve completely shut down from him emotionally. No feelings whatsoever for him. He recently said he basically wants nothing to do with me and is only committed to keeping a roof over my head. Didn’t faze me a bit. I never batted an eye. Bye fool

[@cynthiacassel]

Ever since I moved to Kansas people have commented about my narc boyfriend and I keep saying what boyfriend?

[@LR-yu3mx]

O only nowadays learn, that I was married to a covert narcissist. I had z narc mother, which was.just terrible. So I thought he was so much better.

[@hopeinhumanity.]

I liked the mold analogy.

[@maricruzantonio8508]

Thank God He's only let me be in any relationship with a narcissist 3 to 1 years only cuz I can't take abuse or disrespect especially now that I'm walkin with God I pray 🙏🏽 for God to expose the truth and remove any one not sent by God that prayer works and I have to accept the truth that God shows me the red flags 👑🦁 KINGDOM MINDED 👣🐾🐾

[@charlottemuller2233]

Thank GOD church people have you,have to get away!

[@charlottemuller2233]

The church does not understand narc behavior!! No clue!

[@DottieMaddox]

Would never touch my tummy during any of my 5 babies

[@arynruiz-schiozzi2059]

What are some mental or physical affects on the children( even if they have never had direct mistreatment from the narc) but the children have seen the mistreatment to the mother,,

[@charlottemuller2233]

Narcs just put on a fake show!❤

[@Maggied50]

Atrial Fibrillation

[@johnchacko1425]

my friends stepmom told her stepson that he ' ate his mom's', even though she passed away from cancer he didn't murder his mom. That the culture of northern India and Hindu pagan northern India. The stepmom only wanted the boys rich surgeon dads money. He's henpecked husband henpecked by his wife

[@loriehollis8021]

I’m married to a narc. We have two children together. I have 4 children total. My older two are from a previous abusive relationship. I live in the state of FL parents get 50/50 custody. I worry for my younger two children. He definitely has put fear in them and our calls him his best friend and my husband always reminds him that he’s his best friend. What do I do?

[@loriehollis8021]

My oldest son is in therapy from the emotional trauma he hears and sees

[@We_shall_overcom]

You can’t do anything about others, you can only do things for yourself. If it is an opportunity for any type of shelters for abused women, I recommend that you contact them. Get out of the presence of the abuser, tell your story and get divorce. You can’t be there for your children if you are broken. Take the kids with you and leave. Lean forward and take action!