What Men Get From Marriage

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[@manisfriedman]

What do you think?

[@Akfordmn]

Agreed! I enjoy your teachings

[@weeklydaily4775]

Pls talk about self care, you talk about serving which is important - but whats the responsible way to take care of ourselves?

[@weeklydaily4775]

In some of your videos I feel like you denigrate self care - is it right to neglect our responsibilities towards ourselves???

[@enesholthausen1536]

Since two years i've been listening to you dear Rabbi Friedman. And i became more Mensch Thanx our Creator. Shalom from the Netherlands, Enes Roy Holthausen

[@belindamotamedi8724]

Wonderful message. Very uplifting

[@aromafortheheart]

Thank you so very much Rabbi. What a light and a blessing you are in this world. My parents have celebrated 72 years of marriage together. I have never heard my father say one negative thing about my mother or my mother say one negative thing about my father. They are Beautiful to watch together. They set a wonderful example. Again how timely it was to see this. They oh 94 years of age. My father is my mothers first and only boyfriend. This brings tears to my eyes to hear you speak. Fumani

[@grissomnumber1]

You know today I had a real bad day I’ve cancer it it wasn’t a good day and I tried all kinds of things that normally soothe me and nothing seemed to help. And then I saw this and thank you Rabbi Friedman your voice and your account and it means a lot to me

[@ill_ink]

“Contentment is a dead end.” Amen. Every time I try to explain to my friends that I don’t want to be happy, I want to be fulfilled, they don’t get it. Endless striving is the gateway to humility. I think many people are afraid of humility, of being something more than they are. If a man doesn’t want children… run in the other direction.

[@MariaElena51185]

I’ve had two marriages that failed and I’ve taken responsibility for my part in that. I now have my inner wholeness. But of course being alone is not for me. Lack of wisdom and brainwashed by the culture in my first marriage very young. For security in my second marriage. Now I’m wondering if it’s too late to marry again, a soulmate as defined by this rabbi in another video. I am not Jewish and this topic is not just for jews. I simply recognise the wisdom here which deeply reached my soul. It’s a universal, non-religious message to me. It’s a spiritual message. Marriage is a high calling especially in these times of chaos and degeneration/devolution. A man wants to become more. That’s a real man. This rabbi is wise, but you don’t have to be a rabbi to be wise. His talk on soulmates getting married was another talk that touched me deeply. I’m 70 and have wisdom from experience. I want to feel Home (make a real home) at last but of course not to create children. I’ve done that and they suffered and they recreate what I learned from my parents, and from me. Separation patterns. Lack of intimacy. But I believe they chose me as I did my parents. I know this to be true for me. I create a real home with a new soulmate. My intention. I am young at heart. Open and vulnerable. 😅 I have always wanted a husband and to be married but didn’t know what that really is until now. I am traditional in my soul., and at last I know this is my purpose, and a noble one at that.🎉

[@spencerroyal4109]

A couple that serves the Lord together and has HIM in charge of the marriage is a blessing. Serve each other for His glory.

[@SaintCharbelMiracleworker]

"Marriage is a duel to the death which no man of honor should decline." - GK Chesterton.

[@evka24]

What a dramatic statement..love it

[@nimagirengineers2854]

Thank you Rabbi Friedman Manis. Listerning to your messages has always been up lifting, having positive effects arround the globe.

[@MW-nh6sc]

Just found you sir, and I am learning so much This message in particular hits hard in 2023 when so many young Americans do not want to be married and reject responsibilities. Young women now say they “don’t need” a man and many men now say marriage is too much work AND they say they can’t find a good woman. This message is free gold. Thank you!

[@kenricsmith2825]

Thank you for the wonderful message 🤝🏿

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

Beautiful - soulful commentary ❤

[@raeesahmed9740]

Thank you Rabai. You are a good teacher.

[@nattyasrat2078]

the way you explain it is satisfying

[@mariebarrett7177]

Learning about the male species, marriage and more... Amazing! And i hope you identify with your wisdom and success! God bless you.. your a wonderful man, mr rabbi friedman!

[@tunesart4542]

What a wisdom 🙏never heard this perspective ❤️

[@heavensLuv]

The only thing that makes me happy and keeps me going is being in God's presence!!! It's the only thing I got, and I want to give that out to others His fullness of joy!!! 🌈🕊️🆙🕊️🌈

[@nitaicohen783]

Thank you Rabbi for these wise words! I love listening to you

[@edwardwilliams6787]

Soul mates me and my wife ,was poor and got foodstamps,wife said we will lose it if we get married I said baby we are going with God I believe in Margaret, and God gave us more.

[@damianlopez7630]

The system operates in a Satanic Modus Operandi. I couldn't marry my wife because they'll also take our government aide away. She is still my wife!!! No matter what Satan says!!! Holy Father GOD In Heaven Will Have The Final Word!!!

[@margaretmorris6907]

Thank you.

[@gregmacd2829]

Rabbi Friedman goes far beyond being Jewish, as Catholic I love and listen to everything he says because he speaks to the human side of me, and I agree in what he says,

[@jagjeetsihra2862]

I guess Rabbi what you're talking about is that marriage increases one's depth of experiences, good or bad.. Talking to my brother yesterday- who's been married for many years and has two grown daughters, he told me the exact thing- as a bachelor in my late fifties, i was told there's experiences that i cannot comprehend unless I've lived through them. Fair enough. . 😀 But honestly i would say that there's hope out there for anyone who's keen.

[@24x7Naga]

Thank you O great and noble Teacher

[@uhohotdog3483]

I like that notion of Y we R always striving 😊

[@lizdelisle1912]

I agree. To continue to grow,(improve) is to live. Once you stop growing, you begin to die.

[@gregglockhart9551]

You could have named this video,”How to make the best of a difficult situation”. I think that wherever you encounter difficulties in any kind of relationship,it’s showing you where you have a lack of self acceptance. The reason we’re not living in Eden is because we’re keeping parts of ourselves outside of our loving acceptance. Eden is a state of unconditional acceptance of all of oneself.

[@Esico6]

I like it.

[@chloeshapero3851]

What do I think? I’m becoming a we after 23 years and Baruch HaShem a whole in the heart need not hold anyone back. Thank you as always; maybe I’ll become a VIP-WE! Thank you. CM Shapero who forwarded it before I listened. Knew I’d forward it after, so got a jump start.

[@ShannonsBibleStudy]

That's cool.

[@dominicpereira6006]

A woman thinks of her future till she is married. A man thinks of his future after getting married.

[@NoRushpk]

eeeeeehh A woman says, "I am married." A man says, "I got married." Her view is more appropriate

[@yourcanadianscotsauntynanc9946]

Marriage has a salvation aspect to it as well . God has saved us from sinning, God gives us the help , His grace to us is merciful with marriage ,

[@genevelis6075]

How do you know that the animal does not want to become another animal and always content when has food? Did you ask animals or did you have live long study about it? The recipe for a good long lasting marriage: 1) conservative values for a husband and wife. ... 2) Ability and opportunity for the husband to provide and support family and children.

[@edwardwilliams6787]

Because it's in the Bible about animals

[@genevelis6075]

@@edwardwilliams6787 Please point in the Torah, where it’s said that.

[@undergrace1808]

You have to be self-aware in order to want to change, animals are not self-aware. I agree with your recipe for long lasting marriage.

[@genevelis6075]

@@undergrace1808 Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the subject.

[@tonneleigh-un9ne]

I heard that.

[@scottragan829]

Thank you Rabbi

[@andrewpinkham9904]

Isn’t it better to dwell in the wilderness then with a contentious woman.I’ve found most feminists/modern women contentious

[@spencerroyal4109]

Find one that follows the Lord's above her family or anything else, and a good example is described in Proverbs 31

[@NoRushpk]

SouthEast Asia my man 👍⚘

[@disbsam333]

@@NoRushpk rofl I'm in Vietnam, best comment ever

[@ciraarroyofuentes4692]

When I divorced do I have the right to choose anotrher husband for not being just me and my past life because I want yo get in another marriage to continuing be more than me or more than I already have now.

[@stevecoley8365]

All I ever prayed for is to not live this life alone. But I guess I attract what I resist. Living alone is like existing in giant black hole in space that is completely absent of light, warmth, love, life, joy, magic, meaning, beauty and wisdom. And it stinks like "hell" as well.

[@efbrough]

Expressed very well...

[@evka24]

Please if you ever meet lady you like say these words to,her….if she is seeking serious relationship she would be won over….I would …good luck

[@onlinemarketer4510]

Hey Rabbi Friedman, me and my wife have been married for 13 years but i feel she lost all respect for me and i have done that too for her. She doesn't see me as the man she fell in love with but rather as a person providing for the family and a good father but that is it. She is intimate with me a few times per year and I resent that. As a man i need to be intimate with my wife more often, but i dont want to force her to be intimate with me if she doesn't desire it. Is there a way back from this if this has already happened? Do i need to better myself, get stronger, better in every way so that i can be of higher worth to her or all is lost and i just need to look for someone else?

[@evka24]

Ask her what does she needs …on Romantic way…maybe date nights…cook for help, help,her in house , give her compliments on house, food looks, say all the things you like about her…start repairing her pain…she ,ay do that too in return…..don’t expect intimacy immediately…let it brew and build …or seek marriage counselling…they will teach you how to communicate etc

[@logiramasamyr5955]

Hi

[@yerushalayimkodush5706]

It would be humbling, very comforting, and Peace inducing to be able to hear the voice, of the chosen Queen of the kingdom of the House of Jacob-Israel: My future - My Wife to Be המישיח של ישי

[@logiramasamyr5955]

Hi

[@mariebarrett7177]

💜

[@CarlosMarquez-tw3pf]

🙏

[@yourcanadianscotsauntynanc9946]

Wonderfully said, This stems over into all this gender perversion desire 10 th commandment , thou shalt not covet , to many jealous people who want to be like someone else and aren’t content how God made them

[@edzaslow]

I've been married a total of 35 years out of my life, and counting. If I ever found myself to be single again, I'm sure I would look to get remarried. I wouldn't want to live any other way. Men really need to be married.

[@Smokillo]

Why do they need to be married ?

[@damianlopez7630]

@@Smokillo Most Normal men want to be Married. Because it provides emotional stability. Women also want to be married. Because it also provides emotional and social stability. But Lucifer The Lying Serpent has Lied to and has twisted and deceived humanity... NOW MEN WANT TO BE GAY AND GO OUT WITH OTHER MEN AND WOMEN WANT TO BE MEN AND CLAIM TO NO LONGER NEED MEN. THE WHOLE PLANET IS TREMENDOUSLY DECEIVED.

[@naomipatrao]

'Yooman' being.

[@farooqpervez8940]

Play at 1.5x speed

[@fikirm1283]

100%%%%%%

[@CarlosMarquez-tw3pf]

Have children of your own some weard onterelation of nechama if it s oral you can get it sowgere else a team of two is a team of 3 as Lubavitcher said. We are in thecsame wave of thaight my friend Rabbi Manish shavua tov

[@andromedaq3719]

Well we don't speak animal so we don't know what they think it want.

[@bennyvarkey3795]

Improve your vocal spend.

[@paretho]

What Men Get From Marriage : 1. Sex >> 1 to 2 years its gettin boring , thats why 1 year release said Moses. Animal lived with sex daily 1 to 2 years >> dead 2. Intimacy Look at King David 3. Relationship Look at Abraham ( oh Sarah is really Naughty ... ) Look at Yitshak daughter in Law Look at Yakoov's Family ( the solid team in family ever in Planet Earth ) 4. A ship - Blessing Look at Abraham ( oh Sarah is really Naughty ... ) >> Hardship Look at Yitshak daughter in Law >> Gold digger daugther in Law Look at Solomon >> kingdom, 1.000 wife ?? 5. Children - Blessing Look at Yakoov Children of Yakoov 6. Loyality Look at Abigail ( king david's Wife ) 7. Parenting Look at Abigail how she raised Kaleb and Solomon. Look at Leah ( Yakoov 1st Wife ) Look at Joseph 8. Hot Wife Look at Rachel 9 . WIld Sex Look at Bathsheba 10. Dominating Look at King David ( all his wifes obey him ) 11. Love Look at King David and Abigail ( till death do us part ) other wife , Pleasure .. 12. The best Lamb soup Ribka , yitzhak wife anyone have her recipe ? the Lamb so soft , tender ... even when you stroke the bone ... oh man ... No wonder Yitzhan miss intepret between Esau and yakoov. how come I remember the tase ... its like chiken tender meat ... so soft ... we are all here now , because God have covenant with Anchestor not with us.

[@jayTerry9]

Nope 🙅🏻 I wasn't sold I'll better myself by reading books and lifting weights.

[@markfischer3626]

Why do men die before their wives? Because they want to. Why do married men live longer than single men? The don't, it just seems that way. What is the role of a woman in a man's life? When he realizes that one day he's going to die she's there to make him realize he might be better off.

[@edzaslow]

Okay, Mark. How many bad Borscht Belt jokes can you come up with?

[@nirmalan5590]

Why ask this question now? Should have asked this to Avram.

[@phoenix5054]

Why do old men give advice to young men without realizing how much things have changed, with vacuous metaphors no less, and pass it off as wisdom?

[@porcudracului]

Maybe you have a blindspot. Someone wiser and more detached can see things from a different perspective, and conclude that only the distractions changed, nothing fundamental did. That's a why. There's others. If you don't understand the advice, you might not be ready to see it, doesn't mean the advice is not good for you.

[@humble.pie.]

The older you get the more you'll realize that nothing is new. History repeats itself.

[@samihassan5158]

Everything revolves around money , a successful career , this is what a successful man is for the vast majority of women I am done with it ...since the God of money is Baal...I d rather be a looser in a world full of injustice and no it's ok to be just ME when everything is falling apart and things are meaningless...give up

[@aw9680]

I disagree with the contentment claim. There are many animals which "appear" to want to be something else. And I know many humans who don't "appear" to want to be something else. Your statements assume some authority for these ideas. Sorry, you don't have that type of authority. No one does.

[@fgh680]

It seems like you are taking ideas from @Sadhguru videos...but aren't completely clear about them.

[@AA-oc9vu]

I doubt it very much, Where is SADguru’s wife? Look into it before you bleat about Rabbi Friedman.

[@teresacastillo1783]

sleeping beuties

[@timorean320]

I shot some toxic masculinity on a womans shirt on accident last week. I apologized, and told her club soda should take stain out, if not, I'd gladly pay for her dry cleaning.

[@abidalihuseini2889]

What nonsense

[@nirmalan5590]

A different wife in every birth😜 And then like Avram ,the wives come together in one birth. With multiple branches that you call Judaism , Islam, Christianity.😀No wonder there's no peace.

[@timilehinajao8127]

Seems like these days - the concept of Marriage is increasingly intimidating... Perhaps being scared is healthy. It's a humbling sacrifice that requires more of you. It will place you in a state of dependence and you'll definitely need to partner with the one who created it (God). As the man of the home (The example of Christ) so many will grow to rely on you for many things - Guidance, Love, Wisdom, Money (extremely problematic FYI), Security. I imagine it gets overwhelming and this is why I also believe we will have to be more. I'm certain if Men take on the full responsibility of creating and leading a family, they will be stretched for the ones that need them. There is much to be appreciated in the stretching.

[@faithchi8729]

I know your comment is from 2 years ago but it’s has much wisdom. Like theres going to be a lot of work… but one day you’ll look back when those kids are out of the house and there’s grandkids coming in & you’ll be at rest. Continuing a lineage requires much sacrifice. Your comment also makes me think why it’s important for woman’s submission as the man is taking on a lot. Even women being the primary caretakers of children with the late nights attending to babies, organising lunches, getting the children ready… eventually it will end and you’ve grown in wisdom and passing to the new mothers ect. You’ll look at the person you stuck by through it all and grew more in love with (if you put in the effort & your marriage first) and just be grateful to God for bringing you through. Gods gifts are beautiful.