What New Expats Need to Know About Dating in the Philippines!! It’s Definitely Different!!!

A brief talk about dating and it’s difference between the US and the Philippines.

[@highdesertforester]

As a happily married to a Filipina for 15 years now I have this advice: look for someone at least 25, a college graduate, gainfully employed, fluent in English, and then check out her family. They also should be gainfully employed. Then you have to be sure she has no kids and is not married. Marriages are recorded so you can check that out. If she is from a good family she should have a chaperone on the first date; her older sister or brother or a close girlfriend. Red flag if this is not the case - it's part of the culture. If you pass inspection then you should expect to be presented to all the aunties, grandparents and girlfriends. If this doesn't happen - red flag. Take it slow. Don't look for the prettiest girl, look for the best girl. If you find her you've won the lottery and you'll be happy for the rest of your life.

[@jamesrecknor6752]

Underrated comment!

[@woodworld1121]

There are basically 3 major groups of Filipinas. 1. Highly-successful Filipinas that include licensed professionals in top management jobs, and successful business owners and entrepreneurs. They share a small percentage of the entire single Filipina population. This group will never date or marry an old ex-pat who is living off his pension. You see the reason why. 2. Working Filipinas. These women have decent jobs like regular jobs in manufacturing, hospitality, government, and other private sectors. These women can support themselves financially. I've been working with Filipinas in their early 20s to middle 30' for more than two decades now and I can say 100% that no one of my current 65 young female subordinates would date a 60-year-old ex-pat who is living off his pension. This group is the happiest group of women. Here in Luzon, they comprise more than 70% of the single Filipina population (excluding students), and more than 60% of single female college graduates in Bacolod, Cebu, and Iloilo. 3. And then we have the third group. Single moms, jobless, and uneducated. Now, because of their given financial and economic condition, I say 9 out of 10 of them will likely date a 60-year-old ex-pat. There is also a very small percentage of the jobless and uneducated single Filipina (not single mom) population who fall in this category. Let's add call center agents who are tired and exhausted from their jobs. Since they are exposed to foreigners, there is also a possibility that they would date an old ex-pat. More than 90% of women who date old 60+-year-old ex-pats are from this category. Why I am explaining this? Because whenever a vlogger mentions "Filipina", we should not generalize all Filipinas. People who date foreign old ex-pats are not the embodiment of the whole single Filipina population. Let's be real. This may sound offensive but the only reason a Filipina would date an old ex-pat is that they want to survive. There's nothing wrong with this as long as the Filipina is not scamming her partner. Talking about dating, again, the "Filipinas" mentioned by most vloggers (local or foreign vloggers) are not the embodiment of the whole single Filipina population.

[@fruitloops3718]

If I've said it once or twice I'll say it again: don't get married. You can have a long term relationship but you don't have to get married. I want a woman that is a professional and wants to enjoy my company. I don't want to foot the bill for her struggling family. That's just not for me. Been there done that.

[@MegaFlow23]

I was talking to one pinay for over a year, she wanted me to pay to build a house for her and mom on her land and take care [$$$] so she can give her parents a better life. I said you are 10 siblings if each give 10% of your income to your parents they will be happy and good life. Why expect from someone whom you haven’t even met. That was the end 😂

[@boomAJ6104]

🤣

[@greglodrup5977]

sad to heard it.

[@buckytravelsplaces7581]

Gotta Vet !

[@phil-be-health]

As a Filipino I recommend finding a girl close to your age range. Age gaps becoming more and more problematic as time goes by.

[@tomgerryinphilippines8817]

Good video Subject. I had met and become friends with filipina on Facebook. I spent 3 years video chatting before I came to the Philippines. We have very good relationship. I would have never considered coming to Philippines looking to meet a woman unless I had already been planning to visit and retire here. I got very lucky and she is my best friend and we share a good life together. I have heard some horror stories on KZbin about guys who got scammed. When I met my girlfriend she was in her 30's and me in my 50's. There is no way I would be one of those 70 year olds dating young 20 something. I agree with everything you said. I am happier than ever and we have been in friendship/relationship for over 10 years now. I got lucky considering I never ever thought that the Philippines would be where I am now retired.

[@johncawvey5342]

Hey you were meant to be Tom and Gerry lol 😂

[@frankellis9627]

You're speaking my language, Steve. I'm coming to the Philippines next year and I have dating requirements. College grad, age: 28-35, and no kids. I've found that the majority of the college educated women don't have kids. A lot of expats don't realize that they are the prize. You can be picky. I have a slight advantage because I was already stationed in the Philippines. I know the lay of the land 😎

[@peter.harding]

I had a few Filipino girlfriends in the states before I got married and the last one was a divorcee with two daughters which I had no problem with but after only two months of dating her and her friends were constantly talking about getting married. I am someone who likes to take his time with big decisions and that may have contributed to our breakup but it has worked out for the better. It took two years of dating with my current wife and it has lasted 24 years so far. Something things are not worth rushing.

[@Elvin6219]

Hey, Steve! My wife is from the province, and we're six years apart. We've been married 16 1/2 years and I'm very happy!

[@Anthony__420]

The Pinays I talk to on line they say I love you within a week

[@GUITARTIME2024]

That's a red flag

[@boomAJ6104]

Runnnnn bro 🏃‍♂️

[@JasperinthePhilippines]

Excellent advice. Marry someone after you’ve known them for years. Meet in person. date for 6 months then consider moving them in. Step by step. You don’t know a woman til you see her angry depressed etc. Take your time as many Filipinas like to say in conversation.

[@joshuarizalforeman816]

I've commented on your videos before because I find them useful, especially to newbies. My wife and I are content living here, in Rizal. We met in HK, 7 years ago, and then decided to relocate to the Philippines as a family 3 years ago. We have our son together and I have adopted her daughter as my own so she has a decent education, future and life. We own about 1m USD in property outright - no loans - and have savings and investments. We live well, in spacious, modern accommodation. She was a schoolteacher but is now a businesswoman, owning both commercial and residential properties and we earn about USD 3000 pcm. We are happy and our family is settled. I appreciate the way in which you dispel certain unrealistic notions foreigners may have about the Philippines. You cannot come here with 20,000 USD and expect to 'make it' as some other bloggers seem to imply. Please, no trolls. It seems that on the infrequent occasions I post a positive comment, I am beset by individuals trying to undermine my existence! and my masculinity because, maybe, I am happy with and trust my wife, and enjoy my life and my family. It's 1:am at he moment, I have a beer in my hand and I shall wake up tomorrow when I am ready, not when I have to.

[@MrSteven5975]

Great Comment!!! Not many trolls on my channel because they are automatically blocked.

[@edic2619]

Steve, you are always suggesting great advice, healthy advice, and good ideas. Thanks for helping everyone. Great job.

[@robertmcknight2882]

I met a beautiful lady that I talked to, she is 50 years old and I'm 60 ,she worked out of the Philippines for 25 years saved her money. After talking for 18 months I went to Philippines 2022 ,for 3weeks and we totally hit it off, so lm planning on moving this year 2023 . Learned a lot from Steve's videos 😊

[@tony9305]

Straight to the point and facts. Great video

[@johnclark1469]

Thanks Steve for the cautionary thoughts on the topic.

[@KingRat71]

If you are making $1200-1500 per month you should realize you are making two to three times what most Filipinos make who are employed in regular full time jobs. So they view you as “well off”. But you need to realize that girl can spend that $1200 in a heartbeat especially as she will likely want to support her family. Plus you have to deal with the fact that a 20+ year old is likely not well educated and very naive and that will get old fast. You can find a wonderful 35-50 year old woman who is much more mature, better educated or at least life experienced, and frankly most filipinas age much better than us westerners. So they can stil look 30 at age 50 while we are going grey and our skin is showing its age. You will be much happier in the long run with someone you can talk to and who can appreciate and participate in a solid conversation and truly share a life with. And if she is only 10-15 years younger than you the physical side is still there. The younger ones are much more desperate, unstable, and likely to cause you major headaches.

[@boomAJ6104]

Amen. I can attest to this whooooo hooooo

[@rfbos]

💯 % The truth

[@Srichardson64]

Excellent vid Mr Lawrence... hope it opens some eyes and make some guys think ;)

[@martypoll]

The economic disparity is a new and huge issue. Imagine the relationship issues in the US between a professional (business person, engineer, lawyer), 20-25 years into their career path, and a woman 10-20 years years younger than them who works at the checkout counter in Walmart. Nothing wrong with the work you do but there is going to be a lot of issues due to the social class disparity. Also, marrying into a family with a small farm. Small farms in Asia work the same as small farms in the US or anywhere. They borrow money hoping to make a profit on whatever it is they grow but it is an economically precarious business and you are tying yourself to that.

[@undercover1968ru]

When I met my first filipina girlfriends family, they asked me when would we get married. I was like we have only been together for 5 weeks," and they said we'll how long would I wait I said well your 2 sons each have children with their gf and been together for ovee 4 years plus an they aren't married they didn't like that needless to say we ended about week later

[@DHarri9977]

Hey Steve, good talk, I could only imagine at this point some of the obstacles or differences in the dating scene in listening to the many cautionary tales of others who have had bad and in some cases costly experiences. The fact that you and others take the time and pass this sort of information along to guys like me to avoid certain scenarios is appreciated. I'll most likely be one of the people that'll date here and there when I arrive but first things first, it's my retirement which will involve the usual transition period, learning the lay of the land, etc, and seeing where it takes me. The retirement part will overshadow the relationship aspect of retiring there, anyway thanks again.

[@mikesimpson9997]

Smart move.

[@aabikrman]

I've watched several of your videos and I'm now subscribed ! Thank you for being direct as well as relaying a contextual aspect of your subject matter. I've been watching numerous videos i preparation for a Philippines visit. My desire is for a "grounded" ex-pat's perspective and I'm not interested in wasting my time in the red-light districts and where to go to find...." I get a little anxious with other content creators because I feel their context is often too narrow and or they're wasteful of their audience's time. Yes, I recognize the irony of my comment related to time and I'm planning a trip to the Philippines, haha... Seriously, I tend to speak more directly like you and I certainly appreciate your wide context. I happen to be one of those you mention in that I've been divorced three times, twice to the same woman so some would say twice divorced. The point is that yes, finding a "life partner", "wife", etc., is an issue worthy of serious thought so as not to wind up in the same kind of situation you previously escaped ! There is no need to rush and only ignore warning signs at your peril ! Once again, good talk, thank you !

[@clydesmith3437]

You are 100 percent right Steve. I agree with all you spoke on.right on point.

[@hanshansen5789]

10/4 Anthony. It would be interesting to poll prospective expats on what they consider Lola. Young women have libidos too. An exercise in juggling fire… I too vowed not to marry again (divorced at 30 - 35 years ago) until I found an enduring match. Have dated many since, a few seriously but no marriage. Many of those Xs are my closest and most enduring friends, and I’ve been perfectly happy with that. It’s easy to see the potential for complicated exhaustion dating multiple Filipina women within a short period of time but if you are looking for a good match it’s probably what is necessary, though you might want to consider one’s willingness to relocate if you do much of it though. As Steve said, things can get sticky. American women might be heartbroken but psychologically/culturally oriented to move on. I met my companion through professional circles almost 8 years ago. We’ve had plenty of time to get to know each other. She’s 10 years younger, a widow with a college aged son and elderly mother, we both have college degrees and strong common interests. There are a few distinct differences as well, we have to work on. We are engaged. I’m retiring next year, planning to move to the Philippines. One of the biggest lessons learned is that until you get to know a Filipina’s family and friends you don’t know what you are getting into. One thing a female Filipina doctor told me recently in a conversation about marriages that don’t work out (what she is doing) is that people marry, have kids, separate and move on (…form a new family, often without annulment). Tricky even for a Filipino/Filipina. I certainly wouldn’t recommend that path for an expat. Be careful guys.

[@jimbrowder628]

Always thank you ! The first one was a Billerica lady, yes ! The next,and hopefully last will be from the Philippines!!! I really hope so

[@barryinthepi390]

Good information Steve. When we moved here, I had to go to a Hospital for my health exam for the SRRV. The Doctor at the hospital was a single, late 20's, and really good looking. There are well educated women here that would love to meet a Foreigner. Oh, thanks for helping my Friend Allen, who is planning to move here soon.

[@saintluke2nd]

A nice refresher, thank you

[@tomper2204]

Wow , thanks for hitting on this subject.

[@youtubetroll6620]

don't marry your lust. marry your type. and the most important issue is... DON'T FORGET THE PINAY HAS DREAMS TO, AND YOU SHOULD RESPECT THAT.

[@danielprout3837]

Yes being aware of the baggage / good perceptions

[@edic2619]

Great information. Thanks.

[@billharrisjazzbluesandmore7948]

Awesome advice thanks

[@shaneross64]

I love what you just said about a power couple. Maybe that is a better match. Someone with a great career and educated enough to have stimulating conversations. I'm a history buff/ fanatic. I've spent thousands of hours learning world history and geography and how wars throughout history changed the face of countries. It would be nice to share things with someone who isn't totally ignorant of what has happened in human affairs.

[@craigschuler1547]

You must always remember that a four year college degree here is about equivalent to a high school diploma in the west.

[@kenrice]

I would very much like to learn from your knowledge and experiences. How did you come to this conclusion? Thank you/

[@sbw89]

I started serial dating when I first started coming to the Philippines. Kind of stressful. I did finally meet a gal and have been seeing her for a year now. One thing to understand, you still have to keep up on your looks in order to date 8s, 9s and 10s. 1. Workout and keep your weight down. Muscles = healthy youthful look. 2. Filipinos have good teeth so they'll notice yours. Fix them... 3. Feet. Get a pedicure, they notice your feet for some reason. 4. Hair and beard. I have goatee but understand, filipinas are generally not into beards. Get a haircut and consider dying your hair for a slightly more youthful look. Just a few tips and this is only my opinion. Dating in the Philippines is 1000% easier than the US...

[@Peregrine8977]

You are right Sir, i agree,

[@franciscusjohannesburger3720]

Thanks for advice .

[@jamesrecknor6752]

Very, very well said, sir.

[@jkim7]

Thank you for the good info.

[@dougsmith9940]

The woman(she's 45) I've been video chatting with for 14 months is a housekeeper who doesn't make much money and probably not real educated but I really like her and plan to go see her about May next year when she can get time off from work. She told me she has two grown daughter one that lives with her in Manila in a room in her employers house. Early on she said she loves me and talked about marriage but not anymore as I told her we need to meet and get to know each other. I'm 72 retired with a good income of about $1,800 a month with some stocks and bonds and an annuity. After watching a lot of your videos I'm weary of just looking at this one woman but after I visit her for a couple weeks I may find that there are well educated and financially better off woman I could be looking at. I'm not sure where this will lead me but just hope I don't do something that will cause for problems.

[@Peregrine8977]

I like this channel very informative. And thanks Sir for your video.

[@MrSteven5975]

🙏🏻

[@Bryster51]

My prospect is 51, I'm 60, we online chat almost every day. Will visit her in April to see eye to eye and decide if we move forward. She is very fluent in English by being OFW for 15 years. Her partner of 7 years passed away 3 years ago in the Phillipines. She knows how to make foods from different countries. And so many other shared likes on everything from Music to Movies. Looking forward.....

[@ChristopherKnN]

If you are dating and you hear "buy me ..." from the girl, that is exactly what you are doing. A good Filipina will not directly ask you for anything, they will appreciate what you provide.

[@dannyboy8644]

This was an eye opener video for me. A lot of what you said I know, BUT, because I am not familiar with the Filipino culture, you gave me a much clearer perspective of the realities of phillipine lifestyle. This was a GREAT VIDEO FOR ME. Thanks....you brought me back to reality, some very good insights.

[@MrSteven5975]

Thanks 🙏🏻

[@Peregrine8977]

You are right, So pals please don’t fall those girls who are looking for quick opportunities to life luxury.

[@buddylewis2743]

Good talk Steve.

[@johnclark1469]

Steve, on this subject I would like to learn more about the cultural differences between the 3xPat favorite regions of Cavite, Dumaguete, and Davao. there seem to be differences in infrastructure, pollution, ethics as well. Vloggers in the Negros region are more numerous.

[@richieredw9218]

You're right, many men get blinded by the attention that many younger Filipinas give them and before you know it you're hooked up with the " wrong girl" no offence to the not so educated Filipinas, but for me I'll prefer to have a mature, educated Filipina with more life experience, they're also not telling you they love you after a week. On that other hand it's hard to make judgement of the lady you're dating, unless she's up front with what her life is about.

[@michaelscott3359]

As always good lnfo lm on my way there probably March 2003 you continue to help me to myself centerd

[@boomAJ6104]

Steven, you nailed it again 👏

[@MrSteven5975]

Thanks 🙏🏻

[@marcrichard7251]

I enjoy all your videos Steve….my girlfriend is 28 and mature but I’m not going to jump into marriage even tho we’ve known each other for 4 years. I should be there next year so I will see what she’s like to be with 24 - 7 ?

[@fhanatic11]

good info for any country. poor relationship choices are not country specific

[@ministryoftruth8588]

Considering a different approach. Finding a filipina GF and bringing her to Thailand, Cambodia, Laos or Vietnam, and either living with her, or setting her up in a cheap apartment there. I've dated filipinas in the Philippines in the past, and sometimes their family and friends caused tension, division, and stress. I'm not sure how to word this to sound acceptable, but seems if I had a pinay GF come with me to another country (NOT Mine, the US, which would require marriage & being subjected to family law), I'd be in a much better position of 'leverage'. I think the odds of being 'extorted' would be low also, which would be more my motivation than 'leverage', by her having less 'power' to pull the 'extortion card' giving me much more 'leverage'. She'd be more likely to actually "think before acting out" if she's in a foreign country dependant on me. I have this fear, which is totally legit, of accidently dating a married filipina, which even if she lied resulting in me having no idea she was married, I'd be "guilty of adultery", which is a crime in the Philippines. Also I fear dating single moms unknowingly, who may be married, or may falsely accuse me if things went south ... you know for what ... which would be a very powerful 'extortion crowbar' indeed, since such a false allegation could get me jailed for life. Of course I'd do some vetting by dating her for several months in the Philippines 1st. Seems like this would be a great idea, and I believe with these countries a filipina can just visit with her passport, not needing special immigration approval like 1st world countries require. If things went south, I'd just buy her a plane ticket and she can return to the Philippines. If she falsely accused me of anything, it would likely be "out of jurisdiction" since the 'false allegation' occurred outside of the Philippines. I could do this in reverse as well, bringing a Thai, Lao, Cambodian or Vietnamese girl to the Philippines, which may even give me more 'leverage', being they'd likely speak intermediate english at best. I don't trust these girls, all of which now own smart phones, especially after "MeToo" and man hating 4th wave feminism ... "Woke" is the 'unwritten law of the land' now ... which I'm sure many girls in SE Asian countries are 'studying up' on.

[@MrSteven5975]

They figure out something sooner or later.

[@jefflay8515]

Some women start out loving you….until the next man comes around. It seems that they live in the moment and can’t see the big picture. I’m talking LDR

[@abidnessman]

Good one!

[@MrSteven5975]

Thanks 🙏🏻

[@jamesrecknor6752]

In my experience in Philippines this is one hundred percent accurate.

[@mikec8057]

Very good insight, I've only dated one Filipina since I've been here in the Philippines 6 months. But there are some issues mostly Financial. It's not terrible. But I think about the future. Because she does have kids she has a good family but they're going to have needs too. But there's no way I can support everybody she's a wonderful woman very honest very hard working. We'll see. The great issues good wisdom as usual thanks for the great insight.

[@buckytravelsplaces7581]

Tread carefully

[@michaelwright1467]

Great assessment here sir. My wife was poor but very smart. I instantly saw that. She is now an RN here in New Mexico. But He family was a complete drain over there. So much so, I got us back to the USA so I could have some peace of mind. We are fine now.

[@LifeBackwardsPhilippines]

So True Steve

[@christophermeaney5485]

Hello Steve it would be very interesting if you could get one of the guys a few of them to sit in the hood in the back of your house and have a little q&A about some of us having questions it'd be nice to meet them and I think it'd be very interesting and I know you've already thought of this but I love to see it we love to see it brother StayWell!!??

[@smoozerish]

Good info 👍

[@PKent]

I was just thinking aboutg the education thing you mentioned. College education in the us a major predictor of whether or not a woman will initiate divorce so I was wary of that part but its good to know its different.

[@DeeCebu]

The thing about filipinas ..not all. But most, most would like marriage eventually in a relationship.

[@George-Aguilar]

Please more topics on this

[@mortenhansen8993]

getting a careerwoman when you are retired raise the question? when are you two seeing eachother when she is working and you are at home?

[@MichaelAbele8113]

This is all interesting, but where do you start????

[@YLZN0013]

Great advice and perspective

[@MrSteven5975]

I appreciate that!

[@davidgonzales917]

Just walk around and say you're looking for a maid to clean your apartment for 5 days not the weekends just Monday to Friday and interview them and I guarantee you the one you pick and a week or so maybe even a couple days she'll be your instant girlfriend do it that way

[@zdcruz0514]

And true enough! I like your inputs. We feel the same way, we feel expats are here only for young ladies 😊. How would we know 🤔

[@paulosborne782]

How about a video on the legal entanglements when an expat settles on a lady who is separated but NOT divorced from the PH father of her 2-3 kids. PH laws seem to favor the non divorced PH father rights when the expat moves in with the non divorced lady and her kids. I am clearly confused about what problems the father can cause for the expat.

[@MrSteven5975]

Nothing if he is living with a woman already. In most cases it never goes anywhere. Ask a lawyer like I did and in 99.99% of these cases nothing happens. Most Vloggers are full of bologna on this issue. Ask an attorney and you will get the same answer I got unless you got a dumb lawyer. It just doesn’t happen in most cases.

[@Eric-qm5xw]

Here’s the one problem ..mens wants …women needs..we are so different. Steve you are bang on .

[@J.D.Vision]

Im not looking for serious relationships, just friends with benefits. Is there anything like Thailand's GIK system in the Philippines, is that acceptable?

[@timcastleberry6187]

Great info Steve. Not looking for a woman right away. Want to see the country. If and when the time comes 35-45 would be a good age. And will certainly not go into it quickly while thinking with the wrong head 🤣 Coming out there in a couple months.

[@fredandretrondsen9015]

Very true .Foreigners can experience their wordt nightmare ,if choose the wrong Filipina . There are even a documentary here on KZbin ,about a wealthy businessman from U.K, who got killed by his poor wife from Samar . She got her local bf and his friend, to do the actual murder. That British man ,was in his 40s and they had 2kids together. I personally have a Swedish friend, who was threten by the family of his ex Filipina . That was going on for sone years. Now he only go to Luzon Island, far from the Island they live..

[@Peregrine8977]

Just a heads up men please check a background first or know the girls first before you jump in.

[@tswej]

Sunshine Shoulders said the same thing you are talking about. I don't think you should sleep with them until you've vet her. I would go so far as to hire a lawyer to do a background check.

[@blockaderunner]

I'm makin way more (with low expenses) but it's not "retirement" income but peak working life income. That's a ways off.

[@darryljohnson143]

havent seen you in a minuet hoping all is good

[@glenntumbuush223]

I came over to the Philippines from December 3 to January 26 I spent 8 months as a ldr relationship she is 56 2 college degrees and her own house paid for kids are grown 2boys also college degrees... I head just a great time I'm coming back to sta Barbara for good April 15 2023.

[@pspano143]

the young beautiful ones are tempting for sure... but there is a cost.. i like to think when come there ill be more selective.. as a guy chemistry is important in and out of the bedroom.. i think a good approach for me would be to always remember try not to hurt anyone.. once you bed them no matter how it goes as a pinay they feel its for life once that happens.. even if you tell them lets enjoy and see what happens.. its tricky.. or dont bring them home to your place meet them for a fun week end away .. it seems deceptive but its better then having someone showing up at your house.. i think try and get my own self use to my new surroundings.. Steve you do a lot of good service.. youre a good example.. cant thank you enough.. hope we can meet in person.. ill be there in april.. just got back here monday.. was in manila and then bohol, Panglao...

[@A-RHINO-IN-THE-PHILIPPINES]

Do you know of anybody buildinga home in your area? Contractors and cost.

[@MJY3692]

an older guys perscpetive ... very apreciated

[@DandMtravel]

Can I date someone with only $500 a month? I am planning to live in a boat, I don't know if they would let me be anchored in some cove.

[@MrSteven5975]

Don’t come with that amount

[@craigjordan7835]

At 7:36, yea, how many guys are going to choose the age gap relationship because they can? You really have to ask and get the answers to the tough questions before getting into such a relationship. But most won't...so

[@richardleach1706]

Tho it would be fun to hangout with pretty and young gals, but I agree if you're after a wife you absolutely need middle-aged. You have to be able to keep up are you will be left behind.

[@wingandhog]

Good topic. If I was looking for a new mate, I would only look for an educated / professional woman for the exact reasons you state. Why? Because that’s my own background

[@ksmithpmp]

Why Mrs right? What’s the purpose or advantage to a man for getting into a marriage contract vs having a personal commitment without getting the government involved?

[@amwright2550]

Hi Steve, I’m going to be in Desma for a few days at the end of this week and thought it would be neat if my fiancé and I could meet up with you for lunch or something like that.

[@MrSteven5975]

We have our expat get together tomorrow at 1:30 at Chili’s in Alabang. It’s at Alabang Town Center Mall.

[@roberth3094]

With the age of ex-pats coming over there, The two main parameters should be women in their 30s or older, and have a job.

[@clydesmith3437]

Yes they are very secretive

[@johnconstantinelegaspi2790]

As a Filipino here's my suggestions to expats that wants to get marry a Pinay. Look for an educated woman, not someone from the province who didn't even finished elementary, you should look for a wife and not a maid. Go in Metro Manila where people are more educated.

[@smallnuts2]

Im talking to a girl for 7 months now. 6 days a week video chats. The one thing that bothers me is she says she wont have sex until she's married. Shes 30 and has 1 child that is 11. Shes in the province and I can see both sides. She says she doesnt want to be pregnant again if shes not married. The thing I find crazy is.... you get married but you cant own land, house etc and if she kicks you out. Nothing you can do about it.

[@allanrickhi6081]

Mr. Steven I adopted a grandmother, a daughter (widows) a granddaughter and two grandsons. I have been married 48 years and my wife here in New England is paying for the divorce so I can get married to Annie there in Cavite. I had a good friend in Lawrence MA and he worked on the submarine when he came home his wife divorced him, all he was left with the dog cute, I am sure you know him call me? Annie looks at all your video. I appreciate your position the Ambassador from Lawrence, MA

[@danielnor5508]

Thank you for another great video. I would only want to make a small comment. Many people in the west complain on Philippinas who are poor and get interested in a westerner, calling them golddiggers. The filippina might make 1USD a day, while the westerner might earn 100 times that. I wonder how many of the western women who complain would not be head over heels for a guy making 100 times their own income. But then it is called that the guy is "worldly", "successfull" or things like that. But somehow there is no complaints when an older male actor, or billioner marry a young western 18-25 year old girl. I think it is double standards.

[@pattskatoey3139]

Yes Steve they are very smart at deflecting when asked about their past.It’s always you are “judging” them but it is fine for them to want to know every minutia of your past. Some men feel they’ll not be in control if they date an educated or older woman and that shouldn’t be the case. Good advice as always Steve.

[@thelastgoodmaninjersey]

My only problem is that I can't get out to the Philippines for more than about a week at a time given my vacation schedule and commitments. How hard is it to fly your Filipina back home to the US for a visit if I find someone I like.

[@dustbusterz]

Not An Easy Task. The Philippine Government is Really Protective of Their Citizens( especially the Women) She's Gonna First Need her Passport. Second, she will need to Prove she has a Place to Stay in the Country she Plans to Visit. Next She needs to Prove She has Income for her Stay and a Return Ticket to Get Back, And A Place to Live once She Returns. Next, She will go thru a Couple interviews. Then if she plans to Stay with You, They are Gonna want Tons of Info About You A police Report, Proof Of Income, Proof of a Place To Stay. They may inquire About Your Education and More.

[@thinkforyourself9334]

Her getting a tourist visa isn't likely especially if she doesn't have strong ties to return to the Philippines such as a real money generating business or a well paying job. She needs some real travel history too. If she lists you as her main contact in the US that is a red flag as she will be looked at as a good candidate to overstay. A good Filipina friend of mine was denied two weeks ago. She has a well paying job here in the Philippines but her main US contact was her boyfriend. She also didn't have an international travel history.

[@buckytravelsplaces7581]

Extremely difficult

[@George-Aguilar]

❤

[@robertlong-eu6ii]

Hi Steve, I've been a subscriber for 3 years. I have been enjoying your posts and find them very helpful. Was set to retire there when the jab hit. I am a veteran and want do the SRRV retirement program. Will be traveling there very soon and would like to contact the woman you mentioned who can help with that. Would like to talk with you when it is convenient for you. My name is Robert Long

[@MrSteven5975]

Email me at [e-mail] and ask for my number and her email

[@rudolfantonmaier755]

The Filipinas are loyal to their family but not to you and the family expects you to support them financially whether I'm in Thailand or the Philippines it's the same everywhere Many Filipinas are not enlightened and have a poor education ( why so many single mothers???) In my case, I love independence, and when I want fun I go to a lady bar the choice is huge

[@aureamaskarino4659]

I like the way you explained , thank you. But for me getting to know each other first online is the first recipe. I am sure if me and the man are honest with each other it can build a good communication that lead to a good talk. I think we Filipinas are decent women. Especially if our search for a man is pure and true and I am sure men are decent too. Yea education helps so you will and understands each other but its not about the education its how it handles I might don't have much education but one of my problem is listening to the man. And I hardly understand . There are educated, decent woman , less education I don't think so we are not decent as compare to bachelors degree its how the man handles to a woman. Especially like my English not much okay okay. I am not sure you understands what I am trying to say. If an American is sincere and true for sure me as Filipina I am going to wear my sincerity whether the man is sincere or not .That is why its good to be friends first and no hurry to meet in person so both will know each other better. Just sharing my thoughts. I told the man are you going to get to know me? I wanted you to know that I want to walk in the aisle of marriage in my Catholic church. So I dont like to waste his time. Hopefully men too are not going to make love the woman if they are not try to marry them. Hopefully no trial and error. I am sorry men out there but please it supposed not to do that. If a man and a woman willing to sacrifice each other it will become successful. Itsy thinking just my thinking. We Filipina or example me. I am willing to die for my man. With no divorce.. And lastly hope an American has a feeling too by walking in the aisle of marriage not just court marriage.. I am asking an apology for my opinion I am just being true. God bless you and your endeavors

[@MrSteven5975]

Nice comment