What’s Dating like in Japan for Foreign women ?

[@takashiifromjapan]

TOKYO GUIDEBOOK takashifromjapan.com/tokyocompleteguide

[@salade99]

This might be just me, but I'm not confident enough to approach foreign women. On the other hand, foreign men tend to be more confident enough to approach Japanese women, and this might explain the reason for that.

[@natashka06]

I think that's a good point, plus the cultural differences on how to first approach someone might influence that. It's harder for Japanese men to approach to a foreign girl who might be shy, and the intentions may get confused with being friendly or 'cold'

[@pearl_heartsss]

I think it would be great for you to approach foreign women. ^-^

[@XhosaShinobi01]

oh yes, great observation. In every culture across the world the norm is for the man to do the approaching, so the Japanese man will most likely have to be the one to approach a foreign woman. And I can see why that would be intimidating.. different culture, language etc It's different from a Japanese girl who is approached a lot and get's to choose who she likes.

[@traci_m8848]

You should go for it!! Foreign women will be super-impressed you made the effort and that will make you even more attractive!! 😍🤩

[@dothetwist298]

Why would you need extra confidence to approach foreign women? How are they any different from your country's women? Everyone's unique and it has nothing to do with culture or nationality. You could bump into a rude person anywhere. You could also bump into a nice person anywhere. If you judge a person's character by their nationality, then maybe you're not good at understanding people in general.

[@umiumisuki]

I don't really have much dating experience in Japan as my first Japanese boyfriend is my husband now, but after living in Japan for around 4 years I would say it's difficult to find someone who is interested in you as a person and not because of you being a foreigner. Online quite a few Japanese guys approached me (via Facebook or mixi) and told me they fell in love with me after just a few minutes of chatting with them. Most of the time when checking their profiles I saw that they were members in groups called something like "I love foreigners" or "I want to date a foreign girl" etc. I was living in Miyagi for most of my time in Japan and the guys there were just too shy to approach me as they probably didn't know if I was able to speak Japanese (which I am) or if I would be interested in them at all. I often heard from Japanese men "Foreign women don't like Japanese men, right?" so I believe sometimes it's also an issue of their own perception.

[@jeanieinjapan]

yeah, strong agree to all this!

[@LucaPizzoplus]

Unfortunately that happens in both directions, I have some japanese friends here in Italy that were approached by some "I love anime" ジャパフェチs and it was basically the same thing that happened to you. I believe people who are attracted by the stereotype of a particular group exist everywhere. And I also agree with the last part. I think a lot of japanese people often find foreigners more attractive than their compatriots (with the whole はなが高い and レディーファースト shit), and some can't believe that a foreigner can prefer a japanese partner over a foreigner. A friend of mine once said "why would you ever date a japanese girl when you have all these beautiful/extrovert girls in europe", some sort of an inferiority complex mixed with the fear of the language+cultural barrier I think

[@shellyannegoh6054]

I avoid dating Japanese guys because of their lack of exposure to other cultures and ways of doing things primarily because they lack exposure to multiculturalism in their education. Also, the gender issue gap is real in Japan and I prefer to date non-Japanese guys. Japanese men tend to be clueless how to treat a person who is different from their own culture. They tend to see the world in black and white Japanese perspectives. I think travelling, studying abroad or working abroad will really do them good. They can then be more sensitive to differences and can grow as persons. I have been in many countries but it is only in Tokyo, that I see men pushing women on trains in rush hours to get inside.

[@brielle4558]

i actually met my Japanese bf online (on twitter) but thankfully he wasn’t rly into western/non asian girls before me . like all his celebrity crushes were either Japanese too or Korean . so luckily i didn’t have to worry too much abt being fetishized by him :)

[@moscaonthewall]

​@@shellyannegoh6054 "I have been in many countries but it is only in Tokyo, that I see men pushing women on trains in rush hours to get inside." And groping girls/women in those trains on the daily 😒

[@micochong004]

"What's your favorite food?" "Pan." "Pan? Bread." "Oh, that's cool." "Pizza." "Pizza?" "Hai." "Pizza? Ok ok." That had me wheezing! The way you conduct interviews is excellent and you have a knack for making people feel comfortable during interviews. Keep up the good work, Takashi!

[@LucaPizzoplus]

Japanese "pan" is truly incredible tho lol

[@weirdhuh8046]

@@LucaPizzoplus still cant be compared with pizza or would it .

[@LucaPizzoplus]

@@weirdhuh8046 totally different things and you also eat them in different situations so I don't think you can compare them. Pizza in Japan is usually bad tho so when I'm there I would always choose パン over pizza, but that's just my opinion as an Italian.

[@cooliipie]

Asians tell me they like McDonald's in Asia

[@troy517]

Dudeeee sameeeeee

[@OnTheWorldStage]

Thank you for talking with me and for choosing this topic, Takashii! I was really happy to share my thoughts in this video:)

[@ChuckieMcHaggis]

I enjoyed your views. You came across really well, I thought.

[@OnTheWorldStage]

@@ChuckieMcHaggis You’re kind, thank you:)

[@cry9438]

You have that spidergwen + Marilyn Monroe hairstyle going on I like it.

[@NDE108]

I wish I met someone like you in Japan. You're so cool.

[@Shawnraines]

hi

[@richardk111]

You interviewed white, Asian, and black women. NICE!

[@traci_m8848]

I went back and watched your "Would Japanese guys date foreign women video." The guys said they would, but it seemed more like a fantasy because they weren't taking any action (which is the scary part!! 😬) to actually date a foreigner. I'd like you to ask Japanese guys if there ever was a foreigner they liked, wanted to date and did they actually ask this person out? If they didn't do it, why not? If they did, how did reality compare with any fantasies they had? I'd also be interested to know if they would go out with a foreign girl if SHE asked them out. If I'm interested in a guy, then I'll ask him to grab coffee or a beer...something casual. Would that blow the mind of a Japanese guy??? Great interview as always!! Very diverse folks. Really like getting the viewpoints of people from different countries.

[@gdon12987]

Traci_M That's a great idea! I hope TAKASHii sees your suggestion. I'd love to see Japanese men answer those types of questions.💯

[@ramondelgado4927]

IDK about that to be honest , women asking men on dates/coffee is still kinda of a new thing in the west and still kinda rare , so for a more "structured" or "conservative" society like japan the posibility should be so low it might as well be zero But it is a very interesting question and i hope TAKASHii sees it

[@daisyll4908]

If you're not a Western woman you might get hurt because Japanese people only want to date Western people. For them when they hear foreigner that's what comes to their mind.

[@CristanioPeweyyy]

It's the same around the world, men love exploring different ethnicity women lmao.

[@krissydiggs]

In my experience, guys don’t like the idea of feeling embarrassed at all. And the fact that they might feel their English isn’t perfect might make them reluctant to even try even if the woman speaks Japanese. The idea of looking dumb is enough to prevent a lot of guys from taking that step. めんどくさい。笑

[@privatebandana]

I've been to Japan four times, roughly 10 months in total.. and I have never seen a japanese guy approach a foreign girl without being super drunk, and in my experience (drunk talk with japanese guys) they all want to be with foreign women just to brag about it to their friends, they don't actually want to date (commit) to them. Now they might change their minds when they start to actually talk to the foreign girl and realise she's a human aswell, but in my experience some japanese men are just stuck with the typical asian views of foreigners, ESPECIALLY white women which they have on some sort of pedestal. It's obviously important to know that this is not the case for every single japanese guy, this is just the guys I met and talked to. But it's very obvious why foreign women have a much harder time dating in Japan compared to foreign men.

[@davidpontius2453]

Do you think the maturity of the Japanese guys you are referring to had a role to play with their attitudes towards foreign women or is it really a cultural thing?

[@DanTanzoid1]

LOL. Let us be honest, foreign men know that asian women are easier and that some have inferiority complex. Stop belittling japanese men as if they think white women are trophies. we are better than that.

[@davidpontius2453]

@@DanTanzoid1 Off-topic, but, why is your username your metric measurements of height, weight, and shoe size? This is the first time I have seen such a thing. As a person who observes and reads copiously, it is a truism to say that no person does anything drunk that they were not willing to do at least one time sober. Therefore, if there are SOME Asian men that are more interested in Caucasian women to get their pants off than to learn about her, then would that not suggest that those people have done the same for Asian women before? (And no, I do not mean ALL Asian men are like this. Just some.) When this sort of behavior occurs in America, it typically is exhibited by people lacking in maturity and real-world experience. At least, that is the way it seemed to me when I was in College.

[@imane6816]

@@davidpontius2453 lol yes my Japanese ex had a white fetish he was never interested in serious relationship he just wanted to hook up and when he went to Canada he got what he wants from white women he doesn’t care about their personality nor anything he just wanted to fuck and always used to tell me that he doesn’t like Asian women well obviously I know why now

[@quenchtv5436]

@@imane6816 cos they watch too much porn lol

[@iamgorgeous]

I can tell the indonesian girls are not really fluent in English and a bit nervous about it especially the white sweater girl who was not talking that much. However when the guy started talking in Japanese they become more comfortable, that's cute! Hope takashii asked them more in Japanese but this is an english content. Still great tho, thanks for the good video, Takashii!~

[@yabuki2502]

pizza japanese food 😐🤨🤨

[@yanapda]

similar to Thai. There are many (or maybe mostly) Thai who know Japanese. They are actually better at Japanese than English.

[@yohaneschristianp]

It's easier for Indonesian to learn English than Japanese. I think it's just their habits. Even their clothes are quite Japanese.

[@KhoiruunisaRF]

As an Indonesian myself, I should say it's so typical for Indonesian people in general, to act nervous in front of camera wwww You know, the excitement to be interviewed by people especially foreigners www

[@SuperAvocadoo]

@@yabuki2502 "What's your favorite Japanese food?" - Bread.

[@martha3002]

I am married to a Japanese man, and there are a lot of cultural differences to navigate, which in the beginning can be challenging. In our case, we live in Japan but my husband has also lived in my country for 7 years, so he is very familiar with my culture, customs and way of thinking (and he is a pretty easy-going guy in general). I have dated one other Japanese man before my husband, but he did not seem very interested in my background and just wanted me to adjust to Japanese culture as much as possible.. So that was very stressful and one-sided. Can't say it's like that with most Japanese men, because that was just one person, but I do think genuine interest in the other person's culture is key to having a successful intercultural relationship. If you can enjoy the differences together and support each other's cultural habits, etc. it can be a very rich experience.

[@FSVR54]

What were the biggest of the said challenges in the beginning? I'm just genuinely curious

[@martha3002]

@@FSVR54 A big one is definitely verbal communication. I am Dutch, and very used to verbalizing my thoughts, opinions and emotions - in quite a straight manner- all the time. May it be small things or big things (like saying "I love you"). My husband does not talk as much and is not comfortable with putting everything into words. I think in the beginning I misunderstood this as him not being interested or being a weak communicator. I had to learn to focus less on his verbal "output" and pay more attention to his actions, which really told me so many of the things I wanted to know about him. Also, I think he came to understand that it really means a lot to me when he does put his feelings and thought into words, so he does that a lot more now. Another thing that relates to this is fighting. We almost never fight, but in the beginning, I was used to raising my voice during a fight to express my frustration. However, my husband reacted SO strongly to this-apolizing right away- that I felt my anger came across a lot worse than I meant it to, (I just meant to show him like, "hey, I'm upset!") which kind of startled me too 😅😅😅 again, this is most likely not represtative of all Japanese men, but in my experience a more "assertive" or "aggressive" style of communication does not result in the other person joining the discussion as an equal and firing back his opinions or emotions, but rather it is experienced as a personal attack... Which is definitely not the purpose 😅 I think this was the biggest hurdle. How to communicate what you want the other person to understand, amidst different communication styles and expectations.. On the other hand, our backgrounds being clearly so different perhaps made it easier to keep an open mind and think "this must be a misunderstanding or cultural difference" instead of jumping to conclusions like "he/she is being rude/inconsiderate on purpose" etc. It's definitely a process that takes some time, but you learn a lot about each other along the way.

[@FSVR54]

@@martha3002 thanks a lot for the detailed response Martha! As we were all told growing up, it seems communication is really key. I'm glad you guys were able to learn and adjust a little to each other's communication styles, shows an attempt to make it work and commit.

[@jessieperson]

@@martha3002 This is so interesting. I also have a similar story to you- met my (Japanese) husband in my home country, where he'd been living for 7 years. Then decided to move to Japan together. We also have issues with communication, and it's not really just a language thing. It's more like...I prefer to verbally communicate a lot, and he wants me to read his body language or expressions. We've been working on meeting each other in the middle, but it's still a struggle. I don't like having to anticipate others' thoughts or feelings, because it's mentally exhausting.

[@martha3002]

@@jessieperson I hear you. It is not an easy thing at all and so, so frustrating at times. It can make you feel quite lonely in the relationship too (at least, that's what I felt). In our case, it took a few years to get where we are and of course we still run into stuff now too. Sounds like you are both working on it though, and that means everything. I hope things will get easier soon!

[@MrShem123ist]

Again, the interviewees are very diverse, and that's what made this video more awesome. It somewhat complements the other video you made with the same topic, but with men as subjects. You can see the difference in perspectives. Good job as always!

[@takashiifromjapan]

Thank you !!!

[@yyg4632]

yea its great. he had a video about racism and it was just interviewing white ppl, it was questionable to me, then he actually made a video interviewing other minorities. Very nice, we can learn about so many people.

[@ganndalf202]

I honestly love that you interview a lot of different kinds of people. Even those who are from the same country have different opinions in your videos. I love that. Must have taken a lot of effort and time.

[@sagal33y]

I really admire takashi’s interview style. It’s so warm and sweet! It’s the way he asks the questions and listens well! Love it! Definitely a new fan and subscriber

[@ricefieldrecords]

Whenever this specific topic of dating comes up, I always remember the 80's Indie film, "Tokyo Pop" (東京ポップ, Tōkyō Poppu) is a 1988 music-centric film that tells the story of a girl from the United States, a boy from Japan, and a briefly successful pop band. The film contrasts American customs with Tokyo lifestyles, as it presents an evolving love story between the two main characters. Directed by Fran Rubel Kuzui, the film stars Carrie Hamilton as Wendy Reed and Yutaka Tadokoro (also known as Diamond Yukai) as Hiro Yamaguchi. In real life, Tadokoro was the frontman of the 1980s rock group Red Warriors, who also star in the film as themselves. Other notable actors include Gina Belafonte and Tetsuro Tamba. Popular Japanese metal band X Japan also make a brief cameo appearance, though they were not credited.

[@samuraijosh1595]

Sounds fun. I'll look into it.

[@okaokadu]

In my opinion and experience, a lot of the foreign men that move to Japan already move with the idea of dating japanese women in mind, and they actively seek a girlfriend be through the internet or by approaching girls. Meanwhile foreign women that move to Japan usually don't have their dating life as high on their list of worries or concerns when moving abroad - aside from studying and working, we are already overwhelmed by worrying about chikan, stalking, workplace harrassment/discrimination and other women-related issues that are still unfortunately big problems in Japan. So, when we get there and actually start living our lives and getting ajusted to the routine, only after a while you start thinking about dating, and then you feel scared of the cultural stereotypes like "Christmas Cake", "japanese men don't want a wife who works", etc to actually seek out a relationship. And of course, that mixes in with the fact that japanese men are less likely to approach a foreign woman since they fear the language barrier and cultural differences. So basically, don't give up on japanese guys just because they're shy! There are many factors that influence a person's dating life, don't assume the worst!

[@kerlikoel5058]

What is Christmas cake?

[@okaokadu]

@@kerlikoel5058 Christmas Cake is the popular belief in Japan that women should get married before they turn 25 or else they're "too old and undesirable" for men. The name comes from the idea that a christmas cake should be eaten at the right time so after the 25th it's already spoiled and no one wants it. So yeah, a classic sexist way to say women only have value as long as they're young.

[@kerlikoel5058]

@@okaokadu Thank you.

[@MeesNukk]

This! The experience of foreign men and foreign women in Japan is polar opposite when it comes to relationships and work

[@mcbusinessmonkey]

@@kerlikoel5058 Women over 25. ‘Everyone likes Christmas cake, but after Christmas it’s usually left in the fridge’…

[@erikai.3238]

What the blonde lady said is true, we are influenced by what we see. However, I think there are too many preconceived notions about Japanese men (being cold, not expressing their feelings, bad communicators, etc.) which are NOT ALWAYS true, but those discourage, or even intimidate, foreign women from even trying to go out with them. A video idea would be to interview a foreign woman + Japanese man couple! That should switch things up. Personally, I’ve been living in Tokyo for a year and a half and my best dating experiences were with Japanese men. 😄

[@Greenforrest7342]

I guess there are surprisingly few foreign women who think as objectively as you do. I have read the opinions of foreign women in the comments section, and they are always negative towards Japanese men. They don't live their lives thinking only about foreign women and dating. Given the language, common sense, and other aspects, it's only natural that Americans would want to date Americans.

[@cooliipie]

Only the weak

[@InternetXplorer]

Personally I've never dated, or not dated someone based on what I've seen other people do. The people being interviewed are talking about the language barrier, but they've already been in Japan for 2, 3, 4 years.. It doesn't make sense to me.

[@のむ-san]

No Western women are just more masculine.

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@mahek3017 why are you spamming this everywhere

[@samantahernandez7928]

The last girl was so beautiful and polite, I love the way she speaks, she sounds gentle and calm.

[@alexiasadlehner6601]

I would love to see a video about you telling Japanese guys what those foreign women said, like an “answer” video! Sounds really good!

[@yaon1101]

I've been in Japan about 12yrs now. I've dated several Japanese men and the only long relationships I've had are with Japanese men who have lived abroad. But unfortunately most Japanese men aren't interested in the type of foreigner that I am. What I mean is that most want a white, skinny, and blonde girl. They also expect us to accomodate to their culture without trying to understand that I'm a foreigner and no matter how hard I try, I have a different mindset and there will always be a difference. That is why some of the relationships I've been in have been short. They just want to date me because I'm a foreigner...but still want me to become Japanese...how can I ever reach their standards...

[@Solontire]

Curious how you settled on “white, skinny, and blonde” women? Was this something Japanese men have expressed to you during your interactions? Serious question as I’m baffled that out of an entire country of men they all want that same type of women you mentioned.

[@yaon1101]

@@Solontire Part of is that, yes, men have flat out said that to me. It is also my experience. One example would be how I met a guy who I tried talking to first. Right off the bat he could not stop talking about my extremely drunk friend who fit the description I mentioned. He hardly spoke to her and yet...was so in love with her. He was determined to date though she didn't even remember his name and could hardly communicate with him. This is just my opinion, but I believe part of this is the fact that Japanese have been taught to like the "ideal" foreigner. That is to say, the tall white man with a sharp nose and the blonde slim woman. This is why you will probably have heard it's so much easier for foreign me to find Japanese partners...women here want a foreigner who they believe will be more affectionate than a Japanese whether or not that is the case because that is the image we've built for them. I've met several men who tend to be less than kind, but extremely popular with women. Western culture has influenced the view of beauty in Japan since it first opened it's doors...or was forced to... I can also tell you that this has been the experience of many of my friends.

[@yaon1101]

@@Solontire I forgot to mention. The Japanese men I've dated the longest have been men who have lived abroad in places where Latin American and more voluptuous women are common. So they've learned that there is other types of foreign women and have had the opportunity to meet them.

[@Solontire]

@@yaon1101 Very interesting - thank you for sharing your perspective and experiences while living there. I can definitely see how western social and media perceptions influence how especially Japanese men perceive the “ideal” body and beauty type. I’m a white guy who has never been to Japan or Asia before, but have heard similar statements to what you indicated where my experiences dating a foreign woman could be a totally different experience than what you went through. Again thanks for sharing I found this quite fascinating from someone who has never traveled to Asia before.

[@krissydiggs]

@@Solontire it’s pretty common knowledge that the ideal westerner is blonde. As for skinny, it’s the general standard for all women here. The reality is that the ideal image of foreigners, especially westerners comes from media. All of the young people I talk to have a perspective of the west as far as the shows they see on Netflix. Some people don’t even think of other ethnicities when they think of America.

[@carolinevernon9644]

That was interesting! I can imagine, also, the cultural barriers of learning the dating etiquette in Japan after spending so much time exposed to the dating etiquette of one’s home country gets in the way of connecting romantically.

[@Yanks123Fan]

I felt like the first girl gave a lot of really good insight. I enjoyed her perspective. She was able to be respective, while also giving her opinion

[@Miguel-nj6en]

Dude seriously your Channel is doing really well! Take it easy in the future

[@8kw7mx9]

🗿

[@noelinepurple2424]

I was thinking exactly the same. As a French person, I'm really.. 🥲

[@AndSoWeLaughed]

Japanese bread is nice though! Those bakeries are amazing!

[@anonymousperson5731]

😂😂😂😂

[@trav-c137]

I love my wife, doesn't mean she's my favorite woman 😁

[@LianKhun]

Hahahah

[@lovelleslifejourneyvlog]

Very interesting topic and hearing each of the interviewee’s point of view. I am by origin from philippines but come from italy. I have been to japan and currently in a relationship with a japanese man. We’ve been together for almost 4 years now. Based on my experience japanese people tend to be very shy that’s why sometimes they came across as being cold. i remembered when i was on my first months relationship with my bf skinship is even quite difficult.. But overtime he became comfortable with it and he tried to adjust. He is shy when it comes to PDA and not used to it. My bf doesn’t show much when he is worried or when he is having a hard time. He mostly just brushed it of saying 大丈夫です． They don’t open up a lot. Now coming this far i just try to understand him and give him time, he opens up eventually. I think japanese men are very sweet and loving. This is just my opinion each and every person is unique and special. Doesn’t matter what race or nationality.

[@Rezzmari]

As an Asian myself (though I am female), I understand it. Asians in general are just more reserved and we don't usually talk about our feelings to one another face to face generally. I think this is more a western mentality. I am born and raised in the USA but my parents were not, and I have never seen them kiss let alone hug in front of me, ever. They don't do this towards me either.

[@FSVR54]

@@Rezzmari definitely cultural differences. I'm latin american 30 year old and my father will still not let me leave his house without giving me a hug and kiss

[@roninbushito]

Are those babies Indonesian or Filipina they sound like filipina?

[@roninbushito]

That girl listening to a Filipina stereotyping Japanese is bad already it kinda pissed me off as I’m a Japanese with a filipina. Listening to stereotypes is bad in itself

[@atorrres]

I would never expect to find someone from Angola in these videos! It's a good surprise. Love from Portugal

[@shervymandap3748]

thank you for the videos takashi! subscribed! watching these make me miss japan so much! when i lived in japan for over a year as a married woman, this is definitely interesting to see since it never came to my mind - the whole dating scene. i became best friends with another foreigner and in a way, i lived the single-life through her. she was picky with guys and were not interested in Japanese men, and back then 2016-2017, dating apps weren't that big in Japan. I think maybe tinder only? but it wasn't really popular then. on the other hand, i became friends with Japanese guys and some of them said it was a scary experience approaching foreign girls because they thought their English skills weren't good enough. one of the ways i met many different people (both Japanese and other foreigners) while I lived there, were by Meet-up Groups. It's such a friendly, casual and safe environment, and there's no pressure in meeting people for friendship or potential relationships. However, because of the pandemic, it's understandable that people would be hesitant to meet strangers at coffee shops/pubs, not just in Japan, but worldwide!

[@awkwardss]

I love Takashii's videos because he does topics literally nobody does and the videos are a good length too. Love your channel!

[@KillerofGods]

Yuta is pretty good as well.

[@takashiifromjapan]

Today I interviewed about dating for foreign women. I was always wondering why so many Japanese girl and foreign guy couples are on the street but not Japanese guy and foreign girl couples ?? And I didn’t know why was it But after interview I was thinking about it And to be honest I haven’t found actual answer yet. I want to know throughout making interview videos ! Now I’m planning to make videos about “Asian foreigners in Japan “ “Japanese Brazilian in Japan “ “Racism in Japan “ “Half Japanese in Japan “ “Countries Japanese love the most “ Please watch them when I upload !

[@Max19_08]

We are looking forward to the videos! Maybe, if the "asian foreigners" Video goes viral, you can make a series about foreigners with different ethnies! Like european, american, southamerican, african etc.! That would be dope!

[@calicorameriez2894]

Thanks for the wonderful video Takashi! I've always wanted to moved back to Japan and actually marry a Japanese guy, but now that I'm older I think it would be more difficult being that you don't see many ( if any) Japanese men with women of color.

[@feliperossini6946]

ohhhh cool! I´m Brazilian, can´t wait for the "Japanese Brazilian in Japan" video, thank you so much for all these amazing videos, have a great day! ^^

[@darcywitch4689]

Please do "Japanese Brazilian in Japan", have so many KZbinrs from Brazil like Camilla Pipoka for talking about.

[@containeduniverselow4790]

Oh, those are great topics. I can't wait!

[@gorodiskykirill4193]

What's your favourite japanese food? -Bread and pizza 🗿

[@wendyangelicahernandezpaez691]

Hhahahah

[@未来-u3i]

Lmao😂

[@aelejota2001]

Bread ok... but pizza😂? Nice

[@louisblue1074]

Takashii finally interview with Asian foreigners! 👍🏼

[@antingtan9793]

i know that even when japanese guys say theyd date a foreign girl, they mean a european girl with light skin. and no someone with dark skin like me. its a sad reality that people with darker skin have to face

[@dodotikkhenk3378]

Thats bullshit.I once saw in tokyo around 10 or 11 japanese man and black women couples in one day(valetine day).

[@GravitateCarentibus]

This can be something general but not a total reality. Beauty standards are there but every person have their own beauty that can be recognized. Women with darker skin can be attractive to Japanese men, don't get drown by insecurities.

[@dedopest3305]

why tf is that a sad reality there are thousands of better men out there in the world (no offense)

[@AbelPeña2067]

Japanese men are just 0.8 percent of the world’s population, you Can date the other 99.2 percent

[@TheTunyasha]

As a Foreign woman with Japanese boyfriend I was delighted to hear all those stories. Cultural differences were there of course, but putting respect on each other first made us overcome a lot. My bf was very shy to approach me at the begging cause I was the fantasy of his, so when I approached him first he was shocked but ready to risk it all for me. So far I’m happy to know everything new about his every day life and routine. He was cold at the beginning, but I tried to be more understanding with it, After he developed feelings for me, everything went so well. Believe in power of conversation and love. And you can overcome everything ❤️

[@strega1810]

I only can tell you as a European woman that I was in a Japanese clique already 30 years ago. Japanese men are not very emotional but they show feelings more in doing than in words. I am still in contact with my Japanese love even I live in Europe and he in Japan...

[@loviegilbert4428]

One of my aunties was married to a Japanese guy for about 3 years. But they ended up divorced. My aunt told me that it was difficult to have an open communication with her ex husband since he rarely share his true feelings. It was always like playing a guessing game and reading between the lines with him. It was sad.

[@NiinasJournal]

This is huge problem with Finnish couples too. And with both men and women. We are not taught to share our feelings.

[@toriashimoji1658]

Really interesting video ! It’s nice to see this conversation happening as I also wonder the same things! I came to Japan (Okinawa) in the military and I met my husband who is Okinawan while stationed there. I noticed there are so many men who come to Okinawa in the military and meet Okinawan girlfriends or wives but not many women who date or marry Okinawan men. I actually think the answer is more cultural considering the culture is highly patriarchal, but there’s also not as many women who are in the military compared to men. For example I was in the Marine Corps and the percentage of women in that branch of the military are only about 9%

[@andresil8330]

Talking from experience, dating someone from a really different culture is really challenging, and not many people are that motivated to face it. It is a lot easier to have someone with a similar culture, BUT if you are open-minded and found someone special, it's a really amazing experience.

[@mimi003]

I'm from Sri Lanka and haha it was nice to see the last girl talking about my country hehe

[@jeanieinjapan]

I have some thoughts on this from my experience of living here - but it's only my experience and opinions! It is probably not be the same for everyone. 1) women seem more willing to take a risk to break the potential language barrier and start communication with foreigners.. I don't know if I guys feel more pressure to not embarrass themselves? I want to know more about people's willingness to talk to foreigners (some of us can speak Japanese! :D). 2) some Japanese guys seem willing to date a foreign woman for the novelty, but seem less interested in the idea of a long term relationship or potential marriage - perhaps due to family/cultural pressures? I don't want to date someone who seems eager only to 'taste the rainbow'.. there are a lot of those guys. 3) kind of related to #2 - gender roles and expectations for local women feel very strong here. As a foreigner I feel less bound to those expectations which is nice, but also makes me less appealing as a partner. I know foreign women/Japanese guy couples, though! They exist. I think it will become more normal over time..

[@FSVR54]

how do all these westerners just live in Japan??? I see a lot in the comments section but apparantly the percentage is less than 1% I would love to visit, but I need a lot more stable income

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@FSVR54 They're just a loud minority haha. Screaming in joy that they can finally live their anime dream (which will just stay as a dream) 😂😂.

[@melteixie1618]

I completely agree on the 2&3 Strict gender roles and social expectations are badly influencing the dynamic, not only for foreign women, but all women in Japan in general and in the end it does impact men negatively as well But yes, even if it needs a lot of work, it's still possible ^^

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@melteixie1618 do me a favour. Look up surveys and stats(both private and government funded) and see what percentage of Japanese women (who have finished college) want to stay as housewives *voluntarily* ....and then come back to this conversation. Your perception about Japanese ladies might slightly change.

[@melteixie1618]

@@samuraijosh1595 I'm glad you agree with me. That's indeed a great example of strict gender roles and social expectations

[@AndroydFM]

Takashii your channel's growth is so inspiring. Keep up the great work. Great video!

[@nk2097]

This is a personal opinion, so it does not apply to all Japanese men, but as a foreign woman who has lived in Japan for over 10 years, I have noticed that Japanese men tend to be attracted to women who feature "kawaii" which are cute, small, and somewhat moderate. As for foreign women who mostly feature the opposite type, such as strong, passionate and direct, some Japanese men might find them less attractive for a relationship.

[@daebak7370]

Japanese men are not a monolith. There are many different types of Japanese men.

[@sountae3103]

never expected to see someone from here in your vids, love from Angola 🇦🇴❤️

[@antoniot.6594]

Lol, it looks like everyone just gets caught up in their own biases and preconceived notions about what everyone else is thinking about them. This seems to happen in all cultures and makes dating less fun. I'm from the US and fortunately am happily married but I do recall the dating scene was like this when I was single as well. I recall thinking at the time that I should stay away from Latinas bc there was and is a growing trend for them to date non-Latinos. And while many probably prefer to date non-Latinos, many still prefer to date Latino men. In fact, my wife is Latina. I just had to keep an open mind and look for women who are likewise open-minded 😃

[@sharonvaleska1467]

guyss... the reason indonesian girl said pizza & bread when asked about japanese food is because he asked it in english which she's not fluent + she's nervous, so she only recognizes some words like 'foods' so probably she just said whatever comes to her mind or her all time fav food which is probably pizza & bread, it's a nice laugh tho!😄

[@rhiannn3416]

I feel like one of the biggest factors is definitely the gender expectations for women in Japan. It's just too different if you come from somewhere like America, Australia, Europe, etc. where those sorts of views are looked down upon as backwards (and I must say I agree). It was/is my biggest concern when dating Japanese, as well as guys just liking the idea of dating a foreigner and not the person themself. Another big factor for me would probably apply to those from Chinese/Korean heritage due to bad historical blood. My father is very opposed to me dating anyone Japanese, but I guess that would apply to foreign guys of Korean/Chinese heritage too.

[@BlueSwampyCraft]

Why, where are you from?

[@urmimalachattopadhyay9423]

I don't speak for all indian but I my families view is same

[@Greenforrest7342]

I am amazed at you for writing such a long article relying on no evidence.

[@Fate862]

Alot of the world the gender roles and expectations for women are the same as japan. Only some of the west is different but alot of the world its men and women roles and expectations. Even here in America or Mexico the gender exceptions are still there it just depends who you talk to. In mexico the gender expectations are still the women and men doing the expected and they are right below the US with the coming into the USA with those gender roles already in mind so that's why alot of people in america still have that mentality of roles. "Looked down upon" not quite by not enough people and nor the men and women that want to be in those roles. That's why even western people are dating less due to that "gender roles being looked down on" and either don't date or they find a foreign partner from another country who is into those roles. I'm Native American and Latino incase your curious.

[@dansmith1661]

Those "sorts of views" were perfectly beneficial for thousands of years and civilizations were better off back then.

[@nancymcgee4776]

Your interviews are always interesting topics! Thank you Takashii! 🧡🥂

[@kamekomiyamora]

I think a lot of this has to do with attraction. There's been studies about race, and preference wise, black women and asian men tend to be at the bottom. But on the other side, black men and asian women are quite high up. When you think about it, black traits tend to be more strong and masculine, which attracts women more than men. And asian people tend to have more soft and feminine traits which attracts males more than females. In these studies too, black women tend to prefer black men, as there's very few people who are naturally stronger/bigger/more masculine than them. I think it's the same for asian men. There's very few people who are naturally softer/smaller/more feminine than they are. And for men, ego and feeling needed or wanted is quite important. While they may be open to dating others, perhaps they've already faced a lot of disapprovement from others races. There's also a lot of negative stereotypes surrounding asian men (shy, small..., etc) and black women (loud, rude, etc) which will influence others to not even give them a chance. There will still be those who will try to date outside their race, myself included, but as a whole, I think most will feel more comfortable dating within their own race due to personal struggles and judgement from society. When black women date outside their race, they get hate for not wanting a black man. When asian men date outside their race, they're seen as having a fetish. The other gender usually gets more praise though. Just some food for thought. These don't reflect my personal thoughts or preferences btw.

[@Greenforrest7342]

It may be true that many black men are masculine, but their confidence makes them prone to cheating. There is no such thing as a perfect man or perfect woman. It's just a matter of compatibility.

[@subiebrz2361]

@@Greenforrest7342 Lol thats jealousy right there

[@supersagarsagar]

Asian men aren't at the bottom that's just US media propaganda around the world Kpop & KDrama /Jdrama/CDrama and bollywood is appreciated Black men and White men are the only men that are promoted in US media that is why people have the perception that they are stronger and more masculine. The black men in the usa were bred specifically to be Slaves to do manual work Also you may be talking about East asian men not arabs and other south asians

[@supersagarsagar]

@@Greenforrest7342 Not really

[@supersagarsagar]

@Ariel§ No women born and raised in the western culture can become the ideal wife Women born and raised in the east are for the most part are raised to be wives. Asian men had a bad rap for being "racist" LoL you must have failed history or slavery did not exist in your alternate reality. Chinese men who made railway and helped to make modern US were barred from owning homes or any kind of property yet east are the "Racists" Black women are not like not because they have bad attitudes or they are ghetto but because they are black even by their own race of men.

[@elediamg8251]

I love Japanese men and I don't ever think they are cold, they are so sweat, kind and thoughtful and have beautiful charming voices 😍

[@yuu_miran]

I guess Indonesian girl seems like the only one honest among all other ppl interviewed on topic ‘why foreign women dont date Japanese guys’ and from some personal experience I do agree with her😅

[@jeangrey7298]

Woooah! I'm so proud of you takashi seeing how your channel is growing too fast.😇 stay dedicated, successful people are not gifted. They just work hard, then succeed on purpose.

[@yume7335]

Very interesting topic. Maybe you should ask more foreign women. I mean, none of them dated Japanese guys yet. During my times in Japan, I knew a Japanese guy, who'd always try to date foreign girls, so he was frequently visiting events organized by the language school,.. Don't know if he ever was successful though,... Also I knew some foreign girls, who were interested in dating Japanese guys but didn't had enough luck yet? So therefore they visited some host clubs instead and stuff...

[@tomasburnes8600]

Your English has gotten miles better since this video man ! You are awesome!

[@jeanjacquesjorgainedathird5714]

as an Italian I died inside when that poor Indonesian girl said that her favorite japanese food was pizza

[@zanryoshin]

xD

[@BrownEyedPrincess1]

Lol I genuinely think she didn’t speak enough English to know they were asking her about Japanese food but I was cracking up too. Very funny moment and you could tell he was trying not to laugh as well.

[@Max19_08]

It is always so nice seeing that much of a variety of people in your videos! Even tho japan is still kinda closed and isolated thanks to covid ^^' I can only imagine what your videos will become once the country is open as it was in the past :D Have a good day Takashii!

[@loubertus]

It's a very interesting subject! If I can give my opinion, and I hope I don't insult anyone... I have never lived in Japan, but for what I hear in many videos, they have a very structured society and this includes the gender roles. This being said, I think the reason you see more women with foreigners (mainly western countries), is because they (japanese women) prefer a more fluid role in the relationship, with more "liberties" akin to western couples. Maybe they don't like it in the end but definitely I can see how the option is more attractive than for a traditional man be with a more independent woman, as maybe more feel they would be 'losing" control. Also, people living abroad have a more "fluid" attitude to how to live abroad, as you must keep a more open mind over traditions and culture, so that allows the local partner to "mold" the foreign counterpart to more his/her style. Sounds manipulative but I mean it in the most beautiful way, we let our partners mold us, as we mold them, but I think when is a multi-cultural couple, the local team has the advantage to influence more:)

[@nathaliacruz9183]

I couldn't say it better

[@RouterSystem-70]

Get real the reason is purely physical, western men go to Japan to get with Japanese girls because they are considered more attractive and less butch than Western women. That's the only reason. It's not because of two competing desires (a Japanese woman desiring independence vs. a western man desiring a less independent woman).

[@loubertus]

@@RouterSystem-70 this is not a sexual topic, we are talking about meaningful relationships and cultural differences. I have lived in different countries and "getting with" someone local and being in a real relationship is a completely different matter and approach that includes more than just two people attracted to each other.

[@RouterSystem-70]

@@loubertus Looks play an undeniable role in ALL relationship types as shown by several scientific studies.

[@loubertus]

​@@RouterSystem-70 Culture play an undeniable role in ALL relationship types as shown by several scientific studies.

[@lettecemcleod9184]

The last woman is very optimistic and down-to-earth.

[@jdawglmao]

„What brought you to Japan?“ - … - - „She loves food.“ (saving her friend from embarassment) „What‘s your favorite Japanese food?“ - „Bread…and Pizza!“ This one killed me!

[@daebak7370]

She meant find a Japanese guy

[@zdx197]

I feel like there's more to it than just language barrier and Japanese girls being shy. I think Japanese people, both male/female, are generally more hesitant and shy to approach someone else (from both Japanese or foreign origin) in their free time because Japanese culture is much more reserved. I think with the extreme digitalization of everything in the past 10-15 years it has even become worse. You can legit live in Japan, especially in Tokyo, while barely leaving your house or having any sort of contact with anyone. Also, work pressure in Japan is higher than almost anywhere else in the world (except maybe S.Korea), and I feel like maybe a lot of people just don't have the energy or willpower left to be social after work. On the same time I do believe many Japanese would love it, but they are just lacking the time or motivation.. Also, Westerners in general are more outgoing and I guess a man in general is (most of the time) the one who's going to take the first step when interested in a girl. So this might also explain the current situation. The blonde NY girl at the start also had some good points.

[@QuinnTheTailor]

Yeah i think it mostly has to do with the last point. Guys take the first step when interested in a girl, and i think japanese girls find it charming when a foreign guy is interested in them. I actually see it in many countries that women find foreign guys more interesting. While local men often choose the local girl over the foreign girl, if asked this question. Maybe some type of romantization of foreign guys is the reason for that, while local men are seen as "boring, prude" and already "well known". If you watch Hollywood movies you always see the male protagonist fall in love or have an affair with the local girl etc, but rarely do i see the case where the female protagonist falls in love with a local guy. Like maybe it makes women, who think of themselves as boring or ordinary, feel special and wanted when a foreign guy shows interest in them.

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@QuinnTheTailor it's just plain old inferiority complex. My cousin and I are South Asian. She was unable to get married until like 28-29 cuz she had weird standards for the local men here but as soon as she got the chance to study abroad in UK and spent some time in the UK... she's now married to some Brit who looks like a literal potato and his income is lower than my cousin's too. I was quite suprised how she lowered her standards so much to get that white guy. I don't even feel like she's happy now... most of the time she just calls her parents and vents about this and that about living in UK with him.

[@Ghidorah96]

@@samuraijosh1595 colonised to the brain. Muh preference lol It’s another way of saying white supremacy

[@NDE108]

Yes! Shyness is a big part of this puzzle. Also, there's nothing inherently wrong with being shy.

[@drake6800]

It’s because western media portrays white men as masculine and Asian men as less masculine. This is not the same for white women vs asian women, both are portrayed as feminine. Western media influences pretty much every country out there. This is the real honest answer

[@moldy666]

It's funny hearing people say that they don't speak any Japanese but in North America when someone speaks 15 words they tell you all about how they speak the language lol

[@robinlee28]

It's very interesting to me because when I first moved to Japan back in the 90s it was actually foreign women with Japanese boyfriends. Whilst growing up the only interracial marriage on my estate was between an English lady and a Japanese man. I think people just see what they expect to see.

[@nafslee]

"What's your favorite Japanese food?" "Bread. Pizza." Takashi managed to hold it together. I'm not sure I could have done the same.

[@mkitrainz]

english is not their native language and they're in front of camera, they're nervous

[@satyamsagar5852]

Very good bro. Keep it up. I want to know more about jaspenese cultures. You are doing a great work. Arigato ☺️

[@ruby.b2199]

It is such a mystery as to why KZbin's algorithms would suggest this to me. Nevertheless, this video was interesting to watch. I particularly found it funny when one of the Indonesian women said Japanese men are cold, it almost seemed as if the interviewer Takashi seemed shocked and offended 😂 bless him.

[@fishingwithtimbui988]

I’m an Australian with a Vietnamese heritage and I’m married to a Japanese.Two of my sisters,one married to an English and the other to an Italian.Asian men are shy you gotta make the first moves,that’s what happened to me at first,I kept trying until she says yes.Good luck people.

[@Seija729]

the indonesian girls can speak at least 3 different languages that's impressive.

[@roseforeuropa]

Extremely interesting interview and you ask great questions! やっぱり外人たちの生活はめっちゃおもしろい

[@Paul_425]

Dated someone from Japan for 7 years. It was a great and learning experience. Wanted to take the relationship further but there were many challenges dating her. For one, her parents want her to marry with a japanese person. And looked down on me cause my nationality is filipino. In the end, had to chose what was best for both of us and decided to stay as friends. But learning about the culture and meeting other japanese people was a great experience.

[@sharemolang]

Her parents looked down on you bcoz u r a filipino? *this makes my blood boil lol*

[@bv5980]

Such an interesting video, I wish you had interviewed more people. Maybe a part 2? Please?

[@william_ochieng]

Hello Takashii, 👋 I'm from Nairobi, Kenya 🇰🇪 Just wanted to say thanks for your videos. They are very informative and I've watched every single one of them. Keep up the great work 💯 This is the best KZbin channel about Japan. Keep up the spirit and thank you for your hard work. Be blessed and keep it up bro!! 💯 Btw can you ask people what they think about Kenya or Africa? or what they know about Kenya or Africa? And if they would like to visit? I think those questions can make good conversation 😇

[@purenevrose]

I had a different experience! I have several foreign women friends dating or married with Japanese guys, and have a Japanese male friend who feels like he can't get along with Japanese women (without being a gaijin hunter, it's more like he was always unlucky and dated boring Japanese girls I guess). As for myself, I have dated several Japanese men, been in a 2 years relationship with a Japanese-Korean guy (we're still friends after our break-up) before meeting my Japanese boyfriend with whom I'm going to move in from next month! I wonder if Osaka guys are more approachable than Tokyo guys maybe...

[@Rezzmari]

Yup. Japanese from Osaka are more open and friendly than people in Tokyo.

[@samuraijosh1595]

Yeah Osaka is more direct and open!

[@eveningrice]

I think Japanese guys get a bad rep abroad, especially in Asia. My wife, although she finds Japanese guys attractive (I think most can agree on that stereotype), has this idea they're a bit (maybe more than a bit) sexist. She is Chinese, and in China the men seem to pride themselves on how much they help their wife with cooking/cleaning/gifting etc (although sexism is still a huge issue, the stereotype is more tame compared to Japanese).

[@kewlenjo219]

I was watching Serpentza (KZbinr with Chinese wife who lived in China for more than 1o years) and he was just discussing that there is a really bad domestic violence problem in China? So, I was surprised when you said men pride themselves on helping their wives.

[@eveningrice]

@@kewlenjo219 yes, thats a huge issue, and I don’t actually think sexism in China is in any good state. I was speaking more in terms of stereotypes.

[@RamMohammadJosephKaur]

@@kewlenjo219 That is true, but I dont think Serpentza in general is a good source on China news.

[@kewlenjo219]

@@eveningrice To understand you more, do you mean stereotype that men help a lot in China more than in Japan? Or, that Japanese men are seen as more sexist than Chinese men to Chinese women? My thought was that I was just curious since your wife is Chinese, Serpentza's wife is also Chinese and a doctor....so I was just curious about what seemed to be a difference in thought about Chinese men. But I also try to get more than one source and my opinion, in general, is that domestic violence is a world wide problem. Right now, especially, many bad societal problems have grown thanks to stress from the pandemic. The stereotype I have seen in social media is that Chinese help their wives more than Japanese guys but that might also depend. But I am interested in the reality though....from what I gather, many Japanese women have mentioned they like their sterotyped perception of Western men's "ladies first". The reality is that depends on the guy. Not all western men are gentlemen but many are. I guess what Japanese guys expect is a little different because of historical and cultural things...like the wife to stay home, raise kids, do the housework, cook, etc. Though, I wonder if that is not changing in the new generation? For Chinese guys, I don't know. I watch another KZbinr who is a woman married to a Chinese man...but the guy is from a rural area. The family and he, himself, are adorable and loving, smart and very helpful in raising the two boys they now have. In the end, I think whether a man is decent or not has nothing to do with ethnicity. A man (or woman) is either a decent loving and helpful human or they are a stressed, mentally hurt, something individual who needs help so they don't hurt someone else.

[@weichen4807]

@@kewlenjo219 I am Chinese, most of the Chinese men in the family will participate in part of the housework, cleaning/cooking, including my father's generation, who is almost 70 years old. Families with domestic violence are not mainstream in China.

[@valentinab164]

I believe that one of the problems must be that people can't speak Japanese. I know it's hard, but you have to learn the native language when you go to a foreign country, it's disrespectful not to.

[@XhosaShinobi01]

It's a shame cause I still feel like I don't know why foreign girls don't date Japanese guys more. Maybe it can be addressed again in a future video.

[@Rin-kj8vl]

Takashi i realised you looks so much like my uncle but 20 years younger lmao. Btw I’m Half Japanese ( by dad) and half Filipino. And it’s funny because I know two international couples and in both cases it’s Japanese Guy with foreign girl (guys are really outgoing, not really shy ). Thanks you for your topics, there are always so interesting 👍🏼!

[@takosdon7754]

For some reason in these interview videos, there are always comments referring to the unpopularity of Japanese men compared to Japanese women but I think I see the opposite pattern of couples more often in youtube videos. I know a few channels with Japanese male and Western female couples that have a lot of subscribers and views but I don't know any famous channels with Japanese female and Western male couples.

[@samuraijosh1595]

Wait I noticed this too!!! I think Racheal and Jun are the most popular Japanese male foreign woman couple! I also like Oriental Pearl and that Japanese guy British woman youtuber couple, Oshare Japan, etc.

[@unknowguy7604]

Tbh i wish there were more youtube channels of western men with Japanese women. The Japanese men with western women videos are so boring.

[@samuraijosh1595]

@@unknowguy7604 Apparently they're more popular than Western male Japanese female youtubers...so you're clearly wrong. 😂

[@NiinasJournal]

@@unknowguy7604 you are wrong but we can agree to disagree.

[@duke9815]

Some Indonesian girl: I love eating Japanese food so much. Takashii: Really. What's your favourite the most? The girl: Pizza. Lmao.

[@mizulightblue]

Very hard to get as a woman a foreign guy. It's because the guys think that foreigners don't know their traditions, their food how to cook it, language and many more. The are mostly closed in and search for someone who knows the culture, language and traditions to a 100%, and those are Japanese women. Japanese women are the opposite. They want to go abroad, they are open to learn about different cultures and languages, but also they have this "I really want to go to the US (or Europe)", which men don't.

[@easyduster]

The lady from Angola has a really relaxing way of speaking

[@shouyagami141]

For the fun fact is. A lot of japanese dont know indonesia, but they know about bali. In my opinion is, bali is more famous than the country ww

[@danieleaks]

Greetings from Paraguay Takashii, amazing work!

[@jub1eee]

Can we all agree that Takashi was so sweet to promote the girl's yt channel😆 I have heard alot that for Japanese men you have to make the first move otherwise it means you aren't interested in them bcoz their shy and dont open up with strangers so you have to show that. Half of the dating would be just for clout but I've also read about many amazing couples being Japanese men and foreign women. Hope someday Japanese men become more straight forward(in expressing their feelings), actually I've never seen one anywhere so I think it would be nice to see such a change haha

[@OnTheWorldStage]

Yes, he was 😆 🙏 keep supporting his channel - it’s really good!

[@jub1eee]

@@OnTheWorldStage Sure :))

[@mettisejji5458]

would you please have more people in your interviews? just in order to see more people talking about the subject

[@za7125]

I think the answer is as the girl from Indonesia actually said 😅 But also, in my opinion, I find this good, so that when a Japanese man is associated with any girl, he will be loyal to her in his life and honest with her at least .. 💚 Right!!

[@jackculler1489]

Lmao! Cheating in Japan is common and they have a very lax view on cheating. they also have one of the highest divorce rates in Asia. Not everyone will have a fairytale ending so don’t have an ideal fantasy of what your dating/married life will be in Japan and that also apply in other countries. In Japan, It’s easy to start an affair and easy to hide it because there are many establishments that make cheating easy ~Love hotels, hostess bars/club, soap lands and even Apps that help people cheat. I’m not being negative here, i’m just sharing a piece of wisdom.

[@za7125]

@@jackculler1489 Thank you for sharing some of your wisdom ..

[@beherid5111]

I find your videos and questions interesting to watch. Keep up the good work.

[@AzhanAbdulRahim]

😂😂 the indo girl was straight to the point. They are cold. 😂

[@JapChaeJan]

I'm so impressed by the indonesian girls. Able to converse in two foreign languages to a decent level.

[@raven_bard]

Gender roles plays a part in why there are less Japanese guys with non-Japanese women, in my opinion. Then there's the fact that Japanese men in general are not very forward and are more hesitant to approach someone they like. Lastly, I've heard that some non-Japanese women are put off by Japanese men's lack of chivalry and showing affection.

[@za7125]

Good work, and thank you for all the content, it is really useful and for your interaction with us..💚

[@mxd-1990asn]

Japan is in the TOP 5 list of visitors to Thailand since the last few years. Bali,indonesia is a very popular place ingeneral for any outside people who dont live in in bali i think, MANY people seem to like to visit Bali. About the asian woman and non-asian man : This is nothing unusual ingeneral , so i understand what she (the blonde girl) means. Most people i know ,who date someone from east or southeast asia , are men. While i rarely ever saw or know asian men with white/black or other men who are not from around east/southeast asia. Im mentioning the specific region of asia (east and southeast asia) as people seem to mainly refer asian only to those people, although asia isnt just east and southeast asia, as we also have south asian countries such as india and pakistan , or west asia, such as iran and lebanon etc +AND since i dont know much about dating in outside of southeast and east asia, thats also a reason why i didnt include south asians or other people from asia). Anyhow , for east/southeast asians its really much more the usual to see a that the woman is the southeast/east asian one. Seems also like many of those women prefer mainly white men (german, russian, white-american even though the last i mentioned isnt a ethnicity , but it is referring to white men in america who originally are of european decent ) Not sure why ,but maybe the women are just more open to date outside of theyr own ethnicity , or its maybe also bcs the men from (in this case since its a japanese channel ) japan are also too shy too (maybe also the cultural difference might be a reason that some would not even consider dating outside of theyr own ethnic people) In my family only one of my cousins is married to a non-east/southeast asian man (and yes here it is again, a asian woman with a at least non-east/southeast asian man, her husband is from Turkey , a country that is mainly in asia ,although as i already said, people dont seem to consider those people and other people of asia who are simply not from east ,southeast asia as asian.... ive heard some south asians at least considering themself as specifically SOUTH asian, but other than that ,people seem not to.) Few white women i know do date southeast and east asian (or some guys who are mixed with both east/southeast asian, one of those guys is half Thai/chinese) and those are still VERY few. Coming from a southeast/east asian mixed family myself, i really mainly only east/southeast asian woman + mostly white man). Personally speaking i always felt most attracted to south asians (i have dated 2 indian and one pakistani-indian before) and arabic/turkish men (i live in a country where most foreigners are turkish so im also kind of used to those men, current partner is a turkish man, so we asian (or more like east/southeast asian) women dont specifically all only or preferably date just white men.

[@mxd-1990asn]

Ah and one thing about the video i found funny, that one of the indonesians said pizza XD after he asked , what japanese food she likes XD Pizza isnt japanese food (but most know that obviously) maybe she just included it bcs the other girl said she likes food (as in food ingeneral) hence why the other one said pizza, just to include it in her favs of food (not necesraily meaning that its actual japanese food, im sure she knows that pizza isnt japanese XD )

[@moonshiry]

aww the first girl is so pretty too!

[@DOVM6336]

lmao she is not that pretty at all like a 5 out of 10

[@MD-xf2qy]

"Japanese guys are cold"... Then realising that the guy is from Japan... " My friend told me that" 😂

[@marcosmarcos8877]

I thought the most common answer would be something related to men's shyness. This video was very interesting!

[@cottoncandykawaii2673]

From my experiencing having been around a lot of various East Asian people (I'm in Canada) most East Asian men tend to have a defeatist mentality when it comes to women more so then with other races and prefer when women make the first move

[@afrocatalan2465]

My favorite TAKASHii qoute " How was it! That was intresting" hahahahhaha

[@jasminteabag]

It's also similar here in Korea. Many foreign guys with Korean girls, but not many Korean guys with foreign girls...

[@WastedBananas]

that's surprising because I think Kpop and kdrama would have made korean guys more popular on a surface level thing no?

[@jasminteabag]

@@WastedBananas I think K-pop and K-dramas are just our ‘fantasy’ products and there is a big gap to our reality in Korea. I met several foreigners who were disappointed after coming to Korea 😂

[@unknowguy7604]

@@jasminteabag then does that mean no one would date an asian guy even if they live in asia? I mean most non asian people aren’t very attractive themselves when compared to celebrities.

[@ingaju88]

Great video, thank you.

[@rafiqansar2639]

If you young and attractive, dating is easy, anywhere.

[@guyvalentine8712]

This was very fascinating. Thanks for posting it.

[@7YNORA]

I LOVE YOUR INTERVIEWS...NEXT INTERVIEW PLEASE TRY FIND FILIPINO IN JAPAN

[@california2910]

I watched Three videos so far and I really love ur channel. It eases me as a foreigner going to Japan one day

[@kamaboko1]

When I lived in Japan I worked with women from the US (also where I'm from). Some expressed interest in going out, but I wasn't interested at all. In fact, I remember one Caucasian woman berated me on a subway train because I was dating a Japanese woman. "You just want a submissive woman who will do everything you want". It was funny hearing her say that because the women I dated were educated (some with a MA degree) and successful in their careers. They didn't need a guy. I like to cook and don't mind cleaning, so I wasn't looking for a maid/servant. I think that's the big stereotype: foreigner guy looking for a female Japanese maid/servant.

[@CJ-BZ]

lets be real though…